It's true. I can't even call and order a pizza because of this. It's been literal years since I've dined out.
@selfmademarketer
3 ай бұрын
I wonder if our nervous systems will ever recover.
@2learn1
3 ай бұрын
Ex server and bartender here. Yeah, I'm a nurse now. You shouldn't do that.
@pleaseentername5848
3 ай бұрын
@@2learn1 hey, I am looking forward to becoming a nurse, could you give me some insight on your experience as a nurse?
@BlankParty
3 ай бұрын
I worked in a nursing home as the morning cook 4:30AM-12PM. I had 3 different bosses who would all gang up on the employees even if the employee only did something they considered personally slightly annoying. Like all 3 would call you into the office for leaving your glasses on your work station or not spreading jelly perfectly to every single edge of the bread for a pbj or having 2 fried eggs where the whites stuck together a bit but were otherwise perfect. They would belittle me and break me down over 8 years until I had no sense of self and wanted to unalive myself. Also we were always severely understaffed so the cook had to make the meals, wash all the dishes including the plates and trays given to the residents, and serve the food in the dining room. Sometimes the evening cook wouldn’t come in so I had to stay to cook lunch and dinner on top of those other tasks for each meal, so the day was 4:30AM- 7:30 PM, sometimes later. Then I had to come back in the next morning at 4:30AM. During that time I developed an autoimmune disease which caused severe muscle degradation and I just kept going. Nobody cared or even noticed. I kept getting sicker. I was so mentally broken that I did it until I became a shell of a person. My husband had to beg me to just quit. I’m still severely traumatized from that job.
@selfmademarketer
3 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear this. I've heard similar stories and have a close family member in a nursing home so I hear about how understaffed they are. It's terrible how few resources they have, and clearly, it has a ripple effect on society.
@pleaseentername5848
3 ай бұрын
Thanks for talking about this. My experience is not so bad to make me avoid those places, but after work when I get home at night I have recurrent nightmares about my current job (or past jobs). Like having to prepare a bunch of coffees during rush hour, or being late to work, or forgetting about a client meeting…
@selfmademarketer
3 ай бұрын
Isn't it strange how the mind hooks onto those things?
@17h127
3 ай бұрын
Nothing at work has been all that traumatizing to me. Things outside of work have affected me way worse than unalive babies, hamburger limbs, and screaming naked people being held down by 8 burly men. To me that's just a Friday night lol.
@selfmademarketer
3 ай бұрын
😳
@gabew8271
3 ай бұрын
Work trauma? Get a grip if your “trauma” is from waiting tables smh if you want to know about trauma talk to law enforcement, military personnel, first responders or healthcare workers they deal with trauma not “omg I forgot the ketchup on table 5”
@17h127
3 ай бұрын
In other cultures, during their coming of age ceremonies, often they would have to witness or endure a traumatic event. This calibrated their ability to tell what was truly trauma vs not. Clearly no ketchup on table 20 is the worst thing she's experienced, so she is unaware how trivial that is to others. Would be nice if we all had the same scale and didn't get overwhelmed inappropriately.
@selfmademarketer
3 ай бұрын
If it causes distress, it's trauma. Yes, there are different degrees of it, but that doesn't make low-grade trauma irrelevant, which is why I think we should talk about work trauma. Maybe if we were all more accepting and willing to talk and less critical, we could help some nightmares go away.
@selfmademarketer
3 ай бұрын
@@17h127 Sure, let’s assume something I talk about in a 30 second video is the worst thing that ever happened to me. 🙄 If we all had the same scale of what constitutes trauma, we would be robots, not humans.
@17h127
3 ай бұрын
@@selfmademarketer we have differing opinions then. To me the homelessness and stuff you experienced is real trauma, and I'm sorry to hear of it. To me, labeling misplaced ketchup as trauma is trivializing and disrespecting real trauma.
@selfmademarketer
3 ай бұрын
@@17h127It’s not about misplaced ketchup. As anyone who’s had a similar experience knows, it’s about years of compounding pressure to have perfect performance or risk losing your livelihood. But yes, we can agree to disagree because we don’t have the exact same life experiences.
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