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@ramnauthramjattan8744
4 жыл бұрын
Am
@akashsekar4007
4 жыл бұрын
Is that normal to be magnet... because I tend to feel bit overwhelmed of it ....
@akashsekar4007
4 жыл бұрын
I can say yes for 12 of this but can't say yes for Chameleon /Linchpin
@inam4902
4 жыл бұрын
i need your email id to connect with you on linkedin.
@boonesamuel1935
3 жыл бұрын
i dont mean to be so off topic but does any of you know a tool to get back into an Instagram account..? I was stupid lost my login password. I appreciate any assistance you can offer me
@native369
2 жыл бұрын
Effortlessly blew my mind... The world needs more awkward people.
@MANDS81
7 ай бұрын
Agree :)) She had me there too! Being authentic is what I'm embracing more of, guess this could be why one relates with. Where you're at, seeing ones strong suit and not
@BioPhilReturns
4 жыл бұрын
Vanessa talks about showing vulnerability and not trying to be perfect is a great trait of personality and I love how she shows it in that video, Love the book and the video
@goldenlioness868
Жыл бұрын
I’ve tried to be more open but often when I show venerability it gets used against me. There I go back into my shell of not trusting people.
@JesusHernandez-ht1hm
3 жыл бұрын
Yourself is truly a captivating awkward human being Vanessa, I admire and appreciate you!
@abuhuraira3685
4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes the people you think don't want to talk to you are the ones waiting for you to talk to them
@brunobilandzija1823
4 жыл бұрын
i can tell you - focus and practice ;)
@roarrrist
3 жыл бұрын
no way
@sponge7464
3 жыл бұрын
Can confirm
@agentjordan605
2 жыл бұрын
Oh interesting
@sal2417
8 ай бұрын
Sometimes the people you think don't want to fu€k are the main people who actually want to fu€k you
@elainee313
4 жыл бұрын
Is anyone else here feeling like you have none of these skills?
@Bliss_Corner
4 жыл бұрын
Exactly, i feel so bankrupt social skill wise
@Ronaldinho1312
4 жыл бұрын
You can learn it. Vanessa is a great teacher. Charly Houpert and Olivia Fox Cabane are also good teachers. But Vanessa alone is enough to become a "social god" :D
@justoverbroke8063
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah I only related to comedian
@beemo9
4 жыл бұрын
Make up a category - how would you describe yourself?
@jeka13443
4 жыл бұрын
@@justoverbroke8063 this is a solid one! I think I'm only a listener
@marianormann9599
4 жыл бұрын
You’re the only person on the internet I trust about charisma tips. Thank you for the content!
@greggillson388
4 жыл бұрын
Just as i feared. I have no social skills whatsoever.... I don't fear public speaking, but don't seek it out. Some people think I'm funny, but i don't want to entertain. Spontaneous unscripted conversations are dreadful (better since studying Captivate) but i have a phobia of telephone conversations, especially making them. I'm great at writing. Fibres me a chance to organize my thoughts and vocabulary.
@amywilson8824
4 жыл бұрын
My husband and I are both magnets. I did not know this is a social skill! Also I’m conversationalist but I tend to like story tellers because that’s not my best quality. We are also both great nurturers. We are a perfect match. I am also a decoder! Very cool. This is a great video!
@keylanoslokj1806
10 ай бұрын
So you r the hypernormies couple 😂
@TC-rv6sz
Жыл бұрын
Wow, I rarely find videos where more than 50% of it is cool new stuff I've never heard of before. Thank you thank you Vanessa for sharing this! I decided this week that I'm going to stop making excuses for my crippling social anxiety and develop some skills to help me better put myself out there and live life more fully.
@ScienceOfPeople
Жыл бұрын
Oh I love to hear this!! You're so welcome. You got this ❤️
@t0neknee86
4 жыл бұрын
Amazing social skills, thanks Vanessa. Blessings from Puebla, Mexico.
@linneasundell8682
4 жыл бұрын
I recently found you and I admire you so much, I wish to have your confidence and social skills
@lolalo6174
4 жыл бұрын
You can work on it
@orionanderson6719
4 жыл бұрын
I like how you made that comeback at the end with that very excellent pronunciation. Thank you very much for the content and have a great day
@mjdny9871
4 жыл бұрын
I like the Positive high energy, combined with a smile that you always maintain in all your videos and presentations. As well as the great content that you always share with us (audience).
@GirlTawk101
2 жыл бұрын
OMG this, is by far, has been my favorite video on your page. I've been struggling to talk about myself and write a cover letter. With this video I have gain a better way to describe myself. That will actually appeal to employers. 🔥💜 Side note, leaving the blooper of you stumbling over "effortlessly" in the main part of the video. Content/relatable gold. Really great way to connect with your audience
@ScienceOfPeople
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@socialglitch2663
5 ай бұрын
Man, I’m terrible in all areas. But not a surprise! I appreciate the breakdown. It’s good to know there are different skillsets within the larger skillset.
@meechandise6557
3 жыл бұрын
lol I have none I’m the quiet one with stress and anxiety. Thanks to social anxiety
@GeorgeKorobkov
4 жыл бұрын
sooo cool!!! Vanessa, you so positive and sweet! :) I love you and your video. Thank you very much for such an amazing effort!
@greggillson388
4 жыл бұрын
There's no such thing as awkward silence. Silence is golden. On the other hand I've had numerous awkward conversations...
@alan2102X
4 жыл бұрын
"Awkward" = important if unpleasant truth being revealed, somehow.
LOVE her!! 💘 Funny but very educational and super helpful tips. 👍 And she does it......effortlessly! Giggle!😆🤣😉
@satisham5885
4 жыл бұрын
Excellent. Thank you for making this video ❤️.
@bueno595
3 жыл бұрын
im definitely the best at decoding and listening
@aaminahaykal-iyare8181
3 жыл бұрын
the glue one touched my soul
@joseabad2552
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing my favorite tip was the comedian have a great day ❤
@ScienceOfPeople
Жыл бұрын
You're welcome! Thank you for watching. ❤
@cUnHVN777
Жыл бұрын
Really WELL DONE video! You are effortless! I got tripped up by the title & almost passed u by! I don't "should" on me!!! Have a blessed day! Thank Q~
@ScienceOfPeople
Жыл бұрын
Thanks so much!! I'm glad you enjoyed it!
@yashathawale3291
4 жыл бұрын
Advantageous video 👌👌😇 Informative
@jordan.silverman
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a magnet. I can both push people apart and attract people to myself :)
@shahfaraz9770
Жыл бұрын
Well Done Great Thanks for educating us
@ScienceOfPeople
Жыл бұрын
It's my pleasure! Thanks for watching.
@muskduh
3 жыл бұрын
wow thanks great delivery style
@DannyBoy443
3 жыл бұрын
See, idk if nurturers can go through life w/ out having a social "protector" or shield around them.
@dorinaledsinger
2 жыл бұрын
I love all these studies
@StevenLake1312313
4 жыл бұрын
In some ways I feel like a magnet. I swear if I make eye contact with some people, they want to talk. Lost an hour+ of work today just because I saw a person and she just wanted to unload her opinions onto me. This seems to happen a lot!
@zaakiraha6627
3 жыл бұрын
I wish I were like that
@farmgirl7891
4 жыл бұрын
Any advice for social anxiety? Omg I have not gotten a real job because omg my interviews go so bad. It takes me 1 minute to answer the question. I wrote on my resume I have communication skills and the interview told me I have none 😢after that I never applied to another job. I have been stuck working in factories packing fruit
@farmgirl7891
4 жыл бұрын
You Know. They Don't thank u sooo much😭❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️😭
@conversationcorner1837
2 жыл бұрын
Look for a local Toastmaster's club ?
@farmgirl7891
2 жыл бұрын
@@conversationcorner1837 I will thank you so much!🙏💗
@matthewmiller-sq9cw
11 ай бұрын
I'm the last one, it's when I chose to use them...I do have weaker areas, for many reasons.
@LuisLopez-wi7es
3 жыл бұрын
Dear Lady V. please make the audio version of your book Captivate, read by you, I like your voice and your material and drive a lot. Thanks
@godaughter4044
2 жыл бұрын
I thank you.
@dineshsingh1905
3 жыл бұрын
I am a listener and decoder
@thomas-beaver
3 жыл бұрын
I would say I'm Magnet, Decoder, Connector, Dream Builder, and an introverted leader similar to a Sigma type in social hierarchy. Seems if I develop my other skills I'd be more chameleon.
@SoulsOfWisdom
3 жыл бұрын
I'm great at 'attempting' all of these skills!
@conversationcorner1837
2 жыл бұрын
That's a start.
@afoxcatartvideos4877
Жыл бұрын
I hate being s decoder because sometimes i can have negative association of people. For example, i had a friend, i started analyzing her body language and word choices. I recognize she didn't want to be friends with me. She never gave me her phone number, hung out with me, They way she was around me, i knew she didn't want to be there with me. She couldn't find a Best way to tell me. So i ended that friendship after making so many excuses for her mistreated
@isaidiaz5485
4 жыл бұрын
Lovely teaching thanks 😊
@sunnu1
4 жыл бұрын
Decoder and Dreambuilder here!
@kelsibuxton3347
3 жыл бұрын
I’m a decoder. And a nurturer
@co36
2 жыл бұрын
Your success is your resp Puts yourself first Never make excuses Strong you n every area Lead life rationally not emotionally Developer your masculinity Be dependable Push to the highest level Believe your unstoppable Make yourself a man
@Nalalioness2896
3 жыл бұрын
I’m listener
@PeterParker-ff7ub
6 ай бұрын
How do I even do this? There's so much to know and I'm stuck. Im almost 35. Just getting people to stay near me is difficult since everyone is younger and busy.
@ScienceOfPeople
6 ай бұрын
It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed by the vast landscape of social skills, especially when it feels like age or busyness creates a gap. The key is to start small and focus on the foundational elements that foster genuine connections. Remember, social skills are like muscles-the more you use them, the stronger they become. One powerful approach is to become more socially attuned. This means being genuinely interested in understanding the thoughts and feelings of those around you. You can check this out for further reading: www.amazon.com/Captivate-Succeeding-Vanessa-Van-Edwards/dp/0399564489
@lamouralice4533
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏻 it is really useful
@rushans6897
4 жыл бұрын
But most of the decoder fail to understand their crush 🤣🤣
@mochamekia
2 жыл бұрын
Felt really vain until we got to chameleon! 🤣
@SneakySteevy
2 жыл бұрын
Decoder and dreambuilder
@agentjordan605
2 жыл бұрын
I used to talk with people on the phone for hours
@ryfreedman
2 жыл бұрын
You’re the best!
@davidfuller8304
3 жыл бұрын
You are definitely a very cool person. Thanks for your body language.
@besotrendy9831
4 жыл бұрын
Great video as always💛
@Deus888
2 ай бұрын
12:00 I hate networking. It's just fake friendships made to use people as tools.
@Shiney_one
2 жыл бұрын
What's the value of being a magnet? What do you do with that skill? How is it valuable?
@palomadeleont5212
4 жыл бұрын
I have no social skills
@conversationcorner1837
2 жыл бұрын
That sounds like an exaggeration.
@franciscoespinoza7332
3 жыл бұрын
I think 💭 I’m fit in one ☝️ of each of these skills !😉
@activeanna_s
4 жыл бұрын
Vanessa you are amazing
@TemperanceLibraRising
6 ай бұрын
people are interested in the magnet social skill.
@Nalalioness2896
3 жыл бұрын
I’m nurturer
@greg1486
2 жыл бұрын
Effortlessly ;)
@JiyainIzzatKaySath
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, people get attracted to me so much that sometimes I, consciously, have to escape.😃😳
@coolbasedgigachad6820
3 жыл бұрын
yes
@artiolbregu2456
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks, very helpful i hope you doing well.
@duskmoonshadow5037
9 ай бұрын
What is on the shelf behind your head?
@dshae2293
4 жыл бұрын
I'm looking at these comments. Don't be so hard on yourselves you guys. Everyone has skills. Some skills you may not even be aware that you have.
@komfykoala6083
3 жыл бұрын
I'm terrible at all of these, maybe with the exception of (9) nurturer.
@munafkhan2370
4 жыл бұрын
Informative episode
@Eldr1tchGl1tch
3 жыл бұрын
People want to talk to me but I usually don't want to talk to them cause usually they're extroverts with no sense of personal space.
@MrAlespa
3 жыл бұрын
What amazing woman!
@williamnatal96
3 жыл бұрын
1 Listener 3 Lynchpin 6 Influencer
@newmanzeliang9174
4 жыл бұрын
Solid research#boom
@guitar300k
Жыл бұрын
14, it's doom to me now, I though it's just few
@Aname-hk4bu
11 ай бұрын
I kee answering the phone but it keeps hanging up on iPhone. I use android.
@davidho2977
3 жыл бұрын
Very hard for me to believe Vanessa used to be an awkward person.
@brianlane3663
2 жыл бұрын
I am the most neutral one
@Dave-nh2kj
3 жыл бұрын
2:17 😂lol
@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan
4 жыл бұрын
We can absolutely Public speaking together and r u from US ?
@blinddatereject
4 жыл бұрын
1) Glue - keep people together 2) Conversationalist - articulate 3) Comedian 4) Speaker 5) Influencer 6) Listener 7) Magnet 8) Storyteller 9) Nurturer 10) Decoder 11) Leader 12) Connector 13) Dreambuilder 14) Chameleon Not sure the point of this video... just to inform? Can these skills be learned or are they just a part of our nature?
@thairinkhudr4259
4 жыл бұрын
I guess part of the reason for this video is to identify which skill/s you resonate with naturally and to find ways to amplify those skills.
@onatone
4 жыл бұрын
This is more so of an overview of the many "roles" of social interactions. What I assume the video is for is to identify the traits you resonate with the most naturally and identify the traits you are not that very good at. With that information you can work and amplify the traits you already have and the ones you dont atleast you can work on. Knowing what you are and cant do can help you understand yourself much more this is helpful when meeting new people and work situations.
@taras4352
4 жыл бұрын
It was interesting to me and if you want to learn more and develop one of these more, like listening, she has an online school/ program. :)
@worldofmine6175
4 жыл бұрын
She said she has a site so u can go and learn them
@darleenperry1012
4 жыл бұрын
@@worldofmine6175 of course. Follow the 💰
@iBreVen
4 жыл бұрын
can u make a vid about how to improve every one of them
@JohnDoe-qq8et
4 жыл бұрын
I can never picture you as anything close to socially awkward.
@honeybunnybunny1958
4 жыл бұрын
As someone with no friends or family and no college education I have a hard time socializing and being confident your videos have most definitely gotten me jobs
@CraftyBirdGirl
4 жыл бұрын
Hey, nice username xD
@honeybunnybunny1958
4 жыл бұрын
Honeybunni99 haha you too 🤣🐰🐰🐰
@juliec9531
3 жыл бұрын
You are special and amazing :) want to be friends?
@gracebediako1666
Жыл бұрын
Same no college no friends just been working good jobs
@kyriademba6703
4 жыл бұрын
Nurturer has no boundaries, they re kind of caring too much and sometimes get disappointed because they think everyone must be like them
@thatswhatteesaid
4 жыл бұрын
This is me. Work my ass off to keep friendships, remember bdays, text people and plan events... It is not often reciprocated :(
@globalvillage423
4 жыл бұрын
They are also gullible, indecisive and risk averse.
@adeelali8417
4 жыл бұрын
@@thatswhatteesaid Set boundaries. Remember boundaries are loving not to only to keep people out but to let the right people in.
@outps
4 жыл бұрын
Sad I officially have zero social skills!
@outps
3 жыл бұрын
@Uvoicer Text To Speech this is supposed to be a joke, sorry you didn't get it lol
@Rooster1508
4 жыл бұрын
There is another skill. Active Listening. In a small group when a person is presenting I listen carefully and if something is not clear I will interrupt and ask for more details. This let the speaker know you are paying attention and are interested.
@adibhutani9977
4 жыл бұрын
Listener was one of the type of the social skills she mentioned. So maybe you’re not that good a listener apparently :P
@obende
4 жыл бұрын
@@adibhutani9977 I believe active listening is different from just regular listening because it requires you to immediately respond rather than just being quiet -- hence OP mentioning interrupting, but not interrupting disrespectfully. But yeah I can agree active listening is a subset of listening. It's just different enough to be separate though.
@adibhutani9977
4 жыл бұрын
Jay G Sounds quite right. Agreed.
@akni3547
3 жыл бұрын
Decoder?
@Aclien2
4 жыл бұрын
"Effortlessly"... That was SO CUTE.
@TheX16xel
3 жыл бұрын
Hehe... i am not a native English speaker and... in my native language i got.. some t.twisters... examples folow: "W Strzebrzeszynie chrząszcz brzmi w trzcinie.". "Szosą suchą". Translations: 1st: a bug buzzes in the bushes (in a village named Strzebrzeszyn). 2nd: "on a dry road"
@artiolbregu2456
2 жыл бұрын
Yeph for sure
@HowToADU
4 жыл бұрын
You do this so EFFORTLESSLY :)
@irishchocolate3872
4 жыл бұрын
It if funny. I don’t fall under any of these 14 social skills. I have one trait here or there but none of these 14 skills correctly describe me.
@honeybunnybunny1958
4 жыл бұрын
I just want to say I absolutely appreciate your existence. Thank you for sharing and helping awkwards world wide 😇
@fenfrk
3 жыл бұрын
Here's a secret. People who feel they don't have good social skills can be something the world cannot get enough of, a great listener. Quite honestly, people are dying to be heard, and in this fast paced world, there are not enough good listeners. To talk to someone, have them really hear you, is gold. Fake talk is everywhere, good listening is not.
@ingriddryden1607
4 жыл бұрын
The high neurotic in me is starting to sweat... I made it to social skill #8 and still haven't found my top 3 skills😬
@naragrace3870
4 жыл бұрын
I thought I didn’t have any of these social skills but I’m actually a conversationalist! Good to know!
@unbornharbor
4 жыл бұрын
I have no social skills
@doubleojenn
4 жыл бұрын
Hahaha I had the worst time trying to say ‘subsequently’ during a presentation!! It was exactly the same as you here!
@nick55ification
4 жыл бұрын
You're deffff a magnet😊 and thanks for the vid! I'm always interested in breakdowns, categories and lists so thanks! I feel like we'd get a long well. But I'm also not a great listener lol but I practice and can do it
@LauraWald
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! This is incredibly informational. One more thing...can you please shar the make and model of your microphone. Your sound is excellent.
@honeybunnybunny1958
4 жыл бұрын
I am becoming a decoder :O omg am I a wizard girl this video has done opened my eyes I thought I wa skillless talentless 😢 THANK YOU
@zzulm
4 жыл бұрын
I've always been around toxic people and I know I'm glue because I see good in everyone and I end up hating it.
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