It's been 14 years for Petes sake....these people are crazy. Normal people do not behave this way.
@RS-kt6bo
6 ай бұрын
She keeps the new supply hidden. After the 8 years I was with her she discarded me brutally when my Dad passed away. Devalued me to the extent that I wanted to take myself out. I remember calling her and telling her about what I want to do to myself. She told me to be a man and go through with it. Pretty much told me to kill myself. Ghosting me for a year after that. I didn't even know what NPD is back then. That was probably the lowest point in my life. When a man's life doesn't even matter to the woman he loves, it's the ultimate devaluation. I was miserable, depressed, stopped eating and lost almost half my body weight. It took me a long time to pick myself up but when I did, I decided to work on myself. Started running and lifting weights. Got to the point that I'm proud of how fit I am today. She contacted me recently and wanted to meet me. I took the bait and we ended up sleeping together that night. With all the knowledge I've gathered over the year about NPD, I wanted to see first hand how they operate. She lovebombed me and future faked me. Told me everything I wanted to hear that night. I found out she's in a relationship with the guy she was cheating on me with. The next day she began ghosting me and the day after that she'd disappeared again. I look at myself in the mirror and see the fruits of all my hard work. I'm stronger and better looking than I've ever been. Meanwhile the guy she's seeing is a scrawny little shrimp and a definite physical downgrade. She stalks my social media everyday, no doubt upset at the fact that she could've had me for life. I know I haunt her because I was the chosen one. She literally saved my name as "the chosen one" on her phone back in the day. Me being the naive fool thought it was incredibly sweet. Never again. I've blocked her everywhere and focusing on myself again. All I need is my Mom and my Cat. I will never let anyone manipulate me and devalue me again. I know my worth and no one can take that from me. Time to get back to what I do best, Ignore and Override. Best wishes to anyone reading this incredibly long and tragic essay.
@djw8504
6 ай бұрын
I needed to read this! Thank you for sharing! My ex narc discarded me just before, during and final after my sweet Mom passed away! That was two yrs ago and if it weren’t for getting two yrs of education on narcs and how it was all one sided relationship, then Im sure I wld be giving him another chance because he is begging now to start over! I went through the most painful time in my 54yrs, but I’m feeling stronger, healthier, and happier with just myself and My dog!! Best of Blessings 🙏💪😅
@user56gghtf
6 ай бұрын
Sounds like you've moved on and have grown. I understand the comment but remember that "scrawny little shrimp" that she is dating now is in the same spot you were in before. Give him some grace because he probably has no clue what's he's in. She cheated on him with you. Your ex is the villain.
@RS-kt6bo
6 ай бұрын
@@user56gghtf I know she's the villain but I have no sympathy for that guy because she was seeing him for years behind my back while being in a "committed" relationship with me. I even found out she had him over at my house while I was away for a while few days. It's the sort of crazymaking stuff that'll make a man feel lesser than they really are. I wish no harm upon anyone but I don't have to empathize with snakes. Train roll on.
@kellyandaaron2005
6 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your journey with us. At the end of our 4yr relationship my ex was cruel & sadistic for 6 months and I knew he was ready to discard at any moment. I had considered leaving this world during his abuse. I was bedridden & disabled from a health condition & he found me useless. But he didn't want to look like the bad guy that left me in this health crisis. The good guy image is his thing. After an appointment where the doc ordered tests for lung cancer, he wheeled me to the car and had the worst rage fit I'd ever seen. I was trapped & very ill & terrified. He then got out and disappeared for 9 days. I knew at that point I had to go no contact to survive. It's very inspiring to hear about your determination to get your life back. Such bravery.
@RS-kt6bo
6 ай бұрын
@@kellyandaaron2005 Thanks for sharing your experience with these individuals. I'm sorry you had to go through so much. I know how hard it can be to talk about these things. The good guy image is definitely their thing. She will only post pictures of herself, her family and how nice she is to animals. Gets her validation and new supply everyday. I feel like all the videos I've watched about NPD has given me a lot of answers to all the questions I had when I got discarded. Let me give you some advice for whatever it's worth. Focus on yourself and try to forget about everything you've been through. Excersise and doing things you enjoy is definitely a good way. Remember that the lovebombing was not really them. They never loved us. Use your anger/pain as fuel to rise up. I still struggle with my demons everyday but I know I'm getting stronger. I believe in you. Goodluck with your journey 🤗
@oraclepanda
6 ай бұрын
That gut feeling is always followed by a hoover, unfortunately. Narcissists are also an intuition test.
@ceyciemateo9411
6 ай бұрын
Our gut feeling or his ?
@johnnycorn7225
6 ай бұрын
After 10 years of going through this and knowing every last detail from that this is 100% true I can sense a Hoover coming a mile away like it's a freaking thunderstorm
@lukebarnes3157
6 ай бұрын
@ceyciemateo9411 what does the sex have to do with anything?
@lukebarnes3157
6 ай бұрын
@ceyciemateo9411 and that would be ours not the narc, pay attention
@lukebarnes3157
6 ай бұрын
@ceyciemateo9411 and it's his, a narcissist is not defined by what the sex they are
@charloterobinson7612
6 ай бұрын
They have deep mental issues and want to keep you around for supply. My ex had contact with all his exes but he won’t be keeping up with me. I promise you that!!💯💯💯💯💯
@Gematria142
4 ай бұрын
The tabs thing is so true. You feel like they need to know your in a low place. To be honest I'm happy living a quiet life and not being bothered by anybody
@zerozilch
5 ай бұрын
Hovering to make sure you stay down..
@jjones4314
6 ай бұрын
The narc has been out of my life since 2019. He's attempted to reach out several times since then but I've blocked him in every way possible! He needs to just keep moving on & leave me in his rearview mirror- like I've done to him.
@user56gghtf
6 ай бұрын
Unfortunately they don't catch a clue. He'll keep trying
@laraparks7018
6 ай бұрын
The guest stars supercede the costar, til the next guest comes. They make supporting actors of everyone 😮 They should get an Emmy award for their soap opera.
@Hanka1981
6 ай бұрын
I found out from my sisters friend that he had a tinder profile. I was blindsided by this. Waited a few days then went to his place with a HUGE suitcase and took all my belongings and took my power back. When he opened the door it looked like he saw a ghost, his eyes were black !!! (His real eye colour is blue) he told me right away that he wasn’t with anyone and I replied I didn’t ask. I told him to give me the keys he had to my home. I was calm, didn’t yell, showed him the screenshots I got from my sister’s friend’s profile pictures on tinder. He actually wanted to start an argument and I didn’t fall for it and it’s not in my nature to yell. He tried to hug me many times and I backed away. Unfortunately he is my brother in law’s best friend and nephew’s godfather so he is in my orbit. It pisses me off that my sister is nice to him and his gf. My sister tells me he says to her how happy he is but she sees right through it, he is very inauthentic. She told me she is a total downgrade and not his type, chubby, wears tons of makeup and dresses like a granny. She cooks and cleans for him, I guess he wants a mom to take care of him and his son is very disrespectful towards her. It’s been 2 years and it still bothers me. I now realise that he is a narcissist because there was no closure.They are sick people.
@BeTheLight624
6 ай бұрын
I am glad to hear someone was honest enough with you to tell you the truth about what he was up to and expose him. You did an excellent job of handling the situation. Bravo. It hurts terribly when you pour your love and everything into what you thought was a relationship and he treats you like that. The truth is he didn’t deserve you. I had something similar happened to me and he downgraded to someone reminiscent of a troll doll who is older than him. They both did us a huge favor. Wishing you every happiness in this new chapter of your life.🌷
@Hanka1981
6 ай бұрын
@@BeTheLight624 thank you for your kind words. I wish you much happiness as well. Is it normal to think about it everyday? I am actually purposely avoiding going over to my sisters/brother in laws. They live a few minutes away. Two months ago, i went were celebrating her birthday. My brother in laws sister asked how things were going between myself and Frank and I responded’ oh god, it’s been two year” . She doesn’t live here so she had idea that we split. My brother in law that is my ex best friend yelled at me and told me to move on and I replied I have. I am still pissed off at my brother in law , I haven’t been over in two months and I’m usually there several times a week. His sister told me that he is damaged goods and that I should be with someone that makes me grow and vice versa.
@MattCool007
6 ай бұрын
Hoover after 4 months then continuing for a day or 3 or 4 every other week, but i'm not giving in to her. The vibe is gone.
@petert6543
6 ай бұрын
I left mine a year ago she calls me every 2 to 3 weeks called me twice this week so happy I have nothing to do with her stay strong people
@EricaChavira-on4oz
5 ай бұрын
Stay strong !!
@John-dy6bl
4 ай бұрын
It has to come down to a restraining order unfortunately
@michaeltaylor9096
5 ай бұрын
I feel that ex narc. Is thinking about me. I overthink sometimes. BUT I LEFT THE SITUATIONSHIP. I have a new job. I've seen the narc in passing NO HOOVER'S YET!
@lioubovgrant1935
6 ай бұрын
We, who had narc. nightmare once, must ensure that they never have any access to us ever again. Yes we moved on and we dont care if they like it or not. Beautiful video. Thank you Joe ! 🤗 ❤
@scooterpatooter9484
Ай бұрын
Nope-- they already showed you what they are by this time. They don't change, and even if by some miracle they did, they can't undo the damage they did. Keep moving forward and leave them where they are. You're worth more than that. They aren't and never will be. ESPECIALLY because they're hoovering.
@rashidarowe7882
6 ай бұрын
In my experience narcissistic men have a harder time moving on than narcisstistic women.
@Tokolos
6 ай бұрын
Women, in general, have more supply options. )
@rashidarowe7882
6 ай бұрын
@@Tokolos this is correct
@killjoyredux8361
6 ай бұрын
Which is why there's more narc women than meb especially these days....social media and dating apps have warped women's minds and given them endless supply. Not the case for all but the top % of men
@user56gghtf
6 ай бұрын
Why are there more supply options for women?
@killjoyredux8361
6 ай бұрын
@@user56gghtf have you been asleep the last 15 years or so?
@dezonwill33
4 ай бұрын
My ex narcissist got a lot of money and moved out of my house I blocked and went no contact after she started being disrespectful for no reason 3 years later I find out that nut job was stalking me the whole time without me knowing that mental illness is real!!
@debbiecarmona1930
6 ай бұрын
Discard since Valentine's day been very difficult why is it harder in morning when im.in bed? Most painful
@user56gghtf
6 ай бұрын
It will get easier. Just keep going
@yowhatupmain
6 ай бұрын
Love yourself more stand up for who you are
@EricaChavira-on4oz
5 ай бұрын
The mornings are difficult for me too now that you say that, it’s weird but right after I get off work, it seems to sting a little more also. Idk it’s weird.
@user56gghtf
5 ай бұрын
@@EricaChavira-on4oz I also look at this whole thing spiritually. Maybe the mornings are harder because we've been in a spiritual battle all night long day after day until the spiritual tie to them is broken.
@DefaultName-lk3od
6 ай бұрын
well said
@kerimorgan6665
6 ай бұрын
It’s kind of like that song, “Every Breath You Take.” 😉… Lol, but I digress. I will say that whole “supply chain” is not attractive by any measure, nor the possible health risks that come with that… One of the very first things I did when I kicked my ex husband out was get tested for every single thing! That doesn’t fly with me!
@pipers-lildogadventures5360
5 ай бұрын
#ACCESSDENIED
@Melvina1975
Ай бұрын
My evil ass ex had the audacity to send a messenger invite to one of my co-workers/friend to hook up with her🤢🤢🤢he changed his name ....but i'm a little intrigued as to how she knew it was my ex if she had only since his pic one time and this was last year🤔🤔🤔, I'm not sure if he's using her to get to me but it's quite disguting to say the least.
@Deity697
6 ай бұрын
🎯💯
@eminemstrash2021
4 ай бұрын
Ooooh, how fun. My narcissist recently discarded me, which was a fun part of the cycle to observe. Now I know what to expect, she'll be back, that sneaky little bugger.
@KLEOPATRA2.0
6 ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@samuelmillette
5 ай бұрын
The way your voice is, you must had a narcissist person in your life once.
@palomahair8616
6 ай бұрын
😢😢😢😢
@thecrazinessthatlives
6 ай бұрын
I met my narcissist in the summer of 2013 we met online...he came to my house we talked and then I asked him to leave because I wasn't interested...he was too nerdy for me...fast forward to the summer of 2021.. I met this guy online we chatted online for awhile then he said he knew me...I didn't believe him because his profile photo didn't look like anybody I've ever fooled around with but he described the inside of my house and my property I was floored...then I did meet this online date in person before...fast forward to our first face to face meeting...Two reason why I didn't recognize him, he was 8 years older and he changed his hair style plus he's been working out at the gym. our renewal relationship started that summer of 2021 and ended by him because he said he couldn't trust me, ended the fall of 2023....that twice of trying to make it work lol dare I think there'll be a 3rd time and we all know 3 strikes you're out!
@Exotic-P
6 ай бұрын
He was in the right on that one. He came back just to show he's got the power now
@paul-cx2fo
6 ай бұрын
You sound kind of like a narc to me as well, lol. Just can’t get enough of those dating sites by the sounds of it.
@EricaChavira-on4oz
5 ай бұрын
@@paul-cx2fojust because they like dating sites…that makes them a narc? That’s not necessarily true at all. I know many people who are on dating sites and they are not even close to being narcissistic.
@paul-cx2fo
5 ай бұрын
@@EricaChavira-on4ozYou must be relatively new to narcissism. You’ve got a lot to learn.
@EricaChavira-on4oz
5 ай бұрын
@@paul-cx2fo whatever you say. 👌😁
@LV4REAL
4 ай бұрын
Again, you're so good!💯 Thanks Joe! ( I'm trying to leave more comments bc more people should be able to find your valuable content!!! 😁 Again, thank youuuuu! 😁😀
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