Hey guys I hope this motivates you to a lot of success! For my complete online dating course, check out: toddoda.com
@jischkebd
Жыл бұрын
Online dating is going to change dramatically with artificial intelligence and machine learning.
@johnlockegg7095
Жыл бұрын
The downside of online game is that all apps are rigged against men to incentivize them to spend money. You may get no matches, while even ugly girls can't run away from constant matches. If that is the only reference for your attractiveness, it will hurt your confidence a lot. But online game is not a real reflection of your attractiveness.
@ZanderHolt
Жыл бұрын
Is the Online Dating Academy still up? When I click on it it just takes me to an infield video. There is nothing talking about the Academy or how it works.
@atheistcory4174
Жыл бұрын
No matter how you sell it, online dating is appalling for men. I have always found younger, more attractive women in the real world than online. Also there is no control online. In real life you can " force" a reaction from the woman in front of you by presenting yourself. Online, women can just ignore you.
@jasonashley9853
Жыл бұрын
Totally agree. It's abysmal. How is it that so many women in the real world can regard me as attractive and yet online it's crickets? Meanwhile my female coworker is like a 5 and talks to 5 men at once from OLD. Even less attractive women than her can have success there.
@csakzozo
Жыл бұрын
Don't know what to say... It's pretty easy to pull girls online tbh. Sometimes don't even bother with a date. Come over, have a glass of wine and it's done. Ofc I won't marry any of them, but I wouldn't say it's appaling....
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
@@csakzozo I bet you're 25, ripped and have pictures skydiving, surfing and driving a Ferrarri. That's not most men tho.
@csakzozo
Жыл бұрын
@@kebman I'm 38, divorced at the beginning of the year. I did start getting into shape. I don't drive a Ferrari, I did paraglide when I was 28-30 or so but don't have any such pictures like that. Just have decent pictures. Not saying those are the hottest girls tbh, but they're decent and wouldn't be ashamed being seen with them in public. Decent self confidence boost too, after loosing 10 years in a marriage, I still can get 20 something yearolds. 🙏 Just have good text game and be confident. The hardest part is to match really cause a few pictures are doing all the talking
@shun23
Жыл бұрын
@@csakzozoYou said it, the hardest part is to match as most women got very picky with Tinder and online apps thatnthe avg looking dad bod guy is out of the gene pool for good! Not saying being fat or out of shape is a good thing or you have an excuse for that but once you get past 30 it is way harder to stay in shape. Also how are you gonna get good at text game wo practice if you dont even get a match bc all these gym bros are hoarding all the attention of the chicks there?!
@litedawg
Жыл бұрын
I disagree , there are tons of rejections online. I’ve had plenty of good fun conversations going and then next thing you know it’s gone. Ghosted or just no response at all. It’s definitely rejection.
@dr.strange6458
Жыл бұрын
you gotta show up with a nice whip
@renegadezen7841
Жыл бұрын
But he is saying he gets rejected before the meet up by girls randomly going ghost which I'll agree...happens all of the time. With online it's always quantity over quality. Right now I am talking to I think 6-8 different girls from online with meet ups planned soon and out of those probably only 2 or 3 will actually show up.
@renegadezen7841
Жыл бұрын
*and by show up I mean not cancel or ghost at some point
@renegadezen7841
Жыл бұрын
@@CRM-114 correct.
@luhrare
Жыл бұрын
Was going to say that too, had good convos and then out the blue ghost.
@MrBoxofplastic
Жыл бұрын
I saw a woman at trader Joe's with amazing abs, I did first day game approach ever, and I'm 40 and divorced. She was so friendly but said she had a girlfriend, lol. Todd, you've inspired me to do what I never did in my 20s which is to learn and have great experiences with hot women.
@Stegosaurus12345
Жыл бұрын
Man, that's about where I am at too. Good on you for being brave. I wish you luck. I have tried a couple times, need to get better at being natural.
@lukasraw
Жыл бұрын
COLD APPROACH ONLY It builds your social skills, wit, courage, humor etc. All these online kids look with their jaws on the floor when I approach “how is he doing it?” I need to be a coach also
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
I agree, cold approach is life. If you're ever in Oslo hit me up. We'll slay all the streets!
@Fitness_Lorenzo
Жыл бұрын
I’ve met all my serious dates and girl friends through cold approach. I’m 5’4, so online dating doesn’t work with me.
@isaaccastillo5080
Жыл бұрын
5´5 here, and I simply do not disclose my height. On those sites where it is mandatory, I add a couple inches. I think Todd has said he is 5´6 (or 7") himself, and he stated that when it comes to online game, it is better to add a few inches in your profile, and once you got the date, just game your way out of the white lie. Just don´t exaggerate and add yourself a whole foot, keep it reasonable.
@aaronjwallace501
Жыл бұрын
Yea, shorter guys are majorly disadvantaged online, and I don't feel that disadvantage irl. And I'm not gonna lie about my height for a date, so I take it as it comes online, and spend the rest of time out in the world!
@exnihilonihilfit6316
Жыл бұрын
"White lie" my ass... Despicable fraudster. Fraud is a violation of rights. Violation of rights should be UNTHINKABLE!
@jasonashley9853
Жыл бұрын
Doesn't work for me either but I'm bald and not dishonest about it. I have photos without my hat. Even despite the fact that women in the real world often tell me I'm handsome. My friends say I'm good looking. But I don't get shit for likes on the apps these days. Meanwhile I see women less attractive than me as a man talk to 5 men at once on the apps. The disparity between the sexes is brutal.
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
160 cm??? Honestly just lie. Story: I went to the police with my old mom to get passports. The police woman was cute as hell, and she found the way I helped my old mom adorable, so when we were done measuring, she told me flat that my height is 182 cm. It was 178 cm before lol. After thinking a bit about it, she adjusted it down to 180, but that's still a magic number for most European men. xD
@DivineLogos
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach is an investment into your personal growth. Online Dating much less.
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
I'm a cold approach guy and I'd have to disagree. Online dating is more about displaying LIFESTYLE. While cold approaching is displaying CONFIDENCE. Women love confidence and they'll gladly sleep with you for that, but they'd marry the lifestyle. Just saying. Edit: And by that I ofc mean if you actually have the lifestyle you're marketing online. Most men don't, but IMHO if you've already mastered confidence, then getting the (actually real) lifestyle should be the next goal.
@georgeblair4797
Жыл бұрын
I’ve found the best way to approach girls is just by simply having insane confidence /cockiness.. i would consider my self a somewhat good looking guy but I have a lot of confidence and just say what comes to mind.
@Misterjuzz
Жыл бұрын
I understand that the only way, is to be confident in yourself through and through. But... how long do you have to keep up the facade? I've shunned any and all cockiness about myself, and i can definitely be confident, but man is it tiring and disingenuous for me.
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
@@Misterjuzz Facade? I'm literally Batman and Superman combined!
@jimmiefowler1289
Жыл бұрын
I’m 6^3 and online is trash and not easy like Todd is saying. Most of these women are on online now for IG followers and that’s it. I literally make great money and have a good career. Plus I’m fit. I just want to learn about approach.
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
I do a lot of cold approaches here in Oslo. You're welcome to join if you're ever in my town. I'm also looking to go to towns abroad, if someone's got a spare sofa.
@jimmiefowler1289
Жыл бұрын
@@kebman Oslo? Sure. What's your contact info?
@marioottaiano475
Жыл бұрын
I agree on everything except one thing, at the end Todd says that online has no downside, this is wrong, online has a huge downside: you fall in an extreme comfort zone and you lose yourself, anyway to me: Online: a bunch of fake profiles, low quality girls who are not willing to step outside of their comfort zone, hot girls who put their own personal Instagram profile address just to have another follower Offline: you deal with true pain, discomfort and you face your own fears, you literally chose the girl you want so you have the possibility to get higher quality girls, you have more fun and it is more challenging. Most of the girls who are online are low quality. Why a high quality girl who has a very active social life, full of friends, hobbys and a full workweek schedule goes online? She has no time to go online, she has her own social circle and things to do. Cold approach wins hands down
@adrianherj
Жыл бұрын
I live in germany and most of the girls I've met here with Tinder say the opened it because they are bored and deleted immediately because of the quality of people here. Most of them have their faces covered by useless filters or just super low quality pics. Pretty sure goes both ways. Once even me and my friend matched with the same girl and neither of us got an answer. She had her insta on her Bio and you can't message her unless you follow her... Cruel world out there
@marioottaiano475
Жыл бұрын
@@adrianherj To me online dating is something that worked like a nuclear bomb during pandemic times for obvious reasons, there was no way to meet people face to face and going on apps was the only way, but once the world came back to normality the low quality of dating apps and online dating emerged. In the end what you say about you and your friend matched the same girl is something I experienced too, I wrote this under another Todd's post, it does not make difference if you pay for premium contents or not, the app gives you girls in a very random way, I compared my profile with that ones of my friends and I understood how it works
@stanislavkimov2779
Жыл бұрын
Online is not safe. It's very dehumanizing, and leads to a burnout.
@tyeoutcalt2783
Жыл бұрын
I’ve dated a lot on line and you are correct
@augustobrinkmann4204
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach is the way
@kweshinz2103
Жыл бұрын
I've always had more luck with cold approach. To the point I've had two women tell me I wasn't their type...but I still got with them. One even stalked me at work and home. Online is a waste of time....maybe just use it as a fishing line in the water...set it and forget it. I'm 5'7 BTW. No doubt the chics see that on my profile and just keep it moving. But in person I have a better chance.
@ChrisVincelli
Жыл бұрын
Welcome to Brickell, Todd. Hope you enjoyed it!
@nickk7425
Жыл бұрын
He said that with online dating it is already assumed that an person date is set, but this has NOT been mu experience with online dating, from what I can tell is that most females on dating apps have absolutely zero interest in actually dating in person..
@jasonashley9853
Жыл бұрын
And the ones that do are unattractive.
@terrodar19
Жыл бұрын
I live in a small town and it just sucks. There are so few hotties online… and the night life here is 3/10. it’s embarrassing lol. i have to say cold approaching where im at is probably better
@Fred-zt5ky
Жыл бұрын
Same here, my town has like 150k people and everybody knows each other so nobody does online…
@ChicagoJ351
Жыл бұрын
You guys should check out university towns. Both for daygame and night game. Small towns usually have a nearby university. It’s much different there.
@webdiv8406
Жыл бұрын
nah bro you have to move. Neither cold approach nor online is going to help you there. Get a remote job and move, that's where your focus needs to be at.
@hectorpla9322
Жыл бұрын
I think its better to meet someone in person than oline dating. The problem with online dating is that people put an old picture of them when they were younger or when they used to look good, and when you meet them in person you say to your self "what happend"? and it has happend to me already, so I guess meeting in person is a lot better you have the girl right in front of you instead of looking at an old profile picture.
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
I'd politely drink my coffee with her and ask about her friends and her social life. If she knows a lot of younger girls, I might friendzone and party with her.
@petesmt
Жыл бұрын
Disagree that online game is just autopilot. U do need to use alot of 'brain juice' to text witty replies and escalate to the point of closing for a date as well. Also, online game definitely comes with its own set of rejections
@webdiv8406
Жыл бұрын
Disagree. You just get a canned list of replies you use. Throw a couple boosts at the problem and you'll get more matches than what you can handle. I get 50 matches plus every day, i don't spend any brain juice trying to come up with witty replies just cause a date is going to happen by pure statistics.
@dandangalodangalus9082
Жыл бұрын
I’ve done stand up and I love to write comedy and I’m a very witty guy and I think texting witty replies is overrated. I have not noticed significantly more success when I spend a lot of mental energy on a text exchange than when I’m just direct and to the point. Plus, trying to make her laugh with every comment comes off as try hard. Being funny is great, being a clown is not.
@rajdeepchamaria
9 ай бұрын
Massive respect for you Todd. Youre saving guys from the excruciating dating crisis in real time, and the new content just keeps getting better. One thing that could be said in addition to this video is, and please confirm if I am right about this cause this will probably determine how I go about each, is that relationship, or even wife material girls are found much less through OD than through cold approach. In my personal experience, I have found that women who are clear in their mind about wanting a commited relationship are much less likely to tolerate the largely hookup seeking user base of OD, at least not for any extended time period. They usually make a profile and get fed up very soon by guys acting very forward/creepy/uncalibrated and delete it soon after. Also, in a country like India, the gender ratio on OD is MASSIVELY skewed (I had seen a survey) so that doesn't help either. Not complaining, just that I will be focusing more on CA if I am right as I am looking for a relationship as well.
@aldorodriguez7310
Жыл бұрын
I have been following you for years. I know you are the OG hybrid PUA in both fields.
@GabiN64
4 ай бұрын
the best way I've found is to be out there in public via signing up for a ton of events plus doing my hobbies that force me outside. this helps with coming into potential contact with a lot more women increasing the number of women you can get to know. in online dating i just get ghosted at some point due to women getting cold feet and this is due to her not being sure how I will be whereas in real life the women will have less cold feet since they have already met me in person.
@Alfvaldez
Жыл бұрын
I know a lot of guys chose the easy way and only do online then they suffer in real life have no social skills. When I was growing up tinder didn’t exist I had to go to the malls and do called approach and college parties and college campus when I was in school to get things done in 2008 to 2013. Now the youth is done for they know nothing about talking to women and sparking up a conversation from thin air they all start with tinder. Then guys like me come in and clean up the place with women take them all. I’m glad I grew up the way I did in person game first then did online dating when tinder started in 2016 but by then my in person game was advanced so I already knew how to handle women online it’s just a supplement to my current pull of women I meet from real life
@MH-et5sn
Жыл бұрын
Tinder started in 2012.
@RainbowBandana
Жыл бұрын
Clean that mutha@#%# up indeed!!!!
@Alfvaldez
Жыл бұрын
@@MH-et5sn didn’t explode until 2015-2016 became main stream
@zaubaschnutemajestat7796
Жыл бұрын
Really cold approach at least doubled my self confidence despite I have never get laid.
@SkyHermit
Жыл бұрын
When did you start and how many have you cold approached in your life?
@zaubaschnutemajestat7796
Жыл бұрын
@@SkyHermit I do day game only. I cold approached the first girl at the beginning of May 2021. Then I cold approached the second girl half an year later and this where I really begun to do this more often. So I am doing cold approach for one and a half year. In this time I approached something between 160 and 180 girls. We need to do this consistently to become really good. I Do not do it consistently because of my apprenticeship. But i get better Reactions now. They smile and playing with their hair. This did not Happen with the 150 girls before. But they are to 90% in a relationship. I asked my buddy if he approaches to 90% girls in a relationship and He says no. I think my Talent is to cold approach almost only happy girls. Or Single that ate at the way in their home country... My apprenticeship is finished soon. Then I want to cold approach at least 10 girls per week. Edit: If you do cold approach I recommend you to take at least a pepper spray with you. You are more in Town and this is where you mostly will need it. You never know which people are out there. If someone asks you why you carry a pepper spray say: You once get attacked from a dog and you do not want to injure or even kill the animal with your fists and kicks.
@JOKBO1
Жыл бұрын
I use online dating apps as a scouting tool. I have quite a few cities nearby mine, so I just change my location, see which city has the hottest chicks online and I go there to cold approach.
@renegadezen7841
Жыл бұрын
I struggled with some major online dating cold streaks, but have since broken through into a hot streak after I made a major adjustment: I asked myself...what would a Chad's profile look like? So I built that. Almost all of my photos are me with groups of people that include women or me with only women. I mention liking sex as one of my interests and I basically project Supreme confidence and it's been working very well. It stands out and it grabs attention, which is a must in online dating when you are competing with literal thousands of other guys
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
How old are you, and how many do you slay each week?
@renegadezen7841
Жыл бұрын
@@kebman I'm 33. Turns out my hot streak was basically an unlimited amount of 5s and 6s and then the occasional 7 but after matching with the 8-point something and 9-point somethings I struggled to get them out on dates . I'm now convinced that 9-point something girls are only attainable in real life and that they are basically impossible to get on dating apps
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
@@renegadezen7841 I made out with a 20 yr HB9 last week after a cold approach. Meanwhile on dating apps: Tumbleweed. Oh a 20-something clicked match! I'm gonna mes... Oh, she unmatched me.
@SavvasTzouras
Жыл бұрын
Cold approaching is the way to go...it is really changing my life but i still have work to do
@mitotv6376
Жыл бұрын
I prefer more cold approach
@Mex_the_Fox
Жыл бұрын
This dude makes it sound like online dating is the easiest thing ever... I call bullsh*t
@josefarrington
Жыл бұрын
3:30 Agree; cold approach build character.
@TradingTheta89
Жыл бұрын
Been looking on 5 or 6 dating apps for over 6 years now with maybe a handful of matches. Seems like you need to be a certain height and look a certain way to make those work.
@VanCough
Жыл бұрын
I was in a similar situation to yours, but I finally figured it out last year where I was able to get a couple decent matches a day on average. But it still sucked because after a match, it takes so little for girls to get distracted an move on to another match. Cold approach for the win
@TradingTheta89
Жыл бұрын
@ab2022 I prefer to go up and talk to women for sure. Being 5'5" doesn't peak anyone's interest though.
@mehdimdidech2006
Жыл бұрын
@@TradingTheta89 I am 5'6 and been crushing it on tinder lately. you just need the right guidance ;)
@VanCough
Жыл бұрын
@@TradingTheta89 I get what you're saying, but you've got to let that mentality go buddy. Not saying it's not harder for a 5'5" guy compared to someone taller, but until you stop thinking about your height you'll never be able to be your best self. There are plenty of shorter girls who are okay just dating someone taller than them. And I live near a college campus and I'm increasingly seeing more tall girls date slightly shorter guys. Also, don't forget that Todd is 5'7" and kinda chunky and still doing fine. Wishing you all the best
@TradingTheta89
Жыл бұрын
@ab2022 I've been told I'm small enough times to know that it's a big deal. I'm 34 by the way, and I work out. At this age, women want someone who looks like a protector vrs a 7th grader. It's my fault though for sure. Always is. Thank you for the support bro!
@imnothere2802
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach doesnt take 20 min to say a word lol but also the interaction feels really good and mature id say. Online in other hand feels like people are there only for validation a short dopamine level increase, or to f... but not interested in real connection. All that stereotype online dating had created isnt how it is in real life scenario. Id go each day with cold approach than wasting time and energy making a date online.
@blackparabellum
Жыл бұрын
I had resolved myself for many yrs to cold approach women that are attractive as soon as I see them. I feel like I compromise my personal ideas of attractiveness to get women on Tinder cause I rarely see the type I’d like. Got results with neither so far though.
@david01877
Жыл бұрын
Im fucking scared starting online dating again. It was so painfull
@blackpanther8577
Жыл бұрын
*Ok Todd, but now can you please make a video how to get rid of the fear of approaching without being weird, creepy* 😢❤
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
*There is no such thing! ABC! A: Always. B: Be. C: Closing! ABC! Always Be Closing.* And for chrissake _Wu-wu-wuuu!_ Stop crying you wimp, are you a little girl?
@devindillard1918
Жыл бұрын
Think of online dating as you passive income. You set up it, and it does the work for you. It’s not a replacement for your main gig, it’s just a side hustle to sharpen your skill set and in case of a drought. Don’t reply solely on online, but it’s not inherently “bad”. Use it for what it is. Simple.
@the_life_of_thang_nho
Жыл бұрын
"talk away your ugliness 😂 "
@julianjuellz
Жыл бұрын
no rejection online??? are you effing kidding me
@Sh0ckmaster
Жыл бұрын
I had zero success with online dating. Last week I went out on the town for the first time in a long time (Since my divorce) and managed to score with a girl. I won't be using the apps again.
@------.
Жыл бұрын
All I can say is: get it how you can get it. There's exceptions to literally all of this. But cold approaching for a fact gives you a better chance at dating a really hot chick. Most of the hot women on dating apps are very picky. And then again some people look worse in person, but good in photos. Some people look terrible in photos, but better in person. Irl is more authentic.
@satrzabaev7040
Жыл бұрын
Hi Todd! Hello everyone! How to approach three girls and get to know the one you like?))
@Sp1n3c
Жыл бұрын
a lot of food for thought. Thank's for sharing
@webdiv8406
Жыл бұрын
Hey Todd it would be great if you could be on Michael Sartain's podcast to debate cold approach vs social circle game. I think you could bring a good perspective there.
@aldorodriguez7310
Жыл бұрын
No better person to talk about this period.
@BALDANDRETIRED
Жыл бұрын
online datinig almost is easier once you have enough match because she already liked you and its already on. but i think without cold approach dont call yourself a player i dont care how succesful you are on online game
@JohnAlot
6 ай бұрын
F
@silverriffs
Жыл бұрын
0:25 is so damn true. No accomplishment will ever make me feel cooler than walking up to a girl on the street and fucking within 30 mins. Only happened once so far but I felt like the man for a week+ after that
@TheMaleRoleModel
Жыл бұрын
i exclusively do online stuff. zero effort great results
@realfan91
Жыл бұрын
Tinder has been nothing but rejections, I prefer real life.
@TheMessias1992
Жыл бұрын
didnt get it. BOTH ? or not BOTH?
@moneyinyourpockets
Жыл бұрын
I'm.not afraid of rejection, but am terrified of approaching women, even if meeting online first, I've even cancelled online dates...any ideas?
@ChicagoJ351
Жыл бұрын
Yes, you have to face the fear and see what’s on the other side. Learn to laugh at yourself and make the whole process fun, even rejections.
@christopher6161
Жыл бұрын
where do i even start if i never done anything like this
@aaronfitzgerald9109
Жыл бұрын
Online is crap because 90% of the women go for the top 10% of the men, leaving 90% of the men to only have a chance at the remaining 10% of the bottom women...
@webdiv8406
Жыл бұрын
not hard at all to be in the top 10%, Most pulls in cold approach will be done by the 10% of PUAs. So pick your 10%.
@kifacorea
Жыл бұрын
Online is kinda racist and very heightist. I'll take my chances with cold approach. Thanks todd for the tips.
@mariomaslik
Жыл бұрын
Of course cold approach is better
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
I'm 45. Cold approach: I meet hot girls in their 20s looking for fun and umm intimacy. Online: I meet fat women in their 40's looking for marriage and hot girls in their 20s looking for my wallet.
@kaioken227
Жыл бұрын
Online dating is infinitely harder than cold approach.
@jialian93
Жыл бұрын
Lies
@Fred-zt5ky
Жыл бұрын
nah. I’ve had almost no success with cold approach (need to do 10 approaches to get 1 date on average), whereas online gives me 1 date a day with almost no effort at all… like u literally just have to copy paste texts lol
@kaioken227
Жыл бұрын
@@Fred-zt5ky i do alright but online dating is way too much time and energy. Cold approach is like 2 minutes out of my day
@jermsmason2082
Жыл бұрын
@Fred Really? You gotta give me whatever texts you copy and paste. Been on 4 dating sites and have gotten 2 dates in 5 years, help a brother out lol
@Moshm4n
Жыл бұрын
Just talk away the ugly, bro.
@seanbarker9272
Жыл бұрын
Just goes to show you shouldn't judge someone in a wheelchair
@dr.strange6458
Жыл бұрын
is it too late for me to cold approach at 42 y/o?
@Aurla-R2-D2
Жыл бұрын
Definitely not! I'm female, BTW. When I was 32, I was in a club and a 47 year old man cold approached me and we ended up in a relationship for a year. Then, when I was 34, I was in a book shop and a 50 year old man cold approached me and we ended up in a relationship for 3 years. Also, when my dad was 74 years old, he cold approached a woman, decades younger than him, and they have been together ever since. Never too late to start! :)
@slevrai9181
Жыл бұрын
Online dating does simply not work Even if you have the best profil Online dating is a lie.
@EA300_
Жыл бұрын
I’m now against dating apps. Idc
@aaronjohnstone2800
Жыл бұрын
2:55
@morganyu812
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach is dead
@TheUpliftingGuy
Жыл бұрын
Online dating is 👎
@wesleyreis_
Жыл бұрын
First
@williamjeanrie8524
Жыл бұрын
Im sorry man but literally EVERYTHING you said about online dating is just plain false. It is NOT easy, it is NOT low hanging fruit, it is brutal and about the biggest ego blow a man could receive. I was on tinder for a couple months, swiped through prolly a few thousand girls, got less than 10 matches, like 3 of them even responded to me, all 3 of which ghosted me after a few texts. Not a single date. Im not short, but im not 6 ft (5 10), and i think im fairly attractive, but it doesnt matter. If youre not in the top 5 maybe 10% of men you will get NOTHING on online dating. Hell towards the end i started swiping on literally every girl that popped up just for the hope of talking to someone, ugly girls, fat girls, girls 10 to 15 years older than me (im 22), girls with kids. It didnt make a lick of difference. Online dating sites are like 75% men, maybe higher. Guys, dont do it it's a trap.
@pahyzhahyz9634
11 ай бұрын
You probably had bad photos and a bad bio. Also just say you’re 6 ft, no girl can tell the 2 inch difference.
@williamjeanrie8524
11 ай бұрын
@@pahyzhahyz9634 any relationship that's built on a lie is doomed to failure from the beginning, even if I was willing to do that.
@Truther945
6 ай бұрын
You lowered your elo score by being thirsty. The algorithm marked you as undesirable (clearly rightly so)
@poopstain5216
Жыл бұрын
Cold water
@Mmksen289
Жыл бұрын
I agree with Todd 💯 the stories from cold approach are epic. Online is more convenient and once you get it down probably more consistent. Always do both! Cold approach is almost more of a life skill learning thing.
@Mysteryboy0007
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach is harder but also better. You can figure out a girl within minutes or go talk to a different girl at the bar.
@freddylimpster7137
Жыл бұрын
i agree. with online dating, sometimes it can be days or weeks before having a grasp of what this girl actually is, depending on how quickly she replies to your texts
@morganyu812
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach is not better
@Mysteryboy0007
Жыл бұрын
@@morganyu812 stay in your grandmas basement then more girls for the rest of us thanks.
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach is far easier. Far easier to get results.
@redpillbrotherhood110
Жыл бұрын
Daygame and online are becoming increasingly different, both have benefits. Here's what I notice as someone with good experience with women: Online: -most efficient(can talk to girls anywhere and with little effort) -easiest way to get laid -you need a top 5% SMV/profile to do really well -can meet some good girls but most are either sluts or have been around the block -dating apps for the most part(as I said, some good girls can be found) are the 2-3% of girls in a given city, and it's basically a slut sample of a given city Daygame: -more genuine, quality interactions -better way to find LTR material girls -better way to get prettier girls -not as easy to get laid or as efficient as online -girls aren't hiding behind filters or as angled mirror photos, etc -good because most guys don't daygame
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
“Daygame and online are becoming increasingly different.” Becoming??? They were never the same. Online: “Easiest way to get laid” Haha... No. Not unless you're in the top 5% SMV. For everyone else, having balls is far better.
@Argon369
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach will always stay the king. You just dodge the waiting list of other men and get a wild card entry in her life. Learn that shit its very useful
@redrosin99
Жыл бұрын
You just get on her roster from whatsapp/instagram/facebook/tiktok/snapchat and whatever other apps she's using so if you did not pull her (99.99% of the time), she's just going to either ghost you or use you as her emotional tampon.
@steel128
Жыл бұрын
Best comment
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
If you flirt with a woman who's in a relationship, you only need to compete with one man.
@mattk3083
Жыл бұрын
I love cold approach! I suck at at online dating but I’ve had a great experience of cold approach.
@sarge-T.O.
Жыл бұрын
The selling point for online is that you get access to all the people you'd normally never meet. I believe this is the fatal flaw. These people never meet because they don't have enough in common. Here's how to spot a couple on a date who met online; they have no chemistry, and the guy is tall.
@ramirojaycep796
Жыл бұрын
Hey Todd we used to enjoy your on field pick up videos are you retired from dating ?if not can you upload more of those. always good content by the way!
@misterivi568
Жыл бұрын
Rejection exists in online dating. You haven't had ghosting from girls? Never? I can't believe u
@rauln9273
Жыл бұрын
For a guy like me that I do not enjoy taking and posting pics it's a bit hard to go well online
@marksummer2408
Жыл бұрын
Its a question of value mindset. I dont want to be seen by low value girls online.
@dalhoumijasser8182
Жыл бұрын
lets be honest maybe you can help someone get dates online. but in the end he has to meet the girl in real life. I had a lot of online dates before but my real life game was not good. So most of them end up with nothing. You got to learn both. cold approach is like learning the skillset and online dating is like Automating it, Its like building a business. I believe online dating is kinda useless without getting good at cold approach.
@zoalerix
Жыл бұрын
Exactly. I'm glad I did cold approach for 4 years before spending loads of effort on online dating. The qualities and understandings I embodied were life-changing. Now, I barely do cold approach because I get so many dates online. However, I become good at running dates in no time because of the cold approach.
@VerycoolEsso
Жыл бұрын
Online is shit. You could be spending hours and hours swiping and get 0 likes. 0 likes lol not 0 matches. Every few weeks or so 1 like appears, so it is totally not worth the effort. People there are either old or fat or both anyway. The rest are Instagram attention seeker or fake profiles. I dont see the point
@GabiN64
4 ай бұрын
i agree and even if you get matches you can get ghosted at any point before the date due to woman having cold feet since there is still uncertainty from not having met in person yet
@rudeboyjim2684
Жыл бұрын
Todd is the best. Love how genuine and not douchey he is.
@RhetoricalMuse
Жыл бұрын
Unfortunately online dating has gone downhill. They algo is messed up now.
@craigreeves5465
Жыл бұрын
I'm gonna be honest. Online dating is MUCH easier if you're a white guy. That's just the facts. There are far more White women on these dating apps than Black women and White women, especially the attractive ones since they have more options, are most often going to have a preference for what they're used to dating. I've seen White guys FAR less good-looking than me get way more matches. As you stated, online dating is a lot more superficial, and while you have more control over what you look like on dating apps, you can't control your race. Cold approach is better for ethnic men if you want better options. Not that online dating isn't effective at all because it is.
@jasonashley9853
Жыл бұрын
Online dating has been downright miserable for me. I get called handsome and cute, sexy even sometimes by women in the real world. Online it's crickets. A like every once in a blue moon. My ex was sexy af. Someone with her build online would reject me. OLD has been a miserable experience for me and many other men. The difference between that and real life is jarring. The disparity in options for women versus men on these apps is insane.
@webdiv8406
Жыл бұрын
It is easier yes. Significantly to the point is bothersome? hell no. You just gotta take good pics, get a good canned opener, work on your IG and understand when to ask for a date and you are set to have a great experience. I'm a brown guy, 5'4. IDC the white guy next door gets 5x more matches. We both crush it at levels where it doesn't matter cause we both cant handle that many options. Its like saying bro this guy has 10 million and I only have 5 its like bro chill, we both millionaires who cares
@jasonashley9853
Жыл бұрын
@@webdiv8406 y'all must live in a different universe. But then again, I'm bald, and I don't lie about it online. And my photos should be good enough.
@strahinja95
Жыл бұрын
Hey Todd, Why don't you teach us this rizz, gaslighting, selling the dream, and how to screen for different types of girls such as fuckgirl, wants a relationship, etc? Also, Patrice O'Neal did something similar to what Julian did with like insulting the girl and then he's like "you know how in kindergarten you did goofy things to girls you liked". It's like insult, but calibrated. When i try it the girls get offended xD Because all these younglings are just fucking all day with each and every one of them and us older guys think about some "game" and shit
@exxie1
Жыл бұрын
Even having the idea of cold approach makes someone ten times better with women. Online dating sucks let's be honest, but it's at least cheap and easily accessible. Be good at cold approach takes care of that. Also hit the gym
@jermsmason2082
Жыл бұрын
Was on dating sites for over 5 years and got 2 dates with... less than ideal women. I quit online dating a while ago. As an exasperated zookeeper said to the last male panda on earth, fuck that!
@mikeeinstein1
Жыл бұрын
This doesn't sound like someone who has actual experience with online dating.
@jimmiefowler1289
Жыл бұрын
Any community for wingmen anymore or is that a thing of the past ?
@maleman_xy
Жыл бұрын
Upside is I don't look like my photos either. Win/win
@redrosin99
Жыл бұрын
You are misleading your potential clients. While cold approach is the best way to improve communication, build-up self-esteem and social calibration and develop your unique fashion style, the rejection does take a toll and you will need to step away from it at times to recharge and step back. Today, cold approach leads mostly to 0 results unless you manage to pull the girl which is a 1:1000 chance if you are an average looking male targeting women you are not repulsed by. So at the end of the day - cold approach is a good thing in general but will not get the average male results and this is when we are talking about day game. Night game is a waste of time for over 90% of men especially if they actually have a life and don't want to waste their time getting drunk or around drunk people. Regarding online dating, here you are misleading people to think all they need to do is looksmax their pics/bio and do the swipe and bantering. That's bullshit. First of all, the gender ratios and the quality of women in the apps is repulsing. Second of all, women choose top 4.5% of men. The psychological damage to have 0 or 1 or 2 matches only to be ghosted by some fatty you compromised on at a rare low moment of desperation is just not worth it. And all of that is true in places where online dating is at all functional i.e. big cities and where your age and appearance (height, weight, skin color/race/national origin in relation to the country where you're at) is somewhat accepted What you should advice people to do is work on their cold approach so they could improve their social skills. Then create a social circle around them, you are the average of your 5 closest people. Don't try to find a girlfriend if you don't belong to a group of friends. Once you do, once you are the chief of your social circle, doing parties and events around hobbies, then you can use the skills you've learnt from day game.
@Mew2Win
Жыл бұрын
Todd has many vids on online dating that you probably haven’t watched. You’d understand his stance on it if you did. Also cold approach may be a 1 in a ton at first. Do you not think experienced salesmen outsell newbies (all other things/external factors being equal)? You’re underestimating the power in game in general, I esp find thus common from ppl in the blackpill community.
@chillermangong4223
Жыл бұрын
Are you in Miami ?
@heavnbound
Жыл бұрын
IRL for the win
@RR-et6zp
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach 100%
@jasonashley9853
Жыл бұрын
You have to have a perfect profile as a guy to get matches online. It's getting worse in my opinion. Why do I get so many women calling me handsome/cute in the real world and so many people who thought I was taken? Vs online where I barely get any likes and very few matches? Even if both are sparse, the real life women beat the online ones swiping on me and it's not even close.
@webdiv8406
Жыл бұрын
Cause your pics suck bro. No offense but that profile pic is awful. You need to lose the goatee if you still have it, work on going to a couple cool places and take pictures there. That alone is going to do most of the lift for you. Now pay to play, which is more efficient than what you usually spend at a bar (or the time you spend approaching) and you get into positive ROI territory. Brutal honesty bro you have to take better pics.
@billyblim1213
Жыл бұрын
Hey guys do you think this pick up line will work on my crush? "The best part of fried chicken is eating the skin, and that's the best part of you too."
@unapologeticpatriot6504
Жыл бұрын
I don’t think so lol. Also if you aren’t talking about fried chicken it would be weirdly out of place. Also “eating the skin” could seem analogous to like “eating her skin”. Which could come off as weird, or creepy. But if you’re attractive, you probably could say pretty arbitrary stuff and she still gives you a pass .
@annadating2003
Жыл бұрын
wow))
@tin_singh1997
Жыл бұрын
Thanks
@advsonhere
Жыл бұрын
Genius!
@Stegosaurus12345
Жыл бұрын
Anybody tried doing "cold approach" through Facebook?
@Aurla-R2-D2
Жыл бұрын
Yes! :) I'm female, BTW. On FB, I noticed that a friend of a friend was hot so I messaged him and we ended up going on a date.
@Stegosaurus12345
Жыл бұрын
@@Aurla-R2-D2 Nice! Out of curiosity, how do you prefer to be approached?
@Aurla-R2-D2
Жыл бұрын
@@Stegosaurus12345 ~ Honestly, if someone tried to use the PUA techniques on me (eg negging and push pull, etc) I would assume they were an asshole and would want nothing to do with them. So now you're probably wondering why I watch Todd's videos ;) I'm just fascinated by psychology, attraction, tactics of manipulation, etc. Also, I enjoy Todd's intelligence and eloquence :) I'd be happy to tell you how I like to be chatted up but a lot of it is the exact opposite of what PUAs teach!
@Stegosaurus12345
Жыл бұрын
@@Aurla-R2-D2 I don't have the personality to match Todd's style anyway. I don't really go to bars or clubs much these days. Too old to fit in there. The women who catch my eye are mostly in places like stores or coffee shops. I would favor a much more naturalistic approach, but it is hard for me to gauge how direct to be. To me the simplest line would be something like, Excuse me, I don't mean to bother you, but I wanted to come talk to you because something about you caught my eye.
@Aurla-R2-D2
Жыл бұрын
@@Stegosaurus12345 ~ Yes, defo go for a natural style. Your opener is okay but it would be far better to drop the apologetic approach because self-confidence is the most attractive trait and will put her at ease. So, the more positive version would be, "Hi, I wanted to come talk to you because something about you caught my eye." Better still, find something about her or your surroundings to comment on, just to get the interaction going and give her something to talk about so she doesn't feel on the spot. For example, "Hi, is that an interesting book that you're reading?" "Hi, that's an unusual pendant you're wearing. What's it made of?" "Hi, this is a cool song. Do you know who the singer is?" You get the idea. Hope this helps :)
@Raphael4722
Жыл бұрын
One downside that was missed regarding online dating is that your profile will be seen by people you know in real life. Unless you're travelling or you've recently arrived in a city, it's bound to happen.
@head45hunter
Жыл бұрын
If you have tinder platinum you can make it so that you are only seen by people you like / swipe right on :)
@Fred-zt5ky
Жыл бұрын
they only see you if they also have the app, so they’re in no position to judge. plus what’s the shame in wanting to meet girls?
@lukasraw
Жыл бұрын
Cold approach wins by far. 1. Builds character and most useful skills in life. 2. Real interaction internet is super fake 3. IRL is much better and stronger experience than text 4. In a few mins you figure out the type of girl she is 5. More volume and saves time to know the girl 6. Any pussy can do online dating 7. No catfishing Etc
@webdiv8406
Жыл бұрын
Only agree with 1. 2.- You also get fake bs interactions with girls with cold approach. 3.- You have to go on a date you realize that? 4.- You can also figure out the type of girl she is in a couple messages 5.- Online is literally infinite volume dude. 6.- If you complain so much about online and catfishing, it seems you cannot do it right. 7.- It happens in cold approach as well, it just happens when you open the gift ;) Feels more like you can't build a good profile bro.
@theasianinvasionmma
Жыл бұрын
it's same as cold calling vs. using social media for cold outreach, we need to do BOTH!
@ifeelhalfnaked484
Жыл бұрын
You're correct of building character because rejections aka difficulties in life make you resilient and adaptable to environment. The alphas are fearless
@kebman
Жыл бұрын
Honestly this bs about rejection is false. If you approach from the right frame, rejections will be far and few between, and the seriously few times you get them, you'll have the moral high ground. If I get a rude rejection, I just tell the girl, "Girl, I was just trying to be social you know." Then I turn my back and high-five somebody else.
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