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@futurerush2560
3 жыл бұрын
Hey Dan, I found your video after another wake-up in the middle of the night due to dreaming about the other person, while sleeping next to my lovely girlfriend of 6 years... 🤦♂️ So I met this other girl ~2 years ago while on holiday in Italy. I went with friends to visit another friend, and she is in the other friend's circle. Visually she's gorgeous - blonde, blue eyes, soft Austrian accent, speaks 5 languages, smart, funny..... We got on like a house on fire, had a few deep conversations (never far from the group, but often sat next to each other chatting). In all honesty I was too flirtatious/forthcoming in complimenting her and making her laugh. Not in a creepy way - she loved it - but in a disloyal to my girlfriend way. On the second or third night we met, we had our arms around each other, and it felt warm and electric. After this night, I remember my heart was through the floor the next day as I thought about what the ramifications of this encounter might be for my relationship... On the final night she joined our group again. After a couple of drinks I said I'm leaving tomorrow. She said "I know, dont remind me, I'll cry". I was like huh? Really? (could not believe this attractive girl liked me). She said "yeah, you're really attractive. I know you have a girlfriend and you're not a dick... It's just really sad." A few more deep talks and embraces, including a nearly-kiss (and we both refrained), and I left for England. Had to tell my girlfriend everything straight away as it was EATING me up. Almost broke up then, lots of emotional conversations and time apart. Stayed together, but I cannot express how hard it was for me to message the Austrian girl and cut things off. I breached it last year over lockdown by texting her to say I can't get her out of my head.. She said, over a year on, "look, you don't owe me anything. I only hoped that you would give us a real shot eventually". Again I told my girlfriend about this and more emotional talks. Nearly broke up again, but didn't. Again told the other girl I'm sorry for bothering her and cut communications, which pissed her off (understandably). She was like "this was all so unnecessary. It's not fair that you reached out and started my" carousel of thouguts" while still with your girlfriend. Don't ever message me again, I mean that". My problem is, I am still PLAGUED by thoughts of this girl and our mutual attraction. I'd even go as far as saying it was/is a connection, as we talked a lot and adored eachother's company. I've journalled, meditated on it, watched videos on the topic etc. Even discussed with my remarkably understanding girlfriend. But nothing stops these thoughts and dreams. She was beautiful and smart, she liked me too, and I seriously don't know whether to throw away my best friend of 6 years for a shot at something even better, or keep repressing these feelings for the other girl despite them keeping me awake and occasionally ruining my mood during the day. I fear not taking the scary option, and that that would mean being a pussy and living a lesser life. Any advice is deeply appreciated.
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Tough situation mate. Short answer: treat each girl as separate decisions. First decision: is your current girlfriend the best connection you'd hoped for, and can you see a fulfilling future between you two? If not, end it (regardless of the other girl). Second decision: if you decide to leave your current girlfriend, should you now disrespect the wishes of the Austrian girl to not contact her again? I can't answer these for you, but you probably know the right move for each one. For more assistance, consider getting a trial coaching session: www.theinspirationallifestyle.com/lets-talk Hope that helps dude Dan
@futurerush2560
3 жыл бұрын
@@brojoDan Thanks mate. My fantasy brain imagines her being "wooed" by me messaging her, but you're right there's a chance she literally meant don't message me even if you're available. But yeah, my girlfriend doesn't deserve to be anyone's second option. I've spent the day with her, open and honest about how I'm feeling, but felt numb and like a nuke had gone off inside me, scattering everything. Memory bad, daydreaming a lot, just hyper emotional and withdrawn. I think I'm going to have to set her free. Incredibly hard when you love someone, but even if it hurts, she definitely deserves to feel wanted, not have a teary indecisive dude for a boyfriend 🤦♂️
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Sounds like the right call mate, brave and compassionate. You're doing her no favour staying with her if you're not in 100%. Plus, you won't really know what you want until you have a clean slate. Get in touch if you want any coaching through this dan@brojo.org
@swiftie9608
3 жыл бұрын
@@futurerush2560 How did it go?
@RAE-homely-fairy-of-the-light
3 жыл бұрын
Can I just say your honesty to your girlfriend at the time was awesome🧚♀️I've had two crushes on two guys during my 19 yr relationship, told my husband each time...hard to do but best, and I think it happens when disconnection happens in your current relationship....
@dave136
29 күн бұрын
Hi Dan,thank you so much…after listening to you break it all down..has helped me apply this method to my own crappy situation that I have gotten myself into…now I see the situation clearly for what it is and I can now work to get my head together and sort me out…🙏🏻
@brojoDan
29 күн бұрын
Excellent, I'm happy to hear this helped you find some clarity. Get in touch if there's more I can do dan@brojo.org
@Tom-cp6yj
8 ай бұрын
I don't agree.. tomorrow isnt guaranteed for anyone! Ive spent the last 17 years of life being patient and faithful.. that costed me my freedom and social life! Now im suffering from severe depression and loneliness! If you see something/someone you want, go for it as it opens new doors.. doing "the right thing" gets you nowhere in life! 🤷♂️
@brojoDan
8 ай бұрын
I'm not sure what I said that you don't agree with. I clearly stated that you should leave a partner you're not satisfied with. It sounds like you were "patient and faithful" with someone you should not have stayed with. If so, I would have advised you to leave them had you consulted me.
@49495lwbrmoxybe
3 жыл бұрын
no i wouldn't sacrifice my relationship for connecting with someone else, no my relationship doesn't stop me from connecting with other people, no being attracted to someone else doesn't mean i'm connected with them
@mizzcrazygal
5 жыл бұрын
This guy i’ve been talking to has been treating me way better than my boyfriend, i love really love this new guy he talk to me so much and tell me how much he loves me and always listen to my and my boyfriend and i just argue over petty stuff.. i honestly don’t know how to leave my boyfriend.. i don’t want to tell him i’ve met someone else because i know this would hurt him .. i want to leave my boyfriend but i just don’t know how.
@adrianna5661
5 жыл бұрын
Tim Tam me too i love my boyfriend but i rarely get to talk to him or see him and my guy best friend liked me and i liked him back and idk what to do lmao
@SERDYART
4 жыл бұрын
Find a way out , tell him how you feel and leave. It will hurt him either way, I had to do it recently. If you think the other person if worth it , do it.
@norswil8763
Ай бұрын
Tell him you’re a cheater and he’ll leave you. Problem solved. Be an adult and work through your issues, if he’s abusive leave then date new people - you were a big part of the problem here, he would have felt you pulling away.
@alyssakurian8574
6 ай бұрын
Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years now- I even liked him for 2 years before we started dating. We are young and still in school. We’ve always been so in love and happy, aside from some small problems here and there. He gets moody and jealous sometimes, I’m often tired. Recently I’ve began extra classes somewhere else with some friends. One of them I can’t help but find more attractive in both looks and even personality than my boyfriend. Though neither of us have acted on anything, I can’t help but feel something there. This hasn’t happened with anyone else ever. As my feelings for this friend grow, my feelings for my boyfriend seem to weaken. We’ve been together for so long though, we have a great relationship, we’ve met each other’s family and friends- there’s just so much to it all- I don’t want to throw away what we’ve built. These feelings for my friend are eating away at me, every time I look in his eyes I feel something. When we talk I just feel like we’re on the same wavelength. What do I do?? Please help
@brojoDan
6 ай бұрын
I think the secrecy is what's making it build up. If you were to be honest with your boyfriend about this attraction then you might not feel it so intensely (yes, it will set off his jealousy but conflict is part of healthy relationships)
@gremlin7872
3 жыл бұрын
You put this in a really good context which helped me see it in a more logical way, thanks!
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Stoked to hear it mate, hope it makes decisions easier for you
@gremlin7872
3 жыл бұрын
@@brojoDan really did
@jamalchess7636
4 ай бұрын
Having to set boundaries for a relationship feels like a prison.
@brojoDan
4 ай бұрын
The way I see it is having a relationship without set boundaries is a prison. You don't get respect, you can't take care of your needs, and you are smothered by resentment towards your partner. Boundaries create freedom
@norswil8763
Ай бұрын
It’s called expressing your fears and needs, how will your partner know otherwise? Just guess and hope you’re happy? It serves you both! If you care about your partner you’ll want to hear what their needs are, relationships die without boundaries.
@norswil8763
Ай бұрын
Dangerous advice for avoidantly attached people. Emotional connection can be switched on and off like a light switch, they can dip out of a healthy and happy 5 year relationship and straight into another the next week.
@bolo.abname8800
5 жыл бұрын
What do you do if you were falling for someone and the feeling was mutual, and you both had a brief falling out. Which then led to you finding someone else which you start a relationship with, and the first person comes back for you and you still have strong feelings for them.
@brojoDan
5 жыл бұрын
Hey Gavin, good question mate, I'll add it to Ask Dan Anything. If you email me, I'll notify you personally when I've posted it dan@brojo.co.nz
@brojoDan
5 жыл бұрын
Hey Gavin.I've created a video response to your excellent question here. Let me know what you think kzitem.info/news/bejne/kmae3a6fs4meYKw
@JGMochey
4 жыл бұрын
current situation, thanks for asking
@skrtokurrr4657
2 жыл бұрын
this.
@Sky22_00
7 ай бұрын
Ughhh this happened to me recently and it’s so difficult to deal with
@Whispyy1
5 жыл бұрын
You make good videos. You should try to make one of your videos go viral by doing something more unique, then your current videos will get a lot more views once people know about you. Keep it up broda.
@oliviarynth
4 жыл бұрын
I have a boyfriend but i also like another guy I'm texting and he likes me too . I just realized that if i choose one of them the other might get hurt. I just hate the idea of hurting someone. Please help.
@brojoDan
4 жыл бұрын
It's not possible to live life fully without hurting other people. You need to realise the truth: you're not really hurting anyone by breaking up with them - their attachment to you is what hurts them, and you didn't create that. If you don't choose one of them, THEN you're hurting both of them.
@egallegal3513
Жыл бұрын
so you are cheating emtionally!
@miranda_turtle0566
4 жыл бұрын
So I had a boyfriend who treated me very well and loved me a lot. When school started again I met someone who I became close friends with quickly. Then things got harder in my relationship with my bf since we went to different schools and only phone called for about twenty minutes a day and saw each other about six or seven times a month. And it was hard and it made me sad not seeing him as much and there were times when I thought it wasn't going to workout. As the fall came I started spending more time with my friend and always made a point not to be unfaithful to my boyfriend. Then in November I was at my school's dance and my close friend asked me to dance with him, after that I knew I had an attraction to him and only told my two best girl friends, but I never acted on it and always tried to ignore my feelings because I wanted to stay faithful. At this point me and boyfriend had been together for 6 months and it was hard for me to not see him often and I started thinking it would just be easier to leave him for the other guy, who I was spending more time with at school anyway. And then in the beginning of December I did but I wasn't fully honest about why I felt well needed to break up (I said it was because of stress for my grades and dance performances, which were a factor but not the main reason) he was really sad and it broke my heart to see him cry and I started crying cause he was saying that he would try and find away to see each other more, and it was all just a mess and I was really upset about the whole thing for weeks. The next Monday I got to school and had told my friend I was no longer with the boyfriend, I knew he liked me but he hasn't come out and told me yet. So I just said I wanted to take a break from relationships. Then 3-4 weeks later he told me he liked and we started talking and not officially dating because I still felt really bad about the break up. Then about a couple weeks later we had winter break and our relationship fizzled out before it really ever started. I'm kind of glad it did because I'm starting to realize I only really liked him because he gave me more attention than my boyfriend did, and that the relationship probably would have failed soon, because it was more of like an emotional getaway car for me. I feel really bad about that. I feel so horrible about that whole thing with both of them. I fear that I may have broken up with the only boy who ever really loved me for no good reason, because I didn't get to see him a lot. Because I just thought it would be easier go be with the other guy and not as hard. Maybe i should have just worked harder to spend more time with my boyfriend. Idk anymore, all I know is what I did was very bad and I am acknowledging that I am the bad guy of this story and that not spending enough time with him or not seeing him a lot and not getting alot of attention I no excuse for what I did. I regret what I did but I don't want go tell him that i miss him because it has been three months now and he has a new girlfriend who he seems happy enough with and I don't want to ruin that relationship and hurt him even more. All I want is for him to be happy and okay now.
@kingorange7739
4 жыл бұрын
Miranda _turtle 05 That is really sad story and I am sorry about it. And the honest truth is is that I’m in a similar fence to you right now. You don’t need to tell him in regards of your desire to be with him again but you should at least confront him and apologize for what happened and be honest about it it may hurt at first but in the long run he’ll open that gate of trust again and it might just reopen that bond, maybe not the relationship, but the bond.
@miranda_turtle0566
4 жыл бұрын
@@kingorange7739 thank you for your advice, I had already been reaching out to him slowly trying to just have small talk and catch up to see how he's doing.
@brojoDan
4 жыл бұрын
I don't think you're the "bad guy" in this story. There's a thing called "friction" - things that get in the way of a relationship, no matter how much you like each other. Long-distance relationships can work if they're a) temporarily long distance and b) have a solid history of being close to each other before the long distance break. I think in the end neither guys were right for you. You're finding your way with honesty and showing your true feelings. Keep working on that
@miranda_turtle0566
4 жыл бұрын
@@brojoDan okay thank you!
@bgs9503
5 жыл бұрын
This helped. A lot. Thank you
@brojoDan
5 жыл бұрын
You're welcome dude, happy to help
@saraz.1561
3 жыл бұрын
Ok so, I need help with this. I've been in a relationship for 2 years with my bf. We got toghere when I was 15 and him 16. I got with him after endind a really toxic relationship only to fall into another one.. We have had a lot of falling out (or better said I have had a lot of those) I never felt sure enough if I really loved my partner. He has real anger issues and sometimes even hurt me physically leaving bruises on me. He suffers from quite a lot of mental issues and I helped him through this and he is now way less prone to anger. I feel that he loves me greatly and tries his best to make me happy, and I feel like leaving him would brake him to pieces. I do care a whole lot about him and the idea of leaving him makes me scared and sad. But the last few month I have been attracted by a friend of my brother and I just can't stop thinking about him. I even dream about him. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt my partner in any way but I don't know what would be best for me
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Hi Sara, sounds like you're only really staying with him because you're worried about hurting his feelings. That's not an awesome reason to stay with someone, but I get it. It's tough to break up with people. You've got to realise that his emotions are not your responsibility. If you stay with him, you're only teaching him to depend on you to manage his mood. That's not a helpful thing to teach him. It's better that he learns how to handle being rejected, because real life is hard and we need to handle things like this. Come and join the BROJO community for more advice from people who understand and want to help www.brojo.org
@jackbeaven-duggan559
3 жыл бұрын
I am not in a relationship right now I feel anxious about getting in one because of worrying of something that could go wrong when I am in one.
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah mate, this is common for a lot of people (this video talks about it more kzitem.info/news/bejne/1HuNsZqEe6xyfn4). The key is to focus on becoming confident in yourself while you're single - then, once you're in a relationship, you'll be ok with the potential for something to go wrong, because you'll just go back to being single if it doesn't work out
@skrtokurrr4657
2 жыл бұрын
i’ve had this issue, i liked this person before getting in a relationship but since my feelings still haven’t died. it’s nearly been a year yet i love my partner and the other guy.
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
As I've said to others in similar positions, I don't think you'll become totally clear about your feelings until you're single, i.e. breaking up with your current partner to see how it feels
@_skz_ins_2216
2 жыл бұрын
So i was in a long distance relationships for 5 mouths that was having some problems he became a little distant and i met this guy and he kinda nice and treats a better than my boyfriend so i left him. But even not talking to him i still think of him alot and i wanna talk to him but at the same time im afraid to go back to the same. I dont know how to solve this
@chainz7006
2 ай бұрын
dont give ur current bf or girlfriend up for someone else if things r going well stay with them!!
@pinkimietz3243
2 жыл бұрын
So just stay with someone you're not into that much? Let me ask you a question. How would you feel knowing your the second best option? If you have feelings for another person tell your partner. In the end it's about you and your partner and the relationship you guys have and not about an imaginative love affair. Don't be a Johnny Depp. You see how great his choices and honesty turned out for him.
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
Did you watch the whole video? Your response sounds like you just read the title. The video clearly talks about the difference between fleeting attraction vs serious interest in another person, and how these would require different decisions.
@rlhullum2
2 жыл бұрын
This vid just made me a fan 😁... keep up the great vids!
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
Awesome! Thank you Ron, hope you enjoy the other vids mate
@itsjustkayla4200
4 жыл бұрын
Uhm I have a big crush on a boy in my school and he said he does not care that I like him. But my best friends brother is trying to date me I said yes but I still kinda like the other boy. So uhm can someone tell me what boy to choose?
@brojoDan
4 жыл бұрын
Probably neither. Only date guys you like who also like you back. If your brother's friends doesn't attract you, don't play games with him and give him false hope.
@xm15a2
2 жыл бұрын
i’m gonna break up with my roblox boyfriend rn 🙁
@jurybalikov7063
2 жыл бұрын
This is 10/10 video I was looking for. Thank you
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
Glad it helped Jury :)
@youssrahadri8442
4 жыл бұрын
I’ve had a boyfriend for 3 weeks now, he’s sweet and I have a lot in common with him but sometimes it feels a bit off. He has a guy friend which I had a crush on a couple of months back, not knowing they were friends. I just headed that there was a big possibility that he likes me. I have a bigger attraction and connection with him. I like him more but I’m scared that he’s to good to be true. Also I’m scared of breaking up their friendship since my boyfriend is really paranoid of the possibility of me dating him. And that my friends will think I’m an asshole (in our school everything travels fasssst). Do you have any advice?
@avasalazar6813
5 ай бұрын
ik you this comment is 3 years old, but im going through the exact same thing right now and i don’t know what to do, please please if you have any advice or mind telling me what happened i would really appreciate it
@oscarthewhale
2 жыл бұрын
I'm in a relationship with someone for five months now and so they are a great person, he was my friend before and then we began dating when we realized we clicked and I fell in love with him. But my past trauma and toxic relationships has gotten me so worried that he might fall for someone else and even if he reassures me constantly I don't like that I have to ask him because I don't want to annoy him too. Maybe I'm over reacting a bit? I watched this video trying to reassure myself that my partner will not leave me but still it scares me so much.
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
The key is to always remember that our trauma and insecurities shouldn't become our partner's problem. Get therapy. Get coaching (dan@brojo.org). Read the "Attached" book. Rather than hoping he'll reassure you, figure out how to heal so that he doesn't have to
@lanaw7304
Жыл бұрын
update
@weakweek85
11 ай бұрын
I'm in a failing marriage. Wife is polyamorous due to her sexuality, and most likely going to leave given the chance. I want her to make the choice to leave. It's basically over in my book. But I find myself smitten by some girls here or there. I don't act on it. But perhaps down the road, I will know what I like. So i don't take it as a loss.
@brojoDan
11 ай бұрын
All I can say to that is waiting for your wife to leave puts you in what I call "Maybe land". There's no confidence in maybe, it's a powerless position. If your marriage is over, then end it yourself (if you want to feel powerful and confident). If it's not over, then step up and gear and fix it. Waiting will kill your self worth
@hp2546
10 ай бұрын
Then it is not the time to let her make a choice. You got to end the relationship for her. If you let her stay, that will be like enabling your wife to cheat on you. Don't give her a choice. She is already cheating on you and your marriage is already dead. So divorcing her will not be your loss.
@cazzabear
4 жыл бұрын
I have a boyfriend at the moment but I’ve noticed I may be more attracted to girls also I like a girl right now so I don’t know what to do
@brojoDan
4 жыл бұрын
Step one: be honest with him about it
@charlotteburford2240
6 жыл бұрын
Amazing video & very very true.
@brojoDan
6 жыл бұрын
Thanks Charlotte :)
@urxloss707
4 жыл бұрын
I have a question so my bf likes me and now we are dating so one of my close friend likes me he liked me since 5th grade now I’m on 7th grade but my bf liked me in 7th grade now we are dating for a week now but my other close friend that likes me don’t want to ruin my relationship with my bf I think I have feelings for him but I don’t feel like I’m taken when I’m with my bf and now I just don’t know if I should be with my bf or my close friend
@brojoDan
4 жыл бұрын
Teen dating years are the hardest! I don't envy you - I found dating to be very complicated when I was your age. It's a good chance to learn how to be honest in difficult situations. Maybe you could just tell your bf that you're getting feelings for someone else, and you two can just talk about it and see where the conversation goes
@mariah6352
3 жыл бұрын
This helped me so much. Thank you so much
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
You're welcome buddy, I'm happy to help
@swiftie9608
3 жыл бұрын
About two years ago I made a friend at college and we would hang out during our class breaks. I began to lile him and I thought he did too. Time passed and he never asked me out and I began to think he was not interested in me. Around the same time I met someone in my other class and he REALLY liked me. He asked me out a couple of times lol I liked both guys but assumed that the first did not like me and only saw me as a friend. I began to date guy #2. A few months after guy #1 told me, "Can I ask you a question?" And I just made a short reply saying "yeah go ahead?" (I had been distancing myself because I didn't wanna have misunderstandings). Well he says, " I was wondering if you had a bf? I really like you but never got around to asking you out and I just decided if I keep waiting im never gonna do it.... Would you lime to go on a date with me?" I told him i indeed had a bf and that was that. We would talk but very sparingly and just as friends. I was upset he hadn't asked me out before but by then I was already in a relationship that I was happy in. Overtime I have come to realized that my bf (I am still with him) that he has a very short temper. He treats me well and supports my dreams but his temper is just difficult to deal with. Sometimes I wish I had waited around for the first guy to ask me out. I thought he didnt like me but it was actually him being shy. I like my bf (except for his temper) but lately the first guy has been on mind. I keep thinking: "What if?" "What if I had dated him? What would that relationship look like?" Despite these doubts I dont want to leave my current bf because we have very similar goals and I think we are good for each other. But I dont know :/ Sometimes my bf is too much to handle. At the same time i dont wanna leave him
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah life's tough with the way it presents opportunities. There's a lesson here: next time you like a guy, just ask him out. Waiting doesn't help anyone! Rather than thinking that this is a choice between Guy #1 and Guy #2, this is really just a question of: is your current boyfriend the best match you can find? If yes, stay with him. If not, leave him. Guy #1 doesn't even factor into this decision (he could be just as bad or even worse).
@nobody-sx8qp
Жыл бұрын
This is a classic example of people settling for less and eventually they break up or get a divorce. A short temper is seriously a red flag..
@connieurdal4307
5 жыл бұрын
We just met and "fell in love" so we've been together for like a week, so I don't think something's missing in our relationship, since we just met. and he likes another guy. He says he's committed to me and likes me more so well see what happens. 🤷 But should I just trust him that he's committed tome/likes me more?
@brojoDan
5 жыл бұрын
I'd say nothing is certain after just one week. Rather than figuring out whether or not to trust his commitment, make sure you aren't going to be crushed if he's not into you later (ie. live your own life)
@plutotheplanet5770
3 жыл бұрын
Literally my girlfriends best friend. 😐
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Rough. That is unlikely to go well, no matter how it plays out. If I were you, I'd give up on both of them and find someone new
@Jasmin-gt5lu
11 ай бұрын
This is a tricky subject. I always do well in my relationship for a while. Until I am hit by stress and depression season. I usually lose my sexual desires completely. This is a difficult stage. But nevertheless, I am attracted to other men. It's like I want flirting, touch, intimacy from them. I'm looking for a connection that I can't get with my boyfriend. I still love him, but I wonder why this happens. Is it just low self-esteem? Or is boyfriend wrong for me?
@brojoDan
11 ай бұрын
Sounds like the symptoms of an Avoidant Attachment Style. Google or wikipedia search this term and see if that explains it
@nikolausbeats2251
2 жыл бұрын
Was very helpful, thank you!
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@HandsomeBeast
9 ай бұрын
Subscribed! --- this is wisdom❤
@brojoDan
9 ай бұрын
Thanks mate
@spensercook
4 жыл бұрын
Loved this
@reezy2150
2 жыл бұрын
Love this video mate
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
Cheers Reezy
@psgtnatsmftxixzzmoneyxlarized
2 жыл бұрын
I am in a relationship with my girlfriend. I like someone else I known longer. I really have emotions for the other person, not my girl. My girlfriend gets really mad at certain times but the other doesn’t. I don’t want to leave my girlfriend but I like the other person. I need help.
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
Hey mate, yeah that sounds like you actually do want to leave your current girlfriend, but for some reason are scared to end the relationship. As I always say, don't worry about the other person you like - firstly, end your current relationship if it's not good for you to stay in it. You only have one life, don't waste your time or your girlfriend's time staying in a relationship you don't enjoy. After you break up, you can then consider the other person you're interested in. Email me for more personal support dan@brojo.org
@lanaw7304
Жыл бұрын
leave ur gf she deserves better
@rosemendez1785
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@brojoDan
4 жыл бұрын
Any time buddy
@nikhilkhamkar1224
3 жыл бұрын
This really helped me
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Happy to hear that Nikhil
@MsieurKlein
4 жыл бұрын
Very very interesting. Thanks
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
Very welcome
@smiel__
3 жыл бұрын
2 guys love me, idk who to choose. ;-; Is it possible to date both of them?
@brojoDan
3 жыл бұрын
If you're honest with both of them about the other person, then sure. If you're hiding it (i.e. cheating), then you can expect that to end in a disaster
@vidyachauhan9119
Жыл бұрын
so, I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend from the last 4.5 years...i was badly in loved with him but due to some reasons misunderstanding comes between us.....after 4 years of relationship he accidently do breakup with me without any logical reason, then i met a guy , starting liking him...but its one sided...any after 3 month my ex came and want patch , he really loves me , thn i patchup for me bcoz i cant see him crying....no after 5 month of patch i realise that i dont want to be in a relationship with him anymore.....i think if like somone else so how can i do love my bf.? how can someone love do guy at the same time? but i want to be single but i dont want to lose him for lifetime , i want to live single ....i can't see him cry...what should i do ? is i love my boyfriend? or should i do breakup?
@brojoDan
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like you should break up, only because you don't have good reasons to be with him. Not wanting him to cry and worrying about not having him for a lifetime aren't good reasons to stay in a relationship with him. If you stay together, you're BOTH unavailable for other people. This might actually be hurting him to stay with him, even if he cries without you
@katarinajokanovic1872
2 жыл бұрын
Is it okay if i was in a very emotionlly abusive relationship. I was emotionally attached to my ex. While i was with my ex i met my english teacher's nephew that i met on school trip to England. I wasn't aware that i had a crush on at that time. Fast forward couple months i forgot everything about that guy and continued my relationship. My ex later on broke up with for other reasons. Later on my teacher' nephew texted and wanted to keep contact with me. So 6 months later i got together with me. Was it okay that i had a connection that didn't fade away with this new guy while i was with my abusive ex?
@brojoDan
2 жыл бұрын
I'm happy to hear you got out of the abusive relationship! I assume that the new guy (teacher's nephew) treats you better than your ex? If so, well done! The lesson here is you probably should have left your abusive ex sooner, so next time someone treats you badly just leave them - there's always someone better available
@MS-ns4ki
5 ай бұрын
I believe someone is going to reach out soon and realize he was NOT with the right person.
@noxxici
3 жыл бұрын
thank you.
@guccitang7115
5 жыл бұрын
In in a relationship I love my bf alot, then this dude told me he has a crush on me and I like him too. But I dont want to lose my bf since I love him too much, but I also like the other dude. What do I do? And Am I cheating on my bf?
@pusongmanhid
5 жыл бұрын
Gucci Tang no. but you cheated on his heart
@brojoDan
5 жыл бұрын
You will always find other people attractive, and we're all biased to find people more attractive once we find out they like us. This doesn't mean you're cheating. Cheating is when you act on it (or possibly when you're dishonest about it). the key is developing such a high level of honesty in your relationship that you can tell your bf that someone else is attractive to you
@guccitang7115
5 жыл бұрын
THE BROJO I did
@brojoDan
5 жыл бұрын
@@guccitang7115 how did that conversation go? This situation could be a great way for you two to develop a more loving style of conversation, but it depends on how you deliver it and how he receives it. If you want more support with how to do this, get in touch dan@brojo.co.nz
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