Everything Mel said made sense and they wanted to be fake confused so bad
@nicolejohnson6538
10 ай бұрын
@@DeeRGshe answered, they chose not to listen for understanding..they just wanted to respond
@iamseanprince
10 ай бұрын
A lack of empathy will have you confused every time.
@hp4lyfe
10 ай бұрын
yea you need to rewatch it.🤣🤣 she definitely didn’t answer their question
@realeyez_KT
10 ай бұрын
@@DeeRGshe did but hard to hear with everyone interrupting her.
@Tdottdot
10 ай бұрын
The difference between love bombing and applying pressure or courting is INTENTION. Also it’s the amount of pressure being applied/what the act of service is. Why y’all grown ass people act so freaking slow?!?
@CoreyCamper-wo5qn
2 ай бұрын
The issue is if the relationship ends people retroactively going back and saying they were love bombed
@Golden.Chasity
10 ай бұрын
You typically don’t use the term love bombing unless you are referring to an abusive situation. Love bombing is used alongside the narcissistic abuse cycle terminology, which is idealize (love bomb), devalue, and discard. So the way that they are using it in this clip is out of context
@krystalmichel301
10 ай бұрын
Joe explained it perfectly. I was hoping Melissa did lol. It's definitely a tactic people use to control you. Gifts, money, compliments etc. in exchange for your energy and time, or whatever other motives they may have. They won't tell you these motives but if you don't comply they will resent you for it or drop you like a hot potato. It's a really weird and cringy manipulative tactic.
@venheartzeil3070
10 ай бұрын
That doesn't make it lovebombing though. A lot of people are emotionally immature and don't deal with rejection well. I've dealt with women who were incredibly clingy, bought me clothes, video games, car stuff, started talking about the future, etc. The moment I tried to slow things down or change our dynamic they would get nasty out of nowhere and now we're in a huge argument. I don't consider that lovebombing though. Lovebombing [to me] was always the person who starts saying "I love you" one week in. When I first started hearing the term 5-6 years ago that was all it meant. Just over the top displays of affection that don't correlate to real life experience. It was never about manipulation. I get that terms evolve but the way it's being used now is too nebulous to be quantifiable.
@maskgirlz9248
10 ай бұрын
Crazy thing is they are using the tactic on multiple women at the same time!!!!! That’s where the disappearing don’t make since or phones are turned off, and they always have an excuse for it
@Ancin47
10 ай бұрын
The missing piece of your assessment is when in the relationship is this person doing this
@da1only591
10 ай бұрын
Fuck it, extort his ass 😂 he want it, Pun intended
@simplyme1705
10 ай бұрын
You don’t know you’ve been lovebombed until you realize that you’re with an abuser. There’s no confusion on whether or not you lovebomb if you don’t abuse people. If you’re not abusive, it doesn’t apply to you. Being kind and going above and beyond for your partner and then breaking up is not the same. Someone putting on a front and acting like they’re romantic and showing abusive behavior later is what we are talking about. Some people can be aggressive upfront, others may show some signs but ALSO do the gift giving or promises or fake sweetness or whatever so it is manipulative.
@NiaWillis-theQueen
10 ай бұрын
A lot of people and I think women and men have used love to gain a position or benefit from a person and was never sincere,,,😢 that's what is called love bombing 💣😢
@nahfammmm354
10 ай бұрын
I don't think it's always an act. I don't think every abuser is this sinister mastermind planning their abuse from day one. It's more likely that over time or after series of events things just change and people become a piece of shit. The obsession that we are calling "love bombing" can be very very real in the abusers mind and then later when things aren't perfect anymore, the abuse can start.
@Hardawaydre4347
10 ай бұрын
Great way to make me understand thanks
@sonyap8253
10 ай бұрын
Yes. Intent always matters
@sonyap8253
10 ай бұрын
@@nahfammmm354nah. Love bombing is manipulation. If you are not manipulating, it's not lovebombing. So if someone is lovebombing, they absolutely are aware.
@Ancin47
10 ай бұрын
7:04 This is silly and not complicated. Love bombing is when a person after very short period of time (4-5 dates) tells you that they love you without even really knowing you. It’s an effort to break down your emotional and mental defenses. If you have a daughter, stop being silly and educate yourself.
@creeksideent2639
10 ай бұрын
The point is u don’t know if someone is genuine. Someone can genuinely feel that way. U don’t know until after the abuse
@vondongaming
10 ай бұрын
Omg yall killing me with the fake shit... Love bombing is when a sneaky mf giving u stuff to get something then switch up when they get what they want.. Its like a yes man for the box
@MimiCheckinfakeheaux
10 ай бұрын
How you know it’s live bombing is when the love stops and the abuse begins. It’s not even that hard to understand.
@ProfKisha
10 ай бұрын
It's not that hard at all
@Queenxmarquise
10 ай бұрын
I know and this is why you can’t watch them all the time because lord they miss the mark sometimes
@rillaaa5740
10 ай бұрын
Honestly I think all these new terms are creating more issues 🤦🏿♂️because they created and thrown around for every little thing other then the actual meaning.
@d.o.z.e.shaolin7497
10 ай бұрын
@@rillaaa5740you might be too dumb if your complicated by the addition of terminology
@MimiCheckinfakeheaux
10 ай бұрын
@@rillaaa5740 that’s true but them acting like this isn’t a real thing is crazy
@brandonf.8360
10 ай бұрын
Where Mel messed up was one, not saying that actions determine if its manipulation; and two, saying only abusive men do it. She's already lost her point with those two.
@bridgetmotivates4024
10 ай бұрын
I think the problem is, the guys seem to think only women are "love-bombed." While apparently this was brought to their attention by claims from women, men are "love-bombed" but because you all think women are crazy and unstable, you accept it until you can't and you cannot understand why she just doesn't go away no matter what you do. If you have ever said to yourself, "Sometimes she/he is so sweet and we have a good time but then he/she switches," that person is probably love-bombing you. It normally does not happen in the early stages. Also, it is not that the person is not into you, its just they use people. Narcisisst are not necessarily intentionally calculating.
@steercler318
10 ай бұрын
I was just about to say its not just men that do it
@sqljaco
10 ай бұрын
Let's be fair females are selfish they don't love bomb,
@lets_play_a_game268
10 ай бұрын
You said all that, just to be wrong. Men don't even call this stuff love bombing. Women made this shtt up, like every other LOVE NOVEL, FANTASY BASED idea of love and romance😂😂🙄
@bridgetmotivates4024
10 ай бұрын
@@lets_play_a_game268 I apologize someone hurt you so much that you cannot see when a woman is on your side. Find peace. Be blessed. 🙏
@Ava44322
10 ай бұрын
The real problem is people are using these buzz words to describe ordinary behavior or for other issues. Including this response it’s too vague life is not black and white
@KanesWay
10 ай бұрын
There is no argument in the definition of love bombing. You cannot differentiate unless that person says they are bombing you.
@hulkmad27
10 ай бұрын
Not true.
@NiaWillis-theQueen
10 ай бұрын
A lot of people and I think women and men have used love to gain a position or benefit from a person and was never sincere,,,😢 that's what is called love bombing 💣😢
@shybonner
10 ай бұрын
Manipulative people will sometimes use love bombing as a tactic to reel you in. Then show you their true colors later like abusers, rapists, cheaters, etc. It’s something that can only be recognized in hindsight. These dudes only believe in their perspective they completely miss the point
@Bcryptic-de2qt
10 ай бұрын
Facts my LAST EX did that...draw me in just to reveal dey was a NARCISSISTIC DRUG ADDICT with TERRIBLE MOOD SWINGS smdfh lol 😅
@sungip
10 ай бұрын
It can be recognized before that if you pay attention to their actual character rather than the facade. If you it was too late by the time you figured it out, then you weren't paying attention or you allowed things to move too fast.
@Flagrant32
10 ай бұрын
Love bombing is simply selling a dream of a committed relationship to someone without having any intention of being in a committed relationship and not disclosing it.
@diamonddivat6919
10 ай бұрын
Well said and simple
@RichAuntieVibes1
10 ай бұрын
Everybody on this panel is waaaaay to grown to have discussed this topic in this manner. Love-bombing is a tactic used by abuser in an effort to deceive and manipulate to make it easier to abuse someone is some way. Parents can love-bomb children. It is not just in romantic relationships. Ish should have done better research. The concept isnt complicated. Honestly, narcissist act willfully obtuse in regard to things that describe their abusive behavior. Love-bombing usually happens in cycles and is repeated throughout the course of the relationship. Hope Ish isn't telling on himelf...
@BUTTA170
10 ай бұрын
It was frustrating to watch the entire cast being determined on not understanding what Melissa was saying, when we know that all of them did.
@faithm7492
10 ай бұрын
It’s the ultimate intent, if he/she is buying, gifting, “loving” with the intent to isolate you from your friends/family, to intentionally be able to verbally, mentally, or physically abuse you for some sense of control, then love bombing most likely was their tactic in the beginning.
@cadillacblack7898
10 ай бұрын
Mel got an excuse for EVERYTHING when it comes to women's 😂
@Yahreshohn
10 ай бұрын
Love Bombing is when a person fills a person with acts of love, then turn around and ghosts them, or mistreats them to get the woman to think of him in confusion, which makes her think about him non stop. It's a manipulative tactic pickup artists most commonly use. I believe that tactic is in the art of seduction. Which is just ONE tactic. Mel just broad in her explanation, but still accurate.
@NiaWillis-theQueen
10 ай бұрын
A lot of people and I think women and men have used love to gain a position or benefit from a person and was never sincere,,,😢 that's what is called love bombing 💣😢
@SapphicSteph
10 ай бұрын
How was Mel’s definition broad? She clearly pointed out that love bombing, in most cases, leads to some sort of physical or psychological abuse - I don’t think that’s broad at all. Also, if the rest of the panel would just CHILL OUT and allow her to speak, she could actually get her full thought out.
@Yahreshohn
10 ай бұрын
@@SapphicSteph Regardless of her being cut off, they were left with Mel's explanation, which I expressed was accurate but too broad for them to understand. People need more examples so they can understand, like a person eventually showing their true colors, showing that wasn't who they were...
@Yahreshohn
10 ай бұрын
@@NiaWillis-theQueen And the way to tell is by eventually seeing them treat you different, because if that's the case, then everyone love bombs. People putting their best foot forward isnt necessarily love Bombing. People just get complacent, and stop putting effort towards their relationship...
@nyaIamNya
10 ай бұрын
Love bombing is simply someone telling you that they love you within a week of knowing them. All the other things will follow. But when someone is genuinely interested they're not falling in love with you within a week or the same day that they met you. That's impossible
@Ichsukatanuka
10 ай бұрын
I'm team Mel, the guys overreacted. The whole point is showering someone then ghosting and dipping on them - just look up the definition. I'll give Joe a point on knowing the difference but again, you'll probably be able to tell.
@big1ne
10 ай бұрын
They sometimes do this. They listen to her to disagree. I heard her from the get.
@dbutta2496
10 ай бұрын
@@big1neofc you do
@TheSunkissedmein2000
10 ай бұрын
Nah it's called abuse plain and simple.
@NiaWillis-theQueen
10 ай бұрын
A lot of people and I think women and men have used love to gain a position or benefit from a person and was never sincere,,,😢 that's what is called love bombing 💣😢
@VerticalJ
10 ай бұрын
Love bombing sounds like a excuse for things not working out 😂🤦🏽♂️
@ptyten9718
10 ай бұрын
It's literally a common tactic by abusers, simple to understand. Ya'll gotta get their info from more reliable sources than these dummies, they explained the shit all wrong.
@jamesbell739
10 ай бұрын
Love bombing is introducing a person to a relationship standard you dont plan on maintaining. Then using it against them when they complaining you are no longer doing those things.
@Black.History.365
10 ай бұрын
If they like you, it doesn’t matter what you do. If they don’t like you, it doesn’t matter what you do.
@ptyten9718
10 ай бұрын
Ish is wrong, the term it's not applied to showing affection. It's applied to people who basically contrast showing love with abusive behavior so the affection and love they show literally just functions to reel you back into the abuse. Istg this dude Ish be so confidently ignorant is crazy.
@Shauntee22
10 ай бұрын
The guys weren't really listening to what the definition is. They kept trying to relate it to a man courting a woman. It's not that. People that love bomb usually end up being extremely possessive, controlling and abusive.
@imdatchyck505
10 ай бұрын
The guys can be so dense at times I don’t know how Mel does it smh
@peacenation9338
10 ай бұрын
Yeah, I was surprised too.
@ptyten9718
10 ай бұрын
Loud ignorance fr
@singaboutme3586
10 ай бұрын
THE FUCK ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT! DID YOU HEAR THAT SHIT SHE WAS SAYING!!! HOLY FUCKIN
@nicoleanagnostou7719
8 күн бұрын
It's strange how dumb they're acting 🤨
@luluptop96
10 ай бұрын
Love Bombing also occurs fresh off an argument or breakup and the partner attempts to overcompensate with love and affection after messing up to manipulate their partner as if they've changed but the affection is usually short lived.
@straightouttazambia2835
6 ай бұрын
Does a woman having sex with her partner rather than apologizing for something wrong that she did count as love bombing?
@CorthosPryme911
10 ай бұрын
Ppl will make up anything to avoid accountability
@sinez999
10 ай бұрын
that part
@shaneg75
10 ай бұрын
Basically what it sounds like Mel was trying to say was love bombing is more of an unhealthy obsession with the person that causes you to neglect your other responsibilities, and/or you’re trying to keep the relationship or keep her from leaving so you all of a sudden out of nowhere start going above and beyond what you normally would in an effort to keep the person. They might feel bad for leaving if you always buying them shit or whatever.
@zachquinones
10 ай бұрын
To Mel's point, lovebombing is very strategic. It's often done in a calculated manner coupled with clear tactics of abuse to wear down and control the victim. Lovebombing has a distinct pattern to it e.g. lovebomb, abuse, lovebomb, abuse etc with the "love" part gradually reducing and the abuse increasing.
@mrspgrew
10 ай бұрын
If someone beats you, then buys you gifts to keep you from leaving and/or reporting them, that's love bombing
@ihateflatbunz
10 ай бұрын
Or someone who cheated giving over the top gifts to keep them around.
@MrNEWJERZEY
10 ай бұрын
Thats abuse
@vondongaming
10 ай бұрын
No if they buying u all this shit then shit on u when they get the box or ur heart that's love bombing
@Ichsukatanuka
10 ай бұрын
Thats control/abuse, not love bombing
@messiahisaiah7521
10 ай бұрын
@@Ichsukatanukait’s both
@fridahgitonga822
10 ай бұрын
For once I understood Mel, she went to Zanzibar with the explanation but I understood and appreciated her point of view. The discussion was GOLD!!!!
@MimiCheckinfakeheaux
10 ай бұрын
Them making this a woman man thing is crazy when mad women be love bombing as well. It’s definitely not exclusive to men.
@MamaJas88
10 ай бұрын
Yeah she explained it incorrectly
@BeautifulBianka
10 ай бұрын
Most people who have been loved bombed don’t realize until after the fact the FIRST time and you never fall for it again. Love bombing is very specific and not genuine. This is when discernment comes into play.
@culcre
10 ай бұрын
These conversations really aren’t for everybody. If you aren’t familiar with Cluster B personality traits and that whole topic then a lot of this stuff is just beyond your comprehension. Someone who is overly affectionate not because it’s their love language and their mature, but because it’s a front to appear like a loving, affectionate person is love bombing. In reality all that love and affection was just a ploy to make you feel secure because you provide “narcissistic supply”. Once you stop feeding their supply, they no longer give you their love or affections. You really gotta have an understanding of what’s called Cluster B personality types to even begin to understand the nuances of this topic. As a man who knows about this stuff it’s frustrating listening to these guys cause they really don’t know wtf they talking about and this topic is soooo serious if you understand mental health and Cluster B types.
@kekeedordu8422
10 ай бұрын
Doesnt mean shit
@peacenation9338
10 ай бұрын
This is the part of podcasting I loathe. It’s sometimes painful to listen to uninformed opinions.
@ptyten9718
10 ай бұрын
Facts, they really drop the ball when talking about serious subjects like this.
@OmniCloud987
10 ай бұрын
I think Mel’s hesitation also served as some “gatcha” moment when she was just trying to collect her thoughts. There’s no reason for the men to feel like “here’s something else we can’t do”. If you aren’t a manipulative person, it doesn’t apply to you. You can tell when you’re being loved bomb, once you start realizing you’re dealing with a crazy person and see patterns that’s it’s not genuine. I don’t get how yall can be so dense sometimes, as soon as it’s a topic that can effect men’s pride or something, yall just go kinda stupid on us. Topic is not that hard to understand.
@mistahjay8598
10 ай бұрын
You mean cluster fucked😂😂
@KimTheIII
10 ай бұрын
This is where you need 1 more girl. This wasn’t hard to understand lol
@2kdad
10 ай бұрын
i love that i’ve been married for 20 years and pray that it last 100 more. it’s weird out there
@peacenation9338
10 ай бұрын
Too weird. I pray your union remains blessed.
@C_CZ2
10 ай бұрын
Its not that hard to grasp but when youre are narcisist then.....
@OrphansAttic
10 ай бұрын
Cult leaders (religious and/or political), pimps, drug dealers, scam artists all use a form of "lovebombing"; promise you the world, entice you with a piece of it, then take you for what you're worth. If you're up on game; you're less likely to get caught up. Both sexes do it, so it's not about putting blame and on just dudes.
@d.o.z.e.shaolin7497
10 ай бұрын
Queenzflip said it’s crazy before even hearing the definition lol why we so ignorant?
@KG-wi6ks
10 ай бұрын
We understand Melissa
@AdoseofAlana_
10 ай бұрын
Usually you know you're lovebombed once it's over because you were too enamored to see it. You probably had a friend who tried to tell you you're being lovebombed. And women can lovebomb men too.
@jorgegil6596
10 ай бұрын
I think theyre hung up on gifts, love bombing could be just words and actions of affection that happen too early to be real
@YuhasLol
10 ай бұрын
Women lovebomb too, it's not just men.
@jonathancineus6424
10 ай бұрын
Trashing Mel is the entire goal of this show lol
@passionsecrets
9 күн бұрын
True love bombing is this example. U meet a guy he gives u so much attention and time in just a few days then make u his girlfriend quickly to get u to let your guard down so can get u to fall quickly and gain quicker access to your body. Then, he starts to change his ways quickly there after. Men know women want relationships and marriage so men found a clever way to manipulate a woman by overly giving her attention to get her to let her guard down. Then the manipulation starts. That's love bombing. The name says it all. I set u up with false love them turn your world into a disaster afterwards.
@oyindew55
10 ай бұрын
I see Meylissa's frustration with this dynamic however she set the tone for the way they handle her.
@slimelikely335
10 ай бұрын
It’s only love bombing if the woman don’t get what she want out the relationship, that’s when everything gets called some type of manipulation
@slimelikely335
10 ай бұрын
Just came back to finish, Mel did a terrible job of articulating her point, I understood what she meant to say cause I knew what the term actually meant but if she just took 5 seconds to word herself correctly it would come out more concise
@SapphicSteph
10 ай бұрын
From my personal experience, the only clear way that you can tell that someone is using love bombing as a tactic is when that person begins to disrespect and talk down to you after a certain point, and they won’t employ that tactic until they think that you’re completely consumed with them and them only. Once the disrespect begins, get the fuck out of there and CUT ALL TIES!
@Multihustle24
10 ай бұрын
I understand you Mel! We Scorpios are just misunderstood sometimes but they got it lol
@Anjay_P
10 ай бұрын
Mel did a good job in the explanation
@hustletownruru
10 ай бұрын
Joe Budden knows it hits home
@Tdottdot
10 ай бұрын
I wish there was a more intelligent educated male Perspective on this show. It’s literally all the same type dudes being slow together. Making black men look simple
@Windchimer94
10 ай бұрын
I have been a love bomber and it was Hella embarrassing. It was me texting one girl, every hour of every day as if I had nothing better to do. As if she was my only living objective. She hated it. Not because it was unwanted but because it was too much attention. To many messages, overly eager to talk. When it's used in a manipulative or controlling manner that's messed up.
@TheeCiaraJenae
10 ай бұрын
This is really not that complex lol I think they are just choosing to not understand & Mel did a terrible job explaining.
@Sambula3
10 ай бұрын
lol as a man I gotta agree. They thinkin about the man that all of a sudden stop liking you but I think she’s referring to people that had the intent to manipulate before hand
@thomasblackcraft
10 ай бұрын
So the honeymoon phase is gone. Everything is a manipulation now. Yeah, whatever…..
@mrspgrew
10 ай бұрын
It clearly went over your head
@ptyten9718
10 ай бұрын
It's not that at all, stop getting your info from dummies like Ish. Love bombing is a tactic used by abusive people to keep you and continously abuse you. They characterized as simple courtship because they're ignorant.
@DjMbezzle
10 ай бұрын
@@mrspgrewmaybe you should elaborate?
@flyyceo510
10 ай бұрын
So i show love HARD! Not in a manipulative way just show that I care…my lady actually flat out told me it was too much! Whats wild is after i took a step back I realized i was! And needed to fall back!
@flyyceo510
10 ай бұрын
Everything should have reciprocity and if you’re love bombing it creates a scenerio of comparison that person may not need that MUCH love or be able to reproduce it for YOU.
@Bizzybanks24
10 ай бұрын
You weren’t love bombing unless your intent was to manipulate
@flyyceo510
10 ай бұрын
@@Bizzybanks24 I appreciate the distinction, it definitely is all love
@Cee.Cee.
10 ай бұрын
INTENT Mel, INTENT!
@destineewilson1983
10 ай бұрын
Love bombing is when your dating/ talking to someone and within 3 days they're telling you they love you. By week 1 they're talking about matching tattoos and last names. Red flag on the field. Versus knowing someone might be someone you want to your future partner, the relationship developed gradually by both parties.
@romeoblair7467
10 ай бұрын
When someone love bombs you whatever they do doesn't feel genuine really everything happens too quickly to the point where you don't even have time to think of what's really going on, once it happens to you it's easier to know the difference
@BossTripp1
10 ай бұрын
No we don't!!
@ProfKisha
10 ай бұрын
So y'all just gonna ignore the second half of the definition. Let's define nuance...
@contessagreen6
10 ай бұрын
I feel like I was love bombed before...he was showering me with a million "I love you"s, gifts and time and he knew hardly nothing about me...made me feel like he was out for something...I WAS MANIP-U-DIPPED!! How can you love someone you don't know??
@OurFather24
10 ай бұрын
Had Deja vu this whole segment
@premiere35
9 ай бұрын
She made no sense and I'm here for it 😂😂😂😂😂😂
@Ambee07
10 ай бұрын
After the love bombing stage the flip on you and start to devalue you gotta look at all the stages to understand it completely
@jasonchen5220
10 ай бұрын
What we need to realize that everything is a spectrum - and this include the idea of manipulation. It's hard to process the idea of love bombing if we only look at it through the binary lens of egregious harm or no harm. Often manipulation isn't even a conscious intent by the perp. Sometimes straight men can be very impulsive with their words (saying I love you very early) and actions (buying a bunch a gifts after one week) and they they are calling women crazy a month in. As opposed to being mindful of how these actions can impact women and being vulnerable about their own mental health. The cycle of high highs and low lows is harmful and we should all work to minimize it!
@djjackson8807
10 ай бұрын
Ish, Ice and ESPECIALLY QueenzFlip don’t understand a word she’s saying. She’s making perfect sense. Mel explained it for all the dummies. She’s very well spoken. Bc when a bunch of outspoken me scream over you, she still proved her point. That was impressive!
@maskgirlz9248
10 ай бұрын
Look at Joe explaining it correctly!!!! Lovebombers move fast!!!!!!
@Bizzybanks24
10 ай бұрын
Do y’all really think love bombing isn’t a real thing or is this just jokes? Also love bombing isn’t gender exclusive
@nellgeez
10 ай бұрын
Why is it so hard to understand? “Hey girl. I wanna give you the world”. Proceeds to give her the world. Then when you got her and she lives in your house. Drives your car, now you hold all these things over her head if she goes to visit her father. Or you start hitting her but she can’t go nowhere cause she lives in your house and doesn’t work anymore. That is an extreme case. But it’s simple. They making it complicated for no reason.
@chudysepter1911
20 күн бұрын
Mel explained this terribly. The point is there’s 2 parts to it, the love bombing is used to counteract the second part which is the abuse or treating someone terriblly
@ThisBKi
10 ай бұрын
Y’all missing the main point, which is the intention is to manipulate the person. If your intention isn’t to manipulate the person then gift giving may just be your love language. But showering a person with gifts just to be abusive later and then shower them with gifts again IS a tactic that abusers use to keep their victims in tow.
@pvtruestmusic
10 ай бұрын
Pulling up in a lamb truck to a beautiful woman that lives in section 8 would be love bombing right?
@007stinkey
9 ай бұрын
They were ridiculous 😒 How do they think abusers lure the person??? It seems like they totally discredited ppl who have been in abusive relationships. When probably more than half the time they were love bombed.
@itachihyuga7553
10 ай бұрын
A love-bomber is a narcissist like Joe. This ish is real because I had a brother in-law who did this. Basically, they treat you really good to draw you in then give you the bare minimum only to treat you like complete shit so they can rewire you to be satisfied with simple shit as simple as saying “your hair looks nice” which to her would feel like the equivalent of receiving a wedding ring.
@19Eighty8Media
10 ай бұрын
Soooo when women show "interest" in men specifically for meals, dates, trips, bills being paid, gifts... what we call that? Ohhhh iight......
@greymattermelanin876
10 ай бұрын
it’s called being manipulative and they could also be love bombing if they are talking you up, telling you how amazing you are and making it seem like you have a future just to ghost you. Women can lovebomb, men can lovebomb, parents can lovebomb, siblings can lovebomb. It’s a very messed up tactic. You should research it a little more.
@cedrickwhite1511
10 ай бұрын
The dictionary calls it manipulation, I’ma call it manipulation.
@FAMEishiphop
9 ай бұрын
Mel applied “Love Bombing” to men only and that’s the problem, because it’s not a gender specific trait/behavior. Neither is narcissism, but I digress.
@Stone_Cold_Steve_Urkel
10 ай бұрын
Everybody in their room is old and out of touch. Love bombing came out in 2018 with gaslighting and toxic.
@heartofthecityyclothing
10 ай бұрын
That shit courtship not love bomb lol
@mrspgrew
10 ай бұрын
That's not what they're referring to
@getbuckets4252
10 ай бұрын
No, courtship is genuine
@GoliathSaint
7 ай бұрын
They mistaking love bombing and affection. It’s wild.
@kingdomcitizenship5613
8 ай бұрын
I have a different take. Men can lovebomb because they geniunely care about the girl, but once they see the girl isn't really into them or was manipulating them the whole time because of what they could get, then the man wakes up and backs off. He didn't love bomb her, he really cared at first but he just realized after awhile that she wasn't deserving of his efforts and he takes back his energy.
@UncoloredPageGaming
10 ай бұрын
Mel defined this so poorly that this entire segment is them debating over nonsense
@tchew2545
10 ай бұрын
Right! I’m like THE ABUSE! She don’t know how to talk to men…
@devalsmith
10 ай бұрын
I’m really glad niggas spoke on this love bomb shit. Maybe in 30 days after you hit, if you behave like that and then dump the person…maybe. But what if the box stink? What you suppose to do? You ain’t know.
@biggreasy1221
10 ай бұрын
Lmfao - when Joe got up 😂
@bryangarcia6911
10 ай бұрын
Classic case of “Damm if you do, Damm if you don’t” 😬
@VOLRAK1
10 ай бұрын
I sometimes wonder what Mel would be like if she had another female energy to bounce off. Sometimes, it looks like she's getting smothered by the guys. It's all fun n jokes, but it would be good to really hear what's inside her head she takes the backfoot a lot with these guys lol
@timsartistic7328
10 ай бұрын
As someone who has experienced Narcissists all throughout my family, Love Bombing can happen at the beginning of a relationship, but more often happens later; when things have gone bad and the abused partner is pulling away. Narcissistic Love is transactional and when you stop providing the attention or fulfilling whatever they needed, the love and affection goes away and right before it's all about to end, love bombing is how they get you back engaged in the relationship and it's a cycle that keeps repeating over and over.
@juliusjackson2209
10 ай бұрын
Now that shi Joe got on right now I would definitely wear. That shi fly
@ai1997
10 ай бұрын
Mel did an absolute horrible job explaining but everybody just dumb to the topic and definition. Joe was the closest to having a ok explanation.
@thenewyorkhip-hopspot5485
10 ай бұрын
I hear wat Mel is saying. It’s not jus a way to give an excuse to women who leave men who treat them well. It’s a tactic of manipulates that plays on ppl desire to be appreciated. It’s also not the same as other tactics of manipulation bc it’s used to gain loyal key and control as opposed to favoring. Women have to be hyper vigilant of all the ways men are willing to manipulate them and this bait and switch is how a lot of abusive ppl slide.
@brittneywade-oo3db
10 ай бұрын
That's not about love bombing. You only know it's that when it's over because you see the switch. But they're intimidating so I can see her being thrown off.
@coolhunta7583
10 ай бұрын
Why is a man devoting all of his time, showering you with gifts and compliments AND HE DOESNT KNOW YOY FROM A CAN OF PAINT NOT A SIGN OF SOMETHING OR A RED FLAG!? The answer is women like those things and those things make women feel good so they just have to accept them instead of objectively questioning that man's motives based on the how long they've known each other and a lack of connection and understanding of each other
@aniella4ever
10 ай бұрын
not joe explaining it well wow i'm actually shocked
@mahoganysweets67
10 ай бұрын
She not explaining it properly! I'm not sure she even know what it is to explain it! Love bombing is while he is love bombing, he is at the same time lowering yourself esteem, taking control over your life, meshing himself into your relationships and family and begin to turn emotionally, mentally, physically and financially abusive!
@BC91283
10 ай бұрын
This is ridiculous 🤦🏾♂️ so don't prioritize you in our schedule if we like you
@jordanrobinson2872
10 ай бұрын
If the relationship last it’s just a nice guy. If the relationship fails they’ve been love bombed.
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