Happy Thursday!! So excited to hear about everyone’s birth experiences in the comments! Thank you all for the constant love and support throughout this pregnancy 🥹❤️ I’m so grateful! Xoxo
@KimbaLoveAdams
Ай бұрын
Get the epidural. It made the birth so much better more tolerable. My epidural made my birth so much better. Natural was great until it wasn’t. I am a plus size woman.
@KimbaLoveAdams
Ай бұрын
I didn’t mean to tell u what to do like get it! 😂 But get it girl!!! The risks r low.
@tinacarey5720
Ай бұрын
@@KimbaLoveAdams I agree, I had 3 vaginal births with epidurals & it helped of course with the pain but helped me relax, helped with anxiety, would do it again
@dazzled785
Ай бұрын
I would definitely opt out of an epidural, do your spine a favor and refuse it even if it gets painful. You're strong!
@reinapabon66
Ай бұрын
Hey Alex I am a plus size girlie and i had a baby 10 months ago at Dartmouth Medical Center in New Hampshire. I had an awful experience. I labored until 5CM dilated and then decided to get an epidural. They tried placing the epidural and it wasn't happening so the gave me a spinal tap and then tried placing the epidural again. They placed it and it worked for a couple hours and then failed. I ended up delivering naturally, and it hurt but not as bad as I thought and wished I would have just gone that route. After I delivered, I got a spinal headache because they poked a hole when they were doing the spinal tap, and then they had me lay flat for 24 hrs to see if it would go away. It didn't go away, so I ended up having to get a blood patch. That is where they draw your blood and put it into your back where they poked the hole to relieve the headache. It worked, but I wish they would have done that right away because I lost the first 24 hrs with my son. I now have lingering back pain that i never had before where the epidural was placed that I hope will go away. I am hoping to have a second baby one day but I am still trying to work through my delivery trauma because it was such a sad experience. Sorry to ramble but it feels good to get it out...I hope nothing but good vibes with your delivery and I'm sending you all my love and prayers ❤
@Elefix8ed
Ай бұрын
Random tip for baby boys. When changing his diaper, keep a dry wash cloth close to cover up his "area" because if he pees, it will hit you in the face. Don't figure this out the hard way 😅
@ahlove094
Ай бұрын
The trick is to take a wet wipe and brush under his belly button and wait for a few mins. The baby will pee a little
@sammdoe
Ай бұрын
Yep! They either peed on me or peed on their face
@Jenny-zp6yw
Ай бұрын
This! Totally agree. Also. We loved our wipe warmer ♥️ it definitely helped with changes too and not getting peed on. Our son/first is a November baby so we were in the cold months.
@erineberhard
Ай бұрын
Yeah been there ... 22 years ago thow my baby is 6'4 and 22
@chelseatristano1390
Ай бұрын
My insurance would send me breast milk bags and replacement parts so would definitely check in to that. Also if you do stick with the pumping I would definitely look into portable hands free pump.
@antoniaelizabeth135
Ай бұрын
My only advice for a birth plan is to not be 100% set on a plan. I had a plan and nothing went accordingly being that I needed an emergency c section after 38 hours of labor. Prayers for you mama🫶🏻
@Karenrikki
Ай бұрын
Great knowledge! Plan for the best and expect the unexpected.
@MrsElizabethLarson
Ай бұрын
Agreed! I was hoping for unmedicated, but after 5 days of failed induction, I got an epidural because I was so tired and ended up just not being able to get her out. Ended up needing an emergency c-section.
@bethb4432
Ай бұрын
Same. Emergency c/s and mine was under general anesthesia due to the epidural only working on one side of my body. My bff met my firstborn before I did. But safe baby and mama is number one and you just have to be prepared for anything.❤
@best_life_becca
Ай бұрын
Exactly what I came to say!
@jessicaarmstrong782
Ай бұрын
Yes !!!
@dianet9614
Ай бұрын
Girl you were complaining about doing ur glucose u need the epidural. Gotta prepare as well for possible c section
@graciejohnson7378
Ай бұрын
But you should wish her a positive birth😊
@AnnV918
Ай бұрын
Obviously, we hope for her to have the easiest possible delivery, but I’m being a realist too. I went into my birth thinking it was going to be perfect and wonderful and I’d deliver vaginally and then it very quickly got dangerous for me and my baby and I had to go have an emergency cesarean section. And it was very helpful to have already been set up with the epidural. And my baby was facing the wrong direction so I had a lot of back labor and even with my epidural I still had a pretty decent amount of pain. So fingers crossed for easy, but the other set of fingers crossed for think ahead.
@halfofceder
Ай бұрын
What an unhelpful comment
@storminicole3991
Ай бұрын
She didn’t complain about the glucose test….
@denamorgan816
Ай бұрын
Everyone complains about the glucose test.
@amberlauren86
Ай бұрын
Hi! RN here who has been a part of countless deliveries and postpartum care. Also first time mama, 27 weeks pregnant! Regarding your birth plan, I think it is super ideal to keep your options open like you were saying! I will say deliveries that I have been a part of where the moms have had the epidural are *usually calmer and much more relaxed, but this can vary person to person. I have also seen non medicated births that have been calm but the mom is managing a lot more pain. I’d say it can depend greatly upon how you handle pain and if you think the pain may increase your anxiety. Definitely talk with your nurses when you get admitted and let them know your thoughts too! Either way, you got this and so happy for you! ♥️
@TiaB0303
Ай бұрын
I had an epidural with my son. It went perfectly and I didn’t feel any lingering pain after. I’m pregnant again and debating whether I want to have her naturally at a birthing center or not. So much to decide. All I can say is trust your body. There’s no right or wrong way. It’s such a personal experience. You’re going to do great!
@amberhalford9738
Ай бұрын
Question. Your OB isn’t telling you the estimated size of your baby? Both of my children my OB was spot on about how much that they weighed. My son came out 10 pounds so newborn sizes all got returned.
@Hannahurban90
Ай бұрын
My doc said my daughter would be about 7 pounds and she came out 9.8 😂
@brittanymundhenk3827
Ай бұрын
I don’t think I personally know anyone whose estimated size has ended up being correct lol they’ve all been much smaller or much bigger. Whoever measured yours should get a medal and go teach other ppl their secret 😂
@paigerachelle3124
Ай бұрын
My doctor told me I was measuring 2 weeks ahead and I was “at risk” of having a big baby and he was under 7 pounds lol
@itshannahbvlogs
Ай бұрын
@@brittanymundhenk3827same. Lol I was measuring 3 weeks ahead and was told I would have a 10+lb baby and he was only 7.5lbs 😂
@karringtonsheffstall5866
Ай бұрын
@paigerachelle3124 Same. My dr kept saying I was measuring 2 weeks ahead and them during my csection the Dr said oh it's a big one and she came out and was My smallest at only 5lb 11oz . She was teeny tiny !!
@susangraver6315
Ай бұрын
With my first, I waited too long before I asked for an epidural because I foolishly thought "eh, I can do it! How bad could the pain be?" And then it was too late and I had to have the baby with no pain meds whatsoever. It was unnecessary, excruciating pain that left me breathless. With my second, I made sure to ask for an epidural. It was HEAVEN. It made the experience MUCH more enjoyable. And you're able to actually focus on the moment instead of just writhing around in pain. So I say, get that epidural! Just my humble opinion. 😂❤️
@sunshinegirl02
Ай бұрын
same same same!!!! hated my first experience and didnt even want to hold my baby girl because of the pain with my son i was present and enjoyed it so much more get that epidural!!
@rrraspberrry
Ай бұрын
Please be careful with the tuna! It's only pregnancy safe in small quantities because of the high levels of mercury.
@steph.209
Ай бұрын
I was going to say the same thing girly
@meg61288
Ай бұрын
This. I am not one to ever say anything, and I wasn't going to. But I've noticed she's been eating it often. Tuna is a large fish and lives a long time giving it time to absorb a large amount of mercury. And that's why they have you watch it during pregnancy. But I'll admit I ate it during pregnancy in moderation!
@despisederangement
Ай бұрын
you must be fun at parties
@user-be4zc9xu8e
Ай бұрын
Omg..how did people give birth 50 years ago. She can't eat tuna can't eat deli meat.
@juliebean2806
Ай бұрын
You could literally not eat enough tuna before mercury would ever be a problem..,please do some research
@despisederangement
Ай бұрын
wtf is woast beef?
@GirlinPursesuit
Ай бұрын
I’m pregnant with my first too - a baby boy! I feel like I’ve shared this journey with you! My birth “plan,” if you will, is to simply go with the flow. Remember that these people are professionals that do this every single day. Trust the process! You’ll do phenomenal, momma! 💙
@alinag8397
Ай бұрын
With a higher BMI more chances of having a C section then a natural birth. But your OBGYN should give you the talk and what’s best for you and baby 😊
@Beausmama
Ай бұрын
Why does your mom use that baby voice all the time? It’s very odd.
@ericabuelna6675
Ай бұрын
Alex what you are calling Onesies are not onesies. They are called sleepers. Or just footed pajamas. Onesies are the non-footed bodysuits baby usually wear under cloths with the little snaps down under.
@best_life_becca
Ай бұрын
Any one-piece outfit is a onesie to me. 😂😂
@PrissyPriscpTarahoards
Ай бұрын
It’s a one piece article of clothing that fits the private parts and torso. Even if it has legs and feet it’s still a onesie. It really doesn’t matter at the end of the day now does it?
@Hanavannin
Ай бұрын
Also should say I personally found having a birth plan made things worse for me when things didn't go as planned. I learnt that after my first so i went in to the other births just going with the flow and actually felt more in control that way x
@Karenrikki
Ай бұрын
Plan for the best while expecting the unexpected. Women who find the need to be in control over every little thing all the time are the ones that don’t do as well.
@sweetsanddandy8639
Ай бұрын
Agreed. 4 kids including a set of twins. No "birth plan" per se. Just go with the flow!
@saraharocke
Ай бұрын
one of the most informative conversations i had in pregnancy was a consultation with the anaesthesia team! i was open to all routes, and it was so nice to ask questions and clarify antiquated information. highly recommend ❤️
@viviangonzalez2520
Ай бұрын
Antiquated ? Like what do u mean? I’m curious
@Birk4me
Ай бұрын
Epidural for sure. I pushed for 4 hours and ended up needing a C-section because baby was flipped backwards. Don’t assume the plan will go as planned. Everything can change on a dime.
@ja4n1
Ай бұрын
I gave birth to both my babies naturally no epidural, and I did fine. Don’t listen to peoples birth stories because every woman is different and what happens to one person doesn’t mean it will happen to you. You can do this I know it’s scary with your first pregnancy because it’s something new that you’ve never done but you got this.
@ruth8647
Ай бұрын
Hello Alexa, how many pounds have you put on with the pregnancy? I had gastric bypass at the same time with u, just found out im pregs, i feel lost and scared. Though excited too. You give me strength❤
@sarahw6604
Ай бұрын
The epidural was a game changer for me😂 I napped almost my entire 12hrs in labor! Didnt feel hardly anything when he came out. And I’m 1yr PP and have 0 lingering symptoms from it
@juliebean2806
Ай бұрын
If you napped, it wasn't labor. It is called labor for a reason
@sarahw6604
Ай бұрын
@@juliebean2806 I mean. I birthed a child an hour later so I’d say it was labor..
@juliebean2806
Ай бұрын
@@sarahw6604 it took me 3 days to deliver twins without an epidural...that was labor and that was before we could go posting our accolades all over social media 🙄
@sarahw6604
Ай бұрын
@@juliebean2806 okay? Having an epidural still counts as labor. Do you want a medal?
@Racyt722
Ай бұрын
I mean, what’s the big secret about the baby’s name ?
@MomtoZnE
Ай бұрын
Clearly, she decided to keep it private, and will share when and if she wants to.
@tapangamalanga
Ай бұрын
I have a high tolerance for pain but labor was the worst pain of my life. I was grateful for the epidural. Once that kicked in I started telling jokes to the nurses and doctors, haha. I’m pregnant with my second and hope to have an another vaginal delivery with epidural again. Good luck!
@kelseyfreiert5268
Ай бұрын
I 100% recommend an epidural if you are not good with pain! It is the best thing that I did for myself. You are able to relax and just focus on the amazing journey! I haven’t had any issues afterwards, just make sure you listen to the person doing it and you will be fine!
@PrissyPriscpTarahoards
Ай бұрын
Sound advice
@kayceyl8946
Ай бұрын
As someone who works in medical field and someone who has had 2 totally different birthing experiences ; 1) don’t second guess yourself, gut feeling is important and the true way you feel…. 2) think of your birth plan as more of a suggestion, because so many things can happen ( cant blame yourself) and you need to be able to roll w the punches and not beat yourself up if things change❤
@elainegoldstein2120
Ай бұрын
After experiencing one strong contraction you will be begging for a epidural. I had it for both my kids and could not imagine not having one.
@mommyandme2017
Ай бұрын
Be careful with Tuna. High levels of mercury. Just keep it in moderation 🙂
@maytheodds
Ай бұрын
Highly recommend making sure you have some hypoallergenic formula on hand! Sometimes it takes time for your milk to come in or your supply might be low and there’s nothingggg worse than your babe screaming in the middle of the night hungry and you’re tired and exhausted and don’t have enough milk to make them happy 😅😅😅 it just takes the pressure off!
@maytheodds
Ай бұрын
@@teej.johnno totally get that, but I’m also speaking about later when milk supply can be low.
@jennav.4047
Ай бұрын
@@teej.johnno babies have quite literally died because parents were so adamant about not supplementing with formula after latching to the breast. I am an under producer even with frequent latching and pumping. My first was a nicu baby so he didn't want to latch but my second was a dream latcher. I just didn't produce to keep up with his growth. Just saying feeding baby is necessary no matter how it is done.
@Karenrikki
Ай бұрын
Fed baby is best if it comes down to not wanting to nurse on mom.
@AnnV918
Ай бұрын
Yep, my youngest was born lactose intolerant and I was drinking milk because mommy needs calcium however, baby did not need the lactose and started having bloody poops so that was fun. We immediately switched her to soy formula and that 13 years later she’s just fine, still lactose intolerant.
@Belladonnakitty
Ай бұрын
I second this comment. This happened to me and it was a life saver
@Mrs.Mom.Mowinna
Ай бұрын
Have a plan but also be aware that your plan will change in the moment for many reasons. Epidural was not anything worse then a needle in your arm. Spinal on the other hand was a much longer pain. IF you have to have a csection my advice is take pain meds as needed (i halved the meds that were recommended), lots of water and get up walking as soon as you can!
@JJB1176
Ай бұрын
Alex, you might want to get a couple of preemie sleepers if you don't think you are going to have a big baby. Mine were 6 & 7 pounders and newborn was still so big on them and drove me nuts hanging off of their hands and feet i sent my hubby to get a couple of preemie sleepers and loved them!💙 Just wanted to possibly give you an idea!
@denise-ov6on
Ай бұрын
Im not into giving advice as motherhood looks different for everyone but since you asked I will tell you about my birth stories. No advice intended. My first birth did not go as planned, epidural wore off and baby got stuck. Ended in a 4th degree episiotomy and I slept for the first 24hours of my babies life and missed out on bathing, changing and feeding. Second baby "walking" epidural worked great and labor went as planned except for the cord around her neck which landed her in NICU for 1 week. Moral of the story, it's ok if things don't go as planned and it's ok to be scared. Motherhood is a wonderful crazy adventure.
@Fangrami
Ай бұрын
If you get too far along in the birthing process the epidural will be off the table. So ask for it early. I had no issues with the epidural and my spine. You don’t have to be a hero. Do what you want. Videos always have an agenda. It’s a very small part of motherhood. You will be great. So excited to see baby boy.
@selleisa121626
Ай бұрын
This is not true! Labor and delivery nurse here 😊 of course every hospital is different, but this should not be assumed. At my hospital (high risk OB) an epidural can be placed even if the mom is complete/10cm. As long as she can sit in the proper position she’s good to go. Despite this, of course it would be smart to not wait until the last minute.
@meganballew2326
Ай бұрын
I have had 4 children. I have gotten an epidural with all 4 and have not had an issues with pain etc… I am just so very excited to see you become a mom. I know you will be a great one 💜
@Tommie_Don
Ай бұрын
Your mom is SUCH a vibeeeee 😂❤
@despisederangement
Ай бұрын
stop the damn elmer fudd talk..fwesh bwead?!?!?!?
@mslaurakres
Ай бұрын
You can put your pumping supplies in the fridge so you don’t have to wash them everytime.
@sweetsanddandy8639
Ай бұрын
THIS! THIS!
@taratluvoutrspace
Ай бұрын
I have 4 kids from 3 pregnancies. The last pregnancy was twins. With the first one, I was thinking about an epidural, but my friend got one and lost feeling in hr legs for months after giving birth. After 4 months, she started feeling normal. Since she had her baby before me, that was enough to convince me to give birth naturally. Women have been doing naturally for centuries. I know there can be complications and things change. Luckily, I had all 4 kids, including the twins, with no complications. No epidural. Like you said in a previous video, you can want to plan, but you just never know. ❤ I love your videos
@kristinaz6247
Ай бұрын
When I tell you that child birth was way more painful than I could have ever imaged, I am not exaggerating. The epidural was such a relief and allowed me to push my baby out. I’ve had zero side effects. Kudos to the mom with high pain tolerances who can do it naturally, but I am not one of them LOL
@alexandraingold
Ай бұрын
i've never had a baby BUT my mom has always been open about her story of giving birth to me. she tried soooo hard to do it without an epidural and was stubborn about what she initially thought she wanted. it wasn't until hours into labour that a nurse came into her room and said, "you know, we don't give out medals for people who don't use an epidural." she got the epidural and said it changed everything, and she actually got to enjoy the process.
@AnnV918
Ай бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@sunshinecindy570
Ай бұрын
I had a epidural, after being induced. I was 300lbs. Had no problems during or after. The labor pain is no joke! Was glad I did because I ended up having a C-section. The port is already there for them to add more drugs so you can be awake for delivery. But of course numb from waist down. Have you been to a Carter's baby& kid store? Google for your area. I used them a lot. Nice pricing & great quality!
@tammyclem6235
Ай бұрын
I was so scared to have an epidural, but my labor was lasting so long, and i was offered one, so I took it. Honestly, it made life sweet, I would rest, and then the nurse would wake me to push. Just never say never, it made my whole experience a breeze. I'm plus size and had no issues. Good luck, and God bless with everything 🙏 ❤️
@prissy1141
Ай бұрын
I’m a first time mom and stayed away from all birth stories online I just didn’t need that energy during my pregnancy lol. Since it was my first time I didn’t really do a birth plan all I told them was aiming for a vaginal delivery with an epidural. I had my baby boy in April and I had such a good labor experience with a vaginal delivery with epidural, no complications I pushed him out in 50 mins. I have not experience anything from getting the epidural since but yea everyone is different. Wishing you a healthy and great labor experience Alex!
@lovinglife439
Ай бұрын
As soon as they broke my water, EVERYTHING CHANGED!!!!! I needed that epidural STAT!!!
@reganl9845
Ай бұрын
Like a lot of people have said, just trust your body and don’t be too tied down with a birthing plan! Things change and the depression I’ve seen happen in women whose birth went different than what they dreamed of is too much. the overall goal is to have a healthy baby at the end of the day ❤
@3moorek
Ай бұрын
I would highly recommend getting a breastfeeding specialist appointment once baby is here. I learned soo much with mine, taught me how to use my pump, sized the flanges, taught me different positions in breastfeeding. Dont just rely on the nurses at the hospital I had pitocin and an epidural. 10/10 would do again. No residual pain.
@Megan3795
Ай бұрын
My epidural was amazing! It made the whole process so much more enjoyable, but everyone is so different! I’m so glad I had it because they ended up using it for my postpartum complications. I don’t have any long lasting issues, but again, everyone is so different! Best advice is to just keep an open mind going into delivery! Keep yourself and the baby healthy and happy! ❤
@EsperanzaR23
Ай бұрын
My birth plan was more around the golden hour after birth. The labor & delivery itself can be a wild card for sure but definitely have a plan but try not to be upset if it goes differently. I had the epidural for both my deliveries & loved it lol don't have any lingering pain from it either. It can actually progress labor because you can relax & allow your body to push baby down & open cervix. I was induced with my first & was not with my 2nd, 14yrs later & both deliveries were almost identical.
@jojosknows
Ай бұрын
I’m a plus size girl who’s had 2 babies at right around 300 lbs. Neither went according to plan, so it’s best to look at your birth plan as a guideline or wishlist. The epidural with my first went fine, but it does slow labor and I ended up having an emergency c section which was not fun. My second planned c section didn’t go according to plan bc they couldn’t place my epidural so they had to put me under general anesthesia. That was a great way to have a baby, honestly. C section recovery is not that bad, so don’t be scared. It’s all going to be fine. The pain is no joke, so even given all I’ve experienced, I’d still attempt it.
@lifewithsarahf2858
Ай бұрын
for my birth plan I wrote down that I wanted to try just gas and air but I was willing to consider anything that was needed to deliver safely depending on what happens. I am surprised they are letting you go full term considering you are very high risk
@evettearroyo34
Ай бұрын
Why aren’t we saying the babies name?
@xlilimariex
Ай бұрын
Everyone has very different experiences with pregnancy. I was plus size when I had my son and I chose to have an epidural later on during birth and everything was fine. I never even felt an ounce of pain and honestly feel having a baby was a breeze lol even having an epidural my son was born with underdeveloped lungs and even had to be transported to another hospital so I was up and traveling the next day. He stayed in NICU for over a month and I didn’t stop traveling and going non stop. So with all that said at the end of the day you have to do what YOU want to do. Not everyone is the same. Not every body is the same. Not every baby is the same and not every experience will be the same. Do what you feel is right for you ❤
@thefumblingcuisiniere
Ай бұрын
Hey Alex, I had a spinal block for a c-section and even though I have allergic reactions to them, it was necessary and I was fine 12hrs after it was initially injected. Our boy was 2.5wks early (pre-eclampsia and cholestasis), but 9.2lbs and healthy as can be, and I was able to breastfeed and pump to 1.5yrs. Good luck with everything, you got this! ❤️
@MzAboutFace
Ай бұрын
Warning ⚠️ ⛔️! Comotomo bottles tip! Wasted breast milk or formula is the worst so just be careful. They also take a longer time to warm up in the bottle warmer because the silicone is so thick. BUT I would 100% use them again because they’re so easy to clean and both of my babies loved them. ❤
@macquelanderson874
Ай бұрын
I was 280 when I had both of my babies & both of my epidurals went smoothly! I feel like my second worked better (still felt pressure, but wasn't in extreme pain). No side effects & made for such a calm delivery ❤️ whatever you choose, just be flexible! Praying everything goes well for you!
@devonodowd7461
Ай бұрын
2 babies 15 months apart. My first was unmedicated and it was beautiful. I struggled with my labor for my daughter and after not progressing a lot I was SPENT and got an epidural. It was quick and painless and no lingering issues on the spine. I HIGHLY recommend a doula as a birthing coach. We had one with our son and it was amazing. Every time I said I wanted and epidural, my doula said let’s try a different position and distracted me which was what I wanted
@PandaKisses031812
Ай бұрын
I had the epidural with my first and had no issues whatsoever. My anesthesiologist was AMAZING. Quick and easy. No pain.
@imacurlygirl
Ай бұрын
Epidural all the way with both kids - now 36 and 29!!! No problems at all with either of them!!!! So excited for you!!!
@meredithhayes5064
Ай бұрын
Epidurals were fantastic for pain, but makes it hard to feel when to push, but the nurses and doctors monitor your contractions and will tell you when it’s time. With my first I wasn’t prepared for how painful it was to pump/breastfeed at first. I definitely recommend a breastfeeding course and lactation consultant in hospital to make sure all is going well with baby.
@Margmarrita
23 күн бұрын
12:38 hey Alex! I know this video is a few weeks old, but I’m gonna share my birth experience cuz you asked. In 2022 I had my first son, I went into labor spontaneously at 41 weeks but my labor began to slow so the hospital put me on Pitocin. I really wanted to see if I could do it without epidural, but even with the Pitocin I was only at 5 centimeters dilated after 18 hours of unmedicated labor. I decided to get the epidural. It did not hurt, by that point I was so desperate for the contractions to end that the sensation of receiving the epidural was nothing. The epidural numbed my legs, my hips, my vagina, and my butt, but it did not numb my abdomen. Because I was still experiencing the contractions on my belly, and I was made immobile by the epidural legs, the belly contractions were hard to cope with just laying on the bed. Thankfully I was able to rest a bit and my body relaxed enough to full dilation. I had to push on my back because the epidural. My butt and vagina were so numbed that when the doctor said “push like you’re pooping” I couldn’t even remember what the mind-muscle connection of pooping felt like 😂 because I COULD feel my abs, I pushed like I was doing the worlds biggest crunch ever. I pushed for 45 minutes and my son’s heart rate was dropping so the OB gave me an episiotomy and he shot right out! The epidural had left me so numb that I couldn’t feel the ring of fire, the tearing, the episiotomy, or the stitches. Overall, I feel very positively about that birth experience even tho it wasn’t perfect. I can’t say what’s best for you and your baby, but I just want you to know that you were built for this and you are capable of loving your birth - even if it doesn’t go as planned! I personally do not have any residual back pain from my epidural site. I think you should leave yourself open to epidural, and don’t feel guilty if you end up getting one. All birth is real birth!!
@Ebrown5595
Ай бұрын
I was induced and I also asked for an epidural. I’m happy I did, because I ended up needing an emergency C-section. Everyone told me to have a “loose” birth plan because it sometimes doesn’t go to plan. (And it definitely did not 😅) but it’s good to sit down with your partner and discuss what’s important to you like cord cutting and such. But I think playing it by ear is definitely the way to go! 😊
@kaylaxmichelle94
Ай бұрын
so i have a 22 month old baby girl and i remember the birth experience vividly 😂 i personally don’t want to feel pain, but i wanted to go as long as i could before getting the epidural. I made it dilated to a 5 before i asked for the epidural. i was induced and on pitocin though, so the pain was pretty high and the contractions were incredibly painful (i’ve heard that is common with pitocin). the epidural allowed me a few hours of sleep (in and out because nurses check on you constantly). however, mine personally stopped working on my right side right as i started pushing. i’m personally glad i got the epidural, even though i felt everything on my right side, stitches included 🙃 If you’re on the fence, i think it’s great to see how far you can go before getting it. birth is an AMAZING and unmatched experience to me. i’ve been watching you for YEARS and am so excited for this new chapter in your life ❤
@kaylaxmichelle94
Ай бұрын
oh also, i can’t really say whether or not the epidural affected my back because i’ve always had back problems 😂
@francesca0276
Ай бұрын
My daughter flipped and was breached, they tried turning her around 2 weeks prior to her birth. I cried because I so wanted that experience of pushing. So, the day they scheduled my C-section, my water naturally broke that same day, 4am. So it was truly meant to be her birthday ! I was so nervous and shaking the whole time. She is now 22yrs old, but it seems like yesterday! I love your skirt, so adorable!! Also, everyone will have an opinion on the breast pump brand, but only you will have your personal preference and you won’t know until you try it out! Thank you for always sharing your moments🩵
@savannahsolis1517
Ай бұрын
I feel like nothing really goes as “planned” from what I hear with birth plans. 😅 I know mine didn’t AT ALL. My water broke … but I still had to be induced. 😫 Pitocin is no joke. So I loooooooved my epidural. (Don’t judge me… 😔) I have no regrets about the epidural. But that’s just me and my experience. 🤷🏼♀️
@EricaElayneRN
Ай бұрын
I have had 3 epidurals not problems. I was well over 230lbs with my second. As a labor and delivery nurse there are no peer reviewed studies that confirm long term effects of an epidural. I say keep an open mind and go with the flow. Do your research, use only peer reviewed articles and studies, talk to your OB Provider.
@heidijoyce3016
Ай бұрын
Are you still going to the gym? I heard that helps a lot with labor! I was 17 and definitely didn’t have any kind of birth plan.😂
@ljke
Ай бұрын
My sister still has existing issues from an epidural 11 years later. I have had 3 children, all natural, no drugs of any kind and did not have any issues. My 1st baby was when I was 17 and my last at 32.
@dustinmarie
Ай бұрын
I went in wanting to attempt to go without an epidural but was open to one if needed. I ended up getting an epidural since my contractions were on top of each other. I had ZERO ISSUES with the epidural during the process or after the fact. I am plus size, I think I was 255 when I gave birth. I got the epidural and about 4 and a half hours later my daughter was born. Only had one small tear. Do what you feel is right for you. Have a general idea of what you want but be open to it changing.
@StacyScott-v9o
Ай бұрын
Alexxxx! You are glowing and I love that skirt and tank combo! Get the epidural that way you will have pain relief and not be so drained and worn out and enjoy the first few moments with baby boy more. Talk to anesthesia and get more details about the epidural to calm your nerves.
@kaylabuasod
Ай бұрын
I had a fantastic experience with the epidural for both of my boys. For my first son I was in mild labor and then went from 5cm to 10cm in 45 minutes. It was excruciating and I said give me that epidural. It allowed me to calm down and rest before pushing for 2 hours. I felt the "ring of fire" but it was tolerable. With my second, I was induced and tried to sit with the pain for as long as possible. Finally my nurse said "if you're planning to get the epidural, can I ask why you're torturing yourself with pain?" And I was like good point....I got the epidural and was SO CALM and happy for like an hour before pushing for 5 minutes. I literally didn't even feel him come out. When they handed him to me, I was like wait what? Where did this baby come from?! 😂 I had no complications from either BUT I will say I had a friend who had a really bad experience and couldn't stand up without getting dizzy for like 3 weeks after. But I'm plus size and she's under 100 lbs so idk if that impacted our different experiences at all. My mom gave birth to me in 1991 laying on a metal table with no epidural (at a catholic hospital) and I'll just say I am SO glad I did the epidural 😅
@johannavelazco
Ай бұрын
If you’re going to try to pump/ breastfeed I recommend Medela or Spectra. Insurance should’ve covered that too
@ASBeauty23
Ай бұрын
If you are considering going natural, I strongly suggest you prepare another way to deal with the pain. I’m a labor & delivery nurse and I would say 95% of people who come in thinking about going natural without doing research about other pain control do not make it. You can’t rely on having a high pain tolerance in labor. It takes serious dedication! If you do get an epidural, ask to have an attending anesthesiologist or CRNA place your epidural. Residents are great but if you are already worried and may be a harder placement I would not want the residents practicing on me. Just my two cents! ❤️
@kalikobiko
Ай бұрын
Omg that music was giving A24 like Midsommar or Hereditary vibes 😖 I can’t I would’ve been screaming 😂
@momma.jess_
Ай бұрын
I don’t know if you ever saw my message about the Dreft but please look into it and use something else! It’s one of the worst detergents out there so sad they label it for babies!!!!
@jennys2398
Ай бұрын
Hi, What is wrong with Dreft?
@momma.jess_
Ай бұрын
@@jennys2398 do a quick google search it’s one of the worst out there
@BlancType12
Ай бұрын
I had an epidural with both my girls. First birth ended up in an emergency C-section and second one I tried to give birth vaginal but failed and had a C-section as well. All I can say is have an open mind and be ready for anything that may happen during your birth. You can plan all you want but sometimes things don’t go as planned
@kameron_michelle_
Ай бұрын
Whatever you decide with the epidural, keep in mind that past a certain point you'll be too far along to get it even if you've changed your mind. Also ask your anesthesiologist how much experience they have giving epidurals to women with larger bodies. I'm sure that will ease your mind. I didn't have any issues either time.
@kaylaisawesomeist
Ай бұрын
I was induced so I had pitocin cramps and they got so intense and no break in between contractions, but I made it to an 8.5 and I was truly shocked I made it that far!! Once I got the epidural (yes it hurt!) it did give me a lot of relief, but then it made me relax so much that my sons heart rate went down too much and I had to get an emergency c section. Just be prepared for any way your birth can go! Your body was made to give birth! You got this! ❤
@natfareal
Ай бұрын
Are you being induced? If so, just keep in mind that contractions with pitocin (meds given to induce labor) are way stronger than natural contractions. I was induced, got the epidural, but it failed 4 times. So I felt the contractions at 8-10 cm and almost passed out. I hope to not be induced for my second to see how long I can labor. Even with 4 epidurals, I didn’t have any lingering spinal pain.
@rtoldoya
Ай бұрын
I’ve given birth 3 times. With all of my pregnancies, I had an epidural. I know I could have handled the pain, but I didn’t want to. I never had any issues with any of them.
@karenmorales1558
Ай бұрын
I didn’t have an epidural, I had a lot of negative feedback from people in my life about the aftermath of having it and I just wanted it to be a more natural experience. Also I didn’t allow myself to watch anything on social media about births just because I didn’t want to scare myself into getting one so I just tried to not think about it and honestly it all went well thank God. Of course there will be pain but it doesn’t last forever and at least in my case once I heard my baby I completely forgot what the pain felt like. Like til this day I cannot tell you what it felt like. I know it hurt but can’t recall it if it makes sense
@teresamarie710
Ай бұрын
The epidural helped me progress and it helped me relax enough for my water to break on its own. Honestly the pain is really rough without something to help. They made me shut if off though when I was pushing so I could feel it. But I 100% will get one again for my next baby.
@corab.3921
Ай бұрын
Girl, take the epidural!!!(sorry I don"t know how to soell it I am from Switzerland)😅But do plan it on advance and then you can take it as soon as the pain gets too much. Worked wonders with my two births! I has no problems or pain from it whatsoever! Highly recommend!😅❤
@sarahgibson7404
Ай бұрын
I had an epidural and no regrets! My best advice would be just really listen to your body. it’s okay to have one if you feel you need it. It doesn’t make you any less strong then not having one. So excited for you, you will be a great mom😊 My son turns 1 at the end August and being a boy mom is the best!
@chelseamarsh_
Ай бұрын
My only input is that if youre induced you might be screaming for an epidural. My body didnt react well to pitocin and i was puking from the extreme pain. Ive had an epidural and my second baby a spinal block for a csection and zero lasting pain or side effects. Youll do what your body tells you to!
@DanielleV2484
Ай бұрын
I'm not sure about complications with epidurals on someone plus size but I've had two and had no issues. I don't see the benefit of not having one. To me it allows you to be relaxed and present when your baby enters the world. Also, you can always wait as long as you want if you're worried about it slowing the birthing process. You can just say you're trying to avoid the epidural for as long as possible and when the pain becomes too much ask for one.
@briannahussain8122
Ай бұрын
i have had 2 boys! and both times i got the epidural. it made me feel at peace and enjoyed every part of delivery. i napped most of the time while waiting for my babies to come. i'm also a big baby with pain too so i knew i wasn't going to be able to handle it. my labors were both over 30 hours long for both boys not due to the epidural - my body wouldn't naturally dilate on its own so it was crazy both times with them trying to get me to dilate. i ended up getting the epidural when i was 5cm dilated. no pain after for me either!
@brandydark783
Ай бұрын
Honestly I had severe preeclampsia and was brought to tufts medical center in Boston to give birth 8 weeks early so I personally can say having a birth plan, they never usually go as planned, I think it’s best to just go with the flow of the day and of course it’s good to have preferences but be open to having to change them. As far as the epidural, it wasn’t as painful as people say it is, it’s just a pinch from the numbing, you’ll be more focused on your contractions like so many are. I’m so excited to see you go through your final stage of pregnancy, it’s been beautiful to watch! 🖤🫶🏻
@JenniferMarie
Ай бұрын
I had an epidural. The contractions were so bad I didn’t even feel the epidural with my first kiddo. I’ve had 2 epidurals and 2 emergency c sections but 0 complications from either many years later
@mellow_fellow6629
Ай бұрын
Some breast milk storage bags can also attach directly to your pump! I have an 18 month old - i wanted to have a “natural” birth but at 6cm, i gave in and wanted an epidural. I was induced, so the contractions were harder. I think if i had never entertained the thought of an epidural, i wouldn’t have needed it. I do have issues with my back - can’t lay on my sides or stomach without intense back pain. Just my experience though!! Whatever decision you make, will be the best for you guys ❤
@harleygirl8527
Ай бұрын
I had an epidural and it went great. I wanted a natural birth too but the pain was way to much for me so I got epidural. It went well though. For all those of you who were able to do it naturally, I applaud you. You will do great either way! I’m so excited to meet ur little one soon! You look beautiful as always!!! ❤
@Amanda-nc5sy
Ай бұрын
The epidural was amazing!!! I didn’t have any complications with mine and it made delivery a breeze!!
@momma.jess_
Ай бұрын
My body was in too much pain without the epidural, it was in so much pain my body stopped progressing try and protect itself. I had to get the epidural and then my body allowed itself to progress and just focus on me and baby. I guess it happens sometimes your body tried to protect itself so not having an epidural can also slow it down for some people.
@yazzie5871
Ай бұрын
My babies are 16 months apart ( now 26 months and 10 months). Had an epidural with both vaginal deliveries. First had no lingering pain but with my second I’m still feeling the pain from time to time. Everyone’s experience is different and every birth is different. I would still recommend the epidural. I don’t have a high pain tolerance so I knew I wanted the epidural with both. No regrets.
@emileedoss7814
Ай бұрын
Hey Alex, I’m a first time mom and had my baby girl in March of 2024. I had planned on a vaginal and ended up with an emergency c section. I planned equally for both to avoid trauma. That’s the best advice I can give to you is plan just as much for the birth you don’t want as you do for the one you do want. I did not have the epidural until I needed my c section. I watched so many positive birth videos and preparation for a natural birth.
@jessicavilla9187
Ай бұрын
I’m a momma of four kids and I have had 3 kids with epidural and I just had my fourth baby in may of 2024 and I had my baby without the epidural and honestly I enjoyed having my baby naturally over the epidural. recovery was a lot faster for me just as long as you listen to your body you will know when to push and when not to . I’m sure you will do great.
@amberhalford9738
Ай бұрын
I had epidurals with both my pregnancies I had no after effects that lingered. My second epidural they had a hard time getting it in, which is very uncomfortable, but everything was fine at the end of the day. I also ended up having two C-sections so the plan went out the window
@itskatehii
Ай бұрын
Alex you should try the colorscience no show mineral sunscreen!! It’s so nice. No white cast and not greasy
@palmtree2022
Ай бұрын
I had zero issues from my epidural and an amazing birth experience!
@mshelly424
Ай бұрын
I was induced, and I got an epidural as soon as they would let me lol. i have a pretty low pain tolerance. It worked very well for me! My lower back would ache on and off for maybe a year or so after, and now, 4 years later, it doesn't really bother me anymore. It's totally worth it IMO.
@nicollettewilliams5063
Ай бұрын
I’ve had 4 babies… never had a set birth plan. I heard all those negative things about the epidural as well and i never wanted to risk it vs short term birthing pain so i had all 4 natural… but my labors didn’t last too long, you know you hear some ppl labor for over 24 hrs or things like that so if i was in those type of situations i may have caved on the epi so its really a plan as you go type thing…
@courtneysimsgameplay8217
Ай бұрын
Honestly if you are to much pain to enjoy the birth then in my opinion the epidural is so worth it! I had the epidural for 2 of my 3 kids and my second child’s birth was the best thing ever with the epidural
@jennav.4047
Ай бұрын
I am plus size and went in wanting a unmedicated v-birth. Ended up doing what was best for my babies and had c-sections with both of my babies. They were done under local anesthetic via spinal blocks which can also cause pain after birth for some. I haven't had any experience with postpartum back pain. Ultimately it is up to what you want done. Basically my birth plan went out the window, so I do recommend flexibility and to consider your doctor's expertise.
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