As a person with diagnosed PTSD and age regression, The first lady is... wow. I would never do that ever. I CAN control my regressions most of the time. If i notice myself slipping into that headspace in public or a social setting, I take a moment and collect myself so I don't make others uncomfortable. I HAVE regressed before in public without meaning to, but I usually come to quite quickly and take control of the situation. Most people don't notice that side of me at all. I keep it as private as I can. Of course, everyone close to me knows and supports me. It's gotten a LOT better with therapy as well.
@penguinwithafancytophat
11 ай бұрын
THIS ^^^ either the lady needs to get some reality knocked into her or SERIOUSLY step up on their system management. what happened was NOT okay.
@NottJoeyOfficial
11 ай бұрын
It's terrible, these mental disorders actually exist, but people can't take them seriously anymore because of all the people trying to think they're cool and pretending to have them for attention. It sucks.
@NottJoeyOfficial
11 ай бұрын
It's terrible, these mental disorders actually exist, but people can't take them seriously anymore because of all the people trying to think they're cool and pretending to have them for attention. It sucks.
@carriebrown679
11 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It's great that you have support around you. THIS is the awareness people need to see, not some attention seeking person on tiktok pretending to be a 3 year old. I truly hope things continue to get better for you. ❤
@dartzzyandfriends2032
11 ай бұрын
The chick in the story is faking however it's not regression. It's, supposedly, DID.
@vegasrenie
Жыл бұрын
Last story: she admitted that Kelvin did not even hold hands which means that when she slept in his bed, he probably was not in it. I think OP is delusional in this case and definitely a few fries short of a happy meal. She definitely has issues, but she needs to get her own life.
@Stina_7798
11 ай бұрын
P.A. Stands for Personal Assistant. She was his personal assistant and did anything and everything he asked of her. Run Errands, make vacation plans, cook, clean house etc. So when she said she slept in his bed, I am fairly sure it was while he was out, and he probably had no idea that she was doing so. She is delusional and believes that she means more to him than that of a personal assistant, who often times do become part of the family but simply as close friends and confidantes. Sad that she got so attached, but it happens which is why most people that have personal assistants keep them at arms length.
@troydurocher3777
11 ай бұрын
I don't know how to respond completely to this story. I will say he was a bit of a butthole for telling her he did not want to date and was not ready for that type of thing when he clearly was seeing somebody, why did he not be honest with her about it??
@troydurocher3777
11 ай бұрын
I don't know how to respond completely to this story. I will say he was a bit of a butthole for telling her he did not want to date and was not ready for that type of thing when he clearly was seeing somebody, why did he not be honest with her about it??
@mrsplashman8308
11 ай бұрын
@@troydurocher3777because there’s no evidence that he was dating anyone when she confessed to him either time. He knew his fiancée for a while but they weren’t together
@kay19129
11 ай бұрын
@@troydurocher3777 I mean, there may be a chance she misinterpreted his rejection that way. I don't know, she seems kind of off to me.
@beeziebubs2756
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: Whether she’s faking or legit, the bottom line is she needs serious psychiatric evaluation, treatment and jail time for attempted kidnapping. Her behavior is so wildly concerning regardless of what you call it. On another note, it’s insanely creepy, disgusting, and weird that she’s playing her alter of OP’s daughter and posting it online. There’s just no way that’s gaining attention from anyone who isn’t getting off to it.
@firedingo5
11 ай бұрын
She doesn't need jail time, she needs serious psychological and psychiatric care.
@beeziebubs2756
11 ай бұрын
@@firedingo5 don’t get me wrong; she absolutely needs psychiatric help… but she did still stalk and tried to kidnap a child, and did it in a way that was calculated, conscious, and aware. She’s incredibly lucky op is nice enough to not press charges and is only trying to get her TikTok taken down, but what she did majorly crossed the legal line and was dangerous beyond belief.
@firedingo5
11 ай бұрын
@@beeziebubs2756 perhaps kidnap but she didn't stalk from what I heard. She was just massively creepy and inappropriate.
@beeziebubs2756
11 ай бұрын
@@firedingo5 Even if Op doesn’t explicitly use the word ‘stalk, she 100% stalked OP’s daughter at the park. There’s no way she just so happened to be at that exact park around the exact time the nanny brings his daughter to play and just so happened to come up with a plan to wait until the end of the nanny’s shift to try and take the daughter. Even if she did just so happen to be there and came up with that plan on the spot, what she did still falls into the legal definition of stalking.
@TrickOrRetreat
11 ай бұрын
If you say she needs treatment you can´t say jail in the same sentence. Jails don't help with mental issues other than drug you shitless out of your mind.
@Hellysal
Жыл бұрын
Just to be clear, in the last story she said that "she slept in his bed", not WITH him. I'm convinced he just let her crash at his place when she was having a bad time once or a few times, but she in her imagination blew this up waaaaaay out of proportion. He's just being a friend when she needs one and she's taking it in a very wrong way.
@thomasb3689
Жыл бұрын
That's how I interpreted this too. He took the couch and let her take the bed. She didn't really indicate they had been intimate at all.
@end_slayer
Жыл бұрын
She kind of acts like an over excited teenager. And as a teenager, I’m a bit embarrassed for her and I feel a bit bad.
@sofimin.2759
Жыл бұрын
I interpreted something similar. I myself had sleept in a friends bed with that friend (both genders) and I doesn´t mean you are having anything with them. I think she never understood the boundaries the guy was giving. A guy beeing sweet don´t means that he is in love with you, some guys are, in fact, sweet
@Clairski3
Жыл бұрын
This is also why so many mentorship programmes have strict rules about mentors/mentees hooking up. People searching for mentorship’s like this are often from vulnerable situations and come to rely on mentors for other unfulfilled emotional needs. It’s the same reason therapists can’t have relationships with their patients - it would be taking advantage of the patient’s vulnerability. While I agree the narrator in story 2 is slightly delusional, the mentor should have set firmer boundaries so as to keep personal and professional private.
@Shadowrider-wx2ys
Жыл бұрын
@@Clairski3 This is one of the reasons why teachers have so many restrictions regarding interactions with students. The inherent power disparity makes it impossible for their relationship to develop in a healthy way. As a fairly young teacher, even if a student graduated, and we met much later, completely organically, I would never consider pursuing a romantic relationship with them for this exact reason. Perhaps the mentor should have had clearer boundaries, but perhaps he did and she simply didn't respect them very well. He did tell her to go and find someone else, and instead, she planned her entire life around dating a guy who had been saying no for several years.
@MrAnderodri
Жыл бұрын
First story: Psychologist here. With the few data available the story presented fits way more with an Histrionic Personality Disorder, which is what the parents of the girl said she has been diagnosed with. People with this disorder do virtually anything for attention, affection or "love", and are very prone to big and excessive shows where they present themselves as the victims. Histrionic comes for histeria, so this is basically an intense, dramatic and self victimizing person on steroids. It is common for them to put on a show of having other disorders to get said attention, like a hypochondriac but way way worse. I had the unfortunate experience of living with one, and she claimed to suffer Bulimia and cutting herself just to ensure we gave her attention and took care of her. Edit: Since some people have pointed it out: yes I cannot diagnose someone based on the few data we have in the story (which might even be an interpretation of OP and not real data). Diagnosis is a long process only done by a professional with a client he/she is working with. That's way I said "it fits way more into". Do not take my word on this, this is only a working theory I wanted to share to share some knowledge. If I did diagnose someone like this, it would be armchair diagnosis.
@Jo-er6tw
Жыл бұрын
Huh, is it a common and often not diagnosed/ not easily discover disorder? And is there any way to help people who suffer from it? Also what causes it? Can it be the result of extreme neglect and trauma or can anyone get/ have it?
@GamerGrovyle
Жыл бұрын
What is the difference between HPD(?) and Narcissism? Is it that one is a medical condition and the other a personality trait?
@Kiefsti
Жыл бұрын
Interesting, thank you! I knew it wasn't DID, so my next thought was the kink of DD/lg (Daddy Dom/little girl). This is still less creepy than that lol
@Jo-er6tw
Жыл бұрын
@@GamerGrovyleooh that’s a good question.
@bellerain381
Жыл бұрын
Very good insight!
@samssams666
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 Update 3: WTF?! Clearly this woman has more problems than an identity disorder. If she’s trying to kidnap someone, now, I have a lost all respect for her.
@cid_vicious666
11 ай бұрын
I agree. It's still very possible she could have D.I.D. but something else is going on in her mind. She needed that 50150. She needs intense psychiatric treatment for whatever is going on. But the disregard of people who do suffer from D.I.D. makes me super upset. Not that r/ was agreeing with it, but just the very fact that some people in the mental health community would try to claim that it is not a real diagnosis makes me infuriated. D.I.D. is VERY real and it's terrifying for the person who has to experiance that trauma. Who knows what the woman in story one was going through but in general, D.I.D is very real and very terrifying at times. Please, let us all not minimize or reject this disorder.
@destroyer4929
11 ай бұрын
@@cid_vicious666no there is no possibility that they have DID while alters can be of real people they are basically always of people who were related to the trauma that made the DID develop they are almost never attempting to assume the identity of the person that is being mimicked and even then it's impossible for her to have an alter if someone who was born after the DID developed
@stickiedmin6508
11 ай бұрын
@@cid_vicious666 Whether it's _actually_ real or not, we can't deny that it's the kind of disorder that attracts a ton of fakers. It's a pretty easy way to get bucket loads of the kind of attention and sympathy that a lot of people crave, especially those with other, more 'mundane' mental disorders. My experiences over the past couple of decades brought me into contact with an uncomfortably large amount of such people - some were just manipulative, putting on a performance designed to get them what they wanted, for others it would be something like a kind of roleplaying, developed either unconsciously or deliberately as a sort of coping mechanism, some might have honestly _believed_ they had something like D.I.D, but would act as though they were in a corny, 1950s style comedy about someone with multiple personalities, some poor, frightened souls with only the slightest grip on what the fck was going on, some who thought it was all some sort of game . . . Maybe one in fifty would have something that actually came _close_ to genuine D.I.D. A really easy clue to look out for would be the way some of them would carefully watch each other (always when they didn't know *_they_* were being watched too) and then go on to copy each others' symptoms. A group might gain a new member who had a six year old 'alter.' The next week that same group of ten would have manifested four more six year old 'alters,' right out of the blue. Certain 'trends' would sweep across the various groups before falling out of style. Sometimes the more demonstrative group members would end up almost _competing_ with each other over alternatively ridiculous and terrifying subjects: Who had the saddest little lost orphan 'alter,' who had the scariest serial killer 'alter,' who had the most prim and proper Victorian royal court lady-in-waiting 'alter,' whose demonic 'alter' had the most unpronounceable name . . . It could get pretty fckn absurd. Through all of this there would be very, very little *_actual_* disassociating going on. Another big clue would be the way symptoms would mysteriously vanish the moment that person thought they weren't being observed by anyone else, but then instantly reappear as soon as someone else came back into the room. I'll agree that it *_does_* exist and that it's a terrible and serious problem for those it afflicts - a real life waking nightmare - but I'm also as sure as I can be that it's nowhere near as common as some would have us believe, but is in fact almost vanishingly rare. The kind of diagnosis that should be regarded with a great, heaping amounts of scepticism, *_especially_* when it's being discussed with complete and anonymous strangers on the internet.
@Zenikai_
11 ай бұрын
@@cid_vicious666 she definitely didnt have DID. not only like destoryer said, alters are of people related to the trauma. But also, child alter specifically, start as a younger version of you.
@DarkEinherjar
Жыл бұрын
I think we can all agree that, even if the brother's GF isn't faking the DID, the fact that she has a TT account pretending to be OP's daughter and literally tried to kidnap her leaves no doubt about how dangerous she is. OP and the wife are 100% correct in cutting her and the brother out of their lives.
@Dartkitten
Жыл бұрын
While i beleive that the brain has ways to protect itself i cant understand why the gf would have a personality based on her new bf's neice. Has she never interacted with any other child/toddler? Is she jelious of how good Op treats his daughter compared to how she, the gf, was treated by her own parents? I just dont get why Op's daughter.
@leonxpc1
Жыл бұрын
I was going to comment something similar. With the difference that the fact that she processed the steps needed to kidnap and to post on TikTok when pretending to be a 3 year old, make it so there is a good faith, educated strong case to be made that the girlfriend does not have D.I.D she has something else entirely and its objectively faking it. People with alters literally with different ages, literally only know and behave with what they know, ALSO most D.I.D dont forget what their alters do, its not the movie shattered. And example its an interview of one person like that on the channel Azeal.
@Ellerwind
Жыл бұрын
The amazing thing the Brother (and rslash) kind of glossed over: If she doesn’t know what she dose as the 3 year old then how can she film herself as the 3 year old? What 3 year old can set up the shoot? The GF is nuts and not in a “she has a disorder” but is just nuts
@Panda-cute
Жыл бұрын
She’s absolutely faking, DID doesn’t work the way she’s pretending it does
@acursedwolf5736
Жыл бұрын
@@leonxpc1 I think you mean the movie Split
@caleighsmeltzer9121
Жыл бұрын
Can we take a moment and give props to the nanny in the first story? She did exactly what she was supposed to do and took care of the daughter and made sure she was safe. Some people would have just been like "cool, you know her? Sounds legitimate enough for me. Take her." And not given a second thought.
@N0xiety
Жыл бұрын
The bigger props is to the parents who took this situation very seriously and talked about this with the nanny, thus covering all possible scenarios for their children to be safe.
@marshawargo7238
11 ай бұрын
Nobody noticed that bro Said that he can't talk to her because she's either 3 years old OR Doesn't Remember what she did, when she Isn't 3!!! So! How can she, at 3, make an understandable account? She either doesn't remember, therefore can't make an account on something she doesn't remember! OR It's A Scam!!! Money or Attention, it doesn't matter! I wonder which version bro takes to bed? IMO He's Just As Sick As She Is!!!😢
@rotaloco30
Жыл бұрын
First Story: As someone who knows a few people with DID an interacts with them regularly, this is NOT normal behaviour. The Girlfriend is likely faking it, and even if she isn't, she has gone full psychotic. On DID: having Alters that are children, of even ones that copy other people they've met is not entirely out of the question, but it's up to the personalities that are rational and aware to take responsibility, even if they don't remember it. The fact that she refused to hold herself accountable for her behaviour as the "Child Alter" was already rasing a million red flags for me, even before the updates. She is not taking responsibility for her condition (if it's even real, which with the whole context I doubt) and failing to understand why her actions would cause worry for the family, which basically confirmed form me that she's is psychotic on some level, and DID has nothing to do with that. AND TO TRY TO KIDNAP A CHILD ON TOP OF IT?? She needs help, professional help, regardless of what her condition is, or she'll end up in jail which with all that was said doesn't seem like the worst case scenario. DISOCIATIVE IDENTITY DISORDER DOES NOT MAKE YOU TRY TO KIDNAP CHILDREN.
@TexiTheTycoon
Жыл бұрын
THANK YOU!!!! As someone with DID, that story made me so mad!
@SteenatheCatrobat
Жыл бұрын
I have plural friends, some with DID or OSDD (basically DID but without amnesia and it’s internalized so no one else but main fronts). I can conquer what you said about child alters. In fact, most systems I meet are actually protective of their child alters and take steps to avoid them being in unsafe situations. But yeah, I think at this point, it’s not so much whether or not she’s lying that it’s an issue. It’s the fact that she’s a danger to herself and others. :/ honestly, I hope she gets proper treatment so that everyone can be safe.
@peachpunch9465
Жыл бұрын
Could possibly be psychosis. I’m in the middle of my second bout of psychosis, and her behavior seems to be a deviation. Or she could be bluffing it for attention. It’s all up to speculation tbh
@realityunleashed108
Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I have DID and it's different for every person. Some ' specialists' like to say it's not real but it's actually very frightening to have to live with. You can't remember big parts of same days, end up having others try to call you a different name and you can feel crazy for it, and then the stigma itself is horrific! It's BS like this that gives those of us with the disorder , a terrible name and makes it feel like we'll never get help. People with DID rarely present in a way that causes problems. It's the mind's way of coping with traumatic stress. I have NEVER had an alter do anything horrible like that. I take FULL responsibility of everything that happens during a switch. There are a lot of free support groups. Littles do NOT get to do things like this because the caretakers and gatekeeper will stop them. That's why they exist. That woman is nuts. She needs help.
@Meriderp
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! As someone who also has DID, this story really made my blood boil. This isn’t normal behavior even with this sort of disorder.
@LocalMaple
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 Update 1: wait. Neither personality is aware of the other. But she is capable of anticipating, recording, and uploading videos of the alternate personality? Guaranteed fake. Edit: somebody replied they are aware of each other, but don’t share memories. That doesn’t answer my overall question of how she can anticipate her alter ego taking over and take advantage of it. Especially assuming her infantile mind doesn’t remember setting up the stream, yet understands she needs to perform to the camera, and not mess with it or turn it off. Or are you saying a three year old can be a quality streamer (not popular, just having basic skills and tech savvy)? Either she is faking it, or can control the swap to her infantile mind and chose to do so at OP’s home. Neither answer is favorable to her diagnosis or her relationships.
@tneanxiety395
Жыл бұрын
yea not to mention alters that are baby alters do exist but are uncomon. but i have not found anything about alters that are coppies of actuall people like in this case. also DID i caused by terrible trauma in early years (like a child or early teen) which her parents have said there was no trauma like that. And the tik tok account there is no way she is not faking it. (also sorry if my english is not the best it is not my first langue)
@davidharshman7645
Жыл бұрын
@@tneanxiety395Yeah...the only defense I can think of for her is that if the trauma did happen, the parents would probably be involved and might lie about it. But...yeah...so many red flags there.
@callanightshade8079
Жыл бұрын
@@tneanxiety395so alters of actual people can happen with someone who has DID; they're called "factives" I believe. But the ALTER is NOT the actual person from the "real world" they just look like said person for lack of a better term. And even then, alters split off due to trauma so they're normally resemble an abuser and not a 3 year old child
@tneanxiety395
Жыл бұрын
@@callanightshade8079 Yea i was thinking about that too, I have never heard of alters that resemble a person that has never done any harm to anyone they usually try to mimic the abuser and thank you for explaining it a bit better for me. For me it just seems like she is one of those people that fake disabilities for likes and aperently a baby/child alter gives her the most fame.
@tneanxiety395
Жыл бұрын
@@davidharshman7645 also true but callanightshade has pointed out that facilities exist and they are basically an acctuall copy of a person, but the thing is it is a copy for example an abuser. (They explained it better than me) so i dont think she is being honest about her diagnosis especailly if she refuses to go to doctor about it and has tik toka ccount that is full of the "copy alter" she puts on.
@cinnamaqroll
Жыл бұрын
Hi rSlash! Just going to inform you respectfully that while the person in story 1 probably doesn't have DID, alter is not short for "alter ego" it's short for "alternate personality." Love the videos man, keep up the good work!
@errantwinds-up8uu
Жыл бұрын
Last story: I think you're right, rslash, that we have an unreliable narrator here. Even if Kelvin WERE into her, that level of obsession would make for a really unhealthy relationship dynamic. I don't think Kelvin should have let her get so close, but i'm guessing he just didn't want to hurt her and maybe didn't realise how intensely she felt? Either way it's a sad situation because it definitely sounds like OP has some delusions and needs more help.
@slytherinlibrarian3501
Жыл бұрын
Kelvin told her not to wait for him and that should have been enough. He refused to engage in couple things, like PDA or allowing her to help with chores (cooking and laundry). I would suggest that if OP was over so much she was offering to help with chores, that she went over and would stay late to the point where Kelvin, being a decent guy, wouldn't let her go home late at night for her safety because he viewed her as a sister. Kelvin's only 'real' sins seem to be that he was super private about his personal life with the general group (his prerogative, I know) and not doing a good enough job shutting down what sounds like the mentees shipping him and OP (we expect wedding bells after the dinner). OP is delulu.
@GBunnyG
Жыл бұрын
Story 3 sounds like she had some heavy delusions about this mentorship, and Kelvin didn't want to hurt her. He kept his distance, hence the "he's shy" part.
@marckempe2143
Жыл бұрын
More so than most think about, it’s literally stated in the post that he rejected her TWICE, and even said that she needs to find someone else. That doesn’t sound like stringing her along, that sounds like her refusing to accept ‘No’ as an answer.
@GBunnyG
Жыл бұрын
@@marckempe2143 ExACTLY. I feel bad for him and the fiance.
@cuddlicalf4854
Жыл бұрын
@@marckempe2143 "Sorry I'm not interested in you", "I don't see you that way" or "I'm already seeing someone" is a much firmer rejection than. "Sorry I'm just not ready to date right now". Not to mention you know all the other oddly close stuff they did together. I wouldn't necessarily say he was stringing her along, but he certainly didn't do anything to stop her advances. It's also pretty telling when all of their mutual associates were encouraging them to get together. It's clear she had a thing for him beyond infatuation, and he should have been clearer for both their sakes.
@marckempe2143
Жыл бұрын
@@cuddlicalf4854 I’m quite certain that his rejections were a clear ‘No’ to her advances. PERIOD. He even said that she should find someone for herself, the unspoken part being someone who isn’t him.
@blairl3091
11 ай бұрын
@cuddlicalf4854 no means no. Even if he did say it in a nicer way, he was NOT interested and she kept pushing it. On top of that she was acting highly inappropriate as well. What if the roles were reversed and OP was a guy? Everyone would have been in a screaming fit because she tried letting him down politely and he still tried making advances towards her.
@d.phantomfan1216
Жыл бұрын
Last story: Just because you wanted to de with him doesn't mean you can tell his fiance to go away, it's insane you even thought it was okay. He doesn't love you like that, sorry but move on.
@lorilancaster5917
Жыл бұрын
And he’s made it clear. However, while I understand him not saying he has someone, he should’ve distanced himself from her
@fdm2155
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, the only mistake Kelvin made was not telling her that he was seeing someone else AND that he wasn't interested in her romantically. That said, most people would have taken the damn hint when he never showed any interest in a DECADE...
@nanardeurlambda
Жыл бұрын
But what about the "slept in his bed" part? what it means changes a lot of the story, right?
@vickirogers4565
Жыл бұрын
Stalker. This girl is a stalker. She is sleeping on is his bed without him being there and she interprets it as more.
@cynister7384
Жыл бұрын
@@nanardeurlambda He said he sees her as a sister, she probably stayed over a few nights or something, there are plenty of friends who have slept on my bed.
@IAmTheSkinThief
Жыл бұрын
DID is a real disorder, unfortunately. My best friend has it, was diagnosed by a professional with it, and one of her alters is a little girl. That alter helps her get out stressful situations by essentially making it so she doesn't understand what's going on if there's something traumatic going on. However, OP's brother's GF needs to stay away from kids. That's what my friend does. She doesn't want kids, doesn't like them, so she actively avoids them and sticks to her spouse.
@vhaelen326
Жыл бұрын
yep, can confirm, my brothers ex girlfriend also has it and it looks VERRY different from whats described in the reddit post especially because these episodes come out of no where and in the story its said that the girl "doesnt remember what happened" afterwards... so 1. how does she manage to record and upload the videos of it? 2. how did she manage to make the tiktok ccount in the first place?
@luna_likes_to_draw_
Жыл бұрын
See that's what did ACTUALLY is. Its a defense mechanism but people use it for attention all the time. It doesn't help ppl with actual did when ppl pretend to have it
@X-Being
Жыл бұрын
Key thing, DID has defined and distinct triggers. They also do not toggle back and forth at will and they do not adopt personas from current life, but instead draw from their lives at the time of the first onset of trauma.
@luna_likes_to_draw_
Жыл бұрын
@@X-Being yes!!! Exactly!!! It's typically an involuntary response! That's why it's so hard to live with but ppl who are insensitive don't care about those facts and continue to fake this disorder
@Budderkitty
Жыл бұрын
@@X-BeingTypically its only from aspects of early onset trauma, but you can split from any point in time in your life for any reason. though typically it's linked to stress.
@franciscojaviermendezrinco1902
Жыл бұрын
First story: At first I was willing to give her the huge benefit of the doubt, but when I heard she went to find the nanny to take the kid I immediately hoped someone shot some sense into her. And I mean literally shoot, she is beyond psychotic.
@penguinwithafancytophat
11 ай бұрын
yea same
@theyo-kaiguy
9 ай бұрын
I agree what kind of 3 year old drives to a park to steal another three-year-old, if you ask me, this kind of feels like the term “when desire overtakes reason, the human mind can unleash deadly obsession” I get the feeling that the girlfriend is very obsessed with OP’s daughter and is fully aware of what she was doing and thinking, which leads me to wonder, what was she planning to do with OP‘s daughter if the nanny had given her to her?
@penguinwithafancytophat
8 ай бұрын
@@theyo-kaiguy i feel like this is a fake story to push op's personal agenda.. like the whole rant in the middle is way too thought out. ive known many systems in my lifetime and have researched a ton. this just doesnt seem real.
@FreyaofCerberus
Жыл бұрын
A good phrase I heard once is "being a parent might be magical to you but it isn't literal magic". The guy in the second story really thought that if he just managed to get his ex to have a baby then magically she'd decide she actually wanted to be a parent all along. His situation sucks but it's entirely his fault.
@mariposa9506
Жыл бұрын
It's not like he coerced her into getting pregnant. It was an oops for both of them
@FreyaofCerberus
Жыл бұрын
@mariposa9506 nah disagree on that. Whilst yes it does take two to tango, she didn't want the pregnancy. He talked her into it by what sounds like expressly promising to solely look after the kid once they were born. If he'd listened to her he wouldn't be in the situation he is now.
@fangirl3086
Жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506ane I highly doubt that. I think he sabotage their birth control so she would get pregnant. It does happen a lot.
@It-is-me...Melsie
Жыл бұрын
It's ridiculous of him to think he can force someone to love his child. It's disturbing too that he actually wants to force her to look after the child when she clearly doesn't want to. I'd never want anyone looking after my son if they really didn't want to. I'd be worried for my child's wellbeing and whether he'd be treated kindly, but he doesn't seem to have considered that at all.
@junebug3755
Жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506when she got pregnant, yeah it was an oops for both of them (unless there was already a babytrappy situation there), but she still had the choice to terminate, and he coerced her into not doing that.
@michellestella7477
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: HE wanted the kid. Not her. Now HE gets to take care of the kid. Careful what you wish for
@ginihall1234
Жыл бұрын
Basically
@afuzzycreature8387
Жыл бұрын
I can see not wanting to be in favor of abortion but he isn't entitled to personal support. Rough situation. Choose your partners wisely.
@christineatchley7303
11 ай бұрын
He also needs to realize that a deadbeat parent is someone who isn’t involved in the kids life and also doesn’t pay child support. He’s getting 125% of court ordered support. He should consider himself very lucky!
@Retro_Rainer
11 ай бұрын
to be fair, he couldn't predict how stressful and exhausting kids can be. sure, he wanted the kid, but showing a moment of weakness and vulnerability isn't the worst thing. I thought that's how women want men to be. but if a guy is having a rough time and shows it, it's his own fault? no empathy and compassion whatsoever, that's what I'm reading in a lot of responses. sad, really...
@aaronabbey2604
11 ай бұрын
@@christineatchley7303The bio mom isn't a deadbeat regardless because she signed away her parental rights after she gave birth. Legally she's not required to even give child support because of that.
@uhohspaghettios3801
Жыл бұрын
The girlfriend in the first story is exactly why people with DID are so stigmatized against
@SoftKid123
Жыл бұрын
Fr, like there's a lot of people in the comments right now that literally think it's not a real thing- even OP didn't know if it was real simply because it's faked so much :
@kp2223
Жыл бұрын
She has a TikTok where she is the altar period I feel like that can't possibly be DID.
@bread9173
Жыл бұрын
I just think she is age regressing and doesn't have DID cause age regression would be more common than that form of DID for lack of a better word.
@eopujvrswg
Жыл бұрын
your quote-on-quote "disease" doesn't exist.
@LOBOKNOT
Жыл бұрын
its not a disease, and it exists. maybe go on google and look it up. @@eopujvrswg
@rek9117
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: As someone with DID, it is very much understood that even if someone else in the system does something to upset someone, you have to take responsibility for it. Even if you don’t remember it happening. The same way someone would apologize for what they did while they were black out drunk. Also! While you cannot control when a switch occurs and sometimes who comes out there absolutely 100% should have been a plan of action about what should happen if a little switched in at a party. Though this is assuming that she wasn’t faking it- I don’t want to say she was because you never know what’s going on in someone else’s brain. But, assuming she does have the disorder, this seems like a case of really bad system communication or management which at the end of the day she should have taken accountability and apologized for.
@afterthought1110
Жыл бұрын
From what I understand from conversations with a close friend with DID, it isn’t someone “thinking they’re another person” or a “mental break.” It’s more like there’s multiple identities sharing control and tagging out. Trauma at a young age prevents someone from developing an integrated identity, so multiple alters pop up. To help make sense of the world post-trauma. Some hold memories of trauma and keep it away from others, while some regularly front (fronting is sorta like being in the driver’s seat). That being said, yeah there’s no way the sil isn’t faking it for attention. God forbid someone takes a mental disorder caused by severe abuse seriously instead of pretending to have it for TikTok clout.
@jkman9828
Жыл бұрын
"Yo, What the fuck?!" - Me too Rslash, me too. Does not sound like DiD to be honest, She would not be a able to assume someone else's specific identity, that's not what an alter is. an Alter is created through trauma to work through specific events related to the trauma that caused the alter, It completely forms on its own and creates its own identity. You can't just go like : Ok, I am now your daugther.
@WishGender
Жыл бұрын
there are things called introjects which are when a system creates a new alter of a character or a real person, but idk how to feel about this story bc it doesn’t seem real
@jkman9828
Жыл бұрын
@@WishGender Introjects are extremely rare in actual DID cases. She does not display DID behaviorism, switching to an alter (which the OP of the post also refers to questioning Social media DID) is not something that happens on the spot, or that you can control, but in the story it happens several times. It is triggered by relations to the trauma. I agree that the story is either made up, or the sister in law has some severe issues that need to be addressed asap. I do agree that it does sound like behaviorism for histrionic personality disorder though. I am not a doctor or psychiatrist, so definitely do not quote me on that. But I grew up mental health care institutions, and still get help and have met people with actual DID and been around a host of personality disorders.
@WishGender
Жыл бұрын
@@jkman9828 that's 100% fair. I just see that there is a lot of misinformation about DID in the comments and it makes me sad, especially since I have a few friends with DID that I met through intensive outpatient DBT.
@jkman9828
Жыл бұрын
@@WishGender Yeah, DID is very often not believed. Sadly this is partly due to an influx of people using it for attention, but a huge part of it also is due to old guard psychiatrists that straight up deny it exists for whatever reason. I am not one of the non-believers though, just this specific case especially, Introjection would be a possibility but I very much doubt it because it happened almost instantly. Introjects are created very often to either become the abuser of their trauma Or to become someone soothing to them. This is something that takes a very long time though, and the DID sufferer needs to connect to that person or identity on almost a familial level (concering someone soothing). Spoiler for a TV show but might interest- A show that really shows well how Introjects work is called : The Crowded room. Alternate personalities that live seperate lives.
@Lolveud
Жыл бұрын
The singular thing that puts her whole DID excuse to rest is the fact that she made a Tiktok account pretending to be a 3 year old. 3 year olds can't do that, and if she's acting like one, that means she's actively tapping in and out of that character willingly. She's just crazy, period.
@potato-rp2bf
7 ай бұрын
The body and brain are still an adult. I doubt the gf has DID, but some DID littles can do adult things like drive, work, file taxes. It’s just the age of the alter.
@ShaneCarey
Жыл бұрын
If she doesn't remember her time as a 3 year old, the existence of her KZitem channel must have blown her mind.
@lorilancaster5917
Жыл бұрын
Bet she’s in denial despite her creating and recording the videos. She may blame it on another identity, Steven Spielberg
@mikem5069
Жыл бұрын
She can't hold a conversation with her boyfriend while she is the 3 year old but she can make tiktok videos?
@duderobi
Жыл бұрын
But how can a 3 Year old make a Tik Tok Account
@cyber_runner
Жыл бұрын
@@duderobialters can have the mental understanding of the body/brain while still being a kid. So its not that big of a stretch
@KashyaCharsi
Жыл бұрын
That alter must be a toddler prodigy.
@haikyuutrash7895
Жыл бұрын
I agree. That single father sucks. She didn't want the baby but he did, so she went through the effort of giving birth for him and even pays child support! I was honestly surprised she did pay support and didn't just disown the kid since she clearly, and rightfully, didn't want anything to do with the kid. The girl here is being amazing here. The guy should have thought what he was signing up for when he told her not to get an abortion.
@izraelburgess937
11 ай бұрын
I wouldn’t go as far as to say she’s being amazing . I think it’s more so the state she lives in forced her to pay child support despite her not wanting any claim to the kid . But yeah he tried to baby trap her and it failed. I wouldn’t even be surprised if he somehow sabotaged her birth control or condoms , or even pressured her into having sex without protection, because someone this vehement about not raising a kid likely takes precautions .
@drakonx1959
11 ай бұрын
@@izraelburgess937 how did he try to baby trap her, please explain.
@haikyuutrash7895
11 ай бұрын
@@izraelburgess937 Maybe, but she still is paying more than the court ordered child support. So I still think that is good of her
@6Jas6devi6
11 ай бұрын
@@drakonx1959 I actually saw another person react to this where they deep-dived into the comments on that post, and the guy admitted that he hoped she would form an attachment with the baby after it was born so that she would stay with him for the kid. But that didn't happen because she doesn't want kids. And now he's mad his plan didn't work.
@drakonx1959
11 ай бұрын
@@6Jas6devi6 well i wish i wouldve gotten this before lol, with that context, i have deduced that he is a asshole
@alyssabates967
11 ай бұрын
Story 2: He wanted to be a dad, she didn’t want to be a mom. Dude got his wish and got upset when her wish didn’t change.
@Reuraku
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: While D.I.D. is a real thing the fact that she's posting it on Tik Tok shows awareness as a 3 year old wouldn't start filming themselves or act for the camera, on top of that she tried to abduct the child which shows intent. These actions make me believe that she does not have D.I.D. but she does have a mental disorder that makes her a potential danger. Story 2: OP wanted the child and the woman didn't, the fact that he wants to force her to take care of the child that she gave him at his own request despite her not wanting to shows entitlement. Story 3: OP is delusional, she was rejected twice and the second time even told 'go fined someone else' but seems the think that if the other girl wasn't around she'd get the guy. The sleeping in the bed thing, with how the rest of the post sounds I don't think he knows about it and it makes me a little worried for the fiancée.
@nationalinstituteofcheese3012
Жыл бұрын
A psychologist said she could have Histrionic Personality Disorder which is where a person will do anything for attention or “love” I think. Not a psychologist myself
@Purgatoran
Жыл бұрын
There’s someone with DID who posts content but they do NOT post child alters
@FNLNFNLN
Жыл бұрын
That woman in story 2 shouldn't even owe child support. OP wanted the kid, she didn't. She already agreed to go through pregnancy at his request, anything resulting from that is 100% his responsibility. She's already going way above and beyond what should be expected of her.
@MetalHeadKendra
Жыл бұрын
That first story... Yikes. I dated a girl who was confirmed with Multiple Personality Syndrome (or D.I.D.). One of her few personalities was a 4 year-old girl. It freaked me out the first time, and I didn't have a warning before it happened. Talking to a friend who was in med school, he explained to me why she might have it, and that it was caused by trauma. Later on, when she was back to her "normal" self, I confronted her with it since she didn't remember anything. She cried and told me a tragic story of abuse from... *ahem*, her father and his friends. What they would do to her, and how they treated her. It started when she was 4, thus, the personality. At first, I didn't believe her and didn't know how to proceed. Until she showed me a literal fishing tackle box FULL of medications for her several mental disorders and physical complications. She also told me about how her father pushed her into the fire when she was younger, and it took a lot of courage from her, she sent me a photo of her belly which was COVERED in fire scarring (I personally thought it was beautiful and couldn't stop admiring her strength after that). Everything she said and showed me led me to believe her completely, even if it absolutely terrified me. Things happened and she was unable to continue dating me not too long after that. I'm still on the fence if DID or MPS is an actual thing, but only time will tell when technology advances and can tell us the truth. The first story, it's hard to know if they have DID, but the fact that it's "unconfirmed" and they think that "self-diagnosis is perfectly fine" tells me all I need to know. She doesn't have it, she's doing it for attention. Self-diagnosing CAN be helpful in making someone feel better about themselves and how to take better care when they can't afford medical help (like myself), but we don't go around flaunting it like we actually have the disorders. Using it as a crutch and refusing to get help when its available is a huge red flag that says "this person is faking and doesn't want to be called out". It's even worse that she's doing it regarding a family member's child, and it poses extremely dangerous behavior. If she did have DID, and cared for the little girl, she would take it in her interests to go get professional help so she doesn't hurt someone. But she doesn't, because it's not real, since she likes the attention. And her boyfriend is enabling her behavior, which only makes things worse. BOTH of them need serious help in thinking her behavior is acceptable. EDIT: Oh, I didn't even hear the rest of the story. The TikTok thing? 100% for views and attention, she does NOT have DID, and needs serious help for her stupidity. The attempted kidnapping has nothing to do with her DID (a 3 year-old's personality would just have her crying on the street being lost and alone), and that suggests she was about to do something extremely dangerous with the child.
@wmdkitty
Жыл бұрын
Your ex is a liar, too.
@MetalHeadKendra
Жыл бұрын
@@wmdkitty I guess you must know her then, huh?
@leviathanhomecooking
Жыл бұрын
In regards to the pregnancy story: everything worked out perfectly in that both people got to decide whether or not to be parents, including the father, which he should be grateful for because fathers have no legal rights when it comes to abortion. She didn't have to have his kid, but now he's being a butthole because he's regretting his choice.
@justinhill7224
Жыл бұрын
Totally agree with you
@cielbie8251
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, father's don't have legal rights when it comes to abortion, because forced pregnancy is considered torture under international law...
@Donnerwamp
Жыл бұрын
Yes, she didn't want the child, he wanted it, so she withdrew from raising him. She does more than I'd ever expect from her if I were in this situation, so OP wants his cake and eat it too.
@cyrian2591
Жыл бұрын
The only thing I can say about that story is there are women who are in the same situation as that father saying the same things but they get support from social media
@slimecorn
Жыл бұрын
Where?
@looseflyingtoughts
Жыл бұрын
One of my best friends is diagnosed with DID. DID is VERY real. It comes from continuous abuse between the ages of 1 to 9 years old. The brain split the core personality as way to protect the person from the trauma. People with DID have trouble with memory, depression, isolation and a lot of judgment. But the Op's SIL does not have DID. Especially if she doesn't have trauma. Let me clarify, the trauma we are talking about is deep, painful trauma for a lot of time. Children who have been sexual abused, spanked or tortured for a long time can have DID.
@breestringham1063
Жыл бұрын
To be fair, there is not a threshold of abuse needed. While more common with deeper trauma, it's possible with what could be considered lesser trauma. That being said, it doesn't sound like she has it. And even if she does, she's a danger to the kid. Someone with DID doesn't just become a danger out of nowhere. The fact they tried to take the child is cause enough to not let them see them.
@EnragedErin
4 ай бұрын
As a person with DID I can tell you that I want to keep it quiet. I don't keep it a secret, but at the same time I don't draw attention to it unless I feel it's worth mentioning. Even then, the most my alter ego does is sit quietly and eat spicy food while also teasing my husband. I don't let her become public if I can help it, though even if she does get out, she just keeps to herself and only talks to people SHE trusts versus people I trust. The only common person both me and my alter ego share trust in is my husband, hence the teasing. I'm getting the feeling this girl is doing it for attention, because at this point it's insulting to those of us who do suffer from it. I get she may have some form of mental illness, but come on! If her boyfriend really does love her or care for her in any regard other than just a warm body, he'll do what he can to protect and prevent his girlfriend from exposing herself as an attention-seeker/creep and stop the harm that will undoubtedly come to OP's daughter. This is out of line and they need to draw the line in the sand and stand firm on their convictions.
@kyuubi_4.420.
Жыл бұрын
Story 2 : you got what you asked for. She knew she didn't want the baby.
@mariposa9506
Жыл бұрын
But the baby exists.
@aaronburr956
Жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506And he gets to take care of it like he wanted, so whats the problem
@c-girl1216
Жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506Doesn’t mean she has to be in the babies life. She’s ensuring the baby she helped make will be financially stable and that’s all she really has to do. Would the kid be better of with a mom, sure. But she doesn’t have to fill that role if she doesn’t want to.
@It-is-me...Melsie
Жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506 You can't force someone to love a kid. And you certainly shouldn't be trying to force them into spending time with a kid that they want nothing to do with.
@junebug3755
Жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506yes because he convinced her to make the baby exist. She wanted to choose abortion. He convinced her not to, and the plan/expectation was that he could be a parent and she would not. She pays child support. That’s enough. OP got what he wanted.
@liquidcyanide8208
Жыл бұрын
That second story. She didn’t like the kid. She respected OP’s desire to have a child. Now shocked Pikachu face that she doesn’t want to be involved in the child’s life.
@Beeba10
Жыл бұрын
I've only seen a couple of content creators with DID (who are on social media to spread awareness), but those couple I've seen are EXTREMELY protective of their child alters (known as "littles"). They rarely, if ever, post videos involving their littles, and only do so with express permission from the littles - which is difficult, because littles have the mind of a child. They see it as the same as protecting a physical child from the internet.
@EMBERLYVOID
Жыл бұрын
While some people let their littles on social media, we personally do not do it publicly, and the idea of doing that scares the absolute fuck out of me as a caregiver. I don't really fakeclaim people, but like. She probably shouldn't be doing that shit. We have specific spaces online we let them on just like any other kid. We find little friendly spaces, have people to supervise, and only let them converse with friends who are also systems. Letting your littles post on tiktok of all places... A no go from me.
@Beeba10
Жыл бұрын
@@EMBERLYVOID absolutely agree
@wmdkitty
Жыл бұрын
Fakes. All of them.
@Kat-queenofnerds
11 ай бұрын
makes sense. what kind of awful person would want to exploit the 'littles' in thier system, never mind monetising them for profit
@Starfloofle
11 ай бұрын
I can confirm. Truth be told she and I aren't so different since our situation is... A bit different from how I've always read anecdotal talks about it happening (ours came from recovering from amnesia) but I would NEVER put her in a position where someone could hurt her. I'm the protective big sister in this little dynamic and you better believe nobody's allowed to interact with her except for the friend equivalent of trusted family. I just know a teeny tiny few people I've met by happenstance who have the condition, I've never really sought out others (partly from fear that what makes me weird might be weird for their weird. ...does that make sense...?) But I just cannot *believe* that there are people who pretend this sort of stuff just for *attention.* It, like, I dunno, it triggers something primal in me and makes me irrationally angry to even imagine the level of disrespect required to even THINK to do that. Seeing someone confirm that those who legitimately have this going on *aren't* so unhinged as to be monsters who use their littles for attention and profit puts my mind mildly at ease but oh my *goodness* I got upset listening to that story. Like... I mean, if that were a kink of hers I mean sure whatever that'd be different- inappropriate, but... pretending to... be... someone *else's kid...* like-- I'm bluescreening trying to figure out the logic. holy hell I- that's a *special* kind of unhinged. That lady needs serious therapy.
@lucere3674
Жыл бұрын
Kelvin probably had coworkers making a,"work wife", kind of joke about them because how close OP and Kelvin seemed to be. Then OP didn't realize that the people that use that term just like making trouble. Its basically the adult equivalent of kids saying a couple wants to make out because they talked once on the playground.
@orchidoxs126
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: Yeah that's on you. I completely understand being burnt out. But teying to push her to having your son is shitty to your son. Forcing someone who doesn't want to take care of that child, is gonna be harmful to your son. I suggest asking family, or hiring a baby sitter so you can get time to yourself for a few hours. Maybe ask sime friends to babysit (of course paid.)
@orchidoxs126
Жыл бұрын
Story 3 op is delusional
@erratickatgaming1240
Жыл бұрын
The last story, I think OP has created an unhealthy attachment, due to him helping her as a mentor. Maybe that was the first time someone showed her positive attention (in an authoratative role). I assume he never thought of her the same way, because he originated as her mentor. My guess is her "wife" status is a workplace joke, rather than everyone agreeing they should be together.
@xKCAZxLEADER
Жыл бұрын
First Story: Usually what people do when they have disorders like this is to get professional help. Is this girlfriend recent? If so, this is just straight up creepy and abnormal. Her "alter" is specifically OP's daughter...yeah she needs help. OP's wife's reaction is 100% justifiable. The fact that she didn’t get a professional diagnosis and refuses to get therapy raises a lot of red flags; also a red flag is the fact this behavior started after OP's wife refused to let the girlfriend babysit the kids Update 1: The fact OP's brother thinks that OP and his wife owes that woman an apology is baffling. Also, she posts this on TikTok!? Yeah, at that point I don’t believe she has DID. I don’t know a lot about the disorder but I highly doubt people with it would want to post it on the internet for clout Update 2: Good on the nanny for what she did. I 100% believe this woman was going to kidnap this three year old. The fact she literally RAN after the nanny and tried to tell the child to tell the nanny she knew her is a big red flag Second Story: Honestly OP brought this all on himself. She didn’t want the kid but OP did so he has the kid. She pays the child support so she isn’t a deadbeat. OP has to face the consequences of his choices. Good luck OP if he tries to get split custody but I doubt OP will get far Third Story, YTA/ESH?: I’m torn between YTA and ESH because OP shouldn’t be telling someone what to do and not marry someone. However, I find it really weird that Kelvin sleeps in the same bed as OP and does other things besides having OP cook or do the laundry for him which is weird. Basically, I can’t tell if Kelvin intentionally led her on or OP thought the feelings were mutual and has it stuck in her head that she and Kevin would be together. This story is also weird when Kelvin rejected her twice
@Diamondr11Blue
Жыл бұрын
She'll get help in jail🤷♂️
@TheImaggine
Жыл бұрын
are we sure this is real and not a cover up for her diaper/baby fetish? She behaves like a 3 y old but is fully capable of understanding and speech. Riiiiight....no. People with a bit of sanity, if they have childhood trauma, get therapy; This one did none of those things so I have my doubts about it being legit.
@xKCAZxLEADER
Жыл бұрын
@@Diamondr11Bluemost likely 🤷🏾♂️
@nikitatavernitilitvynova
Жыл бұрын
I follow a singer with dissociative disorders. And she does post about it. Just not in that way. She just talks about her experience and how she feels and the help she's getting. And just overall spreading positive vibes. Not looking for clout.
@juliaboskamp9666
Жыл бұрын
It's discussing that someone fakes a sireus metal disorder there are people that suffer from d.i.d and aren't taken sireus because of people like brother's girlfriend
@WolfenMoony
Жыл бұрын
The way I interpret the last story is that OP just crashes in her mentor's house every now and then, probably because she had a bad time or she made an excuse, she gives the vibes of an obsessive person who fantasied every aspect of her life with someone who doesn't owe her an explanation of their lives, it's a mentor nothing more. She went far and beyond because "she planned a life with hiiiiimmmm" and he is not into her at all. Awkward. Really awkward. She had issues in her life and to me is clear she has attachment problems, she gets attached to the people that helped her to the point of falling for someone who is not interested in her. I do believe he laughed and gave her excuses to not hurt her feelings because it seems she is insistingly clinging to him at every turn. Making everything awkward and hard to not confrontational people to try and not hurt her feelings whilst keeping their distance. If I have to guess based on what it was posted, she gives major red flags everywhere of a stalky person, or at the bare minimum an overly clingy person with the one she is "in love" with. Whatever the case, she has no business in meddling with another person's life like she did. Edit: ALSO the guy said he sees her as a sister, clear as day he was never into her romantically and just gave her a space to crash or to hang out, OP doesn't mention that he is present when she is there. The holes are all over the place with her wording, but this type of people like OP I'm fairly familiar with, I don't think I missed anything there but one is human and can make mistakes. I probably didn't though.
@vanzy01
Жыл бұрын
😮
@Arthion
Жыл бұрын
Either that or she has spare keys and sneaks in when he's not at home.. either case he's been trying to reject her nicely, perhaps too nicely even, although that might depend on if she's entirely mentally well or not.
@lisah.3616
Жыл бұрын
Story 3: They're not living together -- she says she goes to HIS home. I think she's as nuts as the first chick. She has been imagining this life together while he has been trying to shut her down and she has not been hearing him.
@Will_._
Жыл бұрын
First story: wouldn’t that be extremely dangerous if she’s driving? Shouldn’t that get treatment immediately if she’s not making it up?
@destinedtogame
Жыл бұрын
Dated someone with DiD and yes it's dangerous
@kheldaur2107
Жыл бұрын
Of course she´s making it up.
@Aryasvitkona
Жыл бұрын
@@destinedtogameI wouldn't say it's that dangerous, but it definitely can be. Dissociation can be a dangerous thing sometimes, especially in public. Switching is less dangerous though, the body still knows what to do, though they shouldn't do it especially if they're a young alter
@destinedtogame
Жыл бұрын
@@Aryasvitkona I was speaking about my ex. She had a 3 and 7 year old. It was a scary situation when the 3 year old took over.
@annieaniiee
Жыл бұрын
Yes, its pretty dangerous. I was officially diagnosed in March after being put through intensive care because I had a break down and don't remember 2 weeks of my life. That whole time, I was apparently a cold hearted person who didn't care about people's feelings, I lead people on, I flirted with people I shouldn't have, and I didn't even get to grieve the loss of my family pet because I, the real me, wasn't aware at all. It all stemmed from extreme stress. After going through therapy and still am, we realized I've had these moments since I was a teen and that's why I have such a spotty memory. I always thought I just had a bad memory. I will say that now that I've been diagnosed, it's not easy. The people who know, including my parents, will sometimes say things like 'you probably dissociated and that's why you don't remember agreeing to this" which is also very dangerous if it came to a stranger. I hope that all makes sense and sheds some light on how bad this can be. As for the GF, I 100% believe she's faking it for attention and needs help.
@dangeroushanako5623
Жыл бұрын
Story 2 the guy is basically an abuser, coerced birth is a form of domestic violence and he even commented on "how he tought she would bond with the baby over pregnancy and change her mind" like, WTF how disgustingly delusional can you be? these are the comments he made on his own post that rSlash didn't share in the video for nome clarity: "She is a deadbeat. She doesn't have anything to do with him and has left me to do everything as a single parents. I want to know if I have any legal options to make her help parent the child she helped create." "I want the courts to give her visitation or custody so that I can have a break and she can actually parent her child. I'm not on public assistance because with my job and her support I don't qualify." "I never thought that she could turn her back on her own child. I honestly thought she would bond during the pregnancy and would eventually change her mind. Even if she turned down my offer to be in a relationship I never thought she would actually abandon him without a thought and without seeing him or even trying to know his name or sex. She was so drugged up during the birth that I don't even think she knows if he was born before or after midnight. I didn't expect it to go like this to be honest." -- this one is the most disgusting one, he literally confesses everything.
@mariposa9506
11 ай бұрын
What a load of crap
@eyebright3969
11 ай бұрын
I've only listened to the first post and none of the updates so far, but I have to say: As someone with DID, SIL desperately needs help. She needs to be kept away from that family at all costs and she needs help in processing whatever it is she's going through. Her partner is right in saying that this is a difficult topic to bring up as dissociative amnesia (not remembering what happens when you're a different alter) is a real thing and her partner is right in saying this needs to be handled a certain way because of her trauma so not to hurt her, but if she is unable to stop switching to the child introject around the real actual child then her mind has formed a severely unhealthy attachment to the child and she needs to be kept away. All this being said, thank you RSlash for agreeing that you don't know about DID and it is a disorder that SIL could have- Honestly I was frightened when I realized this was a story about DID that you would say something drastically hurtful about everyone with the disorder because of this one woman, but I'm glad to see you recognize it as something people do struggle with while also making it clear that SIL's behavior is frightening
@theyo-kaiguy
Жыл бұрын
My theory on the first story which is even more scary than what RSLASH is thinking, is that the brother and his girlfriend are obsessed with OP's daughter and the attempt at the park with the nanny was an attempt to kidnap OP's daughter because you know she's obsessed, which may also explain why she has an altar of her niece, I agree with the OP of that story, his brother's girlfriend is 100% crazy. I also know that “dissociative identity disorder” (DiD) was formally known as “multiple personality disorder“ (MPD), but this kind of begs the question wouldn’t you want to get help for DID if you have it? Which leads me to two scenarios. 1: she’s faking it to get attention. 2: (which is what I’m leading towards) she’s using DID as a smoke screen to cover up her obsession with her niece.
@gwensday12
Жыл бұрын
I have a couple friends with DID and that girl is literally the reason those friends are scared to tell people about it. I really hope she gets help and figures out what’s going on, but I’m the mean time OP and the family did the right thing by keeping distance.
@EMBERLYVOID
Жыл бұрын
I lost friends due to having it so ya. I hate this lady. System accountability is needed and she scares me. :(
@kittybatpurrs
Жыл бұрын
yup, exactly. as someone with OSDD, i just don't talk about it because i don't want people to think i'm some lunatic. in reality, i just am a bundle of goofballs haha
@wmdkitty
Жыл бұрын
Your friends are faking it for attention.
@TheArtist666
11 ай бұрын
@@wmdkitty Say that to me and my multiple friend's Dissociative Identity Disorder diagnosis'
@TheWriter999
11 ай бұрын
@@wmdkitty You wanna argue that with me and all of my alters individually, buddy?
@Pandanas666
2 ай бұрын
1st story : Let's say the girl do have the disorder. Well, first rule of systems (people with multiple alters) : No matter what alter is out, you are responsible for the whole system decisions. She shouldn't have done that, and the adult alter need to assume what her 3yo alter did wrong. Also, she needs to find a way to teach her 3yo alter how to behave, like with any other kid.
@slytherinlibrarian3501
Жыл бұрын
The super creepy thing about the 'Avelyn' alter is that brother has been dating his GF for a year. It's uncommon to meet a partner's family right away, so how long has she really known OP and his family? She seems to have met his daughter once or twice and jumped right into her 'I become this child _I just met_ because of my childhood trauma' story.
@sosansational
Жыл бұрын
the OP on the first story saying “i don’t believe in DID, it’s a fad” is why people with DID are never taken seriously
@Natalie-xh6ph
Жыл бұрын
Tbf, most people posting it online are fakers.
@annabelfazukimi7902
Жыл бұрын
@Natalie-xh6ph this kind of proves the point that it makes things that much harder for people who DO
@YourPal1
Жыл бұрын
I can see why OP said that since many people are faking it on TikTok, causing the disorder to not be taken as seriously.
@Avrysatos
Жыл бұрын
This girlfriend's shenanigans make it harder for people to take DID seriously. There are a lot of people who do this stuff for attention, unfortunately. Social media makes it so alluring for these people. I feel bad for the people who have DID, as it's not a funny or quirky thing at all.
@hmspretender
Жыл бұрын
OP said he doesn't understand it but that he doesn't believe SHE has it. There's a difference. He's also saying that he doesn't believe the people on TikTok have it because of how all of that is. OP definitely does not seem one of the people who would make things difficult for actual sufferers.
@BrabbitHabit
20 күн бұрын
10:55 This one just makes me mad. They weren’t in a serious relationship when she got pregnant. She could’ve had an abortion and completely disregarded this guy’s feelings, but instead, she had the child, pays more than she’s required to for it (which I honestly think is partly or wholly coming from her parents bc I doubt they wanted her to have the child, either), and she gave the guy full custody. She even said she has no problem with someone else raising the kid with him if/when he gets married. But he insisted upon having a kid bc he probably thought it was gonna be all Disney trips and photo ops, and now that reality has hit, he’s overwhelmed and bitter. He even said he even resents his son. That’s the worst part of this. The kid didn’t ask to be born. The kid didn’t ask to be put in this situation. And bc this guy insisted she have him, now he’ll grow up in a world without his bio mom, with his dad resenting him, and who knows what kind of life he’ll have. With any luck, the father will marry and a woman will step in to help give this kid a good life, but based on the way this guy sounds, idk how likely that’ll be. He sounds impulsive, irresponsible, and even irrational. He wants to force the mother to take care of the kid. It actually does sound like he tried to baby trap her. I’m sure he thought she wouldn’t be able to resist parenting once she had the kid. Not everyone wants to be a parent. I applaud her for recognizing that she wasn’t in a place to be a parent and not just diving into this thing head first with this guy. So many people have kids and think they’ll just figure it out as they go and make it work and maybe that works for some but it certainly doesn’t work for all. Just look at all the choosing beggar posts by new parents that have literally no financial means to care for a kid and try to guilt trip complete strangers into funding them. I really hope this works out for the poor kid. Don’t bring children into the world unless they’re wanted and you’re prepared to do ALL the work required to raise them.
@DevilsPlaymate1
2 ай бұрын
There is three different types. And this is why self-diagnosis is not valid. IF and I really do mean IF she’s not lying which I absolutely believe it's not the most common one which is just “dissociative disorder. What she’d have (if any) is one of the other two. Seeing she seems to have psychotic episodes I really wouldn't be qualified to say even if I had the necessary information to take a guess. But here is some information about it. Dissociative disorders involve problems with memory, identity, emotion, perception, behavior and sense of self. Dissociative symptoms can potentially disrupt every area of mental functioning. Examples of dissociative symptoms include the experience of detachment or feeling as if one is outside one’s body, and loss of memory or amnesia. Dissociative disorders are frequently associated with previous experience of trauma. There are three types of dissociative disorders: * Dissociative identity disorder * Dissociative amnesia * Depersonalization/derealization disorder During a traumatic experience such as an accident, disaster or crime victimization, dissociation can help a person tolerate what might otherwise be too difficult to bear. In situations like these, a person may dissociate the memory of the place, circumstances or feelings about the overwhelming event, mentally escaping from the fear, pain and horror. This may make it difficult to later remember the details of the experience, as reported by many disaster and accident survivors. Dissociative identity disorder is associated with overwhelming experiences, traumatic events and/or abuse that occurred in childhood. Dissociative identity disorder was previously referred to as multiple personality disorder. Symptoms of dissociative identity disorder (criteria for diagnosis) include: * The existence of two or more distinct identities (or “personality states”). The distinct identities are accompanied by changes in behavior, memory and thinking. The signs and symptoms may be observed by others or reported by the individual. * Ongoing gaps in memory about everyday events, personal information and/or past traumatic events. * The symptoms cause significant distress or problems in social, occupational or other areas of functioning. In addition, the disturbance must not be a normal part of a broadly accepted cultural or religious practice, for example in some cultures they believe in possession. And yhst would not fall under this disorder.
@salemontrial7
Жыл бұрын
As someone with Borderline Personality Disorder and has a friend with DID, I know a fair bit about cluster B personality disorders and DID. I was suspecting that she was faking her DID, the way she was acting when she got caught in the daughters room at the party seemed very strategized and planned out. I feel like Histrionic Personality Disorder would make sense, but cluster B disorders also usually stem from trauma (not always but that's usually the case) so to play devil's advocate for a moment maybe there was abuse outside the family? Regardless, I think it's much more likely to be HPD and/or good ol age regression as a coping mechanism, and regardless she's still a massive AH. DID, HPD, or any other mental issue she has doesn't exclude her from just being a bad person.
@DeadDancers
Жыл бұрын
Last story: sad but predictable. OP has clearly been deluding herself for a while and Kelvin has tried to redirect her attentions kindly, but that’s not enough when OP has fixated and thinks she really has a chance. Kelvin should have been honest that he was in another relationship rather than the ‘I’m not ready for one with anyone’ - at least after it did eventually happen. But who could not have seen that coming except the deluded OP?
@sydneyyxD
Жыл бұрын
Second story: That is the epitome of "want the cake and eat it too" the mom was 1000% clear that she had no intention of being a mom. It was not a case of bait and switch. OP chose to MAKE her have a baby she didn't want and is now mad that he's a single parent. Which is absolutely because he did not think about what being a parent actually means. I.e. it means sacrifice in every sense of the word, like he now knows. The whole thing is sad, but at the same time really intentional. Third story: Op needs to go see a therapist and figure out how to build herself for herself. She attached herself to a "savior" type person. And he used her in some ways. Especially the staying in the same bed but saying he's not interested. That's SUPER weird.
@crazypyp5871
Жыл бұрын
Question on the have your cake and eat it too phrase. What does that even mean? Like logically, if you buy cake it’s because you obviously want to eat it. I agree with you on your verdicts but what does the phrase mean when it makes no sense.
@thehanniye
Жыл бұрын
@crazypyp5871 it means you want to have a cake and also eat it. So you want to have a complete cake to admire and have on display.... but you also want to eat it. So you want to do both. But after it's eaten, the cake is gone so it conflicts with wanting to have the cake on display. It means you can't have everything you want because it can conflict with each other.
@justcomments
11 ай бұрын
Even if the person hadn’t successfully kidnapped the child, the fact that the TikTok account uses a child’s real name is terrifying enough. She’s putting a real child in the spotlight for predators to see
@copernicusepoch
Жыл бұрын
In the "deadbeat mom" story, it sounds like the guy is just facing the consequences of his own actions lol Edit to add: I would feel the exact same if the sexes were reversed so stop asking lol. If the father doesn't want a child and the mother insists, it's the mom's responsibility to raise the child.
@lorilancaster5917
Жыл бұрын
If ex is over paying for child support what is he doing with the money? He could use some for childcare.
@danielbrant6740
Жыл бұрын
Dude _literally_ fucked around & found out.
@Ironraven001
Жыл бұрын
@@danielbrant6740 Haha based comment
@dudeorduuude5211
Жыл бұрын
I expect you to say the same when the genders are reversed. The woman is cold and something is wrong with her. But can't fault her for not paying nor being upfront.
@dianagraham5945
Жыл бұрын
She is paying, more than court mandated. If all men did this single moms would be better off.
@BeeTeaDubs
11 ай бұрын
🙄Ok I need to say this. I have been twice diagnosed with CPTSD & DID. I promise you this is absolutely NOT how DID works. It literally impossible for this to be true & I highly doubt this is psychosis. She is choosing to behave this way IMO. Clearly she has been sucked into faking disorders like the teenagers on TikTok, which is extremely offensive & dangerous. I'm so fed up with this BS trend. What I go through everyday is not fun or a joke! Its a constant struggle. Tell her to delete her TikTok account. apologize to everyone involved & get help!
@andronaristy3144
10 ай бұрын
I have DID as well and while I disagree about DID TikTok being inherently bad, I was thinking largely the same thing :/
@Ahrpigi
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: dude, you got exactly what you asked for. She's not a deadbeat if she's paying support. You made your bed dude, you gotta lie in it.
@mariposa9506
Жыл бұрын
Do you feel that way when roles are reversed?
@Ahrpigi
Жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506 Yes? Literally no difference if it was the woman who *_asked_* for full custody and the dad is paying (in this case more than) full child support.
@tbnrwolff3354
Жыл бұрын
@@mariposa9506if you're a pregnant woman you could kill a child scratch that not kill sorry murder a child she didn't choose to do that so don't talk about deadbeat dads unless you're going to talk about pregnant women murdering innocent children who haven't even been born yet
@BDM276
Жыл бұрын
What you say is true, but I wouldn't give him a BH score. It just sounds like he's having a hard time doing it alone. He underestimated how difficult it would be. And I understand that. Granted, he has no right expecting anything of the mother, but it's an emotional response because of a difficult situation. That makes him human, not an Ah.
@wammmmy
Жыл бұрын
@@tbnrwolff3354you really just wanna start conflict with people, what a sad life
@erinclark5681
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: When her folks mentioned she has histrionic personality disorder, light bulbs went off. I'm absolutely no medical expert, but histrionic is characterised by attention seeking, manipulation, and inappropriate (often sexual) behavior. There ya go!
@Budderkitty
Жыл бұрын
that makes me feel a little better. I have DID and the fact that she was acting like that with the assumption of DID is annoying and disrespectful.
@It-is-me...Melsie
Жыл бұрын
Thank goodness the OP and his wife are sensible and are making sure she stays away from them and their children.
@VarmintLP
10 ай бұрын
4:40 does she have a job? How does she deal with that? Or does the alter ego only come out whenever it "suits" her time wise?
@dianagraham5945
Жыл бұрын
Now you know what single mothers go through. Sucks doesn't it. At least she pays support above what is mandated...that's the only difference. Lol!! Nice to see you got what you wanted. ❤
@MsTemptation
Жыл бұрын
Lol, ikr. You have some parents who would kill just to get the child support they’re due but we know that it’s not about the child support. He wanted her but she didn’t want him. He probably poked holes in the condoms because the pill isn’t 100% reliable. Then the stunt where he was trying to force the ex to visit his son. The very son he got full custody of and is receiving more money in child support for then the court required.
@beautifulmidnight
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, this guy gets a big “womp womp”.
@j3pelfrey
8 ай бұрын
If she can't remember when she has an episode then why would she think she needs an apology?
@kittyprydegirl9372
Жыл бұрын
As someone who actually suffers with D.I.D and has been diagnosed and has been going to treatment in therapy for years, she was 100% using this as a way to get attention because you just don't have alters based off of real life people in your life that's just so messed up, also this gives a really bad name to anyone who has the disorder...
@EMBERLYVOID
Жыл бұрын
..... Getting alters based off of real people you know is actually one of the major symptoms of it, but like... Still what she did was fucked up and system accountability is a thing that needs to be taken into consideration here... A lot of people actually get alters of their abusers, which I'm lucky not to have done. But ya.
@bernieheartdragon1888
Жыл бұрын
And that's on histrionic pd
@wmdkitty
Жыл бұрын
You're faking it.
@kittyprydegirl9372
11 ай бұрын
@@wmdkitty I'll take the word off my licensed therapist over ya, but thank you anyways 🥰🥰
@tadweird1766
11 ай бұрын
@@kittyprydegirl9372 Don’t mind them. They keep trolling other people’s comments, too.
@Jo-yp8wy
11 ай бұрын
1) so she can't remember "episodes" of being a 3 year old, but her 3 year old self can make tictoks and go to the park? Absolutely believeable 🙄
@IsYitzach
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I've come across a DID youtube channel. The system generally doesn't put the "littles" on KZitem. I also find that odds of an alter being a specific real person, especially a niece, highly unlikely. Histrionic personality disorder is much more likely than DID. "Histrionic personality disorder (HPD) is a mental health condition marked by unstable emotions, a distorted self-image and an overwhelming desire to be noticed. People with HPD often behave dramatically or inappropriately to get attention." - Cleveland Clinic. Cut that off and do not engage.
@spidrscared84
11 ай бұрын
7:34 no way this is for awareness. OP said she doesn’t even remember when she goes into this alternate identity. So she’s unaware she’s promoting awareness? This is why I hate TikTok. Fake, fake, fake, fake kids and sadly young adults who crave fame and attention. Faking so many disorders
@d.phantomfan1216
Жыл бұрын
Story 2: Yeah R/ pretty much summed it up. She had this baby for you, and just because this was more then you expected doesn't give you the right to force motherhood on her when she made it clear. Also even if you could force her it wouldn't help, that poor kid would feel her resentment towards him, and he'll be negative effect so you can have some me time. And no this isn't because he's a man and she's a woman.
@nharviala
11 ай бұрын
I had my mom (social worker who works to diagnose mental disorders and work with treating them) listen to the story when KCC put it out. She knew right off the bat it wasn't DID, it was likely another kind of mental disorder. I forgot the name, but it's where you hear about a disorder, and absolutely believe you have it, copying the symptoms, exceptionally common among wealthier kids as a subconcious means to get attention from usually distant parents. Issue is, they're so set in the victim mentality, they don't want to work on "getting fixed".
@shannonp1656
Жыл бұрын
Just looked up histrionic personality disorder as mentioned in story 1. That seems more likely than dissociative identity disorder in this case. I am by no means experienced in either but do read a lot and have fallen down some rabbit holes.
@MurrayR_G
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: yeah this sounds like she is upset about not being allowed near the kid and uses DID as an excuse please get a restraining order on her and the brother if he allows this to continue Story 2: yeah OP brought this on himself and the mom is just living her best life Story 3: YTA sounds like op needs a therapist asap before she does something she regrets
@fleridanfox6150
Жыл бұрын
from what I know about DID, there’s at least one other identity in the persons head, and they try to work together to function in the same body. They don’t try to assume the identity of a whole other person. They don’t try to beg for attention or be creepy with their alters. And it can be very disorienting when different identities take over, because memories aren’t always shared throughout the system. I’ve talked to a few systems and they’re generally just working and talking together and giving each other reminders throughout the day. They’re pretty cool! Just have a lot of things to work out
@DaniS398
Жыл бұрын
Man, I hate when my 3 year old creates tiktoks and tries to abduct his peers. That 2nd story: lol dude expected her to have the baby and magically fall in love and give him his perfect little family. She made it clear she didn't want to be pregnant or be a mother, but she sacrificed her body and her health for 40 weeks because he said HE wanted to be a father. She gave him exactly what he asked for. Some people KNOW without a doubt, that they don't want to be parents.
@shadamy4ever212
Жыл бұрын
RSlash people with DID don’t choose that alter, it’s based on triggers. Certain things can trigger Alters to front and there is amnesia between some alters. Some people with children alters have said that toy stores or children items can encourage a child alter to front. It’s not a choice. Just wanted to give that info. Edit: I am not defending the woman who is pretending to have the disorder, I just wanted to share some info on how the disorder works. The woman who is claiming to have it is clearly pretending for attention.
@wingracer1614
Жыл бұрын
I'm no professional but one thing I definitely know is that mental disorders are not one size fits all. Everyone is at least a little unique. It would not surprise me if in all the case studies of this disorder or other similar ones, there are at least a few who had alts of someone they knew. I'm not saying that's the case in this instance, I have no idea, just that the possibility can not be dismissed completely. Again, not saying it is the case here, like you I suspect she is faking it but to me the tik tok thing is a clearer indicator than the alt.
@justkibby5959
Жыл бұрын
You dont take someone else's identity with DID, you create unique personalities. PA I'm guessing is personal assistant
@LadyFluffistein-oj3dj
Жыл бұрын
No, there are alters that is a copy of something . Mostly tv characters, DID is unique to each person.
@MetallicPetals
Жыл бұрын
I remember dating a woman with DID and the symtoms seem to match up, though take this with a mountain of salt bigger than Everest. Anyway, this isn't normal, not even for people with DID, so she needs profesional help ASAP.
@anonymouslee2083
11 ай бұрын
Even if the mental illness was 100% legitimate, you have every right to be in fear for the safety of your infant child. They have every right not to allow her anywhere near the child.
@karenayers2122
Жыл бұрын
I do have a friend that has DID, and it took years for her to be diagnosed. Alters do not want to come out because they are afraid of the abuse they endured during their child hood. They are made up in the mind of the person to protect them not to exploit them. Can a 3 year old use a phone to put out Tic Toc's
@lilyvelvet6669
Жыл бұрын
I have DID clinically diagnosed. I have been in clinical therapy for over 5 years on a weekly basis. I’m just now FINALLY getting integrated. That means I’m healing and may soon no longer need therapy for that DID. The only people who can properly diagnose anyone’s mental status are medical professionals. A non-medical person has not right to judge another person’s mental health or lack thereof. It like assuming someone in a wheel chair is “faking” because they appear to have legs. I have child alters. They consider my husband a father figure because he takes care of them when they are out. It’s not a kink. It’s a way to heal from trauma. Even if it is imaginary it actually does work and can bring on healing when handled with love and care. I refuse to leave the house when I’m altered and return home as fast as I can when I do shift. I never go out alone. My husband knows when I’m altered and makes sure I’m safe and not doing inappropriate things. If she’s behaving in a dangerously or inappropriately there are safe and respectful ways to deal with that that don’t involve calling her a psycho and further traumatizing her.
@Supaawesomeification
Жыл бұрын
There was a while where I was really interested in DID and tried to learn a lot about it. From what I’ve seen, those with the disorder who have especially young alters always try to protect and hide them for various reasons. Even DID content creators almost always keep those young alters off camera. I don’t trust this story after that tiktok revelation
@xerofelix7090
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: So, I'm not a psychiatrist, but I have done an unhealthy amount of rabbithole- diving on DID, and I have been following it for almost 20 years. It's still *super* controversial in the psychiatric community, as cases of DID didn't really start popping up until Sybyl the movie became popular. Most agree that it's likely that a rare few cases are authentic, but that most are faked at least "caused" by people mimicking DID depictions on tv. Some professionals believe that all cases are fake, but most believe that at least a few are fake. That said, I have never heard of a DID paitent having an alter of a person they know, much less some else's child. It's supposedly alters of YOUR personality, not someone else's. Not to mention, planning to kidnap the girl suggests that she is indeed falling out and wants the girl gone so she gets more attention. So basically, she's probably just a narcissist and not someone with DID.
@hmspretender
Жыл бұрын
Story 1: I don't believe she has DID, ESPECIALLY because she does this for TikTok fame. I do believe she has something going on, by choice or not, where she's easily fixated on having a child that isn't hers. I'm glad the family was able to 5150 her and i hope she gets the help she needs.
@buddyburrows
Жыл бұрын
10:46 the title is how it should stay. She respected your wishes in not terminating your child, but also made it clear she didn't want the child. You decided to keep it, that's it. If she doesn't want to be involved at all then you really shouldn't get anything
@leviuzumaki3903
11 ай бұрын
Story 1: I just want to say something D.I.D is a real disorder yes, however usually it comes from childhood trauma, and it’s actually a lot more subtle when people have it for the most part if that makes sense? Plus it usually doesn’t take the shape of someone else and develops a name of its own while yes it can take traits of an abuser or something it usually never mimics other people… this also means a lot of people tend to fake having D.I.D especially with the recent popularity of a movie called beast? Or something, and so they pretend to have D.I.D as a way to get away with abusive behavior towards there partners or ways to get them to do something that they don’t want to do. D.I.D is a real thing but just be cautious because people can also be very odd.
@kuroi-higanbana
Жыл бұрын
Wow, the girl of the last story is all kinds of delulu. That sounds like the beginning of a true crime show. Hopefully Kelvin and Kiara will be safe
@Avalikia
Жыл бұрын
I'm not a psychologist, so take that into account with my comments, but for a non-psychologist I know a lot about DID, and I also know a lot about the internet fad of thinking you have DID when you absolutely do not. To clarify: the online fad of people who think they have DID are probably some combination of people who are flat out lying about it, and some people who probably actually do think that they have it because they got incorrect information about what it is and looks like. I've never heard of a single case where someone with actual DID had an alter who was another real person. Alters generally form around the time that the person was experiencing their childhood trauma - in this case before the niece would have been born, most likely - and they're they're own, unique personality, different from each other and the people around the person with DID. But alters may be of various ages, so someone having an alter that is 3 years old is something you'd see. But having an alter that is a specific 3 year old child outside of the person with DID is not. That sounds very, very much like the sort of idea that gets passed around the online fad of fake DID. So yeah, I 100% think the girlfriend doesn't have DID - definitely worried that she has something else, though...
@thetruth1816
Жыл бұрын
Story 1 : This chick has snapped and lost all semblance of reality... Update: yeaaah its for the best if the brother is willing to enable the girlfriend breakdown and not willing to get her help then he doesnt need to be around the kids.. Update 2 : Yeah shes a phony and the brother is playing along in order to get op kid and go to another part of the world.. Time to take out a protective order against the phony and the the brother as well.. Story 2 : she didnt want the kid but op you did now your struggling .. yeahhh this is gonna make me sound cold blooded jerk but let me play the world smallest violin for ya.. Story 3 : " am i the a hole for not wanting my mentor to be happy in life and not wanting him to upgrade " Yes op YTA..
@itzTeTe
Жыл бұрын
Not the violin 😂
@dovahkiin6488
Жыл бұрын
I found the violin part more funny than I should've 😆
@Sanodi21
Жыл бұрын
First story, that went from 0 to demonetization in record time. But at this point it's time to rally the family and put OP's brother on the spot. Either he breaks up with 'GF' and gets her to get help or he gets dropped. She's a genuine danger to OP's daughter, there's something very seriously wrong and it isn't DID, and hopefully their restraining order is granted. I'm worried she might sue her 'alters' to get around it though and still go after OP's daughter for God knows what. Third story, if just real quick, I think PA might be personal assistant?
@marshallpawpatrol6114
11 ай бұрын
Story 1, the gf is probably just unchecked abdl. She wants to be a toddler and expects people to treat her as such and claims mental disorder when she gets caught. Dont assume all abdl's are like this. Most have manners and dont go out of their way to put their wants on full display like this
@vhaelen326
Жыл бұрын
i actually know someone with that disorder, ironically its my brothers ex girlfriend, although i have never heard of someone with that disorder thinking they are someone SPECIFFIC as in someone who actually exists (not saying it isnt possible just saying i dont know of it) and while she doesnt allways remember everything that happened during such an episode she does remember that it happened
@36ydna
Жыл бұрын
The fact that the girl is posting it on TikTok proves that she knows exactly what she is doing. She needs to be sectioned!!!
@jam1494
Жыл бұрын
Your "WTFs" are completely justified here. That lady in story 1 is absolutely insane and needed professional help yesterday.
@1TotalJabroni
Жыл бұрын
I am a healthcare professional but I do not work in any kind of psychology field. But in my line of work I get the privilege of meeting and getting to know an incredibly diverse and wide array of people, and I feel very fortunate for this. About a year and half ago, and for approximately one year on and off, I worked with someone who had disassociative identity disorder. I just wanted to vouch that, yes, it is in fact a real thing, regardless of whether or not the person in the story had it or not. My patient eventually became very open with me and would try her best to describe her condition in great detail, and as I got more comfortable I would also ask lots of questions in which she would do her best to answer. While I won't go into any specifics, never once did I not believe her. And on days where other identities would be "captaining the ship" as she put it, there was just a stark and obvious difference. Over the year or so I intermittently worked with her I only got to meet 3 of her alternate selfs. Fantastic person, I still think about her and wish her the best. Sadly I am no longer at that clinic and she suddenly stopped attending.
@mxneater
Жыл бұрын
as someone with DID, i think the girlfriend in story 1 has HPD (the personality disorder mentioned in the story). even if she does have DID, she isn't being responsible for her alter's actions
@Dwafford01
5 ай бұрын
I'll be honest, my step-daughter went through a similar process. She actually would revert from 18 to 4, and then revert back again. While we didn't know what was going on, the first thing we did was to record the events happening. We then rapidly got her booked into to psychtrists to get checked out. They got her onto the right meds and not only did it stop the process, it also stopped the random fainting that she used to suffer from from the time of 16. All of this was linked back to PTSD that she suffered with and unfortunately wasn't diagnosed correctly. Although we've had a hiccup now and then for the most part things have gone very well. Thankfully she just ultimately reverted back to when she was four, and didn't absorb anyone else's personality.
@gracielou1407
Жыл бұрын
Story 3: OP has an inappropriate attachment disorder to Kelvin who is partly responsible for not attending to this issue before it became a full-blown fantasy/delusion in her mind. He should have weaned her away a long time ago and not allowed her the extent of access to him. His discouragement always contains a ray of hope so it allows herself to fuel this fantasy and to confuse gratitude with love. His failure to deal properly with this situation may have very serious consequences that could result in physically harming his fiancé and/or himself. BTW: when she says that she lays on his bed she is doing so when he is not there. For some reason he has allowed her access to his apt/house possibly under the guise of a housekeeper/cook/maid. All I can say is that IMO he is piss poor at his job and lacks the right qualifications to be doing this line of work [psychology]. It should be noted that a PA course of study is about 18 months, considerably less than a nurse practitioner or a clinical psychologist.
@ghostgirl7089
Жыл бұрын
Edit: clarifying because people are misconstruing what I meant. DID is a very serious, real disorder. What I mean is this sounds more like Age Regression, and honestly even then shes also doing a terrible job with AR. Shes mocking DID. Shes mocking Age Regression by doing this. Shes mocking everything and is just a bad person. Gosh, this first story, if she wants to use age regression as a coping mechanism I personally dont see any issue with that AS LONG AS ITS IN YOUR OWN HOME AND NOT LITERALLY TRYING TO BE A REAL EXISTING CHILD, NOT BEING THE CHILD AND PLAYING IN A 3 YEAR OLDS ITEMS IN NOT HER OWN HOME. Like actually what the hell?? Thats not okay. Thats when it absolutely crosses a line.
@jordan9240
Жыл бұрын
i don't disagree, but age regression is not the same as having an alter who is younger. it's not something you choose to do to cope, it's an incredibly serious mental disorder. it sounds like this story in particular is, uh.... maybe not that case lol. but they are two different things!
@ghostgirl7089
Жыл бұрын
@@jordan9240oh no I 100% understand that. DID is real and I have seen it before. The issue is: this isnt DID. Its a mockery of DID. It sounds like more shes wanting to age regress, which hey thats fine, but hey thats not fine when your trying to age regress as your boyfriends 3 year old niece.
@vhaelen326
Жыл бұрын
classifying it as a coping mechanism is abit off the mark IMO, atleast for the people who actually have DID, i know someone who does have it (ironically its my brothers ex girlfriend but thats besides the point) the person in the story on the other hand... yeah i dont believe she has it, for multiple reasons, the main one is the tiktok account, such episodes come out of nowhere meaning it would be rather dificult to record them to the degree you can regularly upload them to tiktok, secondly if she as claimed in the story "doesnt remember afterwards" how did she make a tiktok account SPECIFICALLY for these videos?
@ghostgirl7089
Жыл бұрын
@@vhaelen326again I know DID isnt a coping mechanism and is a real disorder. I am saying this isnt DID. This sounds like this is age regression instead, not DID. Maybe I should have explained that in my point better, but shes mocking DID by doing this. The tiktoks are sooo telling though like what…
@vhaelen326
Жыл бұрын
@@ghostgirl7089 fair enough, then i retract my Statement
@ValkyrieAstra
10 ай бұрын
As someone with DID and child alters, I can offer a bit of insight here. Most alters (Not alter egos, that is not a correct term.) switch only in a safe environment. The disorder is meant to be more covert. Yes, some systems are more comfortable than others and switch more publicly (That's completely fine). There is always a chance that seeing all of the child objects and stuffed animals, ect could have triggered out a child alter. That said, Most systems have internal defenses in place to protect the children. So more often than not in these situations, 'protector alters' would come out and ensure the child goes back inside. This feels less like a 'child alter' and more like someone who does 'age regression'. You can see this in the way that she is /obstinately childish/. She /refuses/ to act like an adult, yet still understands adult concepts. Whereas a child alter is a literal child that is stuck in an adult body. Not to mention, the way she claims to be OPs daughter, tried to kidnap her, and has a TT for it.... its more likely that the brothers GF is someone who is a 'p-word' and has a fetish for this kind of thing, but uses a very real disorder as a cover so that 'no one can say anything'. "You can't yell at me, I have a disorder" Kind of mindset. Or that she's got Histronic Personality Disorder. I'm not a doctor though. It's unfortunate, but it happens a lot and gives the DID community a bad image. People with DID are not dangerous. DID is more common than people with red hair and is extremely stigmatized. People like the brothers GF are disgusting. ---- Also, it's not impossible for someone with DID to split a new alter based on someone they know. (Example: someone with DID and can't have kids, meets their niece or nephew, internally it could cause distress... which could cause them to split the child), however.... there's always a distinct knowledge of the difference between the two. DID wouldn't cause her to try and steal the baby, or kidnap them. In fact, they'd be more likely to be /ashamed/ of splitting the child and would likely hide them. Its true, you can't control who you split though, so things like this happen even against our will. It's the same reason some systems have fictional characters in their systems too. You can't control it. --- Self diagnosis is valid, as its a very covert illness and most of the time, people either don't know they have it, or they do. If you're questioning that you're a system, you should get looked into as soon as you can. But therapy isn't available to everyone. Sometimes, you really have no choice. Think of it this way: People who ARENT mentally ill, don't randomly think they're mentally ill, or begin to 'pretend' they are. Even if you think they're doing it for attention, people don't just randomly do that if they're mentally well. Sure, it may not be DID, but there is clearly SOMETHING wrong. Now, since she definitely has the resources available to her, sure there could always be a chance that there simply isn't a doctor nearby (DID requires a specialist for a diagnosis, and those are few & far inbetween), but some do online calls, so she's likely lying. OPs comment of 'I think a lot of people are faking' is stupid though. EVERY system is different and there haven't been a lot of studies or research into this disorder. We don't know a lot about it right now, unfortunately. -- Another note, the reason Alter ego is not a correct term anymore. Dissociative Identity Disorder used to be called 'Multiple Personality Disorder'. An ego is an aspect of self. An aspect of personality. The reason the name was changed is because it's not a personality disorder. It's an *identity* disorder. Every Alter(Alternate identity) is a person. They believe themselves to be completely different and wholly unique people. (In my experiences, they are.) Whereas a personality disorder affects YOUR behaviour, thoughts, and actions. But you are still the same singular person. ---- All in all, the brothers GF is a horrible person who is using a real disorder to excuse her disgusting behaviour and in turn spreading false narratives on the disorder and how it works. Every system is different, but i can guarantee you, she's not one. Hope this helps!
@MordorProject
Жыл бұрын
First story: WTH OP’s brother is doing with that crazy woman?!. She’s completely nuts!
@justda2ous
Жыл бұрын
"I am lost, I am confused, I am scared"... Oh no, it's contagious, rslash is also 3 now 😂
@grimlockgreg3063
Жыл бұрын
Ahh a new subreddit is the breath of fresh air we needed, good work Story one: okay I’m on op side but that paragraph make me hate him Story 2: you got what you want, just leave her alone Story 3: op need therapy, like yesterday,
@antonioAPH
Жыл бұрын
As someone who studied psychology in college and was planning on being a psychologist, DID is a disorder that usually starts as a young child gets horribly abused by an adult and builds personalities that take over during the abuse. People who have it cannot remember the actions of what happens when the other personalities come to play. One of the best treatments is learning you have it and seeing your alters via video or whatever. It’s a trauma response. HOWEVER I have never seen someone with DID pretend to actually be someone they know. Not only that but psychologists cannot agree if DID is actually a real thing or if people are faking it.
@maapauu4282
Жыл бұрын
Is "faking it" a bit misleading? It kind of implies that it's on purpose. Regardless on whether or not it exists, I don't think that they're all pretending
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