"you dont know how hard it is to balance work and family" says the person who's scale is an 100 pound weight vs a one pound
@jamiethompson4333
3 ай бұрын
What
@glittergamer765
3 ай бұрын
@@jamiethompson4333 They're saying that they are trying to compare something inequal. The Mom is doing 1 pound of work, where the Kid is doing 100 pounds of work. While also thinking it's justified.
@susanfalconedaquino3623
3 ай бұрын
Mother sucks.
@shelby-r1e
3 ай бұрын
the worthless thing is always hypocrite it expect others to balance work and family while it does nothing at work nor for the family.
@jay-jz8lw
2 ай бұрын
what are u talkin about u goofy lookin bird
@Lucas-ky4cn
3 ай бұрын
"You don't know how hard it is to balance work and family" The mom did NOT just say that to their kid who literally was made the parent of the younger siblings. The oldest who is a full time student with a lot of extra curriculars and still manages to so everything around the house + childcare !? The mom need to wake up. OP clearly knows how hard it really is since they experienced it for years now. I'd advice OP to either call relatives for help or if that doesn't work to call CPS, as cruel as this sounds it is better for OP's mental and physical health in the long term
@stirrednotshaken4823
2 ай бұрын
I heard this one the other day and if I remember correctly, the parents work from 6am to 6pm. The daughter has to get the kids from school, help them with homework and cook dinner. Dad comes home and takes a shower, then mom takes a shower. They then sit down to eat as a family and all sit to watch a little tv together and then go to bed. Tell me who has the better end of the deal here. Parents are only spending an hour or two with their children while relying on their daughter to raise the other siblings. I feel so bad for that girl cause she's not getting to live the teenage experience like all of her friends. And after this experience, she says she no longer wants to have children of her own. Parenting failure at it's finest!
@cherezabotterman9433
2 ай бұрын
If parents cant make plenty of time for there kids and manage work in a resonable way then they shouldnt have kids.
@cherryspade7267
3 ай бұрын
"Don't have children you can't take care of." that a sentence I heard from a friend who was in this same situation.
@bubbletea6269
3 ай бұрын
I’ve been in the same situation before. I’m the oldest of 5 and I was always responsible of taking care of them. However, I was able to earn enough to move out of the house. Now me and my partner are living together, and I actually have a life now.
@MNNski
3 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that and I'm happy you were able to get away from that abuse. Parentfying a child is a terrible thing for a parent to do to their kid.
@missinvisible
3 ай бұрын
That’s how my dads life was like growing up being the firstborn of five
@Aguadechuchu.
3 ай бұрын
This happened to me. It's the same story over and over. As soon as the kid can, they move away from home.
@CortneeFelton
3 ай бұрын
We just got custody of our three nieces and the oldest (15) is finally smiling again after everything that happened she raised her two sisters she was completely in charge at the age of 6 to make sure two smaller humans bathed, ate, even go to school. She walked up to me in the middle of me cooking dinner I hugged her back asked if anything was wrong she said no this was the first time in her life all she had to do was school work and talking to her friends. Children shouldn't lose their childhood because parents can't pull their brains from their bums.
@graceray2283
3 ай бұрын
Mum: “You don’t know how hard it is to balance work and family” OP: “I spend 6 hours at school and the rest of my time is spent here looking after you and you’re children”
@hana_anah9036
3 ай бұрын
Maybe even 8 or 9
@stirrednotshaken4823
2 ай бұрын
@@hana_anah9036 If i remember correctly, the parents only spend a couple of hours in the evening with their children. This girl gets her siblings from school, helps with homework and cooks dinner. parents come home and take showers, eat dinner with family and then a little tv before bed. That's it! They work from 6am to 6pm and this girl does everything. They are stealing her teenage years...no memories for her to remember in later years. And the cherry on top is she no longer wants kids of her own!
@hana_anah9036
2 ай бұрын
@stirrednotshaken4837 Twelve hours is a lot of time to work, I feel bad for op. They really shouldn't have had more kids if they were gonna work for such long hours and just put all the work in parenting onto their own child.
@stirrednotshaken4823
2 ай бұрын
@@hana_anah9036 Yea, I agree. I think their excuse was mom’s promotion. If they can’t handle their work/home balance, then maybe mom or dad needs to step down from their job positions and focus more on their family. It’s not fair to their daughter to have to pick up the slack just because they are more career focused…aka making more money!
@HazardousBgirl
2 ай бұрын
Nahhh mum needs to start paying her she’s turned into a babysitter-
@neilprice513
3 ай бұрын
Parentification is when a child is forced to assume parental roles and responsibilities at an early age (role reversal) It's considered a form of CHILD ABUSE
@despair_1312
3 ай бұрын
I'm 17 and in a similar situation, have been since I was 12. my 5yr old brother calls me mom 1/2 the time and asks me permission for things before asking our mom. it's exhausting and abusive. My other brother talks to me like an adult instead of someone barely 3 years older than him. This flavor of abuse is exhausting and incredibly traumatizing, that being said, I am glad that my brothers don't have to raise themselves
@monal3544
2 ай бұрын
Why don't you just stop doing everything but your own stuff?
@katherinetomasello3661
Ай бұрын
I hope after graduation you give yourself permission to live.
@Azy8star
3 ай бұрын
"You dont know how hard it is to balance work and family" You do. OP does know and does it all the time bcuz the parents wont. She has school homework friends and extracurriculars but still SHE takes care of her siblings
@ziggybearofficial
3 ай бұрын
No child should be parentified no matter what situation the parent is in, the parent should never be trying to guilt trip the child either for their own faults. Me and my older siblings were all parentified as children to raise my younger siblings, I fall in the middle ground, I was raised by my older sister and now I raise the younger siblings. I'm the middle of 9 kids. Its not even that there's so many of us either, my dad was deployed a lot and is now staying home, to which since retiring he's been picking up his slack more so thx dad. But my mom is just a piece of work, she's been stay at home for 2 decades now and does nothing but lay down in her bed or do useless outdoor projects and then had the nerve to complain about us openly when we forget to do some household duties she should be upholding.
@piratekit3941
3 ай бұрын
OP's mom has no idea how hard it is to balance work and family herself, she keeps pushing it off on her!
@EvieSnushernash-wy6ld
2 ай бұрын
You don’t know hard it is to balance work and family They are going into high school doing so much work trying to look after their family and not lose all of their friends
@maebell227
3 ай бұрын
I would say the people in the wrong always say that others don't understand. And that family should help out and stick together when they dont do anything and leave u to do everything. Ur 15 and u r not there mother or father. Ur the kid, not the parent
@ritarevell7195
3 ай бұрын
If those 3 younger ones are old enough (5 years old or more), they can help with the chores. 5 year old can learn to dust the furniture. 7-year-old can vacuum the floors. The next one can help with meal prep and can help with dishes. They all can learn to pick up their toys and tidy the bathroom. Maybe a 15-year-old should get some kind of stipends to help out all the time. If she knew she had to work late, why didn't she hire a babysitter for a few hours. And speaking of Dad, where was he on Saturday night? When you are in a position to need to work, wages are low and so forth--and there are kids, you miss a lot. You miss their childhoods, you miss doing all those things like homework and so forth. Parents live feeling guilty about so many things.
@stephanieeubank2982
3 ай бұрын
What you're suggesting is still considered child abuse and neglect. This is parentafication. It is a form of abuse. The OP comments on how she's about to start highschool. So this is a middle school kid between 11 and 14 years old raising multiple kids. The traditional concept of older children aiding the raising of siblings is not only Debtramental to all the children but is a hindering to the oldest towards education and social development at their age. There's also statistics to show many older children abuse the younger or attempt to get rid of the younger children out of resentment and loneliness. We often forget how isolated parenting is. None of the behavior from the parents is ok. We shouldn't be advising how to maximize this op time management and ability to teach chores to siblings. We should be telling the op to get outside family and CPS involved. The parents need support and so does the op.
@stirrednotshaken4823
2 ай бұрын
Cause they say they can't afford a babysitter! Why would they pay for a babysitter when they can just use her? /S More like they don't "want" to pay for a babysitter!
@ritarevell7195
2 ай бұрын
@@stirrednotshaken4823 Nothing like using her for slave labor.
@Tired_Night_Owl_in_the_Woods
Ай бұрын
Those 3 younger siblings are not a surprise triplet, so every time parents should have evaluated whether they have the resources to bring another baby to equation. Not the "oh, we have an older responsible one, she will handle it"
@cbk7744
3 ай бұрын
If mom had to work late, dad should step in or at least get a babysitter. Older siblings are always expected to help with looking after the younger ones, but they aren't supposed to be stuck with ALL the responsibilities of the parents. It's very unfair to the kid
@samuelchappell7280
2 ай бұрын
I was 9 when I began my training into being the "responsible first born son." I was taught how to cook, clean, etc. if my mom needed me to babysit my siblings while she, or my step-dad, was working. By the time I reached 16, both my mom and step-dad would leave me with my 4 half-sisters while they went to do only God knows what. My mom would even hide letters from my paternal grandmother because there was also a check in my name for whatever I needed for school. My mother would forge my name on the check, and no one at the check cashing place would say anything against doing so because I was a minor at the time. When I went to see my paternal grandmother that summer, and she asked me about it, I told her the truth. My mom got really angry with me when I told her that I told my grandmother to deposit that money into the savings account my paternal grandparents started for me after I was born. After that, I told her that if she ever left my half-sisters with me like she and my step-dad has been doing after I came home from school, I would be calling the police on them. My mom began paying my Aunt Thelma to babysit between 10th grade to Graduation in high school. She tried to slap me with rent afterwards, but I moved to my grandparents after graduation to escape living with my mom and half-sisters. I do not regret my choices from back then. I am now 52 years old.
@SaraErickson-q6g
3 ай бұрын
You don't know how hard it is to balance work and family Then you shouldn't have had so many kids you wouldn't have to work as much
@aletreiger9337
3 ай бұрын
So this is how they balanced work and family “Work work work, clapping checks clapping checks. Oh no another baby?!?!”
@Sasu123456789x1
3 ай бұрын
Exactly, like wtf. After the first kid or even the second kid, they should've realized that they couldn't handle more than that and done something to not have more kids cause now they're putting all that stress and responsibilities on the oldest.
@theresapilkington9931
2 ай бұрын
Yes you know how hard it is to balance work and taking care of the kids your doing it now
@TheNikkinick001
3 ай бұрын
OP is absolutely right. If the could not raise more children, then they should not have had them. It’s not fair to OP to miss out on her teen years raising her siblings.
@michaelw1669
3 ай бұрын
I am the oldest I never liked taking care of my little bro I had to take care of him my mom was a junky. I stole food for us diapers for him and kept him out the street off the roof. I taught him how to ride a bike, steal food, clothing but that was not enough for him he kept stealing even when I got a job and an apartment and we did not need to steal anymore he would not stop. I am so sorry I failed him he is in jail now and I showed him how to get there. I am so sorry your mommy and daddy work too much.
@BrendaWilson-o6e
3 ай бұрын
your not an older child your a young mommy or daddy...and your right
@maddieg563
3 ай бұрын
15f so she’s being treated like a teen mom
@franceswomble8083
3 ай бұрын
You are not the A hole. You need to move out as soon as possible
@fencarroll9463
3 ай бұрын
This is called parentification and it's abusive. Is there anyone else you can stay with ? Yes, they shouldn't have more children than they can care for. In a few years when you go no contact they are going to wonder why and this is it.
@axelreboot8475
3 ай бұрын
Exactly this is unacceptable if i were you would just leave asap if you're high school experience isn't very pleasant or you just want to get away as soon as you graduate just have them mail your diploma to so you can deny your parents the satisfaction of seeing you graduate in case they need the attention to boost their own egos
@samantha_pandas_46_33
3 ай бұрын
Thats the thing tho. Shes not balancing work and family. Shes only focused on work.
@thatonebich4382
2 ай бұрын
House chores are one thing. But taking care of siblings is PARENTS responsibility.
@Prika-m1f
3 ай бұрын
I have the same struggle story as well. I have to the chores watch my siblings. I didn’t even try ti take care of myself. I am in high school and I’m still doing my chores and watching my siblings. I get mad at my family when I wanted time hang out with my friends but they all ways say who’s going to do the chores whos going to watch your sibling so I couldn’t hang out my friends even if I wanted to😢😢😢😢
@ScarletRomave
3 ай бұрын
My siblings refer to me as sister mom. My parents even joke about it how is this okay
@davidmauriciogutierrezespi5244
3 ай бұрын
It's not, it is abuse
@alanhawkins9478
2 ай бұрын
It is child abuse and can be reported to CPS.........
@JillianLenard
2 ай бұрын
Mom“ you dont know how hard it is to balance work and family!“ YEAH AND NEITHER DO YOU😂😂
@itsmemariohi1771
3 ай бұрын
It doesn't take 4 kids to realize that. It takes as little as 1. Parents need to stop saying that as if 1 kid isnt enough to understand everything that's hard about being a parent, they just kept going because they had their oldest, they know how hard it is and that's why they dont do it
@tiredbird471
3 ай бұрын
call CPS because they're doing parentification on you.
@Eliza-ie3zx
3 ай бұрын
That mum is not even trying to find a balance between work and family...
@debl3063
3 ай бұрын
Yep. What balance? There is no balance when your kid does ALL the work.
@ms_ks4
3 ай бұрын
If you can’t balance work and family choose one.
@kalcibone
3 ай бұрын
Sounds like a CPS call.
@dallerwilliam
2 ай бұрын
Kids should be kids. They shouldn't have to understand How hard it is too balancing work and family.
@funkyducky8751
3 ай бұрын
Ooof.....been there. I was 8 when my sister was born and 11 when my brother was born. I was left in charge of them and the house and the animals. While she layed in bed all day or went to friends houses.
@StefanoBuoro
3 ай бұрын
"Balance work and family,'"💀💀💀💀💀💀talk the one doesn't even look after the family
@millycool8148
3 ай бұрын
🙄i was the oldest and i had to take care of my siblings freaken hate it😡am so glad i only had one child only. I never want my daughter to experience this at all. She is free to do things.
@NicoleVasileva-h6v
2 ай бұрын
When she says u can't go, go even tho she said no, stop taking care of them if u want u can bring them with u, Sneak out whenever u want, don't be with them for a day COMPLETLY for them not to see u, even the siblings like their fate is in ur hands so let go and don't help them then they will know ur not selfish and that they are
@KathyOgden-c8c
3 ай бұрын
This so sad I have a niece that was the oldest of eight and the mother would say change the baby feed the baby wash the baby put the baby to bed. Go get the baby put the baby down for a nap feed the rest of the kids. She never got to have a childhood from the time she was five until she graduates from high school. She had to take care of her siblings and no, her mom didn’t work. She just sat chair watching TV. she complained and the mother said you got a roof over your head food in your belly what more do you want . Now go change the kid when she graduated from high school. She never looked back and she doesn’t have kids of her own either. She doesn’t want them and I don’t blame her and I bet. and I bet if you complain, your parents are gonna tell you the same thing you got food in your you got a roof over your head food in your belly with more do you want? Please run and never look back.
@alisaodincova4753
3 ай бұрын
Gotta love useless parents flaunting the below minimum of necesities that they provided
@Skyrem-dm7hj
3 ай бұрын
How is her mother doing after your niece moved out?
@KathyOgden-c8c
3 ай бұрын
@@Skyrem-dm7hj She is now 68 and on 8 years of probation for bank robbery at her age she just reached over and took 800.00 dollars and walked out. She had it all spent in 45 minutes it took for the cops to track her down. They were nice enough to let her finish the super for her husband. He in return gave the cops 800.00 and told them to take to the bank they did but she has been getting a way with stealing her whole life so the bank took the money and later put her in jail for two weeks then the judge gave her 8 years on probation
@hana_anah9036
2 ай бұрын
@@KathyOgden-c8cAre her other children alright?
@shinatina2466
2 ай бұрын
Classic case of the oldest gets parentified cause the parents have absolutely no idea what theyre doing but want kids anyway
@Monkey_Man_6000
2 ай бұрын
I have two things to say 1:How are they saying they are balancing work and having children when they aren’t there for the children 2: They aren’t enjoying their life their working so they can have money to keep a house for YOU not them only YOU TOO I mean it comes with them not being there for the children but they are keeping you off the streets so you don’t have to work and find a job they try to provide for you they don’t fully neglect you I get your upset but still they are trying to provide the best they can they aren’t just going on vacation to Hawaii and the Bahamas and stuff like that they are working for you
@MrsRavenclaw
2 ай бұрын
As a mother, I would never put that much on my son. It is my job, as well as, my husband's to take care of any children we have. Don't get me wrong in that I would be grateful for any help our son gives, but I would not expect him to take over the raising of any siblings he may have. That is way too much stress for any preteen or teenager. I would let my son have the freedom, within reason, he deserves and needs. If he wanted to go to a party, I would ask questions about it and who would be there. I would make sure he remembered about what certain things are at parties. I would make sure he knew to ask questions at said party about what something was, or what was in it. I would also say that at any point where he felt uncomfortable at any party, that all he had to do is call me and I would be there. I would say he could go as long as he remembers those things and what time he needed to be home by. If he was going to be more than 10 minutes late that he would call to let us know what was going on. He knows that no matter what time of day or night, I along with my husband would be there for him.
@Breathy-u5h
3 ай бұрын
Don’t know how hard it is, he balances school which is almost the same, and more family than yoy
@StickyChai
2 ай бұрын
Bravo to you since when you’re lonely and you want to see your kids and their family the most they refuse to see you. That’s all since they don’t actually know you and don’t have a proper bond with you, and on top of that you ruined your eldest’s childhood. That’s not a parent.
@striderarsal4676
2 ай бұрын
Man there ur parents and they spent so much hard work raising u mabye u could at least help them
@zae_llama9111
3 ай бұрын
You aren’t balancing though, you just keep asking your kid to raise your kids….
@bridittebargeot2679
2 ай бұрын
I'm the oldest of 7, i feel you. Well, i was not a easy teen, and did a lot of stupid stuff. My mom ended up relying more on my younger sister after i gave beer to my younger brother when i was 13. I'm not proud of it. This was absolutely stupid. And my mom was alone with us since my dad abandoned us around that time, wich didn't help, either in making me a responsable teen nor in making it easy for my mom. Anyway, i many cultures, it's standart practice that the older kids fend to the younger ones when their parents are working. It really isn't easy to balance work and kids. I'm not saying your parents are right, i'm just trying to give another perspective. You should be able to have time for yourself, your siblings aren't your responsability. A little help is ok, though. But it shouldn't be to the point where you basically take on your mom's role...
@BabyNatie12
2 ай бұрын
Call me wrong or whatever y’all want, but I feel like the parents felt a little too entitled to even tell their teenager for one that they’re selfish just cause they got called out and two because the mother felt like saying something that she don’t even do her damn self😂 but if the kid turns his or her back on the parents and calls another family relative and tell them what’s going on then they’re in the wrong🤦🏻♀️ I don’t think the teenager did anything wrong it’s the parents and they should feel ashamed on themselves
@mars4480
2 ай бұрын
I want to leave my parents so badly, im 15 but ive been raising my special need twin siblings since i was 10. I cook for them, i clean them, i raise them, socialize them.. i can barely take care of myself, im tierd, i cant do this anymore, theyre turning into bad people but i cant do anything about itm
@jimdob6528
2 ай бұрын
Good lord. I am all for your children being responsible for basic chores and even cooking 1 dinner a week once they are responsible/old enough but that’s too much. I grew up with 5 siblings. By the time we were 13 each of us picked a day of the week and needed to plan a proper meal. You did the cooking and the cleaning afterwards to encourage habits like “clean as you go” and being efficient in the kitchen. Only rule was it had to be a complete nutritional meal and you need to switch up 3 of the 5 items each time so you learned variety and 2 weekends a month we would all cook a family meal together to learn other culinary skills and try new cuisines.
@stevensola3361
3 ай бұрын
Move out at 18 and go to school and work to provide for your living. If you are in the US there are grants, and if you go to a community college you can easily afford it.
@badluckdice4447
Ай бұрын
And you will work even more, have even less time, and live the worse life. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
@stevensola3361
Ай бұрын
@badluckdice4447 Really, we did it in the 70s, 80s, and 90s. We had three to five roommates, got through college, and apprenticeship programs just fine, while working one or multiple jobs. Not everything is going to be a handout. It is better than being stuck in a bad situation, one of my roommates was beat with whatever they could find to hit him with. He had fractures and scares everywhere, and no one helped him, he was out at 16 and staying with friends as much as he could. He has a great trade now and is an excellent father and husband. Waist all your time??? Worse life???
@zoe9190
2 ай бұрын
Call cps, and if you can get cps to visit when the parents arent there, even better, if you can fake or have a mental break when they are, do so. Tell them you have no life. Second option, ask a friend and their parent if you can move in, or a family member if one is close. It may not have to be permanent, but mom and dad need to be mom and dad, not just those who work and dont parent the kids
@sheate2323
2 ай бұрын
I would’ve said you don’t know how hard it is to juggle school and take care of your kids, so yes, I do know how hard it is! Don’t let me forget about how it’s so hard to juggle with my friends too!!
@Charlieburgers10
2 ай бұрын
they don't balance work and family. They have work. And leave "family" to someone else
@LunaGirlemi
3 ай бұрын
Completely understand I had to be a parent to my younger sister because my dad and stepmom didn’t want to be parents pretty much because they didn’t help raise us.
@brissamendoza129
3 ай бұрын
I been take care of my siblings my whole life I didn't complain about it cuz my mom is a single mother she need help I knew she couldn't plus I teach my siblings how to cook and clean make sure everything good cuz soon they don't need me anymore 😅
@heyitsalex2619
3 ай бұрын
But it sounds like op does know how hard it is to balance work and family. They go to school (which is a full time job, especially when they get to hs) and they have to raise their parents kids.
@ashleygarcia6448
Ай бұрын
It is not your responsibility to basically raise your younger siblings. That's your parents job. A lot of parents, including single mother's and father's work and come home and take care of their children And household responsibilities. That is not your job or your responsibility. You're a child yourself and you deserve every right to do whatever teenagers and children do, which is hanging out with their friends go to parties do social things with your friends. You don't deserve what you're going through. Your parents really need to re-evaluate their situation And not put you through that. It results in a lot of anger, rebellious things, resentment etc..
@dulceleamsigame2508
3 ай бұрын
Kids are not supposed to take care of other kids. If you have children and are having a hard time taking care of them, cut work hours or get a baby sitter, is not your child responsibility to take care of your children, is yours.
@Multi_Stan148
Ай бұрын
"you dont know how hard it is to balance work and family" girl neither do you-
@utej.k.bemsel4777
Ай бұрын
Today it's not an unavoidable fate to have so many children! There are ways to avoid that! Taking the childhood of a kid should be a crime!
@Sasu123456789x1
3 ай бұрын
Omg I can't stand parents who do this to their kids!!
@bobbierobinson6269
2 ай бұрын
Children should have chores, it teaches responsibility. Children should not have to take care of everything. Chores should not take the whole of your free time.
@cynthiamiranda4388
2 ай бұрын
I’m so sorry What is wrong with this world i’ve said it before and I’ll say it again some of these people out there were not meant to be parents. It is so sad that kids end up raising kids.
@staylor3483
2 ай бұрын
They aren't balancing work & family. They are parentifying a 15yo & working or enjoying their lives while their eldest child is enslaved. OP needs to speak to a trusted adult: grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher, counselor, etc. As a survivor of this same BS, I can attest to it having ruined my relationship with my siblings & my mother.
@toteswurmelein
3 ай бұрын
As a mother i'll never understand parents like that. I ! want kids. They are MY responsibility. I'm expecting no3 rn. We are remodeling our house, sort of, so all of them have their own bed room. And of course my oldest will never have to take care for her siblings. Excepts she explizit wants to take them to the playground or sth. You know what i mean. But i will never make her do that. Unbelievable.
@brianbarber5401
Ай бұрын
OP really should just tell their parents two “word”: Parentification CPS And then step away from them.
@aureaperrenocte9094
2 ай бұрын
My younger sisters' teachers honestly thought, that they were mine and dad's daughters, while thinking that mom is their irritable grandmother 😂
@antonisberberis48
2 ай бұрын
I actyally am at the same age the OP is and I have the same problem. The only thing that helps me is the thought that in 3 yearss I will be free and not forced to watch my siblings all the time.
@Sere190
2 ай бұрын
The ‘mother’ doesn’t know either, since she’s only thinking about her job and blatantly ignoring all of her other responsibilities 🤷🏻♀️ working longer hours isn’t such a hussle, when it gives you an excuse not to clean/cook/raise your kids/run errands: it’s just convenient
@nicwelch
Ай бұрын
The 15 doesn’t have to understand things like that, because they aren’t her children! Seriously, parents like this really piss me off.
@GigalassII
Ай бұрын
Yes, she does understand, that's why she told YOU that you should've thought twice about having extra kids, and yes, they are extra.
@KassD-c9g
2 ай бұрын
that doesn’t change the fact that you shouldn’t have had kids if you couldn’t handle it. it’s not selfish to want to be a kid. if anything they’re selfish for not being parents.
@kirstensabinearndt1124
3 ай бұрын
U r rite. They wanted more children, they take care or hire help. Get out as soon as u legally can
@hoosiergirl6344
2 ай бұрын
OPs mom also doesnt seem to understand how hard it is to balance work and family, she doesnt do it either. They need to hire help.
@rosesophieblack7287
3 ай бұрын
Oh yeah, as the oldest of 4 I definitely relate… plus the “ I have the right to live my life “ line… mhm, apparently they have the right to live their lives. Funny, how they always “ live their lives “ by excluding their children and pushing all the responsibilities on the oldest ones they made. But no worries tho, they wanted those kids, they chose to have them. Doesn’t matter they don’t care about them at all 😂 just pathetic My youngest sister is 10 years younger than me. She was calling me mom by the time I was 16. She’d just come to cuddle cause she was sad and she’d just call me mom. Same with my other sisters. All of them still rely on me more than they do on my mother. I’m supporting them financially and help with school, make sure they eat, their medical needs are taken care of so on so on and I live abroad now. So yeah. Seems like many people made kids, just to have their teenage phase right after having them and they just went for it, forcing their own kids to parent.
@louistoole5396
2 ай бұрын
“ you don’t know how hard it is to balance work and family “ if it’s that hard why’d you have kids?
@disco.ball0
2 ай бұрын
you don’t know how hard it is to balance work and family but the thing is the mom doesn’t balance the two.
@pageachatter229
Ай бұрын
There's a word for this. It's called Parentification. And make no mistake, Parentification is a form of abuse.
@missymagg196
2 ай бұрын
My adoptive parents decided to adopt a 13y/o after their nanny quit.
@agnesstokes1078
2 ай бұрын
She doesn't either. Give this kid a break before something happens to them
@katherinetomasello3661
Ай бұрын
These parents are going to end up in a state run facility one day wondering why their child wants nothing to do with them. I hope OP gives themself permission to live after highschool.
@puglife658
2 ай бұрын
Considering parentification is abuse and illegal, that mom is kidding herself.
@weekendnomad5038
Ай бұрын
How can the mom say that when the kid is caring for all of the children and house wow
@SamuraiScottsman
3 ай бұрын
You don’t though, you don’t balance work or life and forced it on your kid. Don’t be surprised when all your kids treat her like their mom
@ReynaisBadass
Ай бұрын
Same type of people to feed a cat, dog food, then complain about the cat not eating it and being ungreatful
@shadowkage1715
3 ай бұрын
She litterly just said herself that it hard that proves the op point of why she had more kids
@robertfowler9704
3 ай бұрын
Tell them you need to be able to grow too, so they should hire a babysitter/nanny.
@kimberlydyle269
3 ай бұрын
Not selfish. Sorry I agree with the kid. I've got a niece that's going through the same thing. Except first she doesn't have her mom because her mom passed away and her dad is too stuck up all these other women
@cindyofallon5814
2 ай бұрын
The parents are wrong! Kids need to have fun too. Because they are children.
@sandraaudette8949
3 ай бұрын
Geez its like shes a 15 y/o single mom. . In all seriousness- find someone to stay with temporarily and look into emancipation.
@jenniferbibi1972
2 ай бұрын
The father is a massive hypocrite. Pawning their responsibilities onto a CHILD.
@wiktorbednarz229
2 ай бұрын
I can bet if op carried on taking care of her siblings they would start calling her mum and the parents would get mad and confused when they did barely anything for the kids Parentification is a form of abuse and if they cant take care of their own kids they shouldnt have had any
@beckyjones6172
3 ай бұрын
Do you have any relatives you could move in with. Grandparents, an aunt and uncle or cousins. Even just for a 2 week vacation. In that short amount of time, your parents will see exactly who does all the work for the family and you get to be a kid again for a bit. And if you like the arrangement the ask to make it permanent. When your parents get upset just say for once I'm putting myself and my needs first. I'm a kid. I deserve to be a kid while I still can. You took that from me. You made me a parent. I have never asked for much. Just to see my friends occasionally and you couldn't even allow me that. You could have gotten a babysitter when I had plans but oh no why bother spending money to so all our kids can have what they want when it's so much easier to force me into cancelling my plans and make me miserable. You love the others I'm useful to you. Do you even love me anymore? Or am I just a means to an end? I'm not sorry and I'm not coming back. This is my home now. I'm free here. If they threaten to take that family member to court just bring up exactly how much you do,l, the amount of time you get to yourself and your parents schedules. Ask them if they think the court would agree with them then. To force their eldest daughter into parentiforcation servitude. Then they'll see what it's really like to balance work and childcare properly with out help.
@HurricaneFox
2 ай бұрын
Why can't the younger siblings take care of themselves? I can't imagine them being that young
@vm7151
2 ай бұрын
Yeah, clearly the mom doesn't know how to do this or she would be doing more. Honestly, they should hire someone to come clean and cook for the family, it would take pressure of the teen, and seems unfair. It sounds like the family is in a position to be able to do this since the mom got a promotion.
@shannonmeikle5192
2 ай бұрын
They aren't balancing 💩. I could understand if the parents asked now and again but expecting your child to take care of everything is selfish because she needs to be a kid herself and sometimes the older sibling will start to resent their younger siblings. Maybe her mum shouldn't have taken the promotion.
@KmariOwens
Ай бұрын
OP is right though why’d you have soo many kids if you don’t even have enough time to take care of them
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