Story 2: Unfair treatment can break family relationships. The sister was spoiled while OP was left in the dirt. I'm glad OP is leaving. Maybe that'll teach the family
@a.u.t.057
Жыл бұрын
knowing these kinds of people they would tell everyone that op abandon them for no reason
@TetraSky
Жыл бұрын
You can bet the family will learn nothing from OP leaving and if OP makes the mistake of seeing them again, I wouldn't be surprised if they fake apologized and then did the same thing again.
@MiraTheWarlock
Жыл бұрын
There's another possible scenario. The golden child's position is sometimes only secure when the scapegoat is present. It might all fall apart for her when OP's gone, and they no longer have their free slave
@ahstiasummers5583
Жыл бұрын
The parents are the reason behind the family drama. Golden child gets upset when the black sheep leaves, and likely because on some subconscious level, they know that they benefit from the unfair treatment. Whatever burdens the black sheep bore will be ladened on the golden child once they're the last one left
@arturoreyes2119
Жыл бұрын
Parentification 👏 is 👏 abuse 👏
@draksig12
Жыл бұрын
She didn't not save OP's daughter a cupcake, she never made one for her in the first place. Just read the post, the 16 year old gave her friend a plate of cupcakes so she made plenty, just didn't want OP's daughter to have one.
@fdm2155
Жыл бұрын
Yeah the 16 year old was just being a bitch to the 4 year old. Frankly, the teen messed around and found out! She went out of her way to be dismissive and hurtful to OP's child and stupidly expected OP to gift her a $1k birthday gift. 😆 That teen isn't just mean, she's an idiot! And her father needs to stop making excuses for her garbage behavior. Obviously the teen made the choice to be a jerk. Over cupcakes she was already making...
@johndalasfox6077
Жыл бұрын
Imagine being so entitled that you would split up your own relationship just because your daughter didn't get a cupcake 💀
@ProjectDT88
Жыл бұрын
@@johndalasfox6077 I don’t think the mother was entitled. The birthday girl though was. She intentionally did something petty and mean to what was going to be her future stepsister. It is a mother’s duty to raise and protect their child. The fact the father wasn’t bothered by the 16-year-old’s antics is red flag for sure. He offered his cupcake sure, but that was meant to appease the mother, not correct his daughter’s entitled behavior. If he let his daughter get away with bullying a 4-year-old now, what is to keep her from bullying the child in the future?
@nnicsu
Жыл бұрын
@@johndalasfox6077 Imagine defending a 16-year-old who keeps attacking a 4-year-old. She wanted to hurt a toddler. Who wants to hurt a toddler???
@jamesverone1244
Жыл бұрын
@@johndalasfox6077 imagine thinking your opinion matters. Your to young you will get it eventually
@salbahejim
Жыл бұрын
No cupcake: that girl planned in advance to not give OP's daughter a cupcake; it was premeditated and considered. That the boyfriend offered his cupcake does not mitigate the intentional slight delivered by his daughter. She's not just being a moody teenager. She's transitioning into adulthood and pushing limits to see what works. They all do this at some point, but part of that process is learning about the consequences of one's actions and hopefully she learned this lesson. If dad coddles her the lesson will be wasted as she learns to blame others for her consequences.
@lsaas1623
Жыл бұрын
In the comments OP also mentioned that after serving a cupcake to everyone else the birthday girl brought a plate piled with cupcakes for her girlfriend.
@LaundryFaerie
Жыл бұрын
20 bucks says this teenager does not like Daddy's new girlfriend. While she probably cannot act out directly toward the woman her father is dating, she can be a passive aggressive bully to this woman's child as a way of driving a wedge between the two adults. If that's her plan, it sounds like it worked a treat. Nothing drives a mother into Mama Bear mode like someone mistreating her kids, and rightly so.
@caseyjude5472
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, you could dodge this bullet or ignore it & let your daughter suffer. Also, conservative family-girl, RUN.
@charlotteinnocent8752
Жыл бұрын
This is no environment for OP to take a little 4 yr old into if she marries this guy she will be the AHOLE. He didn't even stand up for the little girl!
@madambutterfly1997
Жыл бұрын
Just because you’re pregnant does not excuse you stealing food especially when you’re a guest in somebody else’s house
@gudkush420
Жыл бұрын
I feel bad for that future kid. Theyre gonna be stuck with a really selfish and manipulative woman for a mother.
@lastphantom4243
Жыл бұрын
You really don’t need to eat for 2 when you’re pregnant. You need like small amount. Like an extra glass of milk. Edit: I should have added to begin with.
@ahstiasummers5583
Жыл бұрын
@@lastphantom4243 Pregnant women should eat about 3k - 3.5k extra calories a day depending on trimester and assuming no health complications
@azizcalva-navarro6170
Жыл бұрын
@@lastphantom4243 My guess is that she was on a diet that she hates and is using the pregnancy as an excuse
@ared-ainu
Жыл бұрын
Some people experience extreme personality changes during pregnancy, and for the sisters sake, I hope that's what's happening to her and that she's not usually like that. It doesn't excuse the behaviour, but it would at least mean that there's hope.
@AMASTA5
Жыл бұрын
The last story is a whole lot worse, because sister-in-law convinced the husband to NOT cook a meal that is safe for OP, and then stole allergy free takeout after the fact. I agree, both should be kicked out.
@TheSonicsean
Жыл бұрын
And she would ONLY eat something OP is allergic to, unless of course she gets something she can eat herself. She's just straight trash.
@MinkxiTes
6 ай бұрын
Husband might like his sister too much... *banjo playing*
@ancientsociety79
Жыл бұрын
Everybody: "Come on Rslash, say the line...." Rslash: "Parentification is child abuse." Everybody: *applauds*
@madambutterfly1997
Жыл бұрын
I understand that she had a miscarriage, but that is no excuse to treat a five-year-old with such unwarranted vitriol
@sailorathena17
Жыл бұрын
Yeah that’s cruel to a child!
@xNenaT25x
Жыл бұрын
Also the child is in foster care meaning she has probably already experienced enough trauma and needs to feel safe in her home.
@linpittsburgh2375
Жыл бұрын
Fundamentally, children exist in the world, so she either needs to work on not being triggered by them or just never leave the house. You can’t demand that children stop existing until you feel better.
@gnashsang
Жыл бұрын
Better off staying childless if these is how she acts with an five year old girl
@CreepyConnor
Жыл бұрын
as mean as it sounds, it's probably best that she had a miscarriage if this is how she treats children.
@FitzyCify
Жыл бұрын
In story 1, I'd add an extra score for calling May "someone else's daughter", completely de-legitimising OP's motherhood.
@TheRealNekora
Жыл бұрын
This! ^ As far as im concerned calling a foster/adoption kid "someone elses child" to the adoptive parents face is the same as calling them "it" or "that thing".
@xKCAZxLEADER
Жыл бұрын
Facts, I agree with this
@TheAshesvondust
Жыл бұрын
Plus, if that's really how she sees it, is it any better to abuse a child with no parents?! I'm sad for her miscarriage, but her baby had parents. This little girl needs all the love she can get. And I don't know... anyone, no matter what kind of pain they're in, that can treat a child so poorly doesn't sound like they would make a great parrent.
@itrasheditgood
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, there are so many layers of disrespect, it’s as if sister thinks that since the kid is momentarily parentless, it gives her legitimacy to treat May like a punching bag. It may be that OP has never even told anyone that she is planning to adopt, because the process doesn’t necessarily give guarantees, but regardless whether May is a temporary guest or permanent family member it gives sister no excuse to be abusive. Sister needs to at the very least apologize to both OP and May before she ever sets foot in OP’s house.
@anniesamuel4787
Жыл бұрын
@@TheAshesvondust I'm kinda thinking if this is what the sister is like now, was she a little bit like this before she had a miscarriage? Is that why she was actually not getting along with the husband and this has blown everything up? We obviously don't know the circumstances surrounding the pregnancy, like, maybe it was IVF or a miracle scenario baby BUT, is having a miscarriage worth losing a marriage when they could, all things being fair, try again?
@silverflight01
Жыл бұрын
Story 4: Why are both of them basically letting OP starve? The SIL made the husband not cook food that OP can eat and then later stole OP's food, and then when OP confronted SIL, the husband took SIL's side. I just don't get it. Don't they see how much OP was being mistreated in this situation? Don't they have any consideration?
@carrollkuemper
Жыл бұрын
bUt fAmIlY
@kenzieuchiha1191
Жыл бұрын
Because its his sister and she's pregnant, so by default he feels he *has* to take up for her even though its clear by OP's story that she's extremely manipulative and self-centered. Sister-in-law seems to just like drama especially drama centered around herself.
@SunnyBurnsAll
Жыл бұрын
I wish the husband had been kicked out as well. And that she called him an incestuous creep. So he could be really offended.
@dragonriderabens9761
Жыл бұрын
@@kenzieuchiha1191 There are 2 explanation for the husband's behavior: 1 he's a spineless coward who OP needs to file a divorce for. I have no sympathy for him in this case 2 The sister has been like this all their lives, and he has been conditioned to be like this towards her. In this case, I have SOME sympathy for him, but he's still the butthole Either way, a good husband would have his WIFE'S back above anyone else
@paulagoeringer9466
Жыл бұрын
@@SunnyBurnsAll absolutely. I am a beast when hangry and his horrible butt would have been out the door for starving me. I went hungry as a kid and I have food issues so don't mess with my food. I can't imagine working all day, coming home to no food and then after ordering food I paid for having it stolen while in the shower? Yeah, someone is definitely going to regret that. He had time to feed himself and his wretched sister and she still stole food. He didn't even have his wife's back? Nope. He's worthless. Time to take out the trash.
@SoManyRandomRamblings
Жыл бұрын
Last story: thank you rslash for going into detail about how the husband did wrong....other channels let him off the hook more or less.
@sbenhaba
Жыл бұрын
excuses are always "hormones, blablabla" like wtf she's literally an adult
@Arc3752
Жыл бұрын
Yes! This exactly! Rslash's rant hits all the good points. Plus being pregnant shouldn't be a license to be cruel and malicious.
@Deathlyhallows-rx7hg
Жыл бұрын
Also pregnant or not if you eat someone's food, the least you can do is order another one and pay for it. She was a guest🤦♀️
@condorboss3339
Жыл бұрын
I thought the husband's behavior was borderline incestuous. He appears to care more for his sister than his wife.
@eway44
Жыл бұрын
@@condorboss3339 no, husband and sister didn't seem to have any romantic relations. I don't think it's incest
@TelaWasTaken
Жыл бұрын
In first story OP is absolutely NTA. She did the right thing by kicking out the sister. Who would let someone that takes out anger on their child in their house?
@GeoffC19
Жыл бұрын
especially a foster child - the kid has been through enough that she doesn't need that in her new safe space. That kind of assholery is a special kind of evil
@iridescentsolace
Жыл бұрын
@@GeoffC19 FOR REAL, the “pick someone else over your sister” shocked me bc that is a Child that has been in op’s care for 8 months, that’s your child and I’m 100% supportive over putting/supporting your child over everyone else
@spicydiarrhea5662
Жыл бұрын
come on... she just had a miscarriage - all children should di3 to not offend her. 2.5/5 buttcheeks for OP, and 3,5/5 buttcheeks for her daughter
@Dondizle
Жыл бұрын
It seems like the sister sees the child as an easy target because the child isn't biologically related to her. Regardless, that woman doesn't deserve to be a mother until she can treat children properly. In my mind this is like a sneak peek into whats to come if she did have a kid. Whenever OP's sister is having a bad day she'll likely take it out on her own kid, because they can't defend themselves.
@xKCAZxLEADER
Жыл бұрын
I wonder if she ever tried this behavior with any other 4 year old. I get having a miscarriage is terrible but there is no excuse for taking ur grief and anger out on an innocent child
@mamakitty6549
Жыл бұрын
I've had two miscarriages in the last 4 years. It's horrendous. That's absolutely NO excuse to bully a child. Absolutely none. The fact she's doubling down and not feeling shit about it, definitely says a lot about her and her "maternal instincts" 😳
@nick-brothwood
9 ай бұрын
My condolences.
@xKCAZxLEADER
Жыл бұрын
First Story, NTA: I get the feeling of pain from losing a child due to a miscarriage but that doesn’t give u no right to treat a child horrible just for existing. Is this how she acts when she see every kid around her? May is literally innocent in all of this and OP's sister treats her like this and tries to justify it by her losing her kid Second Story, NTA: Parents who play favorites and treat their oldest child as a third parent are horrible parents and have no right to be a parent. This to me is a from of abuse. This kind of treatment causes the oldest child to resent their parents and their siblings. It is sad that OP's sister is starting to rub off on her parents. Hopefully she sees the light and see how horrible their parents treated. Obviously, OP's sister couldn’t handle the truth Third Story, NTA: She knew what she was doing and she purposely excluded OP's daughter. Why should OP reward this kind of behavior? OP should really think carefully if she wants to marry this guy Fourth Story, NTA: She is being extremely selfish. SIL is obviously doing this on purpose to spite OP for some reason. Bad enough, OP can barely eat anything that is made because she is picky and OP is allergic to a majority of it. Bro, being pregnant is no excuse to be a horrible person. OP's husband not making the right choices to do what his sister wanted instead of what his wife wanted and refuses to defend OPi
@AnymousScreams
Жыл бұрын
It's absolutely child abuse to have parents parentify their children. I'm hoping OP is allowed to leave like she plans. Her family are awful.
@dimsufferer9951
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: it's called parentification
@xKCAZxLEADER
Жыл бұрын
@@AnymousScreams exactly. If u are going to have kids just so they can raise each other when they become teens then u shouldn’t have kids at all. Teens are not free babysitting, they are older kids
@tavi265
Жыл бұрын
The 2nd story is kinda like my life but I realize at age 9 and tried to help the older sibling
@guestindisguise7079
Жыл бұрын
just going to go out there and say it. Fourth story sounds very "sweet home Alabama" I am sorry
@d.phantomfan1216
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: Oh please, she's sad one told her the truth, and now she's mad at you for making her feel bad because you pointed out her special treatment? Well no she isn't, she's upset because she thought she could play the hero. My guess is she was finally going to stand up to the mean sister that doesn't appreciate her kind hard working parents. And was sick of her mean older sister not appreciating the family, but then you told her the reality, and instead of sympathizing with you and building a connection she play the victim so she didn't look foolish.
@lorilancaster5917
Жыл бұрын
Sis: OP! You’re so mean for dumping 17 years of drama on me! OP: try living through it without the cliff note’s I gave you
@Tustin2121
Жыл бұрын
OP did kind of trauma-dump on her sister, but at the same time, her sister is the one who needed to hear all of this, and hopefully will start to open her eyes about the whole situation. I hope OP gets out the moment she turns 18 as planned, and that the parents don’t cause trouble with that.
@memeking7273
Жыл бұрын
@@Tustin2121 The sister won't learn anything because that's not How she was raised, as for the parents....... I can bet that GC is going to tell them so that they can scolded OP. OP probably got screwed over by Golden Child because she didn't like what she heard
@chere100
Жыл бұрын
@@memeking7273 That's not necessarily true. How you're raised isn't the end all be all of things, if that were true my mother would be a monster, a wh0re, and a drug add1ct. She's none of the above. But sure, I don't like the sister's odds (of learning from this).
@KayLo_The_Legend
Жыл бұрын
Little sis: Why are you so mean to mom and dad? Op: *tells little sister why she hates mom and dad* Little sis: WHY ARE YOU TRUTH DUMPING ON ME?!?!
@mezzokitty247
Жыл бұрын
Last story: Rslash’s take on this story is perfectly accurate in every way. The SIL is a huge AH, but this is one of those cases where OP doesn’t have a SIL problem, she has a spouse problem. It’s obvious her husband has no respect for OP and will always take his entitled family members’ side over his wife’s and this will get even worse later on if OP stays with this guy and has kids with him. The kids will suffer as a result of their father siding against them and mistreating them as well. OP needs to get out of that marriage while she can still do so without having to worry about being legally tied to him by kids or anything else like that (if she doesn’t have kids with him already, please let this be the case).
@jcishad0ws82
Жыл бұрын
Although I agree the husband is In the wrong, why is the first step immediately divorce?
@steakanator7236
Жыл бұрын
@@jcishad0ws82 because the majority of the people who make those comments have never been married, they don't recognize that "wait until the issue is in the past and try to talk it out" is a valid option.
@AzureKyle
Жыл бұрын
@@jcishad0ws82 Because people on the internet love to talk in extremes. 'What, your husband didn't apologize after accidentally bumping into you while walking down the stairs? You need to divorce that butthole asap because he's clearly abusing you and will only get worse from here!'
@kiraphobia222
Жыл бұрын
@@steakanator7236 It is to some extent but the whole family seems entitled from the story, the in-law and the husband alike. So really, it's not anyone's job to change or help you grow, you should have done that beforehand.
@wynnedm1941
Жыл бұрын
First story: As the former foster kid, the real trigger is "someone else's kid" for me. OP is calling this child her kid, so that's now the niece. The granddaughter. She's not just yelling at a random child. She's yelling at family. Also, 'Kate' probably didn't tell her family everything.
@dracko158
Жыл бұрын
"She tells me I am a horrible sister, and said that she was grieving and how I could put someone else's kid over her's." So? Just because she suffered a miscarriage doesn't mean she has to take it out on May, she has nothing to do with it. And OP is a horrible sister? Nah, you are the one that's horrible for calling May a brat, and you are literally biting the hand that feeds you. NTA, she made her bed, now lay in it.
@DeanDraxon8752
Жыл бұрын
Exactly! Not to mention the wording? “Someone else’s kid” as if it wasn’t OP’s daughter. Foster, adopted, it doesn’t matter. OP is that kid’s mom, and it’s her job to protect her from douchebags like her sister. The audacity to take your anger out on a 5 year old, and then get upset when said 5 year old’s mother protects her child.
@Kamechan98
Жыл бұрын
@@DeanDraxon8752 Yeah, I was just going to say the same thing. When you have kids, those kids always come first. Biological, adopted, doesn’t matter. You are a parent and you have responsibility to your child to protect, love and take care of them. And yeah, obviously you wanna be there for your family and support them when they’re going through heartbreak and losing a child, but when asked to choose your sibling (and their dead child) over your own child, your child should come first. And shame on that sister for trying to guilt-trip OP and for basically calling her daughter ‘not her child’.
@SirOwlsworth
Жыл бұрын
your pumpkin icon is so recognizable, i always scroll down to see if you left a comment here xD
@dracko158
Жыл бұрын
@@SirOwlsworth Heh, I'm flattered you are excited about my comment. XD
@WyntheRogue
Жыл бұрын
I concur, losing a wee one sucks from what I'm told and one can rightfully grieve such a devastating loss. HOWEVER, just because one is grieving doesnt mean it gives them the right to be such a bitch the way OP's sister was to poor May. OP is definitely NTA,she deserves major kudos for being a steel spined mama bear. Also to Hell with the people who dismiss adopted kiddos as real family, the "family is blood only" mentality is toxic AF.
@kaguranaomi8245
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: 100% a scapegoat/golden child story and you're right rslash, that IS abuse. Neglecting one child/treating them like shir and setting it up for both kids to be against each other is part of a narcissistic family dynamic. OP getting out is the best thing they can do and I genuinely hope they can do that quick. Go NC with the family so the sister can't come crying when she inevitably becomes the new scapegoat. Don't let them send flying monkeys - just drop them all. I can say from experience, you will want to cut them out asap. Don't give them room to hoover you back in. Don't give them room to send people after you. Give yourself time to process everything. Understand they will never change and it's not worth your health trying to do so.
@Ikajo
Жыл бұрын
I'm surprised they didn't get a higher butthole score. I would have given the parents 5 out of 5, and the sister 3 out of 5. She is old enough to know that the dynamic is neither healthy nor normal.
@paulagoeringer9466
Жыл бұрын
This. Malignant tumors have to be cut out.
@maieen2665
Жыл бұрын
*First OP:* The only thing OP did wrong was not kick her sister out the first (couple of) time(s) she snapped at May. Otherwise, OP is NTA. *Second OP:* It looks like OP’s sister was oblivious to how their parents treat OP. I’d say OP is NTA, but she should give that same energy to her parents. Maybe in a safe environment, if necessary. *Third OP:* This reminds me of a scene from _Always Sunny_ where Frank and his friends got these cool leather jackets. Mac asked if they had anymore jackets, and Frank replied, “Not for you, b1tch (censoring just in case).” Anywho, why would OP’s fiancé’s daughter (not calling her OP’s stepdaughter because OP and her fiancé aren’t married) purposely not give OP’s daughter a cupcake?! OP is NTA. *Fourth OP:* How did OP’s SIL convince OP’s husband not to cook for OP?! OP’s husband and SIL are siblings, right? I wonder if the SIL is older than the husband, and was using the seniority card on him. Or, if the SIL was the Golden Child, and the husband the scapegoat? Either way, OP’s husband needs to get his ish together. OP is NTA.
@lorilancaster5917
Жыл бұрын
1. What if a social worker came by and witnessed OPs sis bullying May? She could be at risk of losing custody 2. I agree that the sis knew about OPs mistreatment and just wanted a round with the punching bag 3. OP can give fiancé the engagement ring back and tell him to buy her own phone. Someone in a previous forum told OP to give the IPhone to her daughter with a cupcake protective case. 4. Sis wants to have every male in her life under her control and will do anything to eliminate any competition
@your_local_questerian
Жыл бұрын
let's not forget, op's fiance treats her daughter like shit, according to numerous comments on the original post
@drustanastrophel9538
Жыл бұрын
Foster kids already have enough shit going on, May doesn’t deserve to be traumatized by Kate’s inability to process her grief.
@ryancox6059
Жыл бұрын
Last story: It feels like the sister in law is just being vindictive and petty doing those things and using her pregnancy as an excuse for rude behaviour. The husband needs a solid course on how to be a husband and not a complete clown.
@manuelreiner7079
Жыл бұрын
Last story: What I dont understand is that the SIL said she didnt like the food OP normally eats, which was the reason for the whole situation. So why does she eat the food from OP if she doesnt like it?
@spectrelead
Жыл бұрын
SiL is being a controlling c u next tuesday
@joimumu
Жыл бұрын
She was trying to break up Op and her brother up so he can help her raise her child
@vanzy01
Жыл бұрын
@@joimumu lol
@shadowmewfred09
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: what does Kate expect like a school to do if she walks past it, cry and tell them to run inside while insulting them? NTA Kate needs to get over her issues big time, I mean to be so toxic and shout at a 5 YEAR OLD!? That's must be messed up. Story 2: you know you've failed as both a human and a parent if you force one of your kids to care for the "golden child", NTA your parents are neglectful and kind of abusive (I view parentifcation as abuse) and are just enabling your spoiled sister. Thankfully cinderella finds her Prince charming and the evil mother and sister suffer karma so things will get better. Story 3: seems like your step daughter has issues or is just bullying your daughter for no reason, ether way there's something that hasn't been addressed so op I'd talk to your daughter because this is just cruel, but overall your NTA and I agree rslash she doesn't have to give a cupcake but then op doesn't need to give her an iPhone ether. Story 4: NTA keep the food dump the sil, pregnant or not it doesn't exclude stealing food you paid for also why didn't your husband cooked for her or you and then defend his thieving sister? Op it's clear your husband values his sister over you and if isn't resolved tell him to marry his sister
@rachelmartin3631
Жыл бұрын
That 4 year old was a foster child. That 4 year old has seen some sh*t no one at that age should see. Kate is just adding to that child's issues. GET THE F*CK OUT KATE!!!
@your_local_questerian
Жыл бұрын
and you wouldn't be wrong because parentification is abuse too and it's very common on reddit, why can't parents just let their kid be themselves??? that's too far for me and i like messed up stuff
@Musical_Pigeon
Жыл бұрын
I had a roommate who would eat other's food and left overs just because he was hungry and wasn't sure if they were going to eat it. I remember in preparation to getting my wisdom teeth out my boyfriend stocked up on pudding, yogurt, mashed potatoes, and mac and cheese for me eat since that's what my oral surgeon recommended to keep my from hurting myself eating. At one point while I was still on the stupid soft food diet, roommate asked "If I make you mac and cheese can I have some?" I said no because I wasn't hungry at that moment and I knew that if he made it then and I didn't eat right away he'd eat the whole box. Then he kept coming out of his room to ask me if he could have one of my yogurts or puddings. BITCH LET ME HAVE THE FOODS I CAN EAT WITHOUT PAIN! He also asked he once if he could have some of my sour cream and cheddar chips and proceeded to eat the entire family sized bag. A few days later he replaced it with a normal sized bag and told me he couldn't figured out where I got the family sized ones. Boyfriend's mom sent us home with a big slice of cake for each of us (Boyfriend, roommate, and myself). I at that point knew if I didn't eat mine right away it may not be there later ate my slice when we got home. Roommate ate his as soon as he got home, and a couple days later ate boyfriend's slice because he "Just couldn't help himself". I ended up falling into an unhealthy eating trend where I'd eat ALL of my portion of food (we split everything 3 ways to make sure everything was even. Ever cut a pizza into 9 equal slices? I can, pretty evenly too) at once because I knew that if I put leftovers in the fridge there wouldn't be any the next day when I went to eat it. Roommate has been gone for 7 months now and I'm still trying to break that habit. My boyfriend has eaten my left overs in the past and gotten the cold shoulder for it. Last night I told him I was taking my last two pieces (again, evenly split) for lunch the next day and he asked how I was gonna take it for lunch when they were gonna be in his tummy. I told him if he ate my garlic bread again he'd wouldn't wake up in the morning. I just had that garlic bread for lunch. Before I moved in with boyfriend and roommate I had issues at home with people eating my left overs. Once I put a pretty fully thing of sesame chicken with white rice in the fridge and two days (TWO (2) DAYS) later I went to eat it (one of the days I was gone all day) found it more than half way gone. Turns out my dad mixed a little in with his eggs for breakfast because he'd never had sesame chicken and wanted to try it, and one of my brothers decided that since it wasn't touched at all the day before it was up for grabs. Needless to day I have major issues with people eating my food and expecting me to be fine with it. Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.
@agentmaryland1239
Жыл бұрын
@@Musical_Pigeon I used to have similar issues when my mom married my current stepdad. I would grab a few things for myself whenever we went food shopping. Randomly my foods would just come up missing. Sometimes my mom would admit to having eaten them, sometimes my sister would admit to it, but then one day I woke up late and came downstairs to make myself something to eat and caught my stepdad and stepbrother eating all of my food. His excuse when I told him those were mine was that 'no one owns anything, if it's in the kitchen, it's free game'. So I started eating his left overs, his snacks, his everything. Suddenly he wasn't so happy about that. So apparently it was ok for him and his son to scarf down everything that wasn't nailed down, but if you touch their stuff, suddenly it was a problem. This led to me eating most of my food as soon as possible...which built an eating disorder because of the distrust. When my mom married the guy and we moved in, I was 140 pounds. That was 12 years ago. I now weigh 260 pounds and I can't shake the weight.
@Musical_Pigeon
Жыл бұрын
@@agentmaryland1239 That's kinda the issue I have. I also have a hormone imbalance that makes weight gain easy but weight loss hard. I'm not sure how to shed the weight without starving myself.
@anxietti
Жыл бұрын
ohhhh the last story makes me sooo mad. pregnant people just expect to be catered to by everyone, like sis you being knocked up and the related cravings or symptoms are a You problem. Also the husband is a loser, he should have still cooked for his wife, and when the sister ate his wife’s food he should have offered to cook for his wife or order her more food. His sister being there is his choice and his problem, not his wife’s. oooo so maddd
@joimumu
Жыл бұрын
What bother me the most is how incredibly dumb Op husband is not seeing the shit test his sister it pulling
@robins2819
Жыл бұрын
The problem isn't pregnant women. Its a very difficult time because of hormones, diet, you can't move the way you usually do and you're growing a baby inside of you. Family members of a pregnant women *should* be helping them within reason. The problem is *this* woman in particular (and OP's worthless husband), who is a grade A jackass for reasons OUTSIDE of pregnancy.
@anxietti
Жыл бұрын
@@robins2819 I agree, family that wants to be involved should help her, the issue is that she’s not asking for help she’s just taking things from OP and hiding behind her brother to avoid repercussions. But yeah the true AH is the husband 100%
@Lestaticate
Жыл бұрын
Last Story: Don't worry dear sweet husbando, your sister won't be alone! * hands over packed suitcase *
@kimhohlmayer7018
Жыл бұрын
In story one I am doubly insulted by Kate’s behavior. First, if OP had given birth to the little girl would Kate still be bullying the five year old? The other is that while losing a child is devastating, Kate needs therapy to help her through her terrible loss, NOT a whipping girl to take abuse for being alive and no other sin than that. I actually lost friends because I could not conceive and friends who could no longer wanted to be around me. They felt awkward. I did nothing to make them feel that way. They simply had some weird, inexplicable guilt for having kids when I couldn’t. So yes, I get that loss hurts like hell. I grieved deeply after my hysterectomy at age 30. I NEVER took it out on other people’s children.
@s4di.3
Жыл бұрын
I think she would have taken it out regardless of it being her kid or not.
@Univerzion
Жыл бұрын
@@s4di.3 I remember rslash covering an AITA story of a woman who had a toddler and her sister wanted nothing to do with him. Would tell her to leave the boy at home or not bring him to family events because the trauma of her losing a child was too great. So I could def see the sister do the same here
@Darthlucy1
Жыл бұрын
I don’t care if you are grieving, you DO NOT MISTREAT A KID!
@chubbyanimalenthusiast70
Жыл бұрын
Agreed
@cathylanders6377
Жыл бұрын
@@chubbyanimalenthusiast70 yeah😒
@SABRMatt2010
Жыл бұрын
I'm really tired of hearing when people have a trauma and the first thing they do is force everyone else to suffer with them. I have C-PTSD and have been through a lot. My reaction is to go out of my way to make sure I do NOT let my triggers harm other people, especially since what triggers me are things others did to me because they couldn't handle their own problems or didn't understand how to relate to me. So...that first story, like so many others involving a trauma victim lashing out at everyone else or trying to force everyone else around them to bend to their needs no matter how unreasonable they are, really upsets me.
@xNenaT25x
Жыл бұрын
The 5 year old is more than likely also a trauma victim. She is not in foster care for no reason and the fact that OP mentioned adoption her previous living situation must have been awful.
@survivedandthriving
Жыл бұрын
AGREED! I too have CPTSD and, like you, remove myself from the situation when I am feeling like I want to lash out. If, on rare occasions I slip up (and as a human, like almost all other humans, I do sometimes slip up) I apologize to the person that I harmed and work hard to never do it again. I belonged to an online support forum for people with CPTSD* and sometimes loved ones of people with this psychological injury write in. These loved ones note some of the abusive behaviours of the person with CPTSD and ask how the LOs can better accommodate it. Everyone on the board, all of us with CPTSD, respond that the LO should NOT accommodate the bad behaviours. Yes, the person with CPTSD has a reason for it, but NO that person still has no excuse for it. Everyone in the group agrees: having CPTSD doesn't excuse people from behaving badly toward others. We were never at fault for what was done to us to cause these psychological injuries, but we are responsible for our behaviours and our healing. As unfair as that situation is, it would be more unfair to 'pass it on' by abusing others in the process. *The group is Out of the Storm. I guess I am technically still a member but as I've moved forward with my healing, I visited the site less and less and admittedly haven't been on it in some time - that seems to be the pattern for people who use the site and it's OK because for the most part it means people are healing. It is a great support forum, with resources and information, support in sympathy ways and, only if you ask for it, input on 'what to do now', all by others who 'get it'. I recommend this group to anyone looking for this type of support.
@MisterNightfish
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: The moment the 31 year old was yelling at the 5 year old was the moment to kick the sister out. Yea, she has a rough time right now but she is the adult. She is cannot take her frustrations out on a child. Classic example of "hurt people hurt people".
@PassiveSmoking
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: OP's sister needs to stop wallowing in self-pity and get the hell over herself. I get that a miscarriage is a terrible thing, but that's absolutely no excuse to start bullying a child for daring to exist. It's already costing her her marriage, it might cost her the rest of her family if she doesn't learn to control herself. NTA
@Scarlett.Granger
Жыл бұрын
And like, a foster child. That poor kid has probably experienced more than her fair share of crap.
@wynautwarrior2161
Жыл бұрын
Huh. Weird to see you here. I didn't know you were an RSlash enjoyer too. Hope your day is going well.
@ohnosmoarlulcatz
Жыл бұрын
I had something in a bit of a reverse of the second story at the age of 10. The moment my brother went on to high school, I got saddled with ALL of the chores that he once did and I was not even allowed to break up the chores or set up the chore schedule on my own, which made it all the worse.
@Hunglikeagrimsmo
Жыл бұрын
So rslash didn't use the update to the second story. Op's sister started paying attention to their treatment and realized that op was telling the truth and asked the parents about the college fund and confirmed that she was the only one with a college fund and trust fund. The sister has since apologized to op and they're slowly working on things and she asked op to take her with her after demanding their parents treat them equally to no avail
@TeasyLove
Жыл бұрын
wow thank you for posting that -- that is an explosive update!
@Hunglikeagrimsmo
Жыл бұрын
@@TeasyLove no problem someone had to update
@PorciniOmelet
Жыл бұрын
As someone in the same position as op in the second story, kudo to you for letting your sister know what was going on. My sister was 24 before she realized that our mom treats me like crap while she gets babied.
@kimberlyparker9977
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: I hope before she leaves she tells her parents how horrible they are and explains exactly she's leaving and will never speak to them again. Tell them to go to the bad place.
@TJDious
Жыл бұрын
OP4: As soon as I heard that the SIL had moved out after a dispute over q baby name I knew it was a NTA situation. You DON'T move in with someone and make demands of any kind. F the SIL and F the husband.
@d.phantomfan1216
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: despite how mean this is going to sound, screw your sisters grief, she has absolutely no excuse for bullying a child that did nothing. Especially for every little thing, your daughter comes first no matter what's going on with your sister, and you would think of mother would understand you putting her first. I'm sorry for your sister's loss that really must be hard, but she is an adult cursing at a child for politely asking her to move, I'm sorry I cannot have sympathy for that.
@dancerchronicles
Жыл бұрын
@@brandon737 thank you, I thought the same thing but didn't want to sound like an asshole
@jeremiahsmith2037
Жыл бұрын
You want mean, how about this. The ex should be grateful she miscarried, cause now he doesn’t have to deal with a psycho for the next 18 years.
@mandylloyd
Жыл бұрын
A 5 year old foster child - if she was my sister, my strong anti violence values would likely have been forgotten. It disappoints me that their mother did not automatically tell her off too. I was really upset on behalf of the little girl & hope OP has reached a point where unconditional love will ensure if anything like thus happens again it is stopped as soon as OP Znotices it is happening.
@MuttonTheDragon
Жыл бұрын
Last story, how much do you want to bet the SiL's argument with her baby daddy isn't just about the name, but is also because she treats her SO like crap?
@MadameMeowth
Жыл бұрын
Story #4: OP's SIL is a jerk. You can control yourself while pregnant and get your own food. Pregnancy does not mean you get to act like a spoiled brat.
@affsteak3530
Жыл бұрын
I think I understand why SIL got kicked out after an argument over baby names. Seven months of this attitude would be hell.
@Twinklethefox9022
Жыл бұрын
Don't forget that for the last story, op is allergic to the food that the sil likes.
@s4di.3
Жыл бұрын
The 3rd story shocked me. I had missed the part where it was a 4 YEAR OLD she was treating like that. I assumed they were the same age
@seekeroftruth6728
Жыл бұрын
First story: It's probably a good thing that she didn't have a child. She would have been a terrible mother.
@ltlredhen4177
Жыл бұрын
OP is nicer than me. I would have earned A-holes cuz that exact thing crossed my mind and I probably would have said that to her for calling my child names!
@paulagoeringer9466
Жыл бұрын
@@ltlredhen4177 same.
@deadmonsterhead4507
Жыл бұрын
Seriously though if she's gonna act like that to a 5 year over something they weren't even apart of, then who knows how the sister would act as a mother.
@abiean222
Жыл бұрын
i was think the same thing throughout that story
@Univerzion
Жыл бұрын
Would've been one of those entitled parents. I'm like 99% sure she also would've shoved the fact her child is biological and May isn't.
@toddhanzlik1516
Жыл бұрын
Story 2.. "told to act my age." The best response to this statement is "I don't know how to act my age, I've never been this old before in my whole life."
@TetraSky
Жыл бұрын
Second story : NTA, your parents stole your childhood from you to take care of your sister in place of your parents. I wouldn't blame you if you cut them off as soon as you moved out.
@BethsMagicalLife
Жыл бұрын
1st story: I have had 3 miscarriages. At no point did I ever not want to see or be nasty to friends or families children. I really don’t get how people can be like that 😬 The things which happened due to my miscarriages and the miscarriages themselves did affect my mental health badly but I’d never be mean to a child like damn
@owl7072
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: If Op is a monster for not thinking about the feelings of an _adult_ and making her cry, then what does that make _Kate_ who didn't think about the feelings of a _5 year old_ and likely made _her_ cry? Story 3: She actively singled out the daughter by not making her anything. This wasn't an "Oops, didn't make enough" because she knew they were coming, this was deliberate. Story 4: This isn't even a "We want different things" problem, this is a "I literally can't have what she wants and what I _can_ have, she takes" problem. I'm starting to think "we had a fight over baby names" wasn't the only damn issue 😒
@TJDious
Жыл бұрын
OP1: "Kate's a great sister to me" No she isn't. Not if she's treating your child like that
@CelesteMinerva
Жыл бұрын
That last story left my mouth agape. I would kick both my husband and SIL out for that mess. Like seriously? The SIL doesn't like OP is going out of her way to be an AH and her husband is just chill with that. Like no way no one disrespects me like that in my own house.
@SkyEcho751
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA and it feels like the aunt would have been a bad parent with how She is currently acting. Story 2: OP didn't "Dump that on Sister" she finally built up to a point where she couldn't keep it all in. And now that OP is leaving, the family is 100% gonna break down, because OP is doing everything for home. So it's NTA Story 3: NTA, this is favoritism plain and simple, if the fiancé can't at least tell off his kid for being mean to a kid then he probably won't treat your kid very well. Story 4: I think the SIL isn't "Being mean intentionally" she just doesn't give a guano about OP or their feelings, though SIL is still an AH. As opposed to the Husband who is actively choosing to be a AH to OP. NTA.
@mitchverr9330
Жыл бұрын
Last story sounds like 1 of 2 scenarios is going on here. 1) SIL hates OP and is trying to cause them to split up so she has her brother back to help her or 2) Husband wants a split and the sister is helping him in this by making her the bad guy for "harassing and being mean to a pregnant woman, his sister of all people".
@calebcardinal3867
Жыл бұрын
Last story: I think rslash missed the point of the dinner op said that the sil convinced the husband to change the order and all get the same order. (It was a plan because she’s pregnant that she would get all the left overs or ask for certain things from all three orders like “ooo I love chicken can I just have your sisters?” ) And the husband being the brother worried about his pregnant sister and just gave his wife’s dinner to her. So they already paid for 3 meals. Op got home and realized what she did so she ordered food (another fast food order and delivery which costs a bit on top of the three meals they got again) , went for her shower AND THE SIL ATE HER FOOD AGAIN. She’s not eating for 2 she just ate 3 meals and op got none. That’s when the husband should’ve put his foot down but no he just suggested you eat from the fridge when you just paid for 4 meals and got none. That’s why op got so upset. It wasn’t about the pregnancy op did everything right she offered to get her, her own meal originally, then she got herself a meal when that plan changed because she didn’t want what the sil craved and then when that meal was eaten too it was the straw that broke the camels back, op was being so nice with a place to stay and getting whatever the sister wanted in the first place
@maluwritter5030
Жыл бұрын
No one seems to have noticed it, but the way the sister in the 1st story said "someone else's child" when referring to OP's kid just rubbed me the wrong way. She probably doesn't see her as OP's child at all and that's why she was so okay with being nasty.
@ezequielgarrido3984
Жыл бұрын
I can relate to the second story, I cook for my sister every day, clean the whole house, help my sis with schoolwork while juggling my own, I even take care of my sister's dog. My sister is not expected to do a god damn thing. I'm two years younger than my sister, I'm 15. I have an older brother that moved out one week before he was 18 because our parents would force him to spend money on my sister do all the chores and never have anything for himself. But when he moved out all of his responsibilities became my own ;( .
@auberginebear
Жыл бұрын
Story 4: NTA; it's pretty messed up the husband isn't standing up For OP, his wife, where his loyalty should be before the rest of his family.
@brandonvilleneuve4554
Жыл бұрын
Dont fall for this giveaway, its a scam
@adamdubin1276
Жыл бұрын
Fourth story: the Sister-in-law is jealous of the attention that her brother is giving to OP, that is literally the only thing I can think of, She wants to be the center of attention and sees her Brother's wife as a threat.
@TJDious
Жыл бұрын
OP2: Abusive parents. Period. To the favored daughter as well, they're not doing her and favors with this treatment.
@mushypig
Жыл бұрын
Do you know why I love listening to you rSlash... at the end of each story, you say what I'm shouting at my phone...
@WickedJesss
Жыл бұрын
I just don't like that he talks alot
@quietc0smos
Жыл бұрын
@@WickedJesss bruh thats the thing about this channel
@your_favorite_jackalope_ba1325
Жыл бұрын
@@WickedJesss reddit channels are about.... guys reading reddit posts.... what's he suppose to do? Not talk at all and just show text in a galaxy background?
@vzaaa6314
Жыл бұрын
@@WickedJesss That's literally his channel format. Read story, then say opinion or comment at the end.
@Celediev
Жыл бұрын
@@quietc0smos r/woosh
@shadowcatanya
Жыл бұрын
Last story: As someone who has a deadly allergy, OP's SIL legitimately infuriates me. Even just ignoring the fact that SIL only eats her favorite and stole OP's food. SIL is Actively endangering OP's life every day by demanding she be made something that OP is allergic to. OP, PLEASE get out of there. Your husband is ALLOWING your SIL to endanger your life, which is not only a d!ck move but is also accessary to Attempted Manslaughter. PLEASE GET OUT!!!! Divorce the husband, get far away from the SIL, and find someone who actually CARES about your well-being and your allergy. Husband and SIL both get 5/5 OP gets -5/5 OP, you did nothing wrong.
@thecroc
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I'm pretty sure the sisters divorce wasn't over the miscarriage but rather that the sister unloaded all her grief and rage on her husband, blaming him for everything.
@lilithr254
Жыл бұрын
The sister in law pointlessly convincing her brother not to cook for his wife and then eating her order heavily makes me think that she's actively trying to break up their marriage. She's probably bitter that her relationship isn't working out and doesnt want anyone else to have one
@timewithjackson3975
Жыл бұрын
7:09, I had a dynamic like this, my mom directed all her anger at my sister and made her do everything under the roof and I was just the youngest kid who can do no wrong. This kind of relationship hurts your entire world view imo, luckily my sister and I are currently getting closer and we aren't so critical of each other like we used to
@auberginebear
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: NTA; this dynamic is almost the same that I was forced into with my younger cousin, but without the parentification. My cousin now regrets how the adults cultivated our relationship, but I also never blamed her when she didn't understand what the adults were doing.
@maxsupernova
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I'm going to quote another of my favorite KZitemrs, Dr. Ramani: We all have our demons to manage. It's just that most of us manage our demons without becoming one. NTA, OP.
@trout512
Жыл бұрын
Story 1, I think there might be a jealousy aspect to the sister's behavior. You have a child that you love and are thinking of adopting, and she has nothing, not even her husband. Revolting to take those feelings out on a child though, rather than work through them in a healthy way.
@jepageth
Жыл бұрын
With that last story all I can hear in my head was Sweet Home Alabama
@peachberry9774
Жыл бұрын
Maybe it's because i always had a younger sibling, but when my Dad remarried and I got a stepsister half my age, I didn't feel the need to be resentful towards her. Like yeah, She gets to have my Dad for the rest of her childhood the way he was never there for me. She's not biologically his, but she is his second chance at raising a daughter after he pretty much abandoned me and my brother until I was 16. I'm hurt, of course, and extremely jealous that she gets to have this family I never got but she's 11. She's a child. It's not her fault my Dad needed time to get his shit together. Punishing a child for your negative feelings towards family is stupid and childish and just plain mean.
@Lone77Wolf
Жыл бұрын
It just shows that you had/have a great head on your shoulders
@chubbyanimalenthusiast70
Жыл бұрын
*first story* 0:50 nuff said *second story* ahh yes favoritism also known as having one child on a pedestal where they don’t realize how great of a position they’re in while the other child is said to be less then the worst child and in this case dirt *third story* I personally feel like you shouldn’t give gifts to someone who is being hateful and spiteful TO A FOUR YEAR OLD this isn’t teenage hormones this is not liking someone for existing *forth story* you can only you that excuse if you’re a freaking black hole that just sucks crap in with no thoughts
@Joetino
Жыл бұрын
Then again, this is a 16 year old and a 4 year old. Don’t think they’re gonna be all buddy-buddy when they first meet. Also, they’re step siblings. That relationship never goes well. And it’s just ONE cupcake. Petty, but not cruel.
@chubbyanimalenthusiast70
Жыл бұрын
@@Joetino I need you to relisten to the video but imagine yourself as the four year old
@sourisvoleur4854
Жыл бұрын
@@Joetino Something that's petty if you do it to a 20 year old is cruel if you do it to a 4 year old. "You don't get one because I don't like you" is devastating to a 4 year old.
@Joetino
Жыл бұрын
@@sourisvoleur4854 They could make her another cupcake after the party!
@kylajensen1957
Жыл бұрын
@@Joetino to four year olds, everything bad feels like the end of the world. I understand the teen not being happy about her father’s marriage, but deliberately excluding OP's toddler daughter is not only unbelievably petty, but also just being a bully. Op's daughter is four - mother freaking four. She can't understand why she was left out of getting a cupcake, any "reason" would go right over her head at that age, and she's in no position to protest it herself. 16 yo, you have an issue with OP? Take it up w/ OP, not her child who can't fight back.
@Rj-ij6ko
Жыл бұрын
Last Story: I just..cant believe this… like you don’t accidentally do this to someone… you don’t convince your brother (who you are living with rent free) to not cook his wife (who’s working all day) dinner, then eat her dinner that she ordered…you don’t do that on accident… SIL is being an a**hole deliberately… and spineless husband is allowing it NTA Op, not hard to see why SIL’s husband kicked her out, ditch them both imo
@missmarley5541
Жыл бұрын
Damn the second story hit close to home for me. I moved out of state because I had a similar issue with my mom and brother, I only go to visit now during Christmas mainly to see my grandparents
@DarkEinherjar
Жыл бұрын
Last story: OP didn't do enough. She should've kicked out the husband too.
@aquamarynqa
Жыл бұрын
In the first story the sister who miscarried seems to be in need of professional help. Crying for hours, mood swings, not being able to control herself -- it does not necessarily mean she is a bad person (she is horrible to the child and shouldn't be living with her), but that she needs help. Professional help.
@tully6648
Жыл бұрын
Last story: I get the feeling that SIL ran to OP's husband because her own husband wouldn't spoil her like she wanted, but her brother would. And he did! Unless there was some kind of huge sensitivity to the smells of their usual cooking that OP didn't mention, SIL had absolutely no non-butthole reason to convince her brother not to cook a second meal for his own wife. OP's husband needs to apologize, man up, and tell his sister to go home and mend things with her husband.
@dimsufferer9951
Жыл бұрын
From what I can tell, the argument that lead to SIL moving out of her own house was… they couldn’t agree on a baby name? That seems fishy to me
@MiraTheWarlock
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I already have an ill relationship with my sister, but I can manage her sometimes ....If she ever spoke to a foster kid of mine..or just a random kid I was babysitting for 10 minutes like that, I don't care if shes had 15 miscarriages, that's the last conversation we ever have Story 2: Don't pester people for the truth if you can't handle it. OP was actually a lot nicer than most would be. Most would let the sibling know they'd be happier if she was never born. Sister might be in for a rude awakening, because in certain cases, the golden child's status is only secure as long as the scapegoat's present. Story 3: Congrats OP, you've just got a brand new ex. Seriously it's not about a stupid cupcake, it's about how she's a brat bullying a child. Did she seriously think she'd get to keep the iphone OP got after that stunt? Story 4: NEVER TOUCH SOMEONE ELSES FOOD. I could forgive snatching a fry or two, but you have the audacity to eat MY ENTIRE ORDER, that I only have to eat because YOU eat stuff I can't eat and convince my husband not cook anything for me, so you can have company.....You gots to go. If hubby's so concerned he can join her
@asterross
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA. OP's sister is allowed to be upset and grieve in her own way, but that doesn't give her the right to bully May like that. I understand that she lost her baby, and that can be hard to bare. But she is taking it out on someone who didn't do anything wrong. I think she needs to seek therapy to work through her grief.
@peachrenard2320
Жыл бұрын
I have an irritable way of grieving and can't understand why she thought staying with someone who lives with a child was a good idea.
@thenarrator9204
Жыл бұрын
The appropriate levels of indignation are a delight to my ears every time. Thank you RSlash!
@aqilshadow5451
Жыл бұрын
2nd Story, Rslash is being too kind to the parents on here. They should have atleast gotten 4.5/5
@celestiafanforever
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: NTA, doesn't matter if May is a foster kid or not, while in OP's home she IS her kid, it's not just OP's home but May's as well, OP's sister however lost out on any chance of being an Aunt to May if OP does in the end adopts May cause after this there will be no chance that OP will allow her sister anywhere near May.
@verdtre4573
Жыл бұрын
#1: Additionally to what Rslash said, if she hates living there so much, why would she even want to stay there? Seems to me like getting seperate living arrangements is better for literally everyone involved.
@leviathan8215
Жыл бұрын
You can tell someone hasn’t dealt with trauma or grief before when they absolutely can’t handle it and start bullying children. No matter how hard your life, you don’t get to take it out and the vulnerable people around you. I hope op tells any adoption agencies about her behavior and she can’t adopt, she’s clearly not worthy
@ElecticalCheetah
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: yeah its a golden child scenario, the parents didn’t want to parent so they forced op to do it and just bought ops sister affection with presents and trips and basically told op the feck off and act like a adult, hopefully ops sister will get it in her head that the parents were awful people and deserve to be left alone
@savagebear4374
Жыл бұрын
First story:I'm sorry that OPs sister is grieving, but OP loves her daughter and Sister has to.go if it's an issue.
@InitialDraal
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I can understand that lashing out once or twice can eventually happen. But then you own up to your mistake you don't victimize yourself. She's not grieving she's using her own daughter's death to get pity points imo.
@irishuisman1450
Жыл бұрын
I'm also from a family where I'm one of two sisters with a similar age gap to the OP in the second story. I'm the little sister though. I don't blame OP in the slightest for wanting to run away. The most my parents ever asked my sister to help with when it came to taking care of me was something along the lines of 'hey can you keep your sister entertained for two minutes while I quickly run to the bathroom?' As a result, my sister and I have a great relationship, and I love her to pieces. The most we ever really fought over when we were younger was over really small stuff like who got to hold the tv remote and who got to sit on the 'nice spot' on the couch. Our parents always made sure to treat the two of us fairly, and as a result the only resentment I ever had towards my sister was over the fact that she'd be allowed to do things that I wasn't allowed to do yet. That resentment disappeared pretty quickly once I was old enough to realize that our parents only treated me a little differently because I was 3 years younger, so of course my sister would be allowed to do things like walk to and from school alone before I was. All this to say that OP's parents are lazy pieces of shit who need to start treating their daughter like what she is: a child. Not a maid, not a third parent, not a free babysitter. By forcing their eldest to take care of their youngest, they're only creating resentment. The best way to get siblings to like eachother is to encourage them to interact and play together, but not force it. If one sibling isn't feeling it, then don't force the interaction. Let the kids get used to eachother at their own pace and treat both fairly, and you'll already be doing a lot better than OP's parents.
@chubbyanimalenthusiast70
Жыл бұрын
I feel like everyone should be aware that *actions have consequences* by the age of ten
@chickennuggets8685
Жыл бұрын
age of eight and a half
@sassyghost_8
Жыл бұрын
Story 3: Yeah, absolutely NTA. What 16 year old excludes and bullies a 5 year old? At 16 you should be able to recognize exactly how much of a baby 5 still is. I could see the potential sibling rivalry if they were closer in age but they’re not! I can’t imagine being so self-absorbed, spoiled, and bitter as to be mean to a 5 year old.
@Lone77Wolf
Жыл бұрын
It's a symbolic gesture, I have a feeling it has to do with unresolved issues with Husband and OP marriage like what happened to her mom
@sassyghost_8
Жыл бұрын
@@Lone77Wolf Most likely. I just can’t imagine doing something so cruel to a little tot like that.
@vixenv2520
Жыл бұрын
I hate to be cruel but TBH anyone who's willing to treat an actual child with that much outward vitriol and abuse, under ANY circumstances, shouldn't be a parent anyway. NTA.
@ДмитрийГусарев-ж8ъ
Жыл бұрын
Second story: NTA Two words - CLEAR. PARENTIFICATION. It is never an okay thing to do to your child.
@chubbyanimalenthusiast70
Жыл бұрын
Ohh no I lost my dog I guess I can punt the next pug I see over a house
@Wondrous.Wizard
Жыл бұрын
Makes sense.
@franl155
Жыл бұрын
I love it when he gets indignant when reading stories; in all cases, it's entirely justified.
@brandonvilleneuve4554
Жыл бұрын
Dont fall for this giveaway, its a scam
@franl155
Жыл бұрын
@@brandonvilleneuve4554 - I've had about 20 of them attached to various comments, as if that wasn't warning enough!
@gudkush420
Жыл бұрын
The sister needs therapy. Her bullying, an innocent child, is probably a sign that she isn't cut out for motherhood if that's how she treats children in times of crisis. If your response to the loss of a pregnancy is to abuse a child, you're not fit to be a parent at all.
@heatherroth9128
Жыл бұрын
"Monster" is a loose term used for the sister. When it comes to defending my child, I will become the biggest, scariest, most terrifying "Monster" you require me to be.
@Hinatachan360
Жыл бұрын
I've had miscarriages too, but I never, ever took it out on my nieces and nephews. I love those little rascals. 💕💕
@kathrynesq8814
Жыл бұрын
I think it was left out of this reading that the 16-year-old said she didn't make a cupcake for the 4-year-old but she gave MULTIPLE cupcakes to her bf and maybe other friends as well.
@juanhaines7295
Жыл бұрын
Story 2 nta golden children never see the suffering of their suffering.
@glyncolman8901
Жыл бұрын
You told her the truth, and the truth hurts. Get her to think about it.
@headraline
Жыл бұрын
Last story the SIL and husband could be knocking boots. He defended her too staunchly and gives into her every whim.
@BulletTooth504
Жыл бұрын
Story 4: Now I want to know about story of the major argument about the baby's name. As ridiculous as the SIL was in the main story, you know it's gonna be a doozy.
@sayadiva123
Жыл бұрын
Story 2 practically makes me happy I don’t have siblings. If I grew up in this kind of toxic dynamic I’d have snapped long ago…and sadly probably hit my sibling. I’d say this story needs an update because I hope op has finally gotten her freedom
@DarkDreamsAndMoonlitNights
Жыл бұрын
I don't know about anyone else but here are my thoughts: Anyone who takes in a foster child and provides them with a loving, safe home is a hero.
@toothless3835
Жыл бұрын
story 2 sounds like what my parents tried to do to me and my sister for my younger brothers, but I'm 10 years apart from my brother and 11 from the youngest. I'm a stubborn ahole and when they tried this shit with me, I told them no. I'm an introvert and didn't care if I got grounded or punished. I'd sit in my room and do homework, as I got older I just stayed at the shcool until last peirod which was about 5ish even though my last period was about 4ish [we had an odd schedule periods 1-5 were for Junior to Senior and 2-6 was for freshman sophomore with 75 minute classes on an A/B schedule.] This meant I usually didn't get home until 6 when they were also home so I would tell my brothers to go to their parents if they asked me for anything. My younger sister is 4 years younger than me and ended up doing a lot of the work, even though I tried to tell her not to bother. We didn't have kids, mom and dad should be the ones watching them. But she actually had a social life and liked to be out with people where I was perfectly fine being stuck in the house with some books. I could've helped her, but I did my chores and refused to add babysitting without being paid. I do feel bad for you my sister, but I was not going to raise kids I didn't have which I told my parents over and over again. I wasn't a maid or a parent. with all of the responsibility, none of the authority, and the one to get in trouble, I was just not going to do it. I think they stopped when I told them "then you shouldn't have had them if you don't want to take care of them." Now as adults, we all get along, but while I was still in high school, I wanted nothing to do with my younger brothers because of my parents and their favoritism.
@2ctheocean
Жыл бұрын
Story 2- This is commonplace phenomenon known as the eldest daughter effect where the oldest girl is expected to behave older than she is for the benifit of the younger children. They're taught that they exsist solely for their younger siblings. I was a nanny for several years and witnessed this first hand, where Mom and Dad would favor their precious baby and expect the older one to just understand why she was expected to dote on her. I'd go out of my way to seperate them to make it clear to the younger child that the older was her own person who didn't HAVE to play with her all the time. Parents think forcing the children to play together makes them close when it actually ends with them resenting eachother.
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