Narcissist verbal attacks are especially painful if the narcissist is someone who has vowed to love you.
@katherinechatham9032
3 жыл бұрын
Truth
@lesleybrown1583
2 жыл бұрын
they have no love!!they are demon possesed!
@darkpandemonium5753
2 жыл бұрын
😔
@kristigahret7738
Жыл бұрын
@@darkpandemonium5753 lol😅😊
@kimmaddison1997
Жыл бұрын
The phycical abuse started 😭
@taniathomas7353
2 жыл бұрын
His words cut me like a knife! I’d stay up all night ruminating over things he said and he would be peacefully asleep…
@jacquelynhaas8184
2 жыл бұрын
I do the same. Even in regular conversation , he refers to me as ," your dumb ass " for example , " if your dumbass did not do this " or some such abuse. He literally never says anything good about me anymore, it is only constant belittling, disdain , and criticism. Now I feel nothing for him in my heart anymore and I told him so recently , even said that I wanted to leave but he insisted that I am " trapped" here . I am so tired and demoralized. Others throughout my life have always said to me how pretty , kind, and nice they thought that I was, but he insists that I am a narcissist because I am an actress with a degree in Performance. He says that in order to be an actor and always " lie" that one must be so !! That is so not true and he always denigrated my dreams. I am a highly sensitive person, am very emotional , cry easily, I enjoy helping others to the point where I even work part time at a Christian nonprofit that ships food packs to starving children overseas, I am a very humble, solitary person, and I began acting in theatre years ago simply because I enjoy embodying others . Perhaps I do because it is something as an escape from myself and the depression I have always struggled with . Sadly , I do not have any friends that I regularly call or see because I am a bit of a loner . What truly hurts is when he uses this reality about me in order to justify what a " bad " person I am . I am told " why don't you have any friends ?" Or " You have no friends because everyone hates you and is sick of you . How can the person who says they love you so much say these things? My feelings are always shattered around him 😪 This morning I said good morning and his response was , " Shut the fuck up. I would like for you to not talk today. I have one day off and I'm not playing with you." It really makes you feel utterly worthless and demoralized , and sometimes I feel that if I were to die then he would simply shrug his shoulders and get over me quickly. Then he always wants sexual intercourse with others byway of three somes , and my reluctance is always seen as a " buzzkill." Disgusting, I know. No matter that I only want a man to only want me and vice versa. When I try to tell him how hurt it makes me feel, it is turned around on me in order to absolve himself of any blame . I feel so utterly numb now.
@margueritedrya9807
3 ай бұрын
@@jacquelynhaas8184you've got to leave him, my dear!!!! I was in a very abusive relationship, and I was messed up to the point where I hit the rock bottom with panic attacks and depression, bad thoughts, etc... health issues... I decided to leave him alone even though I loved the person, but it's become unbearable. It's been half a year, and maybe, I'm still mourning, and dealing with the aftermath of the abuse too. Some part of me doesn't believe that I left... I became codependent and depressed in that relationship. But I hope that this pain will go away with God's help, eventually.
@krystaljordan5410
Ай бұрын
Going through that now😢
@LittleJ-hr1mc
19 күн бұрын
@@krystaljordan5410same 😢 let be strong together
@TheLordsbattleaxe
3 жыл бұрын
Their verbal assaults actually felt like physical assaults.
@tootienottoofruitie1726
3 жыл бұрын
Some physically abused woman say. That the verbal abuse is worse than the physical... food for thought
@TheLordsbattleaxe
3 жыл бұрын
@@tootienottoofruitie1726 i agree with that.
@emotown1
3 жыл бұрын
@@tootienottoofruitie1726 Yes, and many abused men say the same.
@TheLordsbattleaxe
2 жыл бұрын
@Sonia Williams same. Not sure how to get rid of this heart pain in the chest if i am honest.
@TheLordsbattleaxe
2 жыл бұрын
@Sonia Williams yep.
@emptytank7139
3 жыл бұрын
The old saying; Sticks and Stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me, is so not true. Bumps and bruises from a physical attack will heal, but being insulted and called names can mess with your head psychologically for years.
@Luziemagick
3 жыл бұрын
You are on spot!
@lisapanaro1703
3 жыл бұрын
So true!
@lianecornils8733
2 жыл бұрын
My mom was paralyzed by a narcissistic dr.
@mammabear4334
2 жыл бұрын
Believe me physical attacks also do alot of damage, it can cause paralysing fear in a person
@valerieriggins3184
Жыл бұрын
Sooooo NEITHER GOOD.....BUT People Usually Get Ghosted QUICKER! MENTAL Abuse Like Slowly Getting Poisoned And NOT Knowing IT!
@hannahzucker
2 жыл бұрын
Yes. It can break the spirit and fracture the strongest soul.
@ChillMandarin
3 жыл бұрын
Every time a narcissist is saying something bad about me, I try to change their "you're" into"I am". Suddenly everything all make sense. 😆😆😆 That's deeply what they believe in their hearts what they are like.
@wendyhandley9463
Жыл бұрын
They usually come at you when you are genuinely relaxed and feeling safe, like when your guards down for a moment and you feel like a regular relaxed person , that's when they pounce, it gives them the added titillation of the shocked look on your face when they do it to you, they can almost see your heart drop down into the pit of your stomache and ache...... It's nothing less than evil. They are the great ambushers of good vibes
@jaslyn5501
11 ай бұрын
Spot on. It’s always when when things are going seemingly well then BOOM.
@cassiebennet4262
2 ай бұрын
This is scary accurate.
@uyoebyik
2 жыл бұрын
Verbal and psychological abuse leaves scars on your mind that other people cannot see or understand
@justj4021
2 жыл бұрын
They use any insecurities you have and emphasize on them 😞
@salonsavy6476
3 жыл бұрын
My sister verbally attacks me every chance she gets ,, I stay far away from her,, she’s the most Toxic person I’ve ever seen!
@Libra_Girl.
3 жыл бұрын
I cut mine off in 2006. She's a sick narcissistic sociopath. She has no place in my life for good reasons.
@Mspuddin67
3 жыл бұрын
I cut mine off last year. I knew she was toxic, but I got a good reminder.
@AZDC99
3 жыл бұрын
I am no contact with my older sister for 3 years now. She was the worst of all the narcissist. Talking to the boss at the leasing office my apartment that I had to leave cuz it wouldn't do repairs after she got them on her side. I've been criticized by so-called family of origin for this decision. I'm sticking to my guns!
@cottonflannigan3671
3 жыл бұрын
Mine too...😥
@janycebrown4071
3 жыл бұрын
She doesn't like herself and you remind her of you ❣️
@shonnamay8331
3 жыл бұрын
Yes Sir, my soon too be ex husband , a hateful degenerate will never verbally cut me to pieces ever again. A day of reckoning is coming for him. He killed everything my heart once felt, intimacy, also. By God's Grace I still stand strong and be given beauty for ashes
@elhadjdiallo633
3 жыл бұрын
Yes yes ...thats the reason why knowledge and education is the key to unlock many doors and it does help anyone who has knowledge of the narcs and toxic people in this universe!!!!!!!
@bcdd8
Жыл бұрын
♥
@gaylaken
Жыл бұрын
I do know all too well how you feel, didn’t in the beginning that he was a narcissist.
@Owlbutterfly
Жыл бұрын
They can't love . They are making fun of us
@c-m5
9 ай бұрын
Girl I am right behind you I’m not walking out the door I’m running then using my wings to fly.
@amandakropen3273
Жыл бұрын
How many times have I heard the "selfish" word???? These people are EVIL!!!!!
@TheRoyalWe
Жыл бұрын
Yes they are
@ceyno1396
Ай бұрын
i got hospitilized from mental break down and a huge depression. Therapist invited my family members into the room and asked how they would describe me. My older brother said i was spoiled. ahahaha i was suicidal in that room and they kept me in the hospital like 2 months straight to fix me. but yes i was just spoiled.
@izawaniek2568
3 жыл бұрын
It is true, narcisists kill people with words and then pretend it was a joke and say they do not remember saying that. They label you as stupid, biased, psycho or other diminishing names. Your reference to Jesus reacting to hurtful - raaka explains it more than straightforwardly. Thank you Kevin.
@AZDC99
3 жыл бұрын
Don't forget the gas lighting of calling you "crazy' or you allegedly not remembering things quite right. After they rewrite history for the third time, once again
@mac-ju5ot
2 жыл бұрын
Ty for saying it..his as sponser told him.I'm trained but he doughting it
@selenajurgenson9871
2 жыл бұрын
They purposly kill you with words, it helps them somehow make sure you are not "growing over their head" as I got an answer that "otherwise you start to think too much about yourself!" How stinking thinking! Their favorite game is to take others pshycologically into a pieces...and then destroy that person. My husband actually said that about treating someone like that to get overpower. They need to get their way things done. Anyhow. Like tanks driving over everything!
@amethystseapaw9806
Жыл бұрын
💯%😮😢insane unfortunately true!
@parkchimmy_cherrycuties7474
7 ай бұрын
He is, and he's straightforward with himself. He is committing and is straight forward with himself
@alihall676
7 ай бұрын
I have been away from the narc for 10 years now. Peace is a precious gift. I never look back, always forward. There is no remembrance of value that exists.
@melissashimizu6267
11 ай бұрын
God please give me the strength to leave. I can't take it anymore. I'm so tired of being tore down, and called names. Your video opened my eyes in so many ways. I think you may have just saved my life. Thank you so much!
@AlyssaLopez-n1c
4 күн бұрын
Love yourself and belive in God's goodwill toward you. You were not created and perfected inside the womb, with the capacity of faith and intellect and a soul to be abused by another person. Believe in your position with God and know that he wants goodness for you and he wants you to grow and follow his command. I believe in you, may you be blessed.
@geycelloliva8488
3 жыл бұрын
I was verbally and physically abused by the narcissist for 3.5 years. I have not been able to overcome the violence of the mouth. It has wounded my soul and I can’t overcome it. I’ve been narc free for almost a year and those words continue to resonate very strongly.
@Cat-sx6ep
3 жыл бұрын
This is why it's difficult to stay silent seek counseling if needed
@ladennayoung2939
3 жыл бұрын
You CAN overcome it. The devil is a lie. Don't give him anymore power or control over you in Jesus name.
@ladennayoung2939
3 жыл бұрын
Yes. You definitely need to focus on building a healthy relationship with self and Christ, and consider seeking counseling/therapy. You have to do what is best for you. These people can't have any power over you.
@wms72
3 жыл бұрын
I was verbally attacked by my narcissist (now ex) husband for 33 years. I had symptoms of poisoning, too, lost 10 lbs in a week, but couldn't prove he poisoned me. Several years later, my children ate food he brought for them and they got the same symptoms. A horror story.
@notsousual2938
3 жыл бұрын
@Geycell Oliva The narc is actually projecting their own issues and insecurities on you. When you realize that most shitty people are like that, you learn to stop taking their crap personally because they're so messed up inside and stuck in their ways that they lash out instead of look within and evolve. You can do that because you don't have an evil, unsatisfied beast to look at in the mirror every single day. Narcs are miserable and constantly looking to fill the empty void they call a soul.
@cymbolichuman433
3 жыл бұрын
It's awful that they want to make you hurt when they supposedly love you. Anytime somebody says mean things to you, just know that's how they feel about you. It's up to you to choose what you want to believe about yourself, not what they want you to believe.
@TheBartomon
Жыл бұрын
It goes deeper than that. They want to hurt you so then they can facilitate your healing too. Then they can control both the harm and many aspects of the healing process. They are control freaks. Healing and recovery can be slowed or sabotaged - which just adds an extra wrinkle to their sadism. Or they may try to rush your healing so you can better serve them more quickly. Lovely innit.
@Shirley-t9b
11 ай бұрын
Its not about love they cant love anyone your just supply they tell you they love you to get supply .you marrie not them you marrie the mask it wasnt them the real them shows in marrage. But you must admit i will there were red flags befor marrage on marrage day i did not want to marrie but i never had my family there only his .i really wanted to say no when i did my vows but i was so frightened buy him. And his family. if id of had support i would of said no hes a cerieal cheat.defnitley!!!
@joannalopez5447
2 жыл бұрын
Damn i just got the Chills!!!!!!!!! You said it by the Grace of God I am here. AMEN. Lord Help Us ALL
@philu4621
3 жыл бұрын
So many years wasted due to being internally messed up from their words.
@laurarader6846
3 жыл бұрын
I cannot believe that so many people do not understand the brutality and damning effects of verbal abuse. The critical triad of physical, verbal and emotional/psychological abuse are all tied to one another. I'm living proof. At least I'm alive!
@dixiewaller1379
Жыл бұрын
I DO & it’s after effects are HORRIFIC!!
@Nancy-yw1rr
3 жыл бұрын
I was called many hurtful and profane names by my stbx narc spouse for over 3 decades. What hurt me more than the names themselves was that he thought that I deserved to be treated that way.
@a.mom4life
3 жыл бұрын
"I can't talk to you in a normal tone because you're not normal." Or "don't act like a child and I won't have to treat you like one.." "You're a worthless woman and I hope our daughters never turn out like you.." "I hope our son's never marry a woman like you." "Well, You made me angry..sorry" The episodes are getting fewer & further between but the sudden flashbacks cause me to hurt all over again. It's hard sometimes embracing the very man who has said these things to me.
@katherinechatham9032
3 жыл бұрын
No one deserves this kind of treatment.
@katherinechatham9032
3 жыл бұрын
@@a.mom4life I completely get what you are saying.
@staceyfaldetta4432
3 жыл бұрын
I got called so many names so often... always told him that I HATED it that he did that. He never ceased. It is very painful.
@forerunnerforjesus1291
3 жыл бұрын
A Narcarssit takes pleasure in belittling a person. Never try to reason with a narcarrsstic person by telling them how their words hurt you, because they will only INCREASE that verbal abuse even the more, because they KNOW now it hurts you. DON'T give them more ammunition to use against you.
@d3ltaking419
3 жыл бұрын
Use a gun on them and point it at them and watch how they act, they will cry due to fear because that’s how they feel deep down inside.
@elhadjdiallo633
2 жыл бұрын
The main reason why narcissist call you names is because they're insecure and have lowself esteem etc...Alaska of self love is the root cause of all suffering in this universe!!!! When you know your worth and value you will no longer tolerate abuse ever and ever !!!!!!
@christinerogers7127
2 жыл бұрын
Proverbs 18:21 “ Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits”. In my opinion this means through our words we can bring someone down or lift them up.
@mrs.s2168
3 жыл бұрын
I gotta get out of the trap of defending myself & explaining.
@simplenv4740
2 жыл бұрын
I hope you made it out❤️
@curse66
3 жыл бұрын
just the subtle emotional abuse is quite tiring and hard to deal with..
@maryannwilliams3893
3 жыл бұрын
Proverbs 27:19 As in water, face reflects face, so a man’s heart reveals the man.
@katherinechatham9032
3 жыл бұрын
Amen
@douglaspaterson5269
4 ай бұрын
A true Narcissist has no heart.🙈🙉🙊
@sosoc2616
Ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤
@cottonflannigan3671
3 жыл бұрын
Luke 6:45....Out of the mouth the heart speaks. God Bless you!
@AZDC99
3 жыл бұрын
They BAIT you into an overreaction. ("SEE?!?! I told you they're crazy!!" they typically reply to an audience.) This is thankfully nowadays known as REACTIVE ABUSE.* You'll know exactly when this is happening. This IS is the most INFURIATING PART is realizing it's a PRECALCULATED SETUP at the end stage of this 5-minute conversation *People are calling these abusers out for trying to make their targets look like the abusive here with this thankful relatively new term
@Iam-vr3po
2 жыл бұрын
They aren't worth giving a shit about, honestly not worth a second thought, if a person can't be loving and respect then it's goodbye, they mustn't be aware of what you put out into the universe will come back and how you treat others will also come back on you.
@mmd9976
3 жыл бұрын
They will say they are just teasing.
@thebosshow
3 жыл бұрын
"Words Are powerful"Spot On !!
@stavroulam7363
3 жыл бұрын
In the Greek language there's an old saying that just came to mind and it's highly relevant to today's video. Translation: "The tongue doesn't have any bones but bones it will break!" A very powerful saying that insightfully suggests we need to be cautious as to what we verbally express to our brothers and sisters in Christ. The pain felt after being attacked by a person with harmful words does correlate to the pain endured from a physical attack that causes a broken/fractured bone(s). We need to aim to protect ourselves and others from all forms of abusive behaviour. Thank Kevin.
@ladennayoung2939
3 жыл бұрын
The Bible says it is the smallest member of the body, but it is the deadliest. The Bible says there is life and death in the tongue. And the Bible says that God spoke light, and there was light. That is further indication that there is power in words.
@ladennayoung2939
Жыл бұрын
James 3:8-10 (KJV) But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.
@ladennayoung2939
3 жыл бұрын
Yep. Verbal, psychological, and emotional abuse can be very damaging to someone. These people have the Jezebel spirit attached to them, and that spirit knows that there is power in words. They use these individuals as an attempt to attack and destroy people that are in the body of Christ in anyway that they can. If you are in relationship of any kind with someone like this. I pray that the Lord give you the strength that you need to end this toxic relationship, and distant yourself from these individuals in Jesus name. In order to protect your joy, peace, and sanity in Jesus name. Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen.
@joyjoy-lf2py
Жыл бұрын
Thank you ladennayoung2939 I recieve it in jezus name. God bless you even more abuntly 🙏💪❤️
@Samantha-ho4hv
5 ай бұрын
Amen, thank you for your prayer and God bless you in Jesus mighty name.
@commonsense4154
3 жыл бұрын
Good morning.....yes there words are coming from a place of hurt and emptiness....we pay for what we didn't buy......just nasty disposition they have....hurt people hurt people 🥺🥺
@karenkuske5567
2 жыл бұрын
This message is sent straight from Holy Spirit! Thank you Kevin for being that messenger...now I fully understand WHY he used verbal assault. 🔥❤️
@dixiewaller1379
Жыл бұрын
Me too- I Never realized it was his way of “ killing me slowly “ with the little digs etc wow!! It makes sense now, it doesn’t take the pain away but it helps to understand it.
@daisyd8790
3 жыл бұрын
It's true. And it's so ugly. The words my ex narc boyfriend screamed at me frequently killed every good feeling I ever had for him. The Rage of a Narc is something awful to behold. I never saw anything like it. Then, after I shut him off and broke up with him, he acted like he was shocked and confused that his epic rage was something to be upset about. I can't describe how bad it was, and I can't imagine staying with a creep like that. Some women do though.
@tanyadepoalo4312
Ай бұрын
Sounds exactly like my ex bf. He killed every good feeling I had for him. Everything you said is exactly what happened to me too. They waste their entire lives and they try to do the same to us. Imagine being them, ugh. What a waste of this precious life.
@thekellers5041
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. I looked into the eyes of Cain. 15 years ago when my kids were 5 & 3, our dog stepped into the garden where I was on my hands & knees working beside the kids playing in a sandbox with some friends. My husband (now, only after 15 more years, delightfully my EX) the kids’ dad was infuriated by the dog’s desire to be by my side which caused the animal to disobey the ‘no dogs in the garden rule’ and he turned up the juice on the dog’s shocking collar and held down the button on the remote (as the human he hadn’t even given the dog the command to come, he just screamed obscenities at the animal with sweat and a vein of terror popping out on his forehead. The dog was rolling all throughout the garden now, whimpering and twitching in torturous pain and oddly enough ignoring any late-issued commands to come out of the garden (duh!) I immediately got up, and with a shovel in my hand I stood VERYCLOSE to the narcissist’s face and whispered: ‘if you don’t let go of that button right now I’m gonna take your head off with this shovel.’ Cain threw down the remote in disgust, stormed off to sulk and the ‘incident’ was nary to be spoken of again. (Fortunately kids, immersed in their play, were wholly unaware) It would be another 15 years before I could build my yellow brick road to salvation of divorce and no contact with the narcissist. It would get much worse (especially when kids grew into the independent thought of teenagers). Looking back at this event now, YES, ABSOLUTELY! I can see this rotten excuse for a husband and father pretty much viewed us like this dog. He wanted to and thought he could control us and if we ever dared step out of line he probably harbored secret wishes that he had shocking collars for us to wear so he’d have the omnipotent power to shock us back into submission. (As it was, his volcanic rages, threats, lies and gaslighting worked fairly well, too.) But it was all an illusion. We were born free and underneath every abuse we held onto that and we took our freedom back. Narcissist still lives inside his delusional thinking.
@katherinechatham9032
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@jimstenlund6017
Жыл бұрын
I was hoping you’d done a ‘Blazing Saddles’ style head-whoopin’ with that shovel…🤕
@christineribone9351
Жыл бұрын
The moment I realized how many years the narcissist had been lying and manipulating me, my heart sank to my stomach. I felt the greatest sorrow and emptiness for about 2 minutes. I had been duped for over 10 years of my life. For that 2 minutes I grieved for the loss of 10 yrs. to malice and lies. The narc kept whispering in my ear and hatred arose in me. His words were cutting and my face flushed and burned. I hated him to the depths of my heart. And I still hate him to my core to this day. My life changed then on because I knew the truth. There was no more conning me.
@hopestrong2037
3 жыл бұрын
Mine attacked me physically as well. He’s out of my life for about a year
@TheLordsbattleaxe
3 жыл бұрын
It is an ongoing onslaught without end it seemed.
@theharringtons2010
3 жыл бұрын
One verbal attack and what he called me I will never forget and this was the man I married calling me this..so glad I left.
@nana820able
3 жыл бұрын
The yelling and screaming and now calling me Fing B. I thought he was going to hit me. He's 63 years old and I think he's losing his mind. The screaming sucked the life right out of me. I'm working on getting out but just getting out of bed is hard most days.
@sospita_
3 жыл бұрын
who cares whats going on with him RUN FOR YOU LIFE, or ROLL out of your bed onto the street FOR YOUR LIFE!
@deborahcollins1100
3 жыл бұрын
Yes I have read and watched videos that the narc gets worse with age unfortunately and my husband is 69 I definitely can attest to that. I am depressed also and at 72 it’s so much to take in consideration to just leave. I am on his health insurance and our daughter and her family lives right on our street close by. Praying for you❤️🙏
@emptytank7139
3 жыл бұрын
Please get out asap, you will feel much better even just after one week. God speed.
@thirstonhowellthebird
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve been in your shoes where you can’t even get out of bed because the fear of whatever is on the other side or what they’ll do to you almost short-circuits your brain so that when you have to go to the bathroom even that, getting up to go to the bathroom, becomes a last minute effort where you wait as long as you can until you cannot wait any longer. Your health will seriously start to decline. Do you have a friend who can help you or that you can stay with or anybody that is supportive of what you’re going through who can get you out of there because it’s crucial for your sanity and your physical well-being. 🙏🏻❤️
@Bonnie-fh8up
3 жыл бұрын
I am 64, My husband of 35 years pushed me down in the kitchen Floor. He has been mentally and verbally abusive for many years. But this crossed the line. The neighbors heard all. They called the police. Husband had left, driving around town. Police showed up at my front door soon after. I didnt press charges. but told police he pushed me down. I dont know what to do now. I am afraid now, to mention it, no less confront all else going on. . Impasse. His azz should be in jail right now. He has the grown kids on his side. So trying to appeal to them is fruitless. Its like a gang lynching. But if he dares lay a hand on me again. I will def call 911 myself, and press charges. I am walking a thin line. Just trying to survive another day.
@helenyates3951
3 жыл бұрын
But here's the thing. I now never tolerate other people's negativity. I either walk away or firmly and gently say, something like this; "I dont recognise that comment as being me". I now hunker down with only lovely caring people. I care about myself much more and I seek to encourage and support others in this same vein of loving kindness, and my life is 200% better.
@deborahcollins1100
3 жыл бұрын
My narcissistic husband really doesn’t call me names but he can say such awful things to me or if we are out among others he will say awful and crazy things low so they can’t hear it! And I am trying so bad to remember the crazy stuff that he is saying to me but of course I am in a brain fog!
@coop-jt7bd
3 жыл бұрын
So right, only the beasty silent look from the side, unaware from others.
@saraputtock-barnes7125
2 жыл бұрын
my husband does this too
@Barneyjo
3 жыл бұрын
It doesn’t matter what they call you it ONLY matters what you call them.
@wendi-bnkywuv
Жыл бұрын
"Sticks and stones may break my bones"...but words are not as obvious in the injuries they inflict!
@twofry64
3 жыл бұрын
Spot on. I've said for several years they won't be happy until I'm dead. I laugh at them now knowing they hope for me to commit suicide. What doesn't kill me only makes me stronger. Their abuse has made me bullet proof.
@kisigma1011
3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@danielgreen3782
3 жыл бұрын
I have CPTSD due to my step dads narcissist abuse.. At 46 I'm just now figuring out my child hood and why I have panic attacks. Your videos are gold for me bro.. watching daily..
@TheRoyalWe
3 жыл бұрын
👑💯
@ReLair88
11 ай бұрын
Lack of words can also be an attack. Their refusing to share your joy when you tell them something you're thrilled about, and they ignore it. Or respond with something so far unrelated to what you told them that you're left absolutely stunned.
@iRachelism
3 жыл бұрын
This message will save lives🙏🏽
@carolinesand9711
3 жыл бұрын
The name calling is shocking...like a knife is put into your heart !! I’ve experienced my first husband dying at work, but this is different ! 😢 I’m not the same person I used to be.
@cinthial7220
Жыл бұрын
Leave every last one of them in the dust, never look back find yourself and stay away from every person they turned their back on you and had bad intentions for you in any way shape or form
@divinereflections5657
3 жыл бұрын
Wow..I just told him.this last night b4 I flipped it on him and used his own words against him BRUISED HIS EGO🤔...when I took my power back and fought back the scars from.the words healed🙏i could BREATHE again..the look of hurt on his face as I walked out🚶♀️✌....SADLY HE ACTED LIKE HE DIDNT UNDERSTAND THAT VERBAL ABUSE WAS STILL ABUSE!!!😡
@croissantlover1
3 жыл бұрын
yes they will never admit they did anything wrong and they will turn it around against you, so the best thing to do is ignore their abusive words from the very start since they never change. Give them no attention and they go crazy inside of themselves and will seek attention from others. Though be warned, i experienced a narc use violence when i ignored him. This lead to reports to supervisors and after a month or two the narc stopped due to being told they would get thrown out and go to jail for 60 days for punching. Always report the abuse to police or community support, they will help you. And always hold on to remembering; its not you, its the narc thats the problem. So never feel anger or hatred towards yourself, because thats what the narc wants, why? because they hate themselves, so they reflect it out onto others.
@adambaker5188
3 ай бұрын
She killed us with her drunken verbal abuse. She used my good nature and love as a way to lure me in and use me as a punching bag to beat up all of the men who have used her and hurt her in the past. My spirit is crushed. Mission accomplished! So done!
@audreypistor4610
3 жыл бұрын
Very sad but true..
@mariehalsey8892
Жыл бұрын
I’m thankful for someone includes scripture in explaining about narcissist abuse.
@vuokkorusso2841
2 жыл бұрын
My narsisstic brother told me in a letter that once my narsisstic mother dies it will be my fault. God took him! Words are powerful.(I was the black sheep) A friend of mine had a narsisstic friend and deceived a death threath from her friend. God took her. Do not EVER deal with toxic people.
@Kintsugi979
Жыл бұрын
It's not just words. They dump their crappy feelings inside us while they do it. All their rage, shame and hatred.
@leonakay6491
8 ай бұрын
So true Kevin. It is all energy, and the energetic attack with words is sent to pierce your heart. No different than an arrow being sent to do harm. Thank you for all your profound to-the-point words in your videos. Just found your channel, and you really make sense. It is for all our health that we move away from these toxic destructive people. Thank you.
@zippyz4170
2 жыл бұрын
Man...I've dealt with that since the age of 3 by almost every single human being I've ever met except for two teachers who acknowledged I was a good person. They killed every relationship, my education and every job...and I got back up time and time again. Now I'm struggling to get back up and walk without falling down. Verbal abuse can have severe impact on your nervous system.
@angelasolano1912
3 жыл бұрын
This is exactly how my teenage stepson responded to his trashmom a few months ago when she called him outta nowhere and cussed him out and she told him she hates him, he sent a text back telling her he realizes that he will never have a relationship with her like he had wanted. So sad.
@Libra_Girl.
3 жыл бұрын
My ex used to insult me while wrapping it in a compliment. Sick overt narcissism indeed.
@khaartoumsings
3 жыл бұрын
I think that is called a 'Double Bind'. It is meant to cause cognitive dissonance in the victim. The compliment opens up the victim and then the violence of the sting in the tail coshes them. Cornering Questions are another one of their manipulations. What is wonderful is to read about the manipulations and HAVE NAMES FOR THEM. When they are used we can name them and then often predict what they will try next. I find it offers protection. One thing is how predictable from the psychiatric books the Narcissist Manipulations are? ; ) K
@ladennayoung2939
Жыл бұрын
Yes. Our words are VERY powerful. Death and life is in the power of the tongue. The tongue is the smallest member of the body but it is the deadliest.
@SheCanSmile
3 жыл бұрын
what they say to you is how they feel about themselves. i don't even care about these people anymore.
@d3ltaking419
3 жыл бұрын
You shouldn’t at all.
@marinanamaste5821
Жыл бұрын
I wish I could do the same. Unfortunately I still care.
@l.5832
3 жыл бұрын
You can't bring back what you never had. In fact, you never HAD a relationship with them. They were not in it. Your mourning if for what you THOUGHT you had, what you HOPED to have.
@dixiewaller1379
Жыл бұрын
That’s true… but soo terribly depressing & hurtful. It makes you question your worth & what are you doing wrong..
@valerieriggins3184
Жыл бұрын
@@dixiewaller1379 WELL...... That's The Beginning Of CHANGE! Acknowledging The Shame n Hurt Of Making A BAD Choice And Learning To Avoid By Upgrading Your SELF Value. And Basically A NARC Is Like A Bully In School Teach You A LOT What Not To DO In Mental Journey.
@cassiebennet4262
2 ай бұрын
That's the hardest pill to swallow.
@elhadjdiallo633
3 жыл бұрын
After i discarded narcs and toxic folks in my life my health and over all well being have improved!!! You know people being asking me if I'm a mix race my skin is more lighter , caramel , choclate and brown skin dude ....honestly speaking i enjoyed my own company !!!! Iam in love with myself ....dont get me wrong i love people with all my heart i have learn to love them from a distance because i don't know what they're doing behind close doors etc!!!!!!
@pennylanemitchell3170
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve always said I would totally know when to leave my marriage as soon as he laid his first hand on me. But he never did. I did not understand the impact of the verbal abuse until it became so obvious and overt that I saw how it was affecting my daughter. This is very important education for those that don’t understand that you can be severely abused and never have one hand laid on you.
@carolinesand9711
3 жыл бұрын
I am finally living in my own home. It’s been 34+ years of verbal, emotional abuse. I see a counselor like once a month but that doesn’t make a difference because so much goes on within me during that month that it’s like I don’t have one at all. There are so many layers of healing to go through . I feel like I’m gaining some traction , then I give up trying because it’s so heavy. I make arrangements to do things with other peoples, then I wake up feeling so “frozen” that I decide to just be alone. I do like to go for a drive sometimes, need to do that more often. He’s ,for many years, whined and got my kids behind him. They have no idea what I’ve been put through ! I don’t talk to my kids any more. One of my daughters does listen to me, but she lives in another state. He rages and calls me names. It’s always about him. Maybe I’ll have to resign to being isolated the rest of my life. That’s sad because I’m 75 and have a lot of life left to live. It just has to be silently. People , friends,family have no idea what I’ve experienced. He is always there for them helping and with smiles. Abandonment (physical , spiritual , emotional ). I do have the money I need, which I appreciate, but that’s all. Also my own senior condo with own bedding and patio . Just have to be isolated. When I go out for a ride and shopping, people have no idea how much it means to me to be around them. Thank you. You’re always so right on.
@patricestar6510
3 жыл бұрын
I hear you...you are not alone...I live the same way and am the same age... just today someone dumped on me so I run home and never want to go out again.
@katherinechatham9032
3 жыл бұрын
You are a special lady. God created you to have a relationship with Him. Never forget that. He loves you with a love that we won’t understand until it’s time for you us to leave this world. Allow His love to cover you like a blanket and know that as Christians we are never alone. He is always with us. Prayers of healing lifted up for you tonight. We are sisters in Christ Jesus.
@valerieriggins3184
Жыл бұрын
Honey! ENJOY Your ALONE TIME With YOUR SELF That's REALLY What The Lesson Out Of The Suffering. Some People Hate Themselves And Don't Know IT....And Don't Want To Spend Time Entertaining Doing Hobbies, Gardens, Dance Sitting On The Patio With Music Reading. Get A Small Pet Can Be Therapy If You Pick The Right ONE! They Just Love YOU All The Time OH And You Can Talk To Yourself. Whoever Said You Crazy Doing IT Had To Be A Insecure NARC.
@dracarys-lh6ku
Жыл бұрын
Astounding how "the community" is so blinded by them. Also the children. How they get so many people on their side and smear your character. No one reaches out to you because they couldn't possibly be that bad.
@user-os1kc8hf8r
Жыл бұрын
I feel you. I felt like being numb.. of all the verbal abuse Ive had.. 😢
@deepviolet7982
2 жыл бұрын
I was born to a HIGHLY narcissistic woman. As the oldest, I was the first child to [interfere] with her marriage (as she would see it!) A little baby may get more attention than her. It has been a lifetime of pain that goes far beyond the obvious...layers and layers. Only someone who has lived this would truly understand. My bio family has many enablers that act on her behalf yet they KNOW that she is bad news. "Mother" was the only one to lunge at me with a knife as well as her tongue. Enablers use tongue only. I KNOW God has His hand of protection all around me. Truth be told, every attack just makes me a stronger empath. This makes them FURIOUS! I am well and thriving. THAT alone demonstrated God's power. Be strong Warriors! 🙏🌿🌷🌿🌷🙏
@samxsara
Жыл бұрын
Wow youre so strong i feel you. Thrive, beautiful 💯💖
@jennjenn0126able
3 жыл бұрын
I can’t get threw this without.. I watch everyone of your videos.. Every video is EXACTLY what I get through.. Some I watch many times over, to remind me that it isn’t me, that I will be ok, that I’m not alone.. This video you just did a few hrs ago, & I have already watched it 4x’s now., THANKYOU FOR EVERYTHING YOU DO PLEASE NEVER STOP.!!
@jo-annastephenson5023
Жыл бұрын
Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks
@ginalorraine1899
2 жыл бұрын
This had to have been divine teaching from the Holy Spirit. Thank you for sharing this. It brings such clarity, validation, and emotional closure.
@dianaverano7878
Жыл бұрын
Thank you brother in Christ for this video. Lately I have been reading about bible on how to deal with angry people. I am a calm person, so how to deal with them? They just say " those are just words, they dont mean anything" You have emphasized that words have power, something I have read in the bible only last yr. I myself, I wanted to be part of my spiritual Journey to remove anger in my mouth as mentioned in Colossians. I told myself, if I myself will exert effort to follow God in removing anger in my mouth, then how can I deal with angry people? I only realized thru God's word in the bible and your videos that psychologically it is not healthy to hang out with these people, especially if I myself, I want to remove anger & insults in my heart and mouth. Evil communication corrupts good habits as mentioned in the new testament. Even if we are kind, if we talk to people who love to insult, we will learn how to say insults too.
@Lisa-ee6tf
2 жыл бұрын
Just before midnight Xmas Eve 2018 my children’s father texted “you are just a mere blot on everyone’s lives…”then continued to rewrite history laying all blame on me. I felt completely broken Christmas morning, but from my love for our children I refused to allow him to spoil such a precious time for them. His words have stayed with me though. And so many wounding ones since. ‘Separation Abuse’ doesn’t have to involve to court.
@IzabelaWaniek-i1x
9 ай бұрын
I totally agree with your observations Kevin. Abusive relationships are dead and as such should be treated. God bless you❤
@barbarafoley9827
3 жыл бұрын
Truth & the first I have heard this subject talked about with the narcissist. Because daily & in my dreams , I am haunted by the echoes in my head from all the yelling/cursing of criticism & sarcasm & disrespect & deflecting & belittling & downplaying me. Thank you, this all made more sense & affirm my feelings of hurt inside.
@lauriesyme207
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for explaining what I couldn’t understand, ever!
@cindydrensky5331
Жыл бұрын
I've learned that over the years and I've been really badly hurt verbally emotionally and physically in my life by narcissistic abusers my mom was one of them . She was physically violent and verbally violent to her kids to horrible I left very young. Now I keep away from people like that and I keep my distance because I don't care to do with it good place of God on my life from people that love me for who I am and I love them and they don't wear masks so it's refreshing
@ladennayoung2939
3 жыл бұрын
One thing that you have to do is not put all your time and energy on seeing them in a negative light. Focus on forgiving them, and focus on healing from what pain they may have caused. Pray for them, and ask the Lord to help you to love them from a distance with a Godly love. The Bible says owe no man but to love him. Love is the key. This don't mean that you need to hang around them or whatever the case maybe. It just mean you release any pain and hurt that they caused you over to God.
@georgesedeno7891
2 жыл бұрын
LaDeena you're wrong. Narcissistic people never change.
@cameronjoysings
Жыл бұрын
This is wisdom and that is what I’m working in now…. Continuing to allow the Most Highs love to remain as we are commanded like you said🙌🏽💗🙂
@tia6468
3 жыл бұрын
This is so true but other family members can't comprehend and expect you to make peace and see you as the one who can't forgive They dont understand that once you have seen the heart of your hater you can be trust them ever again!
@catmccabe400
Жыл бұрын
The worst ever! Words are vicious and sharper then a two edged ⚔️
@Vslims4real
2 жыл бұрын
I hope to find peace in my life. At 58 I may not have much time left, I'm afraid. I'm grateful to have found your channel. Thank you again.
@c-m5
9 ай бұрын
I love your fiery energy. Your message to s spot on. Thank you 🙏
@yumyumeatemuppp
3 жыл бұрын
You’re the best. God is using you.
@audreyfernandes2830
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. Been a victim of verbal narcissistic abuse for years. I wish I had seen this earlier, but now I know what I am dealing with and I am now taking control of my life.
@tammieb.9510
9 ай бұрын
❤ wow! This guy is incredible!!! God bless the work you do and the people you reach! You have wisdom, grace and a loving heart. God bless all good intentions you put forth. 🙏🙏🤗🙏🙏♥️
@maryanndolan6508
3 жыл бұрын
The narcissist man I was married to would also use silence for several days if not a week at a time, I would end up saying I’m sorry just so he would talk to me. Again his silence was punishment for “whatever” I may have said. Or he would bring up a subject from several months ago. His aim was always to punish me , someway, somehow. There is no healing with the narcissist. Get out, never look back, remember there was no relationship to begin with, only the illusion of a relationship.
@indymg4456
5 ай бұрын
Yes it stays on replay in your mind CAUSE THEY WANNA HURT YOU BREAK YOU AND THEN SAY CAUSE IT REAL !!!! It’s REAL and they believe what they are saying to you is right they believe your hurting because they are spilling truth but in reality it’s PURE HATE
@CharLotte-rj8cq
2 күн бұрын
Very true. Amen
@CRONOSAGGRESSIVE2
3 жыл бұрын
Verbal abuse (also verbal attack or verbal violence or verbal assault; often referred to as psychic violence) is an act of violence in the form of speech that decreases self-confidence and adds to feelings of helplessness. It is "an act that includes rebuking and the delivery of harsh words".Verbal abuser are Sharp Tongue cowardly insecure, and they cope with these insecurities by flexing. This makes others like them less in the long run, thus further aggravating their insecurities, which then leads to a vicious cycle of flexing behaviors.
@lisarochwarg4707
3 жыл бұрын
Narcissists just hate themselves, deep down.
@judi5671
Жыл бұрын
Out of the heart ♥ the mouth speaks
@gloriatrescher9389
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Kevin. This video is a year old, yet still relevant. You put into words what I've been feeling in my heart. My brother passed in October and seeing the burial was what made his death so final. Two weeks later my emotionally abusive husband moved out, which unleashed a series of "ppl showing their true faces" in my life. I had this thought, the relationship with narc abusers is as dead as my brother, but because they are still physically alive, it is so hard to accept it, and I keep falling for the bread crumbs. It's been a very intense 4 months and the last couple weeks almost unbearable. Hearing your words made me realize that what I am going through is grief. Grieving my brother's death, grieving the loss of a husband who had promised to love and cherish me,yet mistreated me all the years we were together, and with that the dreams for a happy marriage that I always clung un to; grieving the loss of friendships that were closest to me for 10 years and turned against me when I started to take a stand against the abuse; grieving for my children who missed out on so much in life, because I was unable to stand up against that evil for so many years. And in all that pain, my Heavenly Father, Holy Spirit, and His Son Jesus, is present hugging me, holding me, and healing my shattered heart with His tender,comforting, everlasting love. May all who read this experience that love and may your hearts be healed. You are precious and greatly treasured by God!❤️
@alexvizaniaris8041
3 жыл бұрын
One of best videos thanks Kevin
@demetriahewlett6508
Ай бұрын
Omg!!! Kevin that is what I named my narc spouse when he acts irrationally CAIN!!!!!’ Whoa 😳
@sharmar582
Жыл бұрын
Thank you....your doing an awesome job,teaching me more about all the Narrsistic abusive people in my life. ❤
@GoFishOffice
Жыл бұрын
This was a great way to describe this, THANK YOU
@Red-Iceberg
3 жыл бұрын
My narc realized that his words never mattered. I use to think to myself look at the source. He soon realized I thought so little of him after awhile, I guess I caused a narcissistic injury because out of nowhere he physically attacked me. That was 7 months ago I had him locked up that nite. I pressed charges and continue in my process of healing. The hardest part and yet the easiest was putting him where he belonged ,behind bars.
@chautran2588
Жыл бұрын
Thank God for electronic Field Tapping on KZitem that helped me overcome this horrible situation. You're the victor, Kevin and so are we. Thank you for sharing your experience to help us!!!
@NeonCicada
Жыл бұрын
_It's true that_ *we CAN'T always choose* _the way we feel about someone/something_ -- _but_ *we CAN always choose* _the way we respond to the way we feel about someone/something._
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