Basically a psychopath? Men were psychos back then.
@Numb3rOn3_
Жыл бұрын
@Coldfront : Clown.
@kenviegas5903
Жыл бұрын
1000%
@voltear
Жыл бұрын
Yaaa
@outsideview9052
Жыл бұрын
If a man trusts you with his weakness and you later use that against him, that kind of betrayal can never be overcome. He will never forget that.
@LostEquation21
Жыл бұрын
Not only that. He'll never open up to you again. He'll shut u out no matter how much he loves you. I lived it.
@dylan112588
Жыл бұрын
This. 💯
@AnimalLover-xe2cd
Жыл бұрын
True of woman also
@thefiretrainer1921
Жыл бұрын
My ex did that.. i have found a person i can be vulnerable there are great women out there keep the hope up
@jaheimre9730
Жыл бұрын
Uhhh yeah. That's exactly what she said.
@yomomshouse100
Жыл бұрын
Whenever i was hit at my weakest it always made me realize how little that person actually cares about me.
@eldorshodiyev8335
11 ай бұрын
true words
@xenaburg2362
11 ай бұрын
My friend hit me when I was weak by involving my sick mother into our argument 😢
@sweetmeadowmedia
11 ай бұрын
I agree!
@uzibitch1
10 ай бұрын
@@xenaburg2362 they would no longer be a friend, and they'd also have a beatdown on the way
@mahatiggy
10 ай бұрын
@@xenaburg2362that's fucked. good luck with your mom.
@bluefury105
7 ай бұрын
"They NEVER. FORGET IT." Probably the most real quote ever
@friendlytank
3 ай бұрын
she's right. It happened to me and it's a fact. I think about it everyday
@vinito19
2 ай бұрын
@@friendlytank It's time to heal, bro. It's ok to forgive, as far as you don't forget.
@friendlytank
2 ай бұрын
@zabuzalescelerat7254 @vinito19 yeah you're both right I have been healing. I understand the struggles of the female condition in face of the male condition.. buuutt they could be a little friendlier....
@Efe09695
Ай бұрын
@@vinito19I agree that time heals, but if something like this happens what you will never forget, i think of it like a scar. Time makes it less painful, but the scar will stay. (Idk how true it is what i say tho, i dont have direct experience and i am still quite young.)
@vinito19
Ай бұрын
@@Efe09695 I said forgive and DON'T forget. Forgive, so you can move on, and don't forget, so you don't repeat the same mistake. Stay strong, life is but what you make of it.
@LeCarla
Жыл бұрын
Never hit ANYONE on their weakness. Not a woman, not a man, not a child….
@magmminaj6320
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! This shit got nothing to do with gender!!! And do onto others as you would have them do onto you👍👍👍
@Indigobaby1111
Жыл бұрын
Ikr men do this to is ALL the time but women cent fight back cuz then they won't love us? Sorry but where was the love in the first place??????
@cottoncandy710
Жыл бұрын
Yes!
@Danish-ww2jl
Жыл бұрын
no it's different with women
@Shaolin91z
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Lord for your salvation. Thanks Lord for your peace Thanks Lord single no kids
@Nakamurayoru
Жыл бұрын
This is called respecting your partner.
@dimv2140
Жыл бұрын
Nah it’s good advise and it works 100% of the time I’ve used it on my make friends my boyfriend and family but no it’s not respect it’s manipulative.
@EllieMoonHaven
Жыл бұрын
@@dimv2140 so stabing your partner in the back and using thier weakness against them isn't manipulative. But respecting someone's boundaries and not attacking them when they reveal themselves to you is?
@dimv2140
Жыл бұрын
@@EllieMoonHaven both are manipulative in my book
@EllieMoonHaven
Жыл бұрын
@@dimv2140 your delusional if you think that way. I'm sorry life has been this way for you and hope you get help and find true happiness where you don't seek out evil in others kind actions.
@amala4963
Жыл бұрын
Exactly, mutual respect 🙏.
@darrellbetts837
10 ай бұрын
My wife said the same thing, bae I know what your weaknesses are. I said you do and she had a whole list. I said why you never told me that you knew that. She said because you tell me In so many was all the time. And then she said, your my partner, my homie, lover, and friend. Why would I hurt you!!!! I hurried up and throw a ring on that beautiful finger. 7 years together 2 years married and many more to come.
@aramisy.cajigas744
2 ай бұрын
My fiancé asked me to tell her my story about my ex wife and my daughter, my dreams of raising children under my moral values, my highs and my lows. She behaved amazed at how much I suffered and how amazing I was as a father by all the things I had to endure to travel to see my daughter and visit her. She was good to me, so good to me, man, really good to me, man. Seven months and a half later, I put a ring on her finger and gave her marriage, commitment, a relationship, and we loved each other deeply. She was my wife and I was her man. A year and a half later, she got tired of me being poor and having to support me financially, and of my constant complaints about her bad behavior, about not having any time for us without any interruptions, and about prioritizing her dogs over her marriage. She threw on my face all my past mistakes about my ex wife, daughter, family and other people that I grew close to, made fun of my past, mocked my manhood, and pierced my heart with her rejection and twisting of reality. She was the one who told me "I don't wanna hurt you. I don't wanna make you feel bad. You're the love of my life, my best friend, my husband". I do wish you the best in your marriage. Love does exist, and there are good women out there who really value the heart of a man. Jah bless!
@ruben12180
2 ай бұрын
Bro reading that gave me so much happines. Tell your lady she a real one
@04foreverinvincible69
2 ай бұрын
@@ruben12180fa real
@spacenightmares7767
2 ай бұрын
I'm glad you put a ring on your partner, brother! If she was like that as your girlfriend, I bet she is even better as your wife. Congratulations, brother! Guard and protect this treasure very well! I hope you're both doing well!
@GABRIELADAWSON
Ай бұрын
CAP lol.
@fearthisgamerneed4gs-skysu485
Жыл бұрын
An ex got me a job. I don't work there anymore but she filled out the application on indeed and I got the job. Every time we fought she'd bring it up and threaten to call my boss and tell him I was stealing and tell me I was a loser and couldn't even find my own job. That moment plays over in my head from time to time when I'm feeling crappy about something or having a bad day and I tell myself I'm strong and capable and I will never let anyone feel like they have/had control over my life ever again.
@4LLT0G3TH3R
5 ай бұрын
That wasn't even a weakness of yours, that was just manipulation and abuse on your ex's part. I'm sorry you didn't deserve that friend, glad things are better now.
@Amanda-hp4nd
2 ай бұрын
Sorry to be ‘crappy’ or blunt but don’t let anybody contribute too much to reaching certain goals or getting somewhere.. because then this stuff can happen.. unless ofcourse there are certain circumstances or sudden extreme setbacks where you temporarily have no choice but you could have already looked for your own job found by yourself in stead of staying in the one she ‘gave’ you. People are shit sometimes and when they appear to be shit make sure there’s not too much they can oppress you with… I am sorry you had to go through this manipulation and abuse. It will help you reflect and make different choices though. It is truly a lesson. 💚 Life is about balance and if she gave you a job she thought she was powerful over you and that took your power away. You were treated poorly but still, it hurt you unnecessarily to a certain extent because you just deserve better. Create better by learning from these experiences. I bet you have. I hope you are in a very good place right now after that.
@queenjesse1000
Жыл бұрын
If a person hits you where you are weak, they are trying to break you, break your confidence and take your power.
@leahv.2537
Жыл бұрын
Nobody can do that without our permission. People willingly give away their power because they don't know any better. But folks better learn fast to become strong, stay strong, build one's self up and direct one's own life and not outsource that to a partner. EVER. I learned that the hard way in my 20s and needed to take a long time to heal from a relationship that almost destroyed me. I wish I learned this from an early age.
@pankajsaraf82
10 ай бұрын
Usually, dominating people have such a mentality to mentally hit you hard...
@armandobonkes8801
6 ай бұрын
@@leahv.2537Jesús Christ is our strength and He is the only one to lean upon
@user-pp4vy5ll7c
6 ай бұрын
Yes this is very true in my own opinion much like a pimp does to a prostitute sad to say I was raised that you don't put somebody down or treat them like crap to make your own self confidence, feel, public persona & or Big Guy rep or whatever on the streets I believe each and every man and woman in a relationship deserves equal amount of respect like if you don't want to be with a person tell them that in the nicest way possible but don't play with somebody's head just because you can while shredding their heart soul and feelings to a pile of Brokenness for somebody else to deal with it's not right....,....🤷♂️
@2b248
4 ай бұрын
FAX
@tpwk3321
Жыл бұрын
When your partner tells you their weakness they trust you not to use it against them
@kreativeforce532
Жыл бұрын
Husband
@najjssxd7357
Жыл бұрын
@@kreativeforce532 Wife
@mg_manishgautam
Жыл бұрын
But I don’t have a partner 😂
@TheGreedDemon
Жыл бұрын
And they destroy them with it. Cause people aren't to be trusted. If I ever date again, as far as they know, I don't have any weaknesses.
@gulamahmed4773
Жыл бұрын
You can tell him but not hit him where he is weak , there is a difference
@moefun19
8 ай бұрын
I'm a 45 years old I'm on my knees trying to tell you and your mother thank you.❤
@ericsmith-sx8xi
Жыл бұрын
Ended a 20 year relationship because of her words.
@eb2354
4 ай бұрын
Im sorry it took that look for her to show her true colors. The good news is - its better then breaking up with her 21-40 years later.
@crestfire8008
3 ай бұрын
You are so sensitive and emotional. You should have chosen better
@xXCosmicQuasarXx
3 ай бұрын
@@crestfire8008Dude what?
@crestfire8008
3 ай бұрын
@@xXCosmicQuasarXx choose better. Your fault for not choosing better
@yuckylattice
3 ай бұрын
@@crestfire8008Parents should have chose better when they had you.
@mariaglass2968
Жыл бұрын
It's called compassion and respect. No mariage can survive without it
@silvestre7
Жыл бұрын
Stop with the compassion bullcrap lol
@carlosalford
Жыл бұрын
@@silvestre7 This is actually one of the few times where compassion is spot on.
@RowanWarren78
Жыл бұрын
Yes, agreed. My husband is my best friend. Otherwise, our marriage wouldn't thrive.
@venktesh6600
Жыл бұрын
what does it mean that "You can get him to do what you need him to do." ? ?
@staciegarcia7021
Жыл бұрын
That's a very crucial thing to understand
@sharonshookup
Жыл бұрын
It's also very important to not make someone "lose face" in public. Some things need to be dealt with privately.
@awho33
Жыл бұрын
VERY TRUE
@iliaselbourji1865
Жыл бұрын
Pride for men is increased by testosterone... women don't feel the same but sometimes empathy of a woman arrive... Women dont want a broken man cz they dont know how to treat a broken men... A woman who know can raise a god...
@NMSUNSETGOURMET
Жыл бұрын
@@iliaselbourji1865 A Woman who knows can raise a GOD. Mary, measuring. Me as u ring in G. Kneel to trace picture children. G is an incomplete whole with one square angle drawn in Earth. O is a Whole measure. D is a split whole with two square angles drawn in Earth. Sacrificed, Holy measured. Me as u red. G's us, drawn towards a whole measure with one angle draw in. Those who don't see are split from argument, being two angles drawn to measure.
@SerterSerter
Жыл бұрын
I needed to hear that earlier.
@hellocolor101llo5
Жыл бұрын
Silence and secrecy only benefit abusers.
@kennethmoragne5870
Ай бұрын
Her mom was a VERY wise woman. I approve this message...she ain't never lied! 💯%
@ady6837
Жыл бұрын
It's the same for every human being.. regardless of their gender.. nobody likes to be reminded of their weaknesses
@giselejeanpierre6291
14 күн бұрын
No but it's worst for man bc we dealing with the world that emasculate men so hitting a man where he's weak is wrong at brith we lost seriously at brith women already won
@giselejeanpierre6291
14 күн бұрын
Just think about that...when you say these things like for instance whe we going through as men u can just talk to anyone bc they finna think u soft or want someone to feel bad for u...if a female is sad and going through stuff everybody gonna stop and help her cuz it's a female let alone if she look good let's be fr
@cherryice4603
18 сағат бұрын
@@giselejeanpierre6291 I'm a woman, and I never experienced everyone stopping to help me. It depends on the person, I have a personality where I try to hide my negative emotions. It happens to a lot of men, but there are also some women who are affected.
@almadixon-cider31
Жыл бұрын
She Doesnt Use Her Love To Make Him Weak, She Uses Love To Keep Him Strong. -Stevie Wonder
@blahblah7050
8 ай бұрын
Never hit anyone where they're weak period
@brandonalex5593
Жыл бұрын
A person should never hit someone in an open wound physically or figuratively
@edmondsaunders7165
Жыл бұрын
This is obvious, but she's talking about how she's kept her marriage intact for all of these decades. If you're married, you should understand how easy it is for most to go there in an argument.
@sampsonlittle7368
Жыл бұрын
That goes both ways.
@autumnskai6383
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely goes both ways... A mutual respect is necessary for any relationship, especially marriage. You don't go there and bring up something the person is insecure or struggling with.
@Wise114
Жыл бұрын
@@sampsonlittle7368 but we talking about man’s right now for this episode, listen to what her mom said for now
@cocochocookiedough
Жыл бұрын
A lot of people do that. I was punched and gang raped by all the members pf my family recently and some "friends". Only figuratively of course.
@crazytracy71
5 ай бұрын
The best advice for EVERY WOMAN! I'm a woman, n I've hit a man at his weakest point. I also learned, to NEVER do it again bc it's true. They never forget it, let alone, forgive it.
@MrDavorinho
10 ай бұрын
Out of thousands of available psychologists, couples "expert" videos and "charismatic" reunion folks, something honest and down to earth, good old simple plain respect.
@0KRJ0
Жыл бұрын
You have a true super power if you understand this woman
@YoungMoneyfast7Boss
Жыл бұрын
Truly
@vivianbraxton4941
Жыл бұрын
For real. This point right here is going to far if you ask me. He should t cause you to hit him where it hurts.
@Gazzza416
Жыл бұрын
But if you are able to not hit home where he is weak he will grow to love you with all his heary
@j1thegod
Жыл бұрын
@@vivianbraxton4941 nah. Many of y’all come from this complex of being physically weaker and insecure to where it makes you overcompensate in arguments. Idk if it’s power lust sometimes because you don’t truly know what it means to wield physically threatening power over others, which means you don’t know how to regulate power. I know a lot of men will relate
@j1thegod
Жыл бұрын
Coz I’ll add this, in most cases a man consciously withholds low blows in an argument in preventing the argument escalating unnecessarily. Y’all just be saying anything to feel right even if it means stooping.
@CharlesMacro
Жыл бұрын
I had a woman I really loved who would say evil things when she got mad. I told her no matter how mad I got I would never say hurtful things to a person I claim I love. I stick to the argument but never personally attack. You can't unsay things.
@tonysmith4091
Жыл бұрын
There in lies the difference between men and women brother. Men will stick to the argument and if we're wrong, we're wrong. Women will take something that has absolutely nothing to do with the argument and that is personal and that occured 3 years ago and will use it as an ad hominem attack on you when they know they have lost the argument just to get you angry and keep you off track logically.
@jamespulliam3672
Жыл бұрын
All facts
@silentecho8315
Жыл бұрын
I concure
@hnn8759
Жыл бұрын
Same brother
@danield1051
Жыл бұрын
So true you can apologize but you can never take back what you say because you already said it
@agustinhernandez7289
Жыл бұрын
On point. Anyone who kicks me while I’m down. I’ll chew them up, even if I’m down… right or wrong, I know where my heart and soul is 🙏🏿🙏🏽🙏🏻
@jm7578
Жыл бұрын
A spouse should not do that because after all’s said and done; once a barrier is crossed, coldness sets in.
@tigre9271
Жыл бұрын
This is sooo true. My husband got stopped for a DUI. He had a drink but wasn't drunk. The cops let him call me to pick up his car. And I said I'll be right there. He refused a breathalyzer. The cops explained everything to me and my husband said something that wasn't true that I can't remember. I just remember not contradicting him. They took him to the station and he took the breathalyzer there, and he tested NOT drunk. They let him go but he was still freaked out. He came home and apologized and also thanked me for not getting mad or yelling or scolding him (I never yell at him anyway, but I guess he felt it would be justified in this case). He just appreciated how I was calm and supported him and was there for him. Before the cops put him in the car, I asked the cops if I could hug him, which they let me do.
@FirstLast-pl3uv
Жыл бұрын
You're a great person. Everyone needs someone like that.
@tigre9271
Жыл бұрын
@@FirstLast-pl3uv Thank you.
@KingPhill87
Жыл бұрын
You asked the police to give you permission to hug him when he expected you to yell at him? Wow. Amazing.
@tigre9271
Жыл бұрын
@Phill Munyaradzi Yes. He was freaked out. He didn't need someone yelling at him (although I never yell at him anyway). But I also didn't want to come across as mad either. I just stayed calm and assured him I love him and it would be OK. And I would see him soon. I believe times of intense stress show who you really are and a test of a relationship. It was a scary incident, but we came out stronger for it.
@voltear
Жыл бұрын
Woooow, thats cool
@cantinandaba4419
Жыл бұрын
Never hit a man where he’s weak And never neglect a woman when she needs you
@dave3987
Жыл бұрын
Men have been told we’re not needed anymore because women are strong and independent. Chivalry is dead
@cantinandaba4419
Жыл бұрын
@@dave3987 chivalry is only dead when you stop doing it.
@putrik6498
Жыл бұрын
@@dave3987 we are strong and independent because we are neglected
@futureteacher7986
Жыл бұрын
@@dave3987Why can't men get this fact straight that women need men who respects them and emotionally support them.......money is not always the factor
@itchfinger
Жыл бұрын
Chivalry is died long ago, but good manners are dying too.
@CuriositySavedTheCat
11 ай бұрын
She had a good mother 💯
@maduro169
5 ай бұрын
My ex wife and got into an argument that started over me not wanting to go to church with her . She got so mad she yelled that our son was not my baby . She later calmed down an said she just wanted to hurt me and that she didn't mean it .I never forgot that .
@cwillboxer3413
Жыл бұрын
Facts, I still remember EVERYTHING that my ex said to me when I was struggling to make ends meet 😔
@alexanderrichie7968
Жыл бұрын
That shit don't leave you
@xedasxedas
Жыл бұрын
I'm just going to sit right here for a while.
@88trapordie
Жыл бұрын
@@alexanderrichie7968facts
@wordtothewise711
Жыл бұрын
Wife said some foul shit while we were in the car. It cut deeper than anything. Damn near lost focus. Had to pull over and just punch the steering wheel I was so pissed off. It doesn't go away. It just sits in a dark corner. And I know those words exist. If I say something I keep it on topic no matter what. But some women will pull out anything if it helps them take the spotlight off them. It's upsetting
@tray2885
Жыл бұрын
@@wordtothewise711keep your head up Brodie I be praying for you🙏🏾🙏🏾
@lemonhashberry5799
Жыл бұрын
Nope... it's truly sad so many men and women abuse their partners verbally. Same goes for parents to kids, family, etc...
@Pauwwhh
Жыл бұрын
Yes and then they act like everything is okay it’s disgusting
@captainrob9044
Жыл бұрын
Verbal abuse is barely touched on, if ever. Your word (choices) matter!
@kingdomofblk
Жыл бұрын
Especially the kids. This is why society has produced soft and abused adults because the parents were weak and abused themselves. The cycle of inflicting pain and despair on others while being in pain and despair, is real and will take God to bring deliverance. Heal the men, the women and the children Father in Jesus name.
@captainrob9044
Жыл бұрын
@@kingdomofblk I'm verbally self-abusive which is insane.
@Rae_Naeee
Жыл бұрын
Facts
@1God2savem3
7 ай бұрын
He never forgot. And ill never get close to his heart again. 💔
@bmo14lax
Жыл бұрын
I honestly have never heard someone be so smart and respectful about this point
@ElverGalarga58855
Жыл бұрын
"Everybody makes firewood from a fallen tree"
@chrischandler5746
Жыл бұрын
I'm stealing this
@andresmith3135
Жыл бұрын
This is the quote I needed to boss up thank you 🙏🏽
@detroitbling3417
Жыл бұрын
That quote right there! We’re all guilty if we don’t check ourselves. btw… I’m using this quote. 😉
@sofeyah8
Жыл бұрын
I know that’s right, The TRUTH will set us free if we let it~
@M_P26
Жыл бұрын
💯
@CWMalako91
Жыл бұрын
It all starts with love. If they don't love you they will attack your weaknesses and sleep like a baby right after.
@jvillain9946
Жыл бұрын
So a typical woman
@user-up4zi1do6p
Жыл бұрын
That's scary to even think that. Then you are sleeping with someone who doesn't have your back and eventually will turn on you.
@jamesdawson1171
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like my ex
@lisakaye3919
Жыл бұрын
Totally agree
@katcraig7525
Жыл бұрын
Yep. They will exploit them, then cheat on you.
@marywifey1russell
Ай бұрын
My momma always said NEVER say NEVER!
@Daniel_Popov
Жыл бұрын
All people have insecurities. We must trust and be genuine to each other.
@Alphadogg27
Жыл бұрын
Bruh. Shorties be acting like enemies when they get upset with us. I actually had to tell a girl in a previous relationship, “when you’re mad, you act and say things like you’re my enemy.” I said this after we made up from a 3/4 day argument session. I know it sunk in with her cus after I made her aware, she looked shocked and got really quiet and then said “you’re not my enemy.” Simple yall, either y’all fit or you don’t. But don’t fight it. And focus on yourself. The right one will come along and find you. Shorties will turn into a whole opp when they get mad… know when it’s time to go. this goes for women and men.
@sebk4980
Жыл бұрын
Real
@lostrhodes8244
Жыл бұрын
💯
@NorFam
Жыл бұрын
❤
@MrKingVulture
Жыл бұрын
Only wit tha sisters bro
@rahsunallah2825
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely true homie!
@mohammadfaiz9116
Жыл бұрын
I will just thank her for passing this immensely great message to next Generations.
@Z-gg3fc
Ай бұрын
Yea she is right. Goes for everyone . I know when I’m upset at someone I stick to the situation and talk about it , I never take their weakness and use it against them because I want to hurt them. Once this is done there is no turning back. Sadly I had this done to me and it really hurt. Because it came from someone I loved. Think before you speak people please.
@FirstLast-pl3uv
Жыл бұрын
She should do more podcasts. She's one of the realest people i've heard speak in a really, really, really long time.
@isaiahthomas4444
Жыл бұрын
Who is she?
@amariantiquity8543
Жыл бұрын
@@isaiahthomas4444 Judge Lynn Toler. She had her own TV show in early 00's
@miamiflutist
Жыл бұрын
I'm hoping when she decides on what to do, Judge does these here to connect with people and spread healing everywhere
@oerprd5529
Жыл бұрын
I think she just recently lost her husband too
@moeeshangpate6320
Жыл бұрын
@@isaiahthomas4444A REAL WOMAN
@stephenmurray9923
Жыл бұрын
ALLLLL MY LIFE, I never heard a Real WOMAN speak wisdom that touched my heart like she did. Love the soul! Bless You and Yours
@marskeelove4166
Жыл бұрын
And it's rare to speak up for men
@Jah_AP
Жыл бұрын
Facts
@Jah_AP
Жыл бұрын
@@marskeelove4166 facts smh
@HoMidontplaythat
Жыл бұрын
Girl it was the piano and the suspenseful music
@valentinered3657
Жыл бұрын
@@HoMidontplaythat 😂😂😂😂 Im dead asf and they really added the dark filter 😭
@TheRedverb
Жыл бұрын
This applies to all those you know in all relationships. It’s difficult to do at first but my god does it literally become the source of beauty and peace with the other person (s).
@eugene7101
11 ай бұрын
I opened up about my weaknesses to my husband and I trusted him. But later I found out he had shared even small things between us to his mother. And she started attacking me with those . I found out she was a narcissistic lady and he was fully in control of her. They literally blamed me for small reasons. And I felt sick and stressed. I was going in depression. But luckily my parents saved me from there. It was 2 years ago. But those incidents never leaves from my mind. Because I believed he was loyal and faithful in our marriage but turned out like this. If someone came to my life again , I don't think I can fully trust and show my weaknesses to that person.
@osasenagadominion7668
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the words of wisdom, never hit a woman where her weakness is too. If a man breaks easily let alone a woman. I wish we treat one another with love and care.
@livingwithbipolar2
Жыл бұрын
Men intentionally & unintentionally hit women in their weaknesses all the time. Neither are right.
@bippitybopitybooty1127
Жыл бұрын
I really truly believe this comes down to respect, and it's still a huge value of the southeast where I come from. You respect your parents and authority figures. You respect your spouse. You even respect your children.
@jov2172
Жыл бұрын
Amen
@christelwilk6166
Жыл бұрын
@@bippitybopitybooty1127 Agreed, but your children have to respect you first, that is more important.
@noname54eeee
Жыл бұрын
This is conversation about men not women...
@heniwirihana6322
Жыл бұрын
"Love does not dishonor others"
@corwinroberts4756
Жыл бұрын
Then he will remain weak if you don't say anything.
@erhiueQWEF
Жыл бұрын
@@corwinroberts4756well it's ok to talk about him but the woman in the clip is saying not to use his weakness to hurt him.
@fmarobase5343
Жыл бұрын
@@corwinroberts4756 "You can get him to do what you need him to do"... Meaning there are other ways to rise his awareness of the weakness and work on it, WITHOUT HITTING HIM where he's weak.
@erichughes8723
Жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏 to that..
@ARandomPerson--
Жыл бұрын
I like that energy. Keep it. Scream it from the roof tops so everybody knows what you are.
@kaceekacee6572
Жыл бұрын
Same advise for anyone ... Never hit anyone where they are weak.
@user-wo3iq9re7f
5 ай бұрын
What if that's all he does to you? He constantly uses your weaknesses to control you, manipulate you, gaslight you, day in & day out. So malicious is his intent that you were not even aware of it until 10yrs after marriage, you finally were able to take a trip away from him. Which opened your eyes & changed your perspective for the first time in 12yrs. I'm going to say balance is the only thing to even the field out now. Rare, but true.
@Sene_-wf2py
Ай бұрын
What is this comment? Leave wtf
@zaygfazinetto
Жыл бұрын
Her momma was a wise woman 💯
@poeticnation6251
Жыл бұрын
Facts!!!
@ladylightvybe4138
Жыл бұрын
That is absolute truth & allows him to maintain his dignity. When you love someone, you support them, not pull them down.
@daianaxi1295
Жыл бұрын
Shut up
@markmessi9020
Жыл бұрын
Narcissists have entered the chat
@Shaolin91z
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Lord for your peace Thanks Lord for your salvation Thanks Lord single no kids
@shelleycarrell-fq4mj
11 ай бұрын
A woman never forgets either
@Jude13able
Ай бұрын
A man never forgets either
@jujubee2903
Күн бұрын
And men need to apply this ideal when it comes to women aswell. It goes both ways.
@scotoftheanarchic.7903
Жыл бұрын
That's so true, you can forgive but you can never forget. It's a low blow to hit anyone so hard nevermind someone who's "supposed" to love and care about you. Respect is the most important thing in a relationship it can endure anything but if there's no respect forget it.🏴
@andreneal282009
Жыл бұрын
respect is the most important thing to a man. it's more important than love or sex. A man will never truly feel like a man without respect. Respect is needed by your woman as well but to her the number one thing she needs is that you are the provider. it's not the only thing needed but that is number one. ijs
@jackboyholla4002
Жыл бұрын
Facts respect and trust if you ain’t got those you got nothing
@number1fan262
Жыл бұрын
@@andreneal282009 not sure what country you live in, but, as a woman, I speak for the majority of us who don't usually need a man to be a "provider". We need & would rather he be PRESENT and a PROTECTOR - both and especially emotionally.
@rayajayce2034
Жыл бұрын
@@number1fan262 than you're lucky you haven't been broken yet in the hospital while having his kids. USA: number one out of all developed nations for neonatal, infant and maternal injury and death (and lack of patient rights is the main contributor of this). Once you're that broken and traumatized, you have no choice but to need a "provider." And there i was just thinking I needed someone present.
@rayajayce2034
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, whomever reported the pedophile before I did.
@jeffreynapisa122
Жыл бұрын
That's called respect, that's what else man call respect... You never hit anyone where you know their weakness is no matter who they are
@sed8181
Жыл бұрын
This is why men don’t hit below the belt or claw at eyes even when we get into fights with our enemies. Every time I’ve seen a woman fight, they go for weaknesses. You cannot do things like that if you want the relationship to succeed. Man or woman it doesn’t matter, respect needs to be reciprocated.
@_Hollie_
Жыл бұрын
@@sed8181yep if you dont want someone to do the same to you then dont do it to them. Im a big believer in karma, not in the sense that you get it back but that your actions will always come back to you. If your feeding out negativity, eventually thats all the university will give you back.
@JadeTokier
Жыл бұрын
@sed8181 you've got to be kidding me. You've met every man? I've mer plenty of men who do just that.
@wetshart5860
Жыл бұрын
@@JadeTokiermen don’t pull hair and claw faces like women do in fights, don’t make things up just because you’re offended, why don’t you make like a man and grow a pair😂😂😂
@jackmurphy8696
Жыл бұрын
It's tougher for women to learn the basics of human decency but they can learn. Usually takes their life having some amount of struggle for them to get it.
@kw1384
10 ай бұрын
Yes, I believe this. I have never hit my Husband below the belt! Why would I and he is the provider and MY King in our house. This would make him feel as if he is not enough for me and that he couldn't provide for his family. We all have weaknesses but I can have a conversation when we not angry or having a disagreement.❤
@sicembrace
Жыл бұрын
I don't let anyone in that deep to tell or show them my weakness. Trusting the wrong ones will get you to trust no one!!
@RichieBagoDonuts
Жыл бұрын
Your mother is a sage. I hear the same in You. Well Said!
@natsiejewelry654
Жыл бұрын
Love and support out black men ♥️💚🖤🇭🇹🔥👍🏽
@angelsbackgroundsounds
Жыл бұрын
my grandma from my dad and mom side was the same lol thats why 1 got chop in her head with a matchette and the other run out the house by her husband with a shotgun lmao yaa these women sage af not me though lmao
@washthehateoff7233
Жыл бұрын
Your mother was truly something magical.
@tremell7559
Жыл бұрын
She wasn't magical for not being a piece of 💩
@koreypaul6698
Жыл бұрын
🤩🤩
@krishansingh-ji8tp
3 ай бұрын
The first time I seen a woman be kind to a man😊
@DeepakSingh-wt3bt
Жыл бұрын
Never hit someone on their weakness, especially when they can hit back at you.
@victoro1373
Жыл бұрын
Could recall when I said loud to this girl “I am not your enemy” cos it literally felt like it. Folks need to learn there are certain attitudes you don’t throw off with your partner, no matter how mad you are, it hurts cos they consider you to be a safe space.
@indiradeja4218
Жыл бұрын
Both ways
@MrMAGisG
Жыл бұрын
Goddamn i felt that. I want a partner not a combatant 🥊
@Rae_Naeee
Жыл бұрын
This!!!! That’s how I felt with my ex husband! Felt like I was in a land mine when he would come home! I felt like a unnecessary enemy!
This is absolutely true. And I wouldn't attack my lady where she's weakest either in an argument, never. If you love someone you shouldn't want to intentionally inflict upon them pain. And I could never be with someone who would attack me where I'm lost vulnerable just cause we're in an argument. I'd end the relationship right there because the trust and respect is gone.
@HIGH_noon
Жыл бұрын
yeah but most men dont or wont do that to women unless pushed and pushed to breaking point... alot of women feel like one little slight toward them is freedom to go all out on how he this or that, the weak shit... cuz they know we cant resort to violence against them even tho they know its right there and at any time could just come out. patrice oneal had the best story explaining this... a woman and him got into some road rage shit and he was like she knows she can get away with all this reckless behavior as female but what would happen if i just rage mode on her ass pulled her out the car i bet that tone would change immediatly but the fact she knows that i cant lets her walk around like she a man.
@ItsMoya15
Жыл бұрын
Frl bro
@brianbloomfield4384
Жыл бұрын
Y would parents do that ?
@theosaka69
Жыл бұрын
Great advice.
@justinberg3616
Жыл бұрын
She’s specifically talking about being with a man tho. You just weakened what she said.
@andrewdowns3673
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, a girl or a woman should never hit a man in his chestnuts. That spot where we men are weak is a no no.
@C.D.V.92
Жыл бұрын
This woman is so wise, my hat is off to you ma'am.
@couldntcareless2602
Жыл бұрын
We need more Queens like this to be influencing this generation
@FrankWolenczak
Жыл бұрын
Judge Lynne Toller, she used to do Divorce Court
@SethKash
Жыл бұрын
Your momma was very insightful. I like this thank you.
@shawngordon6626
Жыл бұрын
YOU WRIGHT EBONY ❤❤❤
@alibaptiste687
10 ай бұрын
Words of wisdom! No lies detected here 😎
@jb76489
7 күн бұрын
Women today: I’m gonna pretend I didn’t hear that
@positivelygrowing12321
Жыл бұрын
Two people a man never forgets. The one who crossed him. And the one who never left his side.
@s.w.3476
Жыл бұрын
FACTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!STAND ON IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@Hadeshands
Жыл бұрын
💯
@cashmoney6935
Жыл бұрын
This goes for everyone not just men
@marigoldbeam5475
Жыл бұрын
Not true. People take kindness and loyalty for granted all the time.
@BabalonNuit
Жыл бұрын
Plenty of men have dumped "the one who never left his side". Plenty of women have "stood by their man"- and got this particular kick in the teeth from him. Let's not paint men as these "wronged saints" shall we? After all we have 2000 YEARS of men shitting on women...they are just getting the treatment they doled out to women back in THEIR teeth.
@lucydoe1334
Жыл бұрын
My Korean mother told me the exact same thing. Words of wisdom transcends all boundaries.
@PisceanDesigner
Жыл бұрын
Yes it does. Wise women have no boundaries. Their words travel from one end of the earth to the other. 🙌🏾
@royal_eternal
Жыл бұрын
❤
@jaquicx9500
Жыл бұрын
If you do not tell them about their weaknesses so that they can get an outside perspective, and they do not know they exist, then they can never turn their greatest weaknesses into their greatest strengths.
@alexandrucornel9221
Жыл бұрын
@@jaquicx9500 men are fully aware of their own weaknessess, there is no need to tell them about them, because sometimes the consequences can be fatal
@vogelfaenger6830
Жыл бұрын
@@jaquicx9500 do you know how to tell your man his weakness and how he can make this weakness into a strength? You don't. And even if you think otherwise the probability that you are right is too tiny. So you don't.
@angelximara6566
Жыл бұрын
Excellent advice. That’s innate in some of us women to never ever berate a man. We are the weaker vessels but they need our love and support and to have their back.
@futureteacher7986
Жыл бұрын
Who said women are weaker??
@Billionairemindset_777
10 ай бұрын
It's a powerful reminder that empathy and respect should guide our actions. Choosing kindness over cruelty leaves a lasting positive impact that's impossible to forget. Thank you for sharing this wisdom.
@7learthur
Жыл бұрын
That’s a real woman right there 💯
@samanthashannon221
5 күн бұрын
You had a wise mother. Not all of us are blessed with that kind of mother. I pray by the grace of God I can pass this type of wisdom on to my daughter's
@ferinawega9280
5 ай бұрын
Respect to each other as a couple ❤❤
@protoman1214
Жыл бұрын
Nothing hurts more than someone you admire, love and respect exploiting a weakness to get back at you. Edit: my comment’s take away is to be mindful of your loved ones feeling, yet it started a war between Misandrists and Misogynist. Stop pointing the finger at each other and take a long hard look at yourselves….
@emmanuelwilliams2959
Жыл бұрын
Facts
@r.m.90
Жыл бұрын
Males have feelings? That's new.
@tristanblackmon7161
Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@yeahman2312
Жыл бұрын
@@r.m.90 people have feelings. Whether its male or female you don’t say things to taunt people’s weaknesses. This woman proactively lifts her man up. And men cherish that in a world that breaks us down
@r.m.90
Жыл бұрын
@YeahMan23 Yes, because males are always victims. Life is peaches and cream for women 🙄
@karac.5294
Жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂 my mom has definitely demonstrated the complete opposite … but I see how it has affected my dad. I love him so much I can’t imagine making him feel any less of a man because he’s an amazing one. I’ll definitely be doing differently ❤ live n learn
@haniyaali8835
Жыл бұрын
Exactly same experience had here. I've learnt what not to do to my partner, from my mum.
@neugyenculmer2597
Жыл бұрын
You guys are wise women because i actually learned from my dad not to make his mistakes then i realize i had to learn from mummy to.. so I can adjust because its mutual none of them was perfect. Damb... serious world.. cause they to had to learn!
@mariafrondoso1542
Жыл бұрын
@@neugyenculmer2597 o
@jakebaldwin7172
Жыл бұрын
@Not only a member But the president you've never had sex
@marcusjones5287
Жыл бұрын
@ not only, that woman was not trying to fill a void. She is a controlling person and found and married the one man who would allow her to control the relationship..
@Imustbefromanotherplanet
Жыл бұрын
This advice should be for Men and Women. And when people give this type of advice, they fail to specify that a Woman should only give this type of grace to Men who are good, emotionally healthy, and that treats his Woman with respect. Some Women are trying to give these values to a toxic relationship. Men too
@brendanhayward1803
Жыл бұрын
Your mother taught you well! Hats off to her
@Felipe-zl1rj
Жыл бұрын
Don't have weaknesses. The only weakness is to be emotionally affectable by what other people do or say.
@twill5077
Жыл бұрын
No one should he hitting where another is weak. It's totally unnecessary and neither party forgets it.
@kennyhardy1884
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely! The objective is to build not destroy
@sylviaj270
Жыл бұрын
Right. That is like kicking someone when they are down.
@konkoor881
Жыл бұрын
well it’s for different reasons for females you can’t do that because one she will lose respect for you, second you want her to rely on you, and u want her to admire and respect you and you don’t want her to feel bad it’s mens job to make sure women feels safe and peace and for women it’s their job to make mens lives easier and nurture
@linkueicatastrophe9727
Жыл бұрын
That's literally a warfare tactic. It has no place in a relationship lol
@konkoor881
Жыл бұрын
@@BrockGarrett-fm9he well that's what YOU think there's only one truth and men protect, women support and nurture that's how it goes. simple.
@kauffrau6764
Жыл бұрын
Best advice. Protect each other’s weaknesses.
@itzmezelio5433
5 ай бұрын
I recently made a comment to an ex-friend of mine. Told him it’s hard for me to be friends with people who are unfaithful (he always cheats on his gf) at the time I didn’t realize the impact of what I said was but it must have sent him into a rage. Shortly after he devised a plan to start a situation where he knew I would react to him. After that he drug my name threw the mud at my workplace. Some people are evil, but be careful to point those things out to them. They would rather be evil than make a positive change for themselves or even worse. They’ll change after they destroyed you for reminding them that they have things to work on.
@wmcguire1979
6 ай бұрын
She's too right. We don't forget.
@martymaesin8316
Жыл бұрын
Wow, that came from the heart.
@AlexAdam-sp5ri
Жыл бұрын
Not from the Heart. That came from Wisdom
@LocoCloco
Жыл бұрын
@@AlexAdam-sp5riit came from both the heart & wisdom! 🙌
@TabithaBenjamin
5 ай бұрын
He will hit you where you're weak tho.....for sure. Treat them how they treat you. Period. Show them themselves.
@EATFREEDOM_BATMAN
5 ай бұрын
When I was 14 I learned a valuable lesson. Women would do anything to win an argument, win a disagreement. They’d do anything. They use your weaknesses, they use your insecurities, they know how to break your confidence. Break your stride. Take what little power you could have left. Break your heart. When you realize that, you know the homies mean more than the hoes.
@HigherSelfCompanion
Жыл бұрын
Love your spouses. Love them the way they need to be loved. 🙏🏾
@frankspikes7858
Жыл бұрын
Love, encourage, motivate.
@HigherSelfCompanion
Жыл бұрын
@Free Spirit 💯
@marymeeks6680
Жыл бұрын
@higher self...love them the way they deserve
@ShanecaRene
Жыл бұрын
I really liked her and her husband together..may he RIP 🙏🙏
@stevenboyd5625
Жыл бұрын
Who's is she ?
@quadayy
Жыл бұрын
Who is she??
@milesdiontre
Жыл бұрын
@@stevenboyd5625 Judge Lynn Toler
@Choice711
Жыл бұрын
@@stevenboyd5625 She was a Judge on one of those courtroom tv shows and that's how she was on her show and it showed, maybe that's why she ain't on no more, her evenhanded realness and respect showed. Also she was humorous and always beautiful.
@ShanecaRene
Жыл бұрын
Y'all thank you for answering those who inquired about Judge Toler..KZitem gave 0 cares about giving me a notification that someone replied to my comment 😑
@Hjea
Ай бұрын
How come everytime something is about men specifically, people quick to jump to say its not only men. Like, this is about men, dont change the topic yall 🤨
@Youre_wrong913
Жыл бұрын
Everyone trying to say something about a woman. It's not about you this time ladies.
@godisgood117
Жыл бұрын
As a single father of 4 and 2 failed relationships..u never let a women disrespect u..and as a man u never stoop to a scorned woman's level..this woman is a QUEEN
@brikskwadmafia6526
Жыл бұрын
absolutely bro. my ex and i had children and always would bash me in front of them and abuse me in so many ways around them and told me ill never be a good father. we broke up. she got evicted with the kids caught a felony charge for assaulting a police officer now shes on the run to a different state and now the kids are traveling the country with her on the run meeting random men on the way. dhs got involved and now im more than likely getting my kids. the kids are everything to her but she doesnt deserve them. this quote couldnt be more true!
@Alice45894
Жыл бұрын
True, toxic femininity is as real as toxic masculinity
@YeshuaKingMessiah
Жыл бұрын
Ofc u let them As they let u It’s called marriage And u learn to get thru things Not run away And u DO forgive, not hold grudges That’s called Grown Up
@godisgood117
Жыл бұрын
@@brikskwadmafia6526 I'm sooo sorry u and ur babies gotta go through that brother..got a knot in my throat just readin..i prayed for the best for ur children which is #1..God bless u
@godisgood117
Жыл бұрын
@@YeshuaKingMessiah ur right to an extent..i couldn't handle it
@mylegacytransformed
Жыл бұрын
I’ve often said it in these words: “do not ever bruise a man’s ego; not even a young boy’s ego-it sets the stage for his current & future personal & professional success”
@aybojackson
Жыл бұрын
THIS that “ yAlL duDEs hOlD oNtO gETtIn hEaRTbRokEN iN 4/5th gRaDE & tuRN sAVagE, nEVa trUsT a bItCh AgaIN iN yO liFE. 4L “🗣😭🗣🤣 Deadass though. It’s the 1st examples & memorabilia of what/here OUR version of that warm, pure, unconditional, vulnerable, starter-kit typa love, got us🤞🏾
@raheemcamal998
Жыл бұрын
@@aybojackson facts
@kaylacarter8766
Жыл бұрын
Yikes
@mylegacytransformed
Жыл бұрын
@@aybojackson people do need to learn to walk in their healing to effectively move forward in personal and professional relationships
@aybojackson
Жыл бұрын
@@mylegacytransformed SAME-TEAM
@jonathanmelendez1163
11 ай бұрын
I’ve been with my wife for almost 14 years, i tend to give people the benefit of the doubt and have grown to not waste time on arguments over money or bad services. She wanted me to get loud through the phone on someone that couldn’t ultimately fix the issue. And I didn’t and was called a pussy. I haven’t forgotten that exact moment, time ,place, and how she said it for almost a year now. It shattered my confidence and made me question if she felt like I can’t provide and/or protect my family. It’s 2 am and this is hitting too deep.
@Amon_The_Black_Demon
Ай бұрын
Her mama raised her right.
@luvelyjay
Жыл бұрын
It’s the same for a woman… she may forgive but she NEVER forgets.
@Joyinthemorn
Жыл бұрын
Facts
@tsukujinaan4381
Жыл бұрын
Whataboutism. Never fails.
@TheMan-qv1bl
Жыл бұрын
True but not the same. A man’s pride is different. A woman who foolishly does so risk her life over it.
@annemarielaluna9350
Жыл бұрын
@@TheMan-qv1bl yeah, that's actually men's weakness. Their pride.
@NicholasVictor-cz1lq
2 ай бұрын
No,this rule is especially for mens ,not women.
@torotoofly8931
Жыл бұрын
My mother recently did this to me, crazy to think exactly how i felt and will continue to feel is exactly what she said. Really isn’t about man or woman ever, it’s about respect for another human being
@timetravelingoldman6839
Жыл бұрын
Men and women have different brains. It sticks with us because we are prideful.
@onlypostthebest6104
Жыл бұрын
This comment should have 1 million likes
@IRunYou
Жыл бұрын
@Time Traveling Old Man um no not every man is prideful, most men will feel hurt about it because the person they're supposed to trust and spend the rest of their life with is using his weaknesses to hurt him or put him down
@sdude0572
7 ай бұрын
It scientifically would hurt a man more due to how a man mentally works but regardless it’s still fucked up no matter who ever it is
@MarkGriswold000
5 ай бұрын
Wow, real wisdom
@witchesbrew2136
5 күн бұрын
🙄😳🤗. Mama gave the best advice.... This shows that the Judge was raised right.. and she has worked to educate and raise others right in her court... Quality Lady..Valued Woman. 💖💐💖💐💖💐💖💐..
@chrisgreen1989
Жыл бұрын
Sheeesh I feel that. My ex called me unreliable and weak because I wasn't paying 100% of her bills while trying to fix her broke ass house using all my money to pay everything I could. I had ZERO money for me or myself. I put all my enjoyment on hold to save money to fix her shit. I stood up to her one day when she said I was unreliable and she couldn't believe I didn't pay for everything. She told me I had to quit working out because I was trying to impress other women, I had to quit running, I quit fishing, I dedicated all my time and money to fixing her life. And not mine. She decided to kick me out and I looked at her and said "okay I'll see ya later " now I make 64k a year, I workout, I got a better car, better house, enrolled back in school for another bachelor's, and I still walk into that grocery store she works at and don't say shit to her. But I make sure she notices me. Whose unreliable now. All she had to do was go 50/50 when I begged for help. But nooooo she had other plans. I shoulda known shit was gone when the kisses changed.
@KonohazFinest
Жыл бұрын
Bro we're situation twins lol but also I'm truly glad it worked out for you in the end.
@troysimmons2742
Жыл бұрын
God got a real one for you bro pray and stay solid God got you!!
@chrisgreen1989
Жыл бұрын
@@KonohazFinest what about you? How are you doing. Things looking up for you friend?
@chrisgreen1989
Жыл бұрын
@@troysimmons2742 hey friend I really appreciate it. I keep my head up so I can pay attention to the greatness I will create :) no looking behind, no looking down. I will be the success and greatness I achieve.
@troysimmons2742
Жыл бұрын
Yes sir all is well my bro God is good 👍 🙏
@papayo8178
Жыл бұрын
Men feel loved through respect, women feel respected through love.
@kennethwoods2071
Жыл бұрын
Exactly and if you don't respect he will never love you.and that's is his weakness for you but if you use that against him you have messed up.
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