This is not bullying, what op’s step dau is doing to her SEN brother is clearly abuse-emotional, psychological and physical. Op and her husband need to to both stop denying this and how much danger letting her move in would actually put their exceptionally vulnerable young special needs child in.
@prussianeagle1941
5 ай бұрын
I also think the parents are being selfish here. Complaining about how your job won't let you be in a room with other people. Has she ever thought of working in the company's office? Also, idk wtf she and her husband were thinking when they refused to let the two boys share a room. That makes it easier on both parents and the special needs kid because he will never be alone. These parents don't know how to properly prioritize what needs to be prioritized.
@chriiiiis
5 ай бұрын
@@prussianeagle1941Yes, not wanting to get fired so you can afford to feed your children is so selfish. Also, it's not the older brother’s job to take care of his brother's needs. That's the parent's job. They did the right thing.
@prussianeagle1941
5 ай бұрын
@chriiiiis I never said that. I'm alluding to the fact that she can work in her company's office. Or maybe the father could find an office complex that rents out to individual workers (I know it sounds weird, but they actually do exist). Also, the brothers can actually share a room. Them sharing a room doesn't mean that the brother has to help with the kid, but if something ever happens (like another seizure), he can quickly notify the parents. It takes a whole village to raise a kid with special needs, whether that kid is low-functioning autism spectrum, klinefelter syndrome, or down syndrome. It is a combined effort to raise the kid.
@zadarasimoleons1019
5 ай бұрын
Moving in the stepdaughter would 100% be a horrible move. It's honestly ridiculous that the dad said he wanted to, despite knowing all the issues. I laughed out loud when OP said he expected it to "just work itself out eventually." That's not how things work. A disabled child with thousands of dollars of medical equipment and wheelchair-accessible furniture CANNOT share a room with an older sibling, and it would be borderline cruel to expect a young child to share a space like that with his younger brother. Children cannot just be forced to sleep wherever they fit, that's ridiculous, just because they're brothers doesn't mean they want to be in each other's space 24/7, especially when the youngest has so many special needs and his brother is only a few years older than him. (Op said they were like, 4 and 6 ys/o. A disabled 4 y/o with a wheelchair needs his own room, period.) And the OP specifically said that they had to change their entire careers and lives when their youngest's health declined suddenly. I figured it was obvious that that would mean "I need to work at home to take care of my severely disabled child, we cannot leave him for 8-10 hours a day." So no, they cannot work in the office or rent an office. They need to be at home in case their special needs child has an emergency.
@AidaKittyBoy
5 ай бұрын
@prussianeagle1941 They probably choose to WFH those days to have more time with the kids and flexible hours. It's probably more useful to be able to pause an editing project or this week's reports to make sure the kiddo gets his medicine than leave him at home with no parents to make them work at an office elsewhere.
@lawrencefosterjenkins8216
5 ай бұрын
The problem with not allowing op to parent her stepdaughter in this particular case is that it’s HER child getting bullied, therefore it does become her business. The audacity of the rest of the family expecting her to stand idly while her own son gets tormented because SD isn’t her kid to parent
@danacarter9147
5 ай бұрын
Exactly. And given the stepdaughter is with her bio-mother and STB-stepfather, when she hits her teens, she'll rebel against them, stay with friends who are negative influences, gravitate toward a boyfriend who has a police record for shoplifting, and is a dropout, become pregnant, quit high school, marry the bum, because she's pregnant, stay with him, because she doesn't want to keep her baby away from his father, move into some ugly neighborhood with his parents, who are also trash, have another kid, at 17, and two more, at 18 and 19. And when bio-mom hears that her daughter had kids with a loser boyfriend, and married the bum, she won't have any to contact her, let alone, find her, because took away her phone away.⚠️
@randomfan4521
4 ай бұрын
People think that blood is more important than just loving someone or letting people teach kids what they can and can't do people believe it's the parents job but humans are meant to be raised by a community not just 2 people. That's why parents are depressed and it's also why people aren't having kids. No one feels safe and stable enough to have kids, and when they do, they don't get help while also society has people convinced that only mom and dad have a say about the kids. Don't help that a lot of dads don't help because it's the woman's job and doesn't act like a dad. Society is messed up, and we need to be community again and keep each other safe while keeping the government in check.
@morganleanderblake678
6 ай бұрын
I feel for Jay. If I'm hearing this right, he was a *teenager* when his niece was in the path of a car. He was not. He threw himself into the path of the car and tried to save her but the impact took her life because of whiplash no matter what he did. And he was still blamed. Like, imagine you saw someone in life or death and you threw yourself into the situation to save them and almost died yourself and people BLAMED you.
@southernflight5078
5 ай бұрын
What sucks is that everyone kept saying that Beth had blamed him. But from what the story says, the BIL said that Beth never really blamed him and that she just shut down due to the loss of her daughter. So the family's "interpretation?" Yeah... let's you know what they're spinning up to avoid anything to do with mental health. Not bad if OP is to be believed, but definitely fools for caring more for appearances rather than their children's health.
@morganleanderblake678
5 ай бұрын
@@southernflight5078 Agreed, it's not on Beth. It's on the family. They should have remediated all this pain with proper support and love. They *screwed* their family up.
@LegendStormcrow
6 ай бұрын
What kind of loser would reject Jay? Dude is a hero.
@mevan883
5 ай бұрын
Some women and men don't have it in them to care for a damage partner be it mentally or physically.
@maryjane4432
5 ай бұрын
The father not being able to discuss stepdaughter’s therapy is a bunch of crap that affects her and her kids
@develyntwocentshenderson5739
6 ай бұрын
I am so tired of 'it's just a kiiiid' excuse. wringing hand mommy's little excuse
@thejadewizard6178
6 ай бұрын
"It's just a kid." Translation: "I don't want to bother with the issue, deal with it."
@LunaP1
5 ай бұрын
My belt would be coming off if I had to deal with that nonsense.
@trashotaku
5 ай бұрын
Fr, most 12 year olds don't physically and mentally abuse disabled 4 year olds
@jmarie9997
5 ай бұрын
Sounds like Dad spoils SD during visitation and she thinks living with him will be one long holiday.
@OnceCody
5 ай бұрын
So I can't discipline your child, right? Well she can't live in my house then. Simple as.
@RequiemPoete
6 ай бұрын
Op's BF gets bodied by a car trying to save child: blames self. Child abuser does... things to child: I love children. I fucking hate Bizarro world.
@jamesplayzreviews
6 ай бұрын
I agree with you but also love the reference to Bizarro from DC
@HomeMain
6 ай бұрын
Jay, you've got a really good partner that loves and respects you. You're a lucky dude and havs nothing to feel guilty about. I lost my son many years ago and still, even after much therapy, blame myself on some level even though I know he was very sick.
@Permenantlyexhaustedghost115
5 ай бұрын
If I were op I’d tell the father that SD needs to get some help handling her emotions and go to therapy other wise she can’t live with them. Op has to put her kids safety first especially since one of them has special needs.
@southernflight5078
5 ай бұрын
Story 1: BioMom shouldn't have just rushed with the SD. In her shoes, I would've been petty AF. "So you wanna live here now, eh? Why? Whats up? Your step sister is leaving for college in a few weeks, so you'll have your own room at home. So what's wrong?"
@RepellentJeff
6 ай бұрын
I’m only to 5:00, and I’m just going “Yeah, no. This girl is a serial killer in the making.”
@develyntwocentshenderson5739
6 ай бұрын
the defects never stop
@personwithaquestion1800
5 ай бұрын
Exactly... she's plain cruel, at that age manipulating and getting sick pleasure by telling the older one that his brother should have his fingernails ripped out and pushing around someone who cant even defend themselves physically.. definitely exhibiting some psychopathic tendencies. It'll only escalate
@zadarasimoleons1019
5 ай бұрын
Especially if neither of her parents are really doing anything about her clearly violent and abnormal behavior. We've all heard about the coddled child that turns around and kills someone because they don't see other people as having value.
@ariagnyug
6 ай бұрын
I love that his reaction to the videos was "why all the Minecraft and cooking" 😂 glad he's doing better
@francinetitherington4060
5 ай бұрын
Rosie's killer deserved far more than the punishment dealt iut and in addition to criminal charges by the DA, should have been hit with a wrongful Death Lawsuit by the family. Lack of therapy for both Jay and Beth at the time was a huge mistake on the family's part. Losing a child in such a horrific was takes a terrible toll. I feel sooooo sorry for Beth and Jay. We lost a grandchild, cancer, and had a month to say goodbye. It's always there, especially for her parents. It never gets better, just more manageable. But the Sudden unexpected loss of a child has to be an even higher hill to climb for everyone, especially Rosie's parents and Jay due to the circumstances. This post hurt to hear it. I hope they are blessed with all the healing they need.
@legiontepes3474
5 ай бұрын
SD has problems.
@zadarasimoleons1019
5 ай бұрын
100%. Scary problems. "Should not be allowed unsupervised near ANYONE vulnerable" type problems.
@factoryofdivisiveopinions
5 ай бұрын
MAJOR Problems
@rowdysgirlalways
6 ай бұрын
Grief is NOT a rational emotion. Not for anyone. And trying to parse out the threads is like trying to untangle a fragile knot, which, if broken, will cause even greater pain. Time and emotional support help the most.
@bethmcleod4010
5 ай бұрын
OMG! Is SD a sociopath?
@NJ-kp3wu
5 ай бұрын
Why was the older brother disciplined for hitting a monster? He reacted totally appropriately to what she said.
@Maninawig
5 ай бұрын
Wow. Jay is a hero.
@zadarasimoleons1019
5 ай бұрын
My god the dad is clearly showing how dumb he is and it's like the first thing he's said. He wants to move his daughter into a house where he knows that she doesn't even WANT to get along with the other children, and where they don't even technically have a space for her, but he expects it'll just "work itself out eventually"? What is he thinking? How long is "eventually"? Why is he being so stupid?
@Bruh-gw5fx
5 ай бұрын
For story one, i feep like I'm missing something... All three of the parents kinda seem like the AH. For starters, it seems like they've known about the abuse SD is putting their youngest through, and because of bio mom, op isn't allowed to say anything about that, but the father didnt think to step in at any time beforehand and tell off his daughter for treating her sibling like that? Especially because op literally says that her son was pushed out of his wheelchair and PHYSICALLY THREATENED by SD and how it might be 'how siblings behave', but as soon as the older son stands up for his brother that cant defend himself, he gets in trouble?? Are you serious?? This story just makes me more angry the longer i think about it. Not to mention the fact that SD threw her phone at her mothers face, and nobody is thinking that she might need anger management or something? (I cant remember if they said she is already in something like that, so correct me if im wrong) But the SD continues to abuse family members and everyone just glosses over it? Horrible family, I hope all three parents shape up or the eldest son takes over care for his brother when he is older, they dont need to be surrounded by an abusive, golden-child sister that everyone coddles.
@DrawciaGleam02
5 ай бұрын
Yeah, I think that if another incident happens then SD's therapy history needs to be revealed to OP......
@Bruh-gw5fx
5 ай бұрын
@@DrawciaGleam02 I think her therapy history should've been revealed when she went in detail about how her brother would be tortured and experimented on.. No matter how old she is, that's a pretty big sign that she is not mentally alright, especially if she is younger than 14-15
@DrawciaGleam02
5 ай бұрын
@@Bruh-gw5fx Oh thank goodness for the validation! But yeah, if stepdaughter causes another incident, bio-mom is now grounded from keeping that info a secret.
@toriladybird511
6 ай бұрын
As a step mother,my stepsons are in their late 20s and both fathers BOTH know where the front door is. But if the step child has issues and poses a risk to other siblings SHE cannot live there. This is a SD who need a lot of support and therapy. Mum Dad SM all need to work with her and therapist to figure out if shes got emotional needs not being met. If its not neglect or abuse mums sniping about the new family and its her alone ( theres a LOT of therapy needed)
@catsncrows
5 ай бұрын
S1 Hellno to having a child in the house where op is not allowed to discipline SD. I'm also so glad she didn't accept her partner's "haha, yeah it will all work out okey dokey." That translates to "No problem with you running into that social house on fire and dealing with it, haha right?" sidestepping any responsibility. The stress level would have been awful. Did I miss any mention of getting SD into therapy? Edit I'm really enjoying the Minecraft building in the background. I build in the sims but not happy cute little cottages but spaceports, fantasy builds and adaptations of unique architectural concepts
@DaisyAnimeluvr
4 ай бұрын
OP’s SD is being abusive, not bullying. She is clearly disturbed and OP needs to be involved with SD’s therapy and/or discipline because it is HER son being abused. Her son is in danger when SD is around, and until SD stops being verbally and physically abusive, she shouldn’t even be allowed in the house.
@maryjane4432
5 ай бұрын
Stepdaughter is a psychopath
@FroggyGirlDreams
5 ай бұрын
Oh for sure
@develyntwocentshenderson5739
6 ай бұрын
'find an adult'. and the adults do n o t h i n g. this is why you do not get remarried. with kids. youngest daughter is a socio-psychopath
@kisstune
6 ай бұрын
Or blame you
@stevesierra7098
5 ай бұрын
23:37 @@kisstune23:32
@SusanPederson
5 ай бұрын
SD is a kid but she is an evil kid.
@iamhector24
Ай бұрын
I love how people are dragging her for having to work and using their home for an office.
@iamhector24
Ай бұрын
I was 15 when my brother was born and its not the same. You arent just a sibling but a parent as well.
@coolbeans3752
5 ай бұрын
The older brother did nothing wrong. Plus SD could be abused.
@benjie128
3 ай бұрын
There is something seriously disturbed about the step-daughter when she's basically fantasizing about someone ripping off the fingernails and essentially dissecting the younger brother.
@virtualatheist
Ай бұрын
I made the mistake of looking up what a Cleveland Steamer is 🤢
@develyntwocentshenderson5739
6 ай бұрын
this is how dysfunction starts. and this is a total cluster-f*** of this. has one kid with problems but continues to have them. I believe in the almighty gene
@AkaDek0
6 ай бұрын
I do not know what you were listening to, but the first son is completely healthy. The second one has health problems. Or do you mean first op's stepdaughter?
@iwanttocomment8966
4 ай бұрын
Yeah this content and gameplay is better than Teltales. Time to watch this ine instead
@turdguyyt7616
6 ай бұрын
What up
@develyntwocentshenderson5739
6 ай бұрын
you went and had more kids you can handle. and now that things are out of control?? boohoo. nothing like how the new morality which was touted to help some of this crazy... oonly made it work
@Calories_To_Calibers
5 ай бұрын
“He needs to find an adult” nah let her find out
@Emil_LLscpfan
6 ай бұрын
Day 157 of commenting to help secretvoices
@SecretVoices25
6 ай бұрын
Day 157 of commenting Thank you for your great support❤️❤️❤️
@toriladybird511
6 ай бұрын
Me just liking and commenting now I have found this creator. It's the R sea holes for me and the rare rare times you hear "voices" anger slip out. They are so relaxing.
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