Iam a Pastor, I will start teaching what I have learnt from you
@elyonrg5062
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for using your platform wisely and to empower the current and next generation 🙏🏾🙏🏾
@willkommen2861
2 жыл бұрын
Then you are lost pastor! Teach what the holy spirit teaches you, read the Bible and let the holy spirit direct you.
@dorothyndobu3943
2 жыл бұрын
@@willkommen2861 so what has she said that is different from what the bible expect of people who truly know God and are living according to his command
@gloriasamuel1527
2 жыл бұрын
@@willkommen2861 like seriously? 😮
@supzonetv
2 жыл бұрын
@@willkommen2861 What is wrong with what she said? You are a problem and you obviously hate to hear the truth. My dear please ignore him and God bless you as you do.
@ishamunu1283
2 жыл бұрын
DIVORCE Is okay, starting over is okay, moving on is okay being alone is okay what's not okay is staying somewhere you're not valued and appreciated....... one thing that's constant in the world is Only change is constant in the 🌎world
@itsmevoidonmobile4177
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with you 100%
@Krysthalenz
2 жыл бұрын
I believe divorce is the right thing do ,if the marriage is not working. In case you know God forgive. Relationships takes enough out of you.
@Glycam
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@stellachijioke876
2 жыл бұрын
And if the person being abused doesn't want to leave for their own safety, then they die with own eyes simple.
@trulysensitive5620
2 жыл бұрын
@@itsmevoidonmobile4177 Amen
@TroyIV.
2 жыл бұрын
I was married for 11years taking care of the family. Mine is mental abuse. After paying Bills he will tell me I dont know what you are doing with your money, I will then begin to think how I spent my money. I left after 11 years. Not yet married but I have my peace.
@emeraldbright
2 жыл бұрын
This particular statement I don't know what u r doing with ur money eats me up well well.
@pammy22
2 жыл бұрын
My ex husband had his own pot of soup. He said he can’t eat what I cook when is angry with me. Did not want to be seen with me in public. Won’t help pay bills, he said the best time of the marriage was when I lost our baby. I blamed myself for the loss so I threw myself into housework when I got back from the hospital. Well , thank God I know my worth now
@najeebgaya4402
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Adeola. I didn't know that my mum has been domestically abused all her marriage life with my dad until she died 17 years ago, because he doesn't beat her I thought that's the only thing you call domestic abuse. My mum always tell me and my brothers "what ever bad things my dad is doing to me please don't do it to your spouse if u do so I'll never forgive u and God will never forgive u" she taught us alot about marriage and women as our equal before she died. Now we're leaving a happy life with our spouses...Thanks to her and Thank God 🙏
@ayoolafasanya8289
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, I am a Pastor and I agree with you 200% if there is anything like it. The truth is that, you did justice to this topic; you don't need to apologize for saying the truth. I just want to say that as ministers of the gospel, we must know the difference between what the Bible PRESCRIBES and what it DESCRIBES. "God hates divorce" is a prescription of the ideal, but the same God also expects us to apply our brains when the reality is out of sync with the ideal. God cannot hate divorce and loves an abusive husband or wife. For me, dying in an abusive marriage is not faithfulness; it is cheer foolishness. God bless you real good.
@busterzigler7530
2 жыл бұрын
Affirmative, what happened to this woman is not the definition of till death do us part. I watched a movie where some one said "sometimes cowards do survive". There is time to stay and fight, and there is time to retreat and re-strategize.
@SisiYemmieTV
2 жыл бұрын
Well said 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 you covered this thoroughly!!! Especially detailing the forms of domestic abuse. And you said my mind “treat people the way you want to be treated.
@chyummy
2 жыл бұрын
I totally agree. 💯
@olumuyiwaomiyera9128
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola this is beautiful...I wish they can watch and learn...Thank you.
@mutiyatolayinka275
2 жыл бұрын
My 17year old cousin was married off to a guy she barely knew by her father in 2020. The only reason the guy's parents wanted him to get married was that he rarely comes home from school. He was in the university. And, our sister happens to be the sacrificial lamb. It took my mum's family rebelling before her father allowed the traditional Yoruba introduction, at least to know their son in law. Long story cut short, on the wedding day, I personally saw to telling him that I'll come with all my siblings (we all practice martial arts), beat him up and get him locked up if he ever lays his hands on the girl or emotionally abuse her. Till today, I'm being told that's why I'm not married in my mid 20s. You know what? I wear that badge with pride!
@marilynseptember21
2 жыл бұрын
I love you dear.
@the100dollarhustleold
2 жыл бұрын
Wonder woman
@CommonSenseSisters
2 жыл бұрын
@Mutiyat Olayinka you are an amazing & courageous person. Shame on those people who try to discourage you for speaking up about your stands!!! Life is easier when people know they cannot mess with you, because they know your stands on issues!!
@HeavenlyKingdomProjectManager
2 жыл бұрын
Like it's a disease to be single. What a backward country!!
@loveheals6184
2 жыл бұрын
My dear, I trust the man you do marry will be an ethical man and a person of integrity who will celebrate, affirm and be enthusiastic about building a life with you because of your principles. Such men do actually exist. I respect that you all practice martial arts. I truly wish I had been given the option. Blessings to you our sister, our daughter, our cherished future in-law, insha Allah/God-willing.
@thehoneydeev
2 жыл бұрын
This is a video you need to upload every March during Women month as a kind reminder to everyone ✊🏽
@countessm1794
2 жыл бұрын
In fact, I prefer she puts the link in the description once a month. Watching the video should be a culture until everyone hears and understands how dangerous it is to endure domestic violence.
@trulysensitive5620
2 жыл бұрын
Upload everyday
@tuforu4
2 жыл бұрын
@@trulysensitive5620 all over AFRICA as well
@adelle-theworshiper7852
2 жыл бұрын
Yesss I agree
@desy2442
2 жыл бұрын
Obviously the teaching we get when we were young shapes our thinking. I grew up in a house where my dad helps to cook, do domestic work and hence, I enjoy doing all those things. I started bathing my son after 1 week of birth.
@OmaGladys9
2 жыл бұрын
this comment needs to be pinned. I was also fortunate to be raised by such a loving dad(may his soul rest in peace). He believed in gender equality; helped with the house chores, and was very involved in raising us in every way possible. He shaped my expectation of my spouse.
@namagembe67
2 жыл бұрын
These are the kind of men that need to be commenting.
@gamrpresident
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly but does Adeola content help situation? She is blackmailing the whole country before the world. I grew just like your setting where my dad cook when we go to farm , there’s no such thing as Nigeria violence, it’s global and it’s about individuals and upbringing
@babaseer280
2 жыл бұрын
When ever I wash my wife's and children's clothes people will be mocking....... Many people are making no sense out of this so called abuse and preaching people to divorce....... I think we should start teaching our young ones how to behave...
@babaseer280
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola is seriously wrong on some of the points she raised as an abuse here.... E. G kneeling down to great your husband.
@audreymay9378
2 жыл бұрын
If children are present then domestic abuse is also child abuse. Even if children are not being hit they are still negatively affected by seeing their mother or father being abused in a marriage
@Tinaday73
2 жыл бұрын
Actually it is emotional and psychological abuse for the children.
@Sayitasebe
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@anidennisani
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely, and the adverse effects on the child continues throughout the child's lifetime.
@leinyuylinyuy3779
2 жыл бұрын
Excellent 👌🏿
@libbylib1819
2 жыл бұрын
Yup! My dad used to beat up my mother until I turned 16 and would hold my dad's hands behind his back (don't know where the strength came from). I told my dad the beating could no longer carry on now that I was old enough to restrain him and get my younger siblings to get involved too. He never laid hands on my mother again. His verbal, psychological and physical abuse of my mother clouded my view of marriage. Granted, my intervention could have gone wrong. I was fortunate that my mother adored his children more than my mother. I had such a strong sense of fairness that I refused to see my mother's swollen face, missing, broken bones,etc. I never thought of contacting the police in those days, but I was determined that the abuse was not going to continue the minute I was physically fit to stop him. Like many African women, she stayed for us and for society.😔
@been2711
2 жыл бұрын
Also a man who goes around cheating, whoring and impregnating women is abusive. That extra marital affair is emotional abuse. Bringing disease to your marriage is abusive. Its not in a man's nature to cheat, it is indiscipline, it is abusive.
@dorisije4427
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot.
@roselineola3934
2 жыл бұрын
What of women who cheats in their marital relationships too. I am not justifying men who cheat. Let all parties stop.
@KiRetteCouture
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@Daizyonceagain
2 жыл бұрын
@@roselineola3934 you have justified men cheating.. That's what this commenter is addressing. You this so called ladies always encouraged this stupidity as well.. "he is a man".... You know your lines... This is why I don't interact with some women on this topic. I call this women second creatures.. Why are you so pissed at this comment... Women take commitment seriously than men.. How many men has disciplined themselves even before marriage? "they are men" this is how it all starts.. The stupidity.. You are ruining their lives and sending their souls to eternal damnation..
@Daizyonceagain
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you!!
@onyekachiedu5262
2 жыл бұрын
Well Said Adeola. This needs to really stop! As a Father, if & when my sons get married, I would let my daughter-in-law know that she should feel free to know let me know when she's abused. That applies much more to my daughter. This is what my father-In-law did to me when I was marrying my wife. I can't even think of touching my wife or making her feel less of a person
@titi9238
2 жыл бұрын
Am glad you have a good role model (father-in-law)!
@brianemereje5857
2 жыл бұрын
If your daughter in-law lets you know then what? will you call the police on your son? I appreciate that your intentions are pure, but this could lead to more problems. Raise them well period. Domestic abuse in my opinion is not for in-laws to fix as they have their own biases involved in the issue. Counsellor, police or divorce, family should be made aware of decisions.
@mkamboimaganga5690
2 жыл бұрын
God bless him
@lilianlucky9833
2 жыл бұрын
Start by teaching your son's how to treat a woman right
@uchenna802
2 жыл бұрын
@@brianemereje5857 I'll tell him, if you can't tolerate the woman, let her go. If you kill her, i won't have to call the police, because they'll come for you. Besides i didn't raise a Bully.
@theflourishingfemale
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola you have done justice to this conversation. Nothing more to add! Great job!!!
@theofyblessed4628
2 жыл бұрын
Madam ,very good job you did. Everyone is talking about abuse now . We have to address issues like Mistreatment of widows. Also Mistreatment of house help. Too much involvement of inlaws
@alexsmidt6513
2 жыл бұрын
@@theofyblessed4628 don't a lot of women in Nigeria mistreat their house helps? a lot of people are guilty . too many emotions in this video due to the situation and sad demise of osinachi. ADeola is promoting violence too. She said every father should admonish their son in law to be that " ........ I would hunt you down and KILL you". You don't address DV with a threat of assault. I found that concerning even though she giggled after saying it.
@modupeali-oke3119
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t know if you left anything unsaid. But to me you hit the nail on the head. May you remain blessed.
@ygee5551
2 жыл бұрын
Amazing points Adeola. We need to normalize seeing a therapist in Nigeria. A lot of people have some form of stockholm syndrome in abusive relationship which is one of the biggest factors of not leaving. As everyone has a family medical doctor, we all need a family emergency therapist.
@christopheromoifo1526
2 жыл бұрын
No need for apology my dear, you have rightly spoken to those who wish to learn Most of us Nigerian men work so hard to substain our inherited or transferred culture of ignorance
@iamsosasmama
2 жыл бұрын
When you start to doubt your sanity, in any kind of relationship, you are being gaslighted. #SAYNOTODOMESTICVIOLENCE
@maryavorgbedor8816
2 жыл бұрын
Bravo Adeee
@pearly0961
2 жыл бұрын
Started doubting my sanity! I thank God I am alive today, almost strangled me to death.
@CommonSenseSisters
2 жыл бұрын
We just finished our 4hour live show trashing this issue of Domestic Violence. Adeola no need to apologize, if people don't like what you are saying (which is the truth), they should know that they have a problem that the NEED TO WORK ON. Great video. We have to continue spreading this awareness.
@manuchimatako9966
2 жыл бұрын
Its nice she said it all I love it. But again you guys should trash the issue of Nigerian girls making men the source of there income ,so that the girls can be responsible to there self's and there families. As soon as you say hello to majority of a Nigerian girl she feels helper have come for her not to work and achieve things in Life , many are now slots because of money God forbid what is even happening , if a lady makes her money she will be respected more because she is also hard working please thanks
@charles.folabit478
2 жыл бұрын
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@gloryinegbedion3418
2 жыл бұрын
@@manuchimatako9966 You’re forgetting that regardless of a woman’s financial status an abusive man will still find a reason to abuse her (vice versa). It’s not a financial problem but a mental & character issue that may be solved with long term therapy.
@chineduobanye6370
2 жыл бұрын
@@manuchimatako9966 this is a dizzying trend now.
@Workhardnbelieveinurself
2 жыл бұрын
@@manuchimatako9966that's true
@collinsekeneonyekachi9270
2 жыл бұрын
I have watched with disappointment how a lot of people have analysed Osinachi's death and also condemned the husband while leaving out the contributing roles that we all have played as individuals and society as a whole. Most worrisome is the role of silence played by all those who were privy to her ordeal. Those who knew and witnessed the abuse and maltreatment at one point or the other, including those she confided in. They all basically did nothing tangible to save her from that death trap. In as much as we blame her for remaining in the marriage and covering up, her actions were a reflection and reaction to that of the Church and society at large. We all take the blame! And Adeola has clearly pointed out and explained how in this video. Thank you Adeola for this lecture/teaching. You owe nobody any apology for all you have said. You did great justice to it and have opened more eyes to see how our actions contributes to domestic abuse and violence. Please, how can I download this video on my phone?
@ay1ism
2 жыл бұрын
You and who are all taken the blame? I beg the only person to be blamed is the abuser.
@graceehiomele672
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly you humbly elaborated everything issue. Personally I learned from this video. I. love you
@collinsekeneonyekachi9270
2 жыл бұрын
@@ay1ism No doubt the abuser is the culprit here. He deserves to be jailed. However, the Abuser has enablers: direct and indirect enablers; silence eneblers; cultural and religious enablers, etc. Also part of the enablers of domestic abuse and violence is the weak & corrupt policing and prosecution, as well as our weak justice system. Take it from me that despite the public outcry and attention this issue has garnered, I will not be surprised if this man is not handed a strong jail term following a possibly very poor investigation & prosecution and lack of hard evidences and witnesses to convict him. I will not be surprised that in the next few years, everyone would have forgotten about Osinachi (because Nigerians forget too easily), and then the Abuser is possibly freed and back in the society to remarry. That is how the Nigerian society condones and enables such crime, and we are all part and parcel of that societal failure!
@ay1ism
2 жыл бұрын
@@collinsekeneonyekachi9270 Has the caused of death been determined? If yes, was the beating a contributing factor or main cause? This is what will determine the length of jail he receives. The judicial court is not a social media court and doesn't operate on emotions but evidence. I understand where you're coming from but the abuser is a full grown adult and has a functioning brain so he is fully aware that what he's doing is wrong he's fully responsible not a the society. The enabling factors you mentioned can also apply to every society in the world. A few weeks ago, a man publicly stabbed his ex to death here in the UK and going by your point we could also say the society here is the enabler too because when it comes to divorce or separations in western world it usually favours the women more than the men and some women have used the system adversely against men which then drive some men to the extreme to murder/suicide.
@Odin00
2 жыл бұрын
@@ay1ism it has been determined by the doctors that she died by battering to her chest as a result,blood clothing in the chest
@loveheals6184
2 жыл бұрын
Sis, I cannot thank you enough for the thoroughness and intentionality of this very powerful program. Blessings to you. African girls/ women are really suffering across ethnicity, nationality and in both Christianity & Islam. We're doing this at home AND continuing it abroad as "proof" that we haven't forgotten our African culture.
@tundeabednegosamuel1563
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks Aunty Adeee! Many of Nigerian pastors are still cultural preachers. They are selective in their scriptural interpretations to please their pride! This system of giving three weeks or three months training to people then pour “goya oil” upon them and start calling them pastors, apostles, evangelists, prophets etc is highly injurious to both society and Christian faith!
@shenkexshenkes8592
2 жыл бұрын
I wish I can give you a big hug!!!🤗🤗🤗🤗 Tell them again!
@hopeanozie5842
2 жыл бұрын
That Goya Oil has done a lot of damage in our country.
@rachaidasadek7000
2 жыл бұрын
@@hopeanozie5842 oyinbo olive oil, packaged by Goya company and #tagged as annointing oil. What is so special in the oil that immediately it is poured on characters that inborn that can not be changed .
@lizo.etouke6464
2 жыл бұрын
Am telling you, “ Goya oil” self 😂. Sad reality
@ByRitaUK
2 жыл бұрын
'Cultural preachers'! I hear you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@blessed1940
2 жыл бұрын
I left a pastor. He didn't beat me, but abuse comes in different forms. Too much stress. He wasn't giving me anything, so why stay in a marriage when I am still alone.
@victoriaogunsanya9074
Жыл бұрын
I hear you my sister. He was probably a covert narcissist
@taiwotemitope1246
2 жыл бұрын
Growing up, my mother always fight my father so much but one thing I noticed was that this man never raise his hands on her instead after all the drama, he will still beg her. One day she realize her wrong doings and mends her way. This man get patience.
@itsbetter9039
2 жыл бұрын
It's better to walk away than to stay. being emotionally abused is crazy you start asking yourself if your head is functioning well or something is missing, it makes you feel useless worthless, but its courage of standing for yourself and making a move.
@Daizyonceagain
2 жыл бұрын
It's called second guessing yourself due to constant blaming..
@VictoryQueen-ef2pl
2 жыл бұрын
You’ve said it all my dear most of our African culture is abuse-friendly and most of our people are broken mentally because of abuse that has stemmed from generations. We really need to break the cycle to have a better society in the next generation. Thank you very much
@xlucivemakeovers1199
2 жыл бұрын
God really bless you, I learnt alot from this.
@dorothynduku9825
2 жыл бұрын
American men too abuse their wife I'm a survival from that.
@philomenaochei1659
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola you’re 100% right. Fantastic job. Our men should go back to marriage school if there’s anything like that.
@militarybishop6053
2 жыл бұрын
That's not what she said. I guess you listened to her and she made a lot of sense. Let me summarize it in your interest and it says, the training & raising of male kids should be looked into. It's foundational. The moment it's gotten right from there, everything becomes blossom. In vain we build, if we don't first build the man. I started bathing my kid from day 1 & I see nothing wrong because I had bathed a lot of kids ab initio.
@exciting2355
2 жыл бұрын
Not only the men. Mostly the women need that schooling to stand up to abusive men and say no.
@veraaddoyobo8482
2 жыл бұрын
@@exciting2355 mostly both, because if say mostly the women your leaving the responsibility to women
@ByRitaUK
2 жыл бұрын
@@militarybishop6053 You said it excellently, I commend you! 🙏🏽🙏🏽 We are saying that there is something that comes first, before all else. Even the Bible helped us with this important advice. Train that child in the way you want them to go o!!! Stop bringing up beasts that only understand the language of violence. Male or female child must be taught to put their fists down!!! Treat the other person as you would treat yourselves. Cut out the pain, the manipulation, the bullying the violence. Please my Bible experts, remind me of the verse where God cursed those whom would lead the innocent child astray...better for you that you tied a stone to your neck and sank to the bottom of the ocean?? This is how much it pains him to have that innocent little soul, that clean slate, tarnished by some misguided, bitter, violent, sick adult! For every Father and mother that has failed to impact a solid moral compass in their young ward, take heed. You are dicing with your own soul and the heavenly race you keep harping on about. Stop the violence in your homes and stop brutalising your daughters especially!! Put down your fists, put down that weapon, your belt, your cane, the iron, the hot water in that kettle, keep the razor blade away from the girl child you violent demons! Stop shaving them to shame them, stop stripping them naked for all to see. Ground pepper has no business in a female child's genitals or in her eyes for that matter! Evil, simply evil. Stop britalising your daughters, your sons are learning from you every single day!
@learnenglishwithsimonnkese5678
2 жыл бұрын
Does it mean in Africa we under go political violent or abuse ?😁 because or what u stated is exactly 💯 what our government are doing to us😅
@nanyaonwuamaeze4862
2 жыл бұрын
This is the best view on the issue of abuse in marriage that I have heard so far. Thank you for the Bible references. I listen to the end of your video and shared it as well. Listening to your calm and ‘smiling’ voice is a wake up call for me personally. Thank you again
@realebonyqueen7485
2 жыл бұрын
Best topic ever! Well researched and articulated. The Nigerian culture system needs general restructuring and the Federal / State Government needs to work 24/7, to help reprimand culprits. They should create awareness against domestic violence/Child abuse. Laws should be put in place ensuring that nobody is above the law.
@chinenyemary8644
2 жыл бұрын
The thing is that culturally the children belong to the man in Africa, so many women would not want to leave their children and go. We need a law that regulates the welfare of children after separation or divorce 🤔
@nanaamma5861
2 жыл бұрын
Not in the Akan (Ghana) culture. The children belong to the woman in the akan culture
@busterzigler7530
2 жыл бұрын
Even if the man is irresponsible?
@omotundebabajide8683
2 жыл бұрын
The beauty of Shariah is that the children would be with the woman in the event of divorce until she wants to remarry when the kids are moved to her mother not even the husband's mother. God help us
@josephinerebede6225
2 жыл бұрын
Preach, sis True talk. I suffered that Bullshit and was condemned by my then church and spouse. Soooo bad, that I remember telling a brother that would he set his daughter for death. ???... He was quite. And stop telling me to endure in the marriage and that he would protect me. Everything you say is true. Man can be selfish and egoistic . You should add counselor and life coach to your resume. ....love you sis. More of God's grace and wisdom 🙏
@tolu_lovelyo6990
2 жыл бұрын
Well done, Adeola. No one deserves to be subjected to domestic abuse, male or female. Many children have been subjected to emotional abuse and damage because of years of witnessing violence at home. Sadly, some parents produce mini abusers, children born into violence. It breaks my heart. For those who have taken the bold step to leave toxic and abusive relationships, I pray for strength to pick yourself up, heal and prosper. For parents who use their children to get back at their spouses, stop it. Children did not beg to be born. Your responsibility is to raise them right. Don’t damage these children. That is pure evil. We all have a responsibility to call out abuse in our corners.
@benjaminirabor7776
2 жыл бұрын
God wants us to live in peace and love. No one should lord himself above the other. If relationship suddenly become toxic... Quit immediately. That's me of course.
@sabinataiwo7405
2 жыл бұрын
This is so detailed and apt. God bless you for dealing with this societal menace by speaking about all that connects to it. My children told me that the best decision I ever made was walking away from an abusive marriage after 24 years of “enduring”. It’s hi time we do away with cultural and religious bigotry that we hide under to shield abusive people and condone abuse.
@olufunmilayoadebambo1744
2 жыл бұрын
Ephesians 5 says submit to each other in the fear of Christ, no man hates or beats himself but nourish and nurture his body hence as one flesh you can't beat yourself.
@olakunleoladipupo1621
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, thanks for this episode. I grew up in a polygamous home. My dad had 5 wives and 12 children! My mum has four for him. My dad was like a Lord in the family. Any small thing, he would beat and destroy the wives' tuffs. My mum has 4 boys for him. My mum thought us how to do everything! My mum left but she had to come back bcos of us her children. All other wives left but my mum endured the marriage. Out of 12 children of my dad, only my mum's children went to high school. Only 3 other children of my dad finished primary school. Out of 4 of my mum's, 3 are graduates. Only my mum's 1st born is not a graduate. I didn't school in Nigeria. Both my 1st degree and masters degree are from the UK. While my last 2 brothers are in Nigeria. Men go through abuse too it's just that it's not common as shown by statistics. Any form of abuse is not good and it should stop! Both gender need to to be better! Thank you Adeola for using your platform to talk about it.
@jacquelineenyong4330
2 жыл бұрын
Great job, Adeola. I just hope that our fellow women will take heed, get empowered, and create a source of self-sufficiency and independence. Ladies, let us uplift each other, rather than tear each other down. If you have enough and some extra, please help a sister who is in need. Together we will rise 💪
@hopeanozie5842
2 жыл бұрын
The greatest or should I say the most surprising thing about all this marriage palava is that it does not cost you anything to love and respect your spouse but everything to gain. The entire family will be happy and healthy ❤️ People please chose to be happiness, love and life.
@majestygodisreal516
2 жыл бұрын
When a man abuse their spouse they are after someone else they don't value u, women pls run I will like to support and open a help women foundations I will discuss with Adeola
@nnennaonoh
2 жыл бұрын
You are 100% correct, i actually suffered from emotional abuse, but thank God i acted fast. Emotional abuse is worse than physical abuse if i may say
@allireyhanataduragbemi9898
2 жыл бұрын
My dad actually abused my mom while I watched it was so bad that my mum can't even work and if she did secretly and he finds out then it is beating, this is something I have actually watched during childhood and it really has affected how I see marriage, at some point my maternal grandpa just came and took us away from my dad. Today, my mum support me and often give me more info on how to care for myself. Because of my experience I know and recognize all form of domestic violence to the extent that I can say every male in my family have abused their wives in one way or the day.
@nkjv12
2 жыл бұрын
Wow kudos to your grandfather for removing you from an abusive situation
@editheruba4223
2 жыл бұрын
I am Nigerian and was abused by my ex-husband for about two decades. I refused to have him prosecuted by the police because l wanted a family home for my children, having grown up an orphan. But the day he physically injured our first son, then declared me insane to Social Services, l ended the marriage 21yrs ago, and have successfully with the Grace of God, brought up my three children on my own. I am alive, happy and grateful to God. The only sad part of this is that l ended up with chronic back pain from all the beating l got from my ex-husband. My children have embraced father God as their earthly father. So pls, anyone out there suffering DV, there is help via hospitals and the police who would take you and your children to a Women’s refuge in the U.K., and support you in healing and starting all over without your abuser.
@elyonrg5062
2 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️
@elceed4122
2 жыл бұрын
Well said Adeola! Thank you for your input on this very important topic. My contribution to this discussion is that apart from religion and culture, the legal system in Nigeria is also stacked against women. Report of domestic violence are not treated seriously by law enforcement and Women often stay in abusive marriages because they will likely loose custody of their Children. For many women leaving an abusive marriage and leaving their children behind is not a viable option. Also, many of these women can not financially afford to leave. I am not sure if there are domestic violence shelters or places where such women can go to for shelter if they leave their abusive husbands. It will take a lot to change the system. The society, churches, law enforcement and the Nigerian government.
@rantiadu5686
2 жыл бұрын
You’re right about the legal system. There’s no restrain order from the court to protect the women. The role of the department of women affairs in not made public. It is just a name to appoint minister. Thank God for some NGOs empowering women.
@lifeisanexcitingjourney5534
2 жыл бұрын
On point... In case of divorce, the woman doesn't even get to have anything/money to raise the kids with...
@soniaella3516
2 жыл бұрын
Don't say so Ma. You didn't take too much of our time. The contain of your message is invaluable. How many books would we have read to have the knowledge you have just shared in only 30 minutes? May God continue to increase you Ma.
@audreybourdettes4352
2 жыл бұрын
I love the fact that you spoke about every aspect of the subject, and that you informed victims of abuse that it is not helping their kids at all. Used to say, better seeing both parents happy separately than together fighting. Changing some of these mindsets is a real fight, and we should definitely not stop fighting now. I applaud your work
@ChibuikeUlasi
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for another educative episode Adeola!
@brownjohn819
2 жыл бұрын
This is timely, educative and informative. Our society and religious leaders over the time have created a systematic abusive marriage 💑 by their teaching, doctrines and what is normatively good. It will take a reasonable time to break this barbaric idea that "marriage is a do or die thing".
@TWUMKWAME5
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, you said it all, anyone who disagrees with you either male or female might be an abuser themselves, these are loaded topics that need to be unloaded, thank you Adeola for bringing freedom to a lot of people.
@abgailhouston
2 жыл бұрын
This beautiful young lady (Adeola) is blessed with wisdom. You have said it all, wish God will help and interpret this episode to many(men & women)going through these abuses. Thank you so much for this episode.
@priscillaeffah8192
2 жыл бұрын
Well said 👏🏾, our society unconsciously influences our decision as we grow. It becomes an unspoken rule that people follow automatically.
@mamsin6499
2 жыл бұрын
Domestic abuse is not talked about in African society and I think it’s a high time we put are stop to that. I am from Gambia and 2 weeks ago a woman was beating by her husband and her brother-in-law almost to death. And a young woman was also murdered by her partner couple of weeks ago in Canada from my society. We need to stop telling people to go back to abusive relationship and we need to stand against abuse in African.
@benjamingbemisola8256
2 жыл бұрын
We are enduring Nigeria as a matter of fact! We're in an abusive relationship with this nation. We don't like what our leaders are doing but can't speak up or go against them and it has ended the lives of many.
@irishinjeel2174
2 жыл бұрын
Hmm you are right
@emmanuelsamuels8968
2 жыл бұрын
Nigeria is the real abuse!
@co9568
2 жыл бұрын
Very true
@tundeolusegt1201
2 жыл бұрын
exactly, we're being forced into abusive relationship and union we're tired off...who do we turn to?
@zianaboating6052
2 жыл бұрын
I was wondering what is taking you so long but girl, you have definitely delivered this massage and it’s worth waiting for. Thank you! I will share and share again.
@deeteespiritsoul5890
2 жыл бұрын
This makes more sense than any marriage sermon I’ve heard. I have shared. It’s up to people to take heed or ignore.
@halimaumaru5905
2 жыл бұрын
Please Adeola this is exactly what am going through If you can see this my comment or anyone here please reach out to Adeola for me You are speaking exactly what am facing Am actually stuck here
@gracemaguri6110
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Adeola we really needed this. You covered every issue on Domestic violence. There is so much to unpack. One way I feel we can survive this is to teach women self love. So that they can have the courage to stand up for themselves. Teaching women to be financially independent and confident in their worth means more women can leave. Let’s celebrate the survivors story. So that we lift the stigma off divorce and leaving relationships. I would love to write the movie of a woman that shows how amazing it is to walk away.
@oluwatosintumininu1666
2 жыл бұрын
Wow!! This is absolutely true. God bless you abundantly. Men and pastors need to listen and digest this
@the100dollarhustleold
2 жыл бұрын
I cook, I clean, I wash our clothes, I bath my daughter and take her to school, sometimes I take her away to visit a friend. All this so my wife can stay less stressed, and yes I do this while working full time. That doesn't make me any less a man, let's drop this 1900 mentality we are in 2022 for God's sake.
@busterzigler7530
2 жыл бұрын
You mean the draconian attitude, am not a good cook as my wife and thats why i dont refuse or nag if there is something wrong with the food.
@junejohn8736
2 жыл бұрын
I am so glad that you tackled this particular subject whenever I watch a movie or skit originating from the African continent the theme is always the same. The women are always abusing their maids and/or daughters in law. The husbands abusing their wives, maids and children. These type of shows MUST STOP as they are perpetrating and condoning the violence. I have commented on this in the past.
@jadediamondtv4155
2 жыл бұрын
I have noticed it too. People abuse their domestic staffs a lot in Africa (gateman, security man, maids, then daughters in law are treated as door mate! So sad
@memphisquinn6387
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, great video and I think this is an apt message especially for Easter Sunday. Honestly everyone married or thinking about it or even in laws should watch and reflect. Great job Adeola and team. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@adelekeislamiat4205
2 жыл бұрын
Finally,this issue got addressed by someone who won’t leave a stone unturned. More grease to your elbow(Adeola) I think it’s high time we have to understand that there’s different meaning to wedding and marriage, wedding is for a day and marriage is a life time that before going into it,it needs thorough discussion Marriage is more to meet than the eye
@aminaabdulazeez2688
2 жыл бұрын
This is so all encompassing! Thank you! Many are going through domestic abuse but can't even fathom it ! Most Nigerian men are abusers generally, except if one is wise you won't even know you are being abused!
@olivegrace1508
2 жыл бұрын
Pastors are not marriage councillors, councillors are professionals that are trained to help the victims of violence. They are free to leave if they feel their lives are in Danger. Well explained Sister Adoila.
@oluforijimibadejo5567
2 жыл бұрын
Let's be clear about something, I strongly agree and recommend every single word spoken by Adeola here. Thumbs up. However, in my church today, a lot was made about this and apparently we had people who have either been abused, witnessed abuses or have abused their spouses. So, I asked some questions in which not many had convincing response to. Here are a few: 1. How many people would be willing to marry, approve of or recommend a divorcee? 2. If you as a neighbour see a woman being abused by her spouse, would you report it? 3. Is there anybody in this gathering who have never seen a case of domestic violence against women? 4. For those who have seen cases, did you report it? How did your community including the concerned spouses react to it 5. What if the abuse happened only once or for the first time, is it enough to file for divorce? 6. Is there a way back for a first time abuser? 7. Many people in my church especially the men complains about verbal abuse, character defamation and other forms suffered by men in the hands of their wife and how all these led to frustration and later aggression. This made me ask, is it alright for men suffering this mental abuse from their spouse to file for divorce before they become abusers? 8. In the event that a dependent woman file for divorce or even chooses to leave her spouse, are there systems in place to act as a buffer? 9. How should abusers be dealt with legally or customarily? 10. Is the weight of verbal abuse greater than physical abusers? 11. Is verbal abuse a sufficient factor to file for a divorce?
@anokyewaappiah9021
2 жыл бұрын
Great questions! That said the women are dying prematurely - and some of those questions posed here should be addressed by the church/families/traditional leaders. Whilst we are waiting for the church/families/traditional leaders to address the issues, the victim should remove him or herself from harm's way. In some cases, it might mean risking abandoning your children temporarily till you are financially okay to go for them. Mothers/fathers who had nothing have left. In leaving, they were not financially better off - but they brought their widow's mite to their kids - in their spouse's home or in school of the kids. Dying in the relationship should never be an option!
@innosaint8803
2 жыл бұрын
Insightful. Although I would have wished you threw more light on relationships where a wife whose mum was abused decides never to yeild to a peaceful relationship but rather abuses her husband to avoid being abused.
@florencebabalola8133
2 жыл бұрын
Innocent, the girl had been damaged by the violence experienced growing up and such ladies need counselling and sometimes, psychologists.
@exciting2355
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you my sister. You have said it all. Abuse in all form whether marital, parents, siblings etc should be condenmed seriously. That's why Nigeria is not moving forward.
@danetteukattah7728
2 жыл бұрын
Well said, the foundation of marriage needs to evolve , the glorification of marriage has gotten out of hand. As you said treat someone the way you want to be treated, end of discussion. My husbands help me cook, chores , we’re working hand in hand. I only have boys and I want them see this, they are not superior to any woman. My husband adores me.
@manuchimatako9966
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola Please also try and make an episode to educate our Nigerian Girls /Ladies so that they can also work to make money ,because Nigeria girls this day as soon as you say hello to them you have turn to there ATM machine, there parents , and also they are now your responsibility to take care of ,what there father and mother could not give to them they expect you to provide for them, they don't have eyes for the future, that's why they are been treated any how because they don't have anything to bring to the table. Please address this girls to have some same thank you.
@dominicandrewz
2 жыл бұрын
Heavy episode, but it needed to be done. I keep learning. When a woman talks about her plight, shut up and listen. Thank you Adeola 👌🏾
@jeffreymwanza3654
2 жыл бұрын
This is the best topic that you have presented, well researched and you articulated yourself very well on the dangers of domestic and family violence. Well done!!!..I am a domestic and family violence practitioner and I am happy to see such awareness being promoted to ensure safety for the most vulnerable members of our society especially women. Don't you think it is critical for african governments to legislate against family violence?? The fight against family violence should be taken seriously by every government.
@dupebetiku1600
2 жыл бұрын
You are right Adeola. These domestic violent men NEVER LOVE these women they call 'wives',they are serial womanizers and debar the progress of the 'wives'. Beware being emotional traumatizers will lead you to a mental home. Talk to a therapist, a Coach or a Counselor.
@tuforu4
2 жыл бұрын
Do you know what ypu are writing
@justjite15
2 жыл бұрын
They will be writing laws that incriminate themselves. The same mind sets that allows a lawmaker to raise his hand and slap his subordinates is the mindset that will make him an abuser at home. How many of those have we seen in public and our society still lets them lead and speak for the Nigerian people.
@tuforu4
2 жыл бұрын
So you BEAT YOUR WIFE..
@Drmedoskie
2 жыл бұрын
Weldone my dear Adeola.Alot of people are dying in silence because of what the society will say.
@florencebabalola8133
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, thank you so much for this episode. I have preached this to young ones that have been close to me. Some of my friends and colleagues see me as a rebel because way back in the 80s, I walked away and they can't comprehend it. But sis, I am the better for it, so is my daughter.
@ikayn7149
2 жыл бұрын
To their credit, most mothers taught their daughters how to stay married and take care of their husbands but on the flip side, most fathers didn't do the same for their sons. We are just reaping the fruits of our labor because of the life principle of, "what you sow is what you'll reap." Unless we change our ways, it can only get worse.
@benedictiribhogbe5686
2 жыл бұрын
They do train their sons. The ideology is the question. Both fathers and mothers (society at large) have the same ideology on who a husband should be and who a wife should be. Example, a mother will raise her daughter to take care of her husband so she is not disgracefully kicked out, and then, cannot watch her son do house chores for his wife. She will be so disappointed of her son and tout him to be less than a man, or accuse the wife of using black magic on him. So what ideology do you really think men are raised with in the first place?
@veraaddoyobo8482
2 жыл бұрын
@@benedictiribhogbe5686 you've said it all, the problem of most African culture. When one of my in-law came to our home and saw my husband in the kitchen with me cleaning while I cook, the family heard about it
@aishaahmed4553
2 жыл бұрын
I like the fact that you mentioned men too. Some of us make it only women issue. Domestic violence is a disease & we must work together to stop this.
@chidiogbonnia1408
2 жыл бұрын
My daughter Adeola, I score you 105% for this program. God bless you my dear.
@helendiamond5574
2 жыл бұрын
God bless you Deola,this is what I find patronising. More than than 80% of people condemning the husband now would have condemned the woman if she had left
@skiesboi
2 жыл бұрын
I am so amazed that you are prepared to tackle this head-on. I can only say all the power to you. I've been interested in your channel for a while, and this just shows why. I hope that people will listen to you.
@ifehansson2254
2 жыл бұрын
As someone who grew up in a household where my father abused us all including my mother. It was Igbo culture that kept us suffering. My father was never held to account by the community, he would punch and beat my mother but it was she who would have to kneel down and beg him for forgiveness though she had done nothing wrong. Igbo culture is evil to women. My mother endured her suffering because she did not want to be talked about as a divorcee
@veraaddoyobo8482
2 жыл бұрын
Wow sorry Ooooooh, One KZitemr call Summer talk about this same issue of her father abusing her mother and the impact it had on her. Because of it her sister never got married, she also married outside her culture. After her show the comments was an eye opener
@theophileebele3022
2 жыл бұрын
True. Igbo culture is evil to women.
@ByRitaUK
2 жыл бұрын
This matter you raised is an entire PhD endeavour in itself! God bless you for stating the uncomfortable truth about our cultural practices! Our misplaced pride will never allow us to humble ourselves before our creator and admit that we have got this thing all wrong. A significant number of our men are being bred, even as we speak, to be lethal forces that devastate the lives of a large percentage of their female counterparts. From Father, to all your brothers, uncle sef, male cousins and even male neighbours unrelated by blood, in your compound, have been empowered to discipline you and show you your place in our society. Is it our coming of age rites/reaching puberty aka female genital mutilation? Is it the intolerance of the 'barren witch that has eaten all the babies in her womb? Is it even the confirmed witch that caused her husband's death and the rituals that must follow, shaving like you have never known shaving in this life...before she is deemed clean enough for one of the males in the wider family to adopt as his wife? Or should I invite you to wrap your minds around our inheritance practices? Spoiler alert!...The male inherits it all! Yes, like in any thing in this life, there must be exceptions, outliers as we say in Research. Few educated, wealthy and/or well travelled elites are exempt from this troubling way of life. If you talk, the women folk will yell in hot fury that this is their tradition! "My mother before me and her mother before her, passed through these rites!" Mind you, they receive holy communion every Sunday and attend daily morning Mass, devout Bible reading Christians sitted in the front pew for 'Fada' to see how pious they are. This thing is endemic! Will my people listen though???
@gracegeorge7285
2 жыл бұрын
Gbam!
@anokyewaappiah9021
2 жыл бұрын
Hopefully - women are learning to hold their head high inspire of the pseudo stigma/label "divorcee". It is important to love one's self and walk away from anything and everything that is hurtful/harmful
@victorgodwin7655
2 жыл бұрын
My dad needs to hear this Bcus he thinks that he does not beat my mum physical but little did he know that the words he uses on her on daily basis are deadly
@francisinusa570
2 жыл бұрын
One thing I have said and will continue saying. As long as there are organizations sensitising the girl child and none sensitising the boy child, we are just deceiving ourselves. We are not yet ready to tackle the problem. My sister asked me "who does the girls sleep with? Do they sleep with themselves? Who woos them? Who sweet talk them?" I was speechless. Organizations face only the girl child and abandon the boy child for the society to sensitise then we'll start complaining that they are doing what the society has taught them (but people are supposed to practice what they've been taught right?) bearing in mind that the societal definition of man, and woman, and their responsibilities remains superior to what we or any organization defines them or their responsibilities as so long as we're still living in that society. In my former church, they had two separate departments for training girls (1-17) and ladies (18 till marriage) and none for the boys and young men of marriage ages. Until the boy child is included in all this sensitisation, this problem of domestic abuse is yet to start.
@diasporachallenges3148
2 жыл бұрын
I am so glad that this message is coming from a Nigerian Lady, it's about time Adeola, God bless you. Where we live, most East African ladies married to the Nigerian men do received negative remarks from the Nigerian ladies for not having decorum as married women simply because the East African ladies continue to embrace their lives also in marriage, they keep their jobs, continue with their education, keep their friends and e.t.c. Also because they know their self worth. It is very wrong for the African ladies to believe that when one is married their lives shifts to the man+families empire. Dressing code, eating until being obess and only showing up in church services, learning nothing as an immigrant not even the foreign language, allowing only the man to check on visa, child well-being, school and all in the name of a good married Naija women....I always say and repeat that marriage is not a career. Let's change our mindset as ladies, allow ourselves to bring up our kids (boys and girls) with love, treat them with respect because whatever they learn from us mostly will impact their future.
@StarInc7
2 жыл бұрын
@Diaspora Challenges, are you saying all the Nigerian women you know abroad behave like that. I guess you are Nigerian, do you reason that way? What is happening is bad but let us not sound like every single Nigerian woman is husband hungry. Women aspire to get married not just in Nigeria. Some of our statements/ condemnation include the speaker without us realising it. I condemn even thing abuse, I won't give any man or any body at all the chance to try it with me but we should balance our statements and remember that situations like this easily create stereotypes that affect even the innocent.
@Fomskie
2 жыл бұрын
I cried several times just watching this video. Especially when you said, 'If theres anything sweeter than having a best friend, its having a spouse that you're one with.' Hmmm, you reminded me what marriage is supposed to be. I've been married over 10 years but forgot what marriage really should be from my first month of marriage. Mine has been a battle field
@itunuoluremi2486
2 жыл бұрын
May the God of all grace and peace grant you succour on all fronts going forward In Jesus Name Bible Philippians Chapter 4:verse 6-8. and my love to you.
@dicksonpatrick4595
2 жыл бұрын
What are you still doing there, open up I will fight for you
@Bromppasei
2 жыл бұрын
So in this battle field,u are waiting for one to die so that th battle ends🤷am sorry but it's heart breaking
@lilyefegreat458
2 жыл бұрын
Pray God leads you in the way you should go soon or now. Waiting just prolongs the suffering. May God give you peace n joy in life in your decisions.
@alexsmidt6513
2 жыл бұрын
@@itunuoluremi2486 change starts with the person in the mirror. A gentle answer turns away wrath. Deep calls unto deep. both of you need help.
@beverlythompson2578
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you my sister for speaking up for your sisters. You are right on point!!!🇯🇲🇯🇲
@EUGINE116
2 жыл бұрын
You deserve an offering right nowww. This message was not revealed by flesh and blood. Preach onnnn.
@ibrahimsulaiman7712
2 жыл бұрын
Good job Adeola. You explained it exactly the way it is.
@blingstv58
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola all i can say is thank you for this video, its very educating and i hope many people can learn from it and that includes men and women, some people don't even know what they doing to their spouse is abusive, plz keep doing such videos occasionally to educate people.
@JAcintaoge
2 жыл бұрын
thank you Adeola. You just saved a soul. I will never allow my daughters, son or daughter in law to be abused relationship. they will never pass through what I went through.
@tolusdiary9437
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola, thank you for touching on different types of abuse. It is absolutely true. These are all forms of abuse. It’s so sad. We need to do better. I make sure my children both do chores. Clean up etc. they equally do the same thing. Take trash out etc.
@lionwisdom7042
2 жыл бұрын
Well articulated my dear sister. I love listening to your presentations they make a lot of sense.
@patriciaozule8783
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you dear Adeola. You said it all especially when using the Bible to buttress your facts.❣
@chinyereflorence2498
2 жыл бұрын
You have said the bitter truth. It is well with you Sis
@elisaosaselle7644
2 жыл бұрын
Adeola my darling . . I WAS ABUSED BY MY HUSBAND EVEN WITH A KNIFE TO MY THROAT. . . MY KIDS WERE STILL UNDER AGE. ... YES, I WAS VERY AFRAID ON HOW TO GO ABOUT LIFE.... BUT TODAY AM THE MOST HAPPIEST SINGLE MOTHER AFTER 17YEARS OF ABUSIVE MARRIAGE.
@aca8864
2 жыл бұрын
This is all-encompassing. Thank you Adeola
@inspirednaija7204
2 жыл бұрын
"Girls are made to believe that their ultimate achievement is marriage "that's 8 out of 10 girls i know in Nigeria... Who can't think of anything else more important in life because of society.
@adeniketaiwo9200
2 жыл бұрын
You nailed it Adeola! A lot of our pastors don't want to or CAN'T talk about these things! But thank God that He has given you that grace to do so. Can you Also do something on sensitive topics like Adoption, barrenness, singleness, disabilities, medical conditions impacting on the choice of a spouse ....Regards.
@akuaadu-gyamfi5829
2 жыл бұрын
Thank u soooo much Adeola ❤️ We need more people to stand up against domestic violence frequently. U did an excellent work.greetings from a Ghanaian. I have shared this to my family whatsapp group and u have won my subscription ❤️👌🏿
@kehindeoniemayin9968
2 жыл бұрын
If anybody doesn't like this post, it means the person is already guilty of one or more of the abuses raised and should make conscious efforts for self a rehabilitation.
@EmmasLittleKitchenOfficial
2 жыл бұрын
This is so sad! Say no to any form of abuse.
@jummyalfred2909
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this. This should be aired in every tv station in Nigeria
@countessm1794
2 жыл бұрын
Spot on, you just hit the nail on the head. I have to share this with my friends who are going through abuse in their marriages. Go ahead and talk about planning kids before having them, the bitter truth should be heard. 😘
@DevotedSparkle
2 жыл бұрын
Many times, religion is at the bottom of the wrong mentality that many people have. Some emphasize that wives should be submissive to their husbands, do they also emphasize that husbands should love their wives? Some emphasize that men can marry 4wives and love them equally, would they also find it acceptable for women to marry 4 men and love them equally? This automatically makes a man groomed in this fashion to believe that a woman is at least 4times less Important than him.
@lydiadavid8848
2 жыл бұрын
Until we get to the root of marriage we may not be able to trash these misconceptions you just mentioned. Marriage was made for men from the beginning so what do you expect.
@Geisha1215
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a Christian so I could be wrong but I always felt that the 4 wives rule is actually to deter ppl from having multiple wives.
@ishamunu1283
2 жыл бұрын
DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WANT THEM TO DO UNTO YOU We are presently in the world where hatred fills up the heart of men. Some people have sent love away from their hearts to the land of no return and had replaced it with hatred towards their fellow human beings.
@folorunsoadu1605
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Adeola. I love you for everything you say and in particular for this brilliant and authentic presentation on abuse in marriage. Thanks a lot and God bless you. I am 73 years of age. I still do my wife laundry and even cook for her. We have enjoyed our marriage so far.
@emip
2 жыл бұрын
well done Adeola, It is a very sad and shocking society, we live in. my children's father, left me for another woman. after some years, I decided to free myself by returning the pride price paid on me. it was like the world turned on me all my friends were gone, the church was the worst part of all secluding me from some church activities. marriage woman will be put together for something and you will be excluded. you can literally feel the trauma, although not communicated directly. depressed many times. but thank God I am still living. with God on my side. I just needed to be strong for my children. I am hoping that one day I am able to tell my story.
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