Last day to get that 20% discount on my self help ebook "The Middle Way" and to have a chance to win a signed copy. You can get it here: seasonedtofu.com/books/p/themiddleway-ebook (Yeah this book has been out for a year but many of you still don't know I wrote it and now it's on sale lol)
@derp.6165
2 жыл бұрын
Hey, in the video you wrote 20$ off for your book, I doubt it's intentional, since $ is next to %, just pointing it so people don't misunderstand :)
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
Ah shit, my bad. Thanks for pointing that out
@jonmabi3608
2 жыл бұрын
@@ColeHastings bro you’re jacked af
@LDT7Y
2 жыл бұрын
Wait... does this work for women too? If I stop watching porn for a week, will my life suddenly improve!? ; D
@NickNotas
2 жыл бұрын
“Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.” -Louise L. Hay
@privateequityguy
2 жыл бұрын
*5 things to quit for all people:* 1. Caring about what others think 2. Not believing in yourself 3. Not prioritizing your health 4. Wasting your precious time 5. Chasing meaningless relationships For those who are in the rush of changing their lives :-)
@AhmetKaan
2 жыл бұрын
*Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think and more talented than you know, and capable of more than you can imagine. Keep putting in the work...*
@av17bestchannelonyoutube66
2 жыл бұрын
*YES*
@christopherlin4706
2 жыл бұрын
Your limitations can be turned into your greatest strength
@alii3206
2 жыл бұрын
realy??? there is no way to improve no matter what you doing
@mustaphasol3069
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤️ I need this indeed
@thegodofarizona1730
2 жыл бұрын
Don't be so hard on yourself also always reads this shit saying you are a God if you just put in the work
@theroamingsavage8813
2 жыл бұрын
Being hard on yourself is usually a sign of intelligence. If channeled correctly, this can be a great tool/asset to improve. Ppl who are over confident tend to stay stagnant. Again, used CORRECTLY it can be great, if u are consumed by it, then it works against u.
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for bringing this up
@chefboiardeeznutz9881
2 жыл бұрын
I'm usually consumed by it. I dont even consider myself as that intelligent anyway. If I was, I'd have moved on from my current life and improved more.
@nejah.6487
2 жыл бұрын
@@chefboiardeeznutz9881 Same. If i am inteligent, why am i the one who is stagnant, as oposed to the not so inteligent people who live their life and learn naturally by life experiences
@brillywilly2998
2 жыл бұрын
@@nejah.6487 I’m with you man
@nejah.6487
2 жыл бұрын
@@pj1016 damn thats hard
@west_spirit7352
2 жыл бұрын
This hits home lmao. Whenever I didn’t do something I wanted to do or or did it wrong, I would always be so hard on myself. I’m learning to just accept things that happened and move on
@rubix4741
2 жыл бұрын
Don't just accept things that happened, instead learn there is no objective to hit, only the best we can do. But yeah, moving on with a new lesson is a complete success, don't let toxic perfectionists get to us, they are just mad at themselves, bcs they don't actually do what makes them happy.
@thebrotasticbro9465
2 жыл бұрын
Remember to forgive yourself sometimes
@kriptoarc1531
Жыл бұрын
Today's my exam but i didn't prepared shit and i am trying not to be hard on myself but i feel uneasy for my parents. Because i am poor this exam can mean everything. I am trying not to suffocate myself
@west_spirit7352
Жыл бұрын
@@kriptoarc1531 do the best you can with what knowledge you have now, as it is the best you can do
@TheoHawk316
2 жыл бұрын
I've always been the "self-bully" type of person. No one has ever said to me, "YOU FRICKING IDIOT", aside from myself. I'm pretty sure I call myself that daily, sometimes aloud, sometimes in my head, either way, I'm doing it and I hate it. When something goes wrong, I instantly blame myself, even for things I have no control over...
@rooke404
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah ive been doing that since i was a kid and ive just started to notice the problems it has caused
@ldunn2
2 жыл бұрын
@Hawk322 that's learned behavior. Maybe it wasn't done to you but someone you looked up to as a kid said it to themselves and that's how you learned it, but you definitely didn't just do that on your own. The good news is only the present is what is here, now. You have it in your complete power to change it. Keep practicing self-love and acceptance and it gets easier each time.
@jpeg.600x2
2 жыл бұрын
@@ldunn2 exactly!
@MamaSwole
2 жыл бұрын
Hahaha Cole your dramatic B Roll always kills me😂
@nitishgautam5728
4 ай бұрын
Understanding Human psychology is more harder than mathematics , and physics . Physics has predictable patterns but psychology don't follow simple rules.
@boarhead5573
2 жыл бұрын
You just described the journey I went through the last two years. (honestly I think it'll never end) I learned, that every madness and bad feeling about myself comes from... myself. They're rooted in the ways I think and feel about myself in whatever situation. So the progress of "reprogramming" my thoughts and my feelings just started and I can tell that it takes a long long time! But it's so damn worth it! Thank you for the video!
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
It does take a long time but keep going. Im glad youre willing to have the patience to get there
@dantepepper
2 жыл бұрын
A positive mindset is needed it times of struggle being harder on yourself DOESNT mean you will do better
@Atrix..
2 жыл бұрын
Sending a virtual hug to one's suffering & may ya'll get yourself's up back to together :)))
@mlkchannel5890
2 жыл бұрын
Sending it right back🤩❤
@Atrix..
2 жыл бұрын
@@mlkchannel5890 😊😊^_^ ^_^
@TheDhammaHub
2 жыл бұрын
The mind reacts much better to positive reinforcement. As pretty much always, choose the middle way of things if you want to succeed
@DemetriPanici
2 жыл бұрын
*“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.”- Oscar Wilde*
@DemetriPanici
2 жыл бұрын
The harder you are on yourself, the more that cycle will repeat itself. Self-help content sometimes isn't what you need in those circumstances
@rajpatelhome
2 жыл бұрын
Honestly this video hits, sometimes you just have to look back and be grateful for the things you have. Delayed gratification > instant gratification. Keep hustling! -Raj
@petergama6074
2 жыл бұрын
Bruh the more I listen to self help the more I'm grateful to my parents I never realised how much of a balanced personality and person I am it is crazy and I truly belive it is because of my parents.
@mario125ww
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Cole! Lately your topics have been hitting home. I'm a social anxious person that want to overcome this problem. But every time I practice, I get disappointed that I still struggle. After listening to this video, I realized I'm too hard on my self and I need to lighten up
@arturoestrada6803
Жыл бұрын
how u doing now?
@jacoblagat3878
2 жыл бұрын
You nailed it 🎯 During my teenage years, I’d be criticised and lectured for the smallest mistakes. Conversely, I wasn’t given any validation for the things I’d done well. This lead to me developing an inner self-critic which would act as a substitute - if I was hard on myself, then no one else would need to be. That was my way of avoiding criticism / harsh words from other people. So whenever I messed up, my inner critic would pop up and criticise me for not doing better. But this turned me into a perfectionist, and ultimately had a detrimental effect on my self-confidence to actually DO things because I was so worried about failing. I’m trying to reframe my thought processes and learn to be kinder to myself. Humans are meant to learn and explore things with an open mind, even if there’s a chance we fail. But society has drummed it into our heads that if we can’t live up to high standards consistently, we’re a failure and a burden to the people around us.
@salmaakay
10 ай бұрын
I relate to this
@ADDvantageHypnotherapy
2 жыл бұрын
I had to learn this, not least of all growing up ADHD and ASD. When you fall off the more, slip up, or "relapse "...the trick is to see it as a normal part of the process. Mistakes and failure are part of learning process. If you're actively learning and aiming to progress, then you'll make more mistakes and failures - that's progress! When you practice mindfulness and realise your mind is busy all the time, that's progress - because you're now noticing how busy the mind! Keep going and develop a Growth Mindset. It's essential...
@vincentpenschke500
2 жыл бұрын
"Stop focusing on booty and focus on your duty!" - Eren Yaeger
@briansoo5363
2 жыл бұрын
HEEEEEEEEEEE
@akashdiphajong8234
2 жыл бұрын
I think I got recommended this video because of your comment lol... Man, the algorithm's weird
@godsway8501
2 жыл бұрын
ICE COLDDDDD JT 🤙🏾😂😂💯💯
@sparkabundancespirituality1755
2 жыл бұрын
Great video❤️ The things that we don't like about ourselves are there to help us in accepting ourselves unconditionally and to help us grow. If you are reading this , God is watching over you and everything will be all right.❤️
@notequalto5179
2 жыл бұрын
8:20 forgiveness is not condoning the negative action someone took upon you. Rather, it is the release of your own grudges and bitterness to free your heart.
@josemalanga9257
2 жыл бұрын
Cole, this is perfect timing bro. I just started working, I am going to buy your book as a way to say thank you for all of these videos. GOAT
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
Appreciate that Jose! Thanks for the support
@MindNow
2 жыл бұрын
*Yep, you are exactly where you should be* 🙏❤️ ( _just make the best out of it_ 😊)
@businessisboomin7252
2 жыл бұрын
My self-destructive voice inside my head: "See that weakling? I'm gonna make him more depressed after 2 minutes! Just wait!" Well jokes aside....this video is too specific and accurate that I wanna hug you so hard bro....
@ryxnmichxel2
2 жыл бұрын
The thumbnail and frame behind "relapsed" are so funny 😂 this is why I love your videos they are serious, educational, funny, and personal all at the same time awesome job
@MylesB93-
2 жыл бұрын
I'm going to need royalties from this video because the intro is definitely about me
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
Hahaha
@grayforde2740
2 жыл бұрын
Hey, man Decided to get your book since I've known that your content is something that finally addresses issues I've been having and something I can really relate to. I'm so glad I found you on KZitem and I really think your content is underrated. Thanks
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
That means a lot man. Thank you so much
@horationelson8173
2 жыл бұрын
As a man who used to struggle with depression these are the most helpful things I can think of: -Take Risks, don't let the fear of failure stop you from trying something new or something great -Do things that genuinely scare you or that you're afraid of (Even little things like climbing onto a roof and helping to put up Christmas lights if you're afraid of heights or saying something to the cute cashier girl other than "hi" and "thanks") -Pursue an ambitious goal, one that a lot of people don't believe you can achieve (It doesn't even matter if you fail this because no matter what the pursuit of an ambitious goal will make you a better person and give you fulfillment) With that being said, do your best to succeed -Have a passion, basically this means to find a hobby that you enjoy so much that you will spend hours and hours getting better at it -Study history, pick a role model, and then analyze the traits of your role model and list the reasons why you admire them. Then start to emulate these traits in your everyday life and eventually you will become your own role model. -Don't ever quit something just because it's hard (You can quit a crappy job if it's not the right fit for you, but never quit solely based on the fact that something is difficult). Embrace challenges and look for opportunities to improve yourself mentally, physically, and spiritually. -Never put yourself down. Try not to think negative things about yourself and especially never say them out loud. You will think more highly of yourself when you say positive things about yourself, at the very least avoid putting yourself down on purpose. -Live purposefully. Have a direction for your life and if you don't already have one, make one. Decide what's most important to you and live accordingly. If you have a family or even a single loved one, your first priority (other than serving God if you're religious) should be to provide for them, to protect them, and to help them become the best version of themselves -Develop Integrity. I can't even explain how much this increases your self-repsect. Be honest, be trustworthy, don't cheat (unless you're in a street fight) and live with honor. -Find a hobby that you're really passionate about and strive to become a master at it -Finally, probably the most important thing I can say is to think less about yourself. Think less about yourself but not less of yourself. In other words, think about other people before you think about yourself, especially your family and loved ones. If you're focused on helping them with their problems I can promise you that your problems will become less important and less troublesome. Look for opportunities to help others and make them feel better about themselves. Nothing lifts you out of depression better than helping someone out of theirs. I hope this helps. I realize that some people are genetically predisposed to having a harder time with depression, but I believe that there's nothing you can't overcome with a strong mindset. In addition, I strongly believe that going through depression and having such terrible lows actually gives you the capacity to feel even greater happiness and joy. The reason I say this is because when you feel genuine joy after being depressed for so long you can't help but feel grateful. The beauty of life is that we are meant to experience the full range of human emotions, from happiness to anger to jealousy to despair to joy. We couldn't feel genuine happiness if we never knew what it was like to be sad. If I could talk to whoever is reading this face-to-face, what I would say to you would be simple: don't quit. A quote from Winston Churchill kept me going in times when I thought I had nothing left, he said: "If you're going through Hell, keep going." Everything in life can be and is meant to be an opportunity to make yourself better, and depression is no exception. Keep fighting, all of you are descended from warriors no matter what culture or country you are from. You wouldn't be here today if it weren't for the conquering spirit of your ancestors. Live a life that would make them proud. While most of us will not fight in physical wars, no one is exempt from the battlefield of life. Depression can be a battle every single day, every single second in some cases. Keep fighting, it will only get better. And the more you fight, the more you will gain respect for yourself. I've conquered my depression. Every now and then it will start to try and creep back into my mind but I don't let it. I destroy those feelings with action. I go lift weights, I go running, I listen to metal music, whatever it takes for me to regain my confidence. You can conquer depression, no matter how severe it is. That doesn't mean you'll never have days where you feel down, but it does mean that you'll have the strength to push through and do what you need to do as a man regardless of how you're feeling. Stay strong, stay hard, and fight like dragons 🐉 You're going to be very glad you did.
@salmaakay
10 ай бұрын
Reminder to self
@redonred666
2 жыл бұрын
Coles videos keep getting better and better.
@Fentonscooby
2 жыл бұрын
These videos always come at the times I really need them. A little too convenient
@cozypilgrim8530
2 жыл бұрын
Forgiveness is hard for me. It's hard for a lot of people. Much of the principalities that Cole talks about can be found in the Bible. Forgive and do not condemn!
@mielychia
Жыл бұрын
I'm aware that the reasons i hate myself so much are so common and sometimes almost pointless but I've been this way since forever and I don't know how to stop anymore
@reyagu4607
2 жыл бұрын
Doing something over and over again doesn’t mean you don’t know what you’re doing or that you’re bad. it just means you need more practice or that you need a stronger foundation and belief system for yourself. Discipline up boys 🙏
@Neon-o4e
2 жыл бұрын
*I say don't stress yourself out too much and do whatever makes you happy.* Quitting porn and masturbation (for 54 days now) has been nothing but good to me and I've noticed progess in my day to day life. It is one of the hardest things I've had to do and I didn't realize just how hard it was until I went for it. I'm getting a sense of fufillment for the simple fact that I'm not being a slave to my desires, which I have been for the majority of my life. Because of NF I let go of other unhealthy habits like consuming a lot of caffeinated drinks; I realized I didn't need any of that for energy, just a proper diet and rest (6-8 hrs is good). I'm in no way saying that this video is wrong, obsession and overindulgence of anything could be harmful for mental and physical health, and that includes the fear of relapsing, as well. If I do "relapse" I just have to keep trying and not let it beat me up. We are only human, sex is a need and release is actually healthy. Great video and it gave me something to think about.
@williamcollins2136
2 жыл бұрын
Good job on your progress brother 👍
@tanaykamath1415
2 жыл бұрын
Man your channel is the best self help channel, keep the good work up🙏 these days all these 'self-improvent' or 'self-help' channels with all those eye catching illustrations/animations are kinda getting toxic. I myself have had a first hand experience of the no fap thing, I was on a 112 day streak and once I broke it, I did the thing more than twice a week( and couldn't start a new streak)then I came across all sorts of 'relapse' shit on reddit, it made me feel all my 112 day effort was for nothing, I felt women would reject me etc. Thanks a lot for this video!
@nyriainheritors6492
2 жыл бұрын
You are right bro, reddit seems to give way too much content than we can actually consume to the point that we overthink these things up to the smallest of details and i think that balancing information along with application would be the perfect mix
@slumptris
2 жыл бұрын
this video topic was needed this morning, Thanks again for the amazing video 🙏🏽
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching
@ohyayitssway
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Cole, your videos really bring light into my life. I just got broken up with 2 weeks ago and it was an unhealthy codependent relationship. My ex lived with me and one morning, two weeks ago, packed up and left saying she couldn’t do this with me anymore. I stopped texting her back just 3 days ago and it’s killing me. Right after we broke up I got the urge to quit cold turkey with ‘no fap’ & smoking cannabis. I just turned 19 a few days ago and I live alone with my dog & on my birthday I felt alone. On my birthday as well someone backed up into my car and I got beat up on the street while people watched, it’s been so hard to be alone. Anyways I guess what I’m trying to get at with this comment is that thank you for making this amazing content, it’s been helping me want to better myself even in these horrible times & feelings of loneliness. It’s been hard not to beat myself up for all the things I did/said to lead up to her being fed up. I’d really love to have a 1 on 1 session one day with you because I feel like I relate so so much to you as a person. Thank you for sharing your times of struggle and being vulnerable enough to make me feel it’s okay to go through these things that have been going through. Even though I don’t know you like that I love you man and love your content even more ❤️ never stop making them because I’m sure a lot of people like me find the words they need in your videos to not give up.
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
Very glad I could help you brother. Keep moving forward
@psy_taiki
2 жыл бұрын
Great content! I've been meditating for two years now, and as you said in the video, it has helped me see self-loathing thoughts non judgmentally. Also, I met self-compassion through my meditative journey, which has saved me from being too hard on myself. I still am a perfectionist, but a lot kinder to myself. If you're reading this, I highly recommend checking self-compassion out because that has taught me how to forgive myself, probably even more than meditation. Keep up the great work; you are inspiring so many people, including me :)
@djrocks5678
2 жыл бұрын
Incredible timing. We appreciate you Cole.
@ZarinaMachaAuthor
2 жыл бұрын
Yes forgiveness is very important. I think it's common for people who are highly ambitious and who want to achieve a lot in life to be extra hard on themselves. My worst habit is definitely sleeping too much and it's something that has gotten worse since the pandemic, sometimes sleeping 10-11 hours and feeling very unproductive and sad when I get up too late.
@krisssuarez9047
2 жыл бұрын
Damn!!, This hits hard!!: "When you can't forgive others for their mistakes, it is oftentimes cuz you can't forgive yourself for similar mistakes."
@fuzzzywan
9 ай бұрын
I believe that the closest thing a human can come to truly being happy is having strong emotional awareness and control.
@kylemorris8302
2 жыл бұрын
There is a difference in saying I am stupid vs what I did is stupid. One is realizing I made a lapse in my judgment which you can learn from and the other is shaming yourself as a person which is destroying you as a person. Enjoy growing into a better man and a better version of you.
@user-rk4iu3mw3f
10 ай бұрын
I do have a grudge against my past self I was taken advantage of and I couldn’t do anything so it’s hard to forgive and forget about when u just wanna erase it
@mandarinD
2 жыл бұрын
A fellow osrs-er, no wonder your videos resonate so much with me😅
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
You can never quit runescape. You just take breaks.
@zeeskee6786
2 жыл бұрын
Well said Cole, and this goes for everyone else in the comments. When you literally accept whatever tragedy in your mind just happened, you just establish a better foundation for your soul to get back to its divinity. I never let myself breathe, especially if I hold the weight of the world on my shoulders. This helped so much, thanks Cole. ✊🏾
@888records
2 жыл бұрын
People do beat themselves up too much after a NoFap relapse though. My friend is tol hard on himself, I will send this to him
@oneworldonehome
2 жыл бұрын
"Do not use fear to support your judgments of yourself and the world, for these judgments are born of your uncertainty and anxiety. Thus, they lack the foundation of Knowledge. Thus, they lack the meaning and value that only Knowledge can bestow. Do not rely upon your judgments of yourself and the world. As you withdraw from them, you will realize that their source is fear, for you have only been trying to comfort yourself with your judgments, to provide a false security, stability and identity which you feel you are lacking. Therefore, be without a substitute for Wisdom and Knowledge, and allow Wisdom and Knowledge to arise naturally." *Steps to Knowledge, The Book of Inner Knowing* - Step 151: I will not use fear to support my judgments.
@TeacherNzenga
2 жыл бұрын
It reminds me my classmate who used to beat his head against the wall for getting low mark
@daxballinger1830
2 жыл бұрын
I have been hard on myself lately because I recently had a breakup. The tools you’ve given me through these videos cole, have been so helpful I can’t help but thank you once again.
@_sn0wbl00d
2 жыл бұрын
Your videos are always helpful!! Thanks for the upload! have a good day 😁
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for watching
@Jasetyy
2 жыл бұрын
The intro was actually incredibly spot on. I even watched the exact same videos.
@IatAS
2 жыл бұрын
Yo wtf is this timing dude crazy thanks alot
@stephenfermoyle4578
2 жыл бұрын
Cole PLEASE !! ''you have the world on a string..sittin on a rainbow'' imagine a Mother watching you who had lost her Son to...whatever ? you are awesome!! ''you got this '' you have the gift, voice, etc etc to inspire.thank you
@jacobrodriguez1104
2 жыл бұрын
You do not know how badly I needed to see this! I've been struggling with nofap myself and my first semester in college is almost done. I feel so guilty about myself because I know I could've done better in school if I had tried harder. I was seriously considering leaving university because I thought I couldn't do it. I've struggled with being hard on myself for about 5 years now, and I'm doing what I can to reverse this issue. It's so damn difficult though. Watching videos like this makes the days go by easier. I just want to feel proud of myself for once. I also want to be better but I always approach it with the wrong mindset.
@isoul3857
2 жыл бұрын
aaa fighting for you💌💌 . It's okay to not be okay... sometimes what we need is to forgive ourselves and being loved by our own self and people 💛💛 I hope you are good.
@christopherlin4706
2 жыл бұрын
Improving imperfections in a natural and dreamlike way is always > than perfection. For the former is true perfection, while the latter is a farce
@natashamargarette8394
2 жыл бұрын
This video was a literal Godsend this week. Thanks. Just bought your book.
@TruthFromTheMtns
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your sharing. Like so many others, this really hits home for me too. Ugh...I woke up this morning, did the chores I needed to, fed my cats, made breakfast...And whilst doing everything, I found myself going through my "spiderweb" of sooo many thoughts, one leading to another, of self negativity...."This is why I'm not getting what I want", "I need to do this", "Ugh, why did I do that"....So forth. Until I kinda did a pause and thought, only half seriously, "Maybe I'll watch motivational videos..." But then I literally type in the words in the search engine "how not to hate yourself." This and other videos helped. Hopefully now I'll do by best to try to change the way I think. Thank you!
@TheBgang
2 жыл бұрын
As always a video full of gems Cole. Loved the story in the beginning hha well done!
@kflecha1
2 жыл бұрын
This is powerful✨🙌🏽 I believe that every day we should practice being kind with ourselves💕. As you said we are not robots 🤖 we are just humans and beating yourselves guys is not going to solve your problems. One day at a time ✨🙏💕💜
@A.Peacock
2 жыл бұрын
Wasn't in my recommendations for no reason so ill listen to this message
@Busaio
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Cole. I love your videos. Could you make a video about how people are so afraid lately? I've realized(especially during the pandemic) that everyone is afraid of something. This shit is really hurting us. Peace and Love.
@Sal-zs1ob
2 жыл бұрын
the timing of this couldn't have been any better. Thanks Cole
@user-ve2xp3du6b
2 жыл бұрын
U can't grow without failing, It's a bad feeling, without pain there is no gain, u gotta take the lessons and learn and apply it for better things to come.
@beamerb8152
2 жыл бұрын
Our society craves and is attracted to abuse so much that people forget to be kind and patient even to themselves. I don’t think that forgiveness from others is necessary. The person that needs forgiveness has to learn to forgive themselves and provide a remedy for their issues so that the Universe can provide forgiveness. I never accept apologies, but I do accept solutions.
@Droopy95mkDS
Жыл бұрын
2:30 thank you for those images, not only does it describe the mayhem one can experience in their own head, but it also helps feeling relaxed while listening to your advices. That's what I like about your self-improvement videos, you present it like having fun and in the end that's what it is, enjoying life eventually, that's the goal we seek.
@devicebackup664
2 жыл бұрын
I can’t thank you enough for your videos. Recently, I have been going through tough times with career and my personal health. Honestly, your videos give me so much strength!
@keekseatsasmr425
Жыл бұрын
Hey just wanted to say you’re my comfort channel! Always really uplifting with a focus on self improvement yet with an understanding of human nature! You’re awesome
@JamilJarvis
2 жыл бұрын
Man forgiveness is TOUGH & it's so easy to forget how relentless we are on ourselves & others to be perfect too. VALUABLE skill to learn that I gotta work on appreciate this video a ton
@soup-not-edible
2 жыл бұрын
I wanted to start building VR gloves (lucidVR) with no experience in 3D printing and wire crimping whatsoever, just because it looked cool. Result, after 2 weeks of telling myself "I HAVE to finish it this day, this is it" I'm here because this was so much pressure and weight on my mind, I couldn't even talk out my feelings, I was mentally exhausted to the point I forgot to tell my therapist about it.
@feviamolodih1078
2 жыл бұрын
Just when I have been feeling bad about things going on & giving myself a hard time about it, This video pops up Dang the timings way too perfect
@rebel7893
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this video, all the topics you spoke about today were things that I've been unsure of how to deal with for around 2 years now. I haven't been focusing much on my studies because of these topics replaying constantly in my head. Take care and hope you've been doing well, and again thank you, this helped me greatly👍
@fam3347
2 жыл бұрын
You are right!! Chasing your dream is like buying stocks. As long your money is in their, soon or later it will go up!!
@proatbilliards
Жыл бұрын
awesome vid sometimes i think im overthinking things after realizing and seeing things like this confirms my judgement is right. we are human and make mistakes.
@LOVE_ALL_AROUND
Жыл бұрын
LMAO I was having a hard time following because I didn't understand No Fap....now I understand. Thank you for that visual on our progress/journey not being linear. I needed that today. 🙂
@del_fino
2 жыл бұрын
if we ALWAYS see small things as concrete and “meaningful,” we will continue to dramatize and overreact. why so serious? relax homies 🧘🏻♂️
@MAXXMP3
2 жыл бұрын
This is facts, I used to get so discouraged when i used to flop on youtube for example, but now I'm just like, ok next vid finna hit and then start working on it
@castronator29
2 жыл бұрын
Another gem from ma boi Cole. Thank you dude.
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
Much love dude
@ltobito349
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this vid I’m legit the definition of relating to this I just relapsed for like the 30th time and start hating on my self so so much to the point I lost all hope
@legoboy-ox2kx
2 жыл бұрын
You basically just described the song Mirror by Porter Robinson lol "You carry your enemies, but they're so familiar"
@justafellowmortal4000
2 жыл бұрын
6:50 ah yes, I love me some time travelling
@techieshu9553
2 жыл бұрын
Love this content, so refreshing to see that I shouldn't be hard on myself on my self improvement journey. More videos like these are needed in the self improvement community. This video is soo relatable
@MrDaChekar
2 жыл бұрын
I really feel Bad atm.... i feel guilty and so depressed, im 25 an never had a girlfriend, not a virgin but didnt do anything with women at all in the past 5 years.... i wish i had one until now and i wish i couldve shown my parents... i just feel really depressed...
@NFSMAN50
2 жыл бұрын
He knows that i binge watch these videos lol. You know everything that im going through sir. I recently started feeling shame for watching pron, OF, because of all of the toxic nofap type of stuff that shames you for doing this, but i stopped caring as much. I am waayy to hard on myself for things out of my control. Im learning the art of Forgiveness, and learning to feel emotions that i've made mistakes.
@socalbeachieboy6135
2 жыл бұрын
All hail our lord and savior Cole Hastings!! HAIL COLE HASTINGS!
@ColeHastings
2 жыл бұрын
ayo chill
@lottie6217
8 ай бұрын
Regarding forgiving, I find it hard to "forgive" narcissistic people from the past who have said demeaning stuff to me because when I happen to interact again with them..they are still the same shitty people. I think of forgiveness as "erasing" (or "letting it go as if it didn't happen" or "what happened is unimportant") what they said or did..and I don't think that I could ever erase what they did because it had an impact on me. But, listening to your video, I was not moved to "forgive" right away because I don't know how to. I think you can make a video on "how to forgive" so that it can guide people to do so. I guess right now, the easier step is to accept that "people have been wired that way because of the negative things people did to them when they were still young." I guess "compassion" towards them..knowing that someone did them wrong,too.. is the best step towards healing. But I have this feeling that 'what if I see them again and they say nasty stuff again, what do I do?'..and it makes me anxious even though it hasn't happened yet. I don't know..right now, I guess I will take one step first and that is through 'compassion'.
@GWo14
2 жыл бұрын
I've watched a few of your videos now, and I truly love your analytical mindset. It takes a lot for people to think for themselves and connect things the way they truly are; truth be told, I think everything we consume constantly tries to tear us away from its own dark truth. One thing I wish/suggest you to look into or touch on is: Sugar. I think sugar is nearly as addictive, and deadly as porn is. Artificial sugar is now put in just about everything. Go to a store, do your normal shopping, and see how near impossible it is to buy things without sugar. I was addicted, drinking multiple cans of Mtn Dew a day, and when I look back at it I truly think it's the darkest place I have ever been. I look back and think about how blind I was to shit around me. This substance tears away at your senses. I hated things like Tomoato with an intense passion, and only garbage greasy food tasted good to me. When I quit, and stopped consuming sugar altogether; I had a migraine that lasted weeks. There is a theory that the FDA labels the % Value of sugar at 1/2 the DV it really is. (So if X item has 38%DV of Sugar, its actually 76%.) I believe this substance to be a root cause to depression, and is made hand in hand with porn. The two create a positive feedback loop with each other, and people caught rapidly fall into a nasty cycle of depression. To this day, after 4 years of battling sugar, anything with sugar in it still calls me and its extremely difficult to fight the urge to buy that candy bar or drink. The worst part is that, if I do consume something like that- the urge gets multiplicatively worse, and my mental dives so far down that I feel completely consumed by a darkness. Whether you see this or not, I encourage you to do research on it, and anyone who reads: I truly implore you to mitigate your sugar consumption as much as possible.
@omarentezar405
2 жыл бұрын
My favorite channel, your literally a free therapist for me bro I appreciate it so much.!!!
@klanderkal
5 ай бұрын
I relapsed to making extremely foolish decisions.! To quit my favorite sport, because of a bad call. I didn't go to a family wedding, because i thought a person might be there. My penny stocks jumped extremely high!, enough to buy what i got into stocks for: a house. But ,... i didn't sell ... and it crashed! My Grandmother called, asked me to fly up, and visit.... i had vacation, but didn't go.... then she passed. I had the greatest career job i loved.! Then a few coworker friends persuaded me, i should retire, because they were. I did. Wait.!! I did What.?? Retired from my job 😫💔.... im in a very bad dark place
@itsbirdy1098
2 жыл бұрын
I don't know how can i say thank you for this video and your honest opinion about this situation.
@killaknight12
2 жыл бұрын
"This is a challenge and challenges make me better" Me after procrastinating until it's almost too late to finish my work on time.
@lukeclark3506
2 жыл бұрын
I just find it’s crazy in this day and age.. cause there’s a lot of coaches teaching us how to be man, soo much self-help, how to approach women, how to ask them out.
@taranpreetkaur8303
2 жыл бұрын
You are such an inspiring person, Cole. I did subscribe to your channel quite some time ago but didn't watch your videos, thinking that they are mostly aimed at your male viewers. But I am glad I started with watching this one. :) I could relate so much to this video. I too am a person who considers just a little setback as a relapse and think that I am never going to get back to my usual fulfilled self. It really shows how much hard you have worked on yourself to reach this stage of fulfillment. ❤ Lots of love and success..😀
@carrricky
Жыл бұрын
You changed my life
@johnraymundaguila
2 жыл бұрын
Hey Cole! Thank you for making this video. This helps me. Makes me focus more on facing the challenge and solving the problem, making a plan, than spending time beating myself up.
@YoNickSoko
Жыл бұрын
Cole, your videos are always insightful and is the type of content everyone should see.
@sirjackio_zw
2 жыл бұрын
One of the most relatable videos I've watched about this topic thanks Cole appreciate the work and effort you put in this you are really helping people with this information
@icebeast39
2 жыл бұрын
Saved my a**! You popt in the right time into my recommendations. Thank you
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