I'm so sorry this happened to you, Mel. I was sexually assaulted when I was 11 years old by the friend of my older sister. I couldn't even tell anyone and lived with that silently for over a decade. What you've said is so true. Thank you for sharing this part of your life.
@salonsavy6476
2 жыл бұрын
I too was sexually assaulted as a child by a family member ,, I was recently diagnosed with -CPTSD ,, and depression,,, I’m learning about CBT ,, reprogramming my brain ,, I’ve lived a lifetime of abuse from parents , siblings, partners,,, and now it’s time to heal and move forward!,,. Love you Mel ❤️❤️❤️
@Sadiya36955
2 жыл бұрын
And I love you.God bless u😘
@queenchiomaofficial
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this. This reminds me of a time when boy kept me stuck in the toilet. He locked it and would make me kiss him multiple times and he’s say ‘I won’t let you go until you kiss me one more time’. His mum and sisters and my family were in the living room…thinking that we both were playing so they teased us when we came out of the toilet. But I was utterly embarrassed, I felt fear, terror and shame. I never told anyone and I wished I did. As I carried that shame on in my life. I’ve experienced other traumas that were even worse and I always had a habit of keeping it to myself. It all build up and I developed an anxiety disorder. But I didn’t know why or how I had anxiety. I finally started to face my past experiences during the pandemic (as I couldn’t sleep I’d have all of these flash backs). So I started healing and getting therapy and now I’m on my way to healing. ❤️❤️❤️
@rucheinoc5198
2 жыл бұрын
This is life-changing, Mel. I Thank God for you. This episode deeply spoke and resonated with me. Thank you
@byefelicia8632
2 жыл бұрын
Miss Robbins. Thank you for this video. Please keep making more. You have no idea how much its helping me.
@SeanPalmerLOFI
2 жыл бұрын
This is so compassionate and helpful. Also you are my spirit animal for saying the high five is a f*** off to the voices. Lol
@dragonheartmomma616
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@deevamuir8106
2 жыл бұрын
🙏 wow! Thank you so much
@universaltruth2025
2 жыл бұрын
My father and brother were toxic when I was growing up and my mother was tense and stressed in the mornings. The feelings of shame & guilt were constant companions and I still struggle to shake them. I used to lie in bed and listen for the signs of whether my parents were grumpy, busy, or safely out of the way. I now do the same thing as an adult with my husband who turned out to have similarities with my father in terms of temperament. I mostly would prefer to be alone - that would be a great way to start the mornings!
@evadeeden2446
2 жыл бұрын
Hey first !
@aurashine2184
2 жыл бұрын
It happend to me when I was 9 years...I'm 57 now been through healing ptsd past 3 years and finally start finding myself back..have still some things to go through but i will get there
@marilyn.g
2 жыл бұрын
I had a bad childhood. We weren't allowed to play, watch TV, have friends. All we had to do was work, we had a farm so we had to clean all the animals mess. Cut the yard, do gardening. Etc. We would get hit everyday. And I grew up being afraid to talk, be around people. And I don't even like when my parents gives attention to other kids now, even though I am 30 years old, it bothers me that they are nice and caring to other kids because they never did that to me. And they never hugged me, and would tell me they wish they aborted me. That's why I don't even want to have kids either. I even had to sleep outside with my dog when it was cold outside. That's why I love dogs so much because my dog tried to keep me warm when I was 9 years old. Anyways everything is wrong with me now. I never had friends, I stutter when I talk to people, people at work bully me, someone even said I look like an easy target, I don't even know what that means. I'm afraid of many things, I don't like kids especially if my parents talk to them and give them attention 🙄. I'm not confident at all. I always try to fix my feelings but I feel like nothing works. I hate that I never had a childhood, no birthdays (I barely started celebrating my bday since I was 24, by myself, I go to Wendy's and that's it pretty much, I know lame). I never had Christmas until now that I'm an adult. But my dad would give other kids presents. So I hated kids since I was a kid smh. I feel like I'm too messed up, I wish I could die and start all over 😮💨
@marilyn.g
2 жыл бұрын
That's just the basic things that happened to us...
@karentroester148
Ай бұрын
OMG! when you talked about waking up thinking something is wrong, I almost cried because I’ve been wondering why I do this every morning for 35 years! Thank you!
@bookgirl7484
2 жыл бұрын
I have Dysautonomia - literally a broken ANS. It was triggered by a virus 12 years ago. So glad I found this video. I’m working hard to deconstruct my past but my just will not heal. I’m extremely frustrated.
@chrisyoung8672
Жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@connectwithnickandpenny
2 жыл бұрын
This session is priceless thank you thank you
@AnnWilson-pi6te
3 ай бұрын
i’m 58 years old my own family disowned me at 5 years old because they said i was a bastardized my youngest son was killed in 2007 my own children waited until i took medicine to get thru my nightmares all 3 of my children said i picked there brother and did not Tell me for 17 years they lied to my grnd
@barbarabarr9195
2 жыл бұрын
What can I do when I know that my daughter's ex-husband is grooming and conditioning their 8 year old daughter. He's very sicko man, is a narcissist's, can make you believe what he's saying. My granddaughter told me that her daddy bought her a maid dress and a school girl dress. The teacher at school even noticed things, like she's preoccupied at school, and she watches her brother who is 4 years old. 😡😡😥😥😥😥cws doesn't do nothing and I don't call them up because I fear of what the father would do to the kid's.
@shane9002
Жыл бұрын
Mel. You have hit the nail on the head!! You have found the holy grail to figuring ourselves out! I’m trying to change my people pleasing codependent nice guy life patterns. Thank You!!
@jayline1087
2 жыл бұрын
Been working on my trauma for 14 years and just got the definition of it right here right now. 🤯
@chrisyoung8672
Жыл бұрын
I been abandoned ,I been denied and use so much I want to give up . I'm 64 year old veteran in a bad divorce of 39 years based on lies.
@belindatramm1262
Жыл бұрын
I wake up feeling in despair is the only way I can describe it
@connectwithnickandpenny
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry yes we just took care of my mom with dementia this is what happens to me. She passed in January
@barbarabarr9195
2 жыл бұрын
What if the narcissist's is in denial. And doesn't get help.
@recoverywithlee2591
2 жыл бұрын
DETECTING PATTERNS in how speak to ourselves is KEY to transition away from past limiting patterns. WE need to become aware of the specific phrases that continue to give us an un-easy gut reaction. TIP: 1. Make an inventory of these statements. 2. Make it mandatory to combat this with WORDS TO YOURSELF that are accurate and kind. 3. Create and recite an affirmation each morning, specific to you, detailing you deserve happiness. 4. Take an action towards your goal. BEST PRACTICES and WISHES to us ALL!
@Sadiya36955
2 жыл бұрын
Oh Mel Robbins.Thankyou God bless you.You are an Angel Sweetheart ❤️❤️❤️
@GTO.007
2 жыл бұрын
With due respect, I hardly appreciate the screaming and yelling in this video - I know it's more influential but it's too loud and distracting.
@a.s.jackson8203
2 жыл бұрын
I recently discovered Mel and she has been helpful but I don't agree that all kids are trying to maintain peace. I have known kids from my childhood who told their parents when bad things happened. They felt safe with their parents and/or their parents had taught them to tell them when something was wrong. I believe that Mel had experiences in her family that taught her to not upset things. She had to wait to eat dinner. That seems cruel. Children should not have to wait that late to get their hunger satisfied. In my childhood, I had bad things happen to me in the home and outside of the home. I didn't tell because the people who were supposed to care about me and protect me didn't help me most of the time so I didn't bother telling anyone.
@iamangela171
2 жыл бұрын
I'm glad I found this channel and that's exactly what I do, withdraw and no one ever comes to visit, very very rarely and I wonder why
@Serena.Hope.Eternal
2 жыл бұрын
Asking questions was the only reliable way that I could get my Dad to talk to me as a kid. He seemed to know everything! That started a love of learning in me at a very young age that will always be with me. 🥰 Unfortunately, there was no hope of getting anthing good from my Mother - no matter what. I now believe she is a malignant narcissist. Learning about malignant narcissistic personality disorder has my life and pain finally make sense!
@jeffreyskinner7167
2 жыл бұрын
Good afternoon . I will watch again , the first F bomb u drop I am gone . Professional who loves your content .🇨🇦♥️
@chowceo
2 жыл бұрын
Learn SO MUCH from this one video thank you Mel ❣️🌹❣️
@denisehurley8156
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for Sharing your own stories with us. When i look back, only now, am i able to realize and value those memories i have of my mother, every Sunday, cooking a big dinner for my siblings and I. She later told me how important it was to her that we all gathered together for these moments. How often do we take the time these days to actually spend time sharing a meal. I agree that facing Covid has reminded us, thankfully, how important it is to spend this time together. Bless you for all the support you given, as i find courage in your words to also be willing to share my own stories.
@emilyt6361
2 жыл бұрын
Mind altering goodness I never knew I needed 😍 thank you 💖
@bridgemixx3653
2 жыл бұрын
Amazing
@usaintltrade
2 жыл бұрын
BEAUTIFUL
@songsforsale427
2 жыл бұрын
Googling something drives a wedge between personal relationships.
@spearit3336
2 жыл бұрын
I want to grow , One day to be a mel Robbins or a person to spread great wisdom. I’ve gained much in my life so far but I guess I have to work on the confidence while growing my following. I’m working on a foundation and it’s taking sometime but I’ll get there
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