His ass realized it's a 24 hour job, no breaks, no sick days and at min. 18 yr contact!
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
Agreed 💯 he realized it's actually a really hard job! 😅
@LadyLark712
3 ай бұрын
18 year? Hah! I know for a fact that it’s a For Life Contract! They never stop being your kid. This is forever.😎
@nerdyluma
3 ай бұрын
No he clearly wanted this from the beginning but masqueraded under your percived agreement in the hopes that you would have the child and that he could coerce you later into changing your mind. It probably has something to do with the values he grew up with being challenged by the reality he’s living.
@lolafairchild88
3 ай бұрын
Compromise on sending the baby to daycare, or let him know that your daughter will be in daycare while you work and live separately until he learns to keep his word.
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
Good idea! I agree that's probably the best option!
@ms.xfolsha1427
3 ай бұрын
Either he was lying and planned to spring this on her. Or his friends started clowning him and making fun of him for wanting to be a stay at home dad and it crushed his ego so now he's taking his friends disrespect out on her because he blames her for the simplicity of her carrying the baby and being the mother of it and utilizing his friends words as ammunition to further his point.
@jezebelproudfoot4976
3 ай бұрын
He’s using power dynamics against you b/c he’s threatened by your power & income potential. Me thinks his male friends are probably also razzing him about being a housewife & less of a man. She shd leave him if he’s truly weaponizing motherhood against her. What a weasley coward.
@mikaelarangel7028
3 ай бұрын
No he made a choice and what is done is done he needs to learn how to honor a promise plus he hates his hob when you like it
@Saturnsdragons
3 ай бұрын
I feel like he figured out how much he would have to do around the house and now doesn’t want to do all of that work and instead go back to his easy life in the office
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
Completely agreed!! He was regretting his decision! 💯
@whateversclevers2640
3 ай бұрын
Ooooh this got me thinking ok Gurl keep ya job and drop ya mans he ain't being supportive periodt drop him like a bad habit ain't no body got time for that women can thrive and should be creative he is acting out I'm sorry you are going through that queen don't let ur crown slip
@maryannazurin2322
3 ай бұрын
I've always thought being a house parent is the hardest thing to do. He did 2 months of it and was like, heck no i would rather have 2 jobs than do this...
@tiahc3
3 ай бұрын
If you believe that he did want to stay home with the baby but has now changed his mind there might be someone at the office he's interested in. He is trying to manipulate you into staying home! You are not the AH, he is. Single parents don't have the luxury of staying home and any working parent shouldn't feel guilty for wanting to work to provide for their child. Do research daycares in your area, ask coworkers with children if they have any recommendations, what do they like or dislike about their daycares. If you quit & stay home he can divorce you and you have no income to hire a lawyer to fight for you.
@donnitapatterson-brown1652
3 ай бұрын
The husband is working on his last year before his retirement.
@forevertai7976
3 ай бұрын
NTA. Someone got in his ear and now he's feeling insecure in his manhood.
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
Shoot I didn't think about that! 🤔
@reyanicole94
3 ай бұрын
Pay the grandparents to quit and hire them. Win win.
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
😅😅😅 sounds good
@southerngypsy1894
3 ай бұрын
This is what happens when a parent figures out that being a parent requires work and a new born doesn't sleep all day.
@summertime3160
3 ай бұрын
He's having an affair. No keep that job!
@helllloree
3 ай бұрын
He for sure wanted the post partem to kick in and her end up going submissive on his insecure masculinity @$$
@kendrabaker4271
3 ай бұрын
This is such an interpersonal issue and in order to properly get an idea of how the dynamics work in the relationship a person would have to truly know the individuals. Postpartum is it sensitive time, before pregnancy and after pregnancy people have different life goals and can see life in different lights. If you have been staying home for two or three months then it was an entire year ago that you got pregnant and it could be that having a theoretical arrangement did not line up with reality. It could also be that the guy was being a douche bag.
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
They literally post these on Reddit for the public to judge... And I love to read and I have always been a storyteller so this is just something that I thought would be perfect for me..... I wouldn't use people's personal stories unless they wanted them to be public...... So please don't try and make it sound like I'm doing something that's not right...... It's understandable if you don't enjoy the content but this is something that I love to do! Thank you for watching. 😊
@kendrabaker4271
3 ай бұрын
I apologize if I sounded like I was on the attack. I love your voice, you read what you want, but I would continue listening if it wasn’t controversial personal stuff. I guess it is they’re choice. I worry because negative input can do so much damage when uninvited and some ppl use negativity to get views. I didn’t realize the situation. I will edit my comment. Peace sister ❤
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
@@kendrabaker4271 it's all good! Tbh I wish there was more I could read but literally everyone has a copyright and i don't make enough to pay to read these stories so I'm stuck reading stuff from Reddit! 😭 Maybe one day I'll start doing audiobooks! I'd love that! But either way thank you for being here! Check out my Instagram if you are more interested in the art! No stories there! 🥰
@kendrabaker6622
3 ай бұрын
I do really enjoy your art too! Have you heard of fiver? You can get ppl to write for you for $5 and if you want you can direct the content! Keep it up and you could definitely do audiobooks! Let me know when you do! ❤
@J_WheelerDoll30
3 ай бұрын
He is probably having a hard time adjusting. Nonetheless, I would rather get some extra help until that adjustment to pass.
@endeeray4295
3 ай бұрын
1)Husbands ego is getting in the way or he's been hiding narcissist agenda 2) he needs a finance class, the one who makes most should go back to work, there's bills to pay!
@donnitapatterson-brown1652
3 ай бұрын
Tell him that you will hire someone to come into the home to watch the baby and he can cover the bill. When he starts to see how much it costs to pay someone, he will change his mind.
@TabbyQ.9563
3 ай бұрын
If he wants to work, he should. But he can't mandate you to relinquish your job. This is what day care is for. And with two salaries, maybe even hire a nanny.
@Bianca0414
3 ай бұрын
Compromise with him, and don't tell the whole Internet about your family problems because you'd be surprised how many people would prefer you to be unhappy,single and poor!
@Rose-yi3uy
3 ай бұрын
NTA. I just don’t understand why doesn’t he see if his job will allow him to work from home so he could take care of the baby while working until she comes back from work?
@donnitapatterson-brown1652
3 ай бұрын
He better stop tap dancing around and man up. After my husband finished his military service, I joined the Army we had 2 children and my first duty station was Germany, my family joined me, so who was going to keep the children? My husband! The boys were 2 & 3 yrs old. When they started getting older he started keeping the neighbors children. Our house stayed filled with kids. Before and after school. I used to have to force kid's to go home when I got home. Our children loved having their dad home, he felt like it was a very rewarding experience, today our youngest of 4 is 30 and the oldest is 36, now I've been retired for 14 yrs and Im spending time with the 5 grandchildren.
@MasterOogway451
3 ай бұрын
Why do the mothers always have to stay at home even when the father wanted to have the child? She was pregnant for nine months and then gave birth after labouring for probably multiple hours. Isn't that enough?
@trishatate327
3 ай бұрын
I don't believe it's as nefarious as what some people believe, I think he thought being a stay-at-home parent was something he could do, and realized after the baby was born it was more difficult than he anticipated it being. If I were the mother, I wouldn't be comfortable leaving the baby with him, Maybe find a nanny or or put baby into daycare. Then counseling would be in order to ensure he wasn't baby trapping her
@gezellelasche4930
3 ай бұрын
He doesn't want to be perceived as less of a man by his coworkers. By being Mr Mom. Ask him to try for a few months. He may change his mind. I'd not offer to pay grandparents and they can take turns. So they can still enjoy working or retirement.
@tamumongillo45
3 ай бұрын
Nanny
@roscoelittledog
3 ай бұрын
Nope!
@KrystinaTorres
3 ай бұрын
No you’re not. He is for changing out of the blew and not explaining why. Communication is important, and he needs to respect independent woman, as well as take full responsibility for what he promised he said he would do to help you in the first place.
@AllenTax
3 ай бұрын
Nope,but he is the wrong. I van only guess he is insecure. That you do and get more. He comes off to want you to fot the old female role model. Stay home,not work outside of home & do everything at home.🙄
@angelamarie727
3 ай бұрын
I mean I get guys egos don't like them being the one staying home not working but there is nothing wrong with it as long as it fits the family dynamic. I can say at least he's not a free loader n just expecting her to work so he can stay home!!
@donnavalliere8722
3 ай бұрын
NTA he broke the agreement, get her a Nanny and go back to work.
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
Sounds about right 💯😅
@angelamarie727
3 ай бұрын
If they both want to work then they should both be able to work. This shouldn't be an issue. My husband was a stay at home dad for a while cause I had a better job. He never gave me shit. Yea he wanted to go back to work and voiced it a lot but when time was right he went to work and got a way better paying job. Sounds like this guy was just trying to trap her fr. Lawyers make good money. Let her at least work to save for a while. He can look for a better job or go back to school so he can be the soul provider down the road!!!
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
Good point!! Idk why he would just try to change plans like that! Seems sketchy! They definitely can both work! He can't call her a bad mom for wanting to work!
@angelamarie727
3 ай бұрын
@ResinateByChanel no one is a bad mom for wanting to provide for their family especially when she has a real profession. I mean I could get if she was like a bar tender and wanted to just spend time in bars or whatever. But she's a lawyer. They can at least let her work a couple years to save money until he can find something equivalent or of more value. The last thing u wants as a mother is have kids and constantly struggle and not be able to provide properly... if he really wanted to work he would he doing something to better himself and make more money so then she wouldn't feel as obligated to work. He's trying to settle for a minimum wage job I don't blame her what so ever!!! If he wants to work also then he should be trying to find family a nanny or a sitter if it's that big of a deal! I honestly think guys think it's an easy job n now he got a taste of that 24-7 workload n he's like nope u can do it. That's the only reason I can see him trying to go back on their agreement. Or he trapped her... period
@user-le4gi3it6o
3 ай бұрын
No
@Bestiesforever_1
3 ай бұрын
I don't wanna like cus it's 444
@ResinateByChanel
3 ай бұрын
Get it to 555 😂😂😂
@ahayahschild7268
3 ай бұрын
He wants to be the man nothing wrong with that! However he has to get in a better financial position to do that! He's still the head no matter how much money you make!!!
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