Normal work is domestic violence.. mondays are traumatic.,
@Mothermochi
Жыл бұрын
Systemic gaslighting in the court and legal system relative to domestic violence is something I did not anticipate when I left my abusive partner. The manipulation abs verbal abuse was huge in my experience, it made getting out so difficult. I was frequently told thing like “oh everyone says their spouse is abusive” and my safety and attempts to protect my children were ignored. Very scary and frustrating
@erikavaleries
Жыл бұрын
Family court is terrible. Same experience here. I almost felt safer before leaving. Post separation and legal abuse are real. I'm sorry you went through this with kids and the abuse was dismissed.
@bigwhy6845
Жыл бұрын
Loooove this podcast episode. Great questions, great open-minded attitudes from the Sunday Scaries girls. Every time I listen to DV episodes I learn something and get a bit of validation for my own past experiences. One of my biggest takeaways is that you shouldn't feel pressured to stay with an abuser. Leave them alone, let them get therapy, and maaaayyybe rebuild the bridge after many years go by. In my case, my abuser has never gone to therapy or really began to acknowledge the severity of what they did, so I feel very validated in declining to rebuild a relationship with them.
@laine80
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for doing this episode. I wish I’d known the signs before meeting my abuser. However, I was 19 and very inexperienced, so it probably would’ve happened anyway. I really liked the tips on how to help others in abusive relationships!
@silviayantuche5791
Жыл бұрын
Such a great episode 🫶🏽
@Bea_22
Жыл бұрын
Great episode
@NotAMuse
Жыл бұрын
Dr Honda, I would really appreciate it if you could share any resources for female perpetrators. Thank you.
@missednoahsarc2654
Жыл бұрын
The cycle of abuse is genderless
@crib4046
Жыл бұрын
Great episode. Loved the bit where you talked to her directly to tell her it wasn't her fault. I teared up.
@josieli9768
Жыл бұрын
52:11 and in. Thank you so much. This really helped me.
@Star-dj1kw
Жыл бұрын
❤ great video
@saiikik2727
Жыл бұрын
48:11 Opening yourself up is scary. It can feel like potentially opening up to more abusers or invalidation, people who search for that stuff. One thing that you can do is try to gently redirect the other person and see how they are with that. If you’re watching a movie and they do the move where they put their arm around your back and their hand lands near your neck, you can pick up their hand and move it where it’s more comfortable. Maybe around your lower arm or hold their hand in your lap or something. I guess it’s a bit of positive reinforcement to show the other what they can do instead of only showing what you don’t want them to do. I think far too often some people believe it’s shame or embarrassment holding people back from opening up about trauma, not realizing how real triggers can feel, even sometimes when just talking about it. I think that very dismissive.
@HeatherFaraMS
Жыл бұрын
Any recommendations for perpetrator treatment in PDX? Or type of program to search for? Struggling with partner with severe abandonment issue. According to DV hotline only hope is treatment specifically for abuse…yet they had zero resources. I hold boundaries well. l am a survivor of abuse and know where things go. My partner wants help and we are on pause until he can find help. Struggle has been everything found is for court ordered people only.
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