Anna, once again, I wish you’d been around when I was younger. My CPTSD definitely impacted my career and earning potential. I’m earning a good income now, but my lack of confidence kept me habitually underemployed. When I did get a good job, I would typically burn hot and then flame out when I became overwhelmed upon getting more responsibility. Everything you’ve described in this video has happened to me. My lifelong pattern has left me in a financially precarious position at a time when I should be retiring. For younger people seeking healing on this channel, you’re very fortunate. ❤
@sevendeadlychins
Жыл бұрын
So well said. It's so bittersweet to figure this stuff out when you are well past your prime and all your potential has expired. When I was a kid no one even talked about the stuff that everyone just discusses matter of fact now. So many missed opportunities it takes your breath away.
@designchik
Жыл бұрын
@@sevendeadlychins It is bittersweet, isn’t it? That’s a perfect description of what it feels like: relieved to understand and obtain healing, finally, but sad that it didn’t come sooner. All the years on therapists’ couches with little to show for it because no one knew about CPTSD. Love your KZitem handle, BTW; it’s inspired! 😂❤️
@marianrosin6486
Жыл бұрын
You're not alone, designchik.
@lanefaurot
Жыл бұрын
I wonder if we weren’t separated at birth?!? 😆 I totally get you…ditto 💕
@Fernando-jy6gq
Жыл бұрын
You're never too old or past your prime. Your mind makes these things up. Get to work. There are younger people to help.
@sevendeadlychins
Жыл бұрын
Well my mental illness took me from an accomplished career in my field of study to cleaning toilets. I'm actually incredibly grateful to be able to make a living on my knees scrubbing filth. It's still far better than when I could not work at all and had to be on disability. Part of resilience is cultivating the ability to keep perspective.
@GirlPower342
Жыл бұрын
The zen of toilet cleaning! I too have cleaned toilets, washed dishes, etc. Enjoy the time you get to spend daydreaming, singing, writing novels or blogs in your head, or whatever lifts you up. Good luck!❤
@snoopy5736
Жыл бұрын
I call it being flexible
@snoopy5736
Жыл бұрын
My go to was carpet cleaning when I quit my other jobs
@stacyjaye6350
Жыл бұрын
Good attitude I like it. There's something to be said about cleaning. It's high turnover, meaning there's usually a job open. And it's hard to find good, reliable cleaners, so you can make a decent amount of money at it. My friend got a contract cleaning vacant apts, I personally was a custodian on 2nd shift and I've worked third shift. There is a union, AFSCME, city and state municipal hospital schools, equivalent to the Teamsters. Find them! Reach out to them. Born and raised in Detroit, I'm all about union jobs, they're still out there. 🤞you can find a job that's right for you ☮️💖😘😘😘 from Tulsa
@teresareid5034
Жыл бұрын
I’m the same Ive had so many dreams of wanting certain careers and I’ve got to 55 and my children are grown so I’ve gone into those job and I’ve been triggered by working with certain people my friend had a cleaning company which i started helping out a year ago and I love it I get this amazing feeling of going into a dirty house and sorting it out I’m my own boss I put headphones on and just clean I love it ❤
@TheNarrowPath40
Жыл бұрын
You talked about quitting jobs. I didn’t hear you speak about getting fired. In my 20’s I was fired from 3 jobs due to CPTSD. Very frustrating. Then I got a BS and masters degree and worked for 15 years but with “struggles”. Now I have my own business. Best decision ever.
@SunnyDallasRealtor
Жыл бұрын
I hate when companies tell you “we are like family!” For me, it created this false sense of security that I fell for over and over. In healing, it has helped a lot to flat-out reject that idea (silently and in my own mind). It has helped me to reframe my expectations at work.
@Jessica-kw7nf
Жыл бұрын
Hearing that line in a weekly meeting is what solidified my reason to leave a non-profit, I learned that “we are a family” meant all our employees will feel overburdened and nothing will be done about it. Speaking about the pressure would always be met with gaslighting
@SunnyDallasRealtor
Жыл бұрын
@@Jessica-kw7nf I completely understand.
@ellenbruckermarshall4179
Жыл бұрын
I hear that “family” line and heed the red flag. Run!
@shoutatthesky
Жыл бұрын
When I hear that I'm thinking "you wouldn't say that if you met my family"!
@francesmartel7948
Жыл бұрын
Well, I had an abusive family, so that job description is quite fitting when I’m stuffed in a soul sucking cubicle all day, and being timed on breaks and in the bathroom. Ugh 😑!
@LizzyAnn_Comedy
Жыл бұрын
Kind of off topic: I’ve mostly had serving and bartending jobs for the last 11 years. It’s definitely horribly draining at times HOWEVER I have newfound motivation because for the last few weeks I’ve been using my customers as practice for doing standup comedy! They don’t know that’s what I’m doing but it’s perfect. Every table is an opportunity for material now as well lol
@RachelRiner
Жыл бұрын
That’s such a cool idea and not off topic at all haha. I think it’s awesome that you’re looking beyond your basic job description and using that “regular” job as sneaky practice for a higher goal that you’re passionate about. You’re actually encouraging me a lot by saying that because I’m using my job at the local library to pry myself out of the house and connecting with other humans, with the goal of gradually switching to teaching art classes. Practicing my social skills again and getting inspired by books 😊
@LizzyAnn_Comedy
Жыл бұрын
@@RachelRiner oh that makes me so happy! Encouraging others is what encourages me! :)
@katec9893
Жыл бұрын
That's fun, I always notice how I've learnt something from every job I've done even if it was not a job I liked at the time. Have you watched Maria Bamford's stand-up? She has a one hour Christmas special on here and I love it because as well as her incredible voice acting talent, a lot of her comedy centres around depression, intrusive thoughts, OCD and being misunderstood by others (in a funny rather than complaining way) so it's v relatable!
@Watercolordragon
3 ай бұрын
Sounds great! Little by little
@sidorkomarina1
Жыл бұрын
I can’t watch TV! People think I’m weird. But it stresses me out and drains me. Wow. Thank you for saying that. I’m protecting my soul. Not on social media either. Just here on KZitem learning stuff. Thanks for sharing!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
You're definitely protecting your soul. Hold on to those TV boundaries! - Ashley, Team Fairy
@annadonahue4119
Жыл бұрын
Agreed!
@auchmalwassagen
Жыл бұрын
I‘m doing this too, for more than 15 years now. This way I wasn’t anxious throughout the pandemic for example. Regarding movies or so friends sometimes tell me ‚oh no, this is nothing for you‘ and I appreciate their care and acceptance but I always think ‚actually it’s not (good) for you either‘.
@mrstoner2udude799
Жыл бұрын
I cant watch it either! Its mentally traumatizing. Anxiety producing.
@rainb0w_bender
Жыл бұрын
I can't watch T.V. either. It's too triggering for me. Sadly, no one around me understands me. Glad to see I'm not the only one. ☮️
@genesis-o8r
Жыл бұрын
I have left so many jobs because of dysregulation . Thank you fairy I'm learning how to respond whenever triggered and not just leave
@forwardisapace
Жыл бұрын
I’m currently changing careers and back in school again at 42. This completely resonates with me. I have been laid off a million times because of my CPTSD. I only recently found out that this was my issue. I’m excited and very frightened to become a medical coder. I’m afraid of failure and other people. I officially passed my certification exam a couple weeks ago!
@PaisleyStorm
Жыл бұрын
I'm going back to school at 55 for a. I. If I can do it anyone can
@christiedunlap6214
Жыл бұрын
That’s awesome! I was 42 when I went back to school to become an LMT. It’s tough to start over, but very rewarding when you can do what you really enjoy!
@miavos3610
Жыл бұрын
Well-done!! 🏆❤️🏆
@vmatin1
Жыл бұрын
I’ve gone back to school at 40 and again at 54. I want you to know how absolutely powerful you are!!
@SongofaBeach2012
Жыл бұрын
Congratulations! I'm amazed at our similar stories! I am also 42 years old and went back to school for- you guessed it! My Medical Billing and Coding certification. I passed my course and am now waiting to sit for my exam as well. I did get a job 6 months ago as a medical scheduler and my boss is very narcissistic like my parents. She doesn't acknowledge my hard work or the fact that I am the top scheduler on our team instead reserving the praise for my coworker who is her favorite. Same dynamic as my own family. Long story short I have a plan to transfer to the Billing department once I'm officially certified and have my CPC title. Thankfully the billing manager at my job is kinder, more supportive and encourages collaboration in her department. Even Better yet, the pay is considerably higher. I am running towards greener pastures and I'm excited! I ADORE this channel its helping me navigate and work towards healing my CPTSD so much! Thanks for letting me share my little story and I wish you the very best in your career change. It's never too late! ❤ You've got this!
@julesg8745
Жыл бұрын
I recently learned that I've been holding myself back from career opportunities because of my anxiety and feeling like I'm not good enough or that I'll feel ashamed if I fail. Trying to find a job I love and feel fulfilled by and I hope I can believe in myself and be okay if it doesn't work out.
@PaperclipProphets
Жыл бұрын
I can relate & hope you find meaningful work where you’re appreciated because you deserve it! That’s my prayer for myself as well 🙏
@theonlybonsu
Жыл бұрын
Because of CPTSD I’ve been in Higher Education for 8 years and 4 universities still trying to get a Bachelors degree. It’s truly painful when you see people younger than you take your opportunities.
@ZukoTheShinigami
Жыл бұрын
Go into tech like i did. The pay and lifestyle is so much better and much more financially secure
@theonlybonsu
Жыл бұрын
@@ZukoTheShinigamiIronically, I am a Robotics Engineering student. 😅
@charlottetaylor4471
Жыл бұрын
Ooo can you give some practical advice on how to get started please? 🙏 x
@Dan_Chiron
Жыл бұрын
Your comment was very triggering to me. I guess because you sound so entitled when you state that younger people are taking _your_ opportunities. I don't say this with a mean intention, just wanted you to know there's a blindspot there that may be hurting people around you.
@reboundingfromnarcissistic5386
Жыл бұрын
You got this!!
@morgantomlinson821
Жыл бұрын
I’m currently in, I would say, “middle recovery” (4 years), and work challenges are huge! I relate to other commenters saying that they do so well at first then burn out quick. For me I struggle with the “good kid” complex. In school you’re really rewarded for being efficient, going beyond expectations, behaving, etc. Now that I’m a working adult I’ve realized that if you show them you can work more/faster, they just give you more work…. Hence, BURNOUT!! Makes total sense. Amazing vid as always Anna, you have the gift of “wise, loving aunt/older sister advice” 😄
@annadonahue4119
Жыл бұрын
A fellow I worked with years ago, upon hearing I'd been gifted with yet another job title, advised me that the reward for hard work is more hard work. 🙃
@Life.Love.Locs.
Жыл бұрын
I'd just like to add that "quiet quitting" can actually be a great short-term solution to over-giving and burnout at work. It can be a way of setting boundaries that says, "No, I won't do the jobs of 3 people, I'm contracted to do my job and that's what I'll do" or "No, I work until 5pm and I won't be guilted into giving free labour that I'm not getting paid for, as it drains me". At the very least, it can enable you to remain employed and pay your bills while you use your conserved energy to find another job.
@gabrielguyenot3960
Жыл бұрын
It's very strange but as someone who was the workhorse at my past job getting yelled at by customers or a bad manager, I've found that spite and selfishness helped me move on from toxic work environments. I learned that yelling is a trigger for me, which prompts me to either leave the situation or enact physical consequences to stop the yelling (since these types of people cannot be reasoned with). Typical fight or flight response. But within that anger I felt a self-righteousness I never knew. It was telling me "Don't take that crap, look out for your own interests!" and I listened. Now I refuse to tolerate yelling of any kind in my daily life. I know my time is worth more than that, and I will quit jobs on the spot if I am disrespected. I also seek out jobs that allow me to work alone or have little customer contact. Don't be afraid to walk away from things that do not serve you. That is where true power comes from.
@JankaMouse
Жыл бұрын
My job has been a lifesaver. It has shown me how valuable and loved I can be. It gives me chances to constantly better myself, set boundaries, learn from mistakes. I help people every day and impact their lives. Making my own money lets me be independent and uplift my family. When life can be filled with difficult relationships, my relationship with myself and my job is always there for me. Thank you for the reminder.
@charlottetaylor4471
Жыл бұрын
Complex-PTSD stops me from even applying for jobs (especially dreading the interviews.) That aside, Complex-PTSD has robbed me of knowing myself and knowing what I like. I have no idea. Where do you start?
@maryiced3931
Жыл бұрын
You are not alone. I can totally relate to this. I don't know who I am and what I want.
@mishiwakka
Жыл бұрын
this is where I'm stuck. I just don't believe work can be fulfilling instead of traumatizing.
@vnette9777
Жыл бұрын
@@mishiwakka same❣️♨️💯
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Start with the Daily Practice bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice -Cara@TeamFairy
@adrienneboeing
Жыл бұрын
I’m going through the exact same thing right now. I’m only able to work when it’s a freelance job. But when I try to go back to working a normal job, I freeze and don’t feel good enough.
@charlottetaylor4471
Жыл бұрын
You make it sound so easy (too easy). "I got a job. I left that job and got another job with a 50% raise. Then I went back to the other job." How can you change so much? I'm mentally paralysed.
@Mark-eg5hx
Жыл бұрын
I jump jobs too. Hard to trust people with my avoidant attachment style, thanks to my past
@LucyTheBlackCat
Жыл бұрын
Update: I just emailed someone inquiring about another nursing job :) I am so grateful for this topic that has not really been addressed anywhere else. Being in a healthcare profession that craps all over me (cardiac nurse), I feel GUILTY to leave as if I'm abandoning my "family".....its CRAP FIT ... you help me see how this is trauma thinking... a total BLIND SPOT in CPTSD that no other professionals are addressing
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Good luck with the nursing job. We're rooting for you! - Ashley, Team Fairy
@abd.3808
Жыл бұрын
It's true, I don't see anyone else addressing this! It's a daily stress that is a real hurdle to overcome and great to see Anna bringing it to the Tube!
@Jo-whoknowshowmany
Жыл бұрын
I quit nursing as it traumatised me seeing some of the things. Good luck 🍀
@PENH5428
Жыл бұрын
Have you thought about joining an association or medical society (cardiac) Many of them have a clinical division that could use people like you !
@oblivion2967
Жыл бұрын
Just quickly, easy repetitive jobs are also frought with the trappings of power play, but at very low pay.
@lammiyuh
Жыл бұрын
I’ve quit my studies twice (that would’ve gotten me to my then dream job) because of the symptoms of cptsd and now am stuck with a job I hate. I’m taking back my power though and doing several online studies so I can start doing what I love finally.
@vnette9777
Жыл бұрын
Enjoy your journey to Freedom.Half the Battle is Understanding the issues.🙏♨️💯🙂You got this💯
@lammiyuh
Жыл бұрын
@@vnette9777 thank you and bless your heart ❤️🫶🏾🙏🏾
@snoopy5736
Жыл бұрын
Keep going mija, you got it. I've been trying to achieve my goals too
@lammiyuh
Жыл бұрын
@@snoopy5736 thank you, so do you. We got it, let’s go 💪🏾🫶🏾
@ChooseLoveToday316
Жыл бұрын
It will be ok. Always be moving forward.
@honoluluwampum
Жыл бұрын
This is my major challenge these days, just eating up this video😃 I've been fed up with being a paralegal, being exhausted by the climate of law firms, for several years. To the point I've been at home for 3 years avoiding life. I still have no idea where I'm going and how things will improve, but I have gained the faith that I will figure it out as I continue healing my trauma and dysregulation in particular. Thank you for surviving and healing and creating this beautiful hope for recovery that we can all have now!💚💚💚
@tashmoobabe8704
Жыл бұрын
LOL, I just commented on how fulfilled I was for a time as a legal secretary. There definitely is a time to get out of there. It's often very unhealthy.
@IIcorrinthians519
Жыл бұрын
The difficulty is finding yourself in a situation with a boss that is intentionally triggering your wounded child. Once that happens, I don't know how not to let it affect a person.
@ChooseLoveToday316
Жыл бұрын
Start applying to jobs now. I've been in this situation. The answer is leave and tell no one where you're going.
@rixatrix
Жыл бұрын
I worked for a boss who was exactly like my abusive dad for 5 years. She refused to promote me, but when I asked what traits/behaviors I needed to develop to move up, she couldn’t come up with any feedback. She was notoriously harsh on the women on her team, and fawned over the guys, who were getting promoted with less experience. And she pissed off EVERYONE. Everyone in our industry knew her name for the wrong reasons, and I think she’s been fired or let go from nearly every agency in town. When I think about how I could put up with her for so long, I know it’s because my dad trained me to tolerate the worst behavior. Happily, I know longer work for her OR talk to my dad, and life is so much more peaceful and happy now.
@deb7844
Жыл бұрын
I agree about the working for yourself and helping people one-on-one is a totally different dynamic that lets you be the real you... but still get stuck on making it an earning situation ... also, volunteering in a non-profit situation can have the same negative dynamic as a paid job, especially when all of your eagerness to help and suggestions sort of get ignored or told they won't work with that "pat on the head" thing...finally after two years I had to leave bc every monthly meeting was basically a trigger.
@clareunderwood6690
3 күн бұрын
I agree, I’ve experienced the same thing with the voluntary sector too. It’s hard, because that’s often where we try to build our CV.
@spiritisalive1
Жыл бұрын
That's what I did, was started my own business. So all I deal with is clients. It is so much more peaceful for sure.
@CM-yo9jk
Жыл бұрын
The most profound (worst) effect my Cptsd has had on my life has been on my career. I was a bright, sociable, articulate, lovely kid at school, with such promise - a whole world of opportunities. Stumbled into post grad health care work, which pays well, but I just cannot navigate the mean girls, the bullies, the bitches, the looks, the snide comments, rude people..... I am ready for a career change but know I will meet these types of people everywhere and anywhere I go.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
We understand this! Finding a group of like-minded people can go a long way, it makes it much easier to navigate the "real world" stuff. Consider membership, we have group opportunities every day. bit.ly/CCF-Membership -Cara@TeamFairy
@MichaelCTruth
Жыл бұрын
Maybe you are amplifying their actions more than reality.
@CM-yo9jk
Жыл бұрын
@@MichaelCTruth Yes, and there in lies the problem. What behaviour is acceptable and when does it become unacceptable? Behaviours both in myself and in others. How on earth do I determine the difference?
@MichaelCTruth
Жыл бұрын
@@CM-yo9jk It's not easy. There were times I thought people were against but in reality they were not. But other times they were. So it's tricky. I think once we are aware that there is a possibility it's in our mind it puts us in a better place to reason it out.
@meikiecakie5321
Жыл бұрын
Best line in this video 'you are so busted because you are watching my videos, so I know you're working on yourself' I needed to hear it to believe it. Thank you.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
It sounds like you're in the right place and we're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@momtomany
Жыл бұрын
1:42 I worked and managed into middle age until I encountered a narcissistic boss that popped the lid off of my childhood trauma. It has taken me a long time to unpack it all and figure it out, but ultimately it has lead me down a path of growth.
@cecilysaunders
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for this video, I can relate so much to so many of the things you've said, particularly needing to work for yourself!! I've never fitted in to the 'regular' workplace and have been fired from every job in my 20's - doing the jobs you're 'supposed' to do.. Now in my 30's I'm a yoga teacher nutritionist, nanny, and artist and although money is taking a while to flow in, I'm so much happier being my own boss with LOTS of variety!
@xCCflierx
Жыл бұрын
"A business has to look out for itself, and sometimes at the expense of it's people." My dad has his own business and tried to get us all to work with him in it. I just can't anymore. And I can tell why now. It almost felt like family was his business instead of the business being for the family. Our power went out for months at a time so he can keep the power on in his office. And I carry these feelings into my other jobs too. As if I'M supposed take care of the business at my expense.
@ChooseLoveToday316
Жыл бұрын
Curiosity question but what country
@snowy_secret6119
Жыл бұрын
Can you please talk about maladaptive daydreaming as a trauma response and it's solution. I have even tried antidepressants but it just don't go away. IT WOULD BE REALLY HELPFUL IF YOU MAKE A VIDEO ABOUT IT.
@ludtube84
Жыл бұрын
YES!
@GirlPower342
Жыл бұрын
I hear you, big time. This is a huge, huge, huge issue for me, and always has been. I’m very underemployed now, and after 15 years of extremely abusive workplaces, plus various factors that have ramped up my already considerable maladaptive daydreaming, I’m now very leery of even trying to do full-time.
@designchik
Жыл бұрын
I’ve done a lot of magical thinking throughout my life. Is that similar to maladaptive daydreaming? I’ve always fantasised about someone coming to save me, something I started doing when I was six years old to cope with my untenable home life. The only way I survived was to pretend I was someone else living a different life with loving parents. I immersed myself so fully in my alternate universe that it sometimes felt real. I’m 64 now and still have to fight the urge to think some perfect person will come along and fix my life.
@Fernando-jy6gq
Жыл бұрын
@@designchik this coping stems from trying to place the at one point overbearing responsibility on someone or something else. The first step is finding the cause which is good that you did. Next step is replacing that with something healthy and recognizing when you are doing it.
@sevendeadlychins
Жыл бұрын
The solution is to REDIRECT your thoughts. Trying to stop thinking about something is nearly impossible, it's like trying to calm the waves in a puddle by touching them, you just make more waves. I struggle with invasive thoughts about my health and psychotic delusions. When those thoughts arise I put my headphones on and put my attention on something that I KNOW will distract me and occupy my mind. I combine this with a tiring physical activity that requires too much focus to dwell on my thoughts. The physical activity will also tire out the nervous energy that fuels maladaptive thinking. Remember - you aren't getting rid of the thoughts, you are just working despite them. When you don't give them attention and energy they will eventually dissipate. Even if they come right back later you have won by not being sidetracked. What I listen to to distract me is anything so dumb, loud and sensational my thoughts cannot compete. I listen to dumb online drama and the shenanigans of out of control people like "Foodie Beauty". I'm basically crowding out my garbage thoughts with other garbage completely unrelated to me. Fighting fire with fire.🔥🔥 I hope this helps! Mental discipline is always possible it just takes a lot of practice, if I can do it anyone can.
@Maria7Maria
Жыл бұрын
I really resonate with leaving lines of work that are traumatising too. I worked in charity and non profit, then in housing and homelessness, now in education with kids with additional needs. I realised I have this need to help people because I don’t think I can do anything else, due to having to help my disabled sister & alcoholic parent growing up. I’m so burnt out and I don’t want to do any of this work anymore, but I have no idea who I am or what I want to do and I’m nearly 30! I apply for other jobs but can only seem to get retail and bar work. I have decided to ask for a raise where I am, and will quit in the summer. Then look to increase my income!
@JocieFire
Жыл бұрын
Spot on. This is why I am going back to school now to be a therapist. I feel on fire and happier than I have EVER been. It's a huge healing factor and helping me move on from CEN, covert emotionally abusive marriage, CPTSD....all the fun things!
@ChooseLoveToday316
Жыл бұрын
How old are you if you don't mind me asking? I am 41 and debating going back to college after seeing many people in their 40s and 50s going back.
@JoyleiaJo
Жыл бұрын
20:06 work as ingredients of happiness
@ivamilinkovic1113
Жыл бұрын
I struggle in art field. This is suppose to be a dream job but I lost motivation because my cptsd. Everything is triggering, especially the part of applying for exhibitions in galleries, being refused, or ignored. It is a place full of narcissist, and professional art world is all about contest and proving your worth through your art work. Soooo triggering! It makes no sense for me anymore, and after this video ( thank you so much), I can finally see why. I would not like to quit art but trying to find other ways to make money with my skills...its hard
@RoadRunnergarage8570
Жыл бұрын
I've had some horrible jobs... I used to drive for the railroad and the first company that I worked for was halfway decent but then that company lost the contract then this other company took the contract over .. It was a total nightmare!!.. they would have me starting out at 2am!!.. Just what I need with my CPTSD, Asperger's, Traumatic Brain Injury(TBI),anxiety and depression!!.. thank God that the auto dealership my folks drive for part time and they had an opening for a driver and I got out of that nightmare!!.. And I finally got SSDI after 15 years of fighting the system... It feels great to always have money in the bank and be no longer in debt!!.. And my hobby of Model Car Building fills the time when driving for the dealership is slow (like it's been lately).....
@RoadRunnergarage8570
Жыл бұрын
And whenever I drive for the dealership,The more extra money to finance my hobby too!!
@sidorkomarina1
Жыл бұрын
I found you. Now you are like the mother I need. I’m trying to start my own business about something I care about. It’s scary. But I’m doing it for me.
@LucilleGhatti
Жыл бұрын
My music career I started taking off right after my mom died and then her death hit me like a ton of bricks.. I was mean defensive and very very depressed I watched my entire career go from rising star to the lowest point.. I’ve been trying to stay focused on the come back man, and becoming something in music means the world to me. I know it’s my destiny to connect with the world so I will listen to every video read every book until this is healed.
@kikki2012
Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Anna, you help bring light into dark and stuck places. 🌟💕🙏
@stacyjaye6350
Жыл бұрын
My perfect job was second shift union custodian at the schools. I got there at 2:30 p.m., started pulling trash, interacted with some people, (and most everyone who works at the schools are kind people, especially elementary School teachers! 😍🥰), then little by little everyone would start going home LOL. By around 7 p.m. I'd be on my own, cleaning, which is a mixture of art and science, I do believe. Get off at 11:00 pm. And I was appreciated there also. Also being a vendor/merchandiser, you are around people in the stores, but you can pick who you interact with. And some of us really need that aspect.
@MyHomebodyHomey
Жыл бұрын
I love the timing of this post. Currently, I am thinking of focusing on merchandising jobs and library jobs so I can be alone, quiet & able to generate income. December, I left a well paying sales job because it was too much interaction. Before that, I managed a team of 12. Now, I realize I 💩-fit myself into the role by becoming a functioning alcoholic . I ended up walking out because of deregulation at the worst possible time. I am hoping that a quiet source of income, the journaling practice, and this channel will help me build myself up. Your comment feels like I'm on the right track when it comes to future work for myself. Thank you for posting Stacy Jaye, and thank you, Anna Runkle. ❣️
@snoopy5736
Жыл бұрын
Sounds awesome 👌
@investornabil8825
Жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️❤️heart warming post Stacy. Thank you for sharing.
@stacyjaye6350
Жыл бұрын
@@MyHomebodyHomeyI work for bimbo Bakeries, which is Sara Lee Bread and a bunch of other products Thomas English muffins etc. They are one of the largest in the world, the position is called pull up. I pounded the pavement, asked grocery store managers for a list of vendors, Nabisco and Frito-Lay also. It's also high turnover because you have to use your own car, it's a good thing. Best of luck to you honey!
@stacyjaye6350
Жыл бұрын
@@MyHomebodyHomey PS. Chase down a job at bimbo. At the beginning of the pandemic, they straight up took us from $12 an hour to $15 an hour. We also got a $250 bonus for gear. And I am just a part-time employee. They have plenty of jobs that are full-time, but a lot of us are vendors for a couple different merchants, part-time. Bimbo's policy is to treat everyone with respect and fairness, for instance they pay more in the bigger cities. I truly love my job for the first time ever 💕
@reyne8424
Жыл бұрын
I started an apprenticeship to become a luthier when I was twenty. I loved it very much. Half a year later, I went back home. I was broken, suicidal, always stoned and decided I would have to heal before I could do anything else. I did heal a lot and have been sober for 3 years now. Then the pandemic hit and I decided to stay on the farm instead of starting my education once more. Now, at 25, I have a freelance job in IT and I like it well enough, but I know It’s not the path I want to stay on. The people are very nice, but I‘ve also been waiting for the last paycheck for 5 weeks now, for the second time in a year. I still want to learn a trade, but I‘m still deeply ashamed of my failure 5 years back and am terrified of failing again. Your video is helping me see the trauma residue I still have, thank you.
@bonnyblacksheep
Жыл бұрын
Whenever I wake up crying and full of self-loathing, I pop one of your videos on (after doing my daily practice) and it ALWAYS makes me feel better. Thank you, Anna, you are an absolute treasure.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Happy to hear that you're doing the Daily Practice -- that should definitely help. - Ashley, Team Fairy
@bloom4096
Жыл бұрын
This title resonated with me straight away. 😢 People always had very high hopes for me, but I never could fulfill any of it. I’m now 43 and still struggling.
@rockrecordreport7136
Жыл бұрын
VERY important things discussed here, the part of about accepting jobs because you need the money, and that are not good fits. And then moving on and finding more success (even minor) by being in the right positional, or doing what you wish to do.
@AnnMaritamusic
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for talking about this, Anna!!! More, please!! Seriously, nobody else out there is talking about this stuff.
@turnthepage867
Жыл бұрын
I have my own business and clients now, and It's so stabilizing. God bless the broken road...
@oso_estudioso
11 ай бұрын
anna in my dreams we hold hands and im being healed. its awesome
@lanefaurot
Жыл бұрын
Wow! This sure sounds freaking familiar!! For 30 years, I was a hairstylist. It perfectly aligns with what you’re talking about high drama, yet flexible in that I could work for myself vs working in a salon. Each has benefits and drawbacks.
@PENH5428
Жыл бұрын
I’m one of those people that is more comfortable in the background . My anxiety controls me in that way. I know I’m capable but when I’m in the company of my coworkers I shrink and don’t speak up or contribute . I’m used to not being seen (family dynamics and narc relationships). Luckily my boss saw something in me and promoted me. She is also a mentor for a program in our field and encouraged me to join that mentorship . I’m one month in and still feeling inadequate but I’m grateful for being seen and getting a chance . I’m slowly working through things and trying to heal and quiet the destructive inner voice that tells me I don’t matter or have nothing to contribute . I have to push through it because I do not want to be controlled by these thoughts that have been implanted into my head by people who benefited from having me as a doormat .
@blessall8856
Жыл бұрын
I have the same doormat background and reading your comment made me feel the pain. Your boss is very perceptive and gave you some of the help you needed. Sending blessings and success to you!
@mwm2129
Жыл бұрын
This video has come at such an opportune time. I am just about to begin an internship that is training me to be a music therapist! I'm excited but also worried because I have such an awful relationship with work and working 'under' and with people that I'm worried I'm going to be taken advantage of, overworked and end up resenting something I really love and believe in. I'm aware I have to set boundaries but also so nervous about doing that. Gonna save this video, thank you Anna!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Good luck with your internship (and setting healthy boundaries)! - Ashley, Team Fairy
@Sweetshaunna
Жыл бұрын
How does a person become a music therapist?
@mwm2129
Жыл бұрын
@@Sweetshaunna you can look up courses in your region/country! (like most formal education, it can be expensive though) Where I'm from, it's still a developing field, but there are quite a few options to study, train and become a qualified and certified music therapist.
@natmerc498
Жыл бұрын
That is so true! Money helps you make choices!!!
@Jenandr48
Жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness this is so true! I started listening to your videos and doing the daily practice in April 2022. In June I found a super supportive job I really like and my boss is amazing 🧡 We get along so well!!
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Yay! It's so great to hear success stories like this, thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@marianacantale769
Жыл бұрын
It's so true, I went to work with a couple who had a similar dynamic to the one of my parents, it ended up in disaster if you were wondering. I've flunked in a lot of areas but till now I never blamed my childhood filled with abuse. Thank you Fairy.
@2ugly4danaturallook
Жыл бұрын
I disagree about your statement on quiet quitting. Because of my CPTSD I frequently used to interpret the work place as a place where I had to constantly go above and beyond. That I had to do more than they were asking of me, because otherwise they would know how much of a fraud I was right? But the concept of quiet quitting, just doing what is expected of me helped me set up boundaries, for myself and other people. In a work environment with a boss I think it is very easy for bosses to take advantage of trauma survivors, because let's face it in a corporation there are a lot of similarities between gaslighting and corporate expectations. The concept of quiet quitting is not about slacking off. It's about stepping into your boundaries and knowing that you have value even if that gets lost in the office.
@going-easy
Жыл бұрын
Agree!!
@carolnahigian9518
3 ай бұрын
I love being Luncheon Lady!!
@just.curious...
Жыл бұрын
Thank you❤ You are 100% right about all of this, and it's a topic that needs much more attention!
@Ebdain787
Жыл бұрын
I agree. Jobs are like microcosms of family life and smokes out all the CPTSD to the relationships in the work place. Ooof.
@siilver1
6 ай бұрын
I am listening to this as I am taking a walk at 5 in the morning. Much needed ♥️ . . . . . . . 12th March, 202@6:00am, Tuesday
@user-fb1ys2lj9c
Жыл бұрын
This help today and spark a moment of joy and inspiration thank you🙏🏽
@industryliaison
Жыл бұрын
FINALLY!!! Finally someone is speaking about this. I suspected some of my own trauma was affecting my career but I for sure knew I was working with people who had unhealed trauma (I work in entertainment). I often feel so disregulated because many work environments are dysfunctional and trigger me. I also notice that I had a pattern of crapfitting myself to the job for income or just opportunity to gain industry knowledge. I am exploring self employment because I’m very entrepreneurial but the financial side of it is a challenge. I love what you’ve said in a few videos about how continuing to put up with crappfitting basically drains your soul. I’ll continue to work on that because that’s a whole other healing process as well.
@susanhawkes2519
Жыл бұрын
I could crapfit myself into anything for 2 years.
@clevershe8442
Жыл бұрын
A behavior I have been guilty of is aligning myself with the department troublemaker. In my eyes I see them as the underdog. At first sight they appear to be a victim. And maybe at some point they were unfairly treated. But many times it is due to their behavior or performance. I align myself with this person which ultimately reflects on my reputation. I know this is behavior left over from my household. It was the kids versus the dysfunctional addict parents. My older sister was our leader and exploited that dynamic.
@roshanrahealer
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your content! I struggle with my own business, but it's helping me heal from codependency. Logically, I know I'm a good leader. I've been in leadership situations since childhood, whether in church, school, or the community. Still, I feel less like a leader and more like a follower (until the past few years) because I had the tendency to forget who I am and become a version of me that fit whatever narrative it had to fit, as my inner child fears being killed more than simple rejection. I had to "abandon" people to recognize the toxicity from my past. Now, I'm feeling more confident in my decision to work as a writer, editor, and self-publisher. I'm rebranding myself and rebranding my series at the same time. It's a great way to show my healing journey without revealing true identities of past abusers. I'd rather heal than put myself in danger again.
@ChooseLoveToday316
Жыл бұрын
I am empathic and severely codependent. I am starting a business and hoping it helps with some of my mental health traits.
@ilikemaline
Жыл бұрын
I definitely brought my wounded child into work especially when I was younger. After I totally burned out and really came to a point where I had to decide between my health or keeping my job I started putting in strict boundaries for myself, went back to school and am working towards a career that I think is much more suited for me and would bring me some joy. I still get freaked out sometimes if it will really work out but generally I have a good feeling. What I realised listening to you and maybe this won't resonate with others but probably because my parents abandoned me and was left to take care of myself (it was expected of me to help out and take care of my younger sibling - that is why I burned out, my only value was my productivity so I just worked myself to the ground) I really don't expect anything from my bosses or co-workers, I feel looking at a job just as a job is easier for me than most people. I have friends who are constantly worked up because of the bad relationships they have at work, while I just don't care, I look at people I work with very neutrally. That is also a leftover of trauma but maybe it's a plus at least in this narrow sense. But I generally agree, when I was able to keep a job for years and people valued me as an employee and all the experiences I gained gave me a lot of confidence although I hated the job.
@myevilfish
Жыл бұрын
I love that ‘who do I need to work for?’ Great question
@Dan_Chiron
Жыл бұрын
Remember the movie Coraline? A few years ago, I encountered my "bad mother" at a workplace. She was so into me and my work when I started, but OMG, she turned into this authoritative, domineering, self-centered monster whenever I did anything she didn't approve; she would accuse me of anything from selfishness and diminishing the work of the team (something that gained me everybody's hate), to directly abusing her and "stabbing her from the back". I had to leave, and not in very good terms. After some time of research and self-work, I discovered those were the mean characteristics of my real mother, which left deep scars on my psyche. Still I am grateful now, not for what happened, but because it was so shocking that it forced me to stand on my feet and heal. Still a work in progress, but certainly life has been getting better and better since then.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry you had such a difficult experience, but it's wonderful you have been able to accomplish so much healing since then. Thanks for sharing this :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@iamstaceyrobinson
Жыл бұрын
Ugh.. i left bedside nursing during the pandemic after 24 yrs .. talk about a traumatic profession.. best decision ever.
@ellenbruckermarshall4179
Жыл бұрын
Best pep talk ever! Save and replay! I sent this to my therapist and requested that he view and pass it along to the students he teaches. At some point I’d like to tell a similar story, inserting my mostly crappy-crap-fit positions. Doing damage to my healing for money. And I taught management for 14 years! THANK YOU ANNA Please forward to all state Health & Human Service committees. Save a heap load of money. Because Misery Lives Company is not a business model.
@Michevell
Жыл бұрын
Yesss!!! As much as I work on my CPTSD and I have improved significantly at my jobs, moving up,I still go through so many triggers. The best way I believe for me too is to have my own business. This is why I’m trying to start my channel and dabble into other things that will allow me financial freedom to escape corporate America. It’s not only the dynamic of the work place but it’s also having to give 40+ hours of my life to a corporation that doesn’t fulfill me, it’s extremely draining and triggering. This is why I’m becoming so financially disciplined and getting out of the rat race ASAP. Thank you for giving amazing content per usual 💗
@Michevell
Жыл бұрын
One last note! YES on the trauma drama! I am totally a glutton for that! I also have worked in restaurant industries and I currently work at a hospital, all high stress- everything you said totally clicks. 😅
@gemeinschaftsgeful
Жыл бұрын
I can relate. I was told to stay at work, while everyone else went to a company Christmas party, twice.
@GiveHerFlowers
Жыл бұрын
I feel personally attacked. But in a good way. It shows my growth in having already recognized these patterns and taking steps to heal. Thank you
@Buster-im5so
Жыл бұрын
Oh Lord! You describing your trauma shows me that my own childhood experiences affected/ infected me with trauma syndromes that I suffer with each day. Who knew?! I've listened enough that your counsel pops-up in my thoughts, giving me guidance! Some University should give you an Honorary Doctorate Degree based upon the thousands (I just started listening) that you HELPED get beyond our acceptance of suffering-as-normal mindset. Live Webinar June 29. I've 'dropped anchor' on a lot of friendships... Dr. 'Crappy Childhood Fairy' shares her personal dynamics of these things. I want to say one thing to the critics and criticisms of this Validating Material and Personality that she Presents: Her (vulnerable) testimony helps me see the things about me that I want to change. I've seen half a dozen counselors who won't touch this highly sensitive stuff.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
I’m sure Anna will want to read this. Thank you so much for this encouragement! -Cara@TeamFairy
@eniko7698
Жыл бұрын
Dear Anna, thank you for this video. I am listenining to you from Austria. I would love to send you a letter on this one day. This is so spot on for me. I am a single Mum, and doing a Master's degree, actually because I didn't get on with my colleagues. I have come to realize that I need to change a family pattern. As my dad, I am an unsuccessful 'workaholic', who tries to get attention for my achievements. It's very very hard, but at the dame time a comfort zone. (A place where I work hard but habe no intimate relationships). Thank you for helping us all. Also, I am so happy for you that you could change so much. It gives me, and all of us followers, a lot of hope 😊 Thank you! Lot's of love.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your kind words, I'm so glad the channel has been helpful :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@robertfelts8773
Жыл бұрын
Cheers to that youtube thing of knowledge availability. We have access to more information than the greatest kings and rulers of hiatory
@Jo-whoknowshowmany
Жыл бұрын
This made my cry, even at 2 minutes in. I have struggled so much trying to find work that I can cope with. Work helps my mental health, but often it's far too noisy and stressful for me to cope, or with loud people who never shut up. When I took my current job, simply to wash pots, I've been put as a chef when I'm not a chef, but they are so short staffed and I desperately need money. For years I have looked for work that is quiet, I know I have a lot to give, but I can't if I feel unsafe and I'm triggered too much all the time and exhausted from such hard work without breaks. I'm now terrified to try something new and yet again not find what I'm looking for.
@karakim9213
Жыл бұрын
I really appreciate your channel. 🙏 its so real! Thank you
@RachelRiner
Жыл бұрын
WOW Anna, I am feeling the mother bear love in this one. My mom LOVES my sister and I. But she has never fully healed from her own traumas. I think that has made her hesitant or simply unable to share this kind of bold “take care of yourself” wisdom. And I never knew that was frustrating to me. It’s like I felt my mom was still a victim in the world and unable to teach me how to stand up for myself. All of this in spite of the fact that she did work hard to provide for us and would never hurt a fly. She’s super sweet yet a part of me was somehow angry at her. Hearing you talk to us in these videos (especially this one about work life) really makes me feel like a grown up has my back. Like YES it’s ok to look out for yourself and not just fawn all over employers and coworkers to just get by and not worry about taking up space… whew! That was a lot. I’m always relating to so many others comments, maybe this will help someone else shed light on their own similar feelings! Thank you Anna for each and every word that comes out of your mouth and your smiley eyes are contagious 😊👍🏼
@hopediamond2902
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video! I’m recently in the stages of healing trauma within work environments and this is super relevant and helpful. It’s very important to be aware of dynamics in order to thrive and grow at work and I used to hold myself back a lot. I would LOVE to see some more videos specifically addressing CPTSD and childhood trauma at work and how to thrive at work despite it. Really leaning into that growth mindset here, combine with a healthy self awareness.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Content related to work and career are definitely on Anna's radar, but I'll also pass the word along! In the meantime, you may be interested in Anna's pre-recorded webinar on the topic. You can find it on this list. courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com/webinars - Ashley, Team Fairy
@smileeveryday421
6 ай бұрын
Thankyou for your videos, they help me realise so much. I have anxiety that i have to hide, while I work as a care giver in a residence for Alzheimer, and dementia clients, i cant get myself to do it full time, i usually need more than 2 days to shake off the stress, not to mention co-workers who are often equally stressed out.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
6 ай бұрын
You do such an important job and you should definitely take care of your own health too! I encourage you to try Daily Practice. It is a good tool to help with getting regulated by processing fears and resentment. You can try it in the free course: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice Nika@TeamFairy
@smileeveryday421
6 ай бұрын
Thankyou, i think i will on my next day off because i think it would help @@CrappyChildhoodFairy
@gobears6487
Жыл бұрын
One day I may get around to writing a letter to Anna, it's been in my head for 2+ years... but one thing I'm dealing with constantly is the fallout from CPTSD and having been retraumatized multiple times because I had no idea I had it, much less how to deal with it. However, in the world of work/career I did manage (15+ years ago) to leave an unsatisfying career and chase my passions. My work life was generally good and I found I was great at what I went into, but I've rarely been able to make a living at it (despite awards etc) and now I am near 60 I seem to be facing a huge wall of ageism. I've been unemployed 18 months and every interview they've hired someone half my age. I have experience, great qualifications, tons of enthusiasm which I bring into interviews, and even confidence. But I can't seem to get hired and my state of mind is deteriorating rapidly. Why can't society value age and experience? 😢
@markcavandish1295
Жыл бұрын
I Love your intermittent bouts of genuine laughter mixed into your messaging. It’s so fun to hear.
@carolinemullan2781
Жыл бұрын
I just got an amazing job after 20 years of struggle and I'm scared thanks for this❤️
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
That's amazing, congratulations! Sending you encouragement :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@LurkingLinnet
3 ай бұрын
"It all worked out, I'm happy now and I have kids...they are adult kids now so healing you know...its funny how our healed life can work with us wherever we come from, it can work with whatever wounds there are..and life can unfold and be wonderful any way So dont worry, dont worry if you've got problems rught now Dont worry if you're stuck in old patterns. You can still go on even if you don't have everything worked out right now.."
@kathym656
Жыл бұрын
I used to think that people with trauma & drama were exciting. Their stories were so alluring. Sometimes they were all excited about the crazy stories they told. Other times they seemed righteous in their anger. Now I see it as chaos. At the time, I thought I was "boring".
@katec9893
Жыл бұрын
Anna I've been listening to your videos all weekend. You used to trigger me because you talk about things we're sometimes doing that cause us more problems and it felt too much initially to hear. I've struggled with jobs so much and I'm currently not working. It's a big part of my life I'm working on turning around, because it affects everything from our self esteem to financial security to confidence around others to housing. I like how you look at CPTSD from a practical perspective and what we can do to improve our lives.
@yonitznkc
11 ай бұрын
I’ve been consuming Anna’s videos too. They are my current guideposts. 🙏
@SonicDephect
Жыл бұрын
Thank you! I’m working on the career and financial part of my life/trauma. Having a hard time finding resources for this, please share more of this content. 🙏🏼
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Sending you encouragement. CPSTD can make your work life difficult sometimes. But they are more reasons to heal. Jack@TeamFairy
@elliemathews6884
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Anna. I desperately needed this. I haven't been able to work in 6 years because I keep getting myself in horrible job situations.
@ameliachung4151
Жыл бұрын
26:32 - 26:46 that was the most loving, nurturing response to someone that feels scared to be seen ❤😭!
@Sinapsis86
Жыл бұрын
Yes !!
@zoewind6591
Жыл бұрын
...this ...every point is spot on , have been dealing with all this in my career... pooohhh 😪😮💨 you get it . Thank you . Feel so understood
@blessall8856
Жыл бұрын
She totally gets it!
@edithmr21o
Жыл бұрын
Im so excited for your book . It can be as revolutionary as the book series, Hes not that into you (yes, an ancient reference) But itll be a self help book for literally ourselves. Thank you. Looking forward to it
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the support! -Calista@TeamFairy
@peacewalker7675
Жыл бұрын
I live alone .. blissfully happy, and worked for myself most of my life. Even as a child I preferred to be alone. I just really value peace and quiet.. 💕
@blessall8856
Жыл бұрын
Totally relate to you! Calm, quiet and peaceful is the best. I detest stressful work and situations.
@CrescentMoonPye
Жыл бұрын
31:17 Well, CCF, congratulations on becoming that. We all are very lucky to have you and we are grateful for your journey/hard work.
@moniquegenua7287
Жыл бұрын
OMG I love you!Thank you !I feel so alone.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
You certainly aren't alone and we're so glad you're here :) -Calista@TeamFairy
@scottyls8865
28 күн бұрын
I just.passed on the Lead position because I have poor people skills and I recognize now it holds me back yet I'm becoming wiser at recognizing my "issues". I am happy with my position of "most experienced" without Lead position headaches.
@tashmoobabe8704
Жыл бұрын
"Creating a sense of fulfillment through your work" is what I craved even as a kid looking forward to working. And I remember the disappointment when the career in publishing in New York couldn't materialize because it was so low paid it didn't make sense. I went back into legal secretarial, extremely bitter on several levels. Then a miracle happened: I began to love it. The cases were interesting and in some cases big headline grabbers. Famous people walked in and out and knew me by first name. I was appreciated for my ability to serve the firms and reassure the attorneys. The camaraderie was straight out of "Allie McBeal." There were some definite drawbacks, and lots of feelings as if I had sold myself short on accepting the "secretary" title. But I distinctly remember the day when, complaining internally that I would rather be making a difference in the world through journalism, I suddenly got a download that I WAS making a difference, right there where I was, in being a force for ethical treatment of coworkers, teamwork, and kindness. I did go into publishing later, as an editor on Wall Street, but again the value of the experience was in being fully present and solving problems. I love these videos and value you, Anna, for sharing something of the same journey of blooming where you're planted and finding your true mission in the process rather than as an abstract concept.
@johnbyerlein6682
Жыл бұрын
I appreciate and enjoy your wise content. Best quote, "Unhealed trauma leads us into trauma driven behaviors." Long story short, I have undiagnosed C-PTSD and I was diagnosed with an ASD when I was 60. I internalized deep shame and depression and most of the therapy I received was ineffective. Growing up, I never heard one adult ever say, "I believe in you. You matter. You are enough." I was always lectured and never/rarely accepted or understood by other people. I basically learned to shut my mouth, nod my head and be an obedient job drone. I feel such burning anger towards God, the mental health 'profession', family, church, school for minimally helping me succeed in life and career. With your help, I am improving and I have experienced many similar career challenges just like you.
@vikkivoss6247
Жыл бұрын
You are wonderful ⭐️🙏⭐️ You’ve helped me in so many ways along this journey and in turn you’ve helped my family, my friends, my colleagues and everyone who crosses my path. You are changing the world with your work and helping so many people every single day.Thank you 🙏💞🙏
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
Жыл бұрын
What a kind thing to say! Thank you for taking the time to comment, I'm sure Anna will want to read this. -Calista@TeamFairy
@sweetdreams3119
Жыл бұрын
I have no idea where I go from here, but I figure I got here so I can help others by passing this along in one way or another. I plan to use everything I learned over this lifetime of pain and suffering so that one little girl, somewhere out there now, will find what she needs. Much love to all of us regretting our too late to achieve lives. I'm done feeling sorry. Time to help save that kid
@PENH5428
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Thank you for sharing your stories . I know it’s incredibly vulnerable to share your past hurts. Many of us don’t know how to get out of the muck, and you are teaching us how! You are living proof that we can take control of our own destiny . Thank you thank you thank you ❤
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
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Thank you for your kind words. We hope that you can take control of your own destiny. Jack@TeamFairy
@ameliamorningstar
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Love parking lot story! Shows that through osmosis we can heal others by being just healed. I’m also grateful that you checked that urge many of us ACOA’s have to dive into frontline martyrdom - the intent is good but this move isn’t necessarily healthy for us. I am ready for number seven. I dream of a few employees, a brick and mortar studio and some publicity for my creative work instead of just being a sole proprietor working alone at home with no website or socials. Don’t quite feel ready, still some healing to do, but getting there soon.
@ednasanchez2508
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you reaaaally hit the nail on this one, jeeeez! this explanation really fits my situation. I am so grateful now I am healing and most likely on the right path, eventhough I work 3 jobs right now I am way more satisfied than before, I have one job at a company and then 2 jobs on the side that are my own one as content creator and the second one as makeup artist/hairdresser and being able to do that makes me really happy, being a single mom with cptsd and head of my house is definately not easy but somehow I am balancing things and doing my best to raise my son in a safe enviroment... I am so blessed to have found your channel last year, you certainly have been part of my healing journey... thank you Anna ♥
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
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That's amazing! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. -Calista@TeamFairy
@elkende
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I'm an artist who's worked at the front desk at museums for most of my career, that or working in an art store. One of these days I would love to sell work regularly, but I have a hard time keeping myself comitted to selling work. Part of it is the fear of rejection, but also of success. When I was the most prolific, it was on my own away from family. Now I'm stuck at home and havent made anything in months. Being here is sucking the life out of me, but I don't have the money to be independent.
@lavenderrose1107
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I’ve been in a coding bootcamp for a few months it went absolutely terrible at first but I’m doing so much better it’s so amazing how wonderful I feel I’m hoping to finish strong and I love programming never knew I could achieve this
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
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I'm glad you're doing better in your program now. It takes strength and bravery to do something like this and we're proud of you. We're all cheering for you as you finish off strong! - Ashley, Team Fairy
@janemorrow6672
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This is my favourite video of yours. Massive thanks Anna.
@CrappyChildhoodFairy
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Welcome, welcome. Glad you're here. - Ashley, Team Fairy
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