Mer saying “I can’t fall apart because I have 3 kids” is heart breaking and is something too many people have to go through
@lia.e.9749
6 ай бұрын
Ngl... Thats what both me and my mom had to go through when my dad passed away... Im still hurt she told me that it was my fault that he died.... Im still going through shit and cant move past it... Its been 2 yrs... Im still a wreck
@vickipayne9673
6 ай бұрын
It's true we grieve in silence and keep it together so the kids don't feel like they can't come to us for their grief and loss. We grieve for our loss and the loss of them no longer having the parent that was taken too soon.
@tracim3080
6 ай бұрын
It also makes no sense cause she did fall apart. She took off for a year didn’t contact anybody she didn’t even give his family a chance and his family a chance to say goodbye to him before she pulled the plug. His sister lived right there would’ve taken her not any longer than Meredith. Probably even faster than Meredith to get to the hospital because Meredith lived out of town and she didn’t. But now it’s all about Meredith and her grief, who gives a shit about who else cared about her husband. She was married to him so she is the only one allowed to be sad. Her feelings are the only ones that counted.
@LeleKatherine
6 ай бұрын
@lia.e.9749 I'm so sorry. It's not true. We all grieve differently, but please don't believe that it's your fault. God bless you
@lia.e.9749
6 ай бұрын
@@LeleKatherine i appreciate what u say maam god bless ur heart but... I was with my dad at the time when he was spitting blood.... I was at the door paanicking cause my mom went out to get someone's help... I didnt have an idea how to help my dad but i tried.... I still think its my fault...
@ggCA07
6 ай бұрын
Meredith is the blonde. Her husband was Dereck, the brunette’s brother. Dereck was in a car accident. The hospital he was taken to had terrible ER doctors and they weren’t able to save him. He was on the vent when Meredith came. she didn’t want him to suffer so she pulled the plug, but she didn’t tell anyone. She told them all after he died so the brunette, Amy, is mad at her. Amy didn’t get mad at Meredith immediately because everyone was grieving. Amy is especially emotional because she had a history of drug abuse. They had a dinner party and one of their colleagues, Callie, invited her new girlfriend over for everyone to meet (everyone is a doctor). When Callie’s gf (Penny) came, Meredith realized she was one of the doctors who didn’t save Dereck. she stayed calm but during the dinner she lashed out and ran upstairs to the room. and this scene happened
@Musicloveandanimals
6 ай бұрын
Great job on explaining.... However the sisters name is Amelia. Thank you❤
@trynafindaplaceinthisworld
6 ай бұрын
@@Musicloveandanimalsthe people who were close to her called her Amy ( her mom, siblings, and mark Sloan
@tamekacoleman7448
6 ай бұрын
Thank you for providing context.
@abbyrundle5574
6 ай бұрын
Its not like they have the right tools to handle that problem but the people are going through that and trying their hand ✋ so I 😮😮
@alexiciamoore5642
6 ай бұрын
@@Musicloveandanimals Her name is Amelia but Derek called her Amy for short. Amy is her nickname and it’s perfectly alright for her to call her Amy.
@DevilsRose
6 ай бұрын
Meredith has every right to be upset the man she loved could have been save but due to malpractice he died
@Silverbells99
4 ай бұрын
Every right to be upset yes. But no right to treat Amelia how she did
@alicesiecker2302
4 ай бұрын
@Silverbells99 she did....Amelia was trying to be about her and Mer had been taking care of EVERYONE and all she wanted to do was fall apart but she can't can she? She has 3 children who just lost their dad, who are experiencing unexplainable grief
@Silverbells99
4 ай бұрын
@@alicesiecker2302 I didn't say Meredith wasn't allowed to be upset or fall apart. But you can't argue with the fact that Amelia didn't get to say goodbye to her brother or that she is allowed to fall apart as well. Meredith is the reason she didn't get to say goodbye to Derek.
@alicesiecker2302
4 ай бұрын
@Silverbells99 NO ONE got to say goodbye to Derek...Amelia doesn't understand she was spared....Mer KNEW there was a chance he could be saved but the prick wouldn't do burr holes which she had been doing since she was an intern....now Amelia being a neurosurgeon herself would of not only been able to see it as well but know the procedures herself that could of saved him and wanted to do them but being family she wouldn't of been allowed.
@Silverbells99
4 ай бұрын
@alicesiecker2302 The medical point you just made has NOTHING to do with my point. Meredith got to say goodbye to Derek, before she took him off life support she said what she wanted but she didn't tell anyone else until after she unplugged him, grieving or not, that is selfish
@judymyers9867
4 ай бұрын
This scene should have won her a award it was so powerful
@aidansmith7277
4 ай бұрын
🤨
@user-sg8oy2jq9v
3 ай бұрын
Big facts
@MysticDivinerLJ
2 ай бұрын
For yelling with emotion 😅… idk. Maybe other moments in greys anatomy sure, but not this one.
@aidansmith7277
2 ай бұрын
@@user-sg8oy2jq9v 🤨
@CaramelTopping-gk9hy
2 ай бұрын
Has she never won a award?? She a damn good actress
@KassiaPoties
3 ай бұрын
I get it... His sister wanted to be there and Meredith took that away. I understand her point. You can't compare someone else's grief to your own, but losing your spouse is a whole level on its own. I lost my parents and grandparents. Every single one I was close to. BUT NOTHING and I do mean NOTHING prepared me for the loss of my husband. This was the man who my daily life was centered around. We were raising our 2 sons and 4 grandchildren at the time he passed away. Nothing hurt me more than going to bed that night and knowing he was NEVER laying next to me ever again. Then to realize that your children just lost their father at the ages of 10 and 12. When the funeral is over and everyone goes home... you realize you're no longer who you were and your life has drastically changed.
@delaliakussah6631
3 ай бұрын
I'm sorry about your loss.. please take heart 🙏🙏🙏
@lenamccarter6673
3 ай бұрын
Yeah. It’s beyond devastating, even years later. 🥰
@allmightyshika
3 ай бұрын
It’s devastating yes but guess what that hole can be filled again she will heal and move on she’ll get another partner Amelia can never get another brother it was a point in your life where you didn’t know your spouse it was never a world where those siblings didn’t have each other no you shouldn’t compare grief but please let’s stop pretending that it’s not equally painful for siblings
@nayajade6260
3 ай бұрын
Listen I get that, but I feel like losing my brother is a huge deal and maybe even on the same level. My brother and I are close and the thought of losing him breaks me. I’m not saying she’s grieving more than Meredith but it is just as much. If the plug was pulled before I got to say goodbye to my brother then his wife and I would have a problem. I get grief but the wife in this situation would no longer be family to me. Their children I would take care of and I’d be nice and cordial with the wife but I would make it known how I feel. I used to share a room with my brother as a kid bc I was scared of monsters and he protected me. Being married really puts you up there but the sisters feelings in this situation should be treated just like Meredith’s
@AlyssaAllen.a
3 ай бұрын
You've lost a lot of people ❤ I hope you're doing ok
@jfraserfisher
6 ай бұрын
They both have the right to feel and react the way they do, it was an unwinnable situation
@hilaryc3203
6 ай бұрын
But amelia acted badly right from hearing about Derek's death. She was horrible to Meredith without provocation. This was only one incident.
@rayanog
6 ай бұрын
@@hilaryc3203 when? there's no right way to grieve.
@hilaryc3203
6 ай бұрын
@@rayanog People can grieve without attacking others, which is what she did to Meredith on more than one occasion. Based upon the background of this character and her behaviours going forward, she can be unstable on the emotional level.
@tatiannabaker3943
6 ай бұрын
@@rayanog 2 things can be true, there’s no right way to grieve but taking your emotions out on other people is wrong!
@riajimenez1700
6 ай бұрын
Amelia was the worst character, she lived creating drama after drama, she always put her problems, her feelings or her nonsense in front of everyone while she had this "Leave me alone" speech. The worst thing is that she always got angry if someone gave one opinion or did something with the drama that she herself put in their faces, she was so ridiculous and annoying.
@PrtyBlaque318
6 ай бұрын
Meredith’s eyes go so dark in this scene. She literally looks like she means it - that she will end her if she doesn’t exit.😮 The actress did amazing but the spaces she probably had to pull from to go here. I respect actors/actresses so much and worry for some of them too - emotionally.
@shaunaanderson7387
2 ай бұрын
Nobody talks about what actors/actresses actually go through with the rolls they play. They can take a toll on ones mind, body, and soul.
@Wildwestwrangler
2 ай бұрын
@@shaunaanderson7387the Heath Ledger effect!!!
@nancystanton955
4 ай бұрын
Amy never could see anyone else's prblems . She was always wrapped up in her own story. Meredith tolerated her much longer than I ever culd.
@cxutiegamer3676
3 ай бұрын
Meredith quite literally just said that Amelia doesn’t get to fall apart because she chose not to. Meredith is literally only thinking about who SHE loss when Derek died and not who also lost someone that day. She has every right to grieve in her own way but to sit there and act like her grief is more important because that was her husband is actually invalidating to Amelia. Meredith absolutely broke down when she ghosted everyone due to the fact that she couldn’t even be in the city she made a life in.
@aaliyahb8561
2 ай бұрын
@@cxutiegamer3676exactly she also didn’t call nobody not a single member of his family to the hospital she pulled the plug before any of them even got a chance to say goodbye she was selfish
@cxutiegamer3676
2 ай бұрын
@@aaliyahb8561 Exactly, If I was his sister or mother Id be extremely heartbroken by the fact that she didn’t even think to call anyone. People say that she was in shock but she had enough time to collect her thoughts enough for her to call someone.
@dershaymcdonald5409
2 ай бұрын
@@cxutiegamer3676but that just shows how Meredith technically wasn’t wrong. They were DEREK’S family and he couldn’t stand Amelia so why in the fuck would Meredith call any of them when he didn’t even call to tell them he got shot or when he had kids. Meredith is literally an only child so expecting her to act like anything but wasn’t very family like of them to begin with
@littlemschat1052
Ай бұрын
Thats right, his parents n siblings cant compare to his own spouse
@shanagoodman31
Ай бұрын
I hate when grief is made into a pissing match. What Meredith did was possibly selfish on the surface, but also merciful. Sometimes you're faced with a choice that not everyone would like. Perhaps Meredith should have had a deeper conversation with her sister-in-law about the necessity of the choice she made to end his suffering. I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision. In short, I'm not taking a side. There is no side. Honestly, I watched my aunt die last year. I drove from VA to FL so my other aunt could say good-bye to her sister and best friend. I knew she wouldn't be able to drive herself knowing what was about to happen. Her suffering from the ravaging effects of cancer is my last memory of her. Not the memory I really wanted. So sometimes missing that chance to say good-bye is a blessing in disguise. What you really don't want to miss is the chance to say hello. Make people a priority while they are still alive. When I was in my mid-20's I had the chance to see my favorite great aunt Bea visiting VA from IN. I decided to skip it and I would see her next time. She died unexpectedly a week later and I regretted not taking the 45 minute ride. It was my first eye-opener as to how quickly life can change. Give people their "flowers" now. They can't appreciate them when they are dead!!!
@noladarling5160
19 күн бұрын
It really was a no brainer because he was brain dead so although she pulled the plug he was dead already. This was such an emotional scene. 😢
@LadyoftheGeneral
16 күн бұрын
It’s worth mentioning that there were other factors contributing to Meredith snapping, including one of the doctors who failed to save Derek being present at this dinner as Callie’s girlfriend, piled on top of the sister being upset she wasn’t consulted on the pulling of the plug. Legally, spouses trump siblings. Spouse, then parents, then children, then siblings. Meredith was the only one who could have legally made that choice. So I can also get a little bit why she doesn’t want her decision questioned after the fact; she’s already on edge and he was brain dead, it wasn’t like she killed a walking, talking man. Saying goodbye to the corpse vs the vegetative state would not have made much of a difference.
@zombiemoon7666
5 ай бұрын
Thing is even if the family was there the spouse legally has the choice whether people agree or not plus for awhile Amelia was not even talking to Derek for a chunk of his life due to her drug issues. Sure they are siblings but she didn’t grow a life with him she only came back to it to make amends unlike Meredith who grew with him and then created children with him. The shepherd family is also so toxic that them being there would’ve been so chaotic and made it harder for anyone to process what happened to him and what will be next.
@lenitaa7938
5 ай бұрын
You seem to be rationalizing it all away! Bunch of conjecture! Meredith was wrong not to include his Family! They needed to make their piece with him, and Meredith took it all away from them! An opportunity never to be revisited!
@mxddiesvfx
4 ай бұрын
that doesn't mean they aren't allowed to grieve or be sad that he died. just because he was meredith's husband and they had kids does not give her the only right to be sad.
@alittleoflolo
4 ай бұрын
@@mxddiesvfxthey are absolutely allowed to grieve but they don’t get to blame Meredith for what happened. By the time she was called he was already gone, it was the middle of the night, & she had to deal with her 3 children & their grief. So they had to wait a few extra hours to find out Derek died… and? She’s right, she was the wife and it was her decision to make. Amelia doesn’t get to judge how Meredith publicly grieves or how she handled what was thrown at her.
@munchems
4 ай бұрын
@@alittleofloloexactly, they don’t get to blame Mer for any of it. Derek’s sisters are all so toxic.
@mags506
4 ай бұрын
@@alittleoflolothey absolutely are. your actions have consequences. you choosing to pull the plug and block anyone else in his life from seeing him one last time is your choice.
@d.jburnett5852
6 ай бұрын
I’m sorry I don’t care what nobody says. Derek literally said if he was dying, he would want all of his sisters to be there. This man loved his sisters with all his heart including Meredith sisters. I understand that she was going through it but also she could’ve kept him on life-support for a few more hours and called the family not gonna lie I would not be OK with hearing from my coworkers that my brother died even if it was Owen
@warriorgirl126
6 ай бұрын
She did it Because the Shepherd family is really toxic. If she would have called them Amelia would have been too devastated to let him go. The other 3 sisters would have yelled at Amelia and bullied her (and Meredith) the last image Mama Shepherd would have of her son is bloody and bruised and suffering while his sisters screamed at each other around him. Meredith did the merciful thing in my opinion for a lot of them.
@d.jburnett5852
6 ай бұрын
@@warriorgirl126 I don’t care that’s like somebody unplugging your child. Quite literally that’s the mom’s child. That’s Amelia’s brother she’s a brain surgeon Meredith could’ve literally called her when she was on her way to him and Meredith has never let the sisters bully her, but I do think that they should’ve been able to be there. It doesn’t matter.
@rubylove8070
5 ай бұрын
@@d.jburnett5852it’s her husband. Unless he had a written will that detailed this, as his next of kin it was her decision
@d.jburnett5852
5 ай бұрын
@@rubylove8070 So do you think Meredith would’ve thought the same if it was Bailey or Zola or even Richard I don’t think so just because their husband or wife wanted them to be unplugged or simply think about Derek’s reaction when he asked where Lexie was because that was his little sister, not by blood
@saturdayschild8535
5 ай бұрын
People say a lot of things before the situation is on them. It’s up to those in the position to make the final decision to act. Meredith did the right thing for him. What he wanted would’ve sacrificed him for someone else’s comfort. Meredith chose what was best for him. My mother would’ve left my brother on life support forever even though he was never going to regain consciousness. That would not have benefitted him. I’m glad he passed before it became a situation like this.
@afoy550
6 ай бұрын
I never understood why she pulled the cord, before calling his family so that they can come into the room and Say Goodbye. If my sister-in-law did that I'd be pissed. My brother and I are very close. I would want the opportunity 2 see him one last time before the machines stopped
@CharityS-Minnesota
6 ай бұрын
Luckily, two out of my three sister-in-law’s, I know, for sure would never do this to me!
@danielbalderas9796
6 ай бұрын
Because Dereck was in agony. Not a comfy state to be in
@lokhai7000
6 ай бұрын
She allowed the doctor in her kick in and didn't want her husband to suffer anymore she didn't think of anyone but him in that moment it was a hard choice all around but she would never speak on that
@dorriethomas6930
6 ай бұрын
I'm afraid of being left alive in agony just to placate family. I lost my husband the same way at 23 with 3 children. I turned off my beloved 2nd husband too. I watched my friend die slowly, curled in fetal position, dried and withered, quietly moaning in pain for mos. because her son refused to withdraw her feeding tube. Let Meredith rage and deal on her own terms.
@shannondelp9898
6 ай бұрын
In shock
@nicolenardin149
6 ай бұрын
What always gets me about this situation is that in the earlier seasons, Derek had literally said that if he was ever in a coma he would want to be surrounded by family, mainly his sisters bc he has a bunch of them, to say goodbye and meredith didnt do that.
@TheSusan2u
6 ай бұрын
😂😂😂 do you think if put in that situation, you would be able to think logically 😊
@tracim3080
6 ай бұрын
@@TheSusan2u I would think about more than just myself yes because I’ve been in similar situations and did think about the other people that love them and not just myself because I’m not a selfish human being
@Lovleyrose69
6 ай бұрын
@@tracim3080but rember not everyone is not like you and you can't except it some people never been through what you. and I know mostly people lose a husband they might be focused on how the going to live, what about thier children.due to unknown circumstances that in private life's and some people go through a shell shock moment where they can think or process that the person they love just died especially so suddenly especially when you were excepting forever empathy and sympathy my friend. Have a good day.
@tracim3080
6 ай бұрын
@@Lovleyrose69 only selfish people don’t think of the other loved ones and focus solely on their relationship to the deceased. There is no justifying her not calling his loved ones and family before pulling a plug. There is no justifying keeping his kids away from his loved ones for over a year after he died. There is no justifying, informing his place of work before informing his sister, who lives in the same town and could’ve been there at the hospital when they pulled the plug who is a Brain surgeon literally her area of expertise. She didn’t inform his mother or any body. She went to the hospital and let his little sister learn while at work. Grief does not justify that behavior, because there is plenty of people who grieve who would never behave that way so that’s not a grief thing that is purely selfish person thing. Grief and any other negative emotion does not always justify the actions and behaviour specially, if you’re an adult.
@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat
6 ай бұрын
@tracim3080 I mean it's pretty selfish to make someone live on in and extremely amount of pain and suffer and not die for the comfort of others.
@ThatsGraceFamily
6 ай бұрын
I'm not sure if we realize that we all react differently in grief. Grief doesn’t always consider logic or whats right for other parties. Its hard to pull out of the grief and consider others feelings.
@kellytaylor5626
4 ай бұрын
It’s just a tv show people.
@deniseball7764
2 ай бұрын
At what time does grief consider situations ?????? It's an emotion
@jselenatan9834
4 ай бұрын
That's the sad part is when a person don't get to fall apart. They just keep on going and going.
@annmerklin2891
21 күн бұрын
And eventually, it hits them ....
@ABirdOnTheMoon
6 ай бұрын
However, Mer was there waiting and she didn’t even text anyone. Ironically, Derek was the only brother to many sisters and though Mer had no good relationship with them, Derek wanted his sister around. He specifically mentioned wanting to be surrounded by his family on his death bed. Mer was so lost and I don’t understand why no one asked her to call others. He was in coma. He wasn’t suffering. She didn’t even face time anyone to say goodbye or take a video .. they have every right to be angry! Especially Amellia: she was the sister who he saved and their dad died .. she had a special bond with Derek; trauma influenced but a bond ..
@anniegillespie7935
6 ай бұрын
Meredith always made me want to puke.
@warriorgirl126
6 ай бұрын
She did it Because the Shepherd family is really toxic. If she would have called them Amelia would have been too devastated to let him go. The other 3 sisters would have yelled at Amelia and bullied her (and Meredith) the last image Mama Shepherd would have of her son is bloody and bruised and suffering while his sisters screamed at each other around him. Meredith did the merciful thing in my opinion for a lot of them.
@blahblahblahblah729
6 ай бұрын
@@warriorgirl126 Doesn't matter. It's what he wanted. He loved his sisters, regardless of how toxic they were. And they had a good relationship with him, the only bad relationship they had was with Amelia who was a drug addict and caused their mother a lot of suffering. Even Derek had a complicated relationship with her. It is not merciful what Mer did. A mother would want to say goodbye to a son, regardless of how butcherd he was.
@jackieminyard9652
5 ай бұрын
He said his sister's would all be there when he made those comments it was prior 2 being married 2 Meredith with kids. She did right by him. He even said it in the beach scene. He thanked her 4 letting him go
@barbarabuford5795
5 ай бұрын
WOW, I read the comments. When I think about death, personally I'd rather remember the person the way I remember them. But each person is unique and may handle situational crises, differently. When I go to a funeral, I do not view the body. But I did view my mother's. I took care of her and did right by her to the best of my ability. She asked me to come home to care for her after she fractured her hip, so I did. When your Mother asks you to come home or to do anything, 'You Do It without question'! There was No crying on my part at the funeral because I knew it was time for her to leave us and I had done all I could to help her. But my younger sister cried her eyes out at the funeral. She 'Would Not' help with her own Mother's care, Always selfish! I remember the day Mom passed away. That morning my sister went into her room. Mom asked her would she please put her on the bed pan. (A hip fracture). She walked out, No Surprise, without saying a word! But she'll Have to remember what she did, or rather, DIDN'T do! I was not being paid for services, but I immediately hopped out of bed, saying, "I'll do it Mom, ..and did!" ♥️
@MHS8807
2 ай бұрын
I never saw this episode but from what I remember of Derek’s sister, she did always make everything about herself.
@mindyours2023
Ай бұрын
And that's absolutely what she did! Mer sat there with the woman who "killed" her husband in her house and Amelia as usual made it about herself! Now Meredith was wrong for not calling Amelia before she unplugged Derek. The only way she would have accepted his death was if she had been there to try and save him. She wouldn't have made it, but at least she would have gotten the chance to say goodbye to him. This wasn't the time for Amelia to go there tho.
@RuthAdebolaHola
Ай бұрын
@@mindyours2023 No Meredith was not wrong. She is the spouse, next of kin and that choice was solely hers to make because if she had called her, they would have disagreed
@mindyours2023
Ай бұрын
@RuthAdebolaHola you have your opinion, I have mine. I happen to love my in-laws, I would definitely have called them so they could say goodbye. It's not about law, it's about what's right. But go off 🙄
@IfereAbigail
Ай бұрын
She always like feeling like the victim
@philogyny217
Ай бұрын
@@RuthAdebolaHola I do think Meredith was wrong for not calling his family. She grew up with an estranged father and a mother who made her life miserable. But Derek grew up with a loving mother and 3 sisters that actually acted like a family. I get that Meredith was in her feelings in that moment, but she neglected to take his family into consideration. Especially knowing what happened to their father. Its all a very difficult situation, but she should at least acknowledge that she took that chance of saying good bye away from Amelia. Which I think she kind of of does towards the end of this episode.
@tracim3080
6 ай бұрын
You just unplugged her brother without giving her a chance to say goodbye, took off with his children for a year with no contact and treat her like she has no right to grieve her own family.
@propogandalf
6 ай бұрын
Meredith was awful and self-righteous here
@johnnieheyward6391
6 ай бұрын
She has the right to grieve her brother, what she doesn't have the right to do is bring her grievance to his widow. 😢 In real life: she would not be yelling, she would have come across the table and beat the hell out of the both of you for being in her home. REAL TALK!
@user-yz9yg4yx1k
6 ай бұрын
A widows priority is herself and her kids. Period.
@lissettemullen7335
6 ай бұрын
@@johnnieheyward6391 it was like when my husband died, I did the funeral arranged everything so our kids didn't have to go through it!! And here comes my sister-in-law, saying that she should have a part in his funeral. I jump that funeral Director desk so fast my kids say it was like a flash had a chokehold real quick. She had not hung out with her brother for four years lived 20 minutes away from usand my husband died in front of me please make it make sense
@tracim3080
6 ай бұрын
@@user-yz9yg4yx1k so she take her kids away from the only support systems they’ve ever known when they just lost their dad? Why take them away from other loved ones? She wasn’t thinking of her kids she wasn’t thinking of anyone but herself she did exactly what her mother did ran and hid from the real world in real world problems not giving a shit about the damage it caused her child.
@Divya-ht5in
6 ай бұрын
I feel for Meredith but I felt bad for Amelia too.. She just found out the that one of the reasons her brother died because the neuro was late and and didn't get an head CT... It must be so heart wrenching to be a neurologist herself and knowing that was the exact reason your brother died .. And if u had the chance to save him you would have ... And that you couldn't even see your brother for one last time because no one called you ... This is not blame or hatred to Meredith but just empathy with Amelia's character... She was hurting too and somehow it was never properly acknowledged because they only wanted to show Meredith's grief to be bigger... But in the grief is grief !!
@kizi180
6 ай бұрын
Yes!!!! People hate Amelia too much in this scene and forget that she also lost someone she knew her whole life. And didn't get to say goodbye because his wife disconnected him without telling anyone.
@loveverythingbooks
6 ай бұрын
Exactly! It's so weird to me that Meredith disregards Amelia's grief, when a few seasons earlier, she accused Derek of dismissing her trauma in favor of his own and Christina's. That's why I can't stand behind this writing choice.
@crystalsaiz5248
6 ай бұрын
I see Amelia's side as well. But, we all know Mer can't deal with trauma appropriately. She was in shock. One day she will admit she was wrong. The episode when Derek dies was so heartbreaking, especially a dying neurologist, knowing he needs better care from a fellow neurologist than what's being provided. Sad
@maureenavilia208
6 ай бұрын
@@kizi180Aah glad Mer never called them cause Mer never disregard amelia mourning but amelia is a pain in the but,and Mer as the wife she did what was best of what her husband wanted, calling amelia was going to make everying hard for the kids and Mer, she could have tried to save him but he will still die and making him be in pain for something that he wont wake up he didnt want that and Mer honoured what he wanted and they even explained it in S 17, and amelia making everything about her i loved Mer never told them she was pregnant when she ran away, Meredith never grieved Amelia did and she had all the support she want, and in this scene Mer was trying to rise above and she even told Amelia that and owen told her too that everyone is grieving and everything is not about you.
@kizi180
6 ай бұрын
@@maureenavilia208 no. Her husband loved his family and they loved him. He would have wanted for them to say goodbye. MER took their children and moved taking the only memory of Derek they also had with her. She contacted no one during that time that also included the children.
@elizabethjoan9791
6 ай бұрын
I’m sure I’ll get hate for this… they both have a right to their grief…. But Amelia wouldn’t have been able to take Derek off life support at that point in time. She would have left Derek SUFFERING IN PAIN… NOT A COMA… agonizing pain because she might be able to save him, or even keep him alive to keep herself and family from feeling guilt and grief…
@jackieminyard9652
5 ай бұрын
It wouldn't have been Amelia's choice. Meredith was his wife.
@kellyfitzpatrick4408
5 ай бұрын
I can't stand either one of them. Bring back ER.
@NaqisaFurukawa
4 ай бұрын
Do you all actually know what a funeral is? This is when you want to say goodbye to someone one last time! You have a lot of time to leave your last words to the deceased. And Derek was brain dead, he was already fucking DEAD. Meredith made the right decision in the moment, in the situation. For many it's a shame that they couldn't see him again, but since many here talk about saying goodbye... THAT'S WHAT A FUNERAL IS FOR! It probably sounds heartless to a lot of people, but that's my opinion! Have a great day without so much to make such a choice please!
@OmorogbeHope-ku8wq
9 күн бұрын
I can feel her pain because am in the Situation right now it’s sad and heartbreaking 💔 am still crying everyday still healing
@christinegreen5835
3 күн бұрын
I pray God's grace and mercy on you.
@alphabet_soop
6 ай бұрын
the acting in this show is insane
@TheKittyfizzle
6 ай бұрын
Bro seriously.
@ChristineKrannich
6 ай бұрын
I love the show but not once have I thought the acting was great. Hundreds of families (literally) are supported due to the show, though.
@patriciasanchez1850
6 ай бұрын
Especially Derek when Christina is operating on him after the plain crash! When he says that he is probably gonna pass out, his face and acting during that scene! Amazing
@jaderivers8939
5 ай бұрын
True 😮
@Idontwantmynametobepublic
6 ай бұрын
Meredith acting like his death is affecting only her, she pulled the plug on HER BROTHER without giving her a chance to say goodbye. I say Amelia went easy on her.
@propogandalf
6 ай бұрын
I felt like she was very self-absorbed about that. Like you can't measure or compare the impact it has on her or the rest of his family or friends
@dorriethomas6930
6 ай бұрын
I think Meredith was the only one available to ease Derek's suffering. She alone lives with all the fall out, imagined or not. It was never about family politics. The only person that counted was Derek. He wasn't a family sideshow, and he wasn't indicating a desire to have a family gathering one last time. His sister is selfish to make it about herself. She should be thanking and comforting Meredith for helping her brother when she couldn't.
@sanshine4717
6 ай бұрын
imagine allowing your brother to suffer and agonize more time just because you want tonsay goodbye
@warriorgirl126
6 ай бұрын
She did it Because the Shepherd family is really toxic. If she would have called them Amelia would have been too devastated to let him go. The other 3 sisters would have yelled at Amelia and bullied her (and Meredith) the last image Mama Shepherd would have of her son is bloody and bruised and suffering while his sisters screamed at each other around him. Meredith did the merciful thing in my opinion for a lot of them.
@propogandalf
6 ай бұрын
@@warriorgirl126 She did what qas easier for her because she didn't want to deal with them. Yes, it would have been very painful but you can't strip away choice when that's someone's child and brother
@vanessap3698
4 ай бұрын
One of my most favorite dramas!!! No abuse or stupid plot lines. Adorable kids, great couple!
@katieedwards5926
4 ай бұрын
What do you mean “no abuse”?
@ReflectionsofGod1
Ай бұрын
Jo definitely went through abuse
@ajf7268
21 күн бұрын
@@ReflectionsofGod1And then next guy she dated before Alex punched hit her-
@Emnms68
6 ай бұрын
Something that is consistently an issue for the characters on this show is that they need to realize that they should not compare how something affects them to how it affects others. Both people can be falling apart. Just because you are hurt by something doesn’t invalidate the fact that others are also hurt by that thing. Don’t make the amount of pain you are in a competition of who is hurting the worst or who is allowed to hurt the worst. Instead of tearing each other down because of it, weather the storm together. Same thing happened with Arizona and Callie, and April and Jackson, and Alex and Izzie, etc.
@NadineEngamba
4 ай бұрын
So true. This issue is very common in this show, but in live too.
@Wednesdaywoe1975
2 ай бұрын
It's not so much an issue on the show as a major blind spot for Shondra Rimes. It's what makes all of her characters a little unlikeable--a complete lack of empathy.
@kurokami1000
6 ай бұрын
She's his sister and has every right to be emotional.
@loudemopsychic
6 ай бұрын
nahhhhhhh Meredith is right. she has a right to grieve but she doesn't get to go crying to Meredith about it because Meredith was the one who lost more.
@bilibili68
6 ай бұрын
of course she can be emotional, but she can't just dump all of that on a grieving wife and mother of three children who has enough on her plate keeping it together for her family. You have to pick the people you lean on carefully otherwise you both break.
@tomoyapryce5087
6 ай бұрын
@@bilibili68very accurate
@Laced_With_Acid
6 ай бұрын
emotional? yes. dump her emotions on someone who was both unwilling and unable to help at the time? *no*
@AshMae264
6 ай бұрын
Be emotional all you want but do not play a victim or throw someone under the bus who loved your family with all their heart and would willingly die for them. She was acusing Meredith of crap that wasn't true and that's vulgar. Mere had every right to say what she said.
@lilly7057
2 ай бұрын
This is similar to the argument my mom had with a friend who didn't understand why my mom was stressed. My mom is a single mom with six kids
@novanova9554
Ай бұрын
Please send your mom a hug... i pray she'll stay strong, and wish her the best, for her and all of her kids.
@gabrielarodrigues5289
27 күн бұрын
She was completely in the right. I've never linked amelia after this and nothing made me think better of her.
@kdallas3966
6 ай бұрын
People frequently make a scapegoat from others when they're grieving. Junkies NEVER take responsibility for anything. They love playing professional victim
@tasharice2781
4 ай бұрын
It's a little unfair to call her a junkie here. She had become sober and hasn't done drugs for many years and is a practicing neurosurgeon by this point. You might feel she was wrong here ( I have mixed feelings about it) but it's unfair to reduce her to just a junkie.
@mags506
4 ай бұрын
lmfao yes amelia having a history of drug abuse is what killed derek not the car. it’s also the reason nobody got to see him for a final goodbye, not merideth choosing to pull the plug. are you one of the junkies you’re referring to?
@VictoriaPenick
5 ай бұрын
Ngl I absolutely felt sympathy for Meredith by this point and was on her side
@musicmakeup8481
4 ай бұрын
And I would love to have said “I get that… but bitch I lost my brother!! A man who raised me and loved me when nobody else did.. I knew him longer, so u don’t get to be the only one who is depressed!!!” I hated the way she treated her around this time, as if his own sister was nothing to them, as if they didn’t loose him too. 😢
@thea5874
6 ай бұрын
I totally understand both sides. Everyone grieves differently. As someone who was the only one in my family who wasn’t invited to my aunts funeral (that story is too f*king long to talk about), I get Amelia’s point. It was her brother and Meredith didn’t even call her or tell her until after he died. On the other hand, Meredith was in shock and I understand that she went into self-preservation-mode, so to speak, and did what she could do and thought was best for her and her children. But I do think that being a mother doesn’t mean that she can’t loose it. I think it’s important especially for children to see that their parents are in touch with their emotions and learn how to grieve and see that people have different ways of dealing with loss.
@alexandraash6665
5 ай бұрын
🙄 Frfr… it was canon from the very start that Mer reacts in her own (self-preservation) way to grief and we shouldn’t expect anything less, especially not when her literal soulmate (Derek) died due to medical malpractice- one of which was currently downstairs in her house (Callie’s date). I mean, come on, ‘MAGIC’ laughed at O’Malley’s funeral- everyone grieves in their own way, then she sobbed for Lexi and Mark… Derek was like the final catalyst that broke her inside. [But, I agree that I can understand why Amelia was upset- she wasn’t considered in the end, and she was the closest to Derek. She deserved to say goodbye, but that wasn’t something to direct at Mer, who was so broken by what happened] And what’s more I can’t believe Callie’s date 🤯 It was a real curve ball to say the least… Mer reacted within reason to her presence.
@birdie7910
6 ай бұрын
Btw, in this context not only had she unplugged without telling anyone which was against Derek’s wish, she also kept secret that the new intern was Derek’s doctor who they « blame ». Amelia deserved to know and see her brother. Meredith is selfish
@BabyBunny1282
6 ай бұрын
I love this but this part both have the right to feel the way they do. Yes Meredith was married to Derek and had kids but Amelia was his sister who grew up with him she had more time with him than Meredith
@BlackGirlMarvel
6 ай бұрын
And for a minute her and Derek were estranged due to her drug use and had kinda just got back into a siblingship with him due to her transferring to the hospital. So honestly Meredith has more time with Derek.
@isabelsalamanca893
6 ай бұрын
It’s not about the amount of time. It’s about the quality of time. Quality over quantity. It especially doesn’t help that Amelia is a drug addict, and her habit is what estranged them - trying to help an addict can be a huge waste of your time, love, money, and effort. They say it’s a disease, but it’s also largely a choice. Nobody forced you to consume addictive substances. Meredith in turn, was his wife and the mother of his children. That’s pretty wholesome. Much quality time there, very little quality time wasted.
@minimochi2206
2 ай бұрын
Losing a sibling & losing the love of your life are two very different things. I understand unfortunately for both. This scene always gets me
@pamelaedwards8483
2 ай бұрын
Such good acting she looks like she literally is getting furious
@ChasingCrispyCrunchASMR
6 ай бұрын
It's hard to keep up with this show via shorts, they were smiling and happy not 10 minutes ago, now everyone is dead. Edit: I watched until the 3rd season back in the day but got anxiety from all the medical trauma lol so I stopped. Now I get my random bits of updated info via shorts.. But it's sort of a puzzle that way because the timeline just isn't there. Haha.
@Ricee_e
6 ай бұрын
Yeah that’s a pretty good summary of the show
@beeeeeeeeeeg
6 ай бұрын
literally like what😭
@EmmaT27
6 ай бұрын
That's Greys for you 😂 Brilliant though
@chaniramiranda8020
6 ай бұрын
😂😂😂
@alexsagesivori6966
6 ай бұрын
That's just the show
@UndefinedEnigmA
6 ай бұрын
Amelia has the right to be emotional but it was Meredith’s decision - I don’t think she had the time. Plus if she had called, there was no way to be sure they would be there in time. Had the dinner not went the way it did, I’m pretty sure she would have taken it to the grave.
@sirius1ish
5 ай бұрын
If u are going to pull the plug on a person and let them die, I think there’s time for some relatives to be there. I haven’t seen this episode but many point out the fact that the man made it known that if he was ever in a coma, he wanted to be surrounded by his sisters whom he dearly loved. U took the decision as the wife to not call them and only thought about yourself and no one else not even the wishes of the Man U claim to love. And u are pissed but people deserve closure and she got none. Grief is grief. But I think she had the time and could have waited a little longer
@raylewis1995
6 ай бұрын
as much as i love Meredith but the way she handled Dereck’s Deathwas unacceptable he had sisters and a mother that was still alive she should have called them so they could have gotten to the hospital and say goodbye
@user-oh7gg1nn7m
Ай бұрын
Mer was thinking of her husbands suffering and didn’t want to prolong it.
@natashakalloo5585
6 ай бұрын
I love Meredith 💯👍🏼...it id hard when you lost your kids father and you have to be strong for your kids cause they depending on you🙏🏼💯😥😥
@hateisforlosers6116
19 күн бұрын
I love this show!!!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤she made a conscious decision to keep her self sane
@sarahthivierge3387
6 ай бұрын
Yeah there was absolutely no winning in this situation nobody would get anywhere in this arguement except maybe a hospital room everybody's wounds are still so raw its beyond talking in this moment
@rubylove8070
5 ай бұрын
As someone who was there to see their loved one taken off life support, I don’t really know how I feel about about this looking back. Honestly I went through a really rough year after seeing my aunt get taken off life support. We were very close and I wasn’t super young- I was 16, the oldest of my younger cousins and younger than my older cousin. (4-30are their ages). I went though a very dark depressive episode and even self inflicted wounds (idk the KZitem safe way to discuss SHing) until I hit my low point. And for years after I heard my grandma talk about dying and wanting to die and how she can’t wait to die to be with my aunt again. The pain one goes through to take a loved one off life support is not an easy one and of course affects everyone differently. Yea Meredith should have allowed everyone to say goodbye but she also did the best she could while handling the love of her life dying and still trying to be a mother- a now single mother. With kids too young to truly understand what happened or how much she was suffering. Now one wins but it’s not that easy to say what the right move was here. I think everyone’s response makes sense bc now one truly knows what they would do unless they face it.
@paulettemann4107
5 ай бұрын
Doctors said if I didnt make the decision they would when my husband was on life support. So I made the call. But did not call his hysterical sister into the room with me bcz thats the last thing I wanted him to hear, if in fact he could hear. He always said she was too loud and hysterical for him to deal with. So i followed his wishes imo. It was hard enough for me to do at 23. My six yr old daughter and i saw the crash, so i had enough to deal with.
@lenitaa7938
5 ай бұрын
Wow! You come across judgemental and inconsiderate! Are u saying he hated his Sister ?? The doctors used to call all women hysterical, whatever that meant!!
@mryuksiesta
2 ай бұрын
@@lenitaa7938 you might want to reread what she said because where is she being judgmental and inconsiderate? the only opinion that matters is hers and her husband’s. he doesn’t want his hysterical sister in the room? the sister doesn’t come in the room. PERIOD. and hysterical is also a term used for someone who is inconsolable. not just the old term used for “crazy” women and you know damn well that’s not what she meant.
@hydiajones4392
Ай бұрын
He said when he dies, he wanted to be surrounded by his family his sisters and his mom Meredith didn’t honor his wishes. He said he wanted his sisters to be there. She didn’t call his family and she has her nerves to not call his mother the person who is the reason why your husband exist or his sisters that’s wrong.
@hydiajones4392
Ай бұрын
She’s just his spouse, not his blood her pain doesn’t matter his mothers does his sisters do because they all came from the same father and mother
@Mae88498
6 ай бұрын
In my op amelia shouldnt of said what she did to mer and mer shouldve understood that shes not the only one who lost Derek although i totally understand mers side and why she did what she did.
@dyahmiluna
6 ай бұрын
I'm sorry, but I'm with Amelia on this one. Meredith didn't call or let any of Derek's family members know about his death. Derek loved his sisters. Especially Amelia. And Amelia found out her brother was dead days later from someone else. That's f**ed up!
@jefferdenerochester7530
6 ай бұрын
It wasn't days, it was the next morning.. given Mer was in the hospital all night.. she also collapsed after telling her friends. Imagine your husband dying and you have to tell your 2kids then also realizing that you are pregnant. Also, bare in mind that there was a funeral.. his family was there... so they did get to say goodbye. The episode just focused heavily on how Meredith was processing her grief. This is not to say Amelia shouldn't be upset that she was there being friendly with the girl who played a part in her brother's death, that would be hard on anyone. But Meredith was also correct... it had been over a year, she wasn't sure how to even process seeing that woman again when she was just coming back to her life after leaving. It's an all-around emotional situation.
@dyahmiluna
6 ай бұрын
@@jefferdenerochester7530 It was Meredith's job to tell Derek's family. If it was the other way around and Meredith's family were still alive, Derek would have called them and not let them find out by third parties. I understand her grief, but it is what it is. Collapsing or not, she told her friends before his own family. Her husband wasn't born the day she met him. She should have called at least his mother.
@jefferdenerochester7530
6 ай бұрын
@dyahmiluna she lost her husband suddenly.. went to a place where she knew ppl ie her job n told the 1st set of people she saw. Personally I have no idea how I would take up my phone to call my mother in law n tell her that and we actually have a great relationship, my husbandhas also said he doesnt know how he would call my family if anything happened to me ( we live in a different cohntry from them) . Also, I'm not sure who told Derek's family but it's also understandable that someone closer to Amelia would tell her vs Mer who she had a rocky relationship to begin with. All in all I think we can give empathy on both sides
@dyahmiluna
6 ай бұрын
@@jefferdenerochester7530 If she couldn't do it herself, she could have asked the hospital personnel where Derek died to do it. It's the right thing to do. Amelia shouldn't have found out from others. Derek wouldn't have wanted that either. When I lost my husband, I made sure to let his family know myself. It was the first thing I did. Then I let myself grieve. In fact, I can't even imagine a scenario in which his family finds out something like that from co-workers. That's horrible.
@jefferdenerochester7530
6 ай бұрын
@dyahmiluna she was dating Owen so it's hardly just a co worker.. again I don't think they shred who told Derek's mom and other sisters. I'm sorry about your loss. It's great that you were able to set aside your grief long enough to notify his family but sadly that's not everyone's reality/ head space.
@njehnuoutance3449
6 ай бұрын
Emelia pain is also valid. She had chance to love other people but she will never have another brother. Why does husband pain trump sibling pain😮
@caseyjonsson1755
Ай бұрын
This is so real feeling it made me sick with empathy for her- great acting
@ryliekeyser5482
6 ай бұрын
She has every right to scream she lost her husband
@tracim3080
6 ай бұрын
And the other lady lost her brother. He was more than just a husband. He had lots of people who loved him, and they all have a right to grieve too. Meredith was ridiculously selfish. She didn’t have a good relationship with her family, so she never considered his
@witchyasgod
Ай бұрын
you guys are so cute and funny together, it's really joyful to watch!
@sistakia33
6 ай бұрын
Sometimes you're actually grateful that your kids won't let you fall apart. 😔❤️
@miram2053
18 күн бұрын
I feel this way sometimes about people trying to compare their issues to widowhood. "I understand because (proceeds to mention something incomparable to the loss of a spouse)". This coming from people im not even close to🙃 I try to remember that they're only trying to be kind but in my head i felt this way the entire first year. Please stop it. None of us have a lease on pain so i dont need you to relate lol a hug or a "sorry for your loss" would suffice.
@yvie914
4 ай бұрын
Although I feel for Meredith, it's hard to imagine making a huge decision without once considering that maybe the family would want to be there as he passes. This was selfish on Meredith's part, for sure.
@katiasilvestri1155
4 ай бұрын
That scene hit me hard I know the feeling my husband passed and my sons were 2yrs and 1yr. I had to keep my shit together it was the hardest thing I’ve done 😢
@ashleyhenderson4114
6 ай бұрын
I love Meredith but I’m a huge Amelia fan and seeing it from Amelia’s point of view especially being a sister if I lost my brother and I was in this situation I would be reacting like Amelia so my heart really went out to her in this scene 😢
@ladennayoung2939
13 күн бұрын
Great acting. Alex was looking like, I don't want that smoke. LOL. ROTFL.
@Silverbells99
4 ай бұрын
I hated Meredith in this scene. Amelia lost her older brother that she's had her entire life and she didn't get to say goodbye and Meredith didn't tell her before she unplugged Derek. Of course she is falling apart and she has every right to be
@maddiesciola4392
Ай бұрын
As much as I understand, at the end of the day, even though that's your husband, that's also her brother and she has the right to fall apart
@elite_rock_god2292
6 ай бұрын
The only likeable character left in this show was Alex. 😂
@zoomiezoomerd8513
6 ай бұрын
He left, wdym?
@elite_rock_god2292
6 ай бұрын
@zoomiezoomerd8513 at this point of the show, Alex was the only likable character left🤣
@JukeJuicee
3 ай бұрын
i love this scene so much it’s so good
@danielbalderas9796
6 ай бұрын
I can't belive people can be so selfish, prefer to have a human in hours, days or even MONTHS in pain and suffering just because you "wanna say goodbye". Look, ive lost a LOT of close relatives and yet i would prefer them going quick and painless than making the hang on and suffer just so I can say goodbye to a person who probably cant hear it anyway
@TheBaddestCrew
22 күн бұрын
I would never do what Meredith did. She took the last moments any of his family had away from them. Didn’t call anyone after the accident either. I get being in a sense of panic and shock but she went against his wishes in the end. What she did was selfish as hell. She met him, they fell in love and created a family and life together but he had a family BEFORE her. His blood. Toxic or not he loved his sisters. Mere was wrong here. You don’t get to make your grief bigger than someone else’s. Especially if it’s someone I’ve known literally my whole life. Derek was her spouse but he was Amelia’s brother, her sibling.
@priyankadey4855
4 ай бұрын
Okay. So here's the thing. Meredith pulled the plug even though Derek was explicit about wanting his family by his side when he is on his deathbed. And I still get it. She was in a state of shock. She did what she thought was best for Derek and their little children. Amelia is upset because she didn't get to say goodbye to her brother. And I get that too. I'd be pissed if my sister-in-law pulled the plug on my brother without letting me know. So far, both seem to have valid reaction to the loss that they suffered. But what bothers me is that even after a whole year after Derek's death, Meredith doesn't seem to realise that she didn't do right by Derek's family. She refuses to acknowledge that Amelia's anger is reasonable given that she didn't get to say goodbye to her brother. Instead, she makes Derek's loss all about herself. Almost as if Derek's relationship with his mother and sisters was less important than her relationship with Derek. That isn't fair. So, while I get what Meredith did, her behaviour towards Amelia in this moment cannot be condoned. She should have at least validated Amelia's feelings if not apologise for the way she handled things.
@fredrika27
2 ай бұрын
I swear relatives are the worse. I had words with my sister after my son's father died a month after pur mum died. It was a double whammy, yet my sister acted as she was the only who had lost a loved one while my son and I had lost two people we loved. The narcissism of some people is beyond belief!
@shelenedvds8519
6 ай бұрын
I understand that Mer was upset about what happened to her husband but she was so wrong about his family ! She didn't called any of his sisters or his own mother before she unpluged him. She act like the family he come from didn't matter, she didn't even let them a chance to say goodbye to him. Meredith was nothing but selfish after Derreck die, like she was the only one who lost him.
@jasminef4088
2 ай бұрын
Meredith should have said something to the family. Its hard especially knowing he’d have wanted his family by his side, including his sisters, and especially given the family’s trauma over the loss of their dad (who was killed practically in front of Amy and Derek if I recall). But Mer has been through a lot with Derek and the injustice surrounding his death. And having kids, you don’t get to fall apart and grieve, especially when she immediately realized she was pregnant shortly after.
@bernadetteottley9583
5 ай бұрын
I feel this deeply, I had 4 children, though.
@maddbabbleralways9103
4 ай бұрын
Respect and my condolences to you and 4 babies. You are a great mother/only parent. Thank you and God bless.
@tmm6884
Ай бұрын
Everyone who is saying Meredith was wrong to pull the plug on Derek, you have to consider that they were both doctors. Death is different when you see it constantly.
@claudialeiva234
4 ай бұрын
I remember this episode...I was going through denial myself. I kept thinking Derek was going to somehow pop up in an episode. Those were tough episodes to watch.
@kikikoko607
Ай бұрын
Entitled people. I hate them. Absolute relatable reaction from the blonde woman.
@latalik2518
6 ай бұрын
And she lost her brother and has the right to fall apart
Derek once said if he were ever in a coma his sisters would be there. Meredith never called Amelia & could have. She had time to do that & didn't. As a mother I know she has the most grief losing her spouse outside of her kids but she never considered Amelia & all she had been through & how close she & Derek were
@aprilmatthews7930
6 ай бұрын
Unfortunately, the hard decisions have to made by the spouse. Having to stop the vent for my mother was traumatizing and every day longer she had to be on the vent just made it hurt worse. It may have been unbearable for her to see Derek that way
@JG_2.0
Күн бұрын
meredith grew up with her mother, lost derek, lost mark, lost lexie, george died, christina left, izzy left, she lost her first baby, she had a baby in a power outage, she was in a shooting, she had he hand on a bomb, she drowned, she was in a plane crash, she lost her mother, her step mom died and way more happened
@MRSD45
6 ай бұрын
Her brother died and she didn't get to say goodbye. Sorry to say Gray was absolutely in the wrong here for thinking her grief trumps anyone else's.
@nicoleayala4153
6 ай бұрын
Meredith didn’t get to say goodbye properly either you know. And again she did lose more. And so did her children. His sister has every right to grieve but not to emotionally dump all over Meredith especially when she doesn’t want to deal with it
@melissaflores5981
6 ай бұрын
So true@@nicoleayala4153
@Idontwantmynametobepublic
6 ай бұрын
@@nicoleayala4153I hate this mentality of “Meredith losing more” I see in the comments, since when a husband is more important than a brother, that’s his sister, his flesh and blood. She can always get a new love later( even if it’s not the same at all) but Amelia can’t get another brother.
@michelleyota7899
6 ай бұрын
Mer and Derek were soulmates. It's sad she lost him. I can't imagine.
@AnnMarieDavis48
6 ай бұрын
What season and what episode
@Carly-pr2xw
22 күн бұрын
My husband was killed after a drunk driver hit him. We had 4 boys. Then 2 months later I discovered i was pregnant. I thought I was going to lose my mind. 5 years later we're doing well. Our daughter was the glue that helped us through this tragic situation. I was mad at God but found my strength in him.
@Mentalcece
6 ай бұрын
I felt so bad for Amelia
@hmk3912
2 ай бұрын
Amazing actress
@mollyfixxer8799
6 ай бұрын
I'm a widow with young kids.... this actress nailed it.
@CristinaandMer
5 ай бұрын
Its so sad shes been through so much
@dezi5643
Ай бұрын
Meredith was married to Amelia's brother. He was in a car accident, he was brain dead due to a doctors negligence so Meredith chose to take him off life support, without informing his family or letting them say their goodbyes. Amelia is broken because she never got to say goodbye to her brother, and they were just starting to build a relationship. Its all the more upsetting as a viewer when you remember that in the early seasons Derek told Meredith that he has a big family, lots of sisters and his mom, and if something were to ever happen to him he would want them all there. I get that she lost her husband and did what she thought was right, but she completely discarded her husbands wishes.
@elizabethlowe15
Ай бұрын
Poor Alex . He's just sitting there like help me.
@sorrowchasm8913
24 күн бұрын
Are Alex and Amelia together? Or like, why is he in the room
@elizabethlowe15
24 күн бұрын
@sorrowchasm8913 well I mean he is Meredith's bestfriend so maybe that's why he was was there but seriously he had a look like someone help me she's gonna blow
@sorrowchasm8913
24 күн бұрын
@@elizabethlowe15 fr tho 🤣
@seaneskimobandman
6 ай бұрын
Yeah Meredith she’s falling apart. You lost your husband but she also lost her brother. She has known him longer has loved him longer. You should have told his family your decision or at least let them weigh in so living with what you chose to do would be easier for them rather than just making the choice.
@elyshanicole577
Ай бұрын
The Issue was that meredith didn't let his family say goodbye before deciding to take him off life support, which was selfish. Yeah she has three children but why wouldn't you let his family say goodbye? That was wrong, Especially because he was close with his sister. But meredith, the blonde, never understood their relationship because she grew up as an only child in a crappy situation. Then she took off after he died pregnant & didnt tell anyone, she isolated herself. And shes upset pple feel left out by her decisions.
@itsLia13
5 ай бұрын
Amelia was always looking for someone to cast her fears onto. She relied on Derek as a father-figure, she relied WAY too much on her partners for emotional well-being, and she really did take advantage of Mer & Derek (when he was alive) and now she’s peddling for sympathy from Meredith now that Derek is dead. Amelia is a little girl stuck in an adults body and it is HER responsibility to be an adult and not need someone to hold her hand through every little hardship in her life.
@missy_naneylove3457
Ай бұрын
the saddest part she can't be falling apart because she have children and all Amy think is about herself. yes you loss your brother. But losing your SO is another level of loss.
@user-pv5ds7pw7m
6 ай бұрын
I love this show! Haven't been able to keep up with it over rhe years sadly but love seeing these shorts!😊
@e9001
Ай бұрын
U lost ur husband, she lost her brother. No loss is greater than each other
@CorinnaAyala83
6 ай бұрын
I feel this ... I hope u are watching this Linda
@mysticgirl
5 күн бұрын
Although I see Amelia's point, I think she treated Meredith horribly during the first few seasons. Some of it was probably the brain tumour, but I also found her to be very self-centered at times. Meredith spent most of her life without close relatives, so it's understandable that her first instinct wasn't to call Derek's many sisters. Derek was even aware of this issue when he was alive, joked about how Meredith was "terrible with sisters".
@PaulaCollins-pz5rd
6 ай бұрын
Mer was wrong for this.. derek was her brother way longer than he was her husband.
@annaslaughter4828
6 ай бұрын
In that moment, no one knows how they would react. Don't expect for her to have that mindset to think about anyone but her husband. It consumed her that he was dying. Grace to them all. It's unfortunate, but should be understood.
@warriorgirl126
6 ай бұрын
She did it Because the Shepherd family is really toxic. If she would have called them Amelia would have been too devastated to let him go. The other 3 sisters would have yelled at Amelia and bullied her (and Meredith) the last image Mama Shepherd would have of her son is bloody and bruised and suffering while his sisters screamed at each other around him. Meredith did the merciful thing in my opinion for a lot of them.
@vanessamallard1111
2 ай бұрын
Meredith had no right to unplug Derek without having his family present. Amelia knew him far longer than Mer, yet she’s being posed as the bad guy.
@Miranda_m_d10
6 ай бұрын
Her name is Amelia but thank you for the context
@nekochannyan
4 ай бұрын
The sister was not really that bad, she just wanted her moment to feel bad and be the protagonist, but Meredith suffered all that and try to stay ok so the sister was being disrespectful about the situation
@vini_siq
6 ай бұрын
It was hard for Meredith, but let's not forget Amelia had that brain tumor making everything messed up, specially her emotions and impulses.
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