men say women don’t take it well when they get rejected but one gender has a history and multiple terrifying cases of going batshit crazy after getting rejected while the other doesn’t so…
@wk3827
11 ай бұрын
@@Forit26 i’m really not sure who told you that but women DO actually get rejected quite often, especially women who aren’t conventionally attractive or for lack of a better word bigger in size. the only women visible to men are women who are beautiful & attractive, the rest are just sidelined
@wk3827
11 ай бұрын
@@Forit26 rejections aren’t only limited to let’s say asking people out on the streets though…if more men asked women out on the streets of course more men will be rejected…but women get rejected in the context of let’s say confessing or asking someone that’s close to them
@wk3827
11 ай бұрын
@@Forit26 i would be inclined to agree if looks were the only things that mattered in a relationship when more often than not it’s not…
@FloppaTheBased
11 ай бұрын
because women don't have to get rejected lol, they just choose. And even if they approach first practically NO man will reject lmao. So when it happens (extremely rarely) it hurts them much more. For men rejection is basically their whole life, for women it's an ego destroyer
@wk3827
11 ай бұрын
@@FloppaTheBased i beg you to actually talk to REAL women lol…i know plenty of women who got rejected after confessing to their crushes (but same for men)
@ComfortASMRalice
11 ай бұрын
That was basically my parents relationship. My dad was a bum ass with addiction and mental illness. My mom provided and took care of everything and he HAAAATED her! He told her daily that she’s the ugliest woman, that she’s stupid, and he hit her and humiliated her. My mom barely admitted this and divorced him FINALLY!!!
@youthoughtuate431
11 ай бұрын
HOW IS SHE NOW
@nannaed7833
11 ай бұрын
@@joelrcj.775if their child says it, it’s true. Don’t blame the victim
@carrington2949
11 ай бұрын
@@joelrcj.775Addiction is not a one sided issue. It usually comes with a load of other traits like narcissism . We can blame the addiction but the truth of the matter is that to overcome the addiction, they have a load of other things to overcome.
@Rina-Sa
11 ай бұрын
@@joelrcj.775children see both sides, it's not one sided. If you end up disappointing your kids like this, if you're too mentally ill and addicted to stuff to actually be there for them that's on you.
@Rina-Sa
11 ай бұрын
@@wPleasur3 Not only that but it seems like that guy is justifying the abuse that the OP, the child, probably endured too as well as the psychological terror. It's not even the wife's job to mind the feelings of an addict/mentally ill (it's their job to get professional help), and it's certainly not the child's job to "think of both sides of the story" and mind their shitty dad's feelings. It's the dad's job to mind their children's feelings and how they might be affecting them, not the other way around. If your own daughter doesn't like you, when children are biologically hardwired to deify their parents, it's definitely a you problem as a parent. Also if you're a shitty dad, you're definitely a shitty partner.
@valpereira1447
11 ай бұрын
In this thread there was a comment that said "Men feel emotionally attracted to their friends and sexually attracted to women" and it makes a lot of sense when you think how, they prefer cheating on their SO before pissing their homies off, even at the expense of their S.O
@marystewart5753
11 ай бұрын
Yes
@curiousmoa3998
10 ай бұрын
Funny bc their girlfriend probably treats them better
@emptyvoid5272
9 ай бұрын
"All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire... those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex. Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving." -Marilyn Frye, The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory
@katec9893
9 ай бұрын
@@emptyvoid5272I remember reading this before, thanks for sharing! It sadly does seem to be true that men tend to really love and value their male friends, whereas from women they want sex, the creation of a family, childcare and housework. I've seen how lovingly and supportively men talk to eachother in online forums about self improvement, whilst they say really awful misogynistic cruel things about women.
@carlospita6442
3 ай бұрын
Wtf are you talking about??
@__Liza__
10 ай бұрын
Men are literally working on creating realistic sex bots and incubators instead of just being good, decent people.
@AmericanDreamer
10 ай бұрын
yup 😬
@elgooghosent7080
10 ай бұрын
And being 6,5 ft tall... yk
@goddessvibes08
9 ай бұрын
That's the red pill ideology. Ironically a Muslim started that movement
@charley6302
9 ай бұрын
unfortunately it will just make them worse
@GrungeGalactica
8 ай бұрын
The men who legitimately think tech could replace an actual human- I’m happy to have the bots take care of them for us.
@catcat9582
11 ай бұрын
Such leadership. Waiting for a girlfriend to break up with you. Such masculine courage and integrity.
@therealmanifestelle
11 ай бұрын
this
@basicinfo2022
11 ай бұрын
/s lol
@catcat9582
11 ай бұрын
@@basicinfo2022 lmao absolutely
@abor1males
11 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@AdayBB231
11 ай бұрын
Woow 😂😂😂 I never knew men did this ! I thought they’d just dump you
@__Liza__
10 ай бұрын
Before getting into a relationship I said "The only thing I want from you is to promise to BREAK UP with me instead of cheating if you're not feeling it anymore ". Nope, he couldn't do that. Too much effort.
@Sportylottie
9 ай бұрын
Those guys need to be locked up somewhere.
@toscadonna
9 ай бұрын
Lol. You actually thought a man’s word means something?😂 With men, you’ve got to believe the bad. Men mean whatever bad words and actions they do, but the good words and actions are mainly lies designed to trick you. Promising to break up with you before cheating is one of the “good words” that I’m referring to. He didn’t mean that, but he sure did mean the bad action of cheating. So always remember the bad when it come to men; the bad shows their true selves.
@AaronD313
2 ай бұрын
@@toscadonnaI hope you heal your past hurt. We’re not all bad❤
@Alixir1228
2 ай бұрын
Literally happened to me too. He did it from day one. Basically still acted single online for a while, basically being a camgirl. Then stopped on his own once he started loving me. I found out months later. My dumbass is back with him, but the more videos I watch like this I'm realizing my worth.
@Zivvia_Moonshine
Ай бұрын
Im going to start doing this
@Pink_pr1ncess
11 ай бұрын
Some men deserve loneliness, there I said it.
@Liz-wz8dh
11 ай бұрын
That's not radical. Some definitely do. My last guy, I'm pretty convinced, knew his tactics were going to keep failing and he was going to be alone for the most part. He had this big lone wolf picture in his living room and I really feel like that was how he saw himself. Because he was a loser in the eyes of most women just based on the way he thinks about and treats women. Wouldn't surprise me to find out he's an incel these days after his failures. So they know.
@Pink_pr1ncess
11 ай бұрын
@@Liz-wz8dh yeah but for some reason it is radical to say that,because so many men got butthurt over the fact that male loneliness is not at the fault of women and women aren’t breaking their backs to save these grown men from their own problems.
@Femmeaesthetic
11 ай бұрын
@@Pink_pr1ncess men aren't blaming women for male loneliness, there talking about there issues of the struggle there going through
@nataliesuper5836
11 ай бұрын
@@Pink_pr1ncess my whole life, whenever I've asked a man for their thoughts and opinions on a matter or help with something the response has basically been a mix of "I'm not interested, find someone who cares, that's not for me to figure out, that's not my problem to think about, i got nothing to say".... the list goes on. They won't hear my thoughts. They won't give me their thoughts. And they wonder why "male loneliness" and suicide is an issue. I shouldn't give a flip. Not one flip.
@Pink_pr1ncess
11 ай бұрын
@@nataliesuper5836 me neither, I don’t care if men are lonely. Just leave women the hell alone and be lonely in peace
@maryy.angell
11 ай бұрын
being single is looking better and better every single freaking day seriously i swear and you can not change my mind, im thanking the gods every night for it.
@lovelymill
11 ай бұрын
why thanking the gods if you chose it yourself?
@jenbodhi1133
10 ай бұрын
Same
@paulamarianaruiz
10 ай бұрын
There is only one God and he is the only one you can pray to to give you a fitting partner
@ko-xu1lr
9 ай бұрын
@@paulamarianaruiz No one is ever forced to worship this one and only God
@paulamarianaruiz
9 ай бұрын
@@ko-xu1lr then God is not forced to give you the life and opportunity you want
@dabbythehashelf9328
11 ай бұрын
My take as a gay man: many women are forcefully infantilized, and many men are grown infants.
@idkwhatever9561
9 ай бұрын
ayyyy a fellow queer, love that for us!
@emptyvoid5272
9 ай бұрын
@@Sleipnirseight This, except it's more weird in my case personally because I'm not sexually attracted to women but I can be romantically attracted to them
@Enriquez2222
8 ай бұрын
I hate talking to a man and it feeling like I’m having a conversation with a child that i have to teach. Omg 😱
@kausha7135
5 ай бұрын
@@Enriquez2222 yes! Why do I have to spell out for a man something they should know if they had BASIC EMPATHY. Men act like that's so hard for them because of biology... if that's true, then learn. Women have been extremely successful in male traits like leadership and male-centric careers because we took the time to master them, even if society or biology put us at a disadvantage. Men can learn female traits like compassion, intuition, and empathy.
@kentuckyfriedsocks4384
3 ай бұрын
I think its because men aren't taught basic stuff as a child, like hygiene. There are also issues that to be a man (back then), you must be stoic, and bottle your emotions. Some men are unable to deal with their emotions because of them, have have strayed afar, even being exploitable. I cant provide my insight on forceful infantile because for one, I prefer mature women, or tall women.
@vanessarichardson110
11 ай бұрын
Actually they probably would resort to violence rather than do better for themselves. Because if they improve themselves, they'd be admitting that they're wrong and that embarrassment is defeat and loss in their sick minds.
@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living
11 ай бұрын
Good point. I think this is true because we’re seeing an increase in male-on-female violence.
@Mukyuify
11 ай бұрын
yep, it will get worse. we need to get ready.
@keymango
11 ай бұрын
I always tell my friends to invest in a purse friendly weapon like a stun gun, baton, bear spray, pocket knife, or a taser. In some cases, if you’re eligible for a permit, stay carried
@vanessarichardson110
11 ай бұрын
@@keymango listening to the advice in feminine empowerment videos are more effective
@keymango
11 ай бұрын
@@vanessarichardson110 That too! They help me navigate what to look out for in certain men, circles, and self worth!
@Datb2
11 ай бұрын
i almost got attached to a loser bum once he started askin me for money i said good bye and then he had the audacity to say i took advantage of him. took advantage of what your broke!
@howdypartner3403
11 ай бұрын
You make it sound as if she left him because she asked him for money and he had none or said no. Stop trying to twist shit.
@howdypartner3403
11 ай бұрын
My comment is directed at joel.
@Liz-wz8dh
11 ай бұрын
If they spend ANY money on a date, they later consider that a waste of their investment if you leave just like if they buy you dinner and you don't put out.
@Datb2
11 ай бұрын
@@Liz-wz8dh he was asking ME, a WOMAN for money so how is there any waste of investment here in what I said?
@Peekaboooooooooo4
11 ай бұрын
You should feel ashamed by asking a women for money. Get yourself a job. Men had 2 jobs to feed their family
@ChampagneCrimeStories
11 ай бұрын
So on one hand they complain that women end relationships more than they do, but then they do things to make us break up with them!!?!! 😮😮😮
@and123_
11 ай бұрын
The same as they complain that women file more for divorce, but they do everything in their power to make thouse women go over their limits.
@somepenguin508
11 ай бұрын
@Allah_Loves_Forgives_and_Savesthings like???
@kantik2118
11 ай бұрын
Things like crazy making, gaslighting. Flirting with other women in front of you, cheating and lying in yo face, letting you go 90/10 while you work and he's home doing nothing ...
@kanikakumari7219
6 ай бұрын
@entityoferrorsif you had a girlfriend you wouldn't be commenting here. Bye
@dirtyprancing5930
2 ай бұрын
@@and123_That one makes me crazy. My husband literally walked out on me but on paper, I’m the one who filed for divorce (one year later ftr). Absolutely parhetic
@xletragedyx
11 ай бұрын
I don't mind coffee dates as a first date. I've been on a couple with guys who ended up wanting to be serious and took me on proper (expensive) dates later. Buuuuuut with my husband, his effort was immediately noticeable and different. We talked a lot, hours and hours, over two weeks before we met in person. He met me with flowers, a card, he was basically ready to get married on the spot lmao. We got married 4 months later and it's been 3 (very happy) years now. I've dated pretty much every kind of loser and I definitely felt their hatred even if I wouldn't have called it that then. I've dated guys that treated me like garbage, but after a time were really good friends to me. They then treated me as well as they treated their male friends and better than their partners. I realized I can't be friends with someone who can't get along with women. Everything in this video is straight fucking facts. Men who hate themselves won't respect you and will hate you for stooping to be with them.
@Dani_33
11 ай бұрын
"I realized I can't be friends with someone who can't get along with women." EXACTLY. It's really important to have circles who don't hold any grudges against anyone in general cuz it's just not a good vibe to have especially when you want to live a good life.
@mommabear887
11 ай бұрын
My courtship with my husband was short too. 5 or 6 months. I had an old bf that wanted 3 years. I tell my daughter don't bother dating someone not looking for marriage. It's a waste of time to be someone's place holder.
@buttarain27
11 ай бұрын
I don't mind a casual coffee date for just getting to know a guy you don't really know, however, if he wants to continue doing those kinds of dates even after establishing a connection then we have a problem.
@xletragedyx
11 ай бұрын
@buttarain27 yeah you don't need more than 1 coffee date, in my opinion. A coffee date is basically an interview lol
@brownie2767
10 ай бұрын
@@xletragedyxthank you! I’m glad someone finally said it, and it that makes a lot of sense actually. Basically an interview lol.
@blueblueee566
11 ай бұрын
And the way they try to make women believe we're at fault for whatever madness they chose daily is insane honestly
@PassionateFlower
11 ай бұрын
If a man tells you his ex girlfriend is crazy, do not sleep with him, do not date him, do not marry him. If a man tells you that his ex girlfriend suffers from debilitating mental health issues that she refuses to seek treatment for and it was deteriorating his mental and or physical health to stay involved with her and they parted bittersweet but amicably because he realized that no matter how much he cared for her, it was her responsibility for the sake of the health of the relationship for her to seek treatment for her condition and not let her boyfriend just be her boyfriend and tried to make him her 24/7 therapist THEN you may have some sympathy for him, see if you get the sense she's truly been out of the picture for quite some time, and that beyond having a severe mental health problem she refused to seek treatment for, he only had positive or neutral things to say about her. But as soon as a guy refers to his exes merely as "crazy" or "toxic" girl you better RUN! He is the toxic crazy one who leaves women who are probably normal people with reasonable needs and boundaries and maybe he pushed them to react so he could use it against them later and gain sympathy from new women.
@gooberdoober8416
11 ай бұрын
What about if he says his ex girlfriend was abusive?
@gond6099
10 ай бұрын
@@gooberdoober8416'then he's lying" ☝️ 🤓
@letym2271
9 ай бұрын
This is what happened to me. I was labeled the bad guy. 🤪 When I was the one who got emotionally abused and cheated on. The replacement didn't even bother getting the facts straight, she even called me manipulative for asking a simple question: "are you dating my boyfriend?" lmao. I guess that's what they call a "pickmeish" in this channel 😅
@alyajewellery
11 ай бұрын
Looked at my Cat and understood. What he brings to the table is existing and it is my job to provide. I need to be more Cat!
@TheFeyRa
11 ай бұрын
Actually, that's a good way to think about it. Thanks!!
@smallypuppy22
10 ай бұрын
Perfect analogy
@lilymulligan8180
10 ай бұрын
Flawless analogy 👏🏻
@wateriswet02
9 ай бұрын
So you want to go back to being some man's property again under an oppressive patriarcial system. Where they control what you do, what you say, what you eat, like a pet.
@Shadwclaw
5 ай бұрын
So... you just compared yourself to a pet?? That means you want to be treated as such then too, right?
@xoala6344
11 ай бұрын
I used to be okay with coffee dates because yes, you can see if you “click” with someone without potentially having to sit through a long dinner. But I’ve realized coffee dates are so…awkward and don’t provide the right environment/setting to actually be attracted to the guy. If a guy asks you out on a date, he should do it the proper way and pick a place with a good ambiance, conducive to creating the “spark”. Coffee dates are for friends and co-workers, and maybe way later in the dating stages when you’re trying to be more casual with the guy. If you want to gauge chemistry before a full-on date, do a FaceTime call instead.
@rejectionisprotection4448
11 ай бұрын
Preach. 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯. I'm used to meeting friends in coffee shops and so that's my association with that kind of place. Any man who wanted a coffee shop date already put himself in the friendzone.
@rejectionisprotection4448
11 ай бұрын
@@joelrcj.775 She's already said why coffee dates aren't the right environment for her, so I don't know why you're trying to persuade her otherwise........or maybe I do. Maybe you want to encourage her to accept low effort dates because you'll have greater access to her or someone like her. You go from one extreme to the other. From low effort coffee dates to "unfulfilling" one night stands. Talk about a binary mindset. There are plenty of options between those two extremes, but it's not in your interests to talk about them I guess. There are plenty of other women who are happy with low effort dates. Maybe you should find them instead. As for the "being realistic". I'm always suspicious of those who advocate for being "realistic". It sounds like a ticket on the train to a joyless life.
@xoala6344
11 ай бұрын
@@joelrcj.775 that’s not what I said at all? I said the opposite actually. You can get to know someone in a setting that feels natural & conducive to good conversation. For example, a restaurant with a good ambiance is way better than a neighborhood coffee shop. It doesn’t need to be a super luxurious high end place. And how is that “romance”? No one is expecting to fall in love on date 1. Like I mentioned, if you want to get to know someone to see if you’re interested in going on a date in the first place, then just do a phone call. Everyone has their preferences, so if you’ve been having success with coffee dates, then by all means, continue.
@keymango
11 ай бұрын
@@joelrcj.775Coffee dates are pretty cheap and affordable. And dates are usually how men reflect on their dates: cheap and affordable. I have seen men’s comments on how coffee dates are “easy to have” and “she’ll have to pay” and stuff.
@JUNJYR
10 ай бұрын
@@tinycatfromhell Until you start paying the bills for dates with men you barely know, calling them low-effort is veeery hypocritical. Ironically, it's going out with women who expect the world just for "deigning to bless them" with their presence and time that would make them bums.
@Patricia-uz2xx
11 ай бұрын
So true! Men offer dates based on how they perceive you!! I once went on a date, coffee cake date, when he saw me he said wooow we are getting a dinner and what flowers do you like 😂 i also like to go on creative dates, like picknick provided by him with beutifuuuuul view, boat ride or wine tasting. Doesnt have to be fancy restaurant, but it has to show- he cares! Once i got surpsied by stand up comedy, i just mentioned i love stand up, and he got tickets🎉 dont agree on easy cheap dates. If you wanna date, you get ready, same goes for men ❤
@Patricia-uz2xx
11 ай бұрын
@@redleeks6253 yes, I know!!! Or let's meet up and see. Yeah, 🚫, either you have plan, or I stay at home :D
@smhan280
7 ай бұрын
I needed to hear this! Ugh
@mettamorph4523
6 ай бұрын
I've been the bbq date. It's a show for the relatives. Either to prove he has a woman or to keep a streak of always bringing a different woman. It's all about his ego.@@redleeks6253
@carlospita6442
3 ай бұрын
He was a simp. Giving you different treatment
@AwoogaWolf
9 ай бұрын
the lyrics from the song In The Summertime: "If her daddy's rich, take her out for a meal, If her daddy's poor, just do what you feel" that really clearly proves that men know the expectations set up by the father will determine access to a woman
@Innernoor
11 ай бұрын
Girl I made a post about not going on coffee dates and they ate me up in the comments 😭
@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living
11 ай бұрын
I believe it. The sad part is I bet that not only did the BBMLE men went after you, but the pick-me chicks also went after you as well!
@rensii-e8b
11 ай бұрын
@@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Livingand what’s sad is the Pickmeishas go soooo hard for them, but these men still don’t want them lol
@catcat9582
11 ай бұрын
You look like you could be in bridgerton or some type of regal role they can kick rocks you are beyond beautiful
@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living
11 ай бұрын
@@gailainsley6939 BBMLE - below bare minimum low effort
@emjitheg
11 ай бұрын
@@gailainsley6939below bare minimum low effort
@cloudypolly22
11 ай бұрын
The whole coffee date thing really illustrates the hook up culture perfectly. Dating is supposed to be to find your mate, so women select their mate based on their standards. Men who want to marry a woman will to anything to impress her
@demodiums7216
11 ай бұрын
not to women they just met lol
@irinaivanovic9792
11 ай бұрын
If they are dating "intentionally", YES THEY DO. @@demodiums7216
@Elisabetta.Scalisi
10 ай бұрын
@@demodiums7216 Not true. A man attracted to you and wanting to getting to know you will put EFFORT. A coffe date is just a cheap way to date multiple women.
@demodiums7216
10 ай бұрын
@@Elisabetta.Scalisi So its only possible to get to know you if I pay 100 dollars? You could literally be a serial killer for all I know. I'll spend money AFTER we know each other better
@cloudypolly22
9 ай бұрын
@@demodiums7216 Coffee dates are cheap date cosplays to try to not hurt the woman's feeling by making her believe the guy wants something else than her body. It's giving tinder, friends with benefits, and situationship vibes. But women can get pregnant, it's easier for men to play that game, that has been sold disguised as "feminism" and "freedom".
@susannehuber3996
10 ай бұрын
Even if he hates you, like my ex hated me and you dump that hater, he will go badshit crazy 😜. It’s true. So with men you can’t win. Well, now I’m winning 24/7 by staying single.
@ksniderdesign
11 ай бұрын
“You do not need to be useful to be loved” brb crying at work
@joujou7063
11 ай бұрын
Thank you very much for this, all the women in my life have TERRIBLE self esteem and barely give themselves love. Growing up I was always around toxic men and thats what I attracted.
@KarinaLicursi
2 ай бұрын
I had a guy with whom I was friends start to pull away and act like a jerk. He didn't the courage to end our friendship. It was absolutely annoying that I had to do it. I'm glad it's over mainly because we had a crush on each other, and even though he said he wasn't looking for anyone, he'd still try to flirt with me.
@swetha1252
11 ай бұрын
Ur content is really life changing Elle....my perception of viewing friendship and relationship has been changed because of u...so thank you so much
@therealmanifestelle
11 ай бұрын
thank you 🙏🏽
@annmarieknapp
11 ай бұрын
I've had many men take financial advantage of me because I was dumb enough to do it. And then they have the nerve to hold it against you. I hate sexism and misogyny, and sadly I've learned that many men really just don't like women. I feel liberated letting go of illusion that being alone is gasp..."the worst outcome alive for middle-aged women...to end up alone with a cat or cats.". I am alone with a cat, by choice. And while I have times when I'm lonely, I am content to be alone. Maybe I channel my inner Greta Garbo, IDK. But, I'm not settling for a guy just because I fear being alone, when I'm actually happier being on my own. I don't have to worry about taking care of another person or putting their needs above my own. I can't recall a time when I had a relationship where men didn't come first above me and with my son, I came in third. As a mother, I was okay with my son coming first in life because I'm his parent and I signed up for that when I wanted to become a mother. But, my husband being above me too?? Ah that didn't work so well. Not when he was abusive, an alcoholic, and a cheater. At this point in my life I am finally putting myself first because no one else ever will. Done with that.
@JanClaireBugnay
11 ай бұрын
I had the experience to be in a relationship where I was literally raising a man who is in his feminine energy and how ironic it is that he also has the audacity to say he hates women because he wanted to be a woman himself. He just wanna sit and play games. hhahahha
@Nina_banana
11 ай бұрын
Wanting to sit and play games isn’t what I would consider feminine energy.
@Peekaboooooooooo4
11 ай бұрын
Loser energy*
@summero-my5in
11 ай бұрын
Kind of insulting to call that feminine energy
@gateway2hell
11 ай бұрын
femininity is when sit down and play games 🤓
@damien678
10 ай бұрын
That sounds like a trans woman that's got a loooong road ahead of her towards self-acceptance, ngl.
@megamoneyk
11 ай бұрын
I dating a CPO of a biotechnology company. He complained our dates were too expensive. I said ok some net flicks and chill sometimes. It has gotten out of hand lately. We had an agreement that he would help pay a property tax now he wants to stop. I told him I was clear I need a provider then he claims he will but still has not. I want to take a break from him. He claims he has to pay for his sister who was getting evicted and then his mother. He needs to date them. I'm tired. I deleted his number out my phone. He texted this morning. I almost did not answer. I try to ignore his texts and he takes a tantrum. I'm going try to open my options.
@MarioCasino-yr1ee
11 ай бұрын
"Dear diary..."
@dirtyprancing5930
2 ай бұрын
That’s so annoying. They really make promises, don’t want to keep them, and somehow that’s your fault. They set the tone for dates, don’t want to maintain it, and that’s your fault. Tired of taking responsibility for every little thing.
@peebbeep4830
9 ай бұрын
Loneliness isn’t even as bad as being a straight woman that just wants to feel safe
@destroyraiden
11 ай бұрын
That's interesting they do thing on purpose to get dumped but don't have the balls or leadership skills to tell the woman they want to be dumped or don't want to be with her due to his own issues yet they stay, blame her, and treat her bad. I suppose this means all women who encounter their man who is a fuck up more then once can just say, "I see you need to be dumped, I'll let you have that you have 24 hours or less to move your shit out of my house/life or else I'm calling a junk company to help you."
@keymango
11 ай бұрын
I’d rather be single and patient and let God send me a man who’s equally Godly, has golden retriever energy, loves his family, educated, and has equal ideals to me (childfree, Christian, leftist, etc.) then EVER settle for a man who simply showed temporary kindness at me. Your videos always come on time! Keep it up! 🫶🏾💕
@slayfaee
11 ай бұрын
Fellow childfree queen!! 🥹 you’ll receive him sis!
@keymango
11 ай бұрын
@@slayfaeeYESSS Amen!! 🙏🏾 Lots of women in my old church always told me that I’ll change my mind and all that jazz. But I DO NOT hate children. That’s antinatalism. I simply don’t want any of my own. If I ever do want any human children, we’re doing adoption because the foster system is messed up 😢 Also already got my silly fur daughter Emma 😂
@babysinclaire
11 ай бұрын
Childfree❤, yes!
@M00NL9GHT
11 ай бұрын
A CHRISTIAN LEFTIST!! Thank God there are still good people in the world!! ❤️ Rooting for you sis wish you the best in life! ❤️
@keymango
11 ай бұрын
@@M00NL9GHT Thank you! And yeah, it’s a rare breed. Jesus did believe in ideals that are similar to left ideology, but I’d separate my religious background with my politics. Still, they overlap in kindness and justice 💙🙏🏾
@MARISKI-music
10 ай бұрын
Yep. I had to loan my boyfriend $1,000. Turns out he had been texting sex workers behind my back.. (apparently it’s kinda my own fault for “snooping” lmfao)
@katgreer6113
10 ай бұрын
Sorry, but I hope it's over between you too. Sounds like a nightmare.
@GixeGina
8 ай бұрын
People who purposely screw up in their relationships to get their partner to break up with them are terrible. I've unfortunately had male friends who did that and it is such an ick. It makes me lose respect for them.
@HereIAm247
10 ай бұрын
I don't think a coffee/walking date is bad because it is 'cheap'. But they are generally terrible for giving the best chance of having good chemistry. 😅 It is a low effort date - and likely to yield pretty low results. If you do nothing but sit across from each other the first time you meet, even if the chemistry is there, it will quickly turn awkward. And humans are terrified of awkward. A good first date involves some kind of activity that don't prevent you from getting to know each other, but engage you enough that you don't have those awkward pauses (because you have something to fill them with). And it has a time limit that is long enough to get a good impression, but short enough to prevent it becoming boring or too much. Maybe something with a light amount of touch as well, though not too much. This will make you more relaxed and natural, and you will get a much better idea of your chemistry.
@AmericanDreamer
10 ай бұрын
very good point 🎯
@kitkatbar3871
11 ай бұрын
Had a one convo with a guy who was so into the manosphere and the hate he had towards women was wild. Next thing i know he debating me what hormones men and women have
@Nyuffykah
11 ай бұрын
If he knows about hormones he should understand why he has to provide too :D
@flutenanyidk1806
11 ай бұрын
Bro he didn’t get me anything for my birthday and he skipped Valentine’s Day!! …Why did I wait this long to dump him? The more I keep reading comments the more I realize he probably never loved me and just wanted attention or he was bored… dang.
@charmemez
11 ай бұрын
I've been listening to your videos because I seem to always choose BBMLE men. But I realise... my own father might be one?? And it just breaks my heart because I probably learned that this behaviour is acceptable. I don't know if I'll ever be able to successfully reprogram myself but thanks for your videos and I wish the best for all the spoiled girlies out here.
@AyaEgbuho
11 ай бұрын
Yes you can reprogram yourself. ❤
@kgaogelomohale6868
11 ай бұрын
I was thinking that the fact that you appreciate this post is a sign that you are reprogramming yourself ❤
@skyandthemoon
11 ай бұрын
What is a BBLME man????
@contextfree7807
10 ай бұрын
That guy is one of the people who makes me genuinely mad on the internet. He is so hateful in a pathetic way. He looks so hurt most of the time and comes alive when women gets bashed like you can see fire in his eyes when the type of women he doesn’t like gets bashed. Why does he care about women’s lifestyles who he’s not gonna date? It’s okay to have your preferences. There are plenty of women out there who are very traditional and reserved, just find those women 🙄 he’s just so hurt for some reason
@AmericanDreamer
10 ай бұрын
yes.. and - hurt people hurt people
@mikaelaburke8468
4 ай бұрын
I just started listening to this recently. I’ve been in a relationship with my bf for a little over a year and I could never put my finger on why this relationship has worked out so much better than my last. I feel so much more like myself, I can be a girly girl, I always feel supported and loved. It’s because he has the provider mindset. Big green flag is that when I listen to this while he sits in the background he’s constantly saying things like “she’s so right” “I totally agree”… I think he loves the spoiled girlies podcast as much as I do 💖
@samanthanoeliaferrer
11 ай бұрын
Straight up facts. I need to stop simpimg over men who are not worthhhhh
@yasminchronicles
11 ай бұрын
i mean our first date, my ex and i were literally almost restaurant/coffee shop hopping because it was a dinner first, then coffee while we walked, then tea in a coffee shop again to warm up. similar vibes with consequent dates. fast forward 6 months in and he wouldn't even buy me a cup of coffee or an ice cream, all dates are at his place, "do you expect me to have to win you over EVERY DAY?"
@keymango
11 ай бұрын
I’m glad he’s an ex now ❤
@jandapanda01
10 ай бұрын
I’ve always gotten shit for being a spoiled girlie, like ok I just know my worth 🙄💅 you just gained a new sub, your channel is so empowering!!
@LeilaniLight11709
9 ай бұрын
In my 30's I had a boyfriend, that wanted to come over and use my place (he lived with his mother), as a hotel, and wanted me to pay my share of our meals out together. I didn't know any better. And then he would call and say he could have picked up this woman or that when he went out with others. OMG. I broke up with him right away, and he snubbed me at the meditation group we both were part of. HIs poor EGO. I was very nice about breaking up with him at a neutral place, my friend's home. Months later, maybe more, he called me at home, and I was shocked. I asked WHY he called me! And I got off the phone right away. What is WITH these men, who think that they can trivialize you, traumatize you, make you pay your own way, use you as a resource (house, sex etc.) and then when you dump them, get bent out of shape and then later on try again? I've had more than one chase me after I cut them loose. It's WEIRD!
@lilymulligan8180
10 ай бұрын
Okay but WHY are men so hesitant to just break up with girlfriends they hate?? My ex hated me for like the last 3 years of our 4.5 year relationship 🙄 many lessons learned from that experience, but GODDAMN just break up with me if you want me out of your life that badly!!
@SoloCityTravels
11 ай бұрын
Love your content so much!!! So true what you say about being able to sniff out a below bare minimum effort man once you love yourself. I’m still a work in progress, but I went on a date and was never so repulsed by a man in my life. He was under employed, living with 7 roommates at 31 and talking badly about women who get plastic surgery and just complained the whole date about society 🙄🙄🙄 If this happened last year I’d probably still be talking to him and giving him the benefit of the doubt😅 Thank you for making me realize I am a spoiled girly who needs to start acting like it❤️
@reginageorgetownuni
6 ай бұрын
If a man makes it that easy for me to leave, imma thank god and leave. Phew
@samisugarcube
9 ай бұрын
These videos bring me so much peace whenever I’m overthinking on my past. Thank you.
@laylarahman11
11 ай бұрын
Just went to the guy's account. The profile pic alone speaks volumes.
@Alex-pn2hn
11 ай бұрын
Show this podcast to a fresh and fit boi or a tate stan and they will have a meltdown and self-destruct.
@月亮-g5f
4 ай бұрын
Thank you for existing) i learn so much valuable, life saving information from your videos and they are free for everyone. Thank you imaginary big sis, wish you success in everything
@LiaBunny93
11 ай бұрын
omg yes! i've had guys who have crush on me but get mad when i don't want to go out with them
@SapphireChristella
8 ай бұрын
Trying to get the fuck away from my current boyfriend because his weaponized incompetence is literally so expensive on top of everything else. All those ignored signs and chickens have come home to roost. Once I have safe housing I will happily live with my pets and mind my own business in peace. It’s gonna take a minute to work through the shame of staying in such a toxic relationship but at least I know that I’m Never doing that again.
@ciggytwiggy
8 ай бұрын
I can NEVER understand why women would want a man who is unemployed and then pay their lifestyle.
@aimforlifenow
6 ай бұрын
The concept of romance and true love has really wasted so many women’s lives.
@alexcoop8068
11 ай бұрын
I joke to my ex all the time about yow he just decided one day he doesn’t like me and that’s when he started talking to other girls. I presented an open relationship when we first got together. He didn’t want it, he would have rather cheated. It took until WELL AFTER we had broken up for him to just say he didn’t like me, hadn’t been attracted to me for a long time. Still won’t admit to being jealous of me for making much more money than him even though he throws it in my face any chance he gets. If he wanted to, he would is such a true statement
@butamoe-my7qt
Ай бұрын
Trust me, listen to elle Their logic works for EVERY guy no matter their race or age, or their intrinsic personality. I learned it the hard way. A man is at their best mental state when they are the ones providing and investing, and when we are relaxed because of that. They subconsciously start feeling resentment towards women when they think they have nothing to provide for her.
@solfh
10 ай бұрын
The men i dated that were not it were not playing video games.. were busy driven individuals with a huge hint of ego that turned into hate towards women. Awful. Literally every time i give an opinion, men that I don’t even know, family men, date men, they call me crazy, they put so many labels on me, they literally ask how many men i dated and why I can’t be alone.. like bish i am alone the majority of my time and why would you even care .. the mental problems they project, omg
@garnet1223
11 ай бұрын
this is such an *important* channel-- i cant even begin to explain. You're everything girl, keep it up!!
@EvelynMutisya
11 ай бұрын
The guy i was dating blocked me on my birthday and unblocked me after and the rate at which i am going to block him out of my life after this video will be the best decision i will have to make.
@Yusheesan
8 ай бұрын
I, personally, prefer coffee dates just for personal safety and the ability to leave quickly if we don't click. But that only applies to men I don't know or have never met in person.
@theonethatlived6223
10 ай бұрын
imagine thinking that the unfairness is women’s rights and not the thousands of years of years of female oppressionq
@jacindanolavieuxdeaux
3 ай бұрын
Oh how I wish I had your advice when I was in my 20’s! Thankfully I do now, and I plan to follow your lead bestie! 🙏🏻❤️
@Harborough1
Ай бұрын
I had a boyfriend in my twenties who waited for me to break up. He was sooo indifferent to my feelings. He seemed relieved when we finally broke up. I regret spending as much time as I did on him.
@KINGTHEYORKIE
11 ай бұрын
5:08 coffee dates is either the guy or women have trust issues that is why they want the low investment incase. So from the beginning both of them didn’t see each other as valuable
@jemmagordon4439
5 ай бұрын
Being disabled has its advantages. Most men don't want to spend the effort in understanding what it means to be disabled and I don't put up with bullshit like that
@NewOrleansGirl
10 ай бұрын
Wait the beginning was WORD FOR WORD my relationship with my ex. Oh my goodness. Thank you for uploading this!
@BebeJane19
11 ай бұрын
I disagree with no coffee/walking dates on the first date. I mean, if you're just meeting this person for the first time, it's best to keep it casual. No pressure, no need to stay if you can tell you aren't going to work out. Otherwise, I agree with all of this.
@rileylink4584
11 ай бұрын
I don't think I understand the coffee date thing. I personally wouldn't mind but I know that some women do so I'm just curious as to why? When I go on dates I judge the date based on the vibe with the person, how interested they seem in learning about me, how much we have in common, etc. The place doesn't matter to me. No judgement here just genuine curiosity?
@becca1147
2 ай бұрын
Girl you are so wise. Love your videos!
@ItsNatalieMedina
8 ай бұрын
This is honestly Therapy for me. Thank you for your help. I’m a pickmeishia in rehab thanks to you
@BlueBabyCloud
11 ай бұрын
I love your content and I hope you keep creating content for us spoiled girlies~! With a spoiled mindset, I received a man who takes me on restaurant dates and trips out of the state, all expenses paid for, with little movement on my side ❤
@lilymohsye
11 ай бұрын
Loved every word!!!! Ty! ❤
@Egress00
11 ай бұрын
What I've noticed in most cases is they will just expose themselves at some point when they're comfortable. This goes for both men and women I mean it's super easy to make excuses for someone you like and ignore the weird crap they do, excusing it as a their 'uniqueness' but if something they do rubs you the wrong way... GET A SECOND OPINION FROM SOMEONE YOU TRUST because I can guarantee you'll keep making excuses for them all the way up until shit hits the fan
@ellebassa9288
11 ай бұрын
Have come up with a really kind way to reject coffee dates or like walking dates. Just be like that's more of a thing I do with my friends and then just see how you react to that.
@skystruck236
10 ай бұрын
Third video I’ve seen from you now, and I just can’t get over how smart you are. And seriously girlies really should take what you say into mind more than they probably do. Seriously y’all. Currently in a bad abusive relationship and this girl is helping me wake up from the dead. This girl knows some shit. Seriously. She’s on to something and I’m so grateful to have her on my KZitem screen and “in my life” 😂 I hope I become a true spoiled girly in time
@lauralee5226
11 ай бұрын
I'm really crying. I feel lie this video just hit at the right time. In my last relationship, I really like him. He was so much nicer than my ex. I wanted to treat him well. I bought him food, clothes. I got him gifts, remembered his birthday. But he slowly disengaged with me. I started to notice he didnt treat me like his ex, who he almost worshipped. He forgot my birthday, wouldnt pay for any dates. He would have never treated me like he treated her. I need to start changing my behavior. I want to treat my partner but not if they dont do the same for me. I guess that means I should start paying attention more to my appearance, maybe workout some
@belphieyiu
7 ай бұрын
Okay, short story, I'm still a minor, with only 2 "exes". I wouldn't call them that but yeah. I'm 17 and when I first moved school an year prior, I had REALLY liked this guy because he was really nice. He told me about his homies and his interests and how he was more into "gossip" than any other female which is already a red flag. I knew he suffered from absurd amount of self-hate and insecurity but my dumb-self thought I could fix it. After months of being his friend, he starts dating my other friend, she's really nice and she never knew I liked him. Tensions broke out between both of them only in a matter of weeks, they broke up. She told me he was hard to handle and moved on very quickly. Few more months later, me and him get closer, he asks me out, I say yes and oh god I regret it. He would trauma-dump, constantly call me out for having "too many" guy friends when it was just one of my childhood friend, talk about his past exes, his girl "friends", his mother and so much more. I went through a lot and safe to say, I've never been much happier, while he thinks its funny to talk shit about me when he's the one not over me.
@belphieyiu
7 ай бұрын
Oh and...before we dated, he once told me that he would never marry or end up being in an arranged marriage because he thought love isn't "real" and women get bored.
@Sophine
10 ай бұрын
If I ever thought to accept a coffee date from a man, I dont like him like that. And then it will always lead me to say no and not go on that date because why waste my time with someone im not interested in.
@OGfromQueens
11 ай бұрын
I'm so proud that the younger generation of women have come to these realizations early. Big up yaself young lady!
@Lunaaaaaa03
11 ай бұрын
🥰🥰
@SA-ey6nt
11 ай бұрын
That's the power of talking to each other..
@ayuanabradford3206
11 ай бұрын
We learn it. At least i learn it as from my grandparents relationship. My grandmother put up with my grandfather and it sad. It seem like he dont respect my grandmother as he only use her to take care of him. When i was young i didnt see this until i moved in with them and i could see how my grandmother put up with the controlling abuse. He never help her; when she say she cant see where she walking. He wont take her to the store when needed and if he do he complains but…Like she take it and once she threaten to leave, but her parent’s died and now she stuck with him for life. As if she leave she will be back because back then baby boomers had no choices like women today do. I feel bad for my grandmother because i see it because my grandfather complains how i waste alot of his gas when i give him first $50,$75 and than $100. Like it was to much i had to walked once and almost got kidnapped and than my ex took me from school and i moved in with him. Also my grandfather. He threw a shoe at me once for not waking up on time… so yeah i don’t blame women. Find a men that will respect u and u dont mind taking care of you.
@sadiemakesmesmile
10 ай бұрын
You also learned it from older single women and teachers like me, who fought the patriarchy and were brave to add our voice when it wasn’t so easy.
@kgs2280
8 ай бұрын
@@sadiemakesmesmileRight on, Sister! Second Wave woman here too. Now, hopefully, these younger women will finally be able to teach the men by no longer putting up with their BS.
@sarahmaswadeh490
11 ай бұрын
If y’all ever really wanna know if the guy you’re seeing is misogynistic just outright say something misogynistic & see if he agrees with u. Works every time
@catcat9582
11 ай бұрын
Another tip ask what kinda porn he likes in a non confrontational tone if you are against porn because he will think things are gonna get saucy but really you are seeing if you two are compatible
@sarahjaye4117
11 ай бұрын
@@catcat9582That’s a good idea as he could be into a thing you are not and/or abusive.
@nannaed7833
11 ай бұрын
Brilliant!! I’ve always done this to sort them out
@jayq4374
11 ай бұрын
@@catcat9582 I like misogynistic porn as a women so I don’t agree I think kinks are separate from real life mostly
@catcat9582
11 ай бұрын
@jayq4374 I think for women that's true
@SoniaBonia33
11 ай бұрын
I’m going to correct one thing: do not take men at their word. Words aren’t tangible. Actions are. The follow through on his word is what matters.
@TMeyer-ge5pj
11 ай бұрын
Omg yes! I was dating (as in going on dates) with a guy during a stressful time in my life. I was moving and had a lot of family stuff going on. He would say "I know you're stressed..." but then expect me to spend hours going on dates with him, instead of making the dates like an hour or two. I stopped seeing him because it felt like he didn't really make an effort to respect my time, even though he knew I was stressed about it
@mommybasics
11 ай бұрын
Yes!!!
@shainahernandez5492
11 ай бұрын
@@petervizzini4006no shit Sherlock
@lesvianaura
11 ай бұрын
Wish someone told me this with my last relationship. It's so exhausting to ask for the bare minimum and for him to say "I'll do better" just for it to never happen.
@aliya6158
11 ай бұрын
Feeling the same . I was waiting for my birthday dinner for 6 months (!), yep, I was that stupid to stuck with him for 6 more months, and then I finally broke up with him he was surprised 😅
@kiterafrey
10 ай бұрын
Women: Don't be a dick. "Lonely" Men: The bar is unrealistically high standards.
@AmericanDreamer
10 ай бұрын
🙌🎯
@rainydayz6429
10 ай бұрын
Actual standards: be at least 6 ft Make at least 6 figures a year Drive a nice car Own a nice house Big (you know what) 6 pack abs, skinny/ athletic Sharp jaw line, etc etc.. Guys ACTUAL standards: Feminine, nice, open, non-problematic. 🤷🏻
@sadiemakesmesmile
10 ай бұрын
@@rainydayz6429as a woman, you have not described my standards at all. But thanks for showing you can generalise but we can’t.
@sadiemakesmesmile
10 ай бұрын
@@rainydayz6429also there is a lot of misogyny attached to ‘non problematic’ when it’s referring to women, maybe you didn’t know…
@SiegfriedLextr
10 ай бұрын
@@sadiemakesmesmile Is there no misandry attached to "don't be a dick"???? Goes both ways.
@Ducky2613
11 ай бұрын
im not sure if you saw the podcast clip where the woman said she has such deep rich caring friendships with women that it makes dating men hard (she said she's straight) and some guys gave her shit for it but it's so true. the way my friends and i care for each other is not something most of us have had from a man. it definitely sets a standard that im proud we give each other. knowing how great a connection to a person can be makes a lot of the bare minimum men seem so worthless to date.
@izabellaangel807
11 ай бұрын
omg same
@rejectionisprotection4448
11 ай бұрын
Reminds me of a scene from "SATC" where Charlotte says that maybe the women are each other's soulmates and not their bfs or husbands.
@inthegardenofmymind
10 ай бұрын
Same ! 🙏
@jenbodhi1133
10 ай бұрын
Same
@lilymulligan8180
10 ай бұрын
This is EXACTLY the realization I had when I finally decided to break up with my ex. I messed something up, big time, and faced big consequences, including really hurting a good friend and losing a fuckload of money. I stayed in bed for a week because I was too scared of what I would do behind the wheel. My friends who knew about the situation and who were impacted by it? They were all supportive. Even the friend who I hurt forgave me. My ex was literally the only person who treated me like shit. Instead of trying to console/soothe/distract me, he just rubbed salt in the wound. He ignored me for a week and criticized me for how I was handling my depression. Unfortunately for him, that silent treatment gave me the space to realize that as the person who I needed most in difficult times, was the person I could count on the least. His support was non-existent. That was when I realized that literally moving back in with my parents cuz I couldn't afford to live in that city alone was still the better choice than to stay with him.
@Priitreatment
11 ай бұрын
“When you provide for a man, he will always find someone else to provide FOR” I screamed. Wish someone told me this before. I’m going to put this up on a WALL somewhere
@schuylergeery-zink1923
9 ай бұрын
Not ALWAYS. I know many long term marriages where the woman runs a business and her husband watches the kids and keeps house with no issues.
@AaronD313
2 ай бұрын
As a man I don’t understand this sentiment. We don’t mind you providing as long as you don’t nag constantly 😊❤
@catcat9582
11 ай бұрын
They don't like rejecting women because we raise their status even if they don't personally like us.
@LadyJani
11 ай бұрын
Omg true!!!
@sarahjaye4117
11 ай бұрын
Indeed
@aliceluis3272
11 ай бұрын
If she broke up they also could use the narrative that the women in the relationship was the bad one or the crazy dramatic one or "feminism change her!" and pretending they are victims so the next girl can feel bad for him and mothering him because they "can't be alone for so long".
@gyarumocha
11 ай бұрын
@@aliceluis3272so true!! If they ever talk bad about their ex they’re definitely the one who did them wrong & want to gain sympathy from the next girl.. like why would you hate someone you dated? I wish I would’ve listened sooner. When men talk about their ex’s LISTEN!! don’t be like me.
@aliceluis3272
11 ай бұрын
@@gyarumocha Not always but it could be . We are more emotional so more easy to be fooIished. Maybe I am thinking to much but I dont like to see people played by their emotions . I think its looser behaviour needing to use a person you HATE.Also don't be harsh on yourself,everyone is a fool when they are in love, at least you learn something from that experience (I hope!).
@goddessvibes08
11 ай бұрын
Many men need counselling. Dunno why is this a thing.
@therealmanifestelle
11 ай бұрын
🤎
@jinhub2175
11 ай бұрын
Dating women as a woman has never looked so good😩🥵
@alyshalight9762
11 ай бұрын
Bc patriarchy tells men that things like "inner work" and "self-care" is something that only women do. Bc patriarchy values men for things they do and provide, not necessarily for how they ARE as human beings. Bc patriarchy does not hold men accountable for their actions when it comes to how they treat women and their children unless it is super egregious, and you can see that we've only very recently gotten better about that.
@dinosaur___7209
11 ай бұрын
They do need therapy but also it’s dangerous bc the worst men will go to therapy and just learn how to manipulate women better and be better abusers. It’s a ohenomenon
@demodiums7216
11 ай бұрын
@@alyshalight9762Its way better to be valued for who you are than what you provide
@noonereally4798
11 ай бұрын
Men don’t reject people or leave people because it doesn’t benefit them to do so, they basically want everyone, that’s why they cheat rather than leave, it’s because you are still of benefit, so why leave? They have a very have your cake and eat it too mentality, there is no limit to the amount of kids they can have, and it doesn’t cost them their body to have them, so why would they reject anyone or leave a unhappy relationship?
@irinaivanovic9792
11 ай бұрын
Excellent points. ALL of them. Men literally benefit NO. MATTER. WHAT.
@qtkev3933
11 ай бұрын
@@Bb-jm6wxbecause I honestly see a lot how women always go for the top of the top, the rich or the players that they think they can fix. Which leads to this cycle of categorizing these few experiences with men into these horrible species that only live to have sex and use women. Like what
@tinycatfromhell
11 ай бұрын
@@joelrcj.775 She's right though.
@Lunaaaaaa03
11 ай бұрын
Pure selfishness and it’s disgusting.
@thegaslightneverends
11 ай бұрын
@@Bb-jm6wx must be very intelligent to generalise an entire gender. im sure you have more intelligent thoughts to share with us...
@Erinba
11 ай бұрын
If you hate your girlfriend it’s because you are ABUSIVE. End of. My husband is abusive and before I realised this I used to always wonder why he hates me so much. One quick google and I realised I was in an abusive relationship.
@boldenmywords
11 ай бұрын
You've written this in present tense. I hope that you are making plans to leave the abuser.🙏
@Widlrr
11 ай бұрын
You needed google to figure that out?
@Erinba
11 ай бұрын
@@Widlrr yes I did - when you are being abused you don’t know what’s going on - took me years to realise I was in an abusive relationship. I know you are just trolling but take a look at yourself and have some empathy and compassion.
@MCE851
11 ай бұрын
@Erinba don't validate the scrote with a response. I feel you girly, the switch up males do is unreal.
@happilydivorced3235
11 ай бұрын
@@WidlrrYes, she needed Google to figure that out. I did too. Most women don’t have the knowledge of what abuse looks like. So, we spend most of our time trying to be the best wives as per the abuser’s demands until we realise that that doesn’t work. Abuse thrives on Ignorance.
@alyshalight9762
11 ай бұрын
ALL OF THIS. Oftentimes, as women, we think that when a man is down and out, if we just pour love into him -- i.e. supporting him mentally, emotionally, financially, & physically - we'll be rewarded with his love & loyalty when he gets his life together. But oftentimes, as Elle says, that man will repay all of that woman's love, effort, energy, attention, and loyalty, with complete show of disloyalty, disrespect, betrayal, and resentment. They actually (and I've seen many examples of this in real life) respect women who WALK AWAY from them or REFUSE to date them altogether when they are down in life. Meanwhile, they will haul ass for women they truly value who they feel are out of their league. And it's not just about avoiding guys who hate *you* - men who hate themselves are just as toxic, exhausting, and potentially dangerous. Avoid self-hating men like the plague!
@selrox879
11 ай бұрын
Its true.
@summero-my5in
11 ай бұрын
A lot of men will use a woman when they’re down and leave her for someone else when they’re back up. They would rather be with someone who wasn’t there to see their hard times
@Nyuffykah
11 ай бұрын
Unfortunately it is true. When we unconditionally love them they feel mothered and suffocated. Subconsciously everyone wants a person who puts up boundaries. People pleasers and nice girls are just walked over until they learn better. What thrills them about cold women is beyond me tho. If i am like that it means i am truly repelled by your energy. Why does it have to be a challenge? Men are mazoists.
@bres.4806
11 ай бұрын
@@NyuffykahI feel your comment so much. It's so gross how they want to be all on you and over you when you truly dislike them. Like nobody is playing hard to get I really don't want you. But then when you do actually start to like them the roles are somewhat reversed. The way to win the "game" is to literally see them as beneath you and treat them as such. It's so disheartening if you're not that type of person but want love and to be treated well. I just want to love and treat someone deserving right and they do the same. It's so rare though.
@annara686
10 ай бұрын
@@bres.4806, you're doing excellent job describing behavior of narcissistic man
@alyssamichaela
11 ай бұрын
Remember ladies, if he gets off on violent porn/can only get off if hes hitting or choking you, RUN. run very far and never come back.
@alyssamichaela
9 ай бұрын
@@fmm5577 what conclusion?
@mikuhaha261
9 ай бұрын
can you please let me know more about this? like why could this potentially be a red flag in a man? is it because of the misogynistic undertone?
@alyssamichaela
9 ай бұрын
@@mikuhaha261 you wanna know why a man getting off on the abuse of women is bad...?
@mikuhaha261
9 ай бұрын
youre right that is pretty abusive, im sorry if my comment seemed weird.. that type of stuff was normalized during my relationships, i thought as long as its consensual it wasnt a big deal but its clearer to me now, thank you for your reply
@alyssamichaela
9 ай бұрын
@@mikuhaha261 no you're okay. Sorry for the tone and I hope you're doing better now
@valentinamusic92
11 ай бұрын
Believe her, I saw this in my family and I'm healing my wounds as a daughter. I am resentful to my father and absolutely my mother for not protecting us and now I'm working to attract only men with golden retriver energy
@therealmanifestelle
11 ай бұрын
thank you for sharing🤎
@charmemez
11 ай бұрын
As someone who also sees this in my family, good luck, sister.
@keymango
11 ай бұрын
Praying for all the oldest sisters rn 🙏🏾💕 We’ll get our self-love and golden retriever bfs at the right time
@abul9052
11 ай бұрын
Exactly, it’s not as if women don’t have their own wounds to deal with.
@JanClaireBugnay
11 ай бұрын
this yes @@keymango
@g3n0sc1d3
11 ай бұрын
if my boyfriend ever goes through the i hate you phase, i am going to go through im dumping you arc.
@JuliaShalomJordan
11 ай бұрын
I was raised to be a people pleaser and attracted the biggest loser. When I finally realized my worth, is when I met my provider husband. He supports me and I really enjoy being not useful.😂
@rejectionisprotection4448
11 ай бұрын
You don't need to be useful of course. Men are natural energy leeches, so unless there is an energy exchange ie money, men shouldn't have access to feminine energy.
@happynurse1062
11 ай бұрын
I think most women are raised to be people pleasers and fall in line with patriarchy. I’ve rarely met women that didn’t have to overcome their upbringing. I’m glad you put your needs first! ❤
@kikijewell2967
11 ай бұрын
"You are useful just by being a woman." "You are his access to the Divine Feminine." From the video. You likely do all the Emotional Labor, and that's super hard work.
@bluegoose777
11 ай бұрын
I mean, men like providing. If you do things like, for example, cook him dinner, that is extremely useful to a guy (I say this as a guy). It means a great deal to us emotionally, so your man will want to provide for you in a career sense if you do stuff like that.
@MorenaDeRena
11 ай бұрын
@kikijewell2967 so...date a man that doesnt perform emotional labor and can easily financially black mail you?
@silviaov633
11 ай бұрын
"You don't need to be useful to be loved" this, I need to learn this so bad, thank you ❤
@nataliesuper5836
11 ай бұрын
And it's no use being useful. Few men appreciate a woman who can kill her own spiders, open her own pickle jars, and do her own repairs around the house.
@shainahernandez5492
11 ай бұрын
@@nataliesuper5836lol ngl women are a lot more useful than that, but I get what you mean.
@ayomidedareabel5525
10 ай бұрын
@entityoferrorsthen pick better. Isn't that what men tell us all the time? But no men will only stay with women like that just because they are attractive. Seen it many times without number
@jenbodhi1133
10 ай бұрын
Same
@Asiwnsk
10 ай бұрын
@entityoferrors "the entitlement" Women are entitled because they NEED to be. This is a video on this channel. So you can leave us alone with those policing words and negativity that you're bringing here Stop cpming here (in WOMEN'S SPACES) with your policing words and free time for arguing and attacking women, just because you're lonely, bitter and have no real life interractions with women. So you settle for what you get online
@Anon00113
11 ай бұрын
Yassss men need to remember women are the bringers of life
@therealmanifestelle
11 ай бұрын
🤎🤎
@GiaaVlogs
11 ай бұрын
we are everything!
@aliya5230
11 ай бұрын
@monachopsis5622they’re not even the seed they’re just the fertilizer. We literally carry eggs.
@SA-ey6nt
11 ай бұрын
@@nicelypenn No, she was right, you weren't, a seed becomes a flower but a sperm doesn't become an egg. biologically men have a 50 percent hand in conceiving and a 0 in building and birthing the baby. Men have a practical role in sustaining the mother and after that the child. Everything biologically is to procreate
@ayuanabradford3206
11 ай бұрын
@@nicelypennYeah but without the women carrying the baby for 9 months it wont be a child to come in a world. I think both genders need each other…
@TheGeminiSociety
11 ай бұрын
I find it so disappointing that these men rather play the victim and prefer to threaten, insult, abuse women online and IRL, instead of sitting down to think about how they might be the cause for their own loneliness. It's sad that these men rather collectively remain toxic individuals in society, instead of bettering themselves and the men around them by holding themselves and other men accountable.
@TheGeminiSociety
11 ай бұрын
@@joelrcj.775 I think women are for the majority a lot less lonely because women are nurturers by design and therefore they value and nurture meaningful relationships a lot more compared to men. This allows women to have a circle of people that are supportive and who make the loneliness disappear or at the very least bearable. They also put more effort into maintaining these relationships, so if they have a healthy family relationship for example, they might reach out more to their families. Women also deal differently with loneliness than man do, as both already deal differently either way with emotional stuff. I think a great deal of women work on their loneliness by doing self-reflection, going to therapy and looking for solutions to feel less lonely by indulging in activities, events, environments that can contribute to the reduction or the absolving of the loneliness. I do believe there’s still a good amount of women who are unable to cope with the loneliness, but women are over all much more capable of dealing with it and getting rid of it. Some may do it in unhealthy ways while others may seek out therapy or find other healthy solutions. Regardless of this loneliness epidemic amongst individuals all around the world, I think the internet is a great place to find proof of how the majority of men choose to deal with their frustration of feeling lonely by deflecting their negative feelings onto women online (and we haven’t even mentioned how bad it gets IRL too). Again, as Elle says too, not all men. However, the amount of men who do so is such an enormous number that it has become a secondary epidemic in itself.
@virallcullture8585
11 ай бұрын
@randomuser0483 true
@Ringerofthelie
10 ай бұрын
Genetics can't be fixed
@riareed1269
10 ай бұрын
@@brianallison9437 you’re right, for so long wmn have treated mn like wmn. We assume that mn are kind, loving, loyal and see others as people. Y’all barely see each other as people. The way the mle brain is wired is to perceive the opposite sx as an object. So yeah you’re right, wmn put too much on mn. They thought too highly of y’all. Don’t worry though because videos like this one show that wmn are realizing that mn are incapable of emotional intelligence. Y’all are the exact opposite of wmn.
@Malinkadink
9 ай бұрын
@@brianallison9437 Literally the entire OP can be flipped towards women because they're 100% out there berating men for even trying to approach them and while many men will hold other men accountable, women will reward the bad behavior of other women with praise. Men are checking out so fast its starting to hit the mainstream and we're still being called toxic when we chose not to play a rigged game.
@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living
11 ай бұрын
Excellent commentary! The times have changed, and a number of these XYs haven’t caught up with the times. They don’t understand that telling women to “buy a dog and die alone” is NOT an insult and actually sounds like a GREAT idea. Your view of a good man is my definition of a good man - he has to make my already easy life easier than what it is. It’s not just about finances. He makes me forget about my problems. He makes me feel safe because I completely trust him. I can easily fall into my feminine energy because I know that he “got this”.
@maryss8767
11 ай бұрын
true, mostly are cats . " you will live alone with cats " . whats wrong living with cats . living with cats still better than living with piece of crap . 😂😂 . they think living with animal is an insult .
@gateway2hell
11 ай бұрын
@@petervizzini4006 there is an overlap. the more traditional people tend to uphold outdated beliefs so they’re more likely to be misogynistic, racist, etc. that doesn’t mean all traditional values have to be that way. let’s say you believe in gender roles. gender roles can be sexist if you force them on people who don’t want to live by them, but that doesn’t mean that a couple who wants to live that way; husband (provider) wife (homemaker) are living by misogynistic standards. it’s really all about choice. it only becomes sexist when people say “all women should….” “all men should…”.
@arunimamandal1063
4 ай бұрын
@@maryss8767 lmao the best comment I saw about living alone with a cat : "Don't threaten me with my dream life"
@queteimportaa.2535
11 ай бұрын
Thank you!!! Someone that finally agrees that the men loneliness epidemic is caused by men themselves not women!!!!
@queteimportaa.2535
11 ай бұрын
@@h8h215 but there isn't a lonely women epidemic... and so it shouldn't be blamed on women for not taking low effort men with no good qualities as their patners. The whole topic practically proves men can't be alone but won't better themselves or their actions in order to find a suitable partner. This should be called men's entitlement has consequences not a loneliness epidemic. So your hypothetical argument is not worth much since its not happening.
@jenbodhi1133
10 ай бұрын
You’re right, this is isn’t a lonely man epidemic, it’s an entitled lie value man epidemic
@sarahrobertson634
9 ай бұрын
Everyone knows that the "loneliness epidemic" isn't caused by women.
@queteimportaa.2535
9 ай бұрын
@@sarahrobertson634 you'd be surprised.
@goddessvibes08
9 ай бұрын
@@queteimportaa.2535 scapegoating is real... that's why
@clara3492
11 ай бұрын
Oooh girl, the comment about hook up culture!! Society needs to stop thinking that sex is a human right, or even something that you owe someone for x y z reasons. It's not.
@ayuanabradford3206
11 ай бұрын
Aids, hiv, prostate cancer all u can get
@JUNJYR
10 ай бұрын
It's so easy to get for most people that they forgot it's a privilege.
@sarahrobertson634
9 ай бұрын
Sex is a privilege, not a right.
@Avery758
8 ай бұрын
You know a lot of this entitlement seems to stem from religion. Many different religions telling men that their wives owe them sex, that sex is their right etc etc. Men take that literally. That’s why a lot of the red pill community turns to strict Islam or Christianity and uses it to fuel their beliefs. Craziness… treating women like cattle
@mpGreen03
10 ай бұрын
Look at how women were being treated - as OBJECTS FOR THOUSSANDS OF YEARS, do they ever think that women had a very very long time of loneliness epidemic? We did. We still do. No one talks about that though.
@katgreer6113
10 ай бұрын
That's what I'm saying. Many of this "male loneliness" is a real feeling and experience that men go through BUT, 70% of it is self inflicted. They pull shit like this and wonder why. Nah bruh, stay lonely is you're gonna act like that, tf? Nobody cares.
@mpGreen03
10 ай бұрын
@@katgreer6113 Plus a lot of current loneliness epidemic is also not about men in general, but about young generations - so everyone who grew up with tablet in their hands basically. It is always explained to have something to do with technology caused loneliness, why are they excluding then young girls/women from conversation? If it's not regarding to technology-based loneliness then I think it will often be the case of those lonely men either being socially inept (social anxiety etc) OR being terrible people. 🤷
@paccawacca4069
6 ай бұрын
I thought women didn't need men? You don't get to claim you don't need men and then talk about being lonely. And no, women have not been treated as objects for thousands of yrs. Feminist historical revisionism.
@chrissy138
4 ай бұрын
We are just not whining like them. But they have the audacity to say that we are the ones who act like victims for sympathies. That's the thing- we are really victims. We just stay strong
@Dino22440
3 ай бұрын
@@paccawacca4069yes they were treated like objects and still are in some places like Afghanistan.
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