Hey everyone :) Today is a grey day and I hope you are snuggled inside and ready to watch my video! In today's video I am talking about parenting in Germany and what I find "strange" about it. Are you a mom in Germany? If so, do you enjoy it or not so much? Thanks for watching you guys and I am sending so much LIEBE your way
@clintonstahlman4618
5 жыл бұрын
You had better be a bit more circumspect. You can not send LIEBE through the airways! It is against the law! Not very smart Hayley.
@janethockey9070
5 жыл бұрын
Hayley Alexis Do a video collobration with Antoinette Emily
@tutnichtnotig1297
5 жыл бұрын
How many hours american kids watch tv/a day. Answer: 24/7/365. The rest of the year they play counter strike, take dads gun and storm the school and play ping pong. 😂😂😂😂
@victorselve8349
5 жыл бұрын
You don't have a kid locked up in the basement? So I guess it's locked up in the attic?
@JadeTsukasa
5 жыл бұрын
Anytime I had a German parent/parents at my preschool (preschool teacher here in America!) They are always the chilliest and most laid back parents ever. They let their children be children and let them experience the world on their own. American parents seem to be helicopter parents and watch EVERYTHING their child does at the park so they won’t get hurt. American parents are VERY into academics when it comes to their child’s education, but that depends on the area being wealthy or not. I love when my parents are German.
@AyumiKirifuda
5 жыл бұрын
In Germany we don't post pictures of the kids because even kids have a right of their picture. The police have a campain to don't put picture of our children on the internet.
@AhmetMurati
5 жыл бұрын
And why AOK has charged me 192 Euros for private healthcare despite I had 0 income during these months, no arbeitslosgeld I or II or Harz. They even have charged me with two months that I have worked in BW and AOK in Bayern has charged me with private healthcare. I went there and I told there that I have worked two months so the healthcare was paid at that time from my salary.
@manub.3847
5 жыл бұрын
We parents should also be aware that if we publish photos of them this way, our children can sue us in court. In Austria, an 18-year-old woman sued her parents in 2016. www.computerbild.de/artikel/cb-News-Internet-Kinderfotos-Facebook-Tochter-verklagt-Eltern-16322959.html
@lordeisschrank
5 жыл бұрын
@@manub.3847 good for her. Pisses me off to no end when I see parents treating their children like some sort of lifestyle accessory
@victorselve8349
5 жыл бұрын
@@lordeisschrank yes I think that is also a big point that if you post excessive amounts of pictures you'll very quickly be labeled as carrying more about you having a child than your child.
@WienerVL
5 жыл бұрын
@@manub.3847 Es ist vollkommen richtig dass es bei uns so ist!
@lenaha8321
5 жыл бұрын
Meine Mutter hat immer gesagt: "Du darfst so hoch klettern wie du willst, solange du alleine wieder runter kommst" Ich würde auch niemals bei wichtigen Themen auf Facebook um Hilfe fragen, weil da viele Menschen sind, die schlecht informiert sind. Zu dem TV gucken: ich glaube jeder hat von den Eltern oder so schon gesagt bekommen, dass man von zu viel Fernsehen viereckige Augen bekommt xD Stimmt natürlich nicht, aber viele Eltern wollen lieber, dass die Kinder mit anderen draußen spielen oder lernen, sich selbst zu beschäftigen. Wenn man den ganzen Tag fernsehen guckt, dann lernt man dadurch ja nicht viel. Durch den Kontakt zu anderen lernt man soziale Interaktionen, Empathie und sowas. Es geht da glaube ich eher um das Prinzip spielend lernen. Außerdem ist es ungesund für die Augen, stundenlang auf einen Fleck zu starren und frische Luft tut gut :) PS: Wenn die Kinder abends erschöpft sind, schlafen sie auch besser ein haha
@jenniferandrews6556
5 жыл бұрын
Meine Mama sagte immer...Ich ruf die Feuerwehr nicht an wenn du nicht runterkommen kannst......dann kam ich immer runter um ihr zu beweisen das ich runter kommen kann. Als ich aelter war sagte sie, sie sagte das um mir nicht angst zu machen wenn sie ihre angst zeigt und ausflippt. lol
@diewolfe2313
5 жыл бұрын
Die viereckigen Augen =) Hab mich früher, als kleines Kind, immer gefragt ob das wohl gehen würde und wenn ja wie es funktioniert. Hab aber nie jemanden in freier Wildbahn gesehen der viereckige Augen hatte, also bin ich davon ausgegangen dass es wohl eher nicht funktioniert =)
@witty2u
5 жыл бұрын
Hahahaha... Exactly...! My mom said the same... Solange du wieder alleine runter kommst... And when I climbed too high, and said I would not get down, I need help, she would say... You managed to get up, now you can get down by yourself too. 😂... And mostly I could... Lol.
@witty2u
5 жыл бұрын
You have added lots of valuable comments here and that's exactly how German kids are raised and the reason why we raise kids that way. We even have Waldkindergarten over here, where kids grow up in the forest, no matter the weather. They learn so many valuable things about food and nature and how to build stuff and most of all these kids are less sick than others. :) Gosh... My phone has a life of its own... Sorry about all the corrections.
@lulus8122
5 жыл бұрын
Meine Mutter hat immer gesagt, wenn ich runterfalle, krieg ich Ärger xD Im Sinne von "Dann hast du selbst Schuld, dafür gibts kein Mitleid" Was nicht heißt, dass ich nicht trotzdem getröstet wurde etc wenn was war, aber wenn ich selbst Schuld hatte, hat sie mir das auch deutlich zu verstehen gegeben ^^
@folkehoffmann1198
5 жыл бұрын
Well actually it is a fact that little kids cant grasp what they see on TV. Like their brains are not yet able to work it out. Plus I work in kindergarden in Germany and some kids just get really loud and wild if they dont get to go outside for too long (which means like for a few days). Like sometimes there is what we just call "der berühmte Montag Morgen" ("the famous monday morning") on which you can totally tell which kids got to play outside during the weekend and which kids didnt just because of their behavior.
@manub.3847
5 жыл бұрын
I remember our kindergarten mentioning a few times that our son should not have that much television. Funny only that he had only 2 times half an hour television time (1 cartoon + sandman) and he rarely succeeded, unauthorized in the morning at half past six, to turn on the TV on the weekend. Unfortunately, he had a lot of imagination and on the other side "huge ears" when older children talked about the "cool" series;)
@folkehoffmann1198
5 жыл бұрын
@@manub.3847 Well it depends on the age but I think for a kid of like 4-6 years 2*30 minutes in a week should still be okay. But trust me I have met kids of that age who told me about spiderman or who apparently get to play video games with violent content at home. Or they get to watch their parents play them. And this can also be seen in the way they play with other kids. Like when we go outside with them they sometimes are not creative enough to find something to play that doesnt involve violence. And I think it is sad that some parents let their kids watch things like that at such a young age.
@KaliqueClawthorne
5 жыл бұрын
@@manub.3847 For me it was the same in the 1990's - Because I say sentences from sooooo many advertisments, that it seems, that I watch much TV. But actually we only heared radio the whole day.
@meganepelletier853
5 жыл бұрын
I don't believe little kids don't grasp what they see on TV. They may not grasp everything, but they can pick up on a lot of things. I have watched several things with my much younger siblings and other children and the children are often engaged, that is, when other people around them are. TV can be used as entertainment, but it is also a great teaching support. You would be surprised how much children as young as 3 can understand in a documentary. They will ask questions and be interested if you give them the chance. And then they will talk about if in other contexts, or with friends and family. Even fiction entertainment shows can be beneficial. Some are indeed quite "braindead", but others are very formative. I loved to watch The Mysterious Cities of Gold as a kid, and even though it seems like a mere adventure show, it taught me a lot about the Empires of pre-Columbian America and their culture, as well as a fair amount of 16th century history; all things I went over in college history and anthropology classes eventually, and remembered. Sometimes it's not so much about not letting children watch TV, but about making sure the content they are consuming is beneficial in some way. The same goes for any other activity, wether it be board games or imaginary plays with friends. All things in moderation, and all given proper consideration! :)
@debbiehaak5862
5 жыл бұрын
Growing up watching TV during dinner was a rare treat. In the UK many people have "TV dinners" but honestly I prefer the German trend. Kids often open up during dinner about stuff during the day. It's good family time. I limit screen time too as kids end up relying on having screens to entertain themselves all the time. It's good to let them play outside or with toys. Rainy days or winter days are for movies and TV though
@LythaWausW
5 жыл бұрын
At first I thought you were referring to actual American TV dinners. We used to eat them when they were still packaged in tin foil. And we used TV trays to eat them on while watching TV. My dad still has TV trays. My favorite TV dinner: Salisbury Steak with mashed potatoes, carrots and peas (Banquet brand). There were no microwaves, so I suppose they came out of the oven.
@notyomama6153
5 жыл бұрын
American parents will have a sick child and literally ask their Facebook friends what to do😩 Y’all need healthcare available for everybody!
@Delvman
5 жыл бұрын
one of my best days was when i saw the panic in the face of some american friends of me when they realised that we are going to a german "Abenteuerspielplatz" with their and our children.
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
Lmao I can only Image those poor people being so scared 😂😂😂
@ZacSaleski
5 жыл бұрын
😮😮
@LythaWausW
5 жыл бұрын
@@HayleyAlexis It was one of my first culture shocks in Germany in 2005, those playgrounds-of-doom with the climbing net thingy. And omgosh teeter-totters. And no warning signs or minimum ages. And no "no shooting" signs.
@WienerVL
5 жыл бұрын
@@ZacSaleski Hi Zac! You dont only know how to become a footballplayer in europe....you also know how to find Hayley!;-)))
@taminy2051
5 жыл бұрын
To share or not to share baby or children's photos is also a question about the privacy rights of the child. Do you absolutely positively know that your child will be all right with all the photos you put online? Even when the child is 20, 30 or 40 years old? After all, the internet never forgets! Can you forsee future developments and dangers? In my family no photo of any of our kids with the face visible is online. By the way, I grew up without a telly and I haven't one now either.
@lmaolol773
5 жыл бұрын
That „ now you do“ at beginning of every video makes you very special..🤗
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
It is the signature HAYLEY trademark! It's fun to say :p
@ZacSaleski
5 жыл бұрын
That finger goin across the screen gave me some flashback lawd Jesus lol
@tasminoben686
5 жыл бұрын
Ich habe mich als Papa auch mit um meine Kinder gekümmert. Habe sie gefüttert, gewaschen und gewickelt. Und ich möchte diese Zeit nicht missen!
@gerdipediaTV
5 жыл бұрын
My grandma always had great sayings on it. She always said a child needs his dose of dirt every day to be healthy. Yes, that's right, many children develop alergies if they are always brought up clinically pure. And grandma always said that if we get injured again, a good one will endure, for the other one it's not a pity. Such sayings are not easy to translate when they were actually said in the Franconian dialect.
@MollyMalone1983
5 жыл бұрын
And nowadays your grandma's (and mine) saying is even scientifically backed up
@0ctober447
5 жыл бұрын
My brother used to eat the sand in the sandpit when he was a little boy and my mom was told "when he eats it he needs it"
@estherluciano9623
4 жыл бұрын
I used to eat dirt and leaves I found in our backyard as a kid. Nowadays, I'm the ONLY one in my family who hasn't been sick for over a decade, besides a mild seasonal flu. So yeah, your grandma is absolutely right!
@lillischneider6667
5 жыл бұрын
lol "when I see a German person pop out a baby randomly" 😂
@hakelliese7933
5 жыл бұрын
Elterzeit is unpaid leave. You can take up to 3 years and they still have to give you your job back. You get up to a year of Elterngeld, where the state pays you slightly less than your last salary.
@Reoddadai
5 жыл бұрын
Both parents have 14 months, which they can split up among themselves but 12 month at max, so for example: mother 12, father 2 or both 7 months. This is for the basic version of the „Elterngeld‘‘. The parents will get 70ish percent of their income from the last 12 months per month. - something like that. Have mercy if something isn’t point on....
@hakelliese7933
5 жыл бұрын
Reoddadai aber man bekommt das Geld nicht von der Firma weiterbezahlt🙄, Elternzeit und Elterngeld sind 2 verschiedene Dinge.
@KaliqueClawthorne
5 жыл бұрын
But they don't have to give you back the same job.
@Quotenwagnerianer
4 жыл бұрын
@@KaliqueClawthorne Yes they do. You are just on parental leave, your job waits for you.
@KaliqueClawthorne
4 жыл бұрын
@@Quotenwagnerianer They have to give you back a job with same payment, same uality etc. But not the exact same job. Like - When you got a very, very importrant job and you go for parental leave, but the job can't wait because it is so important, they need a new worker for this. And when you come back, they couldn't say to the new worker, that he is fired. They COULD say, that your job is only free for other workers, while you're on parental leave and after this, you get your job back. But there would be that unsure component, that they don't know if you would say after your parental leave time, that you don't want to go back. Like.... When you prefer to do less hours
@markwtal9453
5 жыл бұрын
I don't have kids, but a Nephew. When I am out with him, he can climb, run, whatever. I watch him from a distance. If he falls down or hurt himself, he learns to be more careful. Small kids have to learn and experience the world. I will let him hurt himself to a point. But when he is ill, he goes to the doctor. Now he is 11 years old, so he is more Independent now. Goes to school alone, to sports training or to the playground. In one or two years, he will be out on the streets, in the city or wherever. And his mom won't see him the whole day. As it should be!
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
He goes to his sports training by himself? This is interesting to me because in the USA most of our sports teams/practices are at the school so I was ALLOWED to go alone BUT I was part of a "soccer" team and I was 11 years old and my mother would drop me off and stay there the whole time... Very interesting
@andywalker2077
5 жыл бұрын
Parents bring kids to sport, when the location is too far away, like next town, or there isn't sufficient public transport, or it would be too expensive to get additional bus tickets. That sort of thing. In the village you see kids going to school alone or with friends. For highschool they take the bus to next village or town. When I was 14 I walked 2km in winter to school (too slippery for bicycle). And school starts at 7:35.
@hopsing
5 жыл бұрын
@@HayleyAlexis Well I'm 35 now. I played handball from age 6 to 16. The training in the beginning was in the evening (5 to 6 pm) in my local elementary school gym, which is about 15min on foot away from where we lived. I think my father brought me there for the first 3 weeks. After that I went there on my own. And even came back on my own. Nobody was bothered by that. My parents would only bring me to somewhere if it was too far away (meaning more than 30min by foot) and there was no public transport to get there.
@bowsbabe7827
5 жыл бұрын
Here it is considered bad parenting to give your children freedom etc... I let my child walk alone to school or be on the park a distance from me and I was branded as uncaring and irresponsible... I just believe in a more "german" parenting style
@andywalker2077
5 жыл бұрын
There's screen time in Germany. 2h screen time per day, for example. Either game boy, or xbox or tv. Anything with a screen counts.
@jordantaylor7439
5 жыл бұрын
I love this
@leDespicable
5 жыл бұрын
I was allowed to use the PC 30 mins per day, and 1 h per day in the weekend. Before that I was only allowed to watch Sandmännchen, and that was it.
@Quotenwagnerianer
4 жыл бұрын
I grew up in the 80's and that is exactly how that worked. I was allowed 30 minutes of TV a day. Usually that was Sesame Street. Later when I was out of Kindergarten that got upgraded to 1 hour.
@Alias_Anybody
5 жыл бұрын
"90s Kid" -"Sailor Moon" Sounds about right. I just want to add that there's not only consensus in society about that, it's even encouraged by authorities to respect the privacy of your child even before it can understand the concept. Also, especially during pregnancy, what ar you going to do if something goes wrong?
@ZacSaleski
5 жыл бұрын
Alias Anybody oh god sailor moon 😂
@thesleepyfoxsleeping9805
5 жыл бұрын
Sailor Moon forever my heroine❤️❤️
@justbrett1035
5 жыл бұрын
No, they are not weird. There is nothing really interesting to see on TV nowadays anyway.
@MyvIsLove2
5 жыл бұрын
its horrible, seriously
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
I agree
@leDespicable
5 жыл бұрын
The days when they aired Heidi and Pinocchio are long gone ;-;
@DSP16569
5 жыл бұрын
@@leDespicable Wickie, Biene Maja, Catweazel und andere Kinderserien wo der Kompromiss die Lösung war und nicht die Super Atombomben Vernichtungs Power.
@meahoola
4 жыл бұрын
...since Jerry Springer 's gone ?
@Quotenwagnerianer
4 жыл бұрын
I find that it is usually absolutely no problem to let Children climb whatever they want and however high they want. If they are not afraid then nothing will happen. It is when you push them against their fears, then it is when accidents happen.
@janmuller7621
5 жыл бұрын
finaly a decent german parenting video on YT ^^ you nailed it ...
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
I enjoy the German parenting system and I enjoy kids. Videos like these are fun to make because I get to talk about something so fascinating to me :p
@mycraft7465
5 жыл бұрын
@@HayleyAlexis For us Germans(most of them) time with children and our small family is simply the best time of our life. Seeing kids grow up and take part. Cheers. German dad :)
@AntoinetteEmily
5 жыл бұрын
This was spot on!!! Thanks for the shoutout my friend 😘
@TedH71
5 жыл бұрын
It's apparently illegal to homeschool in Germany. Germany has an issue with not having enough daycares being built so that's why a lot of kids are kept at home until time for them to go to school.
@johannaspengler2089
5 жыл бұрын
@@j.j.3759 sorry. No. It is illegal.
@solidstate9451
5 жыл бұрын
@@johannaspengler2089 : And it is good this way! So no political/religious fanaticians can raise their kids without good influence from outside.
@sarah888
5 жыл бұрын
Also I feel like there’s some class differences here too. Most everyone I know watched very little TV growing up because their parents knew it was damaging.
@angysorayajones5649
5 жыл бұрын
Tv to watch to long makes the kids not really smart or happy for long the kids need to get outside and enjoy playing with friends and have fresh air kids need to run and climb
@anna.m8
5 жыл бұрын
I'll go so far and say, if Germans ask for help on the internet or have a question, people are quick to respond with just a "OMG, SEE A DOCTOR. HOW SHALL WE KNOW? WE ARE NOT A DOCTOR" instead of a more helpful answer....
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
Oh yes, I have actually seen this before in a Facebook group I am in. I mean it could be for any aspect. I saw someone ask about their dog and a bunch of Germans said "go see a vet". I had to laugh but it's just so interesting to me.
@anna.m8
5 жыл бұрын
... q. e. d.
@HagenvonEitzen
5 жыл бұрын
what would be "a more helpful answer" than to ask a doctor instead of a random internet troll?
@KatAstrophe878
5 жыл бұрын
As a german when I see a parent who entertains their child with ipads and TV only I call them lazy and stupid. Of course my daughter has time for TV and watch a cartoon. But I monitor what she's watching. I find most of the cartoons today harming and dumbing children. And you can tell the difference between the children that are raised on ipad and TV and the ones who play outside and get to read books. As a mother I understand why my parents limited my TV time and am very thankfull for them being interested in me enough to not let the TV babysit me.
@fraeuleinsommer75
5 жыл бұрын
Honestly, people are so funny. Die Hälfte der Zeit geht dafür drauf, dass Du Dich, schon bevor Du überhaupt irgendwas gesagt hast, dreimal dafür entschuldigst, dass Du es gleich sagen wirst. Ich will gar nicht wissen, was Du Dir da manchmal so reinziehen musst! Wenn's nicht so bescheuert wär, wär's fast lustig.
@tinaschafer7780
5 жыл бұрын
Sie lebt in München, da entschuldigt man sich bevor man jemanden beleidigt ;))
@missis_jo
5 жыл бұрын
@@tinaschafer7780 🤣
@fraeuleinsommer75
5 жыл бұрын
@@tinaschafer7780 Also, des wär mir jetzt, ehrlich gesagt, neu. :-D
@witty2u
5 жыл бұрын
@@tinaschafer7780... I believe it has more to do with experiences that too many people feel offended easily, as she said. :( It's sad that we are forced to walk on eggshells, when making a public statement, because of that.
@fraeuleinsommer75
4 жыл бұрын
@Esmour Mayne Keine Ahnung, wovon Du sprichst. Ich schreib hier ja auch nicht über den Klimawandel und der interessiert mich trotzdem. Chill.
@jarls5890
4 жыл бұрын
Consider the following: A Thai in Germany is an "Immigrant". A German in Thailand is an "Ex-pat".
@friedrichjangeorgr5724
5 жыл бұрын
I remember how excited my little brother and I were going to the US every year to spend summer vacation with our dad and that was 70% about unlimited tv time, 20% disneyworld and 10% seeing our dad hahah although we of course loved him dearly :D
@lilwondair4836
5 жыл бұрын
oh yeah, a disclaimer is needed :-) so noone feels offended, blah, blah ...guys, do you realize what world we are currently creating? disclaimers for personal opinions? really? yes, apologize right before you begin ...pew... :-) it's hilarious, we need to get rid of that shit before it's too late. well, maybe it's already too late.
@maireweber
4 жыл бұрын
My mom is a physical therapist for kids in Germany. It is soo important for development that kids do playground activities. They need to practice their balance, motions, coordination, or they will be adults that hurt themselves all the time. Too much screen time is poison for that, and there is an age window.
@lenasab8727
5 жыл бұрын
About the doctor thing. I don't know if it has something to do with the health system in America? Do parents also have to pay doctors bill for their kids?
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
Yes they do and they aren’t that cheap.
@lynnb2562
5 жыл бұрын
Oh absolutely we have to pay for our kids at the doctors. And it's crazy expensive and can be anywhere from $50 to $150 a visit. they also don't really actually call us back or answer their phones very often so even if we wanted to ask the doctor we can't half the time. 9 * 10 all the nurse will say as well only way to really know it to bring them in and make an appointment. So yeah I'm going to call my mom because she will I only does need an appointment sometimes I'll call the free nurse line that our children's full system has here in Atlanta and ask them because they are capable of giving out medical advice without me having to make an appointment but only if I really don't know whether I should take them to the doctor or not. if I know it's not serious enough for a doctor but I do want to know what my mom used to do for me or what the doctor used to tell her to do for me then I'll call her.
@mycraft7465
5 жыл бұрын
@@lynnb2562 thats horrible. In Germany we do not need to pay a buck for children healthcare since the late 18 century. And the system works perfectly for everybody.
@samkobby3567
3 жыл бұрын
I am a single new papa , am in Germany, anyone who will help me idea sometime i don't know what to do if baby is crying 😢 I feel worried
@mariellesophies5214
5 жыл бұрын
So I'm german and was born in 2001. I was raised in a village and my street was close to the woods. My parents never let us (my brothers and me) watch tv-shows (we only watched some disney movies), especially before 5pm (depending on our age, so when i was 6-8 i had to go to bed at 7pm), instead we went to the woods and played. Our mom always told us to come home before dark and that was always okay with us. But i talked about this with some friends and they told me that they did watch tv- shows growing up and they were shocked that i did not. So what I'm trying to say is that I am very grateful for the way i was raised... yes sometimes we went in the woods and came home with a broken arm and yes it hurt but I truly believe that its part of growing up and I will probably raise my future-children almost the same.
@teacup3000
5 жыл бұрын
My dad was that kind of person, that captured every moment of my early life on camera. And while I liked to watch all the videos and photos of myself as a kid it was kind of embarassing for me as a teenager. And everytime when a friend of mine came over to our house my mom (she's still doing that) started to get out those old baby photos and proudly showing them to everyone. I guess every boyfriend I had, had seen my "first time in a bath tub"-photo. So I'm really glad that there was no internet back then.
@Agentleplan
5 жыл бұрын
A very basic difference I have noticed was, German parents are quite strict when kids are little, but when they are teenagers they allow them sooo many things! Going to the city on their own, having boyfriends, sleepovers, going on holiday with friends. My Greek parents on the other hand were pretty chill with TV rules, food rules, sleeping rules etc., but they were more strict with things like sleepovers, letting me go somewhere alone etc. I guess a mix of those two would be great. When I worked at a supermarket and parents asked their kids (which were like 1, didn’t speak yet) what they wanted to eat I was like ... come on take the stupid pretzel and leave me alone 😂
@solidstate9451
5 жыл бұрын
I'm very strict with food. They can eat what I cook or they can go to bed hungry. Otherwise my autistic son would only eat noodles and toast. I need to "force" them to taste healthy food. But I allow them to wear whatever they want. And I let them play outside unsupervised.
@thatgurlnamedria
2 жыл бұрын
I would like to parent like a German as an American (strict when they're little and lenient for teens) because they will be able to learn to be responsible and self-sufficient.
@ayafox1352
4 жыл бұрын
As an American, I find it interesting how similar my ideals are to Germans when it comes to raising kids. Who knew 🤷🏽♀️
@Skaitania
5 жыл бұрын
"Children are little humans" - the inside knowledge I gain on KZitem every day is fantastic :-)
@ulrichjahn9975
5 жыл бұрын
This topic defenitely deserves a part two!
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
I wanted to talk about the sexuality/gender identity aspect of partnering in part 2 but the video will most likely get demonetized and blocked!!!
@Baccatube79
5 жыл бұрын
Elternzeit: 12 months of paid leave plus additional 2 months if the time is split up between both parents. The workplace must be guaranteed for the parent staying home for up to three years altogether
@actionjackson2296
5 жыл бұрын
You have to differentiate between Elterngeld, Elterngeld+ and Elternzeit. In short(there are some special cases but in general): ElternGELD: 12+2 month paid leave(around 67% of last salary limited at 1800 Eur) ElternGELD+: Reduced work time and some additional money, but for a longer period of time Mutterschaftsgeld: 2 month period after the birth, paid leave for the mother without any restrictions(100% salary). ElternGeld will be reduced by this 2 month. ElternZEIT: 3 year time period the workplace must be guaranteed for the parent staying home. Can be split(e.g. first 2years and later an additional year). Additionally depending of the state you're living you can apply for additional money(e.g. Bavaria Familiengeld).
@janettecardenas681
5 жыл бұрын
LMAO “he’s going to break his leg” 😂 that was my reaction when I first saw the German playgrounds 😂 my cousin and I were so surprised how tall the slides are
@bealea_lea_
5 жыл бұрын
I was only allowed to watch 30min TV each week when I was in elementary school. So I watched "Sendung mit der Maus"
@quarentinedlove2903
4 жыл бұрын
Bealea_Lea_ lol my parents didn’t even have tv but when I went to omas house forget about it 😂😂
@ellensilvertime3164
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@unschuldshascherl
5 жыл бұрын
I think all parents are weird lol. Especially with their first child. Btw. if I would have gotten children I wouldn't have posted about because of projecting. I would just think nobody cares or would even feel unnerved if I post that stuff. Also I don't feel comfortable if people share too intimate stuff and talk about with others, so I really would feel uncomfortable doing it myself.
@solidstate9451
5 жыл бұрын
In the first 3 months of pregnancy there is a big chance that the baby dies, and we don't want to explain it to everybody. And we don't think we are the center of the universe, like: Oh, look, I'm pregnant, the whole world needs to know!!
@markschattefor6997
5 жыл бұрын
In the Netherlands a baby is checked on a regular base after it's been born. You get a booklet in which they make note's about the kid's development, they weigh them and they measure them, and ask if there are problems,or are there strange things that you noticed. Maybe there are allergic reactions of some kind, and they give you advise if you're not sure about certain things. We also have a service called "kraamzorg" they send somebody to your home straight after you've given birth (when you're home) and they take care of everything for the first week or 10 days. They teach you how to handle a newborn, how to wash them change diapers and all the other things that you don't know as a new parent. BTW, isn't it sad that you have to say in the beginning of your video that you don't want to offend anybody? Although being born as a man I identify myself as a lesbian, just because I like only women….. ;-)
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
In Germany they have a mutterpass which I think is very similar to what you are talking about. I don’t believe we have that in the USA. Yeah unfortunately in this day and age people get upset over everything 😝
@missis_jo
5 жыл бұрын
The Mutterpass contains all information about the mother and the development of the pregnancy. Allergies, blood type, pre-existing conditions, weight gain, blood pressure .... everything! After birth, the child gets his/her own Untersuchungsheft, which seemingly contains the same information as the dutch version.
@kvwuppkvwupp834
5 жыл бұрын
It is similar here in GER - you have a small book to notice the results of preventive medical checkups (and of course as reminder to take your child to the check-ups). These check-ups begin after birth and and end if a child gets 17 years old. There are about 14 check-ups from U1 to U12 and than J1 and J2. You don't have to pay extra for it - our healthcare systems covers them.
@hw2508
3 жыл бұрын
Health care differes in every country. Especially in the USA. Maybe parents in the US try to get advice where they know it is free. They are not used to ask a Doctor, or only when it seems to be really neccessary.
@gerdipediaTV
5 жыл бұрын
I'm looking forward to the time when you raised your children in Germany. That will be very interesting. I love the videos of Antoinette and especially the videos which the differences between German and New Zealand parents.
@nadinebeck2069
5 жыл бұрын
We allow our children to make mistakes. To fail is not bad, to learn and stand up again is very healthy!
@AnimeFan6969
5 жыл бұрын
I never had strict TV rules as kid, I think mainly because my parents themselves were watching a lot of TV and when they had adult friends over they knew I would get bored (being an only child) so I spent the time in my room doing whatever. I often ended up watching TV but also meeting with my friends. When I turned nine I got my first PC and played around with that, later when the internet got more popular of course I discovered youtube and everything. What I have to say tho is that my parents had the best view on technology etc. They were very interested in it and always encouraged me to explore what I could do with technology. "Whatever you do, in the worst case we can reset your computer and start again. And if you totally break it, well, it's just a machine." That really took away my fear of doing something wrong and it's a big reason why I got so interested in PCs in general.
@papperlapapp1922
5 жыл бұрын
Please do a second video, this was super interesting. I'm a father of three,. Two were born in Germany, one in California. I live in San Diego at the moment and the way to raise kids is so incredible different, I wouldn't have though that. I second all of your points, especially the ones about accepting risks for the children and let them find their own decisions. In Germany there is even a norm for that (DIN 18034) which is like a law for new playgrounds. There it is stated that kids have to be able to deal with risks and the possibility of minor injuries have to be accepted. Also screen time is a big thing. My oldest is 5 years old and he watches maybe one or two movies per week. Since August he started Kindergarten which is very school like here. He told me that they watch "educational TV"almost every day. I was so shocked when I realized that. It is so much easier for us without a TV. They've learned to play very focused with whatever they find. Even on long roadtrips they never asked for TV or where bored. This is such a high cultural difference.
@KaliqueClawthorne
5 жыл бұрын
TV in kindergarten? I really have to say, it sounds slightly ''disgusting'' for me, also being a German parent.
@papperlapapp1922
5 жыл бұрын
@@KaliqueClawthorne it's maybe 10 to 15 minutes per day but yes, this is awkward
@KaliqueClawthorne
5 жыл бұрын
@@papperlapapp1922 Awkward is a better word, I haven't in mind But also - Even here in elementary school it is rare to watch tv. Sometimes little videos from a DVD from their english book to pronounce the words better. And sometimes little movies in the last days of a semester.... For learning things about media there is only a computer-activity-club, when the kids don't learn it at home.
@malinbettels9577
5 жыл бұрын
No offense at all but most people in Germany know that watching too much Tv etc. is not very good for small children...It's not healthy and doesn't help a kid in its development. :)
@lynnb2562
5 жыл бұрын
They know what the US to but they justify it because they don't want to actually deal with raising their kids.
@kristinwilson8022
5 жыл бұрын
Right... toooo much TV... but who says what is too much? 10 minutes, 30 minutes , 1 hour, 2 hours? I think that is just daily different. If the kid played the whole day and did sport and just wants to sit on the couch in the evening and watch 2 hours TV it is totally different than if the kid just spent the day sitting on a chair and didn't move the whole day. 😄 so I think the individual mix makes it and not just strict rules.
@erikamustermann6783
5 жыл бұрын
Kristin Wilson you‘re not quite right there. The rationale behind not letting young kids watch TV is that it is actually detrimental to their development. Neurologists say that children younger than 3 years old should not watch TV. It is not interactive, it is not helping their development and indications are it does the opposite.When they are older you can let them watch TV but you still shouldn‘t park them in front of the telly. Children need to be active, to explore and to interact. So while it is ok to let them watch their favourite programme. Anything that exceeds an hour for pre-teen kids is bad. As a teacher I can tell you on a Monday which kid has spent his weekend with electronic devices and which kid has had an active weekend. TV is too often used as a babysitter. What you should do is spend quality time. Read with them, play a quiet game, built models, paint, anything to let them calm down after a busy day.
@kristinwilson8022
5 жыл бұрын
@@erikamustermann6783 agree and disagree... In my daughters groundary school class (10y) everyone is watching TV but I know of some who play all night Fortnight or can watch tv all night till 2am even on weekdays. I agree that this is not healthy... those are the kids who are tired and some even aggressive and lacking social skills...not the ones who watch a bit Tv to normal times or are up longer on special occasions. I also know kids who aren't allowed to watch at all... and those are pretty weird aswell but probably because their parents are too. I am pretty active with my kids and we do a lot when the weather is nice. But when it is a rainy day we also like to have some couch days watching a good movie. And I don't think there is any harm in that...They still do play well with same age kids, younger ones or older ones. I always get told how nice and social my kids are. My older one might not be as smart as my younger one but that has nothing to do with watching TV because she always was in some parts of learning slower even starting to speak. but that is ok because she still managed to go to a good school and has her heart at the right spot. For example when they switched school some weeks ago. On the first day at the new school they were 5 friends but in the new class just 4 chairs next to each other. The others were excluding 1 of the girls but my daughter suggested to sit with 3 and 2 right behind each other.... which made me very proud to see finding her the solution everyone was happy with. In my opinion a good mix of everything is always (in every part of life) the better solution.
@solidstate9451
5 жыл бұрын
@@lynnb2562 : In the US usually people work longer hours. They just don't have the time German parents have to play with their kids. It is forbidden in Germany to work more than 40h a week frequently and nearly all women I know work less when they get children. In the US, 40h/week are considered some kind of part time.
@alexanderduren5416
4 жыл бұрын
The funny thing is I’m from Germany but iam on a exante in Florida USA and I have to tell you that German parents are way more relaxed and open than here the parents.
@marcel530
5 жыл бұрын
Well I wasn't allowed to watch TV before school and then done my homework, after that I could watch until bedtime. I even had my own TV in my room.Didn't use it very much, because I loved football and wanted to play it all day xD
@witty2u
5 жыл бұрын
Great analysis! :) It's exactly how you said in the video about Germany. I was asked to choose between two shows. I was not allowed to watch more than one show a day, except on Saturday once a while, if there was something else, very special. - We mostly were playing outside as kids, even in rainy weather we were outside playing. My mom would call about 10 Minutes before my show starts ... "Your favorite show will be on soon, would you like to come in, or do you rather stay outside? ." Depending on what we played, and if my friends would want to continue playing or watch that show too, I made my decisions. Then the other with moms on the playground.... Mostly moms let their kids explore, but when they are like two to three, they mostly stand next to them to quickly catch or grab them. Even when they sit aside, talk to other moms, they always have a close look on their kids and will not keep their eyes off them to quickly jump in. :)
@catonkybord7950
5 жыл бұрын
Sailor Moon, Ninja Turtles, Darkwing Duck ... I was watching a lot of TV as a kid, but in my opinion the program was way better in the 90s. I also got "Fernsehverbot" whenever my parents wanted to punish me for something.
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
Oh I was grounded and got my Tv taken out of my room. It was horrible 😂 I totally agree that it was so much better back in the day. The cartoons were amazing!!!
@ZacSaleski
5 жыл бұрын
Ink Stain 😍😍the best
@michabe07
5 жыл бұрын
Als kleines Kind wo ich noch kein Fernsehen schauen durfte, habe ich immer die Spiegelung des Fernsehbildes in der Balkon Tür geschaut. 😉 In der Schule ab dem 5. Schuljahr hatte ich einen Mitschüler der 9 Geschwister hatte. Diese Familie hatte garkeinen Fernseher und war dazu noch extrem religiös. Wenn er bei Freunden Fernseh schauen konnte war er wie hypnotisiert und garnicht mehr ansprechbar!
@herzchenbambi
5 жыл бұрын
I'm a bit late to the video but I still wanted to write a comment :D Until the age of 8-9 my brother and I were only allowed to watch one movie a week. When we got a little older we were allowed to watch one episode of a cartoon each day, but only before going to bed. Watching TV in the morning or during the day was forbidden for us. We got our first smartphones when we were 14 and we were only allowed to use the wifi for a maximum of 3 hours a day and only after we did all of our homework and helped my parents clean up or cook or smth. To some people that may sound extremely strict but I'm glad that I grew up like this. I was outside playing with my friends every day, running from house to house to ask my friends if they wanted to play and it was so much fun. The only rule was to be home at 5pm otherwise my mother would ground me 😂
@friedalingon
5 жыл бұрын
When I was in Chicago as an Au Pair they also did the TV thing. No more than 30 minutes per day :) so it maybe depends on different families and places ☺️ 🤷🏼♀️
@Deitable
5 жыл бұрын
When I was a child my parents had a password for the tv, so I could only watch telly when they were home and then only for 30 min - 1h. :D But I actually think its much healthier for children if they draw or play by themself or with friends rather then watching tv all day long. I think thats the general mindset in germany. Nice video :)
@Cadfael007
4 жыл бұрын
I raised up in the 1960s/1970s in a small city. We did such risky things and sometimes hurt ourselfs. Our parents never looked for someone being responsible. They only said: "Hättest Du mal besser aufgepasst!" (You should have been more careful). We tested our limits and sometimes it was over limit. But the experience of testing our limits was good for our live! We had such a great childhood!
@hw2508
3 жыл бұрын
But things change in Germany too. More TV, more Smartphones, and more Helikoptereltern. The attitude, Play outside and don't come back untill sunset, disapears. A lot of parents try to protect their kids and even try to push all obstacles out of the way. The results are kids that will experience a lot of frustration when they are grown up.
@BastiToshy
5 жыл бұрын
Elternzeit: You can take a lot of Elternzeit - yes! But you only get paid for up to 12 months. Parents can split 14 months of Elterngeld between both parents according to their wish but have to take at least 2 months and maximum 12 months each. And you only get 65% of your salary up to a maximum of 1800€. In Munich that can easily be the rent of the flat only. It's not your company who is paying you Elterngeld. The only things they have to do is: let you have Elternzeit and let you keep your job (not necessarily the same position however). Elterngeld is paid by Familienministerium .
@Judith-H7
5 жыл бұрын
Please make a part two👍🏻🥰😀
@mateam3809
5 жыл бұрын
I agree on most of the points that you made, but it is very interesting that i experienced a whole different situation with the kids` decision making in the US. When I was an aupair there last year I noticed that all the kids would make the decisions and not the parents or nannies. So for example my hostmom would cancel playdates when her son was not in the mood for one or cook another dish just because he did not want to eat the dinner that she made. And in Germany I would say the mother would have not cancelled the playdate or cooked another dinner. But in general I agree that the kids are more independent in Germany than in the US.
@jgr_lilli_
8 ай бұрын
When I was a kid, I was only allowed to watch specific program that my parents deemed beneficial and that mostly went for only 20-30 minutes. Most of them science shows for kids, like Sendung mit der Maus and Wissen macht Ah! There were also long-running shows on the kid's channel that ran chronologically, so if you skipped an episode you actually missed some small lore parts.
@KimCrossesBorders
5 жыл бұрын
Girl the way you predict how ppl will Comment has me rollllllling
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
People are so dang rude sometimes 😑😂
@patrickssmith3594
5 жыл бұрын
I`m not a parent either, Hayley.. but one thing I noticed over the years here.. is that no one knows what a baby shower is here. Common where I`m from in GA, but I`ve tried to explain what a baby shower is... . and the people here think I have lost my mind..
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
Yeah...When I told Mike I was going to a baby shower (in the USA) he could not understand or grasp this concept! I enjoy baby showers though (if they are properly organized) because I get to spend time with people I like and play fun games :p
@patrickssmith3594
5 жыл бұрын
@@HayleyAlexis I remember very well, around the time when Cheyenne( my sister) was born, my Mom kept going to those showers, and Patrick and his little brother thought is was boring.. okay in my own defense: I was 12 and my brother 9.. so that wasn`t our thing, but Mama loved going to them all the time.. lol
@KaliqueClawthorne
5 жыл бұрын
Instead of this, here in Germany we have ''Babypinkeln'' or ''pinkelparty'' (Pee-Party) It is a party, where the family and friends drinking things, that would help the newborn in a symbolic way to pee without pain or problems. And there is a thing about holding the naked baby and the person who gets peed on would have luck.
@Whoelsebutjones
5 жыл бұрын
Hi Hayley! You’re a great observer. Americans are pretty much a product of their environment. Much of the world is different from America and I think any person who has the opportunity to travel the world extensively especially at a younger age and before their thirties (preferably), will realize how parochial we can be as Americans. However, I assume the same can be said about any one individual in another location looking in, not only on parenting but many other attributes. American’s style of parenting - coddler parents in particular - I’ve found harm their kids more than they will potentially harm themselves in the precariousness of youth. Perpetual intervention of a child’s experience in the world is a very unstable strategy for developing the skills necessary to discern their environment along with the infinite scenarios they will have to navigate and endure as a mere mortal. It makes me cringe when I see American parents acting in this way towards their child(ren) and I’d much rather the approach of letting your child “learn the hard way” - within reason of course. That seems like a more balanced way to raise kids in my opinion. I enjoy listening to your views and observations very much. Cheers!
@nicolec3085
5 жыл бұрын
As I first came to the US (I am german), I wondered why they only have playgrounds for really little children with no challenges. I got to understand the different way of seeing children. The strangest thing was seeing children on leashes in parks like dogs or watching tv during meals in restaurants on their tablets. I think it has sth to do with the anxiety that everybody seems to have in life in general. If you turn on the TV and watch news you always get the impression sth really dangerous is going on even if it only a little wind coming around the corner, it is "breaking news".
@KaliqueClawthorne
5 жыл бұрын
Oh God, the leashes-thing is normal in the US? I mean - when you see something like that in Germany everybody say,t hat this parent(s) doesn't have the control about the children.
@aaana2003
5 жыл бұрын
I am from Croatia but I live in Germany. My kids are hyperactive after TV sooooo now,when is school time,like no holidays,they are allowed to watch a screens only on weekends. Usually they like to play Nintendo after lunch. Sometimes is hard but I am working only two hours on day so I am trying to give them my attention. I feel lucky when they play with Lego and etc.
@the_imp_of_the_perverse3644
5 жыл бұрын
I have no TV at home. I insist on books, my little has got her own phone, but it's allowed to use it only after all home work for school is done. The evil Power invades our home in the face of grandma with her a tablet and chocholate bars 🤣. A couple of times it caused drama, but i stand my ground 'only apples and books are allowed'. I love sweets myself, and treat my kid with them, but when it's too much i even can go for a conflict with Omas and Opas.
@k.schmidt2740
4 жыл бұрын
My German children were small in the pre-Internet era - fortunately!! All I had to do was get the TV out of the living area, and much of the danger was eliminated. They were allowed 45 minutes of TV per day, which they could choose. When we took a vacation cabin or similar, I called ahead and asked them to remove the TV for our stay. If they couldn't or wouldn't, I put the next best table cloth over it and a potted plant on top of it! Why the circus? Because I knew that children should either be entertained by the world around them (including parents) or entertain themselves with play, books and games - but not with "canned fare" that is available by pressing a button. And it worked. Both grew up to be media-savvy adults, but capable of far more than just consuming media and not dependent on anything for entertainment. Now, with children of their own, they also restrict screen time (anything with a screen counts) for their own children in order to preserve the chances the children have of learning from their surroundings, the natural world and other people.
@justme8841
5 жыл бұрын
That's right. Children are already a person. But this also something that alot of german parents also forget. But we get more and more parents who don't do "Erziehung" but "Beziehung". That means you raise your child with respect, love and show borders with respect and not with punishment in any kinda form.
@swanpride
5 жыл бұрын
There are recommendations how much TV and/or computer time a child should have. It's just better for them to run and play. This way they develop a feeling for their body and naturally reading is better for a growing brain than just taking in moving pictures. You can also BET that the TV time children are allowed to have coincides which educational programs like "Die Sendung mit der Maus". Not sure if this is still the case, but when I was a child, the TV program was even designed for that. There was always some half an hour show which ended with the "Sandmännchen" airing in the perfect slot for bedtime.
@schlafesbruder7625
5 жыл бұрын
Vorm Fernseher verblödet man. Ich hab meinen mit Anfang zwanzig abgeschafft ... und da war schon eine Menge Schaden verursacht.
@optiquenz
5 жыл бұрын
Same. Aber die fernsehende Generation ist eh am aussterben, jedes Kind welches mit dem Internet aufwächst weiß was mehr zu bieten hat. Adblock ftw!
@HagenvonEitzen
5 жыл бұрын
Dann willkommen bei KZitem, wo man gaaar nicht verblöden kann
@ConnyFoxxx
5 жыл бұрын
Awesome Video ❤ I cared for kids in the US for 2 years.. and all those points you said 😅 well back than I was like why can they watch tv at dinnertime? ect.. 😂 I think we could have a great discussion 😅👏🏻 I am from Austria btw.
@peterlagroove6555
5 жыл бұрын
TV IS'T THE WORST THING FOR HUMANS .....
@whattheflyingfuck...
5 жыл бұрын
Yes internet is waaaay better 😇
@WhoamI27676
5 жыл бұрын
Some thjngs on TV are rather interesting...always depends on what you watch
@monikaschulz909
2 жыл бұрын
Meine Eltern haben immer gesagt, du musst nichts essen, was du nicht magst. Du darfst gerne hungrig schlafen gehen. So wären meine Eltern.
@tutnichtnotig1297
5 жыл бұрын
In Deutschland kann es der Mutter aber auch passieren, dass der Vater vom Kind ein Pinguin, Bauarbeiter, Indianer oder Batman ist. In Köln ist beim Karneval alles möglich. ;-) Frei nach dem Motto: Mama wolltest du einen Jungen oder ein Mädchen? Ich wollte mir nur die Schuhe zubinden. 😂😂😂😂 Fernsehen war bei uns früher streng geregelt. 18 Uhr Sesamstraße/ Freitag Hallo Spencer 18 30 Abendbrot 18 55 Sandmännchen Ab ins Bett. Am Wochenende durfte ich abends etwas länger aufbleiben. Wenn Wetten dass..? lief durfte ich es meist ganz gucken. 😉
@KaliqueClawthorne
5 жыл бұрын
Und am Sonntag gab es morgens manchmal zusätzlich die Sendung mit der Maus, ab und an auch inklusive dem Märchdn danach.
@tutnichtnotig1297
5 жыл бұрын
Sonntags Sendung mit der Maus, stimmt. Das A Team war denn eher mein Ding. 😝
@HUTZELMUTZEL
5 жыл бұрын
kein Labskaus in Norddeutschland? - Fischmarkt ist ein Muß. So Ernst und doch eine "große Frohnatur" - I love it. best ambassador for both sides.
@bungamelati678
5 жыл бұрын
My first Boy grew up also 7 Years without TV, we bought TV as he 8 years Old. He grew up really good, more outdoor Activity & more Play thing related for Motoric system. We spent more time with Children Group in our neighbourhood or in Family Centrum. This ist opposite with what mostly the Parents made in my hometown. Im From Asia & My Husband is German. Very difficult at the beginning but slow i made itu through and we can do it. Now he is 11 years Old has no Mobilephone and play Computer only on weekend. But thats decision every Parents anyway. They know what the best for their Children.
@lynnsintention5722
5 жыл бұрын
I teach in a German school and this freedom of choice that the parents teach leads later to being unable to control a class room full of these kids who all think they have a say in everything.....I am constantly argueing with kids who for some reason think that the assignment I am giving them is negotiable LOL
@TheYasmineFlower
5 жыл бұрын
That's good though! They learn to stand up to authority figures and to be actively involved in their education. In my experience as a former student, that'll motivate one more to learn than just being told what to do and being expected to obey.
@lisada3553
5 жыл бұрын
Meine Mutter war alleinerziehend und voll berufstätig und ich habe auch viel TV bzw Filme (Disney) geschaut aber auch viel draußen gespielt und bin mit Freunden auf Bäume geklettert. Ich denke, jeder macht es so wie er kann. Und wenn meine Mutter nach 8 Stunde Arbeit nach Hause kam und Essen gemacht hat oder mal kurz Ruhe und Zeit für sich brauchte, hat sie einfach einen Film angemacht, dann war ich total begeistert und hab den gesehen und sie hatte Zeit für sich. Aber das finde ich ok. Anders ging es halt nicht. Es ist was anderes, wenn man zu zweit ist.
@Freaky0Nina
5 жыл бұрын
there is an interesting talk by a mother who has lived in Germany. it's called "Achtung Baby". It may simplify things here and there but i think it's very interesting.
@G.J.G.P.
4 жыл бұрын
Parental leave: im not sure anymore if it was 60, 65 or 67% , bacause it has been a while ago, so lets say 65%. the familienkasse will give you 12 (months)x 65% of your monthly averrage net income of the last 12 months, but not more then ~1800/1900€ (not sure anymore how much it is). If your partner also wants to take parental leave time they give you 14(months) x 65%. The averrage income will be calculated independently. f. e. Mother takes 7 months, so they take her avarrege income x65%x 7 and the same for the father. If you want to go f.e. 3 years, you have to devide the sum of the 12/14 months by 36. I hope this was an understandable explaination.
@lolademilo7474
5 жыл бұрын
Yep. Pretty much sums up that we don't park our kids, but interact.
@Freddy2TakeOff
5 жыл бұрын
8:49 On this point also, I think, it should be useful to say, that (from *my* pov) many playgrounds in the USA are surrounded by grassy surfaces or which surprised *me a lot* have been built on rubberized surface, which I wouldn't call soft enough for falling or tripping kids. In Germany though, mostly playgrounds are mainly build on sand, which absorbes lots of the energy and weight of a fallen child.
@kackerlakensalat
5 жыл бұрын
Ich lasse die Kinder klettern, aber ich gebe keine Hilfe. Ich denke, nur wer hoch von alleine kommt, kommt auch alleine runter. Nur , weil ein Kind irgendwo rauf will, muss es ja noch nicht rauf. Allerdings gebe ich auch schon mal mündliche Hilfe.
@jenniferandrews6556
5 жыл бұрын
I was born and raised in Germany. I live in Kentucky but my mom and sister and rest of my family is still in Germany. I do post things about my daughters on Facebook, however my sister will not post any pictures of her 1 year old son. So yes Germans are very much more private about their children etc.
@queenbee2211
2 жыл бұрын
Oh yeah I remember the really rare and for us children so so cool „Pizza und Fernsehabendessen“ everyone got a homemade pizza and we all watched tv together…😂💪🏼
@hw2508
3 жыл бұрын
Unfortunatly, also in Germany children need to have an iPad or Smartphone because LEGO now makes toys with App connection or the school demands them to have such a device. And once the Pandora's Box was opened...
@GAnimeRO
5 жыл бұрын
That "rbp rbp rbp rbp" sound that's constantly there made me think that I've let my SPRUDEL open and I panicked because I didn't want it to become, ewwww, still water. But the bottlecap was closed firmly :D
@erictrumpler9652
5 жыл бұрын
Maternity leave is paid for approximately six months, including nursing time (Stillzeit) Parental leave in Germany is not paid.....it is a guarantee to be able to return to your job to the extent of 3 years per child. During the parental leave there is state support available, but doesn't make up for your full salary.
@frankschrewe4302
5 жыл бұрын
If you take parental leave, you get "Elterngeld" (about 60% of your last salary) for normally 12 months (14 if both parents take at least 2 months parental leave)
@Waechter_im_All
5 жыл бұрын
Hallo Hayley, du hast noch einen Grund vergessen, warum die Leute bei uns ein bisschen zurückhaltender mit dem Thema Schwangerschaft umgehen: Du weißt nie, ob es gutgeht. Erschreckend viele Frauen verlieren ihre Kinder in den ersten drei Monaten.
@solidstate9451
5 жыл бұрын
On the other hand: If nobody speaks about having a stillbirth, every woman who has to experience this thinks she is the only one.
@dr.akhilmuraleedharan4593
5 жыл бұрын
Asking Facebook about child's symptoms is what's 'interesting'
@mariah.2024
3 жыл бұрын
After your video i got an ad about a german online parent&children cooking school
@cellcoremax1
5 жыл бұрын
😍 i used to wake up early for sailor moon before school too. It was awesome 😁, thank god i didn't have "tv time" as a kid.
@cellcoremax1
5 жыл бұрын
Also part 2!
@holmbjerg
4 жыл бұрын
It's natural to ask your parents for advice about your kids. They have experience and probably have a good answer.
@_NikkyD_
5 жыл бұрын
It makes more and more sense... what's happening in the US if you hear how they grow up. And Hayley, could you please make an offensive video once ? :D
@HayleyAlexis
5 жыл бұрын
I have made a few in the past and caused an uproar amongst people -__- I wish people could understand my humor/sarcasm via the internet but THEY CANT 😂
@deintri
4 жыл бұрын
Its because ultrasounds in the states is a gizillion dollars, they post the pic as a means to flex
@holmbjerg
5 жыл бұрын
The most natural people to ask for advice on your kids, are your own parents. That's what people used to do before there was social media and parenting book. And unless they did a bad job with you, why wouldn't you want to learn from them?
@justme8841
5 жыл бұрын
In special groups on FB who don't fallow normal medicine advide, who use forgotten knowledge and medicine, there people ask question all the time about what to do when they are sick. But normally no one is doing it on FB.
@TedH71
5 жыл бұрын
That's probably because they have free health care in Germany compared to the US?
@solidstate9451
5 жыл бұрын
Yeah, I commiserate the Americans.
@user-jt9jk3oc8f
5 жыл бұрын
Ich schreib jetzt mal auf deutsch, weil es schneller geht und mein Englisch ziemlich schlecht ist. Ich selber und mein Bruder sind in den 2000ern aufgewachsen, wir waren absolute Fernseherkinder. Es hat uns beiden tatsächlich nicht geschadet. Und wir waren trotzdem oft draußen auf dem Spielplatz oder vor dem Haus Skateboard/waveboard fahren. Ich denke das lag aber auch daran, dass es sowas wie iPads oder Smartphones einfach noch gar nicht gab und wir auch nur Fernseher gucken konnten. Abgesehen davon waren die Sendungen, die damals lieben auch einfach viel viel besser als die, die heutzutage im Fernsehen laufen. Ich selber gucke heute lieber die alten Sendungen, als die neuen. Und meine Kinder dürfen die später gezwungenermaßen auch gucken.
@jennysjoplin3165
5 жыл бұрын
Ich mache bei meiner Tochter, die fernsehen darf wann sie will, die Erfahrung, dass es gar nicht mehr so interessant für sie ist. Sie steht sofort auf wenn ich sage dass wir raus gehen oder ich mit ihr malen will oder so. Ich denke man erreicht mit Verboten nur das Gegenteil. Natürlich sollte man seine Kinder aber nicht nur vor dem TV parken und sich nicht mit ihnen beschäftigen.
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