Stay at home parents have the hardest job. You get no breaks, vacation or sick time, with toddlers, you can’t even go to the bathroom by yourself. Your schedule revolves around them.
@siahenderson1490
2 жыл бұрын
@@eca3211 ma'am please.
@TlhomphoDitedu
2 жыл бұрын
@@siahenderson1490 fr fr Sis. These chicks be damn annoying
@ScreamTatumRiley
2 жыл бұрын
Well that’s what they ask for it they want to get pregnant stop the complaining
@loveisanopendoor3532
2 жыл бұрын
@@ScreamTatumRiley you can be grateful and love your children and still find looking after them difficult. No job is easy but no job is like parenthood. People like you are so abrupt and rude by reducing others feelings down to stupid phrases you all regurgitate of "yOu chOSe tO hAvE kIdS" when nobody is denying that? People choose to have children and are STILL allowed to discuss how hard it is to raise them. Stop being so childish and dumb.
@mlitt1996
2 жыл бұрын
I never understood the men that claim they want children, but then do little to nothing to help raise or care for them outside of bringing home money. Do you actually WANT kids??
@cocafaye
2 жыл бұрын
The way I cried laughing when Garcelle was wanting her ex husband to come in the house and take over with the kids. I can relate 100% that was me today‼️
@lovindatJoan
2 жыл бұрын
Right!!!!! Omgosh so true
@juliannepitzele8641
2 жыл бұрын
All parents must participate!
@genniferhayes-brown6564
2 жыл бұрын
I made an excuse to go to the store last night by myself when my husband came home . My three boys were on a ten . I made his plate , and got in his Lincoln ( because U I p the mini van ) turned on pandora Toni Braxton station and put the sunroof back and went to the dollar general 😂😂😂. My husband does help , but my period was at bay and I had had it !
@andreejumbo4177
2 жыл бұрын
True talk!!!!
@bmarie5509
2 жыл бұрын
Me too ! I have a 2month old and boy when his daddy come home I be at the door ready for hand off 😂 his dad be excited saying he missed him all day
@Candie4JC
2 жыл бұрын
Adrienne is going to be such a great mom - Jesus, hear our prayers for our sister!
@hermindspeaks876
2 жыл бұрын
Please Lord !!!!! Pleaseeee !!!!!
@Prince_the_One
2 жыл бұрын
Didn't Jesus say not to worship him
@everytingniasha
2 жыл бұрын
God will bless Adrienne.
@carlamoreno3213
2 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏼
@gaila.9852
2 жыл бұрын
@@Prince_the_One The Bible says that Jesus speaks to God on our behalf.
@eli_ap
2 жыл бұрын
What people need to understand is that *YES* going to work to provide is *HARD* but you get to go home, the person at home gets NO BREAK, they're working 24/7/365, 366 on leap years. Add *NO HELP* to that equation and you see that the working one has more time for themselves then the one at home.
@ObedienceOrSacrifice
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@jmr2729
2 жыл бұрын
Yup! We don’t clock out
@damadoms4676
2 жыл бұрын
I’m not a mom but a nanny and I get that 100%
@lionessbeauty_8870
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you! We get no breaks, no social interaction except our kids. We cook, clean, errands and take care of the babies and that's when their babies. Stay at home moms have to be strong ass individuals
@destinydivine8465
2 жыл бұрын
Okay but moms who work deal with that plus their job.
@ruthannroberson7048
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a mom and understand how she feels. She also might be suffering from postpartum depression and anxiety. She needs from her husband/family/friends.
@707tich
2 жыл бұрын
Yes Sounds like it
@ladyps1203
2 жыл бұрын
Yep. That is what I immediately thought. She is depressed. Also a baby takes up a lot of time and is very stressful
@Lace900
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Shalayah2010
2 жыл бұрын
why do yal always go to the extreme. not every women experiences that. just because she wants help she could honestly be the selfish one. damn yal love to victimized all women.
@007amy-n1b
2 жыл бұрын
@@Shalayah2010 I think crazy emotions sometimes get confusing to people, I think people just need to get outside more often especially with kids, back then I remember kids were always outside, my mom did chores early and we were showered and then out of the house, long walks, long hours hrs at the park.
@drtash21
2 жыл бұрын
As a UK fan I never thought I'd be hearing Adrienne gush about Rochelle Humes from the Saturdays on The Real 😂😂😂!!!
@bless_lifestyle4041
2 жыл бұрын
Innit 🤣🤣🤣
@Siredgey
2 жыл бұрын
Frankie, mollie, una, Vanessa, Rochelle, what you doing Saturday girl?
@LavendrSkies
2 жыл бұрын
I had to look her up and I see she was in the S Club Juniors, the spinoff of SC7. As a hardcore S Club 7 fan back in my day, I was like wait a minute. Lmao.
@theoneandonly0099
2 жыл бұрын
I've met Rochelle a few times and she's so lovely and extremely down to earth. She even does the school run! Her and Adrienne would definitely get along. So weird to see these worlds colliding. Girl group singers gotta stick together
@jajuansanders3601
2 жыл бұрын
Adrienne has really matured in her conversations a lot. I love seeing her growth on in-depth dialogue vs when the show just started. She’s been dropping some major jewels lately!
@ShaunasLogieBear
2 жыл бұрын
I am literally going through this right now. I’m at home all day long with my 4 month old daughter and my boyfriend works all week. He’s off on weekends, but by then he’s so tired from working that I still don’t even get any help then. And everyone is calling me ungrateful and making it seem as though my feelings aren’t valid just because I don’t actually GO to work. This is a job, too. I just don’t get to clock out..
@queenofsheba5846
2 жыл бұрын
You‘re feelings are definitely valid and you‘re not ungrateful. Like Adrienne said there is a way to go about it. Just find your own way. And it will work out. Think about how you wanna deliver it and then communicate it.
@cherrismythe3000
2 жыл бұрын
you will live get a routine going then you wont be so tired you must be born after 1977
@k.alvarado6237
2 жыл бұрын
Would you switch places with your partner and work full time to support your household ? And let him stay home
@honeydip189
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a stay at home mom to a newly turned 3 year old. I’ve haven’t been without a job since 16 (32 now). My husband and I made the mutual decision to me to stay mom with are daughter until she started school. I’m blown away by some of these comments treating mothers as if caring for children is their sole responsibility. My husband is at work and I’m in charge of the household. When he comes home... we are a team. This a family. You including your spouse don’t get to turn off being parents. I’m baffled at the idea of even asking for “help” to raise OUR child. My situation must be different because my husband loves being a dad. When he comes home he can’t wait to spend time with his girl. We alternate bedtime and baths and the weekends we alternate sleeping in or having personal time. I’m sorry that you have people in your life calling you ungrateful basically wanting your partner to parent too! If you worked a full time job and you child was in daycare I wonder if you would see be solely responsible for your baby in the evening and weekends.
@gaila.9852
2 жыл бұрын
Any updates?
@kaydubya6347
2 жыл бұрын
She didn't say she doesn't do housework... She said she's not "keeping up with it.. " I think that means being burnt-out to the point of not getting everything done the way she wants to.
@yahainHotPink
2 жыл бұрын
Definitely allowed to request help from a working mate. Yesss. Parenting is for both parents, no matter who works.
@deztinycoleman5633
2 жыл бұрын
As a stay at home mom in the same situation… it is very hard. I cook, clean, take care of our 2 children (4years and 3 months) help him with his job (sometimes), his family, my family, and on top of all that I am also looking for a work from home job… IT. IS. HARDDDDDDD!!!! Even asking for help is hard because everyone seems to think as a stay at home mom all I do is twiddle my thumbs🤷🏽♀️
@miekaxiii
2 жыл бұрын
This is so true, I tell my children’s father, “I would go to work over sitting at home with kids anyday” work is way easier 😅😩 i love my babies (I have twins) but stay at home mom life is no joke
@ForeverGodsGirl03
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, being a stay at home parent is hard but this woman doesn't even cook or clean. So she's not doing the things that stay at home moms usually do. Who does the cooking and cleaning since she doesn't do it
@miekaxiii
2 жыл бұрын
@@ForeverGodsGirl03 lol I just got to that part after I wrote that and I was thinking that same thing like what?! Your not even cleaning 😳..
@mmconceicao
2 жыл бұрын
Its not the same situation, she said she does not cook or clean the house, she only takes care of 1 child. She should not be asking for help from her husband whose working a 12h shift. Crazy
@ForeverGodsGirl03
2 жыл бұрын
@@mmconceicao I agree with you! We're thinking the exact same way.
@qtpiejrl3999
2 жыл бұрын
So I’m probably one of the odd ones out. I was at stay at home mom for almost 10 years. When I was staying home my primary responsibilities was the home. That included, cooking, cleaning, education, and caring for the children. While my husband did spend time with the kids, helped with the dishes, and did the outside work, since he worked outside the home I handled things at home. Yes he worked outside the home, but since my job was at home, I didn’t expect him to come home and do my job just like he didn’t ask me to come to his job and do his work. What we did do though is set aside certain things in the home that were his responsibility.
@hayleet9902
2 жыл бұрын
Having a job never excuses a man from being a father. What if mom had a job too? Then who takes care of the kids in the evening? Just mom? Why? If moms job is at home, when does she clock out? Never. Dad clocks out. Gets a full nights rest, gets break from the kids etc. mom doesn’t get that. Job is literally 24/7. Your job never ever ever excuses you from being a parent . Dad leaves the job, comes home and goes into dad mode.
@TheNyakaat
2 жыл бұрын
@@hayleet9902 the problem is you didn’t listen before responding. Nobody said the man won’t come home to help but when he returns, he needs to rest first. Listen to Adriene’s response. A man is also eager to return home to play with his kids.
@bluebellcrushedvelvet
2 жыл бұрын
Bravo JRL!! I applaud you for your strength and determination!! Granded BOTH are tired! But demanding him doing some more work right after a 12 h shift is mad! Both need a break!
@keta5914
2 жыл бұрын
That sounds fair bc home wasn’t all on you since he had some home responsibilities too.
@mayalicious203
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so glad to see this comment . Being a stay at home mom doesn’t mean the child is your only responsibility. You’ve opted out of a traditional job to do home duties full time . Yes it’s hard but so I’d going to job full time and coming home having to still be a parent.
@carrotsandpotatoes5019
2 жыл бұрын
Look at it this way...A stay at home mom lives at her job and is on call 24/7. A person who works outside of the home can leave their work at work and most people get at least two days off. A stay at home Mom doesn't get a day off, is underappreciated, gets criticized and critiqued daily and is often overwhelmed, overtired, and depressed. And also looked down on for sharing her frustration outloud.
@marissa._
2 жыл бұрын
Look at it this way...don't reproduce and those problems won't arise! 🤷🏽♀️🙄🤦🏽♀️ The working partner needs a break too! No one should have to go to work just to come home and work again! People aren't machines!
@Myaccount923
2 жыл бұрын
@@marissa._ so a stay at home mom has to work 24/7 until the kids sleep and if they wake up at night with that logic lol
@marissa._
2 жыл бұрын
@@Myaccount923 You must be slow! What part of, "don't reproduce and those problems won't arise!", didn't click with you?? 🙄🤦🏽♀️
@Myaccount923
2 жыл бұрын
@@marissa._ what part of we need women to give birth to have a population didn’t click with you? Most people should stop having kids then lol
@marissa._
2 жыл бұрын
@@Myaccount923 Wow. The only thing correct that came out of your mouth is the last sentence. Congratulations. 👏🏽 You're absolutely right, MOST people SHOULD STOP having kids! Especially seeing as how kids don't ask, choose or consent to be here in the first place! Most people aren't equipped, much less, fit to be a parent anyways! IDGAF about "population"! The earth is already overpopulated as is with limited resources!
@robinrose1497
2 жыл бұрын
I'm calling it that stay at home mother is suffering from depression and or anxiety. I could totally see if she said between the housework and the baby and the dog I need help but she literally said she does ZERO housework but yet feels so burnt-out. That sounds like post partum or some other form of depression to me. I felt the exact same way I wasn't overwhelmed with housework I was burnt out because I didn't feel connected to my baby for the longest I felt like she hated me she would cry at the top of her lungs when I held her but as soon as I put her in dad's arm quiet as a mouse and that killed me inside. It took a lot of work but I'm so much better now and my babygirl and I couldn't be more connected if we tried. I love that girl beyond words. I pray this mother gets the help she needs not just from her husband but from a professional.
@ruthannroberson7048
2 жыл бұрын
I was surprised that none of the cohosts mentioned postpartum depression either
@robinrose1497
2 жыл бұрын
@@ruthannroberson7048 me too! It's such an important topic and unfortunately the only time it gets talked about is when the mother goes over the edge and hurts herself or the children.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Definitely need to check for depression PPD.
@jemimajanvier4706
2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely agree, not a mom but I have experienced this where I'm so overwhelmed that I couldn't do any housework let alone cook food to eat
@robinrose1497
2 жыл бұрын
@@jemimajanvier4706 I'm so sorry to hear that. I too have felt that way and it's the worst feeling! It feels like your mind has your body in chains. You can't seem to find the strength to move and do what you need to yet your mind is going 100mph. I hope you are doing better!
@aylanow
2 жыл бұрын
Adrienne...girl. the mom is saying she doesn't have a chance to do anything else because she is so busy. Not all babies and kids just lay, sleep, and chill. My daughter was a full time baby. I couldn't she barely slept. I couldn't wash clothes, dishes, vacuum...nothing.
@Mideline_
2 жыл бұрын
Loni's looks this season: Straight 🔥
@jacquelineperry4790
2 жыл бұрын
Some men are just horrible helpers why most marriages don’t work you have to be a partner not an individual when you have kids and I’m glad my mom duties are over.
@MajesticMyronn
2 жыл бұрын
Being a parent is literally a full time job ! Just cuz she’s a stay home parent doesn’t mean she has to parent by herself… it is a two party job ! I said this earlier… just cuz you may be going through things doesn’t mean u get to slack these are human beings that did not ask to be here that are depending on you ! Gotta get in where u fit in and even if you’re exhausted still have to cater to your partners needs and be able to help them when they’re needed !
@thuang2800
2 жыл бұрын
Caring for younger person is mentally draining and exhausting 😪
@marissa._
2 жыл бұрын
@@thuang2800 Then don't have kids! 🤷🏽♀️ Problem solved, easy fix. 🙄🤦🏽♀️ Besides, kids NEVER got to pick & choose who they wanted their parents to be, what country to be born in, poverty, riches, etc. Plus, kids NEVER asked, chose nor gave consent to be born and brought into this world in first place! 🤷🏽♀️
@dawncullen0214
2 жыл бұрын
@@marissa._ tell that to these men ALSO laying down & having babies. Why do yall only have this energy for women??
@Myaccount923
2 жыл бұрын
@@dawncullen0214 it’s for both men and women
@bluebellcrushedvelvet
2 жыл бұрын
Hmm!! I also don't think it's fair of her to demand her her husband who just did a 12 HOUR SHIFT to just go and do some more work!! He's going to be exhausted too no? I honestly feel so sorry for the cards also because they also don't get any break themselves! Coming home from work and straight into child care. What if they need some time off to themselves?? I totally get why she needs a break but the fact she goes "I don't do any of the house chores and dishes" tf?? What you been doing all day?? How is it not possible for her to allocate some time for herself and some time for the cleaning?? And unless it's a new born or a baby, then I understand, but I feel like in today's society, somehow they parents feel the need or the expectation that they must entertain the kids at all times! No! You need to teach them to entertain and take care of themselves on certain parts of the day! Mommy needs her a love time too! So half an hour here, another half an hour there, where the kids have to entertain themselves!! And mommy is not bothered! I think it's important to instil boundaries from an early age!!
@sabym2916
2 жыл бұрын
Only because you are a stay at home mum doesn't mean you are not "allowed " help. It's all about conversation and not blaming each other. We all need a break sometime!
@anikawilson1937
2 жыл бұрын
I think what she meant was that she’s exhausted Just by watching the kids. Some mothers dedicate their whole lives to making sure that theirs kids have the best opportunities so they can have a good life. So it shouldn’t be a huge ask for the husband to be a little bit more involved in the kids’ life.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
It's not a huge ask, but sis doesn't cook or clean. Unless her one kid is jumping off the walls, I don't see how she expects her husband to care for the home when he works 12hour shifts.
@TiffanyRayneOfficial
2 жыл бұрын
@@agathachris9722 Having one child is a hard enough job, having several is even more strain. Anyway, I think the point here was, work shifts or not, you still need to be a present and available father. Work doesn't negate your parental responsibilities. She's already a single mom if that's the case.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
@@TiffanyRayneOfficial He can take less shifts and she can take her ass to work. His work day ends at 9 o'clock at night. They definitely need to have a conversation. But if all she's doing is looking after one infant which they sleep most of the time and she doesn't cook or clean, she's not overwhelmed, she's depressed.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
@@TiffanyRayneOfficial Parental responsibilities include providing for children btw. Dad isn't off having fun. He's working and earning money that will have to be spent throughout the year on his family.
@mgmtgirlyeah7493
2 жыл бұрын
I think this mom is bored. The debate of "working is harder" vs "watching the kids all day is harder" is silly. Both are demanding and get exhausting when there's no break. This mom should try to get a part-time job or volunteer 1-2 days/week to get out the house and interact with other adults. And her husband should help out around the house/watch the kids (if he isn't already).
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Both sacrifice endlessly for the family. This belief that men who work are having fun is misleading.
@NicoliePollieOllie
2 жыл бұрын
💯 you got it. She needs more to do outside of home stuff. I've been at home for 4 months with a new baby on top of taking care of the kid we already have and it's not only exhausting because of the work load but because I had nothing else to do! My friends are all at work during the day. I had to get a wfh job just to talk to the outside world lol
@Shalayah2010
2 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY. it's not just all about the mom. they BOTH need help.
@jalondradavis2473
2 жыл бұрын
I have always had the more flexible job so even though I’ve never stopped working since I had my son I’ve always been the primary caregiver. I used to daydream about just stop trying to juggle it all and be a full time stay at home mom. Then I got a taste of it being at home full time and homeschooling during the pandemic and nah, that is not my calling. Children are a lot of energy. The only way I can do any cooking and cleaning at all is if I stick him in front of the TV or let him just ruin the place with the toy mess if I leave him to play on his own. And it only takes a second for a toddler or young child to swallow something crazy or bust their head open while you try to multitask. This is work that you are not automatically great at because you gave birth. I love my work I actually trained and got my degrees to do. I am a better mom with a few hours away from my kid each day. Respect stay at home parenting as a job. On a regular job you shouldnt someone to work ten hours straight with no breaks and do something as time and skill and labor intensive as entertaining and educating and caring for the physical needs of children while also cleaning and cooking. I don’t think the mom was saying she was refusing to do those other things but that she was so burnt out and overwhelmed she couldn’t get to it all.
@Aminus211
2 жыл бұрын
She may has postpartum. Some days all you can do is take care of the baby and the dog. This doesn’t show laziness - I think this was a cry for help.
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
👏👏👏💯💯💯
@missnlahi
2 жыл бұрын
Yup I agree
@1991Meka
2 жыл бұрын
When I had my 1st son me and his father lived together. And I did EVERYTHING except take care of myself. The baby took up 22hrs of the day. And the other 1.5hr I would spot clean and run errands while he napped. And then for 30mins I would cry. Didn't have time to bath or eat. I got depressed and lost weight. Kicked his dad out since he never did his part with the baby. He worked 5am-2pm. Got off work and still didn't help. And didn't help through the night because he had to "get up for work at 4"
@chanelbag2500
2 жыл бұрын
It is so hard being a stay at home mom you never get a break. I am currently a stay at home my and it’s hard. You get no breaks.
@honeydip189
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a stay at home mom to a newly turned 3 year old. I’ve haven’t been without a job since 16 (32 now) so the transition of not getting a check with my name on it was hard. My husband and I made the mutual decision for me to stay mom with are daughter until she started school. I’m blown away by some of these comments treating mothers as if caring for children is their sole responsibility. My husband is at work and I’m in charge of the household. When he comes home... we are a team. This a family. You including your spouse... don’t get to turn off being parents. I’m baffled at the idea of even asking for “help” to raise OUR child. My situation must be different because my husband loves being a dad. When he comes home he can’t wait to spend time with his girl. We alternate bedtime and baths and the weekends we alternate sleeping in or having personal time. Communication. Compromise. Compassion.
@signalfire15
2 жыл бұрын
I’m an accountant. I work 12+ hour work days. The grass is not always greener on the other side. The work is mentally exhausting. There are days when I get so frustrated with the difficulty of the work that I feel like crying but you just push through and get it done. When I come home, all I have time to do is take a shower and go to bed and then prepare to do it all over again. But I have to do it because I have bills to pay. The one day off I get a week, I go over to see my brother and spend time with my baby nephew, who is the light of my life. My dream is to marry a man who has an income to be able to allow me to stay home with our kids. Or at least allow me to work part time. I think I would find raising my children to be more fulfilling. Yes, being with kids 24/7 is extremely difficult but so is bringing home big money. It all comes at a cost and it’s a huge sacrifice on both ends.
@trulyjeannette
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly! They're talking as if working 12 hour days is a drop in the bucket - overlooking that the income from those 12 hour days puts a roof over their head, food in their mouths, clothes on their backs, and allows for a lifestyle to care for their child. There is a major responsibility on both but many are overlooking the Husband's contribution as well.
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
@@trulyjeannette 👏👏💯💯
@YouTubeReady
2 жыл бұрын
Im kinda iffy with this situation. This is giving me, “I signed up for this type of lifestyle, but now I don’t like it”. The lady mentions that she doesn’t cook or clean, which means she has help. Thus, she can spend time with her kid and the dog, which also means she doesn’t work. She stays home and only attends to a dog and a child. There are women in this world who work 8-16 hour shifts with only 1-4 hours sleep per night and still manage to clean their entire house from top to bottom while ensuring that her children and her husband are cared for properly with meals and other maternal and wifely duties, yet this lady only has to look after two entities compared to working women who also have to do the duties of stay-at-home moms IN ADDITION TO a full-time job. This is why I have such a problem with ppl saying that stay-at home is just like a job. Majority of working women who work go to work PLUS do the duties of the full-time housewife, and they don’t get breaks either. I hate how so many of these comments fail to realize that…as if the working woman comes home and her entire home with the husband and kids are magically taken care of. Majority of working women have to do what a full-time house wife does, expect they don’t get an entire 8-12 hour day to do it, but they still manage to get it done while also working a job. Many wake-up early in the morning to start their duties. Go to work and come home to duties as well. Not to mention, they also have a standard 2 days off where they are full-time housewives as well. Personally, I saw my mom work her 12 hour shifts as a vocational nurse and still come home to cook, clean and make sure I was content with school and life. She would wake up early in the morning to cook breakfast and start cleaning and other duties. She’s go to work for 12-hours and then come home finish cleaning and preparing dinner. She was a hardworking woman; so when I hear women like this lady complaining, it puts a sour taste in my mouth because she doesn’t cook. She’s doesn’t clean and she don’t work, yet she’s complaining. Did she even ask her husband to help her? She never once mentioned if she even asked him or tried to ask him.
@ashleyaustin672
2 жыл бұрын
Period. If she not cooking and cleaning what is she doing?? Being a mom is also a full time job, but you have to find some balance. When the baby is sleeping, that's the time you clean or sleep. Im sorry, but if a man is working long hours and he's paying ALL the bills then as a wife you need to do your part which is at the very least making sure he comes home to a hot meal and clean home. These new generation of "feminist" in my opinion are lazy and have the game fucked up. Can't have ya cake and eat it too 🤷🏾♀️
@uhohstinky5850
2 жыл бұрын
shes actually lazy lol
@kimberlyauntbim4793
2 жыл бұрын
You are right if she wants the other person to help get off her ass and clean cook do something why would any one want to help if she does not do anything
@Suge888
2 жыл бұрын
Tbh some people ain’t meant to be housewives. Some women need more things to do than take care of kids all day. Doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids but hey we still human we have more purpose on this earth than being a mom.
@missnlahi
2 жыл бұрын
I think the crazy work 12 hours and then work another 5 at home is unsustainable. It ages women unnecessarily. Black women particularly have seen a rise in heart disease in this generation. We need to advocate/ take better care of ourselves.
@malishaguerrier
2 жыл бұрын
What does she need a break from if she’s not cooking or cleaning. After a while the baby and the dog will chill out from their energy, so when that happens you chill out with them.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Babies and dogs move in shifts. Both sleep for a long time.
@malishaguerrier
2 жыл бұрын
@@agathachris9722 right like what help do you possibly need. They only need your attention when they are hungry or need to use the bathroom. After that they will chill out until it’s time for another round.
@destinysamiadestinyglobal7634
2 жыл бұрын
Some kids are very clingy and will not allow a parent to do stuff. They will not sleep well during the day either. I have 4 kids and one just wouldn't allow me to do anything. Later on, I realized that she had underlying health issues and allergies. We cannot say she doesn't need a break from anything when we do not know the entire story.
@malishaguerrier
2 жыл бұрын
@@destinysamiadestinyglobal7634 if she has health issues that changes the perspective. Also when she said she doesn’t cook or clean is that by choice or the baby and dog taking to much outta her preventing her to do it. Yeah some children are just on a 10 until it’s bedtime but if hers isn’t what do you need help with. Having all the facts would help determine what to say. Like do you really need help or are you just talking to talk.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
@@destinysamiadestinyglobal7634 Then it's time to get yourself an African wrap, stick the child to your chest and get moving. Don't expect a man that goes to work at 6 amd comea home at 9 to do much.
@binibini7975
2 жыл бұрын
Stay at home parents deserve ALL the accolades and acknowledgment!! Shouts out to y’all!!💪🏽❤️ I assist my daughter 4 days a wk with my 19 month old and 2 month old granddaughters..man!!🏃🏽♀️🏃🏽♀️ It’s not for the weak!
@michellesapisces8349
2 жыл бұрын
wish my mama would’ve helped out with my kids! your daughter is very lucky to have you 😊
@missnlahi
2 жыл бұрын
Such awesome ages!
@jemugenandi1101
2 жыл бұрын
I totally understand where she’s is coming from..for the first time in 2 years I got help 3 days now and I kid you not I feel so energized and it feels different..in a perfect way
@distorbia20
2 жыл бұрын
When I was stay at home mum I did the cooking, cleaning for the day and looked after the kids. When my husband came home we would give him an hour or so to relax shower and eat food. He though was the type to come in and be like babe go take a break I will look after the kids put them to bed etc. No but I loved giving him an hour to himself. Then he would say babe go have a bath do something for you then he would do bedtime, reading books and generally catch up with the kids. When I started work there was a period he was stay at home dad he did the same as I did. Cook, clean, take kids out and make sure everything was in order so when I came I didn’t have to deal with cooking and cleaning. He also did the homework with the kids etc. I think is important to sit down as a family respect each other’s roles and help one another. If you are at home though might as well make use of the time cook clean and do things productive. The kid will nap and when they do get some stuff done.
@kenevafoster4948
2 жыл бұрын
This is what I’m saying. Fair is fair, this shouldn’t be made into a gender thing. If no cooking and cleaning is done while staying at home that means the work outside person now has to make their own dinner before even attempting to help with others things. But by being productive while at home you’re actually helping the others person to help you.
@cookiesncream789
2 жыл бұрын
I love the stay at home mom conversation. Just because they're not out working a job, doesn't mean they're not working! And the second half of the video: I have friends who I've only known through social media. Friends who I "met" in chatrooms or Facebook groups. We've become friends through messaging, video chats, etc. But have never met IRL. I definitely want to meet them one day.
@jalondradavis2473
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah they all went to more like celebrity crushes I feel like the topic was actually about people you’ve connected with through social media and groups online that you really have affection for and interact regularly but have never met in real life. I have several people like that especially since these last two years of quarantine. Some of my IRL friends have become online friends cause of Covid.
@cookiesncream789
2 жыл бұрын
@@jalondradavis2473 That is awesome. Social media was a great way to stay connected during these trying times. Yes... I don't think they understood the meaning of the topic lol. 🤔
@michaylamaseko7995
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a stay at home mom of a 4 month old boy. My husband told me that I don’t require a break I don’t do much anyway. I’m doing what I’m suppose to do which is looking after our child and doing house chores. I can’t expect him to come home from work and still do “wifely things”
@fatengh5946
2 жыл бұрын
Girl... you both are the parents of the baby, it’s not just you. I can’t believe your husband said that, so what if he has a 9-5 job? He is still a father and you live together, he needs to his part as well. I know for a fact that being a stayed home mom and a housewife is not easy, you can’t clock in and out, it’s 24/7. So you should definitely expect him to do house work too, it’s not called ‘wifely things’, It’s ‘partnership things’.
@theseeker4700
2 жыл бұрын
You need to leave that child with that man and let him step into your shoes.
@alyssalopez008
2 жыл бұрын
Growing up, my dad worked morning shifts and my mom worked night shifts. So my mom did mom duties during the day and my dad did dad duties at night. That’s why i now prefer working night shifts. Because when the day comes that i have a child, I’ll be used to nights already. Also I’m just a night owl in general and stay up late lol. But I love how i got to spend time with both of them!
@lookhowshegobbledthat
2 жыл бұрын
One child and she doesn't cook or clean? And her husband out there slaving away for 12 hours? It's giving sus 👀
@Shalayah2010
2 жыл бұрын
exactly.
@WhitneyUwandu
2 жыл бұрын
the end of this segment was soooo freakin wholesome oh my goodness 🥺💖
@saramatthews7159
2 жыл бұрын
Bottom line is women have to do all of the heavy lifting when it comes to child rearing and the housework. Makes me happy to be childfree
@dawncullen0214
2 жыл бұрын
Yes Adrienne I love Rochelle!! Been following her for years💕💕
@LaDimplez91
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so thankful my husband believes in equality despite being raised by very sexist family members and being surrounded by toxic masculinity. Of course he had certain beliefs as a result, but he has grown so much over the years and has become more open minded. My life is similar to that woman.. my husband also works 12 hours a day and I am a SAHM. Except I have 3 kids (7,4 & 2) and a cat lol I believe that since we BOTH decided to have kids and we both live here, it's OUR job to raise them and do house work. Of course one of us gotta make money so that means that the other, me, has to put in the most work at home, but that doesn't mean that my husband thinks it's MY job or obligation. It's just what we gotta do and no it's not always perfect but there's an understanding between us and lots of communication, that's what matters imo.
@ChellesShell
2 жыл бұрын
My friend in my head is Adrienne's sister Claudette. She is so amazing and I love how down to earth and relatable she is😍😍
@raquelbarnes7192
2 жыл бұрын
Life doesn't stop just because you have a job. They both chose to have children together and caring for them should be a group effort. Being a stay home mom is mentally emotionally taxing I'm sure. It would be nice to have her husband come home and give her an hr or so to unwind and have time to herself. It's sad she even feels guilty about asking him.
@distorbia20
2 жыл бұрын
I follow Rochelle Humes and I always see Adrienne supporting. That is so cute. Adrienne you are adorable and I feel like Rochelle and you are so similar
@lionessbeauty_8870
2 жыл бұрын
I am so grateful these women see and say how HARD it is to be a stay at home mom. I am HER. I say it all the time I do not get a break to even use the bathroom alone! I am the exact same when the hour comes my husband will be coming home I'm like Okay daddys coming home! Waiting and so excited lol. I just want my shower ALONE. Appreciate yall ladies!!!
@ScreamTatumRiley
2 жыл бұрын
Ppl want kids and think it’s all cute but then when the kids come they want a break well u ask for them don’t complain about how hard it is I’m sick of it and then want to be mad at ppl that say they don’t want kids and call them selfish
@marissa._
2 жыл бұрын
ALL OF THIS! Or they'll claim folks are "jealous" of them because they're married w/ kids while accusing the other person of "jealousy" because that same person is single and childfree! 😒🤦🏽♀️ Like dude, don't nobody want your life! Everybody doesn't wanna reproduce! NOT reproducing DOESN'T make someone "selfish"! If anything, it actually makes them selfless. 🤷🏽♀️ Reproducing has always been (*and always will be*) an amenity, NEVER a necessity!
@Hezekiahsmom
2 жыл бұрын
Parents are entitled to a break sometime. Every job you get breaks and SAHM is the equivalent of two full time jobs. They aren't complaining about being a parent they are saying they need some help from their partners
@jannalewis858
7 ай бұрын
Exactly
@nila309
2 жыл бұрын
Loni’s hair, makeup and outfit are all working!
@CM-jn3wp
2 жыл бұрын
Okay, Adrienne is my friend in my head. ❤. You will get pregnant soon in Jesus name. 🙏🏿💯
@yvie9627
2 жыл бұрын
I screamed so load when she said Rochelle Humes 😄🔥🔥🔥 London Queen. We love her here to Ade !
@bmarie5509
2 жыл бұрын
Being a stay at home mom is hard. Yes going to work is hard enough especially customer service jobs, but staying at home is a 365 day job with no vacation, no weekends off , breaks or even pay. You just working with the baby, cleaning , trying to be a mom, daughter , sister, wife all in one ( at least for me ) and barely have time for yourself. For me sleeping for an hour isn’t good enough anymore. It’s a lot of work and honestly I miss work
@Siredgey
2 жыл бұрын
ROCHELLE FROM THE SATURDAYS
@jooyekoya4700
2 жыл бұрын
I am surprised Ade knows her 😮, from the UK, Rochelle is also a tv presenter 😁
@sodvine3486
2 жыл бұрын
Awww Adrienne ain't about those Hollywood ppl. She dope.
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
Agreed 💯💯👏👏
@lifeisbeautiful9455
2 жыл бұрын
This is the part that the Disney movies don’t tell you. So many women can’t wait to have a child then when they do reality sets in. It’s not that dream when you were a little girl.
@BritneyWaldron
2 жыл бұрын
Love Richelle too ❤️ (UK celebrity)
@ClaireHaire
2 жыл бұрын
*I babysat my niece when she was 6months & she’s the reason why I’m not in a rush to have kids. She didn’t do anything wrong but, I didn’t bathe for a day & they are demanding n cry for 80% of the time, help is not only needed but, required. My accounting job is easier.*
@signalfire15
2 жыл бұрын
Interesting. I do accounting also and I babysit my nephew and I think babysitting my nephew is much better. But my nephew doesn’t cry a lot though. He’s a very easy baby. Maybe that’s the difference. I hope I have a child that is similar.
@indigobeauty1
2 жыл бұрын
Babysitting is a different type of tired! Both parents need to work part-time and alternate.
@RealTakerslady
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t know about this, he doesn’t get a break from work and she has no house work, what break does she need? She should be able to manage the kids and dog.
@RP.123
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. This man works 12 hours a day. I’m so confused with everyone ignoring this.
@lizab8400
2 жыл бұрын
I am a stay at home mom of 3. Prior I worked full-time. I am more busy now that I am home 🤔 but I don't have as much Mom guilt over knowing there was no way I could get it all done. And, yes, stay at home moms need at least an hour of me time for sure. It is the best job but very very demanding ❤️
@boricuaalways8698
2 жыл бұрын
I am a stay at home mom, I have 2 kids, 7 and 5, I cook, I clean I'm a doctor, I'm a therapist I am mechanic, I am a construction worker, everything around the house you name it, I have also suffered through severe postpartum depression, it is not easy and if you can ask your man for some help, then do it, ask anybody for help, it is not an easy job, postpartum depression is a real thing, and it is not talked about as much as it should be! that is all
@Jeannette03
2 жыл бұрын
I think it was taken out of proportion.... she's might be depressed and not have time for herself. With babies the day Flys by...and alot doesn't get done..... I love Adrienne but she doesn't understand how EXHAUSTING it is to be a SHM.... it takes alot to even say ANYTHING because you feel guilty
@sattasana7753
2 жыл бұрын
You guys( including Tam and Jeannie) my big sisters in my head..we go through our ups and downs and I get offended if people come y'all on different platforms, I'm like get to know someone before you speak ill of them..I mean only families relate that way..so love from Liberia 🇱🇷 ladies
@s.club.juniors
2 жыл бұрын
Adrienne mentioning Rochelle I almost died! Hey from the UK, the channel we’re commenting from Rochelle was actually a part of the band when she was younger
@rudiannwildgoose-laing4629
2 жыл бұрын
Being a parent is a full time job and I only have 1 child. It gets even harder when they start going to school because then you have to be a Teacher's aide; making sure you are re-enforcing what is taught in the classroom, helping with homework, projects, preparing for test, etc. Some parents do that and work outside the home as well because I did before I lost my job and still dont know how I even did that. Thank God my husband helped when he could. Praying for those who have more than 1 child.
@kaybee9071
2 жыл бұрын
She sounds overwhelmed, and that’s normal. The usual housework may not be getting done but once getting some help, things will fall into place.
@iremaral517
2 жыл бұрын
Omg,I love these girls. They are so real!
@lindsaymontgomery7981
2 жыл бұрын
Stay at home parent is a hard job!! I stay home with our youngest, keep up with the house, and take lunch orders for teacher's at my oldest daughter's school. I couldn't do it without my husband coming home and snuggling with the girls on the couch and watching a movie.
@mmconceicao
2 жыл бұрын
I don't understand why most commentaires are saying that she should ask for help. She said she does not cook or clean the house, she only takes care of 1 child. She should not be asking for help from her husband whose working a 12h shift. Crazy. Btw I am a stay at home mom but her situation do not compare to someone that have to cook, clean, laundry, taking care of the kids.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@destinysamiadestinyglobal7634
2 жыл бұрын
I don't think it's crazy to want help. Staying home with a child all day can be emotionally draining for some. It is not always about the physical work load. Some just need some time away from the mundane task to regroup. Her husband, although he worked 12 hours may be in a better state mentally than she is. It's all about perspective. Everyone is different.
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
@@destinysamiadestinyglobal7634 exactly 💯💯👏👏
@gaila.9852
2 жыл бұрын
My desire has always been to share the responsibilities. We are both going to pay bills, cook, clean, etc.
@shawncasey4331
2 жыл бұрын
I'm really flabbergasted that women need to ask men in a nice, non-confrontational way to help more with the baby and the house. Both people decided to have the kid and that comes lots of responsibilities, no matter how long you work. You need to think about the consequences of having children before you actually have them.
@lifeisbeautiful9455
2 жыл бұрын
My father didn’t help raise any of us and he didn’t work and he was abusive. My mother did EVERYTHING! All he did was dictate and abuse her and us and use us for government assistance. My mom passed at 39. Then I had to take care of everything. He treated me like a slave and he’s never raised us.
@marissa._
2 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry that happened to you. Damn, 39? That's kinda young. 😔 I know EXACTLY what its like to have an abusive parent(s)/family members! People like your dad needs to be in jail!
@lifeisbeautiful9455
2 жыл бұрын
@@marissa._ Thank you 🙏🏽 exactly… I tried but I got no help… everybody knew he was abusive and they kept telling me you’ll be 18 soon and I didn’t even know if I was going to make it when I was 14 and she passed he was having fun being a bully. And slandering and twisting things but I called the cops on him several times and caught back. He still hates me to this day. Always trying to break my ossify like my mothers but I won’t let him and don’t even talk to him. He hates women with a passion. He should be under the jail. They keep saying god will deal with him but he’s still alive. It’s so unfair.
@bluebittybits637
2 жыл бұрын
This is soooooo relatable. Except I cook/ clean and take care of baby/pets. He pays all the bills and works and I do school and take care of the house. We all win.
@KingTeddyMcleod
2 жыл бұрын
working 12 hour days!! Sounds like Saturday or Sunday is his day and honestly he’s bringing home the cash that feeds everyone so he is essential.. if he’s a good one you handle the weekdays and he takes Saturdays and try to get the grandparents to get them on some Saturday’s or Sunday’s I recommend free help because no need to add an extra bill so he can have an excuse to work more hours.
@lizzieaftertaylor939
2 жыл бұрын
I stayed hm. with our son and I had a system set up. On certain days I did certain chores when my husband came hm. I did whatever I wanted and he was there for the child. But, if you don't have a system set up for laundry, cooking, bathing, etc. you will be burned the hell out. I was up, showered, and ready prior to the child getting up, and sometimes the chore for that day was done too. As the child gets older have he or she help with cleaning up, if they make the mess, they can certainly help clean it up that started at 2 yrs old. My husband cleaned, cooked, washed clothes, etc. if he saw something that needed attn. he did it without my asking him. We both had careers and worked together as a team. Take control ladies and run your house, if you're not happy neither will he be happy. Never ever allow your husband to say you don't do anything anyway when you're hm. with a child or children. That's would be a deal-breaker for me and he knew it.
@ThatsJustMyBabyDaddy
2 жыл бұрын
People don't plan these things when they have kids? 😂
@TlhomphoDitedu
2 жыл бұрын
The plan is one thing. The reality is another
@Mixmasala218
2 жыл бұрын
@@TlhomphoDitedu good point
@saramatthews7159
2 жыл бұрын
Most Americans live in a fantasy land...until reality hits
@tammybenaytv4631
2 жыл бұрын
People think being a SAHM is a glamorous. It is hard work. I don’t think everyone has the temperament to do it. When my son was a toddler, there were Mom’s Day Out programs that were drop in basis and alternatives to daycare. But that gets expensive and many people stay at home because it is cheaper than daycare and all the expenses it actually takes to work full time with small children.
@maame6224
2 жыл бұрын
Mothers jobs is hard especially if its full time!🙆♀️
@NelaNos
2 жыл бұрын
Being a stay at home mom is hard
@kaydenreign6537
2 жыл бұрын
Adrienne Rochelle was in a girl group too called the Saturdays they were huge in the uk
@tiamarie6997
2 жыл бұрын
Yesssss Garcelle!! Especially with twins I know what u mean 😩🤣🤣🤣🤣
@soniahassan6830
2 жыл бұрын
Met Rochelle Humes when we dressed her for an event, she’s so sweet and stunning!
@glentheo7058
2 жыл бұрын
Rochelle actually used to be in a girl band just like Adrienne, in fact she's been in two bands! They have a lot in common 😅
@Tan87ful
2 жыл бұрын
Interesting and nice :)))
@TheAlreadytaken24
2 жыл бұрын
These conversations need to be had.. but they all are right...a stay at home parent should get help.. she is not getting paid and is still doing a job regardless of a pay check and she still needs help.. i did that for someone i dated.. i love helping and hope they feel the same as well.. we definitely got to be there for one another.. and garcelle had me weakkk on the alicia keys comment i felt that 😂😂😂
@shanekawallace-graham2190
2 жыл бұрын
Stay at home mom/dad: Chef, Housekeeper, Doctor/Nurse, Teacher, Referee, Judge/Lawyer/Jury, Police etc. etc. We all tiiiirrreedd.
@EducatedWalrus
2 жыл бұрын
Being a stay at home mom is the most draining hard work ever. I make food tho and clean the house too
@TlhomphoDitedu
2 жыл бұрын
A job is hard too. I don’t think we should be comparing “the hardest work”… being a stay at home mom is a hard job. So is being a doctor, a lawyer, a mechanic etc. You don’t have the “hardest job.” But yes, being a stay at home deserves the same level of respect as any other job. It does not however, deserve any more than any other.
@EducatedWalrus
2 жыл бұрын
@@TlhomphoDitedu yeah of course if you want to be very literal then we can go and do a survey and find out which job is the hardest. I hate that I have to explain things that don’t need explaining. Yes there are other jobs that are extremely difficult. But being a stay at home not only drains you physical but mentally and emotionally.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
Sis doesn't cook or clean, she takes care of the kids which is no easy task. He needs to spending time with the kid and taking the kid off of her when he gets home. However she's not doing most of what a housewife job especially if he's working one hundred percent and providing for everyone. I don't know what people think men are enjoying themselves working and that working in the family is slavery. Slavery is working day in and day out only to turn all the money over to the house.
@neal4utt
2 жыл бұрын
Rochelle Humes was also in a girl group called The Saturdays. Love her!
@burgendidavis9825
2 жыл бұрын
Man this just hit home. Sadly this is the dynamic in most situations.
@truelove-lo7fn
2 жыл бұрын
now I'm a mom of 2...when the kids nap then get your chores done..then have your keys and purse and when he walks in..say I'll be back...and sit in the Walmart parking lot😂
@cheralewhite8253
2 жыл бұрын
I'm almost embarrassed to admit, when I was younger. I totally felt, that if the person/parent that is out working. Then the one at home, for sure needs to pick up the slack at home, solely. But as I got older, I realized how messed up that is. Because, th person working, still very much lives in and thrives from that same household. So of course they should be helping with the kids and chores. If anything, find ways they can stay in tuned, with what is going on IN the household. Before they find themselves, without one altogether.
@cococherrymango1225
2 жыл бұрын
Hire a maid to help clean a couple times a week or have someone's cook if hes working. She should have as much ease as possible
@toluadeyemi9049
2 жыл бұрын
She already doesnt cook or clean
@shelocsher2396
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely she should receive help. A person gets time away from every other job, that needs to go for parenting too.
@KeronClark
2 жыл бұрын
Her time off is when the kids sleeping. Man she complains for nothing dats literally all she does; watch dem kids. Nothing else. Husband works so let's factor in an extra 2hours for travelling to and fro work so if he gets out the house at 6 am for a 7am shift he gets off at 7pm gets in at 8pm. 8pm is regular bed time for most kids. That lady gotta stop whining and women should stop making us men out to be villains. Oh God man. I'm a single dad, I do it alllll and alone. No other of or help, since my kid is 3months old now he's 5 and you don't see me running around complaining dat all his mom does is avoid her kids .... nope parenting never ends she's a whiner.
@KeronClark
2 жыл бұрын
Her time off is when the kids sleeping. Man she complains for nothing dats literally all she does; watch dem kids. Nothing else. Husband works so let's factor in an extra 2hours for travelling to and fro work so if he gets out the house at 6 am for a 7am shift he gets off at 7pm gets in at 8pm. 8pm is regular bed time for most kids. That lady gotta stop whining and women should stop making us men out to be villains. Oh God man. I'm a single dad, I do it alllll and alone. No other of or help, since my kid is 3months old now he's 5 and you don't see me running around complaining dat all his mom does is avoid her kids .... nope parenting never ends she's a whiner.
@meaganbianca2978
2 жыл бұрын
🥺 The ladies of the real are my friends in my head
@betsy7730
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, I guess it is hard, my mother had 6 kids and makes it seem like motherhood is easy
@kgarcia5185
2 жыл бұрын
Can relate.. that's me rt now with 3 toddlers.. low key texting husband are you okay ? when it's time he is on his way home.. hahahaha
@lovelivi1591
2 жыл бұрын
I think she was saying shes not keeping up on the house and stuff bc she feels burnt out.. I've been there before. I still wash the dishes daily, vacuum etc but can let a lot of the smaller stuff go.
@natashaburton4948
2 жыл бұрын
My celebrity best friend is B. Simone. I literally love her and her mindset. I think we are a lot alike.
@nicolejohnson5604
2 жыл бұрын
Yes and it's the same thing with us working mom's.
@wonipowa7542
2 жыл бұрын
People generally don't appreciate that being a stay at home mom is a 24/7 365 day a year job - same as if a father were stay at home. You don't get vacations. Your work does not end at 6pm. You don't get weekends off- this is why those who can afford it will hire nannies and in-house help so that they are not working everyday, for most of the day - even when the kids are at school you must clean house, prepare all meals, do laundry etc etc etc it can b e extremely rewarding and exhausting. Not to mention - family vacations are not your breaks! Holidays? You cook all the meals and prepare the house and have everything in order, so that everyone ELSE can relax. It's tough.
@agathachris9722
2 жыл бұрын
I get that, but she's only caring for the kid. One infant at that.
@signalfire15
2 жыл бұрын
Did you miss the part where they said the dad is working 12 hour days? His work day does not end at 6PM. It ends at 9.
@canadamonroe6229
2 жыл бұрын
She’s lazy
@wonipowa7542
2 жыл бұрын
@@signalfire15 No, my post was in reference to in general. I wouldn't ask someone working 12 hour days to split half the chores but I would probably set some things aside like you take out the garbage etc - which if she's already doing great. However, it doesn't change the fact that he has access to PTO and holidays off and she does not. Overtime, that will wear on you. I think that at first being a stay at home parent can appear to be the more desirable deal, especially since you don't have to commute, you are working for your family etc, but its often a thankless, endless job.
@signalfire15
2 жыл бұрын
@@wonipowa7542 Okay, and what happens when the child becomes 4 or 5 and starts school so the mother has more free time during the day, while dad is still working 12 hours? Can we consider that PTO and vacation time for a stay at home mom? The newborn and toddler stage is very difficult but kids grow and a stay at home mothers responsibilities lessen over time, while a working parent will constantly have to grind to provide. I think there is a give and take on both sides. A person who is working 12 hour work days might have a high powered job/career and they are still checking e-mails even when they are on vacation. I think we need to look at it from both angles. If this was a normal 9-5 job, I'd completely agree with you but 12 hour work days are TOUGH.
@Purple.cyclops
2 жыл бұрын
What happens when the woman gets tired of asking nicely and still gets no help so she just stops getting stuff done?
@tressanallenmartin9336
2 жыл бұрын
Listen I have twins who are 5 yrs old.. and I have to do homework for both kids plus house work 🧺 and I do laundry twice a week ( like 3-4 fulllllll loads … folding and putting them away).. cooking and cleaning.. bathing them and the whole damn combing hair and crazy crazy craziness… I feel I need a vacation away from everyone… am I been selfish??
@roseasimoa8405
2 жыл бұрын
As a mom of two toddler boys, taking care of my children is not a job, or a house chore. I can work an 8 hr day and still make sure their taken care of. Mom's need a break regardless if they are a stay home mom or fulltime working mom, so do father's. It's about having a conversation what is 1 or two things I can take from your plate to lighten the load and give you some free time or personal time. What can I do to make your day better?
@MimiOnliine
2 жыл бұрын
Adrienne missed the point i think. By ''i'm not working or even *keeping up* with house working tasks' i think the woman meant how she barely has time to do them w/ how overwhelmed she is w/ taking care of her child? It's not time to be nitpicking about how she doesnt do chores on top of it because she probably already feels guilty about it all? Adrienne saying "that's an amazing life' because she doesnt have to do chores but take care of baby 24/7 and dog only undermines the difficulties of being a mum and being able to manage it all? I don't know that woman but she probably needs help, ..family help, any help! Sometimes the best thing you can do is ask and seek for help, and Loni's point about family meeting is great.
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