I hear what the lady is saying about the loss of a love one. As an example the former company I worked for tried to use this concept for their plan to initiate paid parking. I argued that there a finality in death that does not exist in the examples given or in paid parking. One can get another job, find a new relationship, or another spot to park for free but a death that comes to soon is different. It is different because one is inbetween a rock and a hard place where no amount of bargaining or fits of anger will bring the loved one back. My question is about how we "act out" in each stage meaning; what it we do to express each stage which might seem inappropriate or attackingly harsh response. I'm glad you've made this video and I enjoy your all your media!
@SelfHelpforLife
3 жыл бұрын
Good question Will, Although the stages can be similar for different types of loss, the intensity of emotions in each stage will vary tremendously. For the death of someone very close, it's likely that the emotions will be more intense and it will take longer to get to the last stage. In terms of "acting out" each stage, I guess this is about expressing the emotions without hurting other people that are close to us. Is that right? - If so, I would probably suggest that the grieving person could talk it through with a counsellor. Other options could be journalling, physical activity and perhaps Emotional Freedom Technique or The Sedona Method to help with releasing emotions. Hope this helps. Glad you enjoy my videos.
@choicechangeinspire7773
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Paul for another brilliant yet simple video. I wonder what are the differences between an adult and child way of feeling grief? I know children need lots of acceptance, pretty much like adults, they need a space to release all of the pain they carry. I'm thinking about my 6 yo son, who has lost his father nearly a year ago.
@SelfHelpforLife
2 жыл бұрын
Great question! I'm not sure if I know the answer. I feel that the grieving process will be similar, and I agree that just like adults, your son need the space to release the pain and negative emotions. Children are more likely to form beliefs (positive or negative) that will then guide their life going forward. These could be positive - for example "I'm going to make the most of my life, so that dad would have been proud of me", or more negative. I guess you just need to support your son as best you can, and is seems like you're on the right track with that. Hope this helps.
@rc8764
3 жыл бұрын
This really helped.
@umbertocalvini7429
3 жыл бұрын
My dad passed away on August 4th. This is very helpful 🤗
@SelfHelpforLife
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear that. Glad this video helped you during this sad and difficult time.
@chachisymphony4754
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you-- very well explained. really appreciate your wisdom and knowledge
@SelfHelpforLife
3 жыл бұрын
You're very welcome. Thanks for your feedback.
@tamworthtrainnut285
Жыл бұрын
Would living with Autism, Asperger’s syndrome and ADHD make dealing with grief even harder??
@SelfHelpforLife
Жыл бұрын
Possibly, but could be other factors at play too.
@ilianaperisteridi951
3 жыл бұрын
What if you are in a mix of 3,4,5 stages?
@SelfHelpforLife
3 жыл бұрын
Yes that's okay. People do jump between stages. However, you will find that as time goes on, you'll experience more of stage 5 and less of the other stages. Hope this helps. Paul
@ilianaperisteridi951
3 жыл бұрын
@@SelfHelpforLife Thank you very much. I hope i'll get there soon.
@fembot521
3 жыл бұрын
I’m sorry but having experienced a lot of what you are calling “grief” (loss of job, loss of pet, moving) and absolutely nothing is the same as losing my husband. To lump it all into one and as being the same is completely disrespectful to those who are actually experiencing devastating grief from the loss of a close loved one. My husband died 8 months ago and I experience all of these feeling on a daily basis. These stages are not linear.
@SelfHelpforLife
3 жыл бұрын
Sorry to hear about the loss of your husband and thanks for your comments. My apologies if this came across as disrespectful to compare different types of losses in the same way. It wasn't intentional. I haven't been through what you're going through, so I can't speak from personal experience. Different people experience grief in different ways, so thanks for sharing what it's like for you.
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