If the lady who took a seven week vacation actually needed to Rehab. I believe they do have limited phone calls so it would explain possibly why she only called Home twice. Of course, if she needed rehab and he wasn’t aware, there are also other issues going on in that marriage
@amberdawnstafford9401
4 ай бұрын
She might be suffering from postpartum psychosis and her partner didn't believe her. Or she was afraid if he/his family knew something bad would happen. In the end, something bad still happened.
@ravenbohannon6481
3 ай бұрын
Or she might have left for seven weeks to have an affair on her husband
@colleenosullivan857
Ай бұрын
I think she was suffering from postpartum and had a mental break. Sometimes if there’s a mental break and she went for inpatient care, she may have been afraid that he would use it against her. There is way more to the story
@WitchyBaby1998
5 ай бұрын
37:07 BEST PETTY REVENGE EVER OMG 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m screamin 🤣🤣🤣🤣💀💀
@lyndsycarson8302
3 ай бұрын
The wedding over birthday: the sister needs her to be her maide of honor because none her friends will put up with her enough to take that on, it’s not because she loves her sister, her sister is her only option and she knew her mom would back her up and try to force her sister to do it. What an awful family, props to the dad❤
@tawnyrobinson3930
4 ай бұрын
In the story about the husband only letting his family to shower 2x a week, if he really wants to conserve water then why not talk to the family about taking significantly shorter showers instead? Even if you’re not washing your hair everyday, you should be washing your body everyday. She should definitely leave her husband. He is controlling. OP is not the AH, but she should open her eyes to how he is actually treating her & the kids. This is reason alone to leave, so your kids don’t think they should accept treatment like this.
@Winter_Dream_
3 ай бұрын
Story 6: yeah I’d divorce the mom too if someone spoke to my kid like that when the situation wasn’t even their fault.
@Reilakai
3 ай бұрын
23:38 at in patient mental health facilities they limit calls and visits and sometimes won’t let you call anyone for weeks
@jadedavis822
3 сағат бұрын
Same here like I said assuming this can be dangerous…
@_akua_5395
4 ай бұрын
Omg the first story scared me, imagine the stuff this b could pull off!
@emilyrussell1536
4 ай бұрын
While I am all for communicating with the partner limiting shower time, I would be soooooo careful advising someone to tell their partner their behavior is abusive. This husband may take it perfectly well, but as a survivor of abuse, I have seen how quickly that can go south. I agree the first step should be for her to get out of the house before that conversation, just in case. Wishing OP all the best!
@icygubler
4 ай бұрын
I was thinking that as well. I worry that he could bristle at it or push back and say that he's not abusive, she's just overreacting. Or if it's an undiagnosed mental illness that he could take it personally and double down instead of getting the help he needs.
@WitchyBaby1998
5 ай бұрын
24:32 If it was rehab though she may not have been aloud to or able to call. But honestly everything about this story is kinda sketch to me. Like one of the comments you read said, seems like we aren’t getting the whole story and we aren’t even getting all the important parts.
@amiehome4687
4 ай бұрын
7 wk mom vacation story Rehab or mental health program or mommy boot camp or mommy makeover. The fact that Op doesn't know which doesn't mean he is a jerk, but giving up without figuring it out is not smart
@AdaPack-ct4li
4 ай бұрын
If she's in a bad place..she needs to take care of her self before she can be a good mom..
@AdaPack-ct4li
4 ай бұрын
But I couldn't go that long without talking to my family
@Winter_Dream_
3 ай бұрын
With story 2. It is a concern about water usage but one household isn’t going to help. It’s the commercial industries that have to do something
@Winter_Dream_
3 ай бұрын
Story3- I was a single mom for a while. I think it’s weird he fell out of love that quickly but maybe they were both working so hard they didn’t have a good connection before this? But even I needed breaks but seven weeks is a daunting amount of time to be gone. I could take one week by myself, and then I’d need to go back to my family. I’d miss them too much
@MrBobbymacaroni
2 ай бұрын
Is hubby abusively controlling children's baths/showers as well? Could be a custody and visitation issue post divorce.
@TheZombifiedFairy
4 ай бұрын
Idk, a 50 year old marrying a 30 year old is weird, but if they are consenting then its something to keep to yourself and just shiver in disgust behind closed doors. And the fact that it sounds like this was his kid's friend is more ick. I don't care what ANYONE says, there is nothing that could convince me (in my late 20s) to date my friend's parent thats the same age as my own (50s). OP isn't jealous... its just disgusting. But again, its their life choice and OP is only wrong for saying it out loud
@jjp024
4 ай бұрын
The amount of justifying what the wife in story #3 did is concerning.
@kierarahrah
3 ай бұрын
I have had two sets of "Irish" twins. I have a 22(M) and 21(M), and a 2(M) and 1(F). I could not leave them more than a few hours let alone 2 months. Sorry but that is super selfish. Hubby should absolutely move on with zero regrets and get full custody on top of that.
@emilypaxton5601
4 ай бұрын
Story 6, I have to say the *worst* thing about Reddit as a platform is when it's a bunch of adults convincing teenagers to ruin their relationships over petty crap like this. Was it super wise judgment on her sister's part? Not really. Is it worth derailing your entire relationship with her and your family because you couldn't stand your birthday being 100% about you? No. I give the teenager a free pass because she's a teenager. It's the adults I'm seething at for making this all about revenge and pettiness and not advising her in any serious or constructive manner. Because I guess using communication to discuss matters like this calmly and preserve important support structures instead of going nuclear over small offenses is a thing of the past.
@Paula-buds-pro
4 ай бұрын
The 7 week holiday thing. There is obvious plenty of things wrong in that relationship and they need to separate. But to the notion that the dad is an uninvolved dad that didn't do anything at all and that justifie the mum leaving os just BS. IF it is true that the dad never cared about the children and was as uninvolved as he could have not been there at all the mum is still a gigantic a-hole to the kids for leaving them with someone who has no clue on how to care for them for WEEKS not checking in on them being safe. The fact that she was confident in the children being safe alone with their dad for 7 weeks showed that he was caring for the kids before her departure, maybe not enough or maybe she just had the realisation that being a sahm wasnt for her but he did care. Or she is plain neglecting the kids for her own comfort🤷🏾♀️
@Winter_Dream_
3 ай бұрын
Very good point! A good mom wouldn’t have left their kids alone with a dad that was useless. It’s why many moms don’t go out, to make sure their kids are ok.
@jadedavis822
4 сағат бұрын
7weeks and he’s falling out of love …. Wow the assumptions here is crazy… I agree it’s not enough information in this…
@celticdaughter
2 ай бұрын
Either grandma knows her daughter or was in on the pregnancy prank. 😅
@cicichambers3887
4 ай бұрын
Seven week vacation guy… Yes, he is. The asshole in here is why… He easily replaced his wife with his sister sister. It was not the wife that he loved. It was a checkbox that he had where the wife was carrying the burden of the children.. the wife is replaceable in his eyes. He didn't love her. He depended on her to do all the work. The fact that she needed shows you how much work she was actually doing and had no reprieve. He admits that he struggled and went crazy the first week doing it all by himself… Imagine how his wife felt . This man was an asshole before he got married.
@emilypaxton5601
4 ай бұрын
I thought it was a HUGE red flag that he said they had Irish twins and therefore it was difficult FOR HIS WIFE. If that's not an indication he was a couch husband, I don't know what is. Men like this disgust me, and unfortunately they're plentiful.
@TheZombifiedFairy
4 ай бұрын
Hard disagree. If she's SAHM, then he has to do all the work to bring in income. He may be used to doing only nighttime routines or only morning, but not having to work AND raise the kids at the same time. Thats enough to drive anyone mad
@mariabravo8075
2 ай бұрын
I think that the lady who went on vacation for 7 wks then came home and immediately tried to get it on might be scared she has a bun in the oven js random thought 😂
@magreden
4 ай бұрын
Story 4 it is weird. I agree you should not tell them, but to attack and insult that OP is not ok. That is very weird to date someone with such a huge age gap
@DragonLady465
4 ай бұрын
I know mom in story 7 has tood intentions but hubby is right, spoiling her every time something bad happens is not a healthy way of helping her cope with the stress and will create bad habitsb in adulthood. While I do agree that she will need to learn to set boundaries and communicate clearly I think sending her to therapy would be far more beneficial than her arguing with her mom. A professional can teach her how to do all of those things and keep records, witch will hold a lot of weight in the custody hearings. Bonus points if you can get bio mom involved in a family session so therapist can see it for themselves. This is a 10yr old and her mom, there is already an imbalance of power. If she starts straight up arguing with her mom i could very easily put her in danger. They need to remove her from the situation, then teach her the skills she needs to deal with people like that in the future.
@rebecaa7482
8 күн бұрын
Story 4: Seriously Dusty? OP did nothing wrong. She’s right. Her brother is being irresponsible by having a new baby at his age. He’ll be in an old folks home by the time this kid graduates college. And he’s a creep for marrying someone so much younger WHOSE HIS DAUGHTER’S FRIEND! It’s messed up that everyone is piling on OP simply because she’s the only one who had the courage to speak sense into the situation. She doesn’t have a problem with her brother being happy. She has a problem with his irresponsible behavior. As she should.
@WitchyBaby1998
5 ай бұрын
33:18 that’s my thing is okay her opinion is known…what is he supposed to do? Divorce his younger, pregnant wife? Tell her to get an abortion? None of that is any of her business nor can she be making them make those decisions 🙄 wth is wrong with people.
@rebecaa7482
8 күн бұрын
“Lead your family”? I really hope Dusty doesn’t generally go off a patriarchal assumption that the husband/father is the leader over his wife. That’s not right and it’s also not how most people live.
@obligation2jet
4 ай бұрын
2 phone calls in 7 weeks sounds like she was "testing" him, since she has BPD. She wanted to see how much he cared and he didn't attempt to call at all.
@lyndsycarson8302
3 ай бұрын
7 weeks is insane, o don’t believe the rehab thing. I think she tried having sex with him immediatly to cover infidelity. Yeah the dad probably doesn’t do enough but the fact that he was willing to let her go for that long and acknowledged that she needed a break says otherwise. If you’re happy being away from your babies for that long, you don’t love your family. That’s gross.
@03CuTie18Pie12
4 ай бұрын
22:46 he should be aware of how indifferent he felt after 7 weeks taking care of the kids by himself for a week, then 6 weeks with help.. I feel like even when he was working from home, and she was a stay-at-home mom not getting any kind of help even when he was right there, she must have felt like he took a 2 year staycation because he was uninvolved..she needed to reset so she doesn't resent him more.
@TheZombifiedFairy
4 ай бұрын
Work from home doesn't mean "available to help". I work from home and no, I can not help during my shift. I'm actually working and could lose my job if they find out I'm constantly away from my desk. In fact, many WFH jobs ASK if you have to care for others on your shift. If she can't handle being a SAHP, she goes back to work and they put the kids in daycare. The alternative is him multitasking until he loses his job and they end up homeless or he has a mental breakdown from the stress. Would she resent him if he had to be in the office?
@03CuTie18Pie12
4 ай бұрын
@@TheZombifiedFairy I was a stay-at-home mom & online student until my youngest started going to Kindergarten. Now, I work from home and I also have online school for my Bachelor's, I have an hour lunch break and 2-15 min breaks throughout the day. I'm not saying he should be available to help while he's working. What I'm saying is, does he offer help after work or at least do something for her so she's allowed to decompress?? Did he notice what changed in her outlook in life after 2 pregnancies, 2 babies in less than 2 years?? Did her demeanor change in those 2 years?? There were a lot of changes in her physical body and her mental & emotional state. Did he ever ask, "hey babe, are you ok? Is there something I can do?" Simple questions that would make her feel that this experience is not just for her but for him too. On the weekends, did he do household chores with her or did she have to do it alone while he bonded with the kids? Emotions are high after pregnancy, the body is physically exhausted and she may have just gone autopilot because she's mentally checked out from exhaustion.
@Winter_Dream_
3 ай бұрын
Fair, but the fact she up and left her kids for that long and didn’t call but twice is a huge red flag. I don’t care how resentful you are of your husband, she still left her kids along for way too long
@TheZombifiedFairy
3 ай бұрын
@03CuTie18Pie12 if he did or didn't... that still wouldn't justify abandoning the kids for almost 2 months. Should he help out when not at work? Of course! But she should also be communicating with him. You have kids, you don't just get to run away for 2 months and say "oh I just needed a break". You automatically assuming she's justified for going to party for 2 months because you ASSUME he's a deadbeat is wild. She abandoned her kids and he (rightfully) feels nothing for her anymore after seeing this behavior.
@03CuTie18Pie12
3 ай бұрын
@@TheZombifiedFairy I'm not saying she's justified.. They both suck for all I care.. They don't communicate.. Just because she only called twice the entire time she was away, she's an asshole for that.. But did he call her?? He never mentioned how many times he called her to check if she was still alive.. He called his sister to whine and she came to the rescue.. Did his wife call anybody for help?? Probably not, because it's kinda shameful to ask from someone else when the main person who should be helping her is her husband. They both fucking suck!
@kennymoore7546
4 ай бұрын
Story 3... While I agree with almost everything you said Dusty, and most of the comments saying maybe rehab, you keep saying he agreed. To me, the way it is worded, I feel he was forced into agreement. Manipulated into allowing. Also, definitely not enough information to really put anyone on the Ascon scale.
@jenniferhamm4783
3 ай бұрын
I bet she only called 2 times because the first time she called. He started a huge fight. And he wasn't worth her ruining her vacation to fight every time she calls him. This guy makes it all about himself
@jenniferhamm4783
3 ай бұрын
Yes he is!!! He got a taste of her own medicine and hated her for it!!! She shouldn't of went for 7 weeks though but he said yes he must never take care of the kids bc he couldn't even handled for a week
@Winter_Dream_
3 ай бұрын
He also said that he would pay for daycare but she didn’t want the kids to go
@jenniferhamm4783
3 ай бұрын
So funny how there's mom's out there. That works 60 hours a week and still have the kids. Full time he's an asshole
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