Everyone: Single is better. I took advice similar to this broadcast and “fought for my wife”. I devoted myself to house chores, got in military shape at the gym, and didn’t even try to touch my wife for 6 years, all while supporting her financially. Nothing changed. Now, I’m 38 and attracting women 18-25. Don’t waste your life on a narcissist.
@gangalee2141
4 күн бұрын
Sorry you had to endure that but your own personal experience does not invalidated what is generally true for most people for most of human history. You mentioned what you were doing but at no time did you mention what she was doing in return or reciprocation. So you were applying only half the process. Both of you have to work toward the common goal not just one and as soon as you realized that, you should have sought a different solution or path. Following the wrong path for your relationship just means expenditure of a lot of effort that was never going to be fruitful so now you are frustrated or bitter about all the work you did. Your effort was oriented to the wrong goal. However there is light at the end of the tunnel, like any bad investment, we learn from it and become better at investing, just make sure you are not learning the wrong lesson!
@Ordiaegel
3 күн бұрын
@@gangalee2141 I repeat: single is better, and the passive-aggressive response above validates everything I said.
@gangalee2141
3 күн бұрын
@@Ordiaegel sorry brother! No such thing as passive aggressive, that’s a made up nonsense. If it is passive, it is by definition not agressive, however there is nothing passive or aggressive about my response. Pretty straight forward actually, both of you have to be committed to the success of the relationship. If it was only you being committed then it would not have worked. The question is how to use that information to successfully move forward. PS. I was not targeting or disrespecting you and of course I realize that you can only tell so much in a post on KZitem. I do wish you all the best and I meant that actively not passively.
@Ordiaegel
3 күн бұрын
@@gangalee2141 Wow…First, please don’t call me brother. I’m not your brother. Second, this sort of pharisaical behavior is exactly what drives people away from the Church.
@gainsofglory6414
2 күн бұрын
Not sure what the scenario here is, but my wife wouldn't want anything to do with me either if I dedicated to house chores and didn't try to touch her. I've also invested time and effort into thinking that would be effective. She wants you do let her do what shes supposed to do, you do what you are supposed to do, not do her stuff for her, and absolutely touch her. They do not want passive, invisible servants, they want men. No judgment as I've been there also, but being single at 38 would certainly not be a desired outcome for most people. Narcissists exist, you may have been with one, absolutely. I'm just saying your list there of what you did is asking for failure, and that may be part of it. I tried it, and my wife had to turn me into a man because she was sick of of pathetic it was. Its insecure attachment mentality. You probably were with a securely attached woman. That can seem like narcissism if you don't evaluate those things and dig into them. Attachment types are very real. Anyway. Hope one of those young ladies wants to stay soon. Get back in the game lad.
@TitusConstantine
2 күн бұрын
Catholic Answers you got the timestamps in the description wrong for the Jimmy Akin half.
@catholiccom
2 күн бұрын
Fixed, thank you!
@euenilagan7004
2 күн бұрын
I love you Cy, but folgers, uggh!
@rjskeptic5273
4 күн бұрын
I'm a physicalist. Therefore a god does not exist in my worldview.
@gangalee2141
4 күн бұрын
Well brother! That is something you have to wrestle with and hopefully one day you will find your way.
@rjskeptic5273
3 күн бұрын
@@gangalee2141 I have found my way.
@gainsofglory6414
2 күн бұрын
@@rjskeptic5273ya, most of us said that also and believed it to our core. But we grow and change. I was brought into faith kicking and screaming, fighting it for a decade. In my decades of various flavors of atheism I never came accross any physicalists. I suppose as we experience so much that isn't physical every day regardless of ones view of "God" that it was a position I skipped over. But I went through many phases none the less. I fought it for 10 years, but God beat me in that struggle, as one could expect. But we are told to do that struggle none the less. Wrestle with God. Even as sure as you are, keep coming to these videos, even if just to refute them. Engage and don't avoid, then check back in 10 years down the road.
@rjskeptic5273
2 күн бұрын
@@gainsofglory6414 Rather than skipping over a philosophical position, maybe take a closer look into physicalism.
@gainsofglory6414
2 күн бұрын
@@rjskeptic5273 I didnt say I just skipped over it, I said I skipped over it as a position for me to hold as its a more easily refuted position. Even in my atheist days I've never found its arguments convincing as we engage with so much that isn't physical on a daily basis, and I've never found its attempts to rectify that as convincing. If I felt that way about it back then, you could imagine how much more so I would feel now, directly interacting with the non physical rather often and intently. Thats what I meant though, I skipped it as a viable option for myself rather quickly, not that I'm not aware of it or its beliefs.
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