Matt, take that year and go explore, my man. I struggled with mental health, burnout, my life trajectory, etc. to the point where I quit an engineering career with “no plan” (but with savings for peace of mind) other than to pursue what I want to, and I ended up building a camper van and experiencing national parks and nature across the western US over 10+ months, 23,000 miles. It’s been terrifying at times, I’ve thought “wtf am I doing with my life” at times, but I’m now reaching a point, where I feel in a better place, like I was true to myself, gave myself this gift to explore, and now I’m ready to jump back into working on something for society that’s bigger than me (for me, I think I’ll return to engineering in some capacity). I think you’re in a perfect time in life to explore what makes you feel alive. Wishing you well, and great episode! 👍
@fallingonpurpose4843
10 ай бұрын
Bonnie… you’re cool af. Really well spoken and I can tell you’d be an incredible person to have in your corner
@wetday2480
Жыл бұрын
There is something so compelling about Matt's voice and his delivery: he could be delivering a weather forecast -- even a sunny California forecast -- and have me crying in about five minutes.
@fallingonpurpose4843
10 ай бұрын
Yes Theory has made such a positive change to countless people but these podcasts make change in a completely different, yet equally as important way. Matt your struggles have fulfilled a purpose that yes theory could never and I’m super happy to hear you’re recognizing how incredible that is
@kep373
Жыл бұрын
I totally agree on taking a year out to explore without plans, you never know what it might lead to.When I was 19 i was very depressed and my friend called me to meet him in Chiang Mai Thailand he was studing in Bejing and it changed the course of my life. I ended up spending a year there then went on to work as a nanny in Holland, Mexico, Chile and Spain. I'm now 33 and work as an English teacher in Barcelona. Life is too short to not have great adventures :)
@alwayschangingperspectives
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! It was really great to hear this! :) It's funny how we are so different, living in different parts of the world, and coming from different backgrounds, but having the same questions, problems. Somehow it gives me peace that I'm not alone, and it fills me with warmth. I'm from Hungary and I can relate to so many of the things that came up. It is great to hear more about what a cool and important thing it is, to seek discomfort internally trough therapy or self-knowledge. I also love the books of Gábor Máté! :)
@Jbmccarty21
Жыл бұрын
I learned so much from this episode. I’m team “never been to a therapist” and this was invaluable knowledge. Thank you so much
@KennethSiaw
Жыл бұрын
The moment you guys mentioned the sentence "I do not deserve to be happy" I cried like a baby in the car non stop for the whole trip. Something just snapped and I was aware i was putting on a lot of suffering on myself as well ever since my mom passed. I kept things bottled up for 7 years i felt like drowning. After that I needed help so i reached out to my good friend/business partner about it. The moment i told him what i heard and triggered me "I do not deserve to be happy". The flood gates was open again for a good 5-10 minutes before i could have a proper conversation with him. Felt pretty good about it as he assured me he got my back. But in the end i think i need to see help with a therapist. I also agree with bonnie about the topic of mental health it being like a taboo in asia. I hate the term "real men don't cry they bleed". I know this programming is not helpful at all as it has served me through my childhood. So it's hard for me to be vulnerable and open up to people up till this day as I'm always afraid that people will leave when they know how broken I am and I will not be loved. That was my biggest fear. Thanks for sharing this episode, your journey, struggles and for breaking part of the the wall that i have been building for 7 years.
@elisabethakel66
Жыл бұрын
Thank you sooo much for this ❤ You have no idea how much I need to keep hearing this message. I’m currently in my rest year from burn out and it has been the biggest blessing. I hope we all come to be more in tune with our minds and bodies so we can lead more joyful and happier lives!
@theailym
Жыл бұрын
LETSS GOOO i love this . very interesting also to hear people you admire struggle with the same things you struggle. thanks for sharing matt! very brave
@samb4768
11 ай бұрын
Mattttttttt, It’s been so cool watching these but EVEN more amazing seeing how happy you are. You are so awesome and deserve every good thing.
@hackercoolio
Жыл бұрын
Matt you are killing it with the podcasts!
@frouketea
Жыл бұрын
I love Bonnie, such a chill down to earth vibe. Very interesting to hear her take on the different topics. I've preordered the book a couple of days ago. Looking forward to read all about her and your journey together!
@lauracamejo4926
Жыл бұрын
so proud of you matt, thank you for sharing your story. you are truly inspiring and will be missed. Thank you for all the laughs
@innateillumination
10 ай бұрын
These podcasts have been helping me through a difficult time. Thank you SO MUCH for making these and speaking truth about your experiences. I came back into my body slowly from April-August of last year and am finding ways to stay. Inner child practices, yoga, breathwork, somatic movement and time outside have really helped me. I’m beginning to see the people and situations that are currently in my life that I need space from. It’s kind of a scary time because I used to define myself from external sources. Now I know my worth and my value and am meant for so much more. I’m becoming a trauma informed breathwork practitioner and I want to help others find safe space for themselves. As I’m moving through my own difficulties, I know I’m not alone and this community is a safe space for me. So thank you again from the bottom of my heart. 💛
@perlahollow1671
11 ай бұрын
Bonnie is priceless. Love this girl! Thanks for representing us fellow therapists.
@bethlehemalem9828
Жыл бұрын
This was so insightful I had to reflect on my life and reconsider seeing a therapist. Thank you guys so much for the great conversation. This will help a lot of people to have a better view of their lives and change. ❤
@tiffanyvmc
11 ай бұрын
a lot of people dont know what Bonnie explained about therapy, it is such a complex world and finding a connection with a specific therapist is soo necesary
@bebrave2day
Жыл бұрын
You expressing your vulnerability of what it feels like to be a human in todays world, is so needed right now, to go even further has been a need for decades. Your bravery is amazing, Matt! With that, I love to hear the action behind it in regards to getting people access to free mental health care so they don’t have to feel like they’re alone and or can get help to rethink their current struggles. There are millions of people that unfortunately don’t have the luxury to find a “big sister” therapist. I’m not saying that to make you feel bad or to shame in anyway. It’s just a hard truth or reality. With that, you also can’t save the entire world, but you sharing this, helps SO MANY! Beautiful episode. 💝 THANK YOU both and additionally, Derin, and the Yes Theory team.
@skydiditofficial9103
Жыл бұрын
Bonnie looking like a natural 🤣👏🏽
@sitaradelmar
Жыл бұрын
Love Bonnie already from this 😊❤
@andrearaia8695
Жыл бұрын
I think it’s amazing that some of us can realize when we are mentally struggling with a lot and don’t want to really hurt anyone else in the process. My father violated me at a really young age and it really affected me as a person. Once my kiddos kind of grew up I seeked professional help for everything I’ve been through. Your personal mental space is important and I hope more people learn to feel comfortable there. Because only there are we able to help others and join together and make this world a better place
@jmajcan
Жыл бұрын
Holy shit I related with this so much
@JohnnyUtah269
Жыл бұрын
“You train people how to treat you”…. 🤯 Man I wish Bonnie had a Patreon. I’d pay for that
@freeworldtherapy
Жыл бұрын
Not advanced enough for that yet. Haha. But I shall.
@JohnnyUtah269
Жыл бұрын
@@freeworldtherapy 🙏🏻
@JohnnyUtah269
Жыл бұрын
Also @Matt I know you are still going through it but would love to know what books/blogs/audiobooks/local groups have helped you out the most on your journey
@Zaeemkhalat
Жыл бұрын
I love this podcast, so excited to listen all of this, See you later 😉
@twi9261
Жыл бұрын
Interesting podcasts, but “go to a lot of therapists and find one you like”- even one you like is often out of reach financially for a lot of people, especially seniors, people with chronic illnesses who can’t work(and who, it could be argued, have good need for therapy), people lacking health insurance etc. if the choice is between food and therapy, what’s the choice going to be?…
@loud_hailer6240
Жыл бұрын
I found that there are a lot of resources online, its a great way to start, every attempt helps you learn about yourself and what works best for you.There are free techniques that you can start doing now. Writing things down was a game changer, but it took me years to even be able to start. Asking yourself what you feel (practicing being present) and then at your own pace, why you feel those things. Breaking everything down into the tiniest bit to work on. Learning the vocabulary of how to express yourself. And doing all of this without judgement but with compassion. You work on it like its a hobby. Its not perfect but its a start and that's already good enough to try.
@bellaluce7088
3 ай бұрын
In case it's encouraging to anyone, therapist Patrick Teahan's KZitem videos about healing from toxic family systems have truly helped me more than any therapist I ever saw in real life. ❤🩹 Also helpful: learning about Childhood Emotional Neglect (Janice Webb has some good videos on it) and doing simple but powerful things like using a feelings chart to practice identifying and listening to my feelings, and data dumping whatever's on my mind in a stream of consciousness journal. Also: learning about common unhelpful Core Beliefs learned in toxic families (and working to replace them), CBT or DBT techniques, physical grounding techniques, learning how boundaries work (and that it's okay to have them!), etc. Pete Walker's book CPTSD: From Surviving to Thriving is excellent, as is John Bradshaw's classic Homecoming (which Patrick Teahan recommends to clients). I'm so grateful to have found books and videos that condense years of professional experience into an affordable format for the masses. < : - ) I only wish I'd known earlier that I didn't have to wait to find some ever-elusive just-right therapist to feel MASSIVELY better. Best wishes to you! ❤❤
@sitaradelmar
Жыл бұрын
Loved it ❤❤❤😊
@bryant7046
11 ай бұрын
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@d0rnaz
Жыл бұрын
Banafshehhhhh😍
@freeworldtherapy
Жыл бұрын
When you coming to visit! Bia dige. ❤
@raphaelongoogle-zu5jl
Жыл бұрын
You mixing soooo much photos and videos together... Talking about Palace and showing hotels, mosques and other stuff... Yeah it's all super fancy k know... But the videos barely Match your Skript... You completely distorting the whole story... lots of wrong informations!
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