This is my situation and I’m glad to know that I’m not alone. I see so many happy pregnant couples and it makes me depressed sometimes that I’m not having that same experience. I feel like I’ve always wanted to be pregnant and now that I am it’s not what I expected or how I pictured it. But feeling my daughter inside me and knowing that she’s okay and healthy really gets me through those dark days! She’s my blessing no matter what the world tries to throw at me. Thanks for posting!! 💕💕 edit:: are you nervous about your baby shower, delivery, and what others will think about you?? Cause I have anxiety about it and being by myself and knowing that other people will be judging me/ wondering where the father is
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Girl! I know the feeling especially seeing the happy pregnant couples it definitely will mess with your mental IF you let it. You’re going to have a lot of ups and downs . But like you said knowing your daughter is okay and healthy she is giving you the motivation to push forward. I know exactly how you’re feeling though trust me. You’re definitely not the only one going through this situation it’s a lot of us. But how far along are you? Congratulations!! 💖 But, to be honest I’ve ALWAYS had an Idgaf personality lol so I don’t really care if people judged me or not because at the end of the day I chose to keep my daughter & I will be the one raising her and people are going to talk about you until the day you die. You can’t let it get it you.
@kekexo724
2 жыл бұрын
@@DejaUnique you’re definitely right about that ! People and situations will only get to you if you let it. I just gotta keep my head up cause like you said at the end of the day I chose to keep her and I don’t regret it at all. But girl these hormones!! It’s definitely ups and downs on this journey. Totally worth it in the end tho. And thank you!!! 🙏🏾🙏🏾 I’m 27 weeks now due in July. So I’m starting to get nervous lol
@simonecain8778
2 жыл бұрын
I literally typed in pregnant and single, I started crying immediately when reading this comment and I'm in a situation myself where I don't know what to do financially, emotionally, physically and even with friends and family who just not supportive , it is hard and I'm "with" him but I'm not cause I know he don't care but his mom is the only support system I have so it's a sort of sticky situation and well he lies and he does have his other available people and he does not treat me as a pregnant queen so I'm just depressed but I'm glad my situation is not worst and well my son is already taken care of because of his mom organizing stuff and I do believe that God has something special planned for me and I am happy to carry my baby regardless of who his father is , I know I'll be a great mom
@kekexo724
2 жыл бұрын
@@simonecain8778 hang in there mama! You got this. Just remember that you’re equipped to handle every situation that comes in your life. It’s a tough battle being a single mom, but honestly motherhood is the most rewarding experience and I wouldn’t trade it for anything in this world. Even though it’s not how i pictured it being or a traditional experience. Seeing my baby smile and happy makes every struggle and every tear worth it. There’s no better feeling than being a mother. Your baby needs you no matter what. Even if the father is not in the picture, you can do it. Every thing will fall in place. Financially, emotionally, physically. Try not to worry too hard (easier said than done), worrying will only make things worse for you and that precious baby! Focus on the good things that you have and all the good you have coming your way. This is just a storm and there’s a beautiful rainbow on the other side 🙏🏾💜
@aunteewonderland7579
Жыл бұрын
I’m 5months pregnant with my 3rd child, second daughter with my 2nd baby father and saying that makes me sick to my stomach. My first 2 pregnancies I was excited and posted about them instantly. Only difference is my son father was there for everything. My second child I posted about because I didn’t think it was my 2nd bd kid (I cheated on the 1st one so it was my fault) but this 3rd one, I haven’t posted on my social media, barely telling people, I just don’t need negativity in my pregnancy and people asking whose the dad. I want my peace protected and when she is born if they have questions I’m still not answering it…they can assume but I don’t want my baby stressed because I was stressed during pregnancy. Lol best of luck on your parenthood journey…you got this 💖
@alexandriaderamus1660
2 жыл бұрын
I needed this , it’s so crazy how men can switch up when you get pregnant.. I just told my bf I couldn’t do this anymore… ever since I’ve been pregnant he’s been acting like he doesn’t care about me or the baby … I told him I’ve been sick all day .. he told me I’m making it up in my head .. and it’s not his problem … this is not how I wanted my life to be .. I wanted to be a wife with a supportive husband … but idk if that will ever happen … I’m so hurt .. but I am almost done to my Lpn to rn program and that is my main focus rn ( and my little one) ❤️trying to stay positive and stress free from here on out .. ❤️thank you so much for your positive words
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
Hey girl Hey, thanks for watching and Congrats on your baby.. i am not sure if you are done with your LPN program yet. but congrats on that as well. it seem like you are on the right track and i hope things have gotten better since this comment. continue to stay positive and push forward. YOU GOT THIS!!
@christengardner1466
Жыл бұрын
I'm going through something similar. I told my boyfriend that I'm pregnant and he said he can't afford a child right now but he will support me in my choice. I already have a toddler though from my previous relationship and my boyfriend has been in my life since my middle school days. So it was a bit shocking for him to say anything especially bc obviously it wasn't just me. And he already knew I have a child.
@rachelmiddleton3314
Жыл бұрын
how are you doing now??
@CaptalK
Жыл бұрын
Soooooooo y'all couldn't get married first 🤷🏾
@alexandriaderamus1660
Жыл бұрын
@@CaptalK oh you’re one of those huh ? 🤣
@AllAmericanBabe
2 жыл бұрын
We’re all blessed to carry children! God makes no mistakes. Love you all❣️ We gon make it!!!!!
@DamnDemi
Ай бұрын
The way they switch up on you when you get pregnant 🤰🏽. It's like night & day
@princessmariiiiii
28 күн бұрын
Omg this is me now , the pain is traumatizing 💔💔
@ati3739
2 жыл бұрын
I am pregnant and don't even have support system . I need help please pray for me
@whatmariathinks
3 ай бұрын
how are you now?
@justbecause6472
Ай бұрын
Hey how are you now? Hope you’re doing okay. If ever you need help, I’m here
@luyandantando951
2 жыл бұрын
This is me right now, I'm 31 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend said to me he does not think this will work,and now his ignoring me 😭this is painful I don't know what to do I'm financially broke I have nothing to support my baby with. I hope God will make a plan, because I don't want to beg him to love and appreciate me if he's no longer in love with me.
@gracemoucketou5085
2 жыл бұрын
God will make a way my dear 🙏🏾 stay strong for your baby
@alexamonet8860
2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@chocolategodness6871
6 ай бұрын
Excalty.. I had to cut off my ex same shit
@artsypants7809
2 жыл бұрын
Man I’m going through this now one minute I’m happy then the next I’m crying and upset.
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
i hope since this comment things have gotten better for you!
@Maimuna_joy
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this really helped me. I’m 4 months pregnant today and all I do is cry. Every time I talk to my unborn sons father he never fails to disappoint. I appreciate the positive energy!
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@sphelelemthethwa641
2 жыл бұрын
I m proof that god will make a way for you and your baby.I m a single mom of twins(boy and girl) they recently turned 1, I left their narcissistic father while i was pregnant and i can say it was the best decision for me and my babies.I'm not saying that its all roses but my god the peace after leaving a toxic relationship is so worth it and when you get stuck you have your family and friends
@Purplehearts0515
Жыл бұрын
This is my 2nd pregnancy as well. My oldest is 6. It’s like once we get pregnant these men switch up when reality hits them. A lot of these men will claim they wanted the baby and still mistreat you. I knew I had to leave when I was crying a lot and losing weight because of the stress. Yes there’s a lot of crying and it’s not easy but I’d rather be a single mother than dealing with the cheating and abuse.
@lashawnslife4135
Жыл бұрын
Same, second pregnancy and my oldest is 6. Found out I was getting cheated on, don’t even know for how long and with how many, doesn’t even matter at this point. Some men ain’t shit. I hope things get better for you 😢
@suziepickes702
7 ай бұрын
Why have kids with a men who is not your husband?
@jennifertrimble7118
2 ай бұрын
I'm here two years later and in the exact same situation. Thank you so much for being transparent and giving me hope for a peaceful situation. I hope you are doing well with your children. ❤
@janerabeldo3440
2 жыл бұрын
It’s fucking crazy that so many women is going through this I’m YOUNG I’m ALONE this is my first baby & don’t have my mother near me or friends it’s hurts so much 😕
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
thanks for watching.. but i will agree it is VERY sickening that a lot of women are being left to raise children alone. i have my days where i am sad but i have to pray and push forward the best way that i can. i am hoping since this comment things have gotten better for you.
@christengardner1466
Жыл бұрын
I now have a toddler and girl I know it's very very hard thats how my pregnancy was and trust me it's much more worth it to not have fake people around you. You will get through it trust me mama. Your going to be absolutely amazing.
@winning3329
Жыл бұрын
Because there's an epidemic of Bad Men lying to women to spread their babies
@angelagabriela9666
Жыл бұрын
I’m currently 6 weeks, feeling so alone. I have a son who is almost 4 and now I have another baby on the way two different dads. I feel so down about myself as a mother and a person right now. I feel like nobody is in my corner. Listening to this gave me some motivation.. let me know I’m not alone in this ❤️
@Purplehearts0515
Жыл бұрын
I’m 18 weeks pregnant and I already have a son as well. I will also have two baby fathers. This baby’s father left me once I became 3 months pregnant he started acting terrible towards me. To be honest I’d rather be alone than be mistreated, lied to and abused. A lot of these men start treating you like crap once you are carrying his child. The best choice is to focus on your children and yourself. In time it will get better for us.
@victoriacanady6207
Жыл бұрын
Omg me too! 1st is almost 3.
@BetelGeuse-kz4mk
7 ай бұрын
@@Purplehearts0515Then after they walk away and abandon the woman while pregnant, Some of them have the audacity to take the woman to court for Visitations especially after you put them on child support.
@Foodl0ver20
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly girl, so happy I’ve came across your video. This is exactly the situation I’m in. I’m 21 weeks pregnant and about to be a single parent with no help from the father. Like you he’s also not going to be at the hospital. I feel sick thinking about what he said like I’m the only woman in his life and that he will never date another woman again (this was after we decided to finally split. I too walked away because you know we don’t need no half as love) and realised he’s out there on tinder and also hanging out with his ex wife (who he’s got a kid with that he absolutely love) so I’m feeling your pain and I’m happy that we both walked away from something so toxic instead of lowering our standards to these half as men. You and i are built for this. It’s a blessing in disguise. We have dirt now but soon this dirt will flourish and grow into something good. An opportunity for growth and a deep self development. Proud of us Queen. 💛
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you came across my video I put my story out to hopefully help another woman going through the same thing as me. 💖 congratulations on your baby & I hope things get better for you in due time. Yes! We definitely don’t need no half ass love. Our babies are blessings and I’m so glad I decided to keep my daughter . We are built for this ! Good luck with everything.
@apriljones5830
Жыл бұрын
Thankyou for sharing. I’m going through a lot right now. I feel like my emotions are up down every other day. I have a 5 year old and when I found out I was pregnant again all I could really do is cry and I felt ashamed because, when I had my first daughter me and the father we’re together but, this baby is by another person and we’re not together. I know babies don’t make men stay but, during my pregnancy he was very supportive and we were still sexually active with each other during and after. He was always at my house cooking, buying flowers, around my 5 year old. You would of thought we were together. Even though he told me at the beginning that he didn’t want a relationship, based off of his actions I started feeling like maybe his thought process had changed but, when I asked him if he would want to make things official, he told me that he was doing all the things that he was doing only to be nice and he didn’t mean to lead me on…. That honestly stung. And now days I guess you can say that he still does what he is supposed to do as a father but, his attitudes and the way he talks to me sometimes is the worse and everytime I say something about it, he makes me feel like I’m being so problematic. Life is just so crazy sometimes and I can’t believe I’m going through this again. Some days I just feel so dumb and like I’ve ruined my life.
@Fragileinketernity22
2 жыл бұрын
I’m 19 weeks pregnant and single as well. I thought we could co-parent at least but clearly that’s not the case. I’m blessed and grateful for my daughter and she’s what keeps me going, specially seeing her during my ultrasound appointments. It’s not going to be easy specially in the beginning but just pray for patience.
@ImranKhan-tj3dr
2 жыл бұрын
I like u I am Alone Single Merry me 👧👧👧😍😍❤❤🌷🌷🌷
@winning3329
Жыл бұрын
Sue him for child support
@BetelGeuse-kz4mk
7 ай бұрын
@@winning3329NO that's NOT a good idea at all, That will open Him to getting access to the child like Overnight Visitations, Even Custody. The mother deserves to HEAL IN PEACE without having the Scum Bag every other weekend.
@missd3605
Жыл бұрын
Currently 9 weeks pregnant and now single. I'm heartbroken, angry, sad, not ok
@alexconfer3879
Жыл бұрын
I'm 6 weeks, I'm so afraid.
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
i felt all of those emotions when i first found out i was pregnant even considered getting an abortion but now having my baby girl here i could not imagine life without here. you will be fine & congrats!
@rochaelcharles1
Жыл бұрын
I’m literally in your situation. We were together for 4 years and earlier this year he decided to start a family. I was unsure at first but he’s a great dad to his son and I always wanted another kid. Four months of trying I got pregnant and was excited to tell him. When I did his reaction wasn’t what I was expecting and he then ask me if I wanted to know the truth about him. This man has been living a double life all this time, tells me he is Married and erase and blocks my number. I haven’t spoken to him since but I cry a lot. Just because it obviously wasn’t what I was expecting. I’m into my second trimester and pray all the time to keep me going because I chose to keep my child as it’s MINE. I don’t think he’ll want to be a part of their life so I’m still setting myself up mentally for that. We will all be blessed regardless.
@MaricaIvica
Жыл бұрын
God bless you! I hope you are doing well
@DestinyAmoura
Жыл бұрын
Definitely felt this on every level. I'm about to be 28 weeks pregnant and me and the father broke up back in January because I moved two hours away because he was so toxic. I was so sad to the point where I was losing instead of gaining weight. We met unexpectedly and it was just so amazing in the beginning.. and we moved really fast but it felt right. We talked about having a child and didn't use protection so I got pregnant ..he instantly treated me badly once I got pregnant. Kept cheating , lying, not caring about my emotions...would call me lazy because I had no energy and always felt nauseous during my first trimester. He cheated our entire relationship. Acted as if me having his daughter would make our relationship so different. Hasn't sent me anything for her, and started ignoring my texts and calls. Now he's blocked on everything because atp he's just a loser and a deadbeat.
@khrysej6893
Жыл бұрын
This is my current situation. 5 months pregnant. The father and I are up and down, have been since i found out in July. Right now we are not speaking. I have to find my own happiness. Had several breakdowns. Support of close friends/colleagues. Didn’t want this for possibly my 3rd child, especially after not being pregnant for 9 months. Found out it’s a girl. Very happy about that. Just praying, meditation, and crafting. As well as gaining my peace. This video really helped. Felt alone in this situation. Thanks for being vulnerable
@Skyla_and_Adina24
8 ай бұрын
Thank you for this! I’m 19 weeks pregnant and the father went completely mia on me. He moved to Mexico where his two older daughters live. I’m not surprised by his actions but I will say that I have been hurt and feeling like I let me and my daughter down because I always wanted a husband first and then the kids. Just last night I saw that my ex (not the father) is in a new relationship and it made me feel a sense of loneliness because I feel like he’s finally doing things the right way and I’m doing things completely backwards. But my baby girl is my true blessing and I know God sent me her at this time for a reason. I won’t lean on my own understanding and trust that God has a plan for me. Thank you!
@MC10046
Жыл бұрын
I’m single now and pregnant 🤰 thank you for your inspiration
@Nitafrfr
2 жыл бұрын
Current sistuation as well, its sad to see so many women go thru this,thanks for the encourging words
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for listening
@oliviakeelen1179
27 күн бұрын
Girl this is exactly how im feeling I relate to all the pros and cons you listed, thanks for sharing beautiful, may God forever bless you and your children ❤
@pretttygirlkaay9669
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy I came across your video ! I’m currently 15 weeks and I’m single and pregnant. Earlier in my pregnancy I was so sad and depressed that my baby father wasn’t gonna be in the picture. He doesn’t comes to none of the doctor visits , It was times I was in the ER not feeling well by myself ! I had to realize I didn’t need him. I walked away from the relationship because I didn’t wanna be stressed out and depressed. It’s not healthy at all 💯now I’m very happy in my pregnancy and god has really been doing amazing things. I have a good support system from family and few friends. I’m glad I walked away when I did or else it was just gonna stress me out. 🥺💙
@ImranKhan-tj3dr
2 жыл бұрын
I like u I m alone 😍😍👧👧🌷🌷🌷🌷
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! for watching my video and i am hoping since this comment things have gotten better for you! Firstly, Congratulations. & your baby is a blessing.. i did not have any help from her father during my pregnancy either so i know that feeling of depression and sadness who would want to do it alone? but use this time to heal and to focus more on you and your baby if he want to be involved he will be and if not forget him because, GOD will make a way for you and your baby. YOU GOT THIS!
@aunteewonderland7579
Жыл бұрын
Hey girl…I can definitely relate to your story. I got 2 kids 2 baby daddies (and one due in February by the second dad) I commend you for keeping it 💯 because I was dumb enough to go back to the bullshit but I bet I don’t triple back again. It’s amazing how a dude will make you feel trapped and give him control when it really should be vice versa. But I’m no longer letting him get the best of me and I pray the same for you. Even if y’all do get the chance to properly co parent, hold strong to it because the moment you think he changed…BOOM, you pregnant again 😩 you gone find a man to have another baby with and do all the things you deserve and desire for your pregnancy and an amazing man that will show your kids how their mom should be treated and loved as well as for them.
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
Awwww thank you sooooo much for this sweet message seriously! I was really hard on myself during my pregnancy. But now being postpartum I’m able to see things VERY clear & he wasn’t somebody I should’ve been dealing with in the first place definitely a lesson learned. I’m glad I didn’t get pregnant by him again and I’m focused on healing right now. He actually walked out of our daughter life 2 months ago! I think I might do a story time on that. But , I hope the best for you as well thanks for watching me share my story. 💕
@UriyahMommy
2 жыл бұрын
I am currently 15 weeks pregnant and went through this same situation with my daughter father. My main concern is me and my daughter right now. Thank You for being transparent and honest.
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
I’ve left the door open for her dad.. but I’m honestly tired of the fake promises from him. I need more consistency. So I’m still a single mom and doing everything on my son unfortunately. But thank you ! For watching my video I appreciate you. ❤️🩹 & congratulations on your new baby!
@UriyahMommy
2 жыл бұрын
@@DejaUnique I totally understand. Thank You luv ☺️. Congratulations to you as well on your beautiful daughter.
@ramonanaidoo3824
Жыл бұрын
Im 29 weeks pregnant n recently broke up with the baby father his busy living his life while I thought I was the only one going thru something like this beating myself up more because of the financial crisis n I almost lost it but thank you for sharing I know now im not alone
@sarahsbt4495
2 жыл бұрын
I am glad I came across this video, knowing that I am not alone going through similar situation and I made it to 3 trimester alone. Been crying lately and videos like this helps a lot with depression ❤️🙏🏾
@amycass68
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm sorry you have to go through this but I'm glad to hear you have plenty of support from friends and family. I'm in my first trimester and my partner of 10 years told me I have to get rid of the baby or he would leave. I've decided to go forward with the pregnancy because this experience has helped me see his true colors. I'm not sure how I will be able to afford to live on my own, but like you, I have good support from friends and family. Best of luck with your pregnancy and I hope the 3 of y'all go on to have a wonderful life together.
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! For watching my video I appreciate it. & yes it’s unfortunate I have to go through this I hate this for my daughter and now that she is here is basically a deadbeat he don’t see her or do anything for her ! It made me sad but I’m just keeping my faith in god that maybe one day a good man will come along and step up and love her. & congratulations on your pregnancy I’m glad you chose life for your baby and I hope everything works itself out for you! He will regret telling you to get rid of that baby!
@DamnDemi
Ай бұрын
She's your little miracle. Edit: I cried so much then i realize that the baby can feel everything i feel, then i apologize to her. Crying put me in hospital.
@jessicamerced9116
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video…I feel like a failure..I have been slipping in and out of depression but I love this baby already. I don’t feel alone anymore..to all the moms out there, we are worthy.. our situations do not define us.
@Shyychai
8 ай бұрын
I really appreciate your story. Going through this process physically alone for the most part has kept my mind open. I knew once I found out I was pregnant, I was going to keep my baby. It wasn’t planned this way, but I always wanted a family, my own family. Because it was not a planned pregnancy , I already knew that I did not want to pursue a relationship with my baby’s, father. The idea of not being stressed out, gives me substantial relief.
@holliemccombs7639
Жыл бұрын
I’m so glad I came across this video, I’m currently 9 weeks pregnant & single. The dad put me in a messy situation chose someone else, told me how he wasn’t going to be in my child’s life, for me to look at him like a sperm donor. He said a lot of mean things that I didn’t deserve nor asked for I look at my baby as a blessing despite the circumstances & just hearing your story made me feel better 🫶🏾💕
@prettynee2634
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing 🥰 I’m 31weeks Pregnant and single and you made me cry because Im going through the same thing but like you said with 🙏🏾 in the support everything will be OK 👌🏾
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on your baby firstly!! & you’re welcome this is what I made my KZitem for to help others that might be experiencing what I’m going through! & yes with prayer everything will definitely work itself out I can’t wait for update you all on what’s been going on in my life.
@ImranKhan-tj3dr
2 жыл бұрын
I love u really I like u I m alone Single 👧😍😍❤🌷🌷🌷
@Galaxy72959
Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate this video a lot. I’m newly pregnant. The father was excited when he first found out. But then a week later decided that he didn’t want to talk anymore. I’m feeling really indecisive right now. But I’ve been leaning more towards keeping it and I’m going to take your advice on praying. I do need to heal and ask him to prepare me. I’m really scared because I’m really single single. No brothers or sisters or real family that I really want around and I have amazing friends but at this point I’m just a little embarrassed because they feel I shouldn’t be going through this. And I just don’t want to be around anybody. So I need to focus on my next step. If anyone has any encouraging words I’d greatly appreciate it. I know ultimately I have to pray and understand I don’t have to worry about a man doing anything wrong to me. I can just focus on me and my baby. And get stronger. 💕
@shamarigipson1158
Жыл бұрын
Currently going through this at 5 1/2 months, it’s depressing and I don’t have many genuine friends around. It’s hard, I feel like I’m losing it everyday the thought of being pregnant and single and constantly being lied to. My child’s dad gave me an sti and I didn’t find out until my first ultrasound, so needless to say the excitement didn’t last long. I’m still working through my depression, I’ve also learned that everyone doesn’t always have your best interest and you can’t let it out to everyone. Not everyone genuinely cares. I just pray that throughout the rest of my pregnancy I find a sense of community and can get through what I’m going through. I loved hearing your story and hope things got bette for you and your babies❤
@chandinit4818
Жыл бұрын
So glad I came across ur video and the comments knowing that im not fighting by myself. I’m 21w pregnant and 21yrs old my relationship with a serious narc couldn’t be worse. I’ve been so stressed n depressed feeling so lost. Hope I can connect with strong great mamas out there to share n talk and not feeling ur alone 💙💙 blessed
@BetelGeuse-kz4mk
7 ай бұрын
@chandinit4818 • What is your Email?.
@kemartini
Жыл бұрын
I like how you brought up not having to fight and argue while pregnant. We get very irritated while pregnant and I never considered that lol. It sucks when men leave you to take on parenthood alone 😢
@WynesiaShaniecerylee
2 жыл бұрын
Seeing this video was right on time for me! Your journey is truly inspiring to me as I just found out I’m expecting and I think I will be a single mother as well. I have a 3 yr old daughter who I have little to no help with so when I got the news I thought this go around would be different but to my surprise it looks like I may be doing it alone. Thank you so much for sharing your reality. This video is truly a testimony to many. Be blessed girl 😊
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, for watching the video and I’m glad my video has been inspiring to you and helped you in someway. Things has not been easy since she been here and definitely was rough during my pregnancy with her dad but I’m getting through it. I’m definitely parenting her alone and it’s not fun but with god! I’m sure we will be fine! & you will be fine too if you ever want to talk you can always message me on social media or email. 💖
@xotilweoverdose69
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being transparent with us women, sharing your experiences, & still willing to talk one on one. I just found out I'm in my first trimester of pregnancy, not exactly sure how many weeks along. But I'm already dealing with the father being in denial about the baby being his, as we are in-exclusive. While other women unfortunately can't say the same; I have my family as my support system & I feel that's all I really need. On a more fun note, I'm sure my response to his denial has him shi*ting bricks. "Then its a good thing a DNA test is included when filing for Child Support, isn't it?" I have yet to hear a response come out of his mouth.
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, for watching my video I appreciate it. & my goal is to continue being transparent with women that come across my videos because , I’ve been through a lot just like anybody else. I know you said you were still in your first trimester I hope your pregnancy is going good and you’re in better spirits. Congratulations on your baby! 💖
@dimelaschey3748
2 жыл бұрын
I’m dealing with the same thing. I’ve been overly depressed. I’m now focusing on my son and myself. This is my first baby. I’m going through it , I knew it was time to go when the nurse at the hospital told me my heart rate was extremely high and put me on bed rest. I feel so alone. 😞 I’m praying for you.
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry you’re going through the same thing nobody deserves to go through pregnancy alone. I am praying for peace and happiness for you! & a safe delivery 💙 & congratulations on your baby boy! Everything will work itself out.
@dimelaschey3748
2 жыл бұрын
@VibeWithDeja thank you beautiful I hope all is well. You got this ❤️
@Digitalmagazinemediaco
Жыл бұрын
Im going through the same thing it’s so scary it’s my first & i didn’t expect my life to be like this.
@dr.positiveashley
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your testimony. I appreciate hearing your vulnerability. god bless you and your babies 🥰
@MsKayty30
2 жыл бұрын
This is helpful, I choose to walk away and he’s choosing not to be around at all.
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching! 💖 & I’m glad you chose to walk away you or your baby don’t need that negativity in your life fr .
@lolapascel7761
Жыл бұрын
Girl you had me at mental breakdown and cut all my hair off, that's about how I'm feeling lately. I relate to you a lot. Thank u for this, I'm so happy that this was the video I clicked on when I googled pregnant and alone
@marilynm7822
Жыл бұрын
I feel the exact same way :(
@Alex-gi3vu
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experience. I had my first at 18 and it didn’t work out with her dad. I’ve been together with my husband for four years and we recently decided to split up then I found out I was pregnant. He still wants nothing to do with me and it breaks my heart. But last year I had a miscarriage. I don’t want to give my baby up for adoption or anything like that this is my baby. So I gotta be strong. Baby > Shitty Husband
@MIKA-dh7ee
2 жыл бұрын
It’s hard very much without support!! And I’m so proud of you KEEP GOING AND PRAY YOU WILL BE OKAY
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thank youuuuu! I’m sure it’s hard without support so I’m thankful for the support system that I do have . 💖
@user-wc2tm9so3v
9 ай бұрын
Came across this video and I can relate to u deeply … one of the realest videos coming from a sincere heart uve strengthen me girl thank u so much
@neknek4121
2 жыл бұрын
22 weeks and single the father keeps pretending like he wants to be a “family” but his actions and his words never match so I just don’t let him in my space at all we need to start a women support group
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Oh I know exactly what you’re saying with the father wanting to pretend like he want his family! That’s their way of manipulating the situation. Because , like you said their actions never match their words. I definitely would want to start a woman support group one day in the future because , I’ve been through a lot of things other woman I’m sure can relate . But, I hope your pregnancy has been going well and you’re in good spirits. Thanks for watching my video . 💖
@neknek4121
2 жыл бұрын
@@DejaUnique please do maybe start a KZitem live looks like a lot of women have these experience
@bravingthehallways8169
2 жыл бұрын
You are so beautiful! You are capable and strong! Congratulations on your blessing! A child is a huge huge deal the ultimate gift no matter the circumstances, keep praying wish you all the best
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thank youuuu 💖
@pamelascottAZrealtor
2 жыл бұрын
You are so beautiful and amazing! You are going to be a fantastic Mother again!!! Glad you have a great support system!!
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you sooooo much. I really needed to hear that. I can’t wait to meet my baby girl. & I’m so thankful to have my support system as well. 💖
@simonecain8778
2 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way hun, the prayers help and well picking yourself back up and making it happen and not stress on the situation and choose happiness and peace, it is hard and timing is best so for me I'm holding on and just trusting in God
@carizmawilliams8548
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. I am 35 weeks pregnant. Similar situation and girl is it ratchet lol. I try to be positive about everything but the truth is it was not my plan to go this route. I agree with everything you said in this video and I’m hoping to make the best out of this situation.
@melanieliparulo5180
7 ай бұрын
Single and pregnant ❤ thankful and sad for all these reasons too. I already have two sons and “co-parent” (super ghettos 😂) But here we are, mama.
@rudyd8626
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video. I’m wiping my tears while watching this video. God wanted me to see this because everything your going through, I’m going through. I’m thankful for you.
@65monalisa
4 ай бұрын
New Subscriber. God bless you on your pregnancy and journey, I'm a grandmother of 5" 58 yrs. Old single raising my granddaughter....I totally understand 🙏🏿 blessings on top of blessings❤
@natashafarquharson958
Жыл бұрын
This was really moving. Thanks for sharing your story. You spoke about spouse and footrubs, pictures together etc... the guy can there but still be absent even though this is when we need support the most. Will definitely take your advice, it will get better in time
@talitathebrand1845
Жыл бұрын
First of all you look amazing mamas, hair bomb.. lashes bomb and thank you for being open sharing your story. You really helped me! Congratulations on your baby 💕
@olahtuira
Жыл бұрын
I'm glad you shared your story and definitely does bring comfort to those who going through the same situation. ❤️ Much love to you girl 🙂 God bless you and your beautiful children❤️😊
@nyanya6360
2 жыл бұрын
I need someone to talk to I just found out I’m 4 weeks pregnant 😢
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
You could always reach out to me via social media or my email it’s located in the description box . 💖
@user-rg3uq5yu3n
2 жыл бұрын
Me too. I’m 5 weeks and don’t what to do.
@Milandreams
Жыл бұрын
Thank you I’m in the same situation rn. Not sure what exactly is going to happen but pretty sad, embarrassed, and nervous about going through my second pregnancy alone hearing you share your story definitely helps.
@vibewithquanna7453
2 жыл бұрын
I needed this video so much praying you have a healthy baby congratulations your beautiful and God got you…I found out I was pregnant a month after calling off my engagement and us going our separate ways. I already have 2 kids 8 & 9 and unfortunately their Father passed away 2months ago we wasn’t together but he was a great father…I feel like a failure now being a single parent stuck to raise now 3 kids alone. My ex fiancé claim he will be there but honestly I doubt it I’m the 6th BM with his 8th child and I see how he is with them smh I ignored all the red flags 🤦🏾♀️
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you came across my video and hopefully the information I gave and sharing my story has helped you in someway . 💖 thank you!! & congratulations to you as well. & I hope things get better for you as the pregnancy goes along! You’re NOT a failure we all make mistakes when it comes to choosing a man. But one thing you have to remember your children will ALWAYS love you. & girl I’m the 4th BM I can’t believe I’m in the situation I am in but I’m trying to stay positive and hope for the best! Her dad has come around and hopefully he does the right thing and be in her life .
@whatdreamsaremadeof3029
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story, its helping me get through these last two weeks of my pregnancy. I was starting to fill bad but you sharing and seeing all the comments have helped thank you ❤
@brookemitchell2074
Жыл бұрын
Girl I’m in this same situation with my THIRD bd lmao. A lot of people will judge, but I have found my own happiness. Honestly, I am having my best pregnancy yet. I have found so much inner happiness and peace. I am the happiest I have been is so long, and it’s been an internal job. Sometimes I get so angry at my most recent ex, but then I remember how much of a headache he was and how much peace I have. Plus, I love my kids so much. I don’t feel lack.
@sdneytaco2226
Жыл бұрын
How did you allow yourself to end up a baby mama 3x?
@cleopatragarcia1324
11 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing Queen! Your transparency is beautiful & appreciated! God bless!
@Unique.Johnson
Жыл бұрын
I needed to hear cus boyyyyyy this is so hard for me ... but I love my kids. And right I had to take accountability but dmnnnn I dnt think I deserved to be treated like this. 😢 but I'm going to love my son like I love my daughter.. neither one of their dad's are apart of our life...
@claireninsiima73
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you girl, this has helped me big...
@Ty-zi7rd
2 жыл бұрын
I needed to hear this. My baby father is an extreme narcissist. I feel alone with lack of support and worried that he’s gonna cause my life a living hell. I don’t want his support just help with the baby. But he also was abusive. I don’t think he’s gonna be around and idk how to feel about it. Thank you for sharing your story and letting women like us know we aren’t alone. Much love and peace ❤️
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
Hi, thank you for watching my video. i am glad that my video allowed you to feel connected and understood. that was my intent when posting the video. this situation should not be the norm but unfortunately it is. all we can do is push forward and try to remain strong and positive for our kids. i have experience dealing with a narcissist BD ! so i know exactly how you feel. i hope since this comment things have gotten better for you.
@Ty-zi7rd
Жыл бұрын
@@DejaUnique thank you for responding and it’s up and down. He’s still around but I try not to let him get to me and if I have a break down I do it behind closed doors so it’s not used against me. Whenever I feel my baby kicks it gives me motivation to be stronger for her. I think as long as I focus on being better for my baby and for myself I’ll feel more peace and in an odd way more secure
@moymaze5075
2 жыл бұрын
In this situation right now and it hurts a lot 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 trying to be strong but it hurts
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
i am just now seeing this.. and i had those same feelings so i know exactly how you are feeling. i hope since this comment you have found some happiness and peace. the pain will always be there but you have to think positive and know these feelings will not last forever.
@genesisc3744
Жыл бұрын
I made a bad choice by being with a man that can’t provide me with anything and now I’m dealing with the consequences. Most likely, I’ll be a single mother but will co parent and it’s been making me go crazy.
@tranquility9325
2 жыл бұрын
I read an article where a husband treated his wife horribly after she got pregnant. She had severe morning sickness and he refused to help her. He said you are not going to be a good mother bec you can't even function while pregnant. If I was married to him I would divorce his behind quick. Ppl do change... You are stronger than you know.
@rachelels
Жыл бұрын
I’m 4 weeks pregnant and i found out 2 weeks ago that I’m pregnant. It was definitely a slip up and now I’m going back and forth as to what I’m gonna do, if I’m going to terminate or keep. I’ve been so emotional bc of this part of me thinks it’s meant to be but this isn’t how i imagined this happening for me. I’ve prayed about it and i still feel lost.
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
I just posted a new video go check it out! Hopefully that video helps with you making your decision. You’re not alone! You got this. 🤍 praying for you.
@Danakashaye
Жыл бұрын
I am in your exact same boat, I am six weeks pregnant and when I told my boyfriend he immediately told me I needed to terminate and since I told him that I didn’t want to since he’s been telling me he wants kids with me since we started dating eight months ago he broke up with me and kicked me out of the house. I was so set on keeping the baby when I found out until I told him and he got in my head and now I’m flip-flopping back-and-forth
@winning3329
Жыл бұрын
@@Danakashaye keep your baby and sue him for child support. He put himself in this situation and now it's time for him to pay up. Also I want you to learn never to give a man who is not your husband wife benefits when he won't even wife you up because if you end up pregnant he is free and single to leave anytime. There was a woman on Tiktok crying because her boyfriend evicted her and her kids and he moved in another woman. If this woman would have been his wife he would have been evicted instead of her and her children, girlfriends have no legal rights. All you can do now is learn from this experience.
@rachelels
Жыл бұрын
@@DejaUnique thanks for the response. I’m now 14 weeks so I’ve decided to keep her. I’m happy excited and nervous because this is my first and i just turned 35 in October. My family and friends are happy too. I jsut get sad because the dad hasn’t really shown interest except a few times. So i think for this year i have to move on from him. It sucks but it is what it is.
@mercykangai8135
Жыл бұрын
This is where I am exactly, now in my second early month and I'm not sure if I can do this but still I don't know if I have the courage to terminate
@naturallyreece_
2 жыл бұрын
15 weeks & single. Not my plan but it's my life
@ImranKhan-tj3dr
2 жыл бұрын
Hi ❤❤🌷🌷
@naturallyreece_
2 жыл бұрын
23 Weeks Now 🥳❤
@ImranKhan-tj3dr
2 жыл бұрын
@@naturallyreece_ how are u live alone sweety ?
@ninjaunicorn4451
Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry 😞 Your amazing and strong and deserve so much better
@octaviawilliams8131
Жыл бұрын
I love this. I appreciate this video so much. Thank you soooo much for sharing your story. I’m still pretty early in my pregnancy but my situation switched up very quickly and I’m still shook from it. Your outlook on your situation is inspiring 🤎
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, for watching the video. Congratulations to you! & trust me I understand what you’re going through and I’m praying that things get better for you overall. You got this! & I have my days believe me it’s not easy but, I’m pushing through. 💛
@blazestar3773
2 жыл бұрын
Girl you so straight like that.... Never care who would judge, at the end of the day they are not God... I'm pregnant now I stay with dad but it's not like we together... We talk about it for him to move out peacefully with no drama i can't wait because I'm mentally going crazy.... That will be my second kids with him and I feel used because all he does is lies and try put me down behind my back... My story is very long but with let me through it... God will do the same by give you the strength dear 💋
@ashley4150
2 жыл бұрын
I’m in this situation now 🥺
@deangel.Nicole
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you soooo much for sharing this video!! I currently have a 16 month old and just found out I’m 7 weeks pregnant. I literally told my boyfriend I didn’t want the relationship before I found out I was pregnant and now I feel stuck. I had been contemplating having an abortion but I have PCOS and for years I was told I couldn’t get pregnant. We’ve been together a little over two years now and this is now my second time getting pregnant. These past few days I’ve been very indecisive and just feeling really down about the situation. You spoke so much truth in this video and it really made me think of things in a different perspective.
@CelesteJem
2 жыл бұрын
What did you decide to do? Did it all work out?
@stephanieaustin3381
Жыл бұрын
I just subscribed because I’m going through the very same things nd you really lifted me up sister thank you for making this video
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
You’re so very welcome . Thanks for subscribing it’s appreciated. 🤍
@jasminejohnson6395
2 жыл бұрын
I’m 12 weeks my bf broke up with me and told me today he don’t want a baby with someone he isn’t with smh he was happy the whole time and now he not because he doesn’t want me I’m hurt and he said this as soon as I told him it was a girl also he has a son and is a father to him but won’t be a dad to our child
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching my video & I am soooo sorry that happened to you! Your baby is a blessing and I can understand you being hurt I’ve been in your shoes so I know how you’re feeling but try to be positive and just block him and move on with your life. The guilt and regret will eventually catch up to him but by then it will be too late. Congratulations on your baby girl I wish nothing but blessings for y’all. You got this! 💪🏾💖
@ImranKhan-tj3dr
2 жыл бұрын
Hi 😍😍❤❤🌷💋🌷🌷🌷
@malcilraeure1364
2 жыл бұрын
Tears In my eyes watching this
@citygirl212
2 жыл бұрын
I just found that I am 3 weeks pregnant, I have a daughter who is 13 broke up with my ex fiancé But pregnant by someone else , a mess But I am going to be strong and let it all happend , and just keep the calm in the chaos ! Thank you for sharing this with us , gives us strength ❤️
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Everything will work itself out. & y’all will be okay. I have 2 BD’s as well now and I was definitely beating myself up about that at first . But, I couldn’t imagine life without my daughter now and glad I decided to keep her even if I have to do this parenting thing alone. & thank you, for watching my video . 💖
@ladyday187
2 жыл бұрын
Exact same boat
@prospervenom3466
8 ай бұрын
I needed this bc I gt my girl❤️ she 13 & I had a tummy tuck & I thought about abortion bt it’s a boy!! In it bought me joy!! I think these dudes want to set us back bt God set us up to win❤️
@teshaegallon4097
2 жыл бұрын
I'm happy I came across u.. 12weeks and single
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Really? … stay strong girl I know it’s NOT easy. But you got this! Just pray a lot. 💖 I’m glad my video could help.
@ImranKhan-tj3dr
2 жыл бұрын
Hi 😍😍❤❤👧👧🌷🌷🌷
@MsCapi
2 жыл бұрын
Your video helped me so much thank you....
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
i am so glad that it helped you. thanks for listening and watching!
@Legacyy06
10 ай бұрын
It’s crazy I’m in this situation rn not sure if my child’s father gonna be there but I’ll get through it and the video definitely put things in perspective I’m definitely going through the depression stage right now but I’ll come out of it. I been in my word and k save a system just some days easier than others
@nykerriaboyd7400
Жыл бұрын
I been looking for this type of advice I’m glad god brought me here it’s been really depressing and I’m 6 months pregnant
@haileykrueger1895
2 жыл бұрын
My man and I decided to try for our relationship one more time before we go separate ways. 4 days later I found out I’m pregnant. That night he goes out with his boys to get drunk after I worked all day after finding out I’m pregnant. I’ve been miserable and scared and mistreated for the longest and now I’m pregnant too
@haileykrueger1895
2 жыл бұрын
I’m still in shock with this news can you tell ☠️
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks, for watching my video & I can understand why you’re in shock and I’m not sure if you’re wanting to keep the baby or not. But, I would just pray about it if I was you & really try to figure out what you want to do. I’m sorry that the relationship was not a good one so this isn’t maybe a joyful time for you.
@Danakashaye
Жыл бұрын
Wowwww literally same thing happened to me and then he kicked me out the next morning when he was all hung over
@butterflylife7841
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the video. I’m single and pregnant. The father ghosted me a month ago. It’s been very hard. :( I’m 15 weeks.
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
You’re welcome. & I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope things get better as well. Congratulations! Pray about your situation and ask god to help you. 🤍 thanks for watching!
@LifeWithTeriYae
Жыл бұрын
I needed this. Thank you for sharing your story ❤
@dymondturner3322
2 жыл бұрын
Needed this
@gracepowell5868
Жыл бұрын
its sad to see so many women going through this but believe me you can do it, just take it day by day. I have a 11 year old who his father cheated and left at 7 months preg, we are now amicable but only because i put my sons relationship with his dad before my own feelings. Im now 33 weeks pregnant with someone new and prior was very happy, and it was planned. He changed soon as i got pregnant, has come to one appointment, caused drama and problems with everythin about the pregnancy.someone who portrayed to be so loving, kind and willing. It was all a lie and now realize it was a load of gas lighting crap. I regret so badly making a baby with him now i know the true him but i know ill be just fine. My son is my rock and we are both excited to meet her. As hard as it is only you know deep down your worth, i know we deserve better so iv walked away with my head fully held high. I hope you ladies can find the strength to do the same, ill give my kids all the love they will ever need.💕🍼
@madisonsordahl2619
Жыл бұрын
This is my exact situation. We lost our twin boys due to a nicu complication. And tried for another baby and then after I got pregnant he left me. Thank you for this video I’m praying and trying everyday
@DejaUnique
Жыл бұрын
i am soooo sorry to hear that. i am glad you found my video and hopefully it was able to help you.
@PrincessZelda609
Жыл бұрын
That's pure evil. Praying for your strength.
@madisonsordahl2619
Жыл бұрын
@@PrincessZelda609 thank you love
@madisonsordahl2619
Жыл бұрын
@@DejaUnique I’m glad too❤️ we need women like you!
@amandalewis1936
Жыл бұрын
My condolences. God bless
@quadashajordan3243
Жыл бұрын
Needed to see this ❤️
@shanialove12
2 жыл бұрын
Needed to watch this..it’s my first pregnancy and the father wants me to get an abortion with no regards to how I feel. I don’t want to do it, I want to move forward with the pregnancy and just do what makes me happy, but it’s just an overall sad situation. I’m literally sad everyday, because it’s like do I do what makes me happy and suffer that consequence with him or do what makes him happy and regret that decision. I feel everything happens for a reason and it’s a blessing in my eyes. Him and I aren’t together, honestly I don’t know what our “relationship” is but yeah I’ve been researching so much about this lol. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
@CelesteJem
2 жыл бұрын
Do what makes YOU happy. It’s your body and he’s not the one getting an abortion and potentially putting his fertility at risk in the long run. Value your womb and make the decision that’s right for you not anyone else.
@Danakashaye
Жыл бұрын
I am in your exact same boat when I told my boyfriend I was pregnant on Monday he kicked me out of the house because I didn’t want to get an abortion, that was never an option in my eyes if I got pregnant with him but apparently he didn’t think the same way and when I told him he had no regard to how I was feeling, I’ve been scared and flip-flopping back-and-forth if I should do what makes me happy or what makes him happy. You and I will get through this and have the most amazing beautiful family in the end
@nadiag.3736
Жыл бұрын
@@Danakashaye it’s going to be okay ❤.
@Danakashaye
Жыл бұрын
@@nadiag.3736 I feel this🙏🏻💖
@natalieelyse7052
Жыл бұрын
Im in this situation now my heart is breaking i always thought this was going to be a special moment for me
@karmahleone1196
Жыл бұрын
Samme I have a 4 year old and pregnant now..I was going to get an abortion but it’s not right😰😰😰😰 I’m going to have to just deal with this on my own I been crying crying and crying it was a planned pregnancy and now all of a sudden because he didn’t get his way I’m supposed to just end my pregnancy it’s not fair😓😓😓😓😓😓😓
@Tiwaplus3
Жыл бұрын
Thank you , thank you, thank you ❤ needed to see this ❤
@Singlemotherafterabuse
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you💗
@kristinmata4106
2 жыл бұрын
I'm 31 weeks and my relationship is on the edge of breaking up because he hasn't been here for 6 weeks now. I live alone and he's got the car that we brought together and doesn't help at all but still wants to be together. I'm pissed 😡 and unsure if I'm gonna be doing this alone 😔
@Crackdopen
2 жыл бұрын
So proud of you! I came across your page from your Arizona move. Are you still in AZ ? I have plans on moving there for great opportunities. I have a story and my life changed. Kudos to you. Are you still in AZ? How do you like it? Keep doing great things
@DejaUnique
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!! & yes I am still in AZ! Congratulations in advance if you do decide to move here. & I still like it here sometimes I be wanting to move for personal reasons and because the cost of living is going up! But other than that it’s cool.
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