It's true the saying 'the devil will try to get you in bed before marriage and keep you out of bed when you're married"
@audofit
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, it's a very painful experience to be rejected in marriage.
@lorrainengbanda3387
Жыл бұрын
So true
@janellecovington6905
Жыл бұрын
My husband has PTSD from war and is refusing treatment right now. I didn’t realize how much that would effect our sex life. He never wants it and then the devil uses that to put evil in my mind about the why’s. It’s forced me to cry out to God more than ever before. Please pray for him if you think of it. Jan’24 update: couple months later he decided to find help and is currently in treatment with the VA. God is behind the scenes working. What a great God we have who listens to our prayers.
@eatjinskookie7156
7 ай бұрын
@@janellecovington6905I’m not sure how things are right now but I’d like to pray for you. Father in the Name of Jesus, I thank you for the life of your daughter and son. Father, I ask that you will please heal your son of any trauma oh God and please reign in this marriage and I pray that you’ll cause healing to take place in it, in Jesus’ Name Amen. God is with you my sister in Christ 🙏🏾
@janellecovington6905
7 ай бұрын
@@eatjinskookie7156 thank you sister❤️
@Langy1726
Жыл бұрын
The idea of applying "trying a car before buying it" concept to a relationship is simply thinking of your partner as an object and not as human with body, soul and spirit.
@marcythompson5708
Жыл бұрын
This episode made me cry...I was deeply convicted about saving myself for marriage, however when I met my now husband, we began fooling around immediately. I lacked the backbone and the confidence of my identity in Christ to say no. it is now 24 years later and we are separated due to porn use, masterbation, anger issues, emotional abuse and I believe the fall out of the lack of respect that we demonstrated right from the very beginning. Over the 24 years, sex actually created a false sense of security and belief that things were ok even though the deeper issues were never addressed and worked through. I am in now in counseling and biblical coaching to begin the healing in my own life. I do appreciate this episode and pray that it will resonate with so many in their marriage journeys. However, there are so many people in abusive coersive situations where sex is weaponized and the journey to be free is very lonely and hard.
@zeenkosis
Жыл бұрын
❤❤sending you so many prayers and healing. Praying for God to comfort you 🙏🏽
@charlottelokinu9606
Жыл бұрын
May God continue to Strengthen you and use you as a instrument to heal others ❤
@Iou655
Жыл бұрын
Most porn addicts bring their addiction into their marriage. It is not your fault!!
@sbrown8937
Жыл бұрын
Praying for healing and reconciliation in your marriage. Much love and peace to you both.❤❤
@toomuchheaven
Жыл бұрын
Praying for your healing sister 🤍🙏
@jessyjonas4988
Жыл бұрын
Yes “ THEY SAVED EACH OTHER” That is totally correct He looked out for her She looked out for him
@svetl9489
Жыл бұрын
I'm from Belarus and will try to make my thought understandable. I heard about one girl who came to college or university to study in. When she was living in a hostel, her classmate started making fun of her because she was a vergine. And she answered to that girl something like that" I can always became a person as you are (not a vergine) , but a person as me-you can never become. After what the discussion stoped
@tab6066
Жыл бұрын
i really appreaciate how honestly and genuinely she explains both her regret + how she is using her own life choices to teach her children around min 16! i think more teenagers would make better decisions if their parent's honestly spoke with them. not just handing down spiritual concepts or rules but speaking from a relatable place - whether their testimony is that they saved themselves or whether they gave themselves to another. kids should be equipped to discern what is good and right and they can learn from ppl they trust! parents cannot avoid this topic. this is good!
@Juliana_Mutheu.
10 ай бұрын
This is soo beautiful. As a 21 year old girl, God has Really been debunking soo much I learned from the wrong places. This is Beautiful and inspiring to listen to. I will hopefully come listen to this with my future spouse when God brings him.
@simplyrelevantlife8362
Жыл бұрын
My reason for waiting: I knew and agreed with God's plan and purpose for sex, and I agreed with His protective boundaries around sex. I also knew that going outside of those parameters carried natural (physical) and spiritual (heart) consequences that I wasn't willing to face. So my husband and I waited :) It was VERY challenging at times for sure in our dating and engagement season, because we loved (and still love) each other, but it was worth being obedient to God. However, I love that with God, there is always hope! So when the situation is much different for some (which I know that is often is), His mercy, grace and healing power restores to better than before!
@BarbraBelinda
Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤
@brittany9873
Жыл бұрын
This is a great conversation. I wish I had this before I gave up my virginity. But I'm happy to be redeemed and walking about my journey differently!
@carlibasson2410
Жыл бұрын
Thanks guys!!! Sex is a sacred act of two people becoming one, it is so necessary for the church to communicate about this ❤❤
@mariahhorl773
Жыл бұрын
I'd love to add a perspective as a military wife. I looked quickly through the comments and didn't see anything on this, so I thought I would briefly share! When my husband is away for MANY weeks or months out of the year, we have had to get creative to keep our sex life and connection ongoing during those times apart. So that we do NOT fall into the default of "taking care of it ourselves" and having no desire to reconnect when he returns. It is something we have navigated together and both feel safe, valued, and good about how we handle those times - keeping that desire and connection alive. Just an outlier perspective for the military families out there, as Julie mentioned situations they may not have even thought to consider when it comes to these conversations. As always - just an opinion of mine to get a little creative, in a way BOTH husband and wife feel good about. To keep that connection ongoing during long times of seperation. So that neither party feels the need or temptation to look to outside sources alone to meet that desire. Love this show/podcast and all of the wisdom you guys share with us! Be blessed. ❤
@jerusalensword
Жыл бұрын
Wow! I have never heard of anyone talk about this. As a military wife, I totally agree with you. My husband and I are about to be one year married next month and he recently got deployed as well. Your comment was a great reminder to just get creative with our sex life and connection in this moment of separation. Communication with you parter is absolutely key!!! Genuinely loved your comment, God bless♥️🙌🏽
@jessyjonas4988
Жыл бұрын
Premarital sex between Christian couples who end up married creates deep resentment between the couple in the marriage. I call this the AMNON EFFECT He resents her - she should have had a higher standard. He no longer values her She resents him- he should have set the boundary and protected her. In each others eyes- they are LESS LESS VALUABLE Going forward- this specific issue has to be addressed for the marriage to thrive
@jamesk1801
Жыл бұрын
2 Sam 13:10-15 Amnon had no reason to blame Tamar. He raped her after she said "do not force me . . . do not do this disgraceful thing!" v12 NKJV
@zeenkosis
Жыл бұрын
While I think there is a grace, yes it does have an effect that is often minimised and must be worked through
@gillianconnors6182
10 ай бұрын
I don't think you can compare an example of rape outside of marriage as the same as sex. It's not the same! And I don't think we would expect ppl today to marry someone that has harmed them.
@irenabazdar2707
Ай бұрын
Potentially true. But, every sin (except the blasphemy against the Holy Spirit) is forgivable, so if after repentance Lord forgives them, who are they not to forgive themselves and each other? "Love is patient, love is kind,.... It keeps no record of wrongs... "
@kelseyfisher6759
11 күн бұрын
Thank you!! 🙏🏻 that was healing for me to read ❤️🩹
@dnmccurry
Жыл бұрын
This podcast was so wonderful. I’m 61. I’ve been married 40 years. I was not raised as a Christian. I was raised in religion. Episcopal. My father told me as a young lady you don’t have sex before marriage or you will be considered a whore. Yet when I hit 15, he said if you are in love, it’s ok to have sex. You can guess the rest of the story. This podcast gave me so much confirmation of the Lord giving me directions in our sex life. Sex is a gift from God.
@rewritingjustice227
Жыл бұрын
Addison Bevere! I must say carries the Father's Heart! Super Powerful!
@TheIfekiisha
Жыл бұрын
Amazing and vulnerable conversation here…y’all are discipling me for this parenting thing through your podcast and I really just want to say thank you for bringing so much light and perspective to me in this season even as I learn,unlearn & relearn certain things in my singleness while trusting God to prepare for what’s ahead.
@attorneyyaidaford
Жыл бұрын
This was kinda cool. I like how the first couple was real about how they struggled early on but kept trying until they really knew each other. It makes me realize some of the unrealistic expectations that I may have about sex with my spouse.
@Debbie-xw2gx
Жыл бұрын
God's timing is soo good. I grew up in a household where this topic is taboo and I'm so happy how open y'all are to talking about this! I learned so much, thank you! Bless
@cam7891
Жыл бұрын
Could you guys touch more on the redemption, repentance and pivoting turn point. For the couples that slipped up in saving themselves for each other. That have fell to temptation. But dont live that way! Greay video! Brought tears to mt eyes.
@crissymarie3846
11 ай бұрын
This is so true!! I am not married, had three kids outside of marriage. After choosing to pick up the cross following Jesus, and have not had sex in over a year, the relationhip i have alone with God has been so amazing that i now understand why He chose for us to save ourselves until Marriage. I only pray that when it i time, i will have that chance, blessing to be a wife. All these years all i ever wanted was a family children mom and dad. I made my life so much harder fhan it should have been.
@tonjahall4612
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for your honesty and vulnerability! I’ve been married for 30 years, and I wish I had someone to speak these truths into my life before I got married! I know this is going to help so many people!
@siowjintai
Жыл бұрын
So good! Hi from Malaysia! We Chrisitans should talk about sex in healthy way and openly! Our children need to be educated and have honest conversations with us about their sexuality.
@Team_Blackledge
Жыл бұрын
Loved this, my husband and I (married 11 years) are very very transparent and on the same page when it comes to our physical intimacy and we feel convicted about sharing with other couples how we talk about sex because of how much closer it’s made us. It’s uncomfortable to talk about sometimes but leaning into that discomfort knowing you’re safe within a covenant marriage is where the real blessings come. We also have two young boys and this episode made me feel more equipped in our talks with them about sex. I didn’t grow up in the church but have heard about “toxic purity culture” where the church emphasizes the negatives of sex, and I believe that what you shared about the beauty and intelligence behind the way God designed sex is way more convincing in terms of purity. Thank you so much, more of this please!
@Psalm5110
Жыл бұрын
Thank you all for this adult conversation, I did not have the language when my girls were younger but I do have grandchildren, that I can feel comfortable in moving forward in talking to them about this appreciate you all thank you 🙏🏻❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🏻
@cathill8410
Жыл бұрын
This was an awesome conversation and I wish there hadn’t been a time limit cause there’s some aspects I wish went deeper. Like when there had been a struggle with those things mentioned outside of the marriage that carried in to the marriage and how to heal and navigate after those struggles and what things are “allowed”. Thank you so much for your vulnerability and sharing your truth! I love this!
@brookebales2931
7 күн бұрын
Thank you for this conversation y’all!! Important.
@kittak5591
Жыл бұрын
This was amazing! I felt this in my soul: a lot of freedom has been granted to me through listening to this and I know it’s going to improve my marital sex life greatly! I didn’t feel judged in anyway despite making mistakes in that area of my life and so I thank you for the healing words and Biblical truth
@random-dc3xr
Жыл бұрын
*Tears* I love this family so much. Juli, Maddie, I feel like we're best friends. God bless everyone and all the BTS crew.
@WindofRefreshment
Жыл бұрын
To be someone in a Godly relationship, this is a very insightful conversation 💙. God bless 🙌🏾
@Nrev973
Жыл бұрын
Amazing podcast! I want to pass this down directly to my children. My view of sex was not a very healthy one, but I have finally found the way.
@workoutmusic4209
Жыл бұрын
I so appreciate their input on toys in the bedroom! This whole discussion was so helpful to me.
@erAjoE
Жыл бұрын
Oh wow... i just love how transparent they are vulnerable yet they look so safe in the way the deliver this topics ♥️
@kathrynsnider317
Жыл бұрын
LOVE IT! You are the parents/married couples I wish I had been....BUT I don't feel condemned or ashamed. Thank you. @ 60+ and widowed, I still want to live in fullness as a sexual being. Appreciate the Beveres!
@crystaljanzen6800
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! This is a great topic to discuss. Thank you for being open to do so in such a God and spouse honouring way.
@happiestkati
Жыл бұрын
such a great topic to talk for all of the people who can't have a healthy information 👌 Thank you for your vulnerability and advices for the young generation and not only. I really appreciate all of you for who you are in Christ and what you bring through these podcasts 🙏 Bless u
@jamesk1801
Жыл бұрын
Wow, such a precious, insightful and needed conversation, thanks to y'all. Please do more. It seems like the younger couple had such sound and practical premarriage counselling. I don't know if it would be possible to do an episode targeting unmarried people discussing expectations regarding sex in marriage etc. in more detail(like what was said to them during premarriage counselling.) Blessings.
@tayshavargas4547
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for always sharing wisdom with us! This is not only good for us but provide us tools to help our future teens!
@safanaseva91
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, this was a useful conversation. Good to hear these topics not be avoided by Christ followers. 👍
@ezbless100
Жыл бұрын
In today's society we are saturated with porn and porn addictions. Technically the majority of people have experienced sex virtually before the actual experience and the majority of people enter marriage with porn addictions, which technically eliminates the sanctity of the marriage covenant. Many have never experienced fidelity in marriage. There is also much push back on purity culture because it supposedly has led to disappointment and did not reflect reality, which of course was fully saturated with porn and virtual sex.
@cindybailey465
Жыл бұрын
We read that sex is a 20 year warm up...that seemed like an eternity at the time. We've had some SERIOUS sex challenges but at 20 years now I look back and think "Wow, if we had given up, we would never know how good it could be!" Having open conversations with our kids to hopefully to prevent them from having our hang ups. We were both vigins at marriage. ❤
@pyessenia1
5 ай бұрын
Can you share what those sex challenges were? Sometimes you feel like you are the only one dealing with sex problems in marriage and it is refreshing to see that this was something you’ve conquered through time and having problems is normal.
@LaurenEllis1
Жыл бұрын
I never thought about holding hands and what you’re saying about that now that I’m further into adulthood - and also wasn’t a Christian from a young age - but I do recall with my very first boyfriend how holding hands affected us. Thankfully years later I am saved after losing my virginity and a lot of sin.
@ioanapone3576
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing God's word regarding this subject. The devil uses these subjects to lure people away from God Himself and His true purpose. The devil uses sex, music and money to steer us away from it's purity, good and beauty, the enemy is manipulating the world. What beautiful young people you are addressing these topics. God bless you Bevere family. Much love ❤
@shadowqueen8042
Жыл бұрын
Tatatatta. I was blushing the whole conversation. Nobody talks about these things! They just say premarital s e x is wrong and end of convo but there is more. Thank you so much. Lemme go put ice on my cheeks😂😂😂
@Xairos84
Жыл бұрын
Super long convo, but the basics are eternal. Sex in marriage should give you the space to be intimate and vulnerable. Sex outside of marriage is spicy, but there is little room for vulnerability. And that lack of space creates anxiety. The sole issue of sex is one degree apart from the relationship as a whole: compromise and cooperation. Sex with your spouse is surrounded by compromise and cooperation. Frequency of sex, style of sex and the dance of initiation is all about learning your partner in an intentional and caring way.
@Meggerz207
Жыл бұрын
Great conversation and one I always have felt should be brought up in Bible studies, but no one wants to talk about. However, it “is” a gift and needs to be brought to the surface . However, I also feel taking care of yourself in order to continue sex is important to discuss. We must take care of our temple. You can’t say if you were not physically attracted right now, it would be the same. With that said, eventually it does change. Your physicality and how you look as you age changes. Some of my friends admit their husbands suffers with ED. Then what? Or women with post menopausal issues which is never, ever talked about, but is so very prevalent and greater than one thinks. Those that have had a life hanging even such as becoming wheelchair bound or had a stroke or diagnosed with MS. It’s about intimacy. It doesn’t have to be sex. I fully agree about the dependency on toys, but In certain cases, toys are totally fine in my humble opinion if actual intercourse is not possible. Sex isn’t just intercourse. No offence please, but y’all are just too young to even know how to talk about these other topics to others nor should you. Those topics need to be done by an older and much more mature adult with experience in disabilities and such. However, I love seeing this topic exposed and I do enjoy the fact there is hope for the youth to abstain, and value, and cherish sex the way the Lord intended.
@MNMs247
Жыл бұрын
Loved the authenticity, vulnerability and biblical truth you all shared. These conversations need to be normalised for young and old, God's design for his created children and marriage unashamedly proclaimed. Thank you for your courage and conviction for sharing your real journeys. It helps to make it relatable, believable and not just theoretical. Thank you Juli for continuing to bring the convo back to God's redemptive love. Especially around this topic which, as was shared, has had alot of heat, condemnation and often about "what's wrong" in the past, the concurrent msg of hope, repentance and His grace needs to shared and declared as available to all, no matter that their personal journey looks like currently or in the past. Your families are powerhouses bringing truth to our generation.
@kelseyfisher6759
11 күн бұрын
Hope for the deflated🎈THANK GOD she spoke that! I was seconds from turning off the video! It’s so hard to hear from purity minded people when I was sexually abused at 7 and then felt dirty for my whole life, which led to promiscuous behavior and I even went to the extent of marrying the first man I had sex with in an attempt to “make right” what I knew was wrong… THANK YOU JULIE♥️♥️♥️♥️
@lianacollier7064
Жыл бұрын
So good. So much is going to come from these honest chats you guys are having about these ‘sensitive’ subjects. So much shame is being lifted - & so much change is coming. To Christian marriages especially. Thanks to all of you for your bravery ❤️🙏🏼👌🏼
@lianacollier7064
Жыл бұрын
- also, timing wise? It’s just what I personally needed to hear. You guys are in God’s perfect timing with this. In fact He brought it about in the first place 👌🏼
@principleandpromise3670
Жыл бұрын
So true about being led down a dark road through seemingly innocent curiosity.
@semitadulala778
Жыл бұрын
Hey guys, love the vulnerability, honesty, authenticity of both sides of the fence. Our children are going into teenagers and I’m so happy I have some tools to share with them. Love you guys, praying for the greater measure of gods love To increase over all of you’s in Jesus name. Amen
@montanalaurahall
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the candid conversation. Grew up in the hyper purity culture (hello church culture of the early 2000s), and if I remember correctly, it leaned heavily on not crossing the line, and minorly talked about the why. The heart of the matter, beside of "don't make the wrong decision", but more so, the why of how God designed sex makes it understandable in how to protect the sexual/romantic part of my life.
@temwanidakaofficial3212
Жыл бұрын
This
@loveestelle7460
Жыл бұрын
I love you all so much!! Also, Juli-I would love to hear more videos from you all on how you navigate talking with your kids about all this. Mine are 2 and 3 so I’m not there yet, haha but I would love to learn. I don’t think it’s ever too early to prepare 😅
@crystaljanzen6800
Жыл бұрын
Yes agreed!! More conversations about raising kids in this world we are in right now would be so inspiring and helpful.
@rebekahmarlowe8244
9 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing this episode! Especially love how you talk to your kids about sex in a positive light- it is a beautiful thing in the context for which God designed it 🙏🏻
@elizabethgunter7485
5 ай бұрын
Great episode. Would love to hear more about how you are going through the book Atomic Habits with your kids.
@berlindakwafo8509
Жыл бұрын
I thank God for these words of wisdom that keeps coming out of each episode. God bless you all for availing yourselves for His Kingdom.
@sarahhouk
4 ай бұрын
This is a great conversation to have with my teen. Thank you so much for sharing. So full of wisdom
@Mimi-gz6yp
Жыл бұрын
Beautiful!!! Absolutely beautiful!!! Thank you for being willing to talk on this topic. So needed!!
@_cjmccullough
Жыл бұрын
Great talk. Please continue this conversation! This is life changing for me and I am so glad to have found this video. Helping me navigate life and finding more of what God says about sex in marriage.
@lianet777
Жыл бұрын
I really love how vulnerable y’all are and so necessary for this time and culture. I appreciate all of you! God bless you❤
@emmanuelledubreus4715
Жыл бұрын
Oh! The Beveres! Y'all are such a GIFT to the world for your genuine willingness to navigate these crucial topics in light of God's TRUTH and design!!! Oh my goodness! This refreshed 'n' BLESSED my soul for the clarity gained in certain aspects surrounding this subject! Woooow!!! Thank Y'ALL SO SO SOOOO MUCH! It would be a DREAM come TRUE to sit at a table and share a conversation with Y'ALLLL!!! I am SOOO appreciative!!! Sending YOU ALL SOOO much LOVE 'n' POSITIVE WAVES from Montreal!!! :') :') :D
@clan_dez9468
Ай бұрын
God bless this video
@hueyjoseph4526
Жыл бұрын
Awesome ! Thanks Bevere Family !❤❤
@yolandevonwielligh3620
Жыл бұрын
Just wanted to encourage those of us who are going through seasons of exhaustion between raising toddlers and teenagers, working, doing household chorus etc. and not least of all, carving out time for our First Love: Jesus, to fight for your times of intimacy. Make the sacrifice to connect physically and emotionally. It's not easy when you are already dead tired when you go to bed at night and you don't know how the rest of it is going to be e.g. with a little one teething or whatever. BUT, make time for each other. Sex truly is like holy glue keeping our marriages together. When we put it on the back burner and don't sacrifice for it, we start to grow apart. Lord Jesus, please help me practice what I am preaching here. You know we are only human and many times our spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. But in our weakness, YOU ARE STRONG! Thanks for an amazing podcast ya'll! Love in Christ.
@agnesr.4664
Жыл бұрын
First myth: Concerning the test drive before buying. Totally wrong analogy, right. Marriage and people are not objects. Also, you don't want to accidentally or purposefully think of other women or men when being and enjoying your partner because you have those experiences engraved into your soul, your memories and your emotions.
@renebronkhorst5487
Жыл бұрын
One thing that I think needs to be said is that just because God’s mercy and grace is there for you, does not mean you can go do whatever you want because his mercy and grace will help me when I need it. Proverbs 26:11-12 Like a dog that returns to its vomit, a fool does the same foolish things again and again. I couldn’t find the exact verse in the Bible where Jesus said to someone, “Your sins have been forgiven, but do not go and repeat them, but live a clean life.” I’m paraphrasing here but thats what is being said.
@judymartin3148
Жыл бұрын
I love the emphasis on the value of saving sex for marriage, while pointing to God’s grace for sin. Good job with that balance. On the topic of frequency of sex in marriage, I’m curious if you are aware of research that shows that frequency of sex for women isn’t a cause but rather a symptom of marital health. Creating an obligation out of sex takes a steep toll on women’s sexual health. This research is found in the book “The Great Sex Rescue” by Sheila Gregoire and her co-authors. I would love for you to read her work and have a follow up episode to share your thoughts. Another great book on this subject, although not a Christian resource, is “Come as You Are” by Emily Ngoski.
@jessyjonas4988
Жыл бұрын
Amen brother MESS US UP BIG TIME WE THANK GOD FOR HIS REDEEMING GRACE AND MERCY AMEN GLORY TO GOD
@actionjacksonmightymax722
Жыл бұрын
I wish this would be preached from the pulpit, having a hard time finding a man that will wait.
@rcz2023
6 ай бұрын
Such a great conversation, thank you all.
@christineross7620
Жыл бұрын
This is great! Mom and dad didn’t want to join in on this one?🤣🤪
@tanyastorm4860
Жыл бұрын
These conversations are great. Thank you for going there. Hearing your journeys and experiences is helping my husband and i start some of these topics with our kids earlier than we would have. I think it is so needed in today's world where they'll hear the lies so early on. We can be on the offence and lay the truth down first in the hope of avoiding the mistakes we made growing up. Anyway, thank you. Very much appreciate you guys 🙏💕
@yanka1650
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for such beautiful conversation. ♥️
@karenlgarcia1084
Жыл бұрын
As a single person this helps me so much!
@nadia.muhammad7171
Жыл бұрын
Incredible show..and incredible topic Thank you so much Big love from Egypt شكرا الحلقة اكثر من مثمرة
@destinysaucedo3054
Жыл бұрын
Y’all are amazing!! Thank you for sharing!! I always gain so much more wisdom and understanding after watching ❤
@skiescott241
Жыл бұрын
one you didn’t touch on is what happens when a partner becomes unable to have sex due to illness or injury. in my case it was an injury from a car accident my husband turned to porn and now I definitely feel violated, almost as if cheated on.
@jehovahshamah7019
Жыл бұрын
Oh please don't over exaggerate.. try to think of your husband as well what he might have gone through rather than being such a solipsist
@ladyofthecreek279
Жыл бұрын
Viewing pornography is cheating spiritually and emotionally. Your trust was violated.
@oliviawolf3679
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry. Lean on God. Pray for the restoration and conviction of your husbands heart and for yours as well. God bless.
@maggiehush1300
Жыл бұрын
@jehovahshamah7019 this is so so unkind of you to say. You shouldn't down play someone's feelings because they are theirs, not yours to grade or justify! Do better!
@jehovahshamah7019
Жыл бұрын
@@maggiehush1300 feelings aren't valid.. I feel like I was betrayed by my parents.. makes no difference... This is why there's a crisis of men both in church and society.. are there single men in your local church??? Why aren't they coming in??? The idea that we should refrain from saying the truth simply because it makes women feel bad shows how far the church has come... It has become a cesspool of feminist talking points.. how comes the church has similar gender breakdown of men and women as pro female anti male college campuses??? Do you think it's because the church is oriented towards women and not men??
@H2O5519
6 ай бұрын
We need more video like this
@joshcatanzaro6220
Жыл бұрын
Well I did everything we shouldn't do. I lived all the sins. It ended in divorce and heart break that affected our 3 son's. My new marriage has brought me to Jesus and though I'm a fallen child I think we need to let people know that people like me can be saved. We can be worthy of Jesus love and forgiveness. I was a pagan teacher that came to know Jesus.
@toomuchheaven
Жыл бұрын
Wow…. All Glory goes to God 🤍🦋🙏
@georgina4874
Жыл бұрын
I'm sending up a prayer for those who are praying for a godly spouse. God bless you for letting the Holy Spirit lead your life. 💕💕💕 I pray that you are blessed beyond your dreams. (Additionally, I rebuke delays, additictions, lusts, pride, ego, shame, (fill in the blank) through the power of the name of Jesus. Amen.) 🙏🏽
@Viviana1caraveo
Жыл бұрын
Watching pornography within marriage and outside of it is an immediate no. You commit the sin of lust and Jesus is very serious about that. “But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matt. 5:28) And adulterers will not inherit the kingdom of heaven (1 Corinthians 6:9)
@sienademetriou2364
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for these rich insights and wisdom. Could you please recommend books, articles, etc. for further reading?
@ADDAuntDawnDisorder
9 ай бұрын
As you get older, health issues often arise that can throw a wrench into this part of the relationship. So, for all of you under the age of 45…please don’t abstain for long periods of time within your marriage bc you never know what the older years have in store for you. For us, sleep apnea & restless leg syndrome as well as sciatic nerve issues affect this part of the relationship.🙏💪It can be “simple” or more serious health issues.
@Deborah-go3kh
Жыл бұрын
I'm celibate but just praying to meet a husband. There are so few Godly men and nobody interests me at all.
@John-h6x9j
Жыл бұрын
Amazing work guys🎉
@ellees3521
2 ай бұрын
Thanks for making this guys!
@BreathingRoomMedia
Жыл бұрын
As someone who has been in the sexual health world as a Christian, I want to chime in with some instances where I think toys may be the more loving thing for a marriage and connect vs divide. For instance, a husband who is disabled or can’t achieve an erection might use a toy on their wife. Or is very small and wears a sleeve. Or is very large and wears a bumper to avoid very deep penetration. For women, vaginismus is incredibly common for women who grew up in purity culture. This is when penetration is excruciatingly painful. Trying to have intercourse in that situation would be harmful to the couples connection. In that case, partners using dilators within their sex life may be beneficial. Connecting dilation with pleasure can be important, because vaginismus is often both physical and mental. Although all these cases could be seen as using medical devices, many Christian’s would class them as sex toys. My opinion is that we need more nuance around toys in marriage. I don’t agree that you always need to up the ante with them and get more and more intense, people often find what they like and stick with that. Personally, my test for using toys is “does this help or harm the connection between spouses?” If it allows a couple who otherwise can’t have a sexual life to have a sexual connection, then I see that as good and pleasing to God. If it creates distance, then it isn’t a good thing.
@gillianconnors6182
10 ай бұрын
Thank you for bringing voice to this. So many discussions around sexual purity do not discuss the harms, such as vaginismus, not being able to drop the shame, or a partner who is not loving and sacrificial in the bedroom, and a lack of awareness of what healthy sexuality looks like.
@luanagarbinperes7247
Жыл бұрын
I love listening to this conversation. Very good guys. Thank you so much.
@priusa8113
Ай бұрын
I appreciate this conversation and the values shared with my faith. I invite you all to learn about Islam and how we believe in and honor Jesus son of Maryam( chapter4 of the Quran our Holy Book) peace be upon him. Greetings of peace ❤❤
@KAyLA_K
Жыл бұрын
Love this!! Thank you for being so open about it!!❤️
@TheHated19
Жыл бұрын
I have three kids and my husband and I find it hard to have that intimate time with each other with out it being rushed or interrupted. How do we find that time with each other to be spiritualy intamate and not just having sex to have sex?
@deliciouscolours
Жыл бұрын
I have 4 kids and we go thru the same. My husband works exclusively night shift too so that doesn't help. We have found a strategy that works for us and at the hardest times we just took that to God and asked Him for a strategy and we figured it out. I'm a stay at home mom who doesn't homeschool so in between getting my kids to amd from school we have some time to be together. Talk to God about it, I'm sure He will answer.
@shayla3020
Жыл бұрын
Great Episode.Amazing Insights and Revelations♥️
@raq_rivera
Жыл бұрын
This was so profound and worth listening to over again!
@LeighStouffer
Жыл бұрын
Christian as well as Non-Christian counsellors are telling folks that porn & sex-toys are ok. We need to be diligent and discern who we are talking to about our most intimate issues and concerns. 🙏
@ABezuidenhout370
8 ай бұрын
Yes we have to have discernment, sex toys and porn are definitely not okay. Actually what is allowed in the marriage bed has to do with God's design for sex: God made sex for two purposes namely for procreative purposes and unitive purposes (meaning to deepen the love and bond between the spouses) However one must never separate the procreative purposes of sex from it's unitive purposes because God never intended for the two to be separate. For every act in marriage to be chaste it must meet both the procreative and unitive purposes of sex. Let's take IVF for example: it's procreative but it's not unitive because there is no sexual union which takes place between the spouses which bonds them together. Therefore it's not within God's will because it separates the procreative purposes of sex from it's unitive purposes. Birth control (all forms including condoms, the pill, coil ect.) does the opposite of IVF. The sexual union takes place but it's closed off to procreation thereby rendering the act sterile. So birth control separates the sexual union from it's procreative purposes. Let's take BDSM as another example. It is possible for BDSM to be procreative but hitting, choking, tying up your spouse during sex does not bond you together so it's non unitive and therefore BDSM should also not be practiced in a Christian marriage because it also separates the procreative from the unitive. Unnatural sexual acts (oral sex, anal sex, masturbation, mutual masturbation sex toys ect.) are all non procreative and non unitive so it's not within God's design. Not saying God wants us to conceive every time we have sex but we should at least be open to life resulting from that act so if it is impossible that a baby could result from the act you are doing or it's contraceptive then it's wrong. Christians can look up natural family and use that instead of condoms, birth control and artificial contraceptives if you wish to space out having children. God bless!
@NicBathurst
Жыл бұрын
Once again phenomenonal teaching ❤
@scherodenedevalogan3131
Жыл бұрын
Ive gained so much of wisdom❤
@ddduva4440
Жыл бұрын
Very good counsel. ty
@rachelgarland1881
Жыл бұрын
You Bevere men married some absolutely stunning women!
@sophiebuckfiddle
Жыл бұрын
Love this conversation, thanks for being so open and transparent!
@dabeingsimms810
Жыл бұрын
Sex within marriage ought to be a private matter, not one for a public round table discussion. That being said, I still love your show. It’s wonderful to listen to your generation speak on biblical matters. Praise God there are parents who do believe in the inculcation of God in their parenting strategies. The world is a better place for them having done so as the outcome is displayed in all of you at the table for the benefit of others. Praise God.
@dnmccurry
Жыл бұрын
It’s necessary to have this discussion in public.
@melissai4798
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely necessary
@1517the_year
Жыл бұрын
@@dnmccurrywhy is it "necessary" ? Feels like an overused slogan.
@sherbetstraw
Жыл бұрын
I get what you mean but it’s way better that young people hear this classy and God inspired public discussion than learn from things like porn.
@loveeenone
Жыл бұрын
@@sherbetstraw are you a Christian?
@elizabethr-steenberg3711
Жыл бұрын
Great episode. Do you have content for teenagers? I have watched Moms with boys. maybe need to look for certain episodes speaking directly to teenagers, especially boys.
@athomewiththebeveres
Жыл бұрын
coming soon:)
@jessc6119
Жыл бұрын
My husband and I have only ever had sex with each other, but we were not successful in waiting till marriage. I don’t think this topic is explored often (maybe because there aren’t a lot of people in our situation) But the reasons why sex before marriage is bad (beyond it’s a sin) is always about the downfall of having sex with multiple people - just noticed that our situation is never talked about
@inchristalone25
Жыл бұрын
I wasn't a virgin, and my husband and I did not wait till marriage and I wish we had, there was so much baggage we had surrounding sex, but thankfully there is healing in Christ. And if a married couple didn't wait there is forgiveness for that.
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