Well said brother. Surely, we women have sexual needs too. Unfortunately, many men are brought up in cultures that teach them women aren’t allowed to like/express enjoyment for sex. It’s human nature and both men and women have needs. Brothers, think carefully before taking a leap like this!
@himalayasingh3508
Жыл бұрын
Sorry in Islam it's prohibited for women to have pleasure. ..🤣🤣🙏🙏🙏 go through kuran thoroughly
@tanveersheikh9860
4 ай бұрын
@@himalayasingh3508 what are penis and vagina, cow worshippers doing here. get lost and lick the feet of brahman you lower caste
@Susan-fg3nv
2 ай бұрын
@@himalayasingh3508oh foolishness
@headinthekloudz
5 жыл бұрын
This brother need to be on national TV. Insha Allah
@abuhaadiyah9403
6 жыл бұрын
Great answer! The amount of layers in this answer is beautiful. Makes even the one who has one wife benefit from this answer.
@samsungvvvcmini8853
4 ай бұрын
Mashallah wise brother. Most brothers dont have the right mentality when talking about polygamy.
@kashifbenshamim8445
5 жыл бұрын
Your straight up sheikh may Allah swt reward you
@kellykelly9521
2 жыл бұрын
What happens when he cannot satisfy the first wife because he is clueless about intimacy and knows nothing about pleasing a woman yet he continues to marry other women as well
@intalmdr4627
2 жыл бұрын
Tell him what needs to be done.
@erolturk1445
2 жыл бұрын
E9 we q3 e qq
@Zazezoo
2 жыл бұрын
Then the other wives will reach him how to please a woman and will go back with newly gained skills to his useless and ungrateful first wife that thinks low of him that his performance perhaps gets affected.
@Mayo224
Жыл бұрын
@@Zazezoo tsk tsk
@blueflamingo329
Жыл бұрын
Apparently there is no answer to this question, beside silly ones.
@kellykelly9521
2 жыл бұрын
Best video I have seen in a long time. I learned alot from this today. Happy to have come across it at such an integral time in my life.
@RM-kf5tr
5 жыл бұрын
Assalamu alaikum, hope this wakes up some people who run into polygamy, and realise that its not for everyone
@ummukatheer247
5 жыл бұрын
Facts all day! Alhamdulilah جزاك الله خيرا
@michellesimpson4093
6 ай бұрын
This brother is excellent may Allah continue to bless him teaches truth 🙏
@josephjones836
2 жыл бұрын
It's nice to hear from a brother that I can relate too.
@xell5252
5 жыл бұрын
AS SALAAMU ALAIKUM WA RAHMAH'ULLAH Ahki, you speak straight and to the point, I may not agree with everything I've heard you say, WA ALLAH HU AL'EM, you seem to speak with knowledge and sincerity, and I've gained a greater understanding of many issues in our Deen thanks to your videos, BARAKULLAH HU FEEK!
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@xell5252
3 жыл бұрын
@@JahannamHellfire Huh??? 🤷🏾♂️
@العقيلي-ف7و
3 жыл бұрын
@@JahannamHellfire fear Allaah what an evil comment making you’re own Sharh of a Hadith
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
@@JahannamHellfire You were not given the knowledge of Allah (SWT), but Nabi (SAW) did.
@TrustJAAXA
2 жыл бұрын
Thauadah for this lesson. I appreciate it so much. It makes so much sense to have order and structure when it comes to managing the quality time with one's wives.
@loveschile7339
Жыл бұрын
Subhan Allah, the wisdom from such a young man!
@blueflamingo329
Жыл бұрын
Great wisdom in brother’ s words. Understanding both sides in marriage.
@aisham1057
11 ай бұрын
Eloquently Explained!!! 💛🖤 جزاك الله خير مفتي 🍵
@aissatoudieng6653
3 жыл бұрын
Polygamy is not for EVERYONE
@7577ia
3 жыл бұрын
Not for everyone.
@aissatoudieng6653
3 жыл бұрын
That was a mistake bit thanks 🙏🏾
@kellykelly9521
2 жыл бұрын
Surely it's not but more widely accepted if you grew up in a polygamous family. As revert it's not the easiest and I prefer to be single again.
@Boubou2604
9 ай бұрын
its an exclusive right what not all men have
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
@@Boubou2604 Exactly my point, same applies to the Sheikh In video.
@mooncat9941
2 жыл бұрын
Warning to All muslim women do not get confuse with what is a true husband and what is a sex addicts man and then call it a husband there is a big different between the two .
@missnlahi
4 жыл бұрын
This is a thorough answer
@CryptoFishing
2 жыл бұрын
I would love the second one inshaAllah in Jannah if not in this life 🤲🏼
@angelmaria3579
Жыл бұрын
Why is one wife not satisfyingly perfect? You do not know Love.
@SuperMillhill
Жыл бұрын
@@angelmaria3579 You are speaking from the Female lense not understanding the Male lense
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
@@angelmaria3579 We are speaking In Islamic terms. You do not know Islam & It's women.
@aminah761
5 жыл бұрын
Alhumdulilah great advice
@family_ranching
Жыл бұрын
I wish these things were taught among us Christians...so many married couples could benefit from this advice!
@jacstvofficial4490
4 ай бұрын
Their are marriage counseling classes in church! You have to take them before getting married. Their a many women prayer conference that women discuss stuff. We are not focused on sex in Christianity! Also polygamy isn’t allowed.
@irened8457
6 жыл бұрын
My husband can't even support one family. And household wife continues to live with her family but he doesn't think he has done wrong. O ur the affair before he married her and the lies and the promises to me
@headinthekloudz
5 жыл бұрын
😭
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
Allah never said to do polygamy, that's why we having so many problems today!
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@MohamedShou
3 жыл бұрын
@@JahannamHellfire what? Allah allowed polygamy but said if you can’t do justice just marry one. Don’t be lying about the Quran because you don’t like some things about Islam. We are not the Jews or Christians or any other religions that pick and choose what they like in their religion
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
@@MohamedShou Allah said: And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so].} [Quran 4:129] Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law. "I heard Allah's Apostle who was on the pulpit, saying, 'Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughira have requested me to allow them to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abu Talib, but I don't give permission, and will not give permission unless 'Ali bin Abi Talib divorces my daughter in order to marry their daughter, because Fatima is a part of my body, and I hate what she hates to see, and what hurts her, hurts me.'" (Bukhari, No. 4887)
@raeesafromsouthafrica
Жыл бұрын
Salaamualaikum Sheikh ❤️🇿🇦
@MaryMapoulo
8 ай бұрын
😍i have learned a lot from this vide O ...thank you
@Japanese_one_Tokyo
Жыл бұрын
Remember: 👉👉👉 The ones before us (the Jews and the Christian’s) practiced polygamy... > > Only the MUSLIMS created a limit of 4 maximum… Indeed, Allah swt is most wise
@KimberlyCaresForU
Жыл бұрын
Alhamdulillah!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
@mooncat9941
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you sheik for exposing this foolish men who do not follow the sunna or the Quran in polygamy and other issues in Islam , this men have no glue of what Allah SWT says in any issue,go back and learn from history May be you will be in lighten on how to treat a woman love and protect her and the children .
@brotherernest5993
2 ай бұрын
I have two wives in America living in the same home. My girls are worn out bc my sex drive is off the hook.
@danielnelson6444
6 жыл бұрын
Jazakallah brother. Polygamy is a great benefit for society and I am proud to believe in it as a Muslim revert
@bellycurious
6 жыл бұрын
So, you don't mind to be husband n°4? Congratulation!
@Mf7d89
5 жыл бұрын
Hope you have successful marriage(s) brother.
@MonkeyDluffy-mu3bw
4 жыл бұрын
Alhamduillah i have two wives and they are happy alhamdullah
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
Quran never said polygamy benefits society! Polygamy is destroying everything and children SubhanAllaah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah Astaghfiullah
@MonkeyDluffy-mu3bw
3 жыл бұрын
@@JahannamHellfire Me and my 2nd wife are happy not all 2nd marriage is bad
@emremladic4486
2 ай бұрын
may allah grant us pious women and women with saleeh mentally and physically strong husband....i definitely support the right of a woman or two, three, four women to get married with a righteous muslim man...
@aminah761
4 жыл бұрын
Subhan Allah
@thinkbeyond9399
2 жыл бұрын
What if the first woman not interested in intimacy....let's say....needs once a month and the second one needs every alternate day...how this can be managed with just? For the sake of discussion, the husband also needs it every alternate day!!
@Halal_Dan
2 жыл бұрын
The wife does not have a right to deny him without a valid reason, "doesn't feel like it" is not valid.
@Zazezoo
2 жыл бұрын
The first wife needs therapy as she seems traumatised. Then all the 3 can seek Islamic marriage counselling. Before then, give her days to the second wife so the husband doesn’t end up resenting the first wife for denying him his rights and committing a sin.
@omarakra9339
Жыл бұрын
You are not masculine enough and not satisfying her in bed. Fix that!
@Boubou2604
9 ай бұрын
important is that both are satisfied and men and women cant deny their intimacy rights for example if they have only one day one wife he can do it often in second days but he must fullfill boths rights and cant change the day how he want.
@Boubou2604
4 ай бұрын
Men and Women cant deny intimacy without reason. Second Men and Women must please the other
@mooncat9941
2 жыл бұрын
Please can some one answer my question ,and that is why is it that most men in the Muslim community who practiced polygamy are the ugliest and poor ? And that is why we are facing with millions of children suffering all over the world ????? !!.
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
Being poor Is one thing, while being ugly Is another. If a man desires polygamy, he must be equipped with wealth & time. If he does not obtain these two aspects required for polygamy, he shouldn't marry another wife.
@Boubou2604
8 ай бұрын
If he is poor he is not able to have polygamy because every women has the right of own home
@Hahahaha-7
7 ай бұрын
No not all men, the men you talk about are those in poverty or certain poor countries, not the majority Muslim men in the west who can afford to remarry but is controlled and threatened by the first one. Or the rich Muslim man who won’t remarry because his wife still won’t let him. Or even the Muslim man who is a Muslim scholar but won’t remarry out of his love for his wife, the majority of Muslim men do not remarry.
@Veiled_Ventures
4 жыл бұрын
MashaAllah
@pinkyz6042
2 жыл бұрын
4:37
@Boubou2604
9 ай бұрын
this men has no right to polygamy he should immediately divorce because he get sins for every lose in bed
@qualityquran2640
4 жыл бұрын
I loooks like he gonna ruin his career
@Khaireummatidara
2 жыл бұрын
mashaAllah
@StellaLunora
2 жыл бұрын
What's wrong with making sure he's ok? As having one significant other is a necessity. Do you know Jesus???
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
We know Jesus as Isa. And we know that she (the wife) was made for the worship of Allah (SWT), you have no right to label a woman of Polygamy as created only for It.
@StellaLunora
9 ай бұрын
@@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh my apologies
@StellaLunora
9 ай бұрын
Did you know Mormons or other Christian denominations have polygamy?
@StellaLunora
9 ай бұрын
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh according to Christianity there is no sexuality in the here after. As it was mentioned by many Christians. People divorce to marry another. Isn't that adultery? According to the gospel. But no one chooses to end up in horrible situations! Go read. One book!!!!!!!!!!! You people fail to realize religion causes so much evil. The whore is the lie that you are told to only bag you in. Take your cross means take one book and have faith. The Merciful The Compassionate
@Ikhomjon
2 жыл бұрын
He's not hungry 🤣🤣
@rahman-zu1gv01
Жыл бұрын
man should marry four wived
@BuCuInspo
4 жыл бұрын
👏🏾👏🏾💖
@Nufsed-f5r
Ай бұрын
I hate it when people do that "he's not what?" "the man who's what?" If you know, just explain, it seems like you give a challenge more than a lesson
@j0kez708
Ай бұрын
This is actually an effective method to instill the lesson within our minds. You should read the science of teaching someday.
@aliyyahjn6696
Жыл бұрын
💯
@navketan1965
2 жыл бұрын
Prophet Mohammad was the only ancient Philosopher who dissected marriage using HIS GOD GIVEN WISDOM. Those days men lived upto age of about 50 years. Prophet Mohammad well knew that the chances of A marriage working was no more than one in ten in those times.So if man was allowed to marry 4 times he would have at least 40 percent chance of being happy on this earth after the fourth marriage. In present day and age the chance of marriage working is about one in A hundred in the EAST, & about one in A million in the WEST. Great actress Audrey Hepburn put her wisdom in one line "May be men & women were not made to live under the same roof ,they should live nearby & visit each other once in A while" MODERN SOLUTION--- Let some country in the middle east OR far east make A special City state on the oceanfront, called "Jannat" where all the rich & powerful men of this earth can move to--where A man could marry A million times if he has enough money & strength to do so. Let him be happy & let the rich trappings flow to the rest of the society.Educated Men with biggest palaces & Harems be chosen for city council/judges.Make value added sales tax high like 20% so that state can collect some wealth and spread that wealth to the common man workers.City state be located on the oceanfront OR be an island by itself but part of the country.MAKE beauty A GODLY CREATION & A VIRTUE OF HIGHEST ORDER & let them spend at the speed of light so that money spreads to the common man workers for social justice in the city state. Allow freedom of religion, reduce taxes,No drugs, make it A DEMOCRACY WITH IN CITY STATE--and pretty soon THAT PLACE WOULD HAVE HIGHEST PER CAPITA INCOME ON EARTH AND HAPPY UNIONS.EVEN Russians would move to that city state. After the oil wells run dry that city state would be the only CITY WITH MONEY LEFT WITH THE EXPRESS BLESSINGS OF THE ALMIGHTY. That city state would outlast all other countries with atomic bombs.Next world war should be fought only with sticks & stones so that MANKIND SURVIVES.
@josephcornejo2288
Жыл бұрын
This is ILLEGAL
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
In what terms?
@SoIsrael
2 жыл бұрын
The question is this is a tradition of men. Not of God/allah it’s sick and twisted why would l want to have to wait for my night. Gtfoh
@kellykelly9521
2 жыл бұрын
You can have your night with a real man that only wants one then to have sloppy seconds, thirds, and fourths. Hes pribably terrible at intimacy anyways.
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
@@kellykelly9521 The only thing that's sloppy Is your comment.
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
isohieogiugo, I don't know If you're a Muslim or Muslimah, but you're wrong. Polygamy was a practice before Islam, but Islam moderated Polygamy with the restriction of four wives, along with responsibilities. I wouldn't know If you're typing In Islamic terms, but If you were to, you'd be considered arrogant by the outside as Allah judged only the Inside.
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
The fact that you say It's not a tradition of Allah, despite It being a permissible practice, Is you spreading misinformation that others may believe. I believe you are saying something that you are not certain In will surely leave you In risk of Jahanam.
@ahmedzubair7321
4 жыл бұрын
Pls answer me.. If someone wants to marry a second girl, does he need the permission of his first wife?
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
Secret marriages are forbidden in Islam In the name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful It is a condition of a sound marriage that it be announced and attested to publicly. A secret marriage, which is only witnessed by a few people in private, is disapproved (makruh) at best and unlawful (haram) according to some scholars. It is potentially harmful to those affected by it, as it almost always involves deception or at least gross omission, especially if a man marries an additional wife in secret and without her consent. Allah said: فَانكِحُوهُنَّ بِإِذْنِ أَهْلِهِنَّ وَآتُوهُنَّ أُجُورَهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ Marry them with the permission of their families and give them their due as is good, chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. Surat al-Nisa 4:25 Scholars have said that this verse prohibits secret marriages without witnesses, by drawing an analogy between a ‘secret mistress’ and a secret marriage. Ibn Taymiyyah writes: وَمَالِكٌ يُوجِبُ إعْلَانَ النِّكَاحِ وَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ هُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ نِكَاحِ الْبَغَايَا وَقَدْ قَالَ اللَّهُ تَعَالَى مُحْصَنَاتٍ غَيْرَ مُسَافِحَاتٍ وَلَا مُتَّخِذَاتِ أَخْدَانٍ فَنِكَاحُ السِّرِّ مِنْ جِنْسِ ذَوَاتِ الْأَخْدَانِ Malik obligated announcing the marriage in public. A secret marriage is a type of prostitution. Allah Almighty said: Chaste women, neither fornicators nor secret mistresses. (4:25) Thus, a secret marriage is a type of secret mistress. Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 32/102 Scholars also refer to the statements of the Prophet (s) commanding the announcement of marriages in public. Aisha reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: أَعْلِنُوا هَذَا النِّكَاحَ وَاجْعَلُوهُ فِي الْمَسَاجِدِ وَاضْرِبُوا عَلَيْهِ بِالدُّفُوفِ Announce this marriage publicly, conduct it in the mosque, and strike the drums for it. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1089, Grade: Hasan Muhammad ibn Hatib reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: فَصْلُ مَا بَيْنَ الْحَرَامِ وَالْحَلَالِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ The difference between an unlawful and lawful marriage is the beating of drums and the raising of voices. Source: Sunan al-Tirmidhī 1088, Grade: Hasan Abdullah ibn al-Zubayr reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said: أَعْلِنُوا النِّكَاحَ Announce the marriage. Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Ibn Ḥibbān 4066, Grade: Hasan Based upon this evidence, it is said that a marriage conducted in secret is invalid and annulled, even if it has two credible witnesses and permission from a guardian. Abu Bakr Abdul Aziz said: نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ بَاطِلٌ؛ لِأَنَّ أَحْمَدَ قَالَ إذَا تَزَوَّجَ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْنِ لَا حَتَّى يُعْلِنَهُ A secret marriage is invalid, as Ahmad said: If he is married with a guardian’s permission and two witnesses, it is not so until it is announced publicly. Source: al-Mughnī 7/83 This was also the opinion of Imam Malik. However, most scholars said that a secret marriage is valid if it meets the condition of two credible witnesses and a guardian. It is in legal effect and will not be annulled, although it is disapproved to do so. Ibn Qudamah writes: فَإِنْ عَقَدَهُ بِوَلِيٍّ وَشَاهِدَيْن فَأَسَرُّوه أَوْ تَوَاصَوْا بِكِتْمَانِه كُرِهَ ذَلِك وَصَحَّ النِّكَاحُ If the marriage is contracted with a guardian and two witnesses, but he keeps it secret or conceals its attestation, that is disapproved but the marriage is valid. Source: al-Mughnī 7/83 And Ibn al-Qayyim writes: أَنَّ الشَّارِعَ اشْتَرَطَ لِلنِّكَاحِ شُرُوطًا زَائِدَةً عَلَى الْعَقْدِ تَقْطَعُ عَنْهُ شُبَهَ السِّفَاحِ كَالْإِعْلَامِ وَالْوَلِيِّ وَمَنْعِ امْرَأَةٍ أَنْ تَلِيَهُ بِنَفْسِهَا وَنَدَبَ إلَى إظْهَارِهِ حَتَّى اُسْتُحِبَّ فِيهِ الدُّفُّ وَالصَّوْتُ وَالْوَلِيمَةُ The Lawgiver has set conditions for marriage, in addition to the contract, in order to cut off any suspicion of promiscuity, such as announcing it, the guardian, and preventing a woman from conducting it by herself. It is encouraged to publicize it, even recommended to beat the drums, raise voices, and hold a banquet. Source: I’lām al-Muwaqqi’īn 3/113 This disapproval should not be taken lightly. The important point here is that the legal ‘validity’ of an act does not mean it is ethical or morally sound. If some scholars accept the validity of a secret marriage, that in no way implies they are endorsing or encouraging the act. Nevertheless, many scholars said that such a secret marriage resembles adultery despite being legally valid. Umar ibn al-Khattab was particularly strict about this matter. Abu al-Zubayr reported: Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, was presented with a marriage which no one had witnessed except one man and one woman. Umar said: هَذَا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ وَلَا أُجِيزُهُ وَلَوْ كُنْتُ تَقَدَّمْتُ فِيهِ لَرَجَمْتُ This is a secret marriage and I do not permit it. If I had known of it beforehand, I would have stoned them. Source: al-Muwaṭṭa’ 1136 This was a rhetorical threat to indicate the seriousness with which the matter should be taken. If there were no witnesses at all, the consensus of the scholars is that it is an act of adultery. Ibn Taymiyyah writes: وَأَمَّا نِكَاحُ السِّرِّ الَّذِي يَتَوَاصَوْنَ بِكِتْمَانِهِ وَلَا يُشْهِدُونَ عَلَيْهِ أَحَدًا فَهُوَ بَاطِلٌ عِنْدَ عَامَّةِ الْعُلَمَاءِ وَهُوَ مِنْ جِنْسِ السِّفَاحِ As for a secret marriage, the attestation of which is concealed and witnessed by no one, it is invalid according to the prevalent opinion of scholars. It is a type of illicit intercourse. Source: Majmū’ al-Fatāwá 33/158 In sum, secret marriages without witnesses are unconditionally forbidden in Islam as they resemble adultery. If a secret marriage meets the minimum legal requirements of two credible witnesses and permission of a guardian, then at the very least it is morally disapproved if not unlawful. Believing men who fear Allah would be wise to avoid contracting a secret marriage, especially if they are marrying a second wife behind the back of their first wife, her family, and her children.
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
as Muslims we must fear Allah swt and not change the deen to suit our needs, unless we want Allah punishment to come upon us, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then one [marry only] from Quran... And you will never be able to be equal just between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. From quran from Quran... Allah said Verily, Allah orders justice and good conduct and giving to relatives and he forbids immorality and bad conduct and transgression. He admonishes you that perhaps you will be reminded. Surat An-Nahl 16:90 And Allah says O you who believe, be persistently standing firm for Allah as witnesses in justice, and do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just, for that is nearer to righteousness. Fear Allah, for Allah is aware of what you do. Surat Al-Ma’idah 5:8 “A man who has two wives and who is completely inclined to one and who ignores the other emerges with one side of his body paralysed in the Day of Judgment.” (Hadith; Ibn Majah, Nikah, 47; Mishkat al-masabih, 2/196) A woman does not consent to share her husband with another woman under normal circumstances, and no woman would like to marry a married man unless she has to. It is a necessity of belief that polygamy is right. However, to believe it does not necessarily mean for a woman to consent to the second wife and approve it. No believer father would like his son-in-law to marry a second, third or fourth woman along with his daughter. The jealous nature of the woman and the affection of the father for his daughter disapproves this. As a matter of fact, the daughter of our beloved Prophet, Sayyidah Fatima, objected to her husband, Ali’s marrying of a second woman. If it weren’t permissible to object, Sayyidah Fatima, who was brought up by our Prophet, would not have objected. The Messenger of Allah would have warned her and ordered her to consent to her husband’s wish. However, it did not take place like that. On the contrary, the Messenger of Allah, who saw that his daughter was worried, asked Ali to give up his wish and told him that if he did not give it up, he could marry another woman after divorcing Sayyidah Fatima. He did not consent to Ali’s second marriage to depress his daughter. By considering that act of the Messenger of Allah, it can be stated that Muslim daughters and fathers may object to the second marriage of their husband or son-in-law.
@kennethtaylor6534
3 жыл бұрын
@@JahannamHellfire you’re wrong.
@kennethtaylor6534
3 жыл бұрын
No you do not need permission to do something which Allaah has gave the man permission to do. But it’ll probably be wise if you let her know.
@JahannamHellfire
3 жыл бұрын
Allah said: And you will never be able to be equal between wives, even if you should strive [to do so].} [Quran 4:129]
@Slaw6602
Жыл бұрын
Why do you talk to much about sex
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
It's something that scholars mostly leave uncovered, as It's an act that Is Inappropriate to speak about, but yet Halal. Sex Is spoken often for haram Intentions, so the avoidance Is justified.
@UMMIVORY
2 жыл бұрын
Are you not ashamed of making g fun of our beautiful faith, may Alkah forgive you, is this a topic appropriate for the public
@curiouskitty3251
2 жыл бұрын
Nothing shameful. Men need to know what they are getting themselves into. Huge responsibilities (physical, emotional, financial, mental) a lot of men underestimate the full job. Most guys like the thought of polygamy, but can’t meet the full requirements. So yes, this speech is necessary
@user-di7mb1un1e
2 жыл бұрын
why is this even a question. sex is made for mens pleasure
@MuhammadHamza-do4dj
Жыл бұрын
Sex is not just for men It's also for women but men has much more sexual desires than a women . Men can't survive without sex . He'll be frustrated.
@MohamedAhmed-vk1nh
9 ай бұрын
It's built for procreation, as well with other reasons, considering It's a valid reason for It. Debunks your entire comment.
@Jls728
5 ай бұрын
Sex was created for fun for married men AND women and also to procreate. It’s a double benefit to married people. Not just for the men!
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