As a paramedic I've dealt with the horrific and sometimes deadly aftermath of violence on many occasions, but in my personal life I've found it remarkably easy to not get in fights with people. Even though I'm a 48 year old punk rock fan who has been in hundreds of mosh pits at hundreds of punk shows, there's only been 1 time that I smacked a guy who needed to be brought into line and 1 other time I stepped between 2 guys who were fighting, but other than that if you're paying attention to your surroundings, it's not hard to avoid trouble. (My broken noses were the result of standard mosh pit fun, not violence!) The real problems usually start when dudes mix the false bravado of alcohol with the fragile ego of low self esteem.
@thatgearguy
12 сағат бұрын
Which is all discussed at length in the previous videos in this series. Rule 1 - avoid.
@joshyaks
11 сағат бұрын
@@thatgearguy Absolutely! I appreciate that you keep hammering that point and give practical advice for how to do it, because it's the most important one.
@plumduff3303
7 сағат бұрын
❤❤❤😊
@robertscheinost179
11 сағат бұрын
The gypsy con "we are taking up a collection so we can bury my young child who just died" made the rounds in big cities in the USA a few years back. These are organized shakedowns with up to 60 people on intersections across an area of a city. I have no problems buying a cup of iced coffee for someone on a hot day or flipping a few Dollars to someone in need on an "one time only" basis. I live in a small town (18,000 people) so it's relatively easy to spot the people in need from the "professional" beggars. All of the points in your video were spot on. Thanks. Cheers!
@DickGozinya-zl2bd
12 сағат бұрын
When it comes to fighting on the street, "Win if you can, lose if you must but, ALWAYS cheat!" & If you know the turd you're beefing with is going to attack you, ABSOLUTELY throw the first punch. Not only does it cause the first damage but, it can give your attacker a mental disadvantage because he thought he was targeting a weak Bych but, got poped in the mouth before he could find his balls & launch his intended attack.
@bobbyrayofthefamilysmith24
11 сағат бұрын
The biggest problem with the UK legal system is that many prosecutors and judges are upper class toffs who've no idea how violence works in reality. You can easily end up in prison for something that was entirely reasonable because someone with only a Hollywood understanding of violence thought your actions were "unfair" I know a girl who ended up prosecuted, she was the victim. She hit her much bigger (female) attacker with a glass bottle after already taking a serious beating and being knocked to the ground. Unfortunately her attacker suffered a fairly bad injury from the bottle and it was deemed unreasonable force because the (bigger,stronger) attacker wasn't armed herself. Absolutely ridiculous.
@flyer617
11 сағат бұрын
Have good situational awareness, trust your gut, and get away from any situation that feels wrong. This served me well working in New York City and the nightlife there for decades. Don't engage people who come up to you. No cigarette, no you can't have the time, or "spare change" or use my phone. Emergency? I'll call 911 for you. Yeah, I didn't think so.
@Robertarcher2035
12 сағат бұрын
All your life advice ( and views ) output is essential for those that that haven’t had life experience yet and bolsterers up those of us that have had a bit . You’re a public service. It all fits in well with gear reviews too . 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
@thatgearguy
12 сағат бұрын
@@Robertarcher2035 Thank you and glad you like the content!
@plumduff3303
13 сағат бұрын
Great film pal...ive faced bullies both individuals and groups ...be prepared and run if you can. Peace and love to all ❤
@thatgearguy
13 сағат бұрын
Thanks and agree!
@drc1247
11 сағат бұрын
Great advice as usual. You asked us about myths we've heard. One of many I've heard is that drunk people are easier to fight back against. Sure, if they're completely legless, but if someone is just plain drunk it doesn't mean they're harmless. They just feel less pain and are more volatile. Another is a topic of one of your recent videos. Women and violence. When I worked in a club in the Medway towns 20 years back the women were just, if not more, as brutal as the men. What they lacked in strength they made up for in objects to hand. Bottles, high heels, glass ash trays (before the smoking ban) etc. Brutal. Here's a topic idea unless I've missed it. Can you give us advice on home security? What would you advise to prevent and deter would be burglars. Thanks. 👍
@dodge8366
4 сағат бұрын
Another excellent video your point about bullies congregating in groups around one dominant person who is always front of house in any confrontation is spot on.
@justletmesigninokthx
13 сағат бұрын
in school, i remember this kid getting bullied by all the evil kids. Even his 'friend' ended up bullying him. One time in a geography class the kid got up slowly and calmly walked towards the front of the class and then suddenly smashed his 'friend' right in the face with a sucker punch, completely uninpeeded. All this in front of the quiet classroom. He could not get bullied much more so fuck it. Im not sure he even got in trouble for it from teachers. The whole system was a failure at keeping kids safe.
@sonsoffalstaff2600
12 сағат бұрын
The best lesson in life a child can learn in school is that 'Authority' (Teachers, Police, Governments) are not going to provide a 'safe space'. From ten years old I fought my way through school often. Bullies are everywhere and 'Grown ups' are not going to protect you. Look at society now. Do you think the Police protect you? The Courts are fair and there is justice? Children must learn to protect themselves and, if possible, the weak who can't. No one is coming to help you.
@letsdothis9063
12 сағат бұрын
I met my best friend, by saving him from bullies. I ended up being friends with the bullies as well (after I beat them up). I was a nerd, but I grew up in a tough neighborhood. I had been in several fights and jumped twice by the time I was in middle school. I never considered myself a tough guy, but I hated bullies. I was taken to the principal's office a few times for fighting. The principal always told the other guy, "if you got Charlie mad enough to hit you, then you probably deserved it" 😅 Mr. Morrison was good guy.
@troyonplanet
8 сағат бұрын
Another excellent video. One issue that always still amazes me in fights is when one clown thinks it’s wise to get right up and be virtually nose to nose to his opponent as a show of aggression that they hope will intimidate the other person - that’s a wonderful way to cop either a head butt, uppercut or right hook and end up knocked out and it’s game over - I’ve always trained to keep distance and given I’m 6’3” I always used front or side kicks to keep people back - especially since I have no idea if they’re possibly carrying a blade. Situational awareness is so key to keeping yourself safe and so many people either aren’t intuitive to such things or they get quite drunk and thus lose that awareness of what’s happening near them - an especially dangerous scenario for women who can then fall victim to male sexual predators.
@jamescarter1088
10 сағат бұрын
"Have you got the time?" Had that once in an alley way. Immediately replied "If you've got the money" whilst putting my hand in my coat pocket. Kid ran off luckily, he was up to no good trying to rob me. Dont try this in a ruff area just leg it 😂😂😂
@simonsharpe1352
2 сағат бұрын
I would recommend the managing violence podcast series with Joe Saunders and his latest guest Matt Thornton, talking about his book, the gift of violence
@PaulRaymond-fd4hx
10 сағат бұрын
Excellent advice! Allot of what you said in that one not only rings bells but, it's my own personal experience! I grew up in East London back in the 80's so yeah, I know the deal of how rough things can get! I then moved to South London in the 90's I still live there even to this very day and it too is rough where violence is concerned more predominantly with guns and gang crime. I get news reports from the Net mostly everyday from across the City of London. Stabbings are prolific. Gun crime spontaneous and unpredictable. All this with the oversight of Law and Order. Times have changed since the end of the last Great War in this Country. This multicultural Cosmopolitan that We all now live in could turn into a complete Hell Hole if something really bad should happen and suddenly everyone was left in the dark due to the power being cut off for a protracted period of time due to the event of War, CME Event/s Sabotage by Foreign Enemy Actors i.e. Russia EMP disruption etc. etc. Situations and scenarios that We all in these forever increasing uncertain times should be considering. Sometimes, it keeps me up at night, especially with the recent events currently transpiring in the Middle East right now! It is possible that these happenings could not only escalate to a wider, more regional conflict, but, could even spark a more serious, Global one. Putin is also a concern, it seems that he is intent on attacking the UK at some point in the mere future. Just two weeks ago he sent ships through the English Channel accompanied with bombers in response to Blinken and Lamys visit to Ukraine. it went grossly unprepared by our News Network at the time but, I get regular bulletins from the Net all the time and is very appraised. The British Government are currently very concerned of the potential of an attack with the use of hypersonic missiles from Russia. It is believed that one of the Russians primary targets would be Our power generation infrastructure. If that happens, it won't be governments and our world leaders I personally will be worried about, it will be our own General Public! With no power for a protracted time or even indefinitely. Cities such as London would tear itself apart. Food Riots would ensue and when the food finally ran out, that civilized Cosmopolitan Folk out there will eat each other. I do sincerely hope that this message reaches you without interference from that dammed machine and it's algerythim. --- (Very Scary.) End.
@ExAnimoPortugal
2 сағат бұрын
When I went to Rome, many scammers approached me. They even tried speaking to me in different languages. I just played dumb and ignored them. I am a polite person, but I don't owe my politeness to random people who engage with me in public.
@Niko132
12 сағат бұрын
Love your vids man. If you ever have any free time, pick up Tank Abbots book "Bar Brawler", just some good ol fashion stories of his bar & streets fights leaving bullies in pools of their own blood. Tank at times was a bully himself but it's a great read, great part about getting older is you pick and chose your battles wisely. And yes, violence and mma are too different things (crazy how people think mma is fighting, in the street it's anything but that..)
@b11nladen
13 сағат бұрын
When I was about thirteen, this coach of ours said "Has he been listening to his mother!", and this is what he was talking about.
@b11nladen
12 сағат бұрын
Great comment about the charities. My initial impression of you was that you're OK. That tipped me into a much higher degree of assuredness of this. A lot of the people doing outwardly similar videos aren't legit. They're bullshitting liars. There seems to be a kind of magnetic attraction to bullshitter bully people by weak males and to a lesser extent females, but I've never liked it. Anyone who thinks that in a normal life (not in some kind of captivity) that it's good for people to be scared of you. Anyone who enjoys being scared of you's not going to be good for you. If it's a woman she's a scumbag and if it's a man, then they're on some kind of homoerotic kick.
@sonsoffalstaff2600
12 сағат бұрын
Battle of Maldon 991AD. The Saxons had the Vikings at a disadvantage on the other end of a causeway. The Vikings asked the Saxons to do the ' decent thing' and allow them across to fight 'fairly'. The Saxons let them across. Guess who lost!
@thatgearguy
12 сағат бұрын
The Vikings had a rep for being fair players. 😅
@sonsoffalstaff2600
12 сағат бұрын
@@thatgearguy The 'Nice Guys' of the Dark Ages.
@waynerhodes360
12 сағат бұрын
As always lad , looking forward to another one of your KZitem uploads ! Keep up the good work 👏 love from new Zealand 🇳🇿
@thatgearguy
11 сағат бұрын
Much appreciated!
@justtango4741
12 сағат бұрын
I witnessed this aggressive drunk guy attack a guy walking home for no reason (had been thrown out of a venue) and he got ko'd by the guy he started on. Then his two mates ran over and pretended to play peace makers like they were apologising for their aggressive mate. As soon as the guy was up again all three of them battered this guy. I guess the two other guys wouldn't do anything without their main guy? But I remember thinking at the time if only the attacked guy followed up while he had the upper hand!
@plumduff3303
Сағат бұрын
I once got attacked by 4 lads coming out a railway station attacked for no reason..out the blue..lost a tooth in that one...came from nowhere i was carrying a rucksack grabbed from behind.. got mistaken for a soldier...trust no one
@rwvids1
12 сағат бұрын
Hi, im loving your videos, always a great watch. Could you do one on the workout program that you followed to achieve your heaviest lifts?
@thatgearguy
12 сағат бұрын
Great suggestion!
@LondonMoneyCashEnterprise
13 сағат бұрын
My favourite channel on KZitem, even though I have negative experiences with doormen u seem solid and fair
@thatgearguy
13 сағат бұрын
I also had negative experiences with doormen! Thanks for watching.
@b11nladen
13 сағат бұрын
Bald and Bankrupt's probably the best for fun videos. "Pretending to be Gay to get in the Sleepover", on *AGC ANDY*'s channel, which I've just found.
@Anza_34832
12 сағат бұрын
You often refer to the military using unfair tactics: that's where I was taught the difference between "hurting" and "maiming"...
@smokescreenhustle1912
5 сағат бұрын
Over the last 4 years, it's been a constant battle with overzealous supermarket security.
@kevintse2870
12 сағат бұрын
In America unfortunately, pre-emptively attacking a stalker didn’t go well for Trayvon Martin.
@thatgearguy
12 сағат бұрын
Not really compareable. There is always a slim chance a lunatic will shoot you anywhere in the world. It is highly unusual hence the huge press coverage. If I am in a country where folk are carrying then I would be to. Dont bring a fist to a gunfight..
@kevintse2870
12 сағат бұрын
@@thatgearguy true
@michaelzygouras531
11 сағат бұрын
And snipes in ww2 were considered "dirty" and often disliked by their own troops.
@johnrockwell5834
3 сағат бұрын
The notion that "Good prevails over evil" just doesn't work on the Individual level but on a group level it makes a group strong enough to overpower it's enemies in the long run. As individuals being Good isn't synonymous with Combat Competence.
@thatgearguy
3 сағат бұрын
Not so sure about that. Look at Afghan. Nobody conquered evil there and plenty had a good go..
@markwhite4491
11 сағат бұрын
Well said, well done
@twistedassisted3474
2 сағат бұрын
Great video Paul, thanks for sharing your wisdom.
@thatgearguy
Сағат бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it!
@stevo728822
3 сағат бұрын
Talking of sneaky military tricks. During the War Of The Roses there was a battle in England between two armies. Both armies had longbowmen. Both armies knew the longbow had a max range of about 200 yards. One army lined themselves up with the wind behind them. The opposing army fired their longbow. But because of the wind they were facing the arrows fell short. The other army then picked up those arrows and fired them back at their opponent. I forget the rest of the details.
@bougeac
2 сағат бұрын
Yep, myths like “the bigger they are, the harder they fall”. Substitute “fall” with “hit”…
@thatgearguy
2 сағат бұрын
That is a good one. I rarely saw bigger guys losing to much smaller opponents unless there was a significant skill/experience gap.
@nklin6
Сағат бұрын
Not sure how i ended up on your channel but very glad i did!
@thatgearguy
Сағат бұрын
Thanks! I guess I can thank youtube for recommending me!
@nklin6
Сағат бұрын
@thatgearguy your subject matter isnt generally what I would search for but you're a great speaker and i find your content very interesting
@thatgearguy
Сағат бұрын
@@nklin6 That is really great to hear. Thank you, I appreciate you taking time to listen.
@tedhike6279
7 сағат бұрын
Thank you
@forwardprogressonly
3 сағат бұрын
Mate 😂 get f away from me 😂 always solid advice. I always keep at arms distance to avoid cheap shots where possible
@thatgearguy
3 сағат бұрын
Absolutely!
@stevo728822
3 сағат бұрын
In the 90's I walked out of a nightclub in Boscombe at closing time. I'm not joking, there were six fights going on all at the same time on the street outside the club. They all involved several people and reminded me of the rucks when I played rugby. Two of them were between women. No police in sight even though there were plenty of street cameras. The bouncers just watched on. It was all taking place on the street so not their problem. Sort of thing you'd video and post on social media these days.
@thatgearguy
3 сағат бұрын
Halcyon days!
@66numero
2 сағат бұрын
Hi, toyr videos are always very interesting. I haven't seen al of them. But have you already addressed the group behaviour? Your friend seems to let you down if you lose a fight, and the opposite, they tend to give cheap shots at your opponents if you win, or join an already won fight. The fact rhat your friends will defend you, no matter the cost, is a well established myth in my opinion.
@thatgearguy
2 сағат бұрын
Agree. When younger I was beaten badly by a much older guy. 8 of my friends stood and watched, frozen by fear.
@cjackfly
16 минут бұрын
Don't smoke, walk away and if you're small... Well, you're the problem if you're drinking. Large men are NOT the problem. We can handle our shit.
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