As a woman with autism myself, this story makes me angry. I hate when we are mistreated because of our disability, but it makes me just as furious when parents choose to spoil their autistic child ‘because autism’. I pity the younger brother because his parents have set him up for failure in life
@_rawr_XD
Жыл бұрын
im autistic too!! and I totally agree with you
@emilypodrazka8214
Жыл бұрын
I'm autistic, too! I completely agree with you!
@Back_and_Better_Than_You
9 ай бұрын
He’ll never be able to hold down a job or live on his own, thanks to his parents.
@Headcase-nj3md
9 ай бұрын
Also autistic here - also a trans man so not exactly a woman but same this story pissed me off autism isn’t an excuse to be a brat , there’s differences between being overstimulated and stressed out cause of it and just being a shit to get what they want - that kids mega screwed and likely will hurt more people with that entitlement
@SkycometAnimeVamp
8 ай бұрын
Same.
@juliaarango8363
Жыл бұрын
I feel sorry for the autistic little boy because his parents are setting him up for a life of failure. Maybe even criminal activity. The parents might tolerate his behavior, but the world won't.
@jupitersnoot4915
9 ай бұрын
Exactly. The legal system doesn't care if your sweet angel is autistic or not. Assault is still assault. Property damage is still property damage. Theft is still theft. Etc etc. Society and people are not going to just tolerate a person's behaviour because they have a learning disability and were raised by incompetent lazy idiots
@AmberKelly82
2 жыл бұрын
That kid is going to be a nightmare for his parents for the rest of their lives and I have zero empathy for them.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Same 😂 they made him this way and im happy they have to deal with him lol
@AmberKelly82
2 жыл бұрын
@@ChildfreeKimberly better them than me 😂
@gardnerhill9073
Жыл бұрын
Roald Dahl had Wonka's squirrels throw Veruca Salt's parents down the garbage chute as well as her spoilt self, because as the Oompa-Loompas sang, "A child can't spoil *herself,* you know!"
@mezziriggs3873
Жыл бұрын
As an autistic adult, this is precisely what is wrong with infantilising autistic people, some parents ("autism moms" are the worst!) just assume their kids are incapable of doing or learning things that they are totally capable of just because their brain is a bit different! It's up to the parents to learn the difference between a tantrum and an autistic meltdown and find suitable neurodivergent-friendly ways of teaching their kids acceptable behaviour, autism isn't an excuse to be a bratty kid or an unaccountable adult!
@aliviamcdaniels7414
Жыл бұрын
As an autistic woman, I have wondered about neuro-divergent friendly ways to teach kids right or wrong without resorting to things like spanking or something like that.
@jessjenkins5474
2 жыл бұрын
Those kids are going to grow up and end up in prison. I can imagine their parents calling them saying "it's okay, honey, I believe you're innocent and those drugs were planted on you" 😅
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂 right?! That poor kid needs to learn some accountability ASAP
@iononcantomascrivo
Жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness. I know you post this in jest, but I knew a lady just like this. Let's call her Molly. Her son is now an overgrown man child, with zero accountability, no skills, no ambitions and totally expects the world to bend over backwards for him because he's owed it. In other words he's just like his mother. I warned Molly this was going to happen and it did. According to a mutual friend (that I was able to wake up to what a toxic waste of space Molly is and he also went no contact), that Molly would post cryptic statuses looking for sympathy when she would comment or turn everything that happened into a story about herself ie “what went wrong” with my life or “I guess I'm meant to be miserable.” I have to chuckle, because she made her bed and now she has to lay in it. I'll tell you what went wrong: she was a terrible wife, a terrible mother and an even more terrible excuse for a human being. She did all of this to herself and now she has next to no contact with either of her kids or her grandchildren.
@gardnerhill9073
Жыл бұрын
At my condo pool I watched a 7-year-old boy chase an older girl and try to rip her shirt off, and his mom and grandma only *laughed.* "Boys will be boys. What can you do?" I snapped, "You could try *punishing* him when he does something *wrong*." And Gram immediately wheeled up to me and started chewing me out. (I was sooo tempted to push that b's wheelchair into the pool...) I'm very sure both these terrible women will be in the front row at Junior's first r*pe trial bawling that Preshuss is innocent and it's all that girl's fault.
@user-fl1hd1zr1d
Жыл бұрын
This is why people say they hate kids. Honestly I see more disrespectful kids than respectful ones. I don’t associate with people who have kids and I don’t associate with kids who aren’t related to me by blood.
@norapodlasky8278
2 жыл бұрын
These people are not parents.. they breeders.
@amberjasmine2347
7 ай бұрын
That part.
@tiffanybutrum299
Жыл бұрын
Years and years ago we had neighbors that had two young children, let's call the 5 year old girl Shit and the 7 year old boy Shat. When they came over for a bbq, Shat ran around our small pond that was fully surrounded by flower beds and started trampling the flowers. My father told him he was not allowed to walk around the pond. Shat started crying saying there was a path to walk on so obviously he was allowed to walk there. My father said "no, that's the access to the water pump, get out" Shat ran to his mom, Original Turd, and she said "I know honey, you're right, there's a path to walk there." My father was fuming. Later on Shit wanted to see my room so I walked up there with Shit and Original Turd and I told Shit that I had a lot of fragile things and that she shouldn't touch anything. The first thing Shit did was grab a ceramic oil lamp and spill oil all over herself and my carpet. Original Turd ran into my bathroom with Shit to clean her up (getting oil all over my towels in the process) and said "Let's go back downstairs, Shit, I don't know why she keeps her room like a museum, you should be able to explore" Needless to say, they were not invited back.
@ChildfreeKimberly
Жыл бұрын
Shit & shat sound awful 😂 but the names had me cackling
@Spenceco1
8 ай бұрын
When my oldest niece was young, she used to have a hard time when her younger sisters got presents at Christmas she thought were "better" than her presents. I remember once she ran out of the room and kicked their dog on the way out. Parents didn't react at all. I yelled after her, waiting for them to pick up the discipline baton... nothing. I was so shocked. Luckily, she's grown out of that bullshit.
@vanissaberg5824
2 жыл бұрын
I have a brother who is non verbal autistic, but the poor kid got treated like crap all the time by my dad because he wasn't "normal". They beat him almost every day and screamed at him, and sprayed him with the garden hoes outside because he wasn't learning to use the toilet until after he was 4 (most autistic children to have development delays). Not his fault at all because of the severity of his autism. They also cancelled his birthday because of it which made him hide in his room and cry. He's a sweet kid and only really has a meltdown when his favorite plushie monster toy gets lost until we find it again or when he gets too overwhelmed and needs to be calmed down. Now I'm afraid he's suffering from depression because his little brother is a total ass hat and treats him like crap all the time. He's been found trying to run away more crying a lot. His mom is hell bent on "curing" him with all these extreme diets and therapies that are only making it worse. I feel so bad for him because my family is freaking nuts.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Your poor brother 💔
@vanissaberg5824
2 жыл бұрын
@@ChildfreeKimberly his favorite color is green and he loves fish. So my little sister asked me when I come out to visit to take him to the pet store and get him a green fish and fishtank for his birthday. I bet he'd love those fancy glo fish and I can help him set it up and some plants and a snail so he can have something to enjoy his brother can't take from him. One of my sisters did give him her old tablet, but his butt headed little brother stole it from him and never let's him play with it. His mom doesn't even care.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
I don't understand how parents can allow that kind of stuff to happen and not care 🤦♀️
@priskruger314
Жыл бұрын
Hopefully every now and then you'll be able to have some hours out together and maybe he can stay over and have a bit of a spot at your place. Depends on the distance but he is lucky to have you.
@Kay-kg6ny
8 ай бұрын
Please call CPS. He shouldn't live with those people
@bougiepeaches5497
2 жыл бұрын
I have a younger cousin that is 8 and he's autistic and I've resented him because every time he gets in trouble, most of the times, my mom and my aunt (that's her son) defend him talking about that he's a baby, and that angers me. that's why I don't like kids because of the defense they always make for kid's behavior instead of teaching them what's right and what's wrong.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
So true. 8 years old is NOT a baby 🤣
@jupitersnoot4915
2 жыл бұрын
Sorry but even for an autistic child who has severe autism, 8 is more than old enough to know how to behave.
@samantharcregan23
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that you have to go through that and 8 is a child not a baby but they are just disabling him further by enabling his behaviour
@christins.1481
Жыл бұрын
@@samantharcregan23 True. I've personally worked with nonverbal autistic, one who was violent. It boils down to how they're raised. Now there isn't a one size fits all manual for autistic, each has their own language, but once you find that individual's language they can be taught in their own way. I worked with a 26-year-old autistic woman who had the mind of a 12-year-old but she was very independent, still lives with her parents, but her parents always taught her she can think for herself and make good decisions. She started crying once cause she did something wrong at work but she held in her sniffles, said she was a big girl and wanted to go back to work.
@almamater489
Жыл бұрын
Christ... there parents really _hate_ their own older son
@mosaicowlstudios
Жыл бұрын
The easiest way to survive a kid's birthday party is to mysteriously come down with an "illness" that prevents you from going in the first place
@wandat7275
2 жыл бұрын
A couple years ago there was a story about this 30 something year old man who still lived at home, I believe didn’t have a job and he was suing his parents because they were kicking him out for still living at home and not contributing to the household. I have a feeling this will be this kid in 20 years.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
🤣 I can totally see that
@just.R.A.
Жыл бұрын
The guy in New York? I think he even had a kid himself! But refused to work or move out. His poor parents should have put their foot down decades ago. #1 job of a parent is to raise a functioning member of society.
@sarahpace5376
Жыл бұрын
I am high functioning autistic and my parents, for all their faults, would have NEVER allowed me to act like this at other kid's birthday parties. I won't say I wasn't spoiled with toys and other stuff, but my parents didn't use my differences (we didn't even know about autism until I was in middle school, but my parents knew something was up from the time I was a baby) to justify tantrums, which are VERY different from autistic meltdowns. Autistic kids are just as capable of being brats as any other kids. The parents in these stories were either spoiled brats themselves growing up or they were narcissists, who often have a golden child and black sheep dynamic when it comes to parenting. I lean more towards the narcissist explanation because it shouldn't have to take extended family, other parents and school staff calling out your behavior to treat your older child with common decency and discipline your younger child who is ruining birthday parties for everyone. Like that level of lack of self awareness can only be explained by either by mental illness or flat out evil. I'm glad the OP got out of there as soon as he could and I have zero sympathy for the abusive monsters masquerading as parents now having to deal with the monster they created. I mourn for the decent childhood both brothers could've had if not for the enabling and favoritism. As it stands, I wouldn't be surprised if OP one day gets a call or sees it on the news that little brother decided to escalate and is being arrested for murdering their parents or perhaps other people who wouldn't let him get his way. I hope that doesn't happen, but unless little bro gets some therapy and a reality check, this is all going to end in tears.
@mosaicowlstudios
Жыл бұрын
The brother acted out BECAUSE of the parents response. The attention of disrupting the entire party, creating a scene, and prompting the outlandish response from his parents was reinforcing. The family/parents think these circumstances are disasters--they are reinforcing for the child. Child acts up, parents give immediate attention and the entire attention of the party is shifted to the child. As adults, we usually don't like that kind of attention (it's embarrassing and unwanted for most people). As a child, the tantrum was successful, they received the reinforcement they were aiming for.
@tinak3669
2 жыл бұрын
I'm pretty sure my own personal version of hell is a small child's birthday party 🤣
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣 I mean, same
@MsStrangeEmilie
Жыл бұрын
I have serious thought about being child free, because I was forced to take care of my older sister's (by 14 years) children. My sister is entitled brat to my time and money. Never once does she say, "Hey, let me pay you back, and thank you for doing this for my children." Nope. I have gone little to no contact with her. For me it was about the lack of respect, the money, and consideration of my own feelings. She never did have respect for me, but if I told her something I was told, "Stay out of my parenting style." With other drabble. Honestly. I am healthier with out children and rather care for my elderly parents.
@jupitersnoot4915
9 ай бұрын
I have a close family friend whose son is autistic. He's in his mid 30's now, but is still very immature. Mentally, he's closer to a 15 or 16 year old boy. His mother was incredibly strict on him growing up, to the point where she would yell at him if he even so much as got "too excited". But that's because she HAD to be that way. He was completely out of control when he was young, pouring drinks over people, cutting their hair off, etc. She had to be like a military sargeant just to make sure he would grow up knowing how he was expected to behave. Even now, in his 30's with a job and semi-independence, she still has to control most of his life for him because he cannot do it himself. (Example, she has to book his days off at work for him because he just doesn't do it. He would work every single day without breaks if nobody stopped him. He also has a habit of just lending large sums of money out to people and never asking for it back) Although I sometimes believe she is TOO strict on him (i mean, come on. You can't yell at him for laughing at a joke "too much"), she has ultimately raised a polite, happy man who knows the correct way to behave. Autistic people are not incapable of learning. They still have to be disciplined, arguably more so than other children.
@KateeAngel
2 жыл бұрын
And some people say that the only children are the ones which are spoiled! There are so many stories when the younger sibling is spoiled like crazy! And favouritism can f the kids up! I will never take seriously anyone who say having multiple kids is better for them, than having one child.
@danielladavis8705
Жыл бұрын
My 6 year old niece is nowhere near this spoiled. However, she is generally spoiled and allowed to be loud late at night rather than put to bed. Children shouldn't drive the energy and conversation in thr room. They shouldn't be catered to.
@PuppyPawsGamingYT
2 жыл бұрын
not sibling but my nieces and nephew came over once for christmas when i was younger. they were SPOILED to the point that after they opened thier 20 gifts each they were all 'thats it? ' they had more expensive gifts waiting at thier house. i got 1 present that year, a dollar store hairbrush and iw as grateful.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
😬😬😬😬 I would smack anyone who uttered "that's it". My gosh NO
@francescamamlin450
2 жыл бұрын
This isn't my main reason for not wanting kids, but after experiencing being the oldest child, I would never want to condemn someone else to the same fate. Even with really good parents, being the oldest child is lonely and you are forced to grow up a little faster than your siblings and you make sacrifices that your siblings never have to make. I feel for this person in the video. I never had experiences as extreme as his, but I was able to relate. Watch any episode of Supernanny, and you will see the oldest child taking on the brunt of the family's dysfunction. Also your dog was so cute I was squealing :)
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Yes! I'm forever grateful to be an only child 🤣
@andlaurawaslike
2 жыл бұрын
try being an only child. then talk to me about taking the brunt of family dysfunction and loneliness.
@mariep.2004
Жыл бұрын
@@andlaurawaslike And? Dysfunctional is dysfunctional. Only child or not, the person who takes the brunt of the chaos will suffer as a result. Your struggles aren't inherently "worse" just because you didn't have siblings.
@Theonlygracius
Жыл бұрын
I felt this post. As another oldest child, I understand this all too well.
@Maclyn88
Жыл бұрын
I'm the oldest and absolutely agree! My younger siblings (1 sister, 1 brother) always got extremely coddled while I pretty much had to fend for myself from a young age. I enlisted in the Army at 18, became a Paratrooper in the 82nd, put myself through college and received a business finance degree with honors, but they still worship my youngest siblings while they act underwhelmed about everything I've accomplished. It's extremely disheartening. Especially my Mom with my brother, the baby, she's like obsessed with him, and acts like I'm some disappointment even though I've accomplished a good amount of things entirely by myself. I've been estranged from them for years now, and while I think about them and wish things were different Idk how to be around people that only make me feel bad when others around me are like Wow! You jumped outta planes with infantry units, have a business finance degree, and a good job....good for you! And I'm like yea, I just wish my parents could recognize that. My siblings always seemed so have more self esteem because my parents are always gloating over the entirely normal things that they would do. I'm never having kids. My parents had me for selfish reasons and it's difficult to not be resentful.
@kgs2280
Жыл бұрын
That’s a good reason I’m glad I’m a Boomer. When I was younger, nobody allowed a kid to act like that, or get away with a tenth of what kids feel entitled to get away with nowadays. It’s also just one more reason why I’m glad I never had children!
@entitymari3329
2 жыл бұрын
I remember reading a story where a mom and her daughter went to another kid's birthday party. It'd been the daughter's birthday like a week before but her gift hadn't come yet so the mom decided it'd be a 'nice' idea to give her kid her gift AT THE OTHER GIRL'S PARTY??? So obviously the other girl was upset and the orginal mother didn't know why and was like "I don't see the big deal, your daughter has more gifts" or something like that (hope the way I explained this made sense)
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
That's crazy 🤦♀️ as if the girl couldn't have opened it at home!
@d.a.4153
2 жыл бұрын
These stories were insane! I feel bad for OP too and glad he's moved out of that situation. The brother is also a victim cuz now he's just a criminal waiting to happen thanks to his parents coddling. Glad his parents are miserable, you reap what you sow. I will say his aunt is awesome for being an actual parental figure even tho it's not her job.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, thank goodness for the aunt!
@Jae-by3hf
8 ай бұрын
Seeing Winnie was the best! Her brother throwed a little bit of a tantrum! lol! As someone who is autistic, his behaviour is bad! His parents are cruel and unkind to their older son (who is the family scapegoat) and coddle their demon child! Some parents love the fact that their child has a disability, because they use it as a way to fulfil their needs of attention and special treatment!
@VanessaMarieBooks
Жыл бұрын
My younger brother is autistic but he would have never ever acted like that, and my parents definitely would NOT have allowed it. Even though my parents had two kids with disabilities (I have a physical disability and use a wheelchair), they definitely did not spoil us and had no problems to "discipline" us when we got in trouble. I'm not advocating for my parents method of "discipline," there are better ways, but just because a child has a disability does not give them license to act however they want. You still got to be a parent and provide structure. Feel sorry for that poster and people like him who have really crappy parents. I've always said, becoming a parent should require licensure and ongoing education. Just because you can pop out a kid doesn't make you fit to be a parent, that's why we have so many abusive parents. Parenting should be licensed and regulated. And the thing is, you have to become licensed and take ongoing education classes to be a foster parent, so I don't know why they can't/won't do the same for bio parents.
@swatisaini6447
Жыл бұрын
💯💯💯💯 also the training will help people realise if they are actually ready to take on such a huge challenge
@hannahstarinieri1351
Жыл бұрын
I think that the aunt in the story is childfree. She definitely was the best.
@pigeoness22
2 ай бұрын
This kid is going to be even more violent one day. Like, he is headed to prison. Poor brother. Winnie is so cute, happy birthday !
@Wende669
2 жыл бұрын
Well they have indeed created a monster. Sad story. Thanks for bringing this up👍
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Hopefully he'll get help and not be like this goes whole life 🤞
@iononcantomascrivo
Жыл бұрын
@@ChildfreeKimberly We can hope, but entitled parents usually end up giving up completely. I knew a lady like this. Let's call her Molly. She never wanted kids. She just wanted a man to take care of her so she could have license to sit on her butt without a job and be a kept woman. She got pregnant twice by two different men and forced them to marry her out of obligation. Hubby number two is the father of her youngest child. Let's call him Matt. He's an absolute nightmare. Matt’s behavior was already atrocious when I met him at age four. He had absolutely no respect for boundaries, zero comprehension that the word no is a complete sentence and no expectation whatsoever of there being reprisals or consequences for his atrocious behavior. From what I understand (I cut contact with Molly when he was probably 13), he is now a 22-year-old overgrown man-child with no life skills, no ambition or goals who expects the entire world to cater to him. In other words, he grew up to be just like his mother. The way I heard it, from a mutual friend (who I was fortunately able to wake him up to what a toxic waste of space Molly and he has also since gone no contact), that Molly repeatedly would post cryptic statuses wondering “what went wrong” with her life. What went wrong? It's called you were a crappy wife, a crappier mother and an even crappier excuse for human being. You made your bed, Molly. Now you have to lay in it.
@Xiporah
2 жыл бұрын
My grandparents gave my cousin a NES at my 10th birthday party. I got one from them too, but they wanted to give one to my cousin as well so "she wouldn't be upset." Except my cousin didn't care, she wasn't into video games like I was. So we both opened our Nintendos and the party continued. I am thankful that in general, she wasn't the kind of person who demanded to be the center of attention, but my grandparents were certainly smitten with her. I didn't mind at the time, but my mom ripped into them for giving my cousin a gift at my party.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Good for your mom! That was so uncalled for!
@eugeniamorales5269
2 жыл бұрын
The worst thing is that there's people out there behaving like this, even if they are 100% healthy and "normal". But by the way, your pups are just beautiful and lovely :)
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊
@amyyaku5022
3 ай бұрын
There are more stories about OP and his family. It's too much to cover here, but the brother realized how much of a spoiled brat he's become and OP is playing a huge role in that while also just spending quality time with him when possible. It takes a while for the parents to acknowledge t their awful parenting, but they slowly come around. Also more props to the aunt. There was a story about his brother trashing OP's room and stealing his money. The parents did nothing until the aunt intervened, only for the cycle to repeat. It took the aunt putting OP's money in a safe at her house to get the brother to finally stop.
@marlyd
2 жыл бұрын
When I was a kid, and in Europe, no adults ever attended any bday parties. I'm still weirded out it's normal for kids' parties to include a bunch of parents. The great thing about bday parties was that parents got to leave their kids behind for 3 hours and do sth else.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
I can only imagine how this particular party would have gonna had this kid been there without his parents 🤣🤣🤣
@LauraPalmerD
2 жыл бұрын
I'm also from Europe. In my country, young kids that couldn't be just left at someone else's house would only have a party/celebration w/their families. Once we were older (like 6+), our parents just dropped us off (or if we lived close, we walked!) at the party then picked us up and only the child's parents were there. According to my American friends, it was the same here in the US too in the 80s and 90s actually. And now I see friends in Eastern Europe sometimes having big kids birthday parties for usually younger than 6 kids w/ their FRIENDS...
@jessjenkins5474
2 жыл бұрын
I'm in Australia and when I was a kid, my friends were dropped off to my parties and vice versa. Nowadays it's seems parents stay at the party
@Fanny-ge6ge
2 жыл бұрын
I'm from Europe too, ans sometimes during birthday parties it happened that some mom that was close to the inviting family would offer to stay to help prepare, clean or watch the kids, but it wasn't always the case and in any case, it was never implied that ALL the parents were staying.
@jupitersnoot4915
2 жыл бұрын
I have the same experience. Usually only the parents of the birthday kid would be there to make sure nobody got hurt, but other than them no parents.
@itsthetimeofthezeason
2 жыл бұрын
First of all, CUTE puppers! Look at at her little face 😍 I am also the person at parties in the corner petting the animals with one hand and a drink in the other, and people-watching Now on to the audacity and the entitlement of these parents. The thing about deciding to have a child is that you are signing up for whatever kind of child you get. And sometimes you may get a child who ends up being diagnosed with autism and it's still your job as their parent to help them and guide them and discipline them when necessary. I think I would enjoy spending more time around children if more of them were behaved and polite and kind and didn't act entitled. But unfortunately most kids I've met act that way because their parents act that way themselves.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Yeeees 👏 autism isn't a death sentence like people sometimes act. They severely failed that kid! And also, yes, her little face 🤣🖤
@darcy5761
6 ай бұрын
Parenting is hard and most parents don't want to put in the work.AzAqa
@Aerinn21
Жыл бұрын
Recently I've learned from my coworkers (who have kids) that it's apparently normal and expected to bring presents not only for the child who is having a birthday but also for their siblings???? Like, you bring a proper gift for the birthday kid and another smaller one for their brother or sister, especially the younger ones. When I made a comment how this is spoiling the kids my coworkers just said "well they're going to be sad if they don't get anything because they're too young to understand". Ok, first thing, they need to learn that everyone can have their special day in the year and secondly, I think a child that is 6 or 7 and about to go to school can understand the concept of birthdays? I know it's nothing as extreme as the OP's story but it still makes me angry to see children getting so spoiled because their parents just can't handle them throwing a fit.
@mysterylovescompany2657
Жыл бұрын
Parents who indulge their small ones' Ids like this do wrong by their children; kids like this, if uncorrected, grow into lonely, angry, socially frustrated adults. Folks, if you really love your little "angel" so much, then find the grit to be a _parent_ . Love them enough to wear their resentment, sometimes, & understand it's an investment in their future.
@JillWouters
2 ай бұрын
Autism is an explanation for the meltdowns they have, it's not an EXCUSE to not take your responsibility. Autistic people can still learn to behave and it's up to the parents to know the autistic childs triggers and anticipate as much as possible e.g. noice cancelling headphones, stimming gadgets, take child to a space where they can time out for a bit and catch their breath...
@rhondaburgess965
Жыл бұрын
OMG!!! Ask a teacher - I am a teacher - about entitled students whose parents come to their rescue for everything. These parents blame everyone else for all their child's shortcomings. And these kids always boast how they're never disciplined and their parents would allow them to do what they want ... no shit, because it's obvious to any veteran educator that the child doesn't have boundaries at home. I wish parents would realize that these entitled situations ruin the vibe for all the other kids. As adults, we can shrug this stuff off but not kids cuz they learn from these entitled situations. Well behaved kids start to unravel when teachers have to tolerate these entitled kids. I've asked 'well mannered kids' why they are now acting out and overwhelmingly they say "aint nobody punishing Johnny" Truth be told, Johnny may get disciplined behind the scenes but students see it as Johnny getting away with murder because the days are gone when you can reprimand a kid in close proximity to their peers. Any seasoned educator can tell you that each child has to be dealt with differently and most administrators and parents want teachers to deal with all kids the same. Pahlease!!!! Some kids you raise your voice to and they fall into line while others need a more strict approach. Funny though, the kids who are the most egregious and nefarious have the most mollycuddling parents of all. And the more they advocate for them, the less the teacher wants to interact with or applaud those kids when they do indeed do great things. These parents actually diminish the opportunities for their children because of their attitudes, not necessarily the kids. Kids will always do what they've been accustomed to getting away with. Educators understand this but parents need to understand that teachers are human FIRST and we become petty bettys or bitter bettys as per human nature. Parents really, maybe unknowingly, place their childs success and opportunities at the bottom of the pile based on the parents attitudes and not the child. I have ignored certain kids because I didn't wanna deal with their parents ... it is what it is
@GoGoGoRunRunRun
Жыл бұрын
I feel sorry for both kids. Even when a child just thinks/feels a sibling is favoured by their parents it can have a devastating effect and of course the outcome is much worse if it's such blatant favouritism. But his brother isn't in a better situation necessarily. The parents messed up his relationship to potential friends in school as well as how the parents of those kids see the boy. Probably they also messed up how teachers see him. Oh, and they also did pretty much everything to not help him develop a good personality... The parents also payed the price for their actions, but it seems they only started to grasp the situation they're in when the older boy moved out. Sad.
@JasmineRobotnik
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes i wonder if there is a generation(s) of kids who grew up with parents that let them do what ever, got what ever they wanted. All because the parents dint want to deal with the crying and tantrums.
@reexg98
2 жыл бұрын
Parents have nothing but audacity and entitlement, disgusting.
@continuousself-improvement1879
Жыл бұрын
I have a relative who has a special needs child (he is now around 13 y.o.) and they let him act bratty like that. We have a family event where there are fried chicken for the kids, and the adults eat something else. This boy only eats the crusts of fried chicken and not the meat. He ripped off the crusts of the bigger chicken pieces (the thighs and the breasts) even BEFORE it was set aside for each child. The younger kids wound up having to eat drumsticks and wings because all the bigger chicken pieces already looked gross. There were actually enough chicken that each child would get 2-3 pieces each, being one would be the bigger piece and the other one the smaller piece like a wing. But the parents just looked the other way instead of giving a stern talking to to that boy because of his special needs. I worry that that boy will have an even harder time coping as an adult later on because his parents just let things slide.
@Sapanator
13 күн бұрын
My oldest son is a high functioning autistic and used to behave like this. What stopped his tantrums was when he went overboard and started to attack me and his grandmother with a metal pole. One trip to the ER and one shot to the butt later he never did it again. Later when we asked why he did it he said he wanted to see what he could get away with. He's a great kid now and i appreciate his honesty. I feel bad for that kid. His parents failed him.
@Sheisme120
7 ай бұрын
This is proof that giving your child a sibling is not always a good idea.
@FeelslikeHalloween
Жыл бұрын
Honestly, good for the Aunt! I'm so happy that she stepped in and said something about this.
@Emma88178
Жыл бұрын
So the mom is a karen and the dad is a Kevin (male karen) for just indulging in the kid as well.
@mysterylovescompany2657
Жыл бұрын
You know you've gotta be a horrible parent if your child is - forget forced to - even _able_ to weaponise the unedited truth for natural justice against you.
@annadawson5325
Ай бұрын
OP’s dad got made at him for telling everyone what was really going on because it was the truth. Narcissistic people hate that because their power gets taken away, even if it’s a little bit, and they now have to switch tactics to get it back so they can get back to the stays quo asap. It’s an exhausting cycle and I’m glad the other brother is no longer there. I’m not autistic myself but I’ve had to put up with so much from my narcissistic family growing up that it really damaged me. I’m still in therapy. It’s not something you can just get over because you are no longer physically at the same house.
@miss_anthropic666
2 жыл бұрын
It's usually the opposite for me: People have to accommodate to MY needs if they have kids so I can cope! 😅
@ProWrestlingFan1995
2 жыл бұрын
Great video, and the stories in this video are just a further reminder why my wife and I do not want any part of that parenting life. That kid needs some serious help. Also happy birthday to Whinnie!
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! He DEFINITELY needs help & Winnie says thank you as well 😂🖤
@ReaganHart
Жыл бұрын
My boys don't like those hats also, we just do the bibs because they get that sad look on their faces when we put hats on their heads.
@lisamcafee3902
Жыл бұрын
My grandchild is like the kid in the story. His mom especially is into a lot of new agey parenting crap. The kid is encouraged to let his feelings out and he’s his own person so he can do what he wants kinda stuff. Well birthdays, Christmas whatever reason for the get together there will come a time when we are all standing around awkwardly while my grandchild is having some kind of a screaming, crying, destroying things melt down. While his parents are allowing it. I shudder to think what’s going to happen when he gets older.
@wallhagens2001
12 күн бұрын
My friend has an autistic son and there's no way she would ever have let him get away with this kind of behavior. He grew up to be a funny, smart and well-mannered man.
@HaileysHealth
9 ай бұрын
I would think the possibility of having a child like that brother would make many people child-free in an instant!
@purplemonsoon8376
2 жыл бұрын
That was shocking and hilarious! Thanks for the awesome entertainment 😍
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
You're so welcome 🖤
@chromesthesia
Жыл бұрын
Tho I'm autistic and I don't think I've ever behaved like that. Tho I wasn't diagnosed until I was much older and probably got punished for Autistic related things. Wouldn't surprise me if my parents are also autistic. I like your dog. Tell her I love her
@ChildfreeKimberly
Жыл бұрын
I'll go give her pets on your behalf right now 😂🖤
@chromesthesia
Жыл бұрын
@@ChildfreeKimberly yay!
@idreadFell365
5 ай бұрын
🤦♂️ I really wish folks would stop bringing up autism as is it’s an explanation. Autism isn’t the issue, it’s the kid being spoiled. Also terms like high functioning and low functioning are ignorant terms to use when describing someone on the spectrum. Too much people are ignorant about autism I swear 🤦♂️
@chelseaallen8927
7 ай бұрын
This sounds just like my childhood with my brother.
@eugeniamorales5269
2 жыл бұрын
This is just the type of people that shouldn't have kids! Because they don't know how to dicipline them and the kids end up being little monsters that no one likes or tolerate. I know probably OP is not as his brother, but for most part this tends to happen... 🙄
@a-garden-of-worlds
2 жыл бұрын
If you're not prepared for the possibility of dealing with shit like this it's really best to just not have kids at all, lmao
@nataliewells7896
8 ай бұрын
I love dogs more than kids also Winnie is so adorable happy birthday to Winnie
@FiresCollide
8 ай бұрын
Man. What a good kid the older brother is. I really hope that he's gotten away from his parents and that he's gotten the therapy he surely needs and is surrounded by people who love and value him. He seems to understand, and did even as a kid, that it wasn't his fault, but his parents'. Still, that stuff is hard to absorb and grapple with. P.S. Eff his parents for using his neurodivergence as an excuse.
@jsevestjanova
7 ай бұрын
This goes without saying but it's the parents at fault not the autism. I've work with 100s of autistic and similarly disabled people and just like anyone else, it's how they're raised.
@brookecardwell9521
Жыл бұрын
Loving the puppy birthday footage! So precious!!!!
@Starry_Night_Sky7455
Жыл бұрын
😅🤣😂 This is hilariously the most odd thing!!!! Feels like a strange social experiment. I can't even! 😂😂😂 This could be a series. More ridiculous stories. Not hard to find them.
@Tim85-y2q
Жыл бұрын
This is a tough one because it's not the kid's fault that he has difficulties with proper social interactions due to autism, but he needs parents that are going to help him learn to work through that when he can and redirect him if he truly cannot. He's being ill-served by the adults in his life, and that's just sad, because he's the one who's going to be short-changed by that for the rest of his life.
@pastelmoon9118
Жыл бұрын
families are nightmare for me so checked myself out of dating and family. Prefer me time the most and see friends weekly. My parent used to threat me everyday to beat me up, describe things how he would put his "disobedient kids back in line" even if we didnt do anything wrong. I remember the worst happened when I was 2nd grade and didnt find my school bag told this to my dad and gosh he got awful rage about it later on he was talking with shcool buss driver... the driver was the worst.. he said he parent his kids with feeding them from the ground he and my dad laughed my dad said maybe he should do that to me and my sis too, looked at me with grin I still remember. He also tried to teach me math which is why I suck at it. If I got answers wrong he punished me. Strangled, threated to beat me up, couple of times he did. I screamed mom to help me but she never did. she always defended dad. thats why I dont rely or trust anyone people defend those who they see useful if they can get benefits out of person: money, status, sex.. the last nail on the coffin were when I regained memories from the sexual abuse by my dad. I had amnesia. cut him off from life. and people still wonder why I remain child free and without marriage? I am DONE. Families are gross
@charde9739
3 ай бұрын
A somewhat similar situation when my brother and his now wife got married, they already had children and I was helping them find a wedding. I was kind of having a reception at my house and then coming to the wedding, so I had the their daughter well all of their kids prior to the wedding just so that you know the parents can get ready yada yada yada so come to the wedding the daughter who is three starts Inconsolably scream, crying I’m talking about snot everything everywhere so freaking annoying. The people start coming down the aisle walking I come down the aisle as the last minute bridesmaid bride whatever and there’s my mom holding my niece in the front row just letting her freaking scream. Literally nobody has a sense to take this child out of the room except me so I got to miss the wedding because I was the only one who had sense.
@amberjasmine2347
7 ай бұрын
I hate how autism, ADHD and other real disabilities are used as a bs excuse for a kid’s horrible behavior because parents don’t feel parenting so they self-diagnose their kid’s problems when the real problem is the parent(s) spoiling the kid and making feel like they’re entitled to be a a-hole because “autism”. All that does is further stigmatize people who actually have autism.
@Servo1616
5 ай бұрын
Is the brother Eric Cartman? Im not even joking: South Park made a very similar joke about Eric at another kid's party.
@cursedalien
Ай бұрын
Damn, maybe it's a good thing I grew up undiagnosed and thinking I was just broken and defective, because otherwise my parents might've spoiled me badly like this child. Sure, growing up thinking you're useless and the world would be better without you is traumatic, but at least I didn't ruin anyone ELSE'S life.
@_rawr_XD
Жыл бұрын
The kid: So you finally figured out my true colours? You made me like this.
@tenny810
Жыл бұрын
A cupcake with a candle on it could’ve remedied this problem
@BlackStarofStarClanStarlords
Жыл бұрын
I feel sorry for the autistic child in this story: Because those parents did not even TRY to teach him the skills to cope with his emotions or tell him his behaviors were wrong. And it's going to be next to impossible to break those habits, they basically screwed him over for life in the emotional department and made their other son take on copious amounts of trauma and pain for it. Utterly vile behavior. My parents were NOT the best with my autism but they were way better than these ones at LEAST: You can't have everything you want, you need to share, some people have personal belongings you can't play with Until that came to everyone having to share with the FAVORITE LITTLE BAAAABYYY but that's a whole other thing. -_- My youngest brother, to everyone's current knowledge isn't on the spectrum but basically got everything he wanted growing up and to this day cannot stand me getting favored in the slightest or he'll start acting up. Kid's almost 18 now and I tried to tell my parents MULTIPLE TIMES this shit would be hard to nip in the bud if they kept bending to it. Basically: Opposite of this story. Whenever my autism needed me to get extra attention from my parents, my youngest brother would act like a monster because he couldn't stand me getting attention. I didn't go to many birthday parties growing up (Didn't have many friends) but I knew the educate: Treat others how you want to be treated. Horrible parents all around I feel sorry for both their children. And the utter FACT they cannot tolerate the monster they created, like. God. The nerve. The actual nerve of that shit. They raised him all his life that tantrums, breaking shit, and being an utter monster got him his way and NOW when it's thrown right back in their faces it's just like: What did you expect!?
@pembrokelove
Жыл бұрын
FRAPPEY BARKDAY, WINNIE! We know this is very much late and we apologize, but if it was her barkday I gots to wish her a frappey one. :) I hope she had a great day and she got the best day ever and got all the things her little Winnifred heart desired!! ❤❤❤
@heatherstrange3717
Ай бұрын
Girl you seem like a fun person, I bet if we got to hang out we would Kiki and giggle the whole time lol
@maybel5012
7 ай бұрын
I'm sorry but one thing that burns my ass is like at a baby shower for other similar Gathering when the guest of honor is trying to open her presents and there are children there and the parents encourage the children to go up and help open the presents and they are just tearing the wrapping paper off of everything meanwhile somebody is trying to keep a list of who gave what so you can send out thank you cards Etc. That always pissed me off so bad I never let my kids do that
@fenriz3485
7 ай бұрын
Your dog is so cute❤❤❤ Happy Birthday to her🎉
@PeachyPrinceToadstool
6 ай бұрын
Now if this is the story I am thinking of, I think I saw the entire story on a reddit stories youtube. TLDR this entitled child took all the parents' attention away from the sibling when they were born. Due to them being on the spectrum, they got a lot more special treatment than the OP as a child. The parents let this kid blow out the candles on OP's birthday because "he wants to" and OP had no say. The autistic child's behaviour ruined the relationship of the older sibling and parents. The kid moved out. Eventually this escalated into a situation where the child, due to him being so bratty, his horrible behaviour caused the mother to go into a psych ward. It was unclear if it was the son that beat her up but in the story the mom claimed she was smashing her head into the wall......truly I think the mom was covering for the younger son. That's my take. Apparently the kid has calmed down a bit after the parents FINALLY stepped in and decided to parent this kid, but I hope they get their ass in gear to raise him better. It's wrong to just go this to autistic kids. People on the spectrum are already treated like shit in society as it is. Bad people like this kid make US all look WORSE. Look as an autistic transguy myself, I really hate this shit. Let me tell you, I wasn't diagnosed til I was 19, but even then seeing this makes my blood boil. I remember a cousin of mine, Nick, that was like this, too. If you didn't give him what he wanted, he'd beat the tar outta you. I remember my small 10 year old self getting smashed in the head with my own gameboy color because he was mad that I told him no to playing MY Pokemon game. And with me having Hydrocephalous, that was a big problem my mom didn't want me going to the ER for. One bonk to the head can cause serious harm to someone with my condition. Didn't want him erasing my saves because he did that in the past and I had a shiny Pidgey on Crystal. I LOVE Pidgey to death! My favorite Pokemon in the entire world...soooooo when I found out he erased the save with my Pidgey on it, let's say both of us ended up to a trip in the hospital. He was an asshole but so was I. Don't fuck with my Pidgeys, man. You don't do that. Don't let some entitled asshole, autistic or not, screw with your games or any of your precious things. Parents, tell your "precious angel" NO once in awhile!
@SkycometAnimeVamp
8 ай бұрын
I feel bad for OP. If I was the brother, I would be mortified
@lydiahogue8075
Жыл бұрын
As someone with an extremely spoiled younger brother (similarly once he got a Nintendo switch for my birthday because he was sad, I didn’t even get cake) that I had to raise he is the number one reason I don’t want kids
@kernaishaxoxo
Жыл бұрын
It sounds more like he has ODD, not excusing it at all. I’m just saying those parents need to be careful when he’s a grown man because they tend to be incredibly violent and unable to comprehend reason outside of their own desires
@taylorryan7423
2 жыл бұрын
Happy birthday, Winnie!!! 😍🥰 she is so cute! That’s the most important part of your video today. Her siblings were nice and didn’t act like snots because she got a new toy, either. That’s amazing! But then again, animals - especially dogs - are just amazing anyway! Excuse me for being crude, but dang that that spoiled freaking rotten kid sounds like he should have been a swallow. There is absolutely 0 reason to allow that monstrous behavior because he was “autistic.” So what? Helen Keller was blind and deaf and she made a life for herself. Just saying
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Her brothers were so well behaved for sure 🖤 & yes, no reason to raise kids that think it's ok to act like that!
@gorikuri
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing those stories with us
@ChildfreeKimberly
Жыл бұрын
It's my pleasure 🖤
@demonicastar
Жыл бұрын
Awe how precious your little fur babies 😍
@alexandergonzie1200
Жыл бұрын
If there's anything "going on" with kids who behave that way, it's "Spoiledlittleshititus".
@katnekoma1124
2 жыл бұрын
Belated happy birthday to Winnie! :-)
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🖤 😊
@LauraPalmerD
2 жыл бұрын
Maybe talk about roe v wade. Being child-free by choice this is the most terrifying thing. Getting your tubes tied is usually not an option if you don't yet have kids and/or are younger. Not every child-free woman has a partner or a partner who is willing to do a vasectomy. And no birth control is 100%.
@erzascarlet47
2 жыл бұрын
Your dogs are so adorable 😍😍😍. As a pet mom I can say that pets are 1000000000% better than kids. My pets even share all their toys with each other although I get multiple toys for each of them.
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
Ours do the same! It's so cute 😂
@maryfields1382
Жыл бұрын
Awww!!! Cute pups!
@jessjenkins5474
2 жыл бұрын
Awww Winnie!! What a babe!!!
@ChildfreeKimberly
2 жыл бұрын
😊😊😊😊
@Itri_Vega
Жыл бұрын
love the doggo bonus clips
@thesylphwind6816
Жыл бұрын
Awww happy the pupper had a great birthday!
@Starry_Night_Sky7455
Жыл бұрын
Luv your puppy dog! ❤
@melfreemans
Жыл бұрын
Kimberly you have to try Frosty Paws doggy ice cream. Food Lion carries it. My dogs get it when we camp and they LOVE it!!!!!
@ChildfreeKimberly
Жыл бұрын
We've gotten it before! Mine really like it too 😊
@melfreemans
Жыл бұрын
@@ChildfreeKimberly some doggy ice cream brands can give my minpins mild diarrhea. I make them split one cup with the FPaws because they're little dogs but even when I give them a whole cup no loosey poopie
@InMagister
2 жыл бұрын
The dogs are so cute 😍
@ttintagel
Жыл бұрын
I can't believe they took the kid to a second birthday party!
@cosmicreef5858
Жыл бұрын
It is not the kid that is the problem. He HAVE problems yes, but the parents were the ones who are at fault. What a disgrace.
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