So basically Destiny lived Whiplash in his highschool jazz band and now he's the debate king? nice
@Kallermarh
3 жыл бұрын
Imagine unironically calling someone 'the debate king.'
@jeyserreacts3444
3 жыл бұрын
@@Kallermarh aaaaaaaaAAAaAAAaa
@jeyserreacts3444
3 жыл бұрын
@@Kallermarh あああああああああああああああああああ
@gabe781
3 жыл бұрын
@@Kallermarh good thing I was being ironic there chief, WOOF that was a close one, can you imagine?
@gabe781
3 жыл бұрын
@@Kallermarh I guess you could call me THE IRONY KING
@DominickvdHoff
3 жыл бұрын
I'd pay for a based compilation of every time destiny start spitting absolute life lessons and the chat just bursts into TRUE/based comments
@june4135
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like he doesn't account for peoples' individual neuroticism.
@reasonablyargued9003
3 жыл бұрын
The thing that made Destiny a better musician wasn't 'abuse', it was practice. What he's touching on is what methods are effective for fostering motivation. Carrots and sticks. That becomes a question of willpower. We do that with incentives, consequences, assigning greater meaning to an action, or increasing blood sugar. Destiny seems to be driven more to prove people wrong than to earn praise. That's probably why he responded better to accountability measures. But its not like theres a universal formula for how to best motivate any given individual. Some people like carrots.
@themalle132
3 жыл бұрын
This was really insightful, thank you.
@DDogg43777
3 жыл бұрын
Destiny's bit about neural plasticity is so true. A lot of people just drop learning about new things once they're past high school or college. People would be surprised at how insane an adult brain is at learning new, so long as you keep at it.
@seavpal
3 жыл бұрын
So true, the reduction in plasticity is more than compensated by the increase of efficiency in integrating new parts in the persons mental model of the world that comes with experience.
@ze_kel
3 жыл бұрын
Big true. Been looking at math stuff I missed in school recently and it’s sooo easy as an adult.
@frozenwalkway
3 жыл бұрын
It's almost like plasticity was a descriptive rather than prescriptive. Since kids are forced to learn their plasticity is high. If you just keep learning your plasticity will be high
@simonchasnovsky1835
3 жыл бұрын
I spent 3 years studying japanese between high school and deciding what to do for college; high school memery was so bad for my brain that just learning a language 3 hours/day made college somehow easier than high school. Literally just pick something fun and study it, it helps a shit ton.
@matsab7930
3 жыл бұрын
Agreed. I don’t even think I learned particularly well in highschool - my sleep was absolutely terrible and I was pretty unhappy with school in general. I honestly find I learn a lot better in my early 20’s
@alejandroalaniz8064
3 жыл бұрын
I just learned about the UNO hit piece, and Mark Gudgel being forced to sever ties. I feel so devistated that all the good you attempted to do was shutdown by the amount of hatred online. I hope this doesn't discourage you from future political activism. Your focus on local politics was inspiring 😟
@cult_m3chanicu523
3 жыл бұрын
Sadly it mighty cause he sunk a large amount of money and time into doing this, and it fell through and was already unsure about doing it again after this.
@DepthUnchecked
3 жыл бұрын
Destiny can easily help in local politics through canvassing, he just can’t work directly with the campaign.
@daviedood2503
Жыл бұрын
What happened I just found him a few weeks ago. Been binge watching all his lives plus when he goes live so past ones go on hold. I missed it what happened here.
@tonjolley6422
3 жыл бұрын
You may not like it, but he speaks hard truth about the college stuff. Learning how to hold yourself accountable and to just do the work is the key.
@Maelthorn1337
3 жыл бұрын
... Hey can you send me a link to the art in your profile picture? Or the name of the artist or somethin?
@Maelthorn1337
3 жыл бұрын
@@Yuvraj. Ohhhh. Okay I tried that thanks. Unfortunately I can't seem to find any high res images. :T
@greyblob1101
3 жыл бұрын
And good habits, like getting enough sleep, showing up to class early
@Awesomeficationify
3 жыл бұрын
The child labor part was SOOO absolutely BASED. I needed to know what it was like to work and develop those real-world skills young. That would have been so useful to me. To take it further, maybe have some very basic mandatory internship opportunities for career exploration in high school. I had no idea what to focus on in college and wasted a lot of time/money. People just kept telling me my whole life that it would just come to me one day. That was bullshit.
@duncanbug
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I’m in the same boat of having wasted lots of college money not getting a feel for what I’d like to do for work. It sucks. Good to know someone else had the same experience.
@11DaltonB
3 жыл бұрын
Some other countries start people on the educational path for trade profession/white collar job/other at a younger age than the U.S. And it usually includes internships while you study. I think it would help a lot of kids with developing those skills and help with the "not really sure what i want to do" as you're going into college.
@duncanbug
3 жыл бұрын
@@11DaltonB I would LOVE this
@onedeathbyflame
3 жыл бұрын
The fear of failure comes from adhd, be careful how you go about helping him deal with it. Most feelings of failure are internal, I couldn't care less about what other people think, in fact it stokes my fire but if I feel defeated internally it's crushing.
@InedibleTR0UT
3 жыл бұрын
Holy shit that's exactly it! Why couldn't I ever put it into words before?
@duncanbug
3 жыл бұрын
For me it happens because my ADHD makes me see everything as one single impossible task. It’s hard to explain. It’s like I process everything at once.
@duncanbug
3 жыл бұрын
For me it happens because my ADHD makes me see everything as one single impossible task. It’s hard to explain. It’s like I process everything at once.
@TheFreshTrumpet
3 жыл бұрын
is he confirmed to have ADHD? Cuz fear of failure can manifest from a lot of things including that, him having ADHD would just be news to me
@corbenmurphy1807
3 жыл бұрын
Id like to share; when I give my absolute all, try my hardest and still fail/get defeat, that’s when I absolutely lose my shit. I pretty much black out in rage and lose all control. Very rare it happens and it is not pretty. Some people are just more equipped for that emotion.
@gerbygerbs7705
3 жыл бұрын
That shit with Nathan being discouraged but capable is so real with younger kids. My daughter is 8 and I know 100% for a fact she can skate without needing help, I've seen her do it, but if you ask her to go outside and skate she'll say she wants her hand held because she thinks she needs help. Have the hardest time working through it with her but telling her she's wrong for being nervous or scared has had zero success. Taking a break and hyping her up to try her best works but after every time it's like she mentally resets and can't do it again. Wonder if thats an adhd thing.
@duncanbug
3 жыл бұрын
I have ADHD and I’ve always been like that. You’re a great dad if your trying to build your daughters confidence like that. My parents just give up on me when I’d become upset or scared. It just reinforced me giving up on homework etc. It’s SUPER important to build “self-efficacy” in ADHD kids.
@frogturtle
3 жыл бұрын
a great teacher is fair. they are fairly disappointed when you don't meet their standards, and fairly offer praise proportional to the difficulty of your accomplishments. bad teachers are too abusive and cause you to lose faith in yourself, or too nice and delude you into thinking you're great when you aren't.
@DissentingCalm
3 жыл бұрын
That feeling when Destiny says he started music late in middle school and I'm just starting now in my 30s...
@Shannxy
3 жыл бұрын
You got this my man! Keep at it
@shoeby9273
3 жыл бұрын
Jam out, my dude.
@craydogdog1530
3 жыл бұрын
You can do that!! XD
@Fakery
3 жыл бұрын
Be driven by love, not fear Positive reinforcement is based
@Resolution001
3 жыл бұрын
Thats sweet my man
@MsHumanOfTheDecade
3 жыл бұрын
but also not enough. the idea of the carrot AND the stick exists for a reason.
@TheFreshTrumpet
3 жыл бұрын
@@MsHumanOfTheDecade Yeah everyone's optimal balance is different and there are definitely ppl who's past experiences make it really difficult to get literally any benefits from punishment-based reinforcement, but I'm def inclined to agree that some mix of both is ideal fro most ppl
@LesterBrunt
3 жыл бұрын
@@MsHumanOfTheDecade Not enough for incapable teachers.
@d0gtree14
3 жыл бұрын
Doing college completely remotely is so hard lol, The fact I can just not do it is too much power for me.
@rickyemiguel
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, the best way to do remote anything is to have a planner/scheduler up and ready with what you will need to do. Once you start doing that and make it a habit, it's really hard not to abide by it.
@d0gtree14
3 жыл бұрын
@@rickyemiguel I agree that is what my sister does I had a loss in motivation due to lack of funding and resources. I had to wait 3 almost months into being in college until I got money from the state to pay for my laptop I did some work on my sisters laptop in the time being but with her also being in school it made things hard for me so when I eventually got my laptop I was already behind on like 1.5-2 months worth of work from 4 classes plus what was already due so I just completely lost all motivation
@TheSandwichmann
3 жыл бұрын
The sandwich man believes in all of you, whatever is you want to do, you can do it!
@Godzillaaaaa11
3 жыл бұрын
Did you eat a sandwich today?
@tremolo2109
3 жыл бұрын
thanks sandwich man
@samoanj8081
3 жыл бұрын
Your an allrye guy sandwich man.
@punjatti101
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks man
@alexandergott3409
3 жыл бұрын
duuuude, i haate it when people say "oh youre so talented, i could never do that", especially when it comes to my art (i do a lot of portraiture), and i tell them evvvvery time, "i started out just as crappy as anyone. i just spent like hundreds of hours practicing". The idea of talent fosters the belief that you can't pursue something unless you have a "natural inclination" for it but it's not true. I recently guided a friend in doing a portrait, and she caught on so well and was so excited. Least to say, she went from "i could never" to "wow, i did".
@BuckshotBill118
3 жыл бұрын
I'm a burgeoning concept artist and I really hate when people say I'm talented because it kinda denegrates the sheer amount of time put in, so I really make sure to differentiate talent and skill.
@marshalkagami
2 жыл бұрын
Im a tattooer and i cant stress enough how true what youre saying is. 'WoW yOu dRaw So GoOd, i CaNT eVEn dRaW a sTiCk fIgUre' im at a point where i just ignore those comments because for me its like super awkward when people want to like drown you in praise. It often feels like im pulling teeth just to get like constructive criticism from people so i can grow haha
@lizzygizzy2565
2 жыл бұрын
Going off of his high school advice, taking classes from your community college during high school is the best. I took a single summer semester of sign language at the college and it fulfilled the 4 years of language I needed in high school, it’s ridiculous the shortcuts you can get.
@SkullcandyEdit
3 жыл бұрын
I love these story-streams, feelsgoodman
@morgangreen2601
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@slapdashzeal6095
3 жыл бұрын
“Go down the line” moments instantly brought back some insane memories.
@robokaos69
3 жыл бұрын
This type of content is incredibly valuable and motivational as someone in their mid-teens.
@Lewa500
3 жыл бұрын
This is precisely why I was drawn to Destiny in the first place -- the nuanced introspection. I also don't like compliments and prefer to be challenged instead. This whole move towards excessive niceness is super toxic to me. Nowadays, I don't trust anyone who tries to be nice all the time. That's just not human, and they're definitely hiding their power levels.
@TheFreshTrumpet
3 жыл бұрын
Idk man, not disagreeing on the concept of toxic positivity but there are definitely some people who are genuinely just that nice. Some ppl fake it like you said but I know someone who's almost grossly nice to everyone just bc that's who she is and how she was raised and it sucks when I hear ppl question her authenticity. I'm js be careful not to make that assumption about everyone who's like that cuz that projection can really mess with otherwise awesome relationships
@haruhirogrimgar6047
3 жыл бұрын
It honestly really bothers me I have to tell my classmates at the end of a presentation to be ruthless with their criticism of my Powerpoints. Especially when 70% still just leave "good job" on the notes and I have to severely limit my criticism of theirs.
@WanderTheNomad
3 жыл бұрын
@@haruhirogrimgar6047 This may or may not be good advice, but I think you should treat others how you wish to be treated. Give them some ruthless criticism and maybe they'll feel the need to do the same to you.
@haruhirogrimgar6047
3 жыл бұрын
@@WanderTheNomad Nah, that goes blatantly against the social norms for Social Workers and classes. You are supposed to be positive and one of the first things they try to ingrain into your head is taking a "strengths based approach." Which is basically trying to view a person from the resources and strengths they do have rather than focusing on their faults. Being incredibly critical over the way someone presented a chapter from a textbook is an unspoken taboo. Edit: I feel the need to add context to this that I have high functioning autism. At this point I have to be especially conscious of social norms, implied rules or behaviours, and what proper or improper responses or statements are. So I am probably more cognizant of this stuff than my classmates.
@WanderTheNomad
3 жыл бұрын
@@haruhirogrimgar6047 Perhaps I should rephrase "ruthless criticism" to "the type of criticism you would like to receive from others". In some of the classes I've had, when judging other people's work, the teacher has it so you write like 2 good things about it and 2 bad things. And probably preferably useful comments, instead of just words to make you feel good/bad.
@WanderTheNomad
3 жыл бұрын
I love hearing stories from other people's lives. Really gives me some perspective on the world. Guess that's why I like watching Dr. K's interviews and the Trash Taste podcast.
@wishi6616
3 жыл бұрын
When destiny was talking about how we should mix the learning stage of our lifes with the working stage more it blew my mind, ive never even thought about anything even close to that before lmao
@SenaMeushi
3 жыл бұрын
It's funny to me because the times I've worked the hardest is always after feeling humiliated. Spite fuels my motivation far more than praise ever could.
@Nightknight1992
3 жыл бұрын
the skipping class thing is the truest shit ever. feels like it completely fucked my life cuz i dropped out of college for the same reason. bonus meme: when i got called to the teachers office for missing like above 50% of ALL my classes i said i was suffering from anxiety about all the tests ad not going would ease my stress. they sent me once to the school psychologist and never questioned my absence again.
@aliensensum8663
3 жыл бұрын
Willpower, passion, and thus the motivation to prove your worth.
@10kbrandon80
3 жыл бұрын
Magic Tree House was the best book series I’ve ever read unironically
@noicedesign
3 жыл бұрын
I think so much of it comes down to developing confidence and just attempting to generally "do hard things". Before I learned web development I approached most complex problems with an "I'll never understand this so why bother" kind of attitude. As a designer, going through a coding bootcamp was probably the hardest thing I've ever done, but since then I've approached most complex subjects and problems in life with a far more open and analytical approach.
@minimento3978
3 жыл бұрын
This was the most interesting long video I've listened to, wow
@Ephremjlm1
3 жыл бұрын
"Skipping the first class in college is like eating an apple from the tree of knowledge. Once you do that, you are just so fucked." Steven Destiny Kenith Bonnell, my friend if you are remembered for anything, let it be the wisdom coming from this quote.
@Ephremjlm1
3 жыл бұрын
@Nath Krishna That shit hit home for me lmao.
@TheOneAndOnlyZN
3 жыл бұрын
Destiny's most humiliating moment was when he started the call with nobullshit lol
@@Americansikkunt "I'm Steven I'm dumb I have fuckin stupid fans" 😂 my fav quote from that convo
@misskif8174
3 жыл бұрын
NoBS is intellectual heavyweight, Steven couldn't hold his own in that one. I don't blame him. Some say NoBS has 5 PhD's, he just refuses to show them in order not to spoil to his enemies about his expertises
@TheBIOSStar
3 жыл бұрын
@@misskif8174 The king amongst the humble.
@Tocinos
3 жыл бұрын
positive reinforcement is motivation by seeing progress. negative reinforcement is motivating by fear
@NexusCapital
3 жыл бұрын
Fear is a much better motivator. Our ancestors were motivated primarily by fear.
@Tocinos
3 жыл бұрын
@@NexusCapital survivorship bias. if 1000 people run across a room blindfolded with falling anvils, the 10 people who made it will tell you it was the easiest thing ever
@NexusCapital
3 жыл бұрын
@@Tocinos No idea how that relates to fear being the better motivator. If I had to use your analogy though you take 500 of those people a month out from the anvil drop and tell them good job everyday while they are training and its okay if they dont make it but try their best. I'll take the other 500 and very coldly explain to them that this is serious shit and if you aren't training your hardest every single day you are going to fucking die and be smashed into meat bag soup. Wonder which group is going to be the most prepared? My group might not like me but I dont give a shit, I'm hard on them because I care. Military is no different. The hugbox that is being created in the US infantry scares the shit out of me if we went to war with other countries that didn't rely on "good job" to train their soldiers.
@andrewashworth8327
3 жыл бұрын
@@NexusCapital This whole conversation is dumb. "Better motivator" - everyone knows when you're training someone you use both. People who exceed expectations get medals and recognition, people who let others down get smoked. If all you hand out is negativity people will only work exactly hard enough to not get called out, and will otherwise sham all the time.
@andrewashworth8327
3 жыл бұрын
Also not everyone has the mentality to endure constant struggle, otherwise everyone could join the special forces.
@godiebeard
3 жыл бұрын
I have a fear of failure when I set the expectations for myself but when others set expectations for me or underestimate me or undermine the level of my skill, I become much more motivated
@MsHumanOfTheDecade
3 жыл бұрын
i can 100% relate. projects i start myself are doomed to fail, while projects i do for others/to prove others wrong always go well and in a ridiculously short amount of time.
@toddthing
3 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the world of making music; you have to do it for the love!
@frogery
3 жыл бұрын
the idea that you lose the ability to learn new things after a certain age is terrifying and i'm glad it's turning out to be false. there's so much that i want to learn to do before i die.
@LesterBrunt
3 жыл бұрын
Stravinsky was known to buy new music theory books and do all the exercises on paper in his 80’s. I play in a band with a guy who is 70, started playing at 50 yet still has more experience than plenty of decent guitar players.
@nocuh
3 жыл бұрын
DOWN WITH HOMEWORK
@0hate9
3 жыл бұрын
I remember I had a class in college with a bunch of stupid busywork assignments, and at the end of the semester, I had like two done, so I just submitted empty zip files for the rest. My teacher gave me like 70s to 85s on all of them, and I never mentioned it. The guy was clearly just phoning his shit in and giving everyone random passing grades without actually looking at the assignments. I think it took like two months after the class was done for us to even get our grades back for our *midterms.*
@downsjmmyjones101
3 жыл бұрын
I know a russian guy who came to America when he was in his late 20s. He didn't know english. He worked for a russian guy so he didn't need to know english. Eventually he worked hard and learned english, went to school, and graduated as a pharmacist. His english is amazing. Despite the evidence for his ability to learn english and also all the math and chemistry he needed to graduate, he still thinks children are way better at learning languages and that adults suck.
@TheFreshTrumpet
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah when it comes to language specifically, that's pretty much a widely accepted fact within the field of psychology, our ability to absorb languages is absolutely fkn next level for kids under the age of 7, it's one of the most well-researched sensitive periods there is. I mean there are a lot of kids out there who are literally fluent in like 5+ languages by 7 years old, it's so damn awesome
@howarddd1705
Жыл бұрын
i liked this reminiscing vid, it made me think about my high school years and how much fun i had with everyone
@hexxin
3 жыл бұрын
You're not alone, a compliment is the first thing to make me not care. Call me a trash (whatever) and my motivation appears from no where. I have hypothesis for why people like me exist but nothing supported beyond anecdotal evidence. Also those types of teachers get astonishing performance from students like me. I got 100% in my Algebra. (He said something like "Do you need to relearn your ABCs or do you need to barrow my hand to count past 10. Finding these values isn't difficult ." i believe what caused me to make Algebra my bitch. He is dead now but he will always have my thanks for that push.)
@fifthwallrenaissance3433
3 жыл бұрын
Destiny is slowly becoming the Joe Rogan of Twitch
@nicholasg.5441
3 жыл бұрын
I think the important part about being nice vs. mean in criticism is compassion. Nice is safe because even if you're not compassionate it still comes across as wanting someone to do better, whereas mean works in the extremes; if you're compassionate about it, people will be much more motivated to meet your standards. If you're not compassionate, you'll come across like a dick and people will just fight back or give up.
@voltaicburst4279
3 жыл бұрын
Another possibility is people decide to push harder to spite the teacher and prove them wrong when given harsh criticism with no compassion, that happens a lot so can't leave that out.
@nicholasg.5441
3 жыл бұрын
@@voltaicburst4279 That's valid. I'd be curious to see how often this is the case, and whether those people are still seeking praise at the end of the day but going about it in a roundabout way. If they go through the effort and the teacher still refuses to acknowledge their work, I'm curious whether that would be a positive or negative impact.
@MaTaTa_999
2 жыл бұрын
The thing about skipping classes in college is the most true thing I have ever heard in my life. Don't do it ya'll. I'm speaking from experience
@eb4241
3 жыл бұрын
It is kind of crazy that people start learning instruments in high school are always considered to be at a serious disadvantage
@kevinpurnell9465
3 жыл бұрын
Actually adults can learn a new language just as much as kids. It turns out that children are just exposed to the language far more often and seem to learn faster.
@ryanmadigan4715
3 жыл бұрын
This really depends on what theory of linguistics you subscribe to, if a child does not learn a language by say 14, they will never be able to learn any language
@kevinpurnell9465
3 жыл бұрын
@@ryanmadigan4715 I’m talking about the speed at which a child learns. It’s commonly thought as echoed by Destiny that children are faster learners for whatever reason
@WanderTheNomad
3 жыл бұрын
Yea, I've also heard it's that children just have a lot more time than adults, and also that some adults just succumb to "oh I'm too old for this, I can't do it" and that causes them to learn the language much more slowly. Like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
@devin7161
3 жыл бұрын
You got a source on that? That contradicts literally everything I have ever read in psych, linguistics and my own experiences learning.
@fatnose0
3 жыл бұрын
Just defending Russian teachers here, I learned Russian as a second language and my teacher was the sweetest and hardest working teacher in the school, and I have very high respect for most of my teachers from there but she was just THAT dedicated.
@LesterBrunt
3 жыл бұрын
I totally disagree. I have been through 6 years of conservatory and bad abusive teachers really turned me into a socially anxious mess for many years. I don’t agree at all that it is good for learning. There is a real distinction between being strict but kind and being an abusive toxic bully. Going down the line is good but humiliating someone is a toxic culture that unfortunately is too common in music. You can just easily tell someone “you have to put in more work if you want to be able to keep up” without screaming, being mean, humiliation, etc.
@earlsb23
3 жыл бұрын
*"Evidence is the plural of anecdote"*
@mateofernandez3139
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve actually thought about this a lot and although the large majority do respond well to positive reinforcement I’ve noticed that when you choose to be negative it feels like whiplash to the kids and they are stunned and they end up listening it’s an effective tool but only if you do have those reinforcements around. Sometimes I’d have a bad week and me being negative would work once twice or 3 times but after the effectiveness drops and they lose respect quick Edit: I’ve been working at a daycare for kid 5-11 for a year now and you find out quick how kids respond
@Aristotle1251
3 жыл бұрын
I think a large part of what makes going back to school after taking time off is after you have started working and taking on more bills/financial responsibility it can be tough to make the sacrifice to going to part time. Focusing on school and taking less time to work is what you SHOULD do but the reality is people don't want to give up their short term financial gain that got from working part time.
@tarqinquentinsson-obviousl957
3 жыл бұрын
I don't think I ever did even one piece of homework at home
@instakillgaming
3 жыл бұрын
I have experienced and can relate to literally every second of this video
@kingsloth4106
3 жыл бұрын
You play rotmg?
@instakillgaming
3 жыл бұрын
@@kingsloth4106 ofc!
@kingsloth4106
3 жыл бұрын
@@instakillgaming Nice. I thought the game was dead, but it’s nice to see that people still play.
@instakillgaming
3 жыл бұрын
@@kingsloth4106 thriving, surprisingly. I dont keep up with the rotmg youtube scene much anymore, but every time I check there is a new channel with a rotmg video that has 100k+ views, pretty cool to see
@roymarshall_
3 жыл бұрын
13:50 HOLY SHIT I THINK ABOUT THIS ALL THE TIME. Even subconsciously it fucks me up because I'm scared that I wont be able to learn as much as I do now since I'm getting close to 30
@sunbIind
3 жыл бұрын
@socially unacceptable just learn it lol
@DarrellVermilion
2 жыл бұрын
1:09:49 Sitting in the same spot is super effective for encoding information so it's unsurprising that people tend to stay in the same spots. Sitting in a new spot every time can seriously compromise your ability to effectively process information.
@Michael-Rosen
3 жыл бұрын
21 minutes in and this is one of my favourite destiny clips of all time
@Sensual_Sweets
3 жыл бұрын
Right in my feeeed
@benrelaxedguy
3 жыл бұрын
dum
@natetehgreatt
3 жыл бұрын
A child who is exposed to constant negative feedback will have a higher chance of learning to thrive on it, regardless of whether it's directed at them or not. A child who is exposed to constant positive feedback will have a higher chance of learning to thrive on that, instead. A child who is exposed to both will have a higher chance of learning to thrive on both depending on the circumstances of each individual situation and how it relates to their expose to positive/negative feedback at young ages.
@japhalpha
3 жыл бұрын
16:20 - I took a gap year and jeeez I can't imagine going back to school. I know I could, but ouch
@flatplant
3 жыл бұрын
Skipping is a very tricky situation. If your mind is so poisoned you decide to wield that power, you just have to be ready to crunch. For my business ethics class in college I skipped the maximum number of days allowed yet I still managed to fully prepare and present my projects independently. It all comes down to how much you can handle the pressure :)
@yahoruz
3 жыл бұрын
to the 3:00 point im completely like this, i hate compliments like completely like this i cant respond to it in a productive way but if someone tells me im garbage there is this motivation im getting
@rpaulisan
3 жыл бұрын
The reason why it doesn't really work for me is I get spiteful. My thought process when someone calls me out forcefully is usually something like "ok well fuck you then, I'm out". It might be that my experiences have specifically had to do with assholes though. I'm from eastern Europe and I feel like we have "dickhead russian teacher" types around too.
@antonvoltchok7794
3 жыл бұрын
I don’t agree that after your 20s it’s drastically more difficult to learn new things, it’s a habit.. I’m in tech and had to force my self to constantly learn new things, weekly, for the past 10+ years and it hasn’t gotten any harder than it used to be. Now Id bet if I took a year break from this decade long habit, trying to learn those things would be drastically more difficult.
@TheFreshTrumpet
3 жыл бұрын
Maybe not drastically more difficult for the average person but there's definitely times in our lives developmentally when we're able to learn new things much quicker, and my understanding is that typically those sensitive stages happen before we turn 25 (insanely so before we hit the age of 7). Language is a great example of a skill that's measurably more difficult for adults to pick up than kids and teens, and language applies to fields like music and tech where it def feels like a different language for ppl who weren't exposed to it in some basic form when we were younger. I'd be willing to bet that learning new things in your field would be significantly harder if you were starting your education in the field at 25 and not 18 or younger, ya know? But agreed 100% with the idea that it's not impossible to work through that, just seems more difficult for some ppl than others
@TheKaiBear
3 жыл бұрын
I'm only like 8min in.. I think a part of this is not just the person, but also where they are in the process. I think positive reinforcement can be really good when you are first starting out in something new. Also, I wouldn't say that in Steven's example that the teacher was giving "negative" reinforcement, but realistic advice/expectations. Lastly, not every activity is going to be right for someone. Some subjects you get into because someone challenges you or you can see the value in it because of how interested they are in the subject, but then there are other subjects where you find your own meaning in the activity and that's why you get into it. As an example, I didn't really care about English class that much until I had a couple of really good teachers. For my Sociology course though, I was instantly hooked on it, and would have been regardless of the teacher.
@ezswagger6969
3 жыл бұрын
This reminded me of a moment I had in high school jazz band where I had practiced this solo for like hours and hours before the concert, but for that one time I literally missed like half the notes and just gave up, like the pressure got to me. And there has never been a point I can remember feeling more failure than in that moment and yet it was so relieving somehow i cant explain. Whats funny is even tho i basically butchered this whole thing, at the end the instructor still read my name out lol
@ThEAiRsOfTMaSsAcRe
3 жыл бұрын
My 2nd year college Strat we me and the guy I chilled with in my course always teamed up with the 2 asian exchange students because they were super attentive and were really hard working, but their english was somewhat broken so we would always get a far smaller section and most of our work was formatting
@kingz7151
3 жыл бұрын
I remember seeing the video of Destiny playing piano at Orlando in the thumbnail, everyone was commenting on how awkward and shy he was during it and he seems way more confident nowadays.
@NexusCapital
3 жыл бұрын
The older I get the more respect I have for the men and women that were hard on me growing up.
@swatchcovers5401
3 жыл бұрын
Discipline is I would argue is the core philosophy of music school as a whole.
@Caseyw462
3 жыл бұрын
Getting discouraged is okay as long as you keep moving forward. It's okay to have the mind of a pessimist, as long as in you're in the boots of an optimist.
@Slembi
3 жыл бұрын
Just got done watching the Omaha video lmao
@Potatotenkopf
3 жыл бұрын
The whole rant about not skipping makes me very sad because of the online schooling sruff and how easy it was and still is to just leave without any accountability.
@Seatek_Ark
3 жыл бұрын
For anyone that's curious- @33:00 he mentions the chemistry course requiring memorization. That's not the point, the point was that there's a pattern to the table and you could map it out in your head based on the table instead of the ions. glhf in Chem
@TheFreshTrumpet
3 жыл бұрын
Also my god agreed 100% on not skipping class, that shit is like a drug and it'll fuck you up if you're not the most self-disciplined freshman in your class lol cuz you can really fk up your GPA for the rest of college if you don't lock that shit down
@KristoKorps
2 жыл бұрын
My favorite thing about multiple choice was to survey through the test, make marks like "EZ" or "L" for Last and circle ones I knew I felt shakey on from reading the prompt.
@kfcnutrients9537
3 жыл бұрын
I did both IB and AP. they were the same shit - IB had you do really random weird requirements, some extra papers here or there. I didn't get the "IB Diploma" though - that was a really hard feat, they had a lot of extra tests that was scored pretty strictly. out of 950 kids in my grade only like 40 got that diploma. that's really the only difference, both are based
@zeekawesomecus917
3 жыл бұрын
I had a huge problem getting work done in school growing up. It wasn't that I couldn't do it, I just didn't want to. Also my mom said that I would get in my own way. Like with writing I'd erase and rewrite the same sentence over and over again sometimes. It wasnt until junior and senior year I realized how easy it was to get everything done if I'd get it done at school. It also helped that all my teachers those years gave us time in class to do homework.
@adriancarter2789
3 жыл бұрын
playing sports taught me that everyone needed criticism differently. one of the best players on my team would completely shut down after getting yelled at. a good leader should take the time
@harryb12993
3 жыл бұрын
I took the forbidden fruit in the first semester of the first year of university. Everything was optional, I had never been in this position before, I was free. I went to nothing and managed to scrape a pass, the habit continued to the following years heavily hindering my grade, no first, just a 2-1.
@MaGSteelX
Жыл бұрын
The worst thing you can do when cheating for a test is to cheat off one person and not answer anything on your own! I rarely ever tried to actually answer a question mostly cheated, never caught graduated A/B's! 😂
@raccoon6451
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah I did the skipping classes thing in highschool and thought I'd be fine but then skipping one day turned into a whole week then the covid thing happened and I just gave up and I hate myself for doing that and now I just don't know where to go from here
@dreaminginnoother
3 жыл бұрын
omg. I graduated college 13 years ago, and I still have dreams regularly that even though I graduated college, I have to go back and finish high school. And every time, I realize I had skipped going to one of my classes the whole semester so they fail me and I have to do it again.. Apparently these dreams will never leave.
@jeremykoberstein6018
3 жыл бұрын
I have this exact same situation but graduated college 4 years ago. Do you consider it closer to a dream or a nightmare?
@dreaminginnoother
3 жыл бұрын
@@jeremykoberstein6018 haha. the latter for sure
@craydogdog1530
3 жыл бұрын
@@dreaminginnoother Watch anime and forget about the real world.
@craydogdog1530
3 жыл бұрын
@@dreaminginnoother also, don’t be hard on yourself.
@dreaminginnoother
3 жыл бұрын
@@craydogdog1530 anime, lol... I wouldn't do that to myself... I rely on daily drugs and alcohol for that.
@trop3848
3 жыл бұрын
I skipped class once in college cause I was sick, but by that point I was so aware of the amount of work I had to do that I was shitting bricks the whole day, and pretty much never did it again.
@skoomaenjoyer9582
Жыл бұрын
For me in highschool, it was the opposite. I played waterpolo and had an extremely thorough default work ethic. Most of my teammates would "forget to count laps" on occasion and all the small innocent stuff that normal kids would do. I never skipped a set, never gave less than 100%, because I came from a place of doubt. When I first joined my coach said "so long as you give everything you have, you have a spot on the team," that was all I needed to hear to gain confidence. I knew I could give all of my effort. I was horrible on "field" but naturally good as a goalie (tall, lanky, good "jump" and reflexes), but I played goalie late. Most goalies played that position all 4 years, I played 2... And still did a great job IMO. This was when I saw the flawed coaching approach. My second year as goalie, my new coach treated me like other players as though I was slacking or not trying, all it did was reaffirm the "maybe I really am shit, like he says I am..." My first year as goalie, my old coach had to tell me to be more proud of my blocks after shutting down a turnover in scrimmage. That'll always stick with me. The balance is really hard to strike I imagine, and my case isn't very common. It's not even something i'm proud of either, because the most common motivator (negative input) shuts me down easily. That second coach knew how to motivate me, and when I made stupid mistakes he knew to calm me down. He knew that if anyone were mad about the mistake, it was most certainly myself. Negative reinforcement just makes me more spiteful of myself, the type of spite that supersedes the game and causes distraction. If i could give anyone advice about anything related to motivation (granted, i'm bad at it), it'd be to figure out which of the two/anything in-between, motivates you.
@xadithy9116
3 жыл бұрын
Zoom school COMPLETELY FUCKED the lmao do your hw in between classes thing and I’m dying
@tempj
3 жыл бұрын
Dude US Testing seems so much easier than other countries?! maybe i have only seen things from tv shows and from what destiny was talking about but multiple choice tests are 100x easier than written ones , my entire school life we never had multiple choice tests at all
@NYSxIMPULSE
3 жыл бұрын
I had a substitute teach with a bad speech impediment in 4th grade and we would not stop laughing at him about it we got in a lot of trouble for it, but 2 years later he got arrested for child porn and the school sent everyone an apology for reprimanding us for laughing at him
@chewbacca2858
3 жыл бұрын
Best double spacing trick it to make your periods bigger. It’ll make the spaces a little wider which will help you for your 10+ page essays
@meijiishin5650
3 жыл бұрын
The college thing depends on your mindset I guess. I dropped out for 2 years but I was still learning things I was interested, then I went back and had a goal/understood the value of it all. 18 year old me got shit grades but 21 yr old me got almost a full ride and graduated with straight a’s. College is based when you understand what you want to put in and get out, but going in with uncertainty at 17/18 can end badly imo.
@duncanbug
3 жыл бұрын
This is definitely true. I regret not dropping out and then going back (did a major I hated so my grades weren’t great) now I changed my major and I’m doing much better but that time could have been spent better by not paying money for a major I hated lol.
@wadeflores6978
3 жыл бұрын
I heard JUG and instantly got ptsd. Thanks my dude
@TheFreshTrumpet
3 жыл бұрын
There's absolutely nothing wrong with thinking you need tough love kind of discipline, and there's nothing wrong with thinking you need a more compassionate positive approach to get the best out of yourself. Problems arise when we judge each other over that shit. Destiny's not automatically a masochist for wanting more punishment/negative reinforcement, and people who want the other style aren't automatically weak or soft. It's amazing how much cognitive dissonance can be raised in ppl from simply acknowledging both of these concepts have merit
@jonese848
3 жыл бұрын
Adversity makes us better/ Too many are rejecting this lesson so they can "feel" comfortable. It's regressive.
@cpt.kagoul
Жыл бұрын
I guess the question for people who respond well to let’s say *non traditional forms of encouragement, would they respond worse or poorly to positive reinforcement?
@furyberserk
3 жыл бұрын
My school had classes of 20 to 29 kids with 6 periods. The teachers went to school early to have teacher's meeting for tests and homework amount to not overburden students and parent teacher's conferences where they mandatorily can only leave by 5pm at earliest, most not living in the city itself and the meetings are like 7am. Some of the teachers had to bs if they could.
@lepthymo
3 жыл бұрын
Quick thought at the start: I feel like people who grow from adversity is what's talked about in "Antifragile", which is apparently a shittily written book describing a great concept.
@jackkraken3888
3 жыл бұрын
Regarding cheating in school. I remember a friend of mine programming the quadratic equation into his scientific calculator and using it when he was on the test. He apparently said he was just testing if it would work as he didn't need it as he had it memorized.
@MrGetownedLP
3 жыл бұрын
"Kids are so smart...kids are so fuckign stupid, they dont realize how smart they are." lol I realize it was probably intenional to frame it like this but very funny statement either way
@toddsullivan1949
3 жыл бұрын
Frederick Nietzsche "What does not kill me makes me stronger." Ubermensch This is a concept that I firmly agree with. This is also how a dude that's 5' 120lbs can turn into an Alpha. I do think he is a lot more sensitive than he lets on and the line of, I'm emotionally detached is a bit of a front but that's just protection from the wolf's.
@Zaleravon
3 жыл бұрын
Destiny the high level memes was finding out your homework before it was even assigned, doing it in class after you finish classwork (without letting the teacher know), and then never having to do anything after school at all
@Sikidd206
3 жыл бұрын
humiliation or like strictness will either cause you to be your best or make you quit depending on how much you want to succeed imo
@heartsalive3157
2 жыл бұрын
lol that isn't late for my friend he started bass as 20 and piano a year later and we got a sick folk/metal band now!
@existentialpanik600
3 жыл бұрын
1:20:00 HOLY SHIT Destiny is into OPETH? that's fucking uhmazin'
@MIRACLECHEEZ
3 жыл бұрын
older russian teachers are inhumanely cruel but also very talented. i didn’t realize anyone here would have any experience with them, i was under the illusion that nobody but russian parents would subject their kids to that kind of teaching lol
@zeekawesomecus917
3 жыл бұрын
Idk my only experience was a Russian math teacher my senior year that didn't teach us anything cause all it took was 1 kid messing with him and he'd lecture the entire class for the rest of the period about how we need to stop misbehaving. This went on for about 3/4th of the school year until he was switched out for a substitute who also didn't teach us anything for the rest of the year.
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