One of my life goals is to marry a god-fearing, Christian woman.
@ladyshenna967
6 жыл бұрын
I am celibate. I do desire to be married. During this time I'm single, I'm enjoying my time with Jesus. I'm in no hurry.
@gjenkins24gj
5 жыл бұрын
Amen
@laurademan5200
5 жыл бұрын
I am too.
@tameriajones593
2 жыл бұрын
Meet to I wanted to get married before bringing a child into this world but I ended up pregnant and gave birth to a boy. But I don't know if God will give me a husband.
@tameriajones593
2 жыл бұрын
In 2010 I was in a relationship with a guy from Brooklyn, NY I thought he was a suitable person for me and my son and I told him the second time that I wanted to wait until we are married to have sex he agreed okay let's get married but he still wanted to have sex outside of marriage. I kept telling him no and begin seeing that he was no good. The next day I went to church and I said to the pastor that this guy said that we were meant to be together because God put us together so the pastor asked me is he a Christian so I came up with the response of what the guy told me and he said not those counterfeit boyfriends God will put you with the real thing. I realized from my pastor that if he's not a Christian he will mess your life up. The guy I was seeing he only wanted sex out of me and money. He just wanted to get in my dress. And I didn't need another child because of my mental condition and my son Aziz was put in a foster care.
@ladyshenna967
2 жыл бұрын
@@tameriajones593 There is nothing too hard for our Lord. If you want a husband then turn your desires to him and allow him to give you the husband you need. Not want, but need. You start the work and he will do the rest.
@bjbowman381
10 жыл бұрын
It's a lot of people out there that want to downplay the work that God is doing through so many of us, but men and women of God, STAND YOUR GROUND! Don't let anyone cause you to compromise your Christianity. If God is leading you to share his word and it's helping his people, then you do just that! Amen! To God be the glory!
@andreahlongwane3197
8 жыл бұрын
I agree. However, I'd also like to add the fact that God ultimately made us for a specific purpose which is to become disciples so that others may have the privilege of getting to know Him just as we do and serve others. We should not idolize the idea of having a spouse but should share our joy, hope, contentment and security in Jesus Christ.
@bjbowman381
9 жыл бұрын
I understand that there are those that are being used by the Devil and have been sent to discourage people from the truth, that's why I stand my ground no matter what type of attacks come my way. As Christians we shouldn't be tearing one another down, we should be building each other up through teaching, prayer and by being a living example. My brothers and sisters always be encouraged to stand on God's word, because through it all that's the only thing that's guaranteed to be true and last. Amen!
@LoveAwsomeThings
9 жыл бұрын
Your words have helped me in my time if need. The holy spirit is definitely using you in amazing ways. I came to KZitem for a pep talk because a "friend" from my work who has been tempting me lately decided HE was not going to deal with ME. He would ask for casual sex and not respect me at all, even though I gave him many second chances he still let me down. I know I'm better off but my boyfriend and I broke up recently and even before that I was very lonely and sad. He got under my skin with his looks and after I challenged our friendship he just gave up. Your words were so perfect and helped me with other physical struggles I'm going through. My faith has been weak lately but you have rekindled my passion for our savior. I'm opening up and telling you all of this because I really can't thank you enough. I will re watch this a lot and encourage others around me to look at it. God bless you.
@beanandpopcorn
8 жыл бұрын
+Ember Mae I can relate. Check out AnointedFire on youtube, she's the business. She talks alot about what we single christian women go through or have gone through. Very inspirational and encouraging sista in Lord.
@swhrt28
7 жыл бұрын
there are even ones in the church that pose as a christian......when they get married turns out they're not.
@keshiamills5717
7 жыл бұрын
BJ Bowman Thank you for the complements and the wonderful words of encouragement and I want to encorage you to be strong in the Lord and in the power of his might. I pray that the Lord gives you the desires of your heart. Continue to let the Lord use you, because you are TRULY a man of God and a man after his own heart and there is NOTHING to hard for God and there is no good thing will he with hold from from thoses who walk up right before him. BJ you are TRULY worth the wait and you are a good man. lol, your sister in CHRIST.
@jelicianorwood24
7 жыл бұрын
I'm young and understand everything you are saying. I have to wait on God stayed celibate and get a closer relationship with God. I'm work on me and keep living my life. So I agree with everything you've said
@bjbowman381
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you to all that have posted comments and praises for this video. It definitely put a smile on my heart and I thank God for instilling his Holy Spirit in me to share this with all. To God be the glory and as all ways, be blessed! Love you.
@clumsey1000
10 жыл бұрын
I have watched this video a more than once just as a reminder :)
@martinasteelers
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you...40 and single
@bahamabarb
10 жыл бұрын
Being alone does not always mean being lonely and being in a relationship does not always mean being happy. Is it at all possible that MAYBE we can just learn to be CONTENT in whatever situation we find ourselves? Someone recently said to me, "It's hard being single and alone." My response is "It's alot harder living with another sinner. I have no illusions about marriage or relationships compared to singleness. There are benefits in both situations. Six of one, half dozen of the other. We get to choose."
@andreawilliams2693
8 жыл бұрын
Our LUST is strong. After i stopped looking @ your body I was able to focus on your message. You have a great message. Keep preaching good job
@paulayee6793
9 жыл бұрын
Was feeling discouraged but watched your video message and was inspired. My eye are set upon Jesus!
@KittyLoveKawaii
9 жыл бұрын
God bless you brother. Your video really helped me. I've been single my whole life and although 'Im only 22 I still break down crying when i hear about kids my age getting married and then I think"man i havent even had 1 boyfriend and she's getting married.' Thank you so very much for making this video! I can't express how blessed I am to have watched this today. Something too that made this video special to me was hearing from a Christian man on the topic. Although it is good when i get advice from women, something about hearing from a godly man on the topic makes it mean more to me for some reason. So God bless you brother and I will try my best to take your advice. :)
@brittanywestmoreland6539
7 жыл бұрын
KittyLoveKawaii stay strong sister I'm 25 almost 26 and no man ever. I'm praying and getting out of the house that's all you can do.
@WithLUVBrie
9 жыл бұрын
I like this, it encourages me As a 20-something year old that God knows what all I recently went through and how I stumbled to stand firm but I did it because I first love him, Jesus Christ, while in these time ladies, we all have to strongly stay encouraged and know that Jesus knows what's going on with us how we feel etc now just as much as he knows what and how we will be years down the line--I've learned that the lord is such a gentlemen because he draws near to us in our desperate and broken times and if we receive it we can see how true and great He is! Glory to him, amen!!! Stand firm ladies!
@bryannaschuh6535
9 жыл бұрын
thank you i needed this "good things come to those who wait" im waiting on gods timing
@gracekamau5098
8 жыл бұрын
I was feeling so lonely and discouraged with my single walk today. This is exactly what I needed to hear. God was speaking through you. Thanks for the words of encouragment and love x
@judahitesisterendurance5918
7 жыл бұрын
Grace Kamau hi girl, um from Kenya too can we mingle coz um on my celibacy journey?...
@gracekamau5098
7 жыл бұрын
Hey! glad to have another sister going through this journey cause its not for the weak in Spirit. add me on facebook @Grace.Kamau13
@judahitesisterendurance5918
7 жыл бұрын
Grace Kamau yes grace, nliona wewe ni mkenya and thought we can boost each other
@gracekamau5098
7 жыл бұрын
for sure, hit me up and we can connect
@judahitesisterendurance5918
7 жыл бұрын
Grace Kamau I don't know how we can connect maybe via face book
@vanessachee7526
8 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for saying what I needed to hear. God bless you.
@clumsey1000
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you for confirming what I already know :)
@bjbowman381
10 жыл бұрын
You are welcome Cassandra and to God be the glory.
@louiseottley4995
9 жыл бұрын
+BJ Bowman I give up that life 4 years ago and waiting. thnxs be to God. single and happy. what u saying is true, that's what's my friend did. only problems now.
@Philippians1.6
8 жыл бұрын
What a man of God !! Handsome inside out. I am seeking a born again like you, with this kind of thinking, I know he's out there. Thank you for talking to us Christian ladies like this with such love, guidance and respect.
@xavvv4455
11 жыл бұрын
Blows kisses! You are truly God sent. I am answering back as though you are here. I am encouraged in my waiting. God bless you my brother!
@cassandram4212
10 жыл бұрын
Very encouraging. Im a young Christian woman and today i just felt alone. I was just questioning, I have God, God is all i need and want.. and i know that for a fact... but why then did i feel alone? I don't feel it's a relationship with a significant other .. so what can it be... just don't like feeling this way,.. confused i guess.. can anyone relate. ?
@benjaminfarnsworthy8591
9 жыл бұрын
So encouraging, yeh, like a greased door knob
@jamiewilliams6589
11 жыл бұрын
this message was God sent, ive never heard a man talk like this , God is awesome he use u 2 get the message across, thank u so much , this was conformation for me , God bless u
@LadyCharity
11 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your message! I concur with everything you said. I am anointed to wait on the One God has for me, have learned my lesson not to be impatient and I am working on improving myself in the process so I am prepared for the blessings that are to come. Psalms 37:4 is one of the scriptures that always encourages me :) It's hard being a young lady living virtuously (my 28th bday is this weekend) and I like to encourage other ladies but this is great to hear from a man of God. Many Blessings!
@pearlgurl106
9 жыл бұрын
LOVED THIS MESSAGE!! I NEEDED TO HEAR THIS ENCOURAGEMENT! I'M CURRENTLY IN MY SINGLE SEASON AWAITING THE HUBBY'S ARRIVAL BUT MEANWHILE I'M JUST WORKING ON ME AND ALLOWING GOD TO DO THE SAME WITH ME SO I'LL BE READY.
@evagreeny
9 жыл бұрын
Thanks Bruv. You're so on point. I will deffinatly do as you said through Christ who strengthen me
@benjaminfarnsworthy8591
9 жыл бұрын
Well then: do you swallow?
@starbucksdust24
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much I really needed this. I have been off and on with the same guy from church. I do love him very much but our relationship seems unhealthy. I decided I wanted to focus on God and watch God move in my life. I know God has great plans for my life . Thank you for your encouraging words. Jessica C.
@charolynsmith7716
10 жыл бұрын
This was an awesome message of Encouragement to me, a Christian single woman. I am waiting on the Lord. Thank you.
@Drianna5656
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this. Being a young, Christian woman, I'm often tempted to settle. Nice to be reminded that the wait IS worth it.
@sherrypettye4887
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for saying that no one says it to me!.... I appreciate everything you have said thank so much!
@bjbowman381
11 жыл бұрын
To God be the glory Jamie. I allow Him to use me to help anybody that He tells me to minister to. I pray that it helps many more. God bless you.
@Hotgurl53
9 жыл бұрын
I love this... I love watching this... because it is very positive and uplifting.. Thank You ...honestly
@jessicaharris7403
11 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your words of encouragement! I really needed to hear that, especially coming from a man. It gave me confirmation that I am on the right path and doing what God wants me to do; and that is follow him and spend time with him until He sends my special man to me! Thanks again for the encouragement! : )
@deannacrownover3
11 жыл бұрын
From a long time married Christian woman, I'm SO PROUD OF YOU! God is using you in a big way. I fear for the youth today, faith and a full understanding of the will of God is rare. May God bless you and keep you brother. Stand strong, keep the faith and keep looking up! In Christ, Deanna
@JAchica11
10 жыл бұрын
Great message. It truly made me think. God bless you and may God continue to use you in this regard.
@amystewart1067
10 жыл бұрын
I watched your video today... Thing don't just happen, it's because it was supposed to. I am at a crossroads in my life. This video was so encouraging to me. Thanks for reminding me that I serve an awesome God who loves me no matter what trials I am going through. He walks with me and sometimes he caries me in his arms when I am not strong enough to walk on my own. God has blessed you with wisdom. Thanks again for you post to all of us single Christian women who really needed to hear your thoughts.
@tiffanyrussell6028
9 жыл бұрын
This is so encouraging and makes so much sense to wait. I like the part you said about how we get what we settle for. It's hard waiting when you see others who aren't even believers, married & seem to be happy & you're lonely & waiting, but I would rather wait on the blessings of God.
@FloridaNative84
10 жыл бұрын
This is awesome!!Thank you for this encouragement!!
@Destinee9211
9 жыл бұрын
I definitely needed this right now! Thank you!
@joycefrank452
5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this word because I am trying to walk close to the Lord and be the kind of woman that will be the example. I love God. I need supernatural intervention for my life.
@NuLyteTV
6 жыл бұрын
Yes!! Amen great message! Be in position, ready to receive!
@ArtfromWonderland
10 жыл бұрын
This is a beautiful, honest and God-inspired teaching. Thank you for uploading it as an encouragement to all single Christian women in the world who are facing these questions. Let's keep our eyes and hearts with The Lord, and our prayers full of passion for Him. You have a beautiful Godly spirit, God bless you for the love that you share so compassionately. ❤️
@DrSarahEve
10 жыл бұрын
God Bless you bro! Needed that encouragement.
@kathyalsup6882
11 жыл бұрын
I really believe I needed to hear that from a man. I'm 18 and as a Christian I'm staying pure. I've only had one boyfriend and that was last February, he was a "so call Christian". I was the one to brake up from him and since then i only fell like I'm getting no where. I pray everyday that god will bless me with my future husband. I know I'm still young but it really hurts to be single. I want to say thank you for making this video.
@brandyquick5581
6 жыл бұрын
I'm not gonna lie I thought that you had something negative to say about Christian women of the cloth.. but this was actually refreshing to watch.You hit the nail on the head I'm convicted everything you said was me... I found trust and contentment in GOD and Jesus christ he is my best friend better than any fleshly worldly boyfriend/ fling could ever be to me. At this moment I'm celibate and happyly waiting for a last connection from God. I never been in a real relationship with a real man that actually loved and care about me all fleshly..I have GOD/JC and he is a wonderful teacher and counelor. Now if God sends somebody into my life and we click then great I'm all for making new friends (platonically), but I'm not rushing or looking for anything looks are very deceiving.. I'm waiting on a spouse that has the spirit of God in him, then I will know he is heaven sent. Thank you for your encouragement &inspiration I pray the same for you.. peace be with you always.
@LadyK30324
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this message!!
@FayeCat21
9 жыл бұрын
I love this video! Thanks for shedding light BJ!!!
@katherinevallejos2186
7 жыл бұрын
Thanks BJ...you are a powerful man of God. I pray for more men like you in this falling world!
@Shrink18
6 жыл бұрын
You're so right Amen and a lot of us ladies need advice from a grown Godly man. I came here because I am a single Christian woman who is waiting for the right man. I'v had past experiences with men and have always ended up disappointed but am getting to know God as my Father on a deep level and I know that He will never disappoint me and He wants me to just be single and wait a while for the right person. It's not easy but I believe it's so worth it. Seek first the kingdom of God and all these other things will be added to you (Matthew 6:33) ladies and gents ! Embrace that one !! God's word is TRUE and never lies or fails!
@MsTBrown07
11 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing this. This encouraged me, to keep striving in seeking the Lord and waiting on my husband that the Lord is going to send. I know that I must have a solid relationship with Jesus Christ and God my Father before He can send Him. How right you are that while waiting, God is putting us in preparation stage for that special one. It's well worth the wait! I'm excited! Thanks again, be blessed!
@MSSINGFORGOD
10 жыл бұрын
This pure awesomeness !!! Love this
@kalipanchita
11 жыл бұрын
Very encouraging coming from a man's perspective. I did pretty much everything you mentioned because I was fortunate enough to be brought up with that type of mentality. I spent time getting to know who I am in Christ and eventually my husband came along. Not because I was focused on finding a man but because I knew God would provide so I did my best to enjoy life and grow in the mean time. Ladies listen to this man! lol Some definite wisdom behind his words.
@shareewalls6032
10 жыл бұрын
Awesome!!!! Greatly appreciated and so needed. God Bless :-)
@nikidav4628
10 жыл бұрын
Wonderful message!
@mandie1962
10 жыл бұрын
Hi, I just wanted to thank you for obeying God by posting this message. I'm a divorcee after 25 years of marriage. I promised my father in heaven he would always come first. Wherever he leads me I'll follow. My God has told me I never need to settle for less again. I will be blessed with the best!
@ThickChickVlogs
11 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much brother.
@jfc2310
11 жыл бұрын
Thank you for these words because many people in my family also some friends don't understand why I keep saying no to non-christian men and waiting on God. I trust my wonderful God, but sometimes I feel sad about some comments...... . God bless you BJ.
@catherinewall6956
8 жыл бұрын
This is so encouraging. Thank you 😊
@darry3701
8 жыл бұрын
+Catherine Wall r u single 2 ?
@Laydee780
11 жыл бұрын
Nice message. Comes across as a good person. It's hard to find Christians who aren't lukewarm.
@lesheninangy4622
9 жыл бұрын
Hi BJ, thank you for such an amazing inspiring video...and may the good Lord continue to use you tremendously...well said indeed.
@tballinger8200
10 жыл бұрын
Thank you! It is valuable to receive advice from Men of God. It's real talk. Thanks for keeping it real.
@bjbowman381
10 жыл бұрын
You are welcome Tawny. I don't know any other way but to keep it real. You continue being a real woman of God and always be encouraged. God bless you.
@rebeccaotchwemah7389
9 жыл бұрын
Amen, very very well said.
@suemoore6761
7 жыл бұрын
Tnk you for your words of truth and encouragement and it's coming from a male keep making your vessel available for Jesus to use
@bibleonly1
7 жыл бұрын
Listen to him ladies! If a man can not deal with you "according to knowledge", 1 Peter 3:7, he really is not worth it! Plus after no one wants to hear your complains and there will be complaints... How does Yahshua our Messiah take care of His "Body" the church... 1 Peter 3:7 'You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered." Father Yahwehs' words, not mine...shalom ...thanks my brother
@LaresaGordon
11 жыл бұрын
Much needed message, thank you.
@jellibelli929
11 жыл бұрын
Very encouraging! Thank you brother
@GodInMika
11 жыл бұрын
Enjoyed This! It really blessed me!
@tifwit1
11 жыл бұрын
This was an awesome encouragement to me right on time,but what made me laugh is when you said you want the blessing focus on Jesus and you got your biceps out there like that ,lol and your going to ask me to focus ,just had to go there !
@Tumealicious21
9 жыл бұрын
Thanks brother. Much love
@traceyannstewart9590
9 жыл бұрын
Wow I love it you are on point my friends and I always talk about this topic . I am a single christian woman and I do believe in waiting on God and I know by doing so I cannot and will not go wrong because i KNOW HE WILL GIVE ME ONLY THE BEST .I do not need to be married and miserable I would rather be single and happy than being married and unhappy. Thank you Sir.Oh I posted your video on my Facebook page God bless.
@elijah6262002
11 жыл бұрын
This message has truly been a blessing. I have been single for nine years, God has blessed me with 2 businesses, i m beautiful, and a young lady. I was interested in a guy that was recently saved and I have been longer and living holy. My desire is someone that can meet me in the things of the Lord. Please keep me in your prayers. Don't want to be thirsty..... I have been standing to long.
@lasswttru
10 жыл бұрын
Awesome video! Wonderfully spoken.....
@brendaaska7006
10 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this.Thank u
@Tanisha255
8 жыл бұрын
You have to be in a position of where your ready to receive a husband...well said!!!!!
@bellarolle
9 жыл бұрын
Thanks for posting this video!!!
@NewNChrist
7 жыл бұрын
Great word. Thank God I'm on the right track.
@sital.6407
8 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the encouragement
@joshplumbe8648
10 жыл бұрын
So many girls need to hear this!
@godschild9932
7 жыл бұрын
GOD BLESS YOU FOR THIS IT'S WHAT I'M DOING. I. FIRST SEEKING THE KINGDOM OF GOD ABOVE EVERYTHING ELSE AN IT SHALL BE ADDED UNTO YOU I TELL PEOPLE BEING SAVED WAS THE BEST THING I'VE DONE IN MY ENTIRE LIFE BUT TO GOD BE ALL THE GLORY
@natalyaestrada
10 жыл бұрын
SO ENCOURAGING!
@bjbowman381
10 жыл бұрын
I'm glad it encouraged you, now stay encouraged! God bless.
@natalyaestrada
10 жыл бұрын
thank you! You as well!
@05Godschild
11 жыл бұрын
Wow!! Great video!!!
@audreykoranteng4231
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you Sir
@azizifoster6242
6 жыл бұрын
That's right "stay focused"
@cherishdeb
11 жыл бұрын
love it..."you see what i'm saying?" lols gbu bro!
@HealingGiirlEra
9 жыл бұрын
Amen needed this!
@shaylarutledge2353
11 жыл бұрын
Is there a part 2 to this-Lol! IJS : ) Your words of encouragement truly blessed me and it was refreshing to hear it genuinely come from someone of the opposite sex.
@kago16
10 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this BJ!
@kathykent7886
7 жыл бұрын
amen brother love hugs God bless u
@annabellkay
10 жыл бұрын
I truly believe what you are saying.
@joshplumbe8648
10 жыл бұрын
Amen, preach it brother
@carlastephanie488
11 жыл бұрын
Thanks! This was encouraging :-) God Bless
@MeleciaW
12 жыл бұрын
so true, ur so right.. there is no man around
@Livetoworship1521
9 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!!!!
@marynelson1213
8 жыл бұрын
Thank you my Christian Brother.
@goodlovewillstand
11 жыл бұрын
Thank you, it was ment for me to see this
@ajohnson6936
10 жыл бұрын
Great message!
@HIGHREASONMEDIA
10 жыл бұрын
thanks so much for this message I won't lie It is a task trying to really see the man God has planned for me so although I still actively look I pray everyday that the Lord prepares me to be a wife turns me into the woman i need to be in order for the man that i end up with to encourage him in his walk and he encourage mine… thats what I am doing while I'm waiting
@gracenamwila1427
10 жыл бұрын
No one else in church will tell you this, but I will (and I am ready to meet my Maker over it). Facts: * There are not enough single men in the church to go around. * Churches are only interested in unchallenging women's and children's ministries, so they are not even trying to address this imbalance (which has huge implications, and not just for single women that rightly desire marriage!). * You don't need to further "prepare" to be married. * You don't need to battle for contentment with singleness. * You are not "making an idol" out of marriage (Hint: It's the way God designed women). * You don't need to feel bad because you need to make a living and so have a job/career (yes, idiots on US singles websites are actually spouting a lot of nonsense about this). What you do need to do is look outside of church to meet a man to marry. There is no more time to waste, if you are 25+. Contrary to popular belief, there is nothing wrong with you. (I'm not saying you're perfect! We are all in the process of conforming to the likeness of Christ. But I would say it was highly unlikely that the reason you are unmarried is because you have oh so much more work to do on yourself! Don't let yourself be put down like that any more. Single Christian women have suffered enough abuse, and it has to end here and end now.) So look outside church, for a man to marry, and do it without delay. There is no more time to waste "waiting on the Lord" when actually, the reality is that the Lord is waiting on us to get our churches straight, and align us to His design for marriage as set out in the Bible. I am sick and tired of seeing women despairing over their singleness. There is no need for it. Find a good man in the world to love, help and encourage and let your life be an example to him and the world. It can be brutal out there - but not as brutal as lifelong singleness, so be "bold and very courageous"! POSTED BY CAPTAIN SENSIBLE AT 3:49 PM 29 COMMENTS: Anonymous Vincenzo said... I liked your post Captain, but keep in mind there are many good Godly men out there seeking wives who need that kind of encouragement too. ;) 4:17 PM Blogger Captain Sensible said... Vincenzo - I always appreciate your comments. Thank you for reading this blog. But may I gently disagree... Single Christian men need encouragement to marry, yes. And they need to be encouraged to be proactive rather than passive, and they mustn't let "shyness" hold them back, plus they too need to ignore the false teaching about "waiting on the Lord" to bring you your spouse! However...they are not suffering the spiritual abuse women are, nor do they have the practical obstacles that single Christian women face, and those are the problems I am seeking to address in this post. 4:27 PM Anonymous Vincenzo said... Thank you for your reply to my post Captain. I do appreciate your desiring for change in this area of Christian living. Change is long overdue. However, if you could please elaborate on "spiritual abuse/practical obstacles"? I suppose my definition might a little different than yours or not. :) 8:14 PM Blogger Captain Sensible said... "spiritual abuse/practical obstacles" I would have thought that as a regular reader of this blog, it was clear how I view this! Spiritual abuse = Scolded for not "being content" with singleness and the resulting childlessness; scolded for "making an idol" out of marriage; made to feel like God has so much more work to do before He can possibly deem them ready to be a wife; and then very recently (primarily in the US) scolded if they have to earn their own living in a job as this shows they apparently renounced marriage in favour of a career! Practical obstacles = An imbalanced ratio of men to women, and Christian men (from the leadership down) refusing to address this. 11:56 PM Anonymous Anonymous said... I noted with particular interest your comment about having "so much work to do" to be deemed ready for marriage. I've heard this one over the years (not so much applied to myself, though) and have always wondered why I see so many people around me who are a great deal more messed up than some godly singles I know, but said messed up people were the married ones! The natural question is, why did God deem THEM worthy of a spouse? I suppose the standard Christian answer (apart from "I don't know") would be that those people are out of the Lord's will, so He's not directing their path or protecting them from a potentially incorrect choice. 6:14 AM Blogger Captain Sensible said... Oh, Christians come up with stupid comments all the time! (It seems unbiblical to apply wisdom these days...) Sadly, the best thing to do is ignore virtually everything Christians tell this messed-up generation about singleness and marriage! Stick to a more traditional version of the Bible (instead of the trendy new ones like The New Living Translation and The Message) and supplement your reading with the best book on Christian singleness and the only one I wholeheartedly recommend: Debbie Maken's "Getting Serious About Getting Married: Rethinking the gift of singleness."
@bcstylz
12 жыл бұрын
You're completely right. With more women than men in the world, men living shorter life spans, men more likely to be incarcerated, and women constituting the majority of most churches, you're just being honest. The reality is many preachers don't want their largely female flocks to be discouraged. NO preacher will ever come out and just say "some of you should accept that you will be single (as in never married) for the rest of your life", unless he wants to decrease his church's flock.
@MegaMusical10
11 жыл бұрын
Whew, thank you!
@laurademan5200
5 жыл бұрын
Single 2 yrs. That's ok with me and God. I'm on my journey learning growing with God. If God brings me a man. I would have to pray about it to make sure it's coming from him
@tropicallymixed.
12 жыл бұрын
Also, the other issue is a lot of women, myself included, let ourselves go physically. We have to be "attractable."
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