This is exactly what you need to do if she disrespects you, let me know about your own experiences. Guys, let me know what you want to see next by leaving a comment down below.
@bucky4047
11 ай бұрын
Well done M8. Very accurate. Great advice.
@YOMALO.
11 күн бұрын
O too pop
@MartinCropp
11 ай бұрын
This is the best and most complete summary of why women flirt with other men while they are in a relationship. You can never change them, it is an over powering need they have that can not be stopped, even at the cost of their relationship. Don't try and save them, save yourself and invest your time with a woman that is far more emotionally complete.
@Jakobslander
5 ай бұрын
@user-ed6vn7bv4v Bullsh-t! Yes you can change her behavior. If she wants a relationship, she has to stop exhibiting hypergamic behaviors. It's rather simple. If you see her flirting with other guys, ESPECIALLY in front of you, have a sit down with her and explain to her that flirting with other men is NOT ok. If she doesn't get it, break it up. Don't worry, she'll learn to tame the feeling, either because she finds herself unable to have a solid and stable relationship or because she finally got the point. Either way she's going to stop it.
@MartinCropp
5 ай бұрын
@@Jakobslander Thanks for your comment. Both sitting down and discussing, and breaking up does not guarantee that she will stop it. The need for constant and regular affirmation from male's with some women is over powering. Try talking to some experienced councillor's.
@Jakobslander
5 ай бұрын
@@MartinCropp It does work. I used to be a moderator in an infidelity forum and it was a well known fact that most females DO listen and DO understand things when you calmly explain why you feel insulted in this or that behavior. Females are easier to control than people think. It takes times and a honing of one's ability to express feelings but you definitely can.
@MartinCropp
3 ай бұрын
@@Jakobslander I wish it was that simple at the time. As soon as she enters a place where there are other males, she starts seeking out some other male to make eye contact with. When I raise it with her she denies its occurring. The Deny - Lie and Projecting process starts, and it as my issue. Will not talk about it at all, just says nothing. Says I am imagining it. We had been to counseling, and she just states that she is not doing it. No further discussion, just silence and a blank look on her face. I said that if that is the way you want to live your life, it will be over and I don't want any part of it. She was really into doing for extended periods, over 5 minutes, and comes away euphoric. She did it with another guy at the gym, 6 inches between faces, right in front of me as well as others. Relationship over. When two individuals engage in prolonged eye contact, oxytocin levels rise, fostering a sense of connection and intimacy. Similarly, dopamine, the pleasure neurotransmitter, is released during positive experiences, including those facilitated by meaningful eye contact. They call it eye fucking, mind fucking etc, as the the same release occurs during sex. She was 61, was still taking testosterone daily even after menopause had finished which increased her libido, even though it was thinning her hair. She had become an addict, to the testosterone, and the chemical release produced during the eye contact session. She had lost control, she had to do it. It was a reasonably short relationship, and she is someone else's problem now. In a way I feel sorry for her, she is trapped in it. Its a very similar addiction that hundreds of millions of people have with their phones and devices. Regards
@Jakobslander
3 ай бұрын
@@MartinCropp There you go, so you broke it off! Kuddos to you. That's how you do things. They ALWAYS gaslight men. It's part of the sick behaviors these closet psychos exhibit when they don't get their way. And YES, it is eye fucking. There's not two ways about it. Unbeknownst to you, you've helped other men in that the next man she gets with will be getting with a female fully aware of what can happen if she keeps up the charade.
@nomadicwolf6132
5 күн бұрын
Thank you for shedding light on one of the most damaging experiences I've had. I was extremely low value at the time, gave no challenge for her, & she was an attention seeker willing to get her fill from any guy by any means, both online & in person. What a bloody fool I was. Thank you for articulating this topic so well. Means more than I can express. Another step closer to closure, and to having the courage & understanding to seek out a relationship again.
@EduSanjuan777
8 ай бұрын
First, you need to actually understand the motivation behind it and like the poster said, understand most women are naturally like this. However, there is a difference between being a bit friendly with other guys, and giving them puppy eyes, or clearly leading them on. And you might have to look at your own side to see if you are keeping her happy or maybe you have been neglectful of her or too comfy on the relationship. If you have, then chances are this is behaviour is not by chance.When they do this on purpose in front of you, and often it will be with some of your friends even, it usually means that they are already looking for a replacement for you. And they want you to know that even if they dont say it.Its over they lost respect for you and it's not coming back. Even more than that, if you bite the hook and get angry, then she will start calling you insecure, jealous and paranoid. Because when she actually starts to cheat on you, and you see some signs, then she already has the gaslighting routine in place to disqualify your concerns. If you keep cool and do nothing is not good either because what she will do then is see there is no risk for her behaviour and get more aggressive and obvious with it. Only solution is, to check her on that behaviour, on a calm way, on a different day that when it happened. Just tell them you find this disrespectful and you will not allow this. She will start to blame you and all this crap, call you insecure. Dont react to this. Just punish her a bit and pull back, show no interest on her for a bit. If she actually feels something for you and doesn't want the relationship to end, she will come around. When she does tell her this is the last time you will allow her to do this. Next time is strike three. If she does it again, or doesn't even come around to you when you pull back, you have your answer there. She is just an attention whore that didn't really love you, she was just using you while she finds some other man that she likes more. Leave and don't look back. She might come back to you in the future. Send her to hell with a calm voice. Those women are never happy with just one man and are loyal only to themselves.
@Jakobslander
5 ай бұрын
@EduSanjuan777 ^^^ THIS!!!
@nicosaccardo6297
Жыл бұрын
I was the guy she flirted consistently wile she was in a relationship and tought she felt something more because i did, then I realised than she just wanted my desire, i m returning into dating and stuff after walking away for some years. I couldn’t understand why someone could spend so much energy in making a connection with someone for nothing. Thanks for your video
@Jakobslander
5 ай бұрын
@nicosaccardo6297 That's because you probably suck at the flirting thing. If what you're saying is true, that she was "consistently" flirting with you while she was in a relationship, then you missed the cues: She wanted to f-ck you. It's wasn't about attention. She just wanted to f-ck you and probably keep you as an orbiter she could extract resources from or monkey-branch to should her main relationship go tits-up. But, she saw you as weak and you didn't even get to see the kitty-cat. Next time you find yourself in a similar situation, don't sell yourself so low. Tell her to stop it and tell her man what she is doing. Even if you somehow got into her pants... two things can happen: 1) her man finds out, and then you're at the mercy of how psychologically unstable the man is or 2) she monkey-branches to you and then does the same thing with another guy, but this time around YOU will be the victim. Capisci?
@MartinCropp
3 ай бұрын
See my latest comment above. It can become an addiction.
@africantruth2539
2 ай бұрын
That behavior also shows her own low self esteem and not a man's weakness when he reacts. Most high valued women know their value and does not need unnecessary attention.
@zztop8592
10 ай бұрын
She belongs to the streets.
@andrewcanady6644
Жыл бұрын
How does this not have more views? Well said, man.
@dylan1159
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@BAKER22-l4u
Жыл бұрын
Walk away from her
@bradpoursartip2940
2 ай бұрын
Just the fact that he's asking the question tells me he is soft and doesn't deserve a gf ,dump her ,block her number and never look back
@samgrey3530
Жыл бұрын
Thanks you for the information and your experiences bro. I will continue to taking more red pill.
@wenpluto4282
2 ай бұрын
I know this video is 3 years old but "being territorial and emotional is a feminine quality" Yeah tell that to all the animal male species who get "territorial and emotional" when another male tries and take their territory and females. 😀
@nonenone6884
6 ай бұрын
just walk away
@owen.michael
Жыл бұрын
If your Girlfriend has low self esteem and looks at other guys and sometimes smile at them back but never cross the line (like texting or talking) is that wrong or should I be supportive to her?
@ShooterMedic1818
Жыл бұрын
Supportive? Wtf no bro do not put up with that bullshit.
@owen.michael
Жыл бұрын
@@ShooterMedic1818 I know bro it may sound crazy to say supportive and i definitely left out a lot of context...but let's say your GF struggles with validation and she's insecure because of her past but she is always honest with you about her feelings and state of mind, wouldn't you try to be more understanding and support her or wouldn't you give a shit?
@boymk1154
Жыл бұрын
@@owen.michaelleave her immediately.
@EduSanjuan777
8 ай бұрын
Dont take a final decission until you see something more clear. Are you sure she isnt texting or meeting someone? If she isnt is ok but keep your eyes open. If she keeps losing respect for you, she will do more than just look and smile. When she does then you leave her. For sure dont check her unless you have something more substantial going on and when you do dont be overly jealous or agressive. Just tell her you dont like the disrespect and maybe act a bit more cold to her. IF she stops she is a girl worth keep ing. If she doesnt you already warned her once.
@Jakobslander
5 ай бұрын
@owen.michael It is wrong. Let her know and tell her how uncomfortable and inadequate it makes you feel. She will try to shame you ("you're insecure, possessive, abusive, etc") but she needs to hear it from you. If she tries to shame you tell her that, as far as you're concerned, what you feel is very real to you and that you're willing to put the relationship on the line if things don't change. Your girl needs to be shown the precipice sometimes. Don't ask me how or why... she just does. She derives a lot of self-worth from having avoided a break-up.
@NoName-zb1gm
9 ай бұрын
I deal with this all the time. Women love when I look at them. But ask her out and she's too busy. If she's married I don't mind her looking just make sure she has that wedding ring on. Or if she's 30 years younger so there's no chance it would work. She can look too and I'll look at her as well. But if there's a chance for a relationship she should do more then look.
@Jakobslander
5 ай бұрын
@NoName-zb1gm It all ALWAYS starts with "the look." That's why, when in a relationship, there ought be "no look."
@gtoguy7330
2 жыл бұрын
So why does so overly stair and smile in other guys eyes but as soon as they make a move like hit on her. She shuts them down immediately. Almost gets offensive. Is she a attention seeker? She acts like and seems to truly believe she's just being friendly
@EduSanjuan777
8 ай бұрын
This is how it should be. If its real and not an act you have a nice girl with you.
@Jakobslander
5 ай бұрын
@gtoguy7330 That's easy: She does it IN FRONT OF YOU to throw you off the scent. I bet she wouldn't tell the guy to go eat dirt if she were alone with her friends... Flirting is a hypergamic behavior, and women use flirting to attract other men. What women will try to do is pretend the behavior is, in and of itself, harmless, but IT IS NOT. Women, if in a serious relationship, should not be going around eye-fucking guys or ever-so-slightly giving out vibes or hints that she is for the taking. If you sense or see these behaviors on your girl, you ought to have a serious conversation with her. Yes, she will try to convince you that nothing nefarious is going on, she'll even entertain you with a 20-minute waterworks session but, at the end of the day, like or not, she exhibited hypergamic behaviors and those are the behaviors associated with a female looking for a mate. It's as simple as that.
@abes3925
4 ай бұрын
Because she’s just wanting validation and attention. She thinks you’re an orbiter.
@soniagall8143
Жыл бұрын
Speaking for myself personally I am a one man woman.But my husband looks at every woman under the sun young old pretty etc and it has destroyed my confidence to the point I no longer feel attractive. I guess the attention from other men just makes me feel wanted and alive again.
@NoName-zb1gm
9 ай бұрын
Looking and flirting are different things. Looking doesn't mean he loves her it's just looking. It's human nature. Flirting is not only talking but staring a person down until they look at you.
@shawnmclean7707
5 күн бұрын
If he’s going out of his way to talk to them, or you are entertaining the guys who are validating you, both of you are setting yourselves up for foolishness. Aka, if either of you are investing energy in another, then that is a deeper psychological issue.
@Shadow28TV
3 жыл бұрын
HELP My gf dumped me 1 month ago (acted needy and insecure) I'm in the process of chaning my mindset and doing no contact, but I just learned her father just died, should I send condolences text or what? And what to say!
@dylan1159
3 жыл бұрын
Hmm if you want to pay your respects, you are entitled to do so. But she dumped you so that means no contact, but you can pay respects without expecting anything in return. Pay your respects, but do not turn it into a romantic conversation and do not not chase her.
@armandoferreira1346
3 жыл бұрын
Don't fall into the trap of always think its the man fault to be dumped. You can act needy and insecure, it's human nature, obviously not every time to become annoying. Don't always blame yourself for your ex partner's lack of empaty and emotional inteligence.
@marcoam7269
2 жыл бұрын
Hope u didnt relapse into her life... By paying respects to her loss. 🥂
@jimdaniel4412
2 жыл бұрын
break up is closure any further closure should be made by her. when a girl tells you to kick rocks do it but not in front of her
@kosiekoos9408
7 ай бұрын
Ignore the women u weak for. It drives them back. The trick is dont take them back or lose the ppwer u just built.
@ianbetts4435
2 жыл бұрын
So much trash on KZitem on this subject but you nailed it.
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