Are you an actor ? Or a real narcissist ? This is superb . It’s a wonderful way to gain insight into the mind of the narcissist . You have to know the nature of the beast in order to avoid being prey.
@shelbylou02
5 жыл бұрын
@Diva R Wow! No wonder he knows so much. But if he's a narc why does he want to help empaths?
@theresemeggitt8455
7 жыл бұрын
Yep the emergency Hoover just happened two days ago! I did nothing. No contact over 3 months now.
@deondraeporter8766
5 жыл бұрын
my ex narcs mom called me about a week ago. I didn’t answer. I have no social media outlets for them to spy on me with. I think their confused on what’s up with me in my life. It’s over. I’m gone
@namastechica
7 жыл бұрын
LOL! I Looked in the toilet and I thought of the narcissist! Thanks so much for this list! Love it, I changed all my phone numbers/blocked and his email, his busy w/his new supply and back w/his ex he literally called, "The Old Lady". I'm out of his drama. BTW he would send me BLANK Text all the time but I never responded nor asked him why he send it. I just tried to steer clear from his BullShit.
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
Chiclet Vavoom God bless you for all the love and Purity that you gave you couldn't help this person but you must help yourself it's sad that it has to remind us to turn to God something that we obviously have forgotten God bless you
@sunnyflowerstarot8141
6 жыл бұрын
Miss C I used to get blank texts & I was like what's this lollll
@maryholland5255
6 жыл бұрын
My mom never “butt dialed” me until I went grey rock, then it started happening every few weeks/months. Creepily spot on.
@christophermichael4372
6 жыл бұрын
her family illegally phone phreaks and attack people, listening to any phone number that can get, they're criminal minded... and she went to the dark side, not once in 13 years did she EVER ask me anything about my life... obvious clue right there... so meh, yesterday 09/12/2018... I ignored her aggressive voice raising attacks and reversals... recorded it all too like I did with her permission the past 4 years as I figured out my life... and the types of people involved with it always atttacking me since hs, hey, they're all on drugs... imagine that... this is in billings, MOBtana... i told her I am not going to react to her pokes and prods and bs and SHE SHUT IT OFF AND LEFT... talk about mentally ill... AND I AM TELLING AND SHOWING EVERYBODY.
@angelafalsetta4309
7 жыл бұрын
Now that I believe they are capable of ANY and ALL evil and twisted and sick deed, statement and/or behaviors etc. There will no more narcs in my life....FINALLY!
@infinityseren1
7 жыл бұрын
I'm reluctant to say thank you for these videos because you being a greater narcissist you're not doing this to help us but rather gaining "fuel," as you call it, from the admiration for the insiders help. Either way it's useful.
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
Tonya Deaton oh so one of you has came to gain fuel? you stumbled upon the wrong link had you live in this hell you would not be saying what you were saying goodbye you learned a few new tricks
@renee8813
7 жыл бұрын
Tonya, I know what you mean, but you telling that just gave him DOUBLE the FUEL by showing your reticence...He still did you a service as opposed to a disservice so etiquette wise a thank you is merely a courtesy returned .
@570lesa
7 жыл бұрын
I don't mind giving HG the fuel he craves because the information is so valuable and no one ( except maybe the narcs of the world ) are really getting hurt by his information , and so many are getting help. HG provides a ton of his info free of charge and the books he sells have value and are affordable for almost anyone. So fill er up! ⛽️⛽️⛽️⛽️⛽️
@KnowingtheNarcissist
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you Lesa.
@solice8844
7 жыл бұрын
It is an exchange of information and knowledge in return for fuel so HG is essentially paying for the fuel by providing valuable needed information to empaths. There is nothing wrong with an even exchange. The problem I have with narcs and ex-narcs is when they want to extract the fuel involuntarily at the expense of my piece of mind, my mental and emotional health, and falsely attack my character and goodness.
@rachelrusso1115
7 жыл бұрын
I was married to a narcissist for 4 years. It took me about 2 years to really discover what he was and 2 years of desperately trying to escape. Even to this day he makes attempts to manipulate his way back in. I really appreciate your insights on this, it's a very useful tool to help keep myself free from it. Thank you.
@Joanna7428
6 жыл бұрын
Just take the plug off the hoover 💁
@angelalarieudo5049
5 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this list it's funny how just this past week I experienced the fourth specialty Hoover I remain one step a head of the narcissists thank you
@hrumi8748
5 жыл бұрын
Name in jam on the floor 😂😂
@dw2159
7 жыл бұрын
Joshua Lett...the godly "advice"...it's over the top
@nikenikao6747
6 жыл бұрын
Lol not the jam! I have heard it all but this is soo true. Thank you
@bfree3709
7 жыл бұрын
I've heard you talk about ever presence before. I think my ex-narc used my son (who he abandoned) as an ever presence. He impregnated me PURPOSELY I think it was to draw fuel from his ex but also to create an ever presence. I look at my son every day and am reminded of him.
@KnowingtheNarcissist
7 жыл бұрын
The recording Impregnated will be of interest to you B Free, it is in the pipeline.
@bfree3709
7 жыл бұрын
I shall take a look thank you
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
B Free I am not a male but I understand completely where you're coming from God bless you and your hurting heart stand with me together and let's figure this out for our kids it's no joke you're at this site for a reason that shows that you're a beautiful person he's trying to find answers or they? That's what I told mine God bless you full of love I hope you find answers but the answer is it to yourself not with them don't lose everything like I did
@sarahk8129
7 жыл бұрын
Something tells me that was the narc's intention... give your son his own identity...
@natashasimon6537
6 жыл бұрын
yes they get you pregnant out of control - nothing else. I learnt this lesson 3 kids too late.
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
When people call themselves screwing me bad things always happen to them or their possessions
@outofthegoldfishbowletcete762
7 жыл бұрын
I experienced all this with my exH narc mid range. he and the widow Eichwomann stepmother actually started seeing each other during my divorce...nice.
@albc1960
7 жыл бұрын
Hello, I have watched all of your videos and you describe my relationship of 14 years with who I thought it was the love of my life. It all makes sense, but I still have a question that mingles and I want to understand. He has 2 grandchildren and they adore him and he adores them and is the best grandfather I have ever witness... he is awesome with them, plays with them, spends time and I see none of the traits I have witness been used with all around him, he is the covert kind, though... all our friends look up to him and view him as a wonderful person, I feel like only I, know the truth... but the grandparent roll still has me questing it all. Thank you in advance for your insight. And thank you for this videos, i have learned a lot.
@KnowingtheNarcissist
7 жыл бұрын
The grandchildren are secondary sources. Those secondary sources form part of the facade of making the narcissist look good. They also provide the narcissist with positive fuel. Secondary sources (friends, families, colleagues) are often treated well for a long time as part of this facade and it is the primary source (usually a spouse, partner, girlfriend etc) who suffers the devaluation.
@melaniehowes7367
7 жыл бұрын
Adriana lucia My Grandmother Who Is well liked and was a good grandmother and a popular woman is a Narc. ..I realised when I grew up and healed mentally!!! She to this day can be very kind I but a hoover attack is always on the cards.... as a child I was fooled because I knew no better... I still don't know when her hoovering started but for some reason when I think back to being 7 I get really angry maybe that's the age we get a sense of justice or whatever!
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
Adriana lucia my lady it's okay I gave my love my motorcycle my home my car's my pool my basketball goal my children everything to the same how off I feel when I first came to the realization that the majority of it couldn't be my fault that's when I came to the realization that that is why I was even the looking something like this up your mind and soul or sound God bless you
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
Melanie Howes God bless you it's a sign that we need to reach to God now more than ever it is terrifying you can't trust anyone you can trust the love of God
@outofthegoldfishbowletcete762
7 жыл бұрын
Adriana lucia hi. he does not really adore them if he's a narc he ACTS as if he adores them. it's all an act designed to recruit them into a coterie for his old age and possibly triangulated them with his wife or their parents. narc's don't love anyone not even themselves. They don't care about anyone but themselves.
@sydneyharrell8523
6 жыл бұрын
SO shallow is the narcissist that it seems EASY to just assure I look as unattractive as possible and seem to be sickly or otherwise no fun and too in need of attention focus myself. WhatEVER couldn't hold his interest BEfore.
@nedailic9224
7 жыл бұрын
So sad, with narcistic personality disorder, the being,the heart can love but the 'person' is twisted and cruel, thus unable to support any loving relationship in the long run. Sadly, the 'person' wins over the 'being' so they are tragic basically.
@mioangel1227
5 жыл бұрын
Who say the relationship with a narcissist never end? Ha ha ha ha! Show some respect, honor, integrity, dignity to yourself, get away and don't be afraid victims! Reclame your power as a free human! They are only damage ppl and it isn't your fault! Place the cross and they go away with their demons! This work!
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
I've seen all kind's of things I ain't afraid of death
@aprilmurphy6078
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this inoculation.
@theresemeggitt8455
7 жыл бұрын
Yep got the letterbox Hoover too... insane!
@echo7759
6 жыл бұрын
haha ... your face appeared in froth in the morning latte' ! hahaha
@cozettem8226
6 жыл бұрын
lol my ex told someone he wanted me to finally leave him alone and I saw the screenshot of the conversation so when I text him saying if you wanted me to leave you alone have the balls to tell me not other people and he of course cowardly claimed he never said that. Even though I told him I saw the screenshot of the convo. Such a Beta male lol
@dreamsoap54
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the video. Would narc try to revenge on you if you refuse to see him when he tried hoovering or move on without drama? After all, he is the one who ended relationship first, so it should be fair to respect my hope to not be contacted again, but when I see a news story like ex bf killing ex gf, I get scared a bit. Thanks in advance!
@KnowingtheNarcissist
7 жыл бұрын
It depends on the type of narc and the desperation for fuel. If your no contact is wide-ranging, he is most likely going to seek out a new target and then become occupied with that person and leave them alone unless you cause a Hoover Trigger.
@patriciasulek6816
7 жыл бұрын
Knowing the Narcissist s
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
Nunez Montana Don't Fear the Hoover the Hoover looks for that as a way to manipulate and keep you down stay strong fear nothing your cause is righteous if it is love ask God
@jamesjosephwaskiel1841
6 жыл бұрын
thank you
@SoulDelSol
6 жыл бұрын
Is it possible a very low ranger thinks they actually love you and know not what they do (engage in all these type selfish narc behaviors but lack cunning self awareness of it, as in they dont realize that they lack normal empathy and dont intend to hurt people)
@SoulDelSol
6 жыл бұрын
In other words, can they pretend in many areas to be less intelligent than they are (seems against what a narc would want to do). I wonder if this fuel seeker hasn't yet figured out what she is or why she does what she does
@runlolarun8957
6 жыл бұрын
I think yes but ultimately it is about getting their fuel. I think their lower level makes them needier. They do not get as much fuel when acting arrogant and selfish. They receive more fuel by being nicer or appreciative. But I have seen someone act this way but ultimately it is all to manipulate you into giving up all for them. And they won't even acknowledge what is actually going on once it all changes for the worse. And they will refuse to see what you have lost or given up only so they gain.
@trappaskunk
7 жыл бұрын
It's like 7 of 9 has joined the Starship
@aidaflores613
6 жыл бұрын
No. Not a good interpretation,
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
Unpreventable
@theresasilver2285
7 жыл бұрын
Would they spike your drink in the start to give you such a high that you associate that high with him? Make you addicted to him?
@statelyrose369
6 жыл бұрын
Theresa silver very possible but not for the reason you are thinking. More like to lower your defenses. Playing on the high is just an opportunistic by product kind of a win win.
@nicklamarca9886
7 жыл бұрын
Brilliant.
@kolyah22
5 жыл бұрын
Mine is holding onto stuff I let her borrow. I just know she will use it to try and reengage.
@kimmichaud4064
7 жыл бұрын
so I got a maligned Hoover seven weeks after a discard always thought it would be benign
@terriloran5194
7 жыл бұрын
Hi HG Tudor for your videos. They are really helping me heal. I was hoping you may be able to answer a few questions for me. My ex was married to a woman (gay marriage) and was with me on and off for nearly two years (I am also a woman). She now is with a man and pregnant. She desperately wanted another child (her first was through IVF). I think she is using him to have a baby. She also really struggled with being gay and wants that perfect 2.4 family to show to the world. Is it possible that she is using him for a baby and to present a perfect life even if she knows deep down she is gay? She won't to lose him from her life (been best friends for 15 years) and now he is the father to her baby so will the golden period last longer to try to hook him properly due to the family they will now have? How long in your experience could the golden period last? She has lost all of her close secondary supply - me and her now ex wife. Will that mean that her new husband to be will receive more wrath from her as he will be her only main source of supply? Thank you very much for your time. Any information would be greatly appreciated.
@KnowingtheNarcissist
7 жыл бұрын
If the individual concerned is a narcissist then the behaviour with the man is part of creating a façade for the purposes of drawing additional fuel. The golden period varies dependent on the nature of the narcissist and the fuel provided. Mine typically are 6 to 18 months, a few longer. She has switched off you and the ex wife as appliances because she is concentrating on the golden period with her husband and therefore does not need fuel from you or the ex wife. Once she devalues him (and she will) she will come hoovering you and the ex wife subject to the hoover trigger and the hoover execution criteria being met.
@terriloran5194
7 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for that information. She is most definitely a narcissist. In regards to hoovering I know you mention the six spheres of influence so apologies if you feel this may be a slight repeat but it ended horrendously badly between us with police involved (long story). She was exposed for what she had done and she has no way of contacting me ever again, unless she comes to my house or writes a letter. He pride is so great and now with her new family I can not imagine that she will ever try to re-enter my life again. I think in her mind I am dead to her now. I do not wish for a hoover but I feel like I need to be prepared in case one occurs. I think she has burnt any bridges with her ex wife too now who has been subjected to torture for too long and is now a brokwn wreck. I think she knows her wife wil never go back there. Wil she will she stil devalue her new partner even if she has no back up plans/sources? And would she have the balls to come back to me after everything that has happened. she knows full well I know about her lying etc. Thanks again for your time.
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
Terri Loran I'm going to the same thing mr. Logan I've had anything in the world that I've wanted and being grateful and sharing you can't cope with these demons the best responses to get away and don't run remember the hurt they left you with don't run from yourself brother God bless we got tattooed and that's what it is
@BabyBunch
7 жыл бұрын
Can you tell me this. The one I believe is a narcissist came back into my life, has filed for a divorce from his wife and is going to therapy. He told me he realizes he has a problem and wants to get help. All of his signs point to narcissistic personality and I'm so confused if that's truly what it is. He seems very sincere now but like clockwork in a week I am worried he will do this same routine he's done in the past. Please help
@KnowingtheNarcissist
7 жыл бұрын
Listen to 'But I Can Change' you are dealing with the Mid Range declaration of false intent.
@BabyBunch
7 жыл бұрын
Knowing the Narcissist I've dealt with that personality before.. He's told me he could change and left and went back to her. Does it happen again and again. What if he does get therapy? What if he does go through with the divorce?
@Traceyi1000
7 жыл бұрын
Baby Bunch Know that everything they say and do is only for them. These people are dangerous and will ruin your life. Just move on with your life. Even if he gets divorced he is still a narrsasist. Don't do it. They are liars and ate deeply scary.
@Traceyi1000
7 жыл бұрын
Baby Bunch Run away. Go no contact and learn all you can. Take care of YOU.
@statelyrose369
6 жыл бұрын
Baby Bunch my BDP narc went to therapy...it made him more covert. Seriously leave. They know no other way to be nor do they care to be any other way. Therapy for a narc is akin to learning more about intended targets. They get to reveal manipulation and even intent with someone who will NOT criticize them for it and go even further by informing them how it made the target feel and WHY they reacted as they did. Therapy is another tool for the narc. Trust me. I learned the hard way...
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
I've been barking up the wrong tree I think
@oxycleanlaundrydetergent6316
7 жыл бұрын
H.G, i read somewhere therapists have a hard time with narcissists. due to mirroring. so your kind cant be helped?
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
I wish to hell I was not apart of either lack of unity and compassion for one another
@googleuser1880
7 жыл бұрын
I don't buy this Narcs will never give up The last words from my Ex Narc Girlfriend was I hate u and never contact me ever again She moved an hour away and already had a new victim/supply lined up I blocked her in every possible way Havent heard from her in ten months I am sure she will never hoover or contact ME ever again
@AnitaBarneycastle
6 жыл бұрын
google user hallelujah!
@Francesmurphy-h5c
5 жыл бұрын
is this still holding true 1 year on? be interesting to know.
@bebepinky1
7 жыл бұрын
Boy, HG, you've been busy. I do have a several questions for you. 1/ Why wouldn't he just tell me he was in a relationship...that's easy, simple and neat, not a big deal ? I sent an email to let him know the dog he got me had to be euthanized. I loved that dog very much, he was also fond of the dog. I had not talked to him in 7 months, I wasn't even sure he would get the email. He was in the Philipines(he lives in the UK). He asked me to visit in 2017, said he was going home and he would contact me when he returned. I never heard from him, which wasn't anything new, I expected that response. He never follows thru with promises. I checked his FB page and sure enough he is a relationship with a philipino woman. It wasn't on his page(relationship status), but hers, with 1 photo of them together. 2/ After about a month, I noticed in my emails(I'm rarely on FB, its mainly to contact family)that his gf was posting pic's, so I checked it out. One was a pic of her on the plane and the other was a pic of her on a walk with 2 other women, I assume he was taking the pic's. She said she was returning from Germany. I know it was his place, I've seen pictures. It seems that if he wanted to eviscerate me he would have pictures posted with him and her together. Why would he tell her to post Germany, when I know it was the UK and why won't he have her post pic's with them together when he was home ?? I blocked both him and her after this.
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
Mary Martin Mary this is the sickness you've given your love you've given your heart and soul probably everything you've owned like myself don't question yourself my love you gave and you gave and you gave I'm getting the same wake up call it's painful it hurts and it's cold in the scary but God bless us both for having come to this site says it all God bless you Mary
@DM-om7tj
7 жыл бұрын
Are all Narcs unfaithful?
@joshualett6997
7 жыл бұрын
D M no they're not there are several crazy different levels unfaithfulness can be used as a tool real or not, to keep you on your toes if you're asking this question then why are you in the relationship? I know it seems harsh but it's out of love that I would ever type this I'm going through it too
@statelyrose369
6 жыл бұрын
Define faithful...Emotionally physically financially? They all cheat their target in some way...
@billdavis5936
5 жыл бұрын
D M yes.
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
It's coming
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
People will lose their mind's
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
Help me with what
@BBC4.0
7 жыл бұрын
My mom does the proxy Hoover unless she's going to die she'll never see me again or my kids and no one better think I changed my number
@renee8813
7 жыл бұрын
Shantanell ... Mine used to do all those as well ~Peace to you.
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
More things will occur
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
More unrest around the globe Is coming
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
Witches
@G4MESE7EN
6 жыл бұрын
Sickling. Get help.
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
No one will believe me
@livelife5947
7 жыл бұрын
What do you mean "it never ends"? You saying my ex is gonna find a way to haunt me forever? Or are you just getting narc supply by scaring us? 😶 this is my indifferent face, I don't feed trolls, I'm wise to you psycho's now
@renee8813
7 жыл бұрын
LiveLife ....NO, he MEANS it and I know b/c Ive been going through it for decades.In most cases they NEVER truly let you go...They think theyre entitled to you forever or as long as THEY want you ,to keep you on a shelf (albeit a very HIGH shelf) for backup fuel...
@rahmangod1870
6 жыл бұрын
More death
@natashasimon6537
6 жыл бұрын
wow - you are the sure master of trickery - hmmmmmmmm ( how horrible)
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