If your children do not have basic rules for hygiene u shouldnt have your kids. This is how cps fails kids every child should have to bathe regularly keeping areas of ur body clean to prevent bacteria build up. Same for brushing teeth you brush ur teeth to prevent cavities and plaque build up if you dont do this ur teeth will be unhealthy you could lose ur teeth. It horrifies me to see how these kids may turn out if they are never taught are required to have any basic hygiene. Having to pull teeth and replaced with fake teeth is expensive and painful especially when you could prevent it by having basic hygiene conduct in place. Their is a big difference in not having a conventional parenting style and neglecting ur kids. Children need some kind of guidance its ur responsibility to teach them how to care for themself properly and taking care of them. That includes providing them with an education, feeding them, keeping their hygiene in order...
@briannajeansonne2002
Жыл бұрын
Im all for letting ur child self regulate, learning consent having natural consequences but there are somethings children are not capable of understanding and it is ur job to make them do it and not just hoping they eventually want to. Ur lucky ur child wants to learn to read my question is how will theh survive if/when yall are no longer around. What happens if you child never wants to learn how to read or write or do math. How will they work to take care of themself or potentially their family if they never want to learn these things. Not to mention learning things like speaking is easier as kids thats why they say teaching a toddle multiple languages is easier than teaching an adult a second language.
@ldhorw
2 жыл бұрын
I don’t agree with everything you’re doing but, I really appreciate the concept in the sense of them learning to be self-responsible. I think I’d worry about tooth care like resorption if the teeth and such but, I find this educational and an important perspective for everyone to see. Keep it up 💕
@hannahbarkham
2 жыл бұрын
I find your lifestyle completely fascinating, and I am in awe that you’ve decided to bring up your babies that way. Please don’t take offence when I say the only thing I disagree with is the brushing teeth and personal hygene, coming from someone who’s always had a reasonably healthy diet but didn’t really look after my teeth as a youngster- I’m paying quite literally for them now. But everyone is different. What I really like about you both is that you’re bringing up your babies how you want. I’m interested to see them flourish! As a trainee counsellor I know that the early years is where we eventually develop issues with mental health in later life- so it’s actually fascinating that the childrens self actualisation is going to be high- which is the ultimate goal…. Well done on your KZitem channel! I have defo subscribed! Can’t wait to see more!
@latikireese1219
Жыл бұрын
My question is what happens when they are older and learn the harsh reality of this world. How are they going to mesh with the world. Alot of this world will not be accepting of them. That doesn't include hygiene. You are setting up them up to feel like they don't conform which is ok until you aren't around to protect them when reality calls them names and makes them feel bad. How are they supposed to date and marry when they stink? How is your daughter going to keep clean and smell good on her monthly? If and when they become harassed how are they going to sign the police report? How are they going to read and understand what they are putting their X on? I get it I do but these kids have a future that doesn't include you....a rough one
@theunconventionalparent198
Жыл бұрын
Wow that's a lot of assumptions right there. I guess you're going to have to watch our journey unfold to answer your questions!
@ConfuzzledOwO
Жыл бұрын
Your kids are gonna grow up thinking they can do anything they dont or dont want to do when the unfortunate thing about life is that sometimes you have to do things you dont want to as an adult. Having no schedule fails to teach them responsibility, as most things in adult life operate via schedule. In this ruthless, unforgiving world, your kids are being set up for either failure, premature death, or massive headache when they attempt to acquire all of the things they should have gotten as a kid later in life
@madebytaran
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for the update I watched your documentary recently as I am a parent and a trainee counsellor who likes learning about people’s lifestyles to discover more about them and out of curiosity too, it helps me be in a neutral place with future people I meet. I also read books on studies, experiences such as Why love matters fascinated me, currently reading The myth of normal and The Danish way of parenting. I’m a writer, reader and researcher by nature aka a geek. I believe everyone is different and unique, I too had a mostly strict upbringing with school and lots of rules and routine. Funnily enough I need structure to mentally function well, I love it as I’m a list writer, though sometimes I am spontaneous honestly! I think what may have annoyed us in our teens with our own upbringings brought a sense of safety/security and love in our younger years 0-4 years, yet we don’t remember that. I went to so many after school clubs that I wish I’d realised I could have chosen not to go, or days I went to school sick so my parents could work and not worry about me. However ballet taught me coordination, balance and street jazz helped me learn maths because you count, same with badminton. Drama helped my fast speech, confidence and anxiety lesson. Going to school helped my accountability of showing up and I’m learning to listen to my body more - if I’m ill I’m ill whether I get paid or not! I try and be more organic with my child, they go to one club only (swimming life skill and enjoyment till your older) they get to relax in away I didn’t and it’s beautiful they have started to write their name at home and enjoy it. Their face doesn’t feature on my social media as I like to think privacy comes first till they understand the internet. I think it’s about balance, I chose a different faith at 27, I changed my name, we have power to change our minds and to grow all the time. I was a stay at home parent for some time and I work part time term time with holidays off with them throughout the year, let children be children and as parents be present with them. I don’t agree with everything - screen time = dopamine hits that stuff is addictive, developers have done it on purpose - Cal Newport is a great writer on digital minimalism. Also teeth brushing - not sure how your teeth don’t hurt or bleed but ok if it works for you and you like your smile then ok. I love Brighton, hope your new place is suited and enjoy your journey.
@theunconventionalparent198
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing your story. I studied psychology for a year at university in my twenties. There's a great book on dental health exploring the true causes behind decay and bleeding gums called teeth don't lie by Dorte Bredgaard. There's also some fascinating reads on kids and technology by Peter Gray from Psychology today website. I'm planning on driving more into this topic in my next video actually but have been super busy lately. Hope you continue to find our channel interesting and insightful.
@madebytaran
Жыл бұрын
Interesting well like I said if it works for you (the teeth things) then that’s great. I wash my hair once a week and feel like a rule breaking rebel! Also other cultures I’ve heard (I think Japanese don’t quote me on that) some parents allow children to eat all they want believing it will make them very smart, interesting stuff. Yep I see how gaming can help with memory, planning and other skills I’m not much of a gamer though I have a sibling who is, like I said it’s about balance life + tech not tipping the scales to completely about tech, sadly I’ve seen this happen with people too. I’m thinking of reading some non conventional parenting books any ideas where to start let me know.
@ملتقىدجلةوالفرات
2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely admire you 🤗 y'all stick together although the conventional systems are against you. I must have taken much strength to stand up. But u r really making a difference in parenting by making this public. Thank you! And what a wonderful couple you are! GBU!
@amberandrew-long2313
2 жыл бұрын
I love this, I never thought anyone else would have this approach, I always felt told to do stuff and became very rebellious from a young age I definitely agree with the majority of what ur doing, full support here, especially with the CLINICAL TRIAL of COVID (love the pine needle tea plant too!)
@A_Psych_Nurse
Жыл бұрын
Love you guys! This is EXACTLY how I'd like (or am trying) to raise our kids. Our kiddos are unvaccinated, 'unschooled' (well never schooled lol), very healthy and play in nature a lot. I guess the struggle for me is the conflicting values b/t us and our kids (e.g., I value a clean house, at least fairly clean, and obviously kids could care less). I'm curious how you handle situations where 'natural consequences' don't work. For instance, despite me finding it 'gross,' I don't bitch at our kids for picking their nose--yet I would have an issue if they put their hands down their pants and scratched their anus--and although it's their body, something like that is a deal-breaker for me and I'd intervene (gently of course), despite the natural consequence probably being nothing. And as you point out in your video, parental hypocrisy is everywhere (i'm a HUGE hypocrit =/). Would also be curious how you guys handle parental conflict when you disagree about what should happen in a particular situation. How about hitting? What do you do when one kid hits another? Or hits or kicks you? And how about the please and thank you thing--I model this, but I generally don't request it of my kid, but sometimes they are, what most people would describe as 'rudely demanding.' Like if my kid says, "make me a sandwich" in a demanding tone, I usually respond with, "deal, if you ask me nicely." But if an adult said that to me, I'd tell them to make their own unless they want spit in it =P. Anyhow, I feel like there are a lot of 'tricky' situations for which I don't have an answer. Looking forward to watching all your vids! And PS, I think your kids are SOOOO incredibly lucky to have you guys--confident if kids around the world had parents like you we'd be so much closer to world peace :) :)
@theunconventionalparent198
Жыл бұрын
Thank you...Lots of topics for future videos right there!
@weeweefeet4030
Жыл бұрын
This is so amazing. I wish my parents would have been like this. I hope once I have kids I can utilize these principles myself.
@tealee4
Жыл бұрын
You both seem like wonderful parents, I would have loved to have parents like you I actually think I would of been more successful.
@siobhanfoxton9598
2 жыл бұрын
Would love to see more of your lifestyle. We are unschooling and I have many of the same ideologies as you guys 😊
@alik7064
2 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with a decent amount of how you view raising children. I am curious if you had always wanted to raise them this way or if it was something that you saw others doing, etc?
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
It has been an intuitive journey of just researching and observing others and then applying what feels right. 💚
@sarahcrouch4216
2 жыл бұрын
Very good friends of ours. For a heads up children do not always get a tooth cavity from bad hygiene this can also be causes by medicines and treatment to cure cancer. First hand experience.
@ملتقىدجلةوالفرات
2 жыл бұрын
I am a big admirer of yours and I am convinced that this is a right way and I have been against putting my child to kindergarten and i left everything behind and thankfully had the chance to be with my child. But I myself struggle much with discipline part I mean my son is sooo excited all the time and energetic. He can even be violent sometimes and once he hit (didn't hurt though) an adult who then wanted to attack us back 😥 i was shocked. I mean we were very obedient. My son is not obedient at all and this makes it veeerryy difficult. Can you pls give ne some thoughts?
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like you have a high spirited child! Do you ever think about ways to redirect his high energy? Obedience needn't be the goal but mutual cooperation certainly can help!
@janehunt2264
2 жыл бұрын
So did Ullysses go to dentist ? How did you know he had a cavity and what did you do about it?
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
Was a milk tooth and you could tell just by looking at it. It just fell out and was replaced by adult tooth. Not had any cavities since 👍
@foxesproject5031
2 жыл бұрын
I like the idea but I would do some things differently. Like i would get my kids to learn things in the curriculum, like science and writing ! I would also try and limit screen time , and I personally would definitely vaccinate my kid so kids who can’t be vaccinated won’t be at risk for anything !! I also would enforce eating healthy most of the time , brushing teeth, etc !!! This lifestyle I find interesting , because the children are learning how to control their own needs!!! But I’m a bit ‘ hey I don’t agree with this ‘ on some of the education and vaccine approaches !! But I see your point !!! Question: Do you involve the kids in any sort of religion / education on religion?
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
Hello 👋 thanks for your comment. Our edicational philosophy is child-led and purpose-driven. Our daughter is currently choosing to learn how to write at seven years old and is happy for us to teach her. My son has taught himself to read out of necessity to help with his computer passion. The children have an age appropriate awareness of different religions and understand that different people have different faiths, we also incorporate the belief in scientism into our discussions and discuss how people in white coats can be worshipped as Gods and never questioned by many in our culture.
@foxesproject5031
2 жыл бұрын
@@theunconventionalparent198 that’s interesting ! I’m very into science and things like that ! Also if your children want an animal as a pet do you let them get it or make them research first ? Or not let them get it at all?
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
@@foxesproject5031 we currently have one dog which was my choice of pet, many chickens and two axelotl (salamanders) which are my son's and he always keenly researches all his pets before buying. He has a great passion for animals so learning about them is no chore for him. We also have two bunnies which are my daughter's and our general guideline with pets is that we as the adults must be happy to care for them if the kids lose interest, therefore I got the bunnies as I love them too but said no to requests for hedgehogs, snake and cat as they either didn't fit into our lifestyle or the adults didn't want to take responsibility for them. Finally I forgot to mention in my last reply that my son too has a keen interest in science and has previously taken part in science fairs and experiments.
@foxesproject5031
2 жыл бұрын
@@theunconventionalparent198 ooh nice !!! I only worry about collage and jobs as adults. You seem like you are doing a good job despite no school !!
@vintagebeauty1960
2 жыл бұрын
What are your favorite v books ?
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
I'm a big fan of Dr Susannah Humphreys as an author.
@lilly6766
2 жыл бұрын
And what are the childrens favorits? I would love to know.
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
@@lilly6766 children's books?...the kids like the Julia Donaldson series. I also love reading the books Wild Child by Jeanne Willis and Lorna Freytag and also The little prince by Antoine De Saint Exupery Ulysses often reads his sister's stories to them nowadays.
@animalmad29
2 жыл бұрын
I do think some of your choices seem amazing, letting the children learn by doing what they want rather than what’s forced. My question is though, if they had a broken bone, or got into an accident where they might need stitches, or medical help, I understand herbs, and natural doctors, but what if it’s something that does require urgent help (a wound, a broken bone, pancreatic issues), how would you go about this?
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
Conventional intervention is a last resort for us and we have used hospitals in the past.
@animalmad29
2 жыл бұрын
@@theunconventionalparent198 Thanks for replying! I am glad that it’s still a choice, even if it’s a last resort, as I understand there are people in the world who would not even think of it as a choice. Every video I’ve seen though they are such well spoken and well behaved children, do they have any desires for what they want to be in the future, or what they want to do? Since they seem so in tune with nature
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
@@animalmad29 eldest actually wants to build a career in the technological world, he loves computers but also a big animal lover too so who knows! Middle child is very creative and has already started experimenting with her own KZitem channel doing arts and crafts. She also loves dancing and gymnastics and I can see her becoming a performer. She had an amazing funny side to her and everyone always warms to her. The youngest is still only three! 💜
@Sarahsparkles83
2 жыл бұрын
Can I ask if you take the children to the dentist for check ups? New subscriber 😊
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
No we don't visit dentists in general. If we had a serious issue then a holistic dentist would be our go to option but so far not needed. 👍
@lilly6766
2 жыл бұрын
How would you handle a trans kid?
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
Good question, one for a video all by itself! 👍
@Peace4u805
2 жыл бұрын
I would also really love to know your take on this 🙏🏽
@foxesproject5031
2 жыл бұрын
I would be curious too!!! This topic is controversial !!!
@catenystrom6506
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with a lot of what they're doing, but not vaccinating puts these kids in a lot of danger, and if many parents did it, like we see right now, brings about outbreaks of truly horrible, deadly diseases. It's irresponsible and wrong, and I don't care what stupid documentary or "research" this woman did, it'll never equal the hundred years of research on vaccination. You don't "own" your kids, they have the RIGHT to be protected.
@theunconventionalparent198
2 жыл бұрын
Do you know what the yellow card system in the UK and the Vaers system in the US deal with?
@shimmer-tu4qb
8 ай бұрын
@@theunconventionalparent198 hello, I am currently researching and trying to understand the risks to benefit of getting vaccines for my baby. I don't know where to find reliable information. Are all of your kids completely vaccine free? Have any of them contracted any of those illnesses? If yes, what was it like? Any information will be helpful. The pediatrician we are seeing can't even answer our questions regarding the vaccines, they just get irritated, and I can feel them scoffing at us for simply asking questions. Very frustrating.
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