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@RebeccaZungEsq
3 жыл бұрын
I will be there live to answer all your questions. Can't wait to meet you there!
@lorenzopablo7669
3 жыл бұрын
InstaBlaster...
@tshongeadams-inalegwu2542
2 жыл бұрын
I left my husband after 14 years of marriage. I couldn't take it anymore.
@CarlVanderStichele
9 ай бұрын
totally
@jmanuelpereirafernandes4017
3 жыл бұрын
The thing that gives me more fun it's seeing narcissists thinking they are playing with me and they are just playing their misery.
@athaisdubaie852
2 жыл бұрын
I figured out my sister in my thirties. Front that point on, when she treated me bad, I was able to stand up for myself. After thirty years, I became tired of playing with her, dealing with her games. I had to be on my guard all the time and stand up for myself constantly. Anyway, I went no contact two years ago and am happy to be free of her and the rest of my enabling siblings, who I cut off. It was hilarious, though, watching her jump through hops in an effort to control me.
@s.hennigan5801
2 жыл бұрын
yes ( and we can all #Stayhuman)
@theknifeman7097
2 жыл бұрын
Yep
@RebeccaZungEsq
Жыл бұрын
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
@herminablackstock
Жыл бұрын
Definitely
@aurora-un2km
3 жыл бұрын
Their is no cure for narcissism. Run for your lives
@jeanpaulfelix4095
3 жыл бұрын
Imagine that they are your sister. Imagine 50 years of dealing with a high level narc. 40 years of NC now. Imagine a 50 year smear campaign. Imagine suing your own mother to make her destitute. Imagine they are a patholigical liar. Imagine greed rules their life. Why does god allow them to ruin peoples lives?
@janebutler239
3 жыл бұрын
😪
@switchunboxing
2 жыл бұрын
Like alcoholism or anything else. You cant change other people, just yourself. The thing that can change them is themselves and rock bottom.
@ginnydougan9664
2 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with you on that and I did run
@cynthiamccloud3342
2 жыл бұрын
"No don't need to run from where am at, God is on my side"! 🙏🙏🙏
@jackgoodings
4 жыл бұрын
Their light from their eyes literally disappears, they turn black, there literally is nothing there, it's like they're gone, emancipated, you can see the illness and reality of it all.
@JesusSaves194
4 жыл бұрын
It’s not illness it’s demonic spirits. Trust me my wife sees 666 everywhere. I show her the Bible and she grabs her head , gets migraines and dizzy for 30 mins . She told me she has dreams of demons pulling her from family , Evil exists
@Ellie-rp8bh
3 жыл бұрын
@@JesusSaves194 You bet it does! Scary
@kerriecoy2162
3 жыл бұрын
Omg YES the black soulless eyes of the predator. Terrifying to watch them just shift
@judybrian3949
2 жыл бұрын
This is sooooo true, always seen a darkness in his face
@ProgrammingNewbie
2 жыл бұрын
I witnessed that, I won't ever forget the blank stare, there was nothing there, cold black dark eyes at 1:00am in the morning.
@LM-ht7sd
3 жыл бұрын
8 and a half years of extremes with my husband. Everything was going pretty smooth, or so I thought until I reconciled with my mom and visited my parents for Christmas. Came home 2 days after Christmas all of the sudden he picked a fight (we haven't fought all year), told me that I was a joke and that I've never supported him...told me he wanted a divorce...I let him walk out. Now he's wondering why he's no longer on my car insurance, my car note, my bank account, and why can't he watch our son at my house. He doesn't seem to understand when it's the 3rd time he's left me, threatened divorce, and told me I never have supported him...I threw in the towel, I'm done, I'm out. I've weathered through lie after lie, a drug dealer's daughter he hooked up with, moved 7 times, lost a house, lost 2 cars, the last 3 years of him working 6 weeks then quit and sit on his ass for months of and on, he got a dwi, 6 months in prison. And I'm sure there's more, but that's off the top of my head. Now he's back at his mama's, driving her truck with a blow machine in it... he left me, I put him back where I found him! I'm soooooo done with this BS...I know I deserve a better life.
@daviedood2503
3 жыл бұрын
Jesus... H.. Christ. Huh!!????? How the... Are u even SANE right now after going through that let alone typing all that out. Damn I feel for you. 😔 You actually deserve a purple heart for that damn war zone you went thriugh. U rescued his @ss outnof all of THAT!?? What the hell do in gotta do to get someone THAT dedicated 😂 not that I'd be going through that crap, but it's nice to know in fantasy land that IF it ever happened, I'd have someone who's got my back like THAT. 😂 Mame you deserve a seat right next to Jesus himself. You're definitely a patriot. 💪 ❤
@LaughsalotMcgee1
3 жыл бұрын
Wow. You are a saint.
@theknifeman7097
2 жыл бұрын
Lord yes, It was so insane she tried to kill me and I sent her to prison she says I did this to her.... I am deaf in my right ear now with a broken skull but I feel better than I have in 15 years.
@RebeccaZungEsq
Жыл бұрын
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
@herminablackstock
Жыл бұрын
Definitely
@shahadah1451
Жыл бұрын
Totally! I am exposing him in court. He looks pathetic and nervous. The judge read my complaint and sympathized with me. I blocked his phone so he can't hoover. He looked truly terrified in court.
@nicholecornes1915
5 ай бұрын
It's sad if it didn't hurt us so dam bad!
@joshuawaxman11
4 жыл бұрын
I’ve won both my court cases because of your videos on my own! Thank you
@suzysherlock4003
4 жыл бұрын
Congrats Joshua 🎉 Maybe you have a future in Law. I fought a spurious law suit as a business "et al" by going to the local legal library & figuring out what forms to fill out, yada, yada. End of story, the lawyer backed out of his nuisance suit 1 hour before our court time. Pretty sure I can pull that off again & pay get some legal assistance on the side. Just a bit tired after 9 months of mediation. Oh Sweet Justice.🗽 Long may she prevail🙏🏻
@Jennifer-iw9bl
4 жыл бұрын
Suzy Sherlock 9 months seems like too long
@LeathamLuxuryWatches817
3 жыл бұрын
Congratulations I’m just beginning this process glad it all worked out for you man
@VinayTruth
3 жыл бұрын
Mine just started, glad to hear that you have overcome 👍
@joshuawaxman11
3 жыл бұрын
@@VinayTruth yea but I’m still dealing with it . It’s frustrating at the tail end tho
@STEPHAN1808
3 жыл бұрын
never listen to a word that comes out of their mouth, they speak with their eyes. Always look them right in the face and look at their eyes and then you will see the truth that they never tell.
@deepikaraniairpula74
3 жыл бұрын
true
@bonnieblood3983
3 жыл бұрын
My ex doesn't realize his eyes, eyebrows, and fake laugh and cough is what always clued me in to his lies.🙄😑😶
@user-of9bx1uk3u
3 жыл бұрын
Spot on’👏🏽
@MegaLadylove2012
3 жыл бұрын
You’re right. I did this with an older female coworker who kept attacking me. I called a mtg on her and looked her dead in the eyes the entire time. He kept her head bent down as she lie the entire time. I called out her manipulation and walked away
@DoHisProphetNoharm
3 жыл бұрын
💯
@facelessartist0603
4 ай бұрын
From 2010-2023, my narcissistic stepfather sexually abused me on many occasions. I was content to let the statute of limitations on my report run out in 2026, but then I found your content. I have hope that I can put him away and make it to where he can no longer bleed little girls dry, but I have no idea where to start.
@ellyturner6125
Жыл бұрын
Also they are always in a rush to start a relationship because they know soon they are found out and the new supplies leave
@MargieFord
3 жыл бұрын
Undo them....... get what you can then walk away and never look back.
@RebeccaZungEsq
Жыл бұрын
Hope you're doing fine! Stay strong out there!❤
@jimcole6423
4 жыл бұрын
A true narc doesn't negotiate. Period.
@goldilocks3593
4 жыл бұрын
I can remember the one I knew saying point blank, “I don’t negotiate.” ... !
@bertzerker747
4 жыл бұрын
Just like they fool they are fooled in suseptability.
@bertzerker747
4 жыл бұрын
@@goldilocks3593 he watched too much of 'The Apprentice'. 😉
@bertzerker747
4 жыл бұрын
@@brittanyrockefeller7686 they are manipulators with treachery on their side?
@lc4087
4 жыл бұрын
this is so true. my narc asked if I would negotiate out of court and 4 days later I have just realised I have wasted 4 days of him telling me everything that is wrong with me whilst I wasted my time trying to reason with him - AGAIN. I cannot believe that I fell for it once again. It's exhausting and I end up saying something (its always something) that offends him so deeply that he just can't let it go.
@Livesacred
4 жыл бұрын
Oh my goodness my daughter is going threw this with her child’s father- totally on point / he is out of mind ! Thank u thank u thank u - please continue doing what you are doing this is so needed- my daughter is an empath and he has bullied her with custody of their daughter for years .. she is now standing up to him - passing this on ! ❤️
@lynny5510
4 жыл бұрын
My daughter is going through the same thing. She was married to him for 13 yrs and divorced now for a year and her nightmare continues. They have a 5 yr old daughter and he still controls, manipulates, and mentally abuses my daughter and granddaughter. It is amazing how one narcissists affects an entire family. The tentacles of a narcissist is far reaching.
@bertzerker747
4 жыл бұрын
Okay, so its him and its also your daughter and next generation who require the advanced support for dealing with the narcissist from whom you ensue to protect. Give 'him' some credo, learn how. Understand it could be the other way around... The narcissist is generally a narcissist and the empath is generaly a well regulated person emotionally. They always get haywire. Wish you the best and keep searching for what you need in order to get the job done 🙏 With a bit more time and understanding you might be able to prevent him from repeating the similar show with a new victim, by allowing him a rightful interest to be with his own child as well your daughters.
@lakotasky4733
3 жыл бұрын
I am like your daughter (same situation exactly) & i will be sharing with my mom. His behavior has had us puzzled! I hope your daughter’s situation has improved. This is certainly the worst experience I’ve been through
@sheenaormond3616
3 жыл бұрын
I’m going through this
@Mulata723
3 жыл бұрын
I, too, am currently going through this situation. The only difference is the main reason why I'm going through this is because I had a stroke 3 years ago so now the father of my sons is trying to get full custody. But, Thank God, I am working and I just got my driver's license renewed so take that, narc! Haha 😎🙂😂
@a7dv7en7t
3 жыл бұрын
My life is good at the moment surrounded by loving people. I had a narcissistic "friend" back in the day when I was a hooligan and it was horrible when I would second guess myself around the dude. Just love watching these videos because it's pretty fascinating that a lot of people have experienced the horrific nature of the narcissist and that it can actually be analyzed haha. Edit: If I may be helpful, I would say that the best way to be happy is to cut off contact with the narcissist. Strive to live a good life without sin so that the narcissist won't have any ammo to use against you. If they tell lies about you anyway, they will be uncovered. :) Peace, love. God bless you. The Lord is with you.
@RebeccaZungEsq
Жыл бұрын
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
@LindyLooo99
4 жыл бұрын
What triggered the collapse of my narc friend was me talking about something I regretted and I had some tears and all I the sudden I began to see that SHE wasn't the center of attention and the bizzare shit happened from there. After a couple of weeks of bad behavior, I said goodbye, NO CONTACT..... and kept it that way. That is what made me see that not only was SHE a Covert Narc, my first husband was also. I got answers to questions I had waited 22 years for..... then the next 6 months people kept telling me they heard she was sick, all the time sick... I made no effort to reconnect. Then she started contacting my friends. I have continued to have no contact
@salonsavy6476
4 жыл бұрын
Wholy cow!,,, same thing happened to me,,,I seen all the Red flags,,, but I’m a empath,, so my heart wanted to fix ,,,
@clusterbfreekarynsmith2190
3 жыл бұрын
Aloha & bravo. No contact is peace. Threw soon to be ex-husband of 3e yrs. Running around raging & predatory. Cluster B Free is how to live.
@Valoelify
3 жыл бұрын
@@clusterbfreekarynsmith2190 I am a Cluster B... and shouldn't talk to you so I'm sorry. I'm diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and have noticed my occasional Vulnerable Narcissism and Factor 2/Secondary Psychopathy. I love my parents deeply though and take good care of my 14 cats who are very happy at least. But I just want to say that I'm really sorry for all the pain my Cluster has caused you.. it's hell to live in this diseased brain as well. My ex who is a Covert Narcissist seems to be someone I'll never get over, he keeps hoovering me every month but all his words and actions when we were together made me wish I was dead time and time again. I have been abandoned and ignored by him so many times now that I'm beginning to stop caring about abandonment altogether for the first time in life.. I guess he's slowly curing my Borderline insanity while simultaneously driving me insane.
@Valoelify
3 жыл бұрын
@Lowie Patat My Covert Narc ex is a Scorpio.. despite his madness, and despite my own; I deeply appreciate all the things that he made me aware of about myself that I never noticed before. I am a Leo.. so he is Water and I am Fire, but I have to say that Scorpio is the most fascinating Starsign I've ever come across. Thank you for telling it to us like it is.
@lindasharpe7039
3 жыл бұрын
@@Valoelify 💗
@dgreer5537
2 жыл бұрын
Totally. I’ve witnessed a breakdown and it was messy, crazy wailing around young kids and then trying to lure after hours of not giving in. The irony is her actions and lies led to it
@marygoodson4920
3 жыл бұрын
I wish I had found you when I was going through my hellish divorce 20 years ago.
@mrunknown1019
3 жыл бұрын
One person I knew (he has since passed on) I believe was a narcissist I said about him once, "He put so much energy into constantly looking over his shoulder, that he failed to look ahead." Do you think that is a good way of putting it?
@peilin6212
3 жыл бұрын
wow so on point here
@purvamandlik4696
3 жыл бұрын
Could be paranoid?
@wg8517
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely
@carlottaherring6060
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for taking time to make these videos for us going through this crazy evilness they bring and we let into our lives. I'm grateful for people like you who care enough to help strangers who don't have a clue where to turn in this madness,especially for me and I'm sure there are many of us. May my God continue to bless you in all things in you and your loved ones lives. Thank you. You've helped me in so many ways.
@kimlarsson7259
3 жыл бұрын
My mother and my sister has both collapsed, and it happened between the age of forty and fifty. They became these erratic assholes, that you basically couldn't deal with. The similarities in development are quite fascinating..
@RebeccaZungEsq
Жыл бұрын
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
@simoncaron6424
4 ай бұрын
So around the time they lost sexual currency.
@EastsideLegend1
4 жыл бұрын
Rebecca, I just wanted to thank you for all your videos. They helped me a great deal. It helped me prepare and get ready for my judicial conciliation today. ! To all of you that read this, follow Rebecca’s information and follow because you will get the outcome you desire!! Stay the course! Also, documents, document, document!!! And stay calm!!!!
@RebeccaZungEsq
Жыл бұрын
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!❤
@stevejohnson7165
4 жыл бұрын
Your books have made a very big difference to me. Thank you for improving the world with your work.
@rebeccablakey2637
Жыл бұрын
Rebecca I heard words of wisdom that are going to help myself and my family. Thank you for sharing your thoughts/ experiences with people online. Narcissist are definitely soul suckers that want control and their ego upheld by their own supply. Understanding these people has helped me to deal with our Narcissist.
@shari600
4 жыл бұрын
You have been such a great help in my life, thank u ♡
@tlove6932
4 жыл бұрын
Ditto that!👍🏼💕🌸
@mvbigmagic4048
Ай бұрын
Yep. This happened to my dad. In the last few years of his life, he would cry so much. Decades of being cruel, condescending, judgmental, feeling superior, and being egged on by my malignant narcissistic mother, he was in such denial. It was crazy. In the end, the drama and chaos was so bad -- my mother was doing insane financial things as she was collapsing too... her grade A supply was dying... and she simultaneously wanted to hoover me, and yet triangulate my father against me... It's laughable now that I look back at it. I had to go no-contact to protect myself legally. :( She had no care for my kids in all this. She was willing to destroy my livelihood and my marriage in order to hoover me back. No contact means survival. I will never let her near my kids. The collapsed narcissist is evil. Just evil. If you so much as help them, they are revived and twice as cruel as before. Don't feed the collapsed narcissist. They just have to be let alone or they will hurt more people.
@ernarc23
2 жыл бұрын
I thought this was really comprehensive and right on. Thank you, Rebecca! You revealed the many facets/modes of narcissistic supply that narcissists live on. It's a very helpful reminder, since some people show more subtle manifestations, and don't display every one of these characteristics. But if you start to see the engulfing/ignoring cycle start or notice emotional vampires who get nasty when you won't be available to them, when an alarm goes off in my head. When they get mean if you retreat and aren't available to them (when you're low or need time for self-care) then you have to be alarmed careful. It's definitely a spectrum disorder, so some are more obvious cases than others. xo
@lendrury2771
4 жыл бұрын
The female narcissist I spent 4 years with just recently put a pfa on me even though I never did anything to her I filed a counter complaint and my case is 7 pages of verifiable documentation to refute her claim She also engaged in a nasty smear campaign against a woman she was working for and the woman filed harrassment charges against the narcissist and won her case . The narcissist also has a court date for charges filed against her by a local corporation for slander and libel and the narc filed harrassment charges against me which were dropped because I never was even in the vicinity on the day in question So yes I would say her world is collapsing. I've always believed that when you dance with the devil at some point you gotta pay the devil's band . She put me through absolute fucking hell and I suspect that I'm suffering from Cptsd and it's a struggle but I'm so glad that shes gone We were granted 3 year co pfa no contact status I accepted the conditions with my lawyers advice because I didnt want to see her face again in a courtroom Hopefully the legal element will deter her from trying to contact me but I have my doubts . She was a horrible person who I fell in love with not knowing how evil she was
@demontroberts3695
4 жыл бұрын
I did 4 years too when my divorce went threw about 2 weeks ago I feel like a weight was lifted of me. So I know it hard bro but keep the no contact up till your freedom.
@lendrury2771
4 жыл бұрын
@@demontroberts3695 thank you and I wish you happiness and health and prosperity
@ProfessorNorris1
4 жыл бұрын
So glad you are O-U-T out of that!! I know for me, NEVER again.
@lendrury2771
4 жыл бұрын
@@ProfessorNorris1 it was a chaotic experience but yes I'm grateful that it ended Didnt expect the judicial system to be involved but maybe that was gods will to get me out of it
@ProfessorNorris1
4 жыл бұрын
@@lendrury2771 that was the way He rescued me too. It was completely a divine rescue because they are extremely devious and know how to work the system. It was miraculous for me. I was blessed to have a Jos judge that knew exactly how to handle our case; she was aware of his tricks and saw right through him and she knows the law and really blessed me and her judgement made it so that he could not come back into my life, even though he tried. Like I said, I am GLAD so GLAD you got OUT. I could read and feel the hell you had to go through with her. It is an experience that you could not get anywhere else. I am thankful to God for rescuing me and for the now new awareness and knowledge I have about myself and about those types of people. They are not anything you wish anybody ever has to deal with. I believe there are probably more people who do not recover then that do, so count it ALL joy when you have been rescued and are coming out and back on with the life you were intended to have.👐🏾👐🏾👐🏾
@finallyfree3847
4 жыл бұрын
You are such an awesome wealth of information!! Thank you so much!!
@skellingtonmeteoryballoon
3 жыл бұрын
Who the son sets free is free indeed 🙏 you're a shinning light in this dark confused world ! 🥳❤️🙏
@christaclament
4 жыл бұрын
I feel like you described me in this video. This has been my life the last three years since I left my ex-husband of 21 years. Learning to live on my own and rebuilding myself, I've gone through therapy the last couple years. I dealt with a lot of grieving and have collapsed so many times and have cried and cried and dealt with anxiety and panic and intense heartache and confusion, and a sense of loss of myself. My ex was verbally mentally and emotionally abusive and had an affair for 5 years. So am I a narcissist? What you explained in this video now makes me think that I'm a narcissist.
@peterknyk1942
4 жыл бұрын
Christa Clament Christa I feel so sorry for you after I read what about what you are going through. I just finished up my morning cry which has been going on for so long....😢 rebuilding my self-esteem has been the most difficult part. Therapy has helped somewhat but I know I need to do more to rebuild everything....Also, I have collapsed at different times. One time a neighbor called me and she asked me how I was doing and I told her I was crying. It was very weird but she told me that I’m “not supposed to cry”....Men are not supposed to cry? My neighbor is kind of a bully and pretty much has narcissistic tendencies so I shouldn’t be surprised by that! When I would cry and my ex marital partner narcissist knew she used it against me.... I’m certain of that. That’s messed up! It was as if she saw a vulnerability in me and deviously took advantage.... so, now I cry and grieve when ever I want to because no one is ever going to stop me from doing that again for the rest of my life! I am so sorry that you are going through this mess and all I can wish for you is the very best. I will say a prayer tonight for your healing. It is the 23rd Psalm. Bless your courage!
@christaclament
4 жыл бұрын
@@peterknyk1942 Thank you! And thank you for sharing that. God's blessings to you. I'm a Christian believer. I believe it's important for people to go through a grieving process and to take the time they need to do so. The grieving process is different for everyone and sometimes will take longer. People shouldn't ever feel guilty or be hard on themselves or force themselves to heal faster or grieve faster. That's what my therapist would remind me of. I met with my Christian therapist on a weekly basis for a year. It was the best ever. After a year, she felt that I was in a good healthy place and believed I could continue on without her therapy. I then sat through a 13 week Divorce Care class through my church, which helped immensely. And I'm signed up for another series of divorce care classes starting this weekend. I don't cry as often as I used to, but it was weekly and sometimes daily, for several years, even before I left my ex. I knew about the affair the last couple years of it and I fought for my marriage. He left her when he knew I was planning to leave. Three years now, and he hasn't gone back to her. He broke down when I left. He didn't want me to leave. Now he tells people that his wife left him, and told me that he's afraid to tell anyone why I left him. I appreciate very much for your response to my comment and sharing a bit of your story and your feelings. After listening to this recent video posted today, it really does describe what I've been feeling and going through. So I don't understand why it's being portrayed as a narcissist. If that's a narcissist, then I'm a narcissist. Perhaps my ex, who was controlling, manipulative, condescending, and hurtful is a narcissist, which is what I thought characterizes a narcissist. At least that's what I'm learning now that I've removed myself from my marriage relationship. I'm still trying to finalize our divorce. He blamed me for the problems in his life, but now he apologizes for treating me poorly. I lost trust in his words and sharing my heart with him. I hope Rebecca will be able to explain the difference in the collapse of a narcissist and the collapse of us who are victims of a narcissist.
@peterknyk1942
4 жыл бұрын
Christa Clement Hi Christa. I sent you a very long response earlier but I put it in the wrong place so I’m going to delete what I said and resend to you what I was trying to say. Please let me know that you got this....I’m having trouble figuring this all out.
@christaclament
4 жыл бұрын
@@peterknyk1942 Hi! Just read this.
@peterknyk1942
4 жыл бұрын
Christa Clament hi again! I will try to reword what I had sent to you earlier. I was in a hurry to go to a therapy session and probably did everything wrong. LOL! At least I won’t get scolded for doing something wrong this time!!!! (I’ve been scolded a lot by my marital partner!) I was telling you that I have gone through a lot of therapy concerning my marital situation. Unlike you, it didn’t help me a great deal. What I got from therapy was that I needed to do a lot of work on myself to get through this difficult situation in my life.I also mentioned to you what it was like for me seeking help in a spiritual way. I spoke to two different rabbis about my marriage. The responses couldn’t have been much more dialectical....The one rabbi that helped me the most was a male and he was very kind and empathetic and gentle with me. The other rabbi was female. When I tried to talk to her and explain what I was feeling and going through in this marriage she scolded me for not doing enough and offered no help....This was after I had told her I was having a very difficult time because my wife committed adultery and was unfaithful to me. The irony is that it almost seemed that this female rabbi was blaming me for that having happened. From what I understand that is exactly what narcissist do, I.e., blame everyone else....Needless to say I have never gone back to that synagogue nor will I ever.... I go to the other synagogue now. By the way, to you, tonight, I will wish you a happy new year because it is the Jewish New Year.... HAPPY NEW YEAR! continuing forward....now I have found out that my ex marital partner is a very important person at the synagogue as she has teamed up with her female rabbi friend and have a great thing going! I sound sarcastic and to tell you the truth I am! The whole point is that my ex marital partner is getting tons of supply from all the other narcissists at her synagogue. Honestly, I have never seen such a collection of self-absorbed and narcissistic people congregated in one place in my life. It’s really best that I no longer participate in the services there because in the old days they drove me nuts with their self absorbed behavior.... it helps me to understand more about narcissistic behavior and how they so need each other and how they literally cannot survive in a normal world....And it helps me to understand why my ex marital partner is there. When she finally left she told me that she was going to make a new family with the synagogue and several months later announced to me that the synagogue was now her new family!!!! That’s really pretty crazy! So, I have tried multiple ways of overcoming the ravages of being abused by another... some work and some don’t. The best type of work I’ve found is work of a spiritual nature.... and I think I have to stop for now because I’m really getting tired. I hope all of this makes sense to you and I want to thank you for everything that you have said to me. I hope we can talk more down the road!🕊🕊🕊🕊🙏🙏🙏🙏🌈
@BrotherToby85
3 жыл бұрын
Totally!!! But honestly this is hard for empaths, because it's in our nature to care, but it makes us susceptible to attacks by these "vampires" as well.
@belovedchild9812
2 жыл бұрын
I discarded my narc ex as soon as I figured it out. I negotiated aggressively during the divorce. I got everything I wanted because I did not back down. I had an excellent lawyer who understands narcissists. I then exposed her big time. The collapse was unbelievable. She then moved 3000 miles away as fast as she could. I lost all of my “friends.” Good riddance. I live a wonderful life now and have real, authentic friends.
@drsundipshenoy2471
3 жыл бұрын
Madam Rebecca,you have made complex maze of Narc mind simpler to understand for naive minds of ours,till now at receiving end.Thanks for your selfless service to traumatised ones.🙏
@clusterbfreekarynsmith2190
4 жыл бұрын
Aloha from Honolulu. Just woke up..binged on you yesterday. Threw Aged Covert Narc out /14/2020. Usually awake around 3am - hard to sleep around him. Life is good.
@Jettingred4
2 жыл бұрын
My Narc just had his house of cards tumbled down today! I basically just called him out after his awful text and took him out of my phone and went completely NO CONTACT! I have known him off and on for 40 years. I’m an ultra Empath and completely educated about Narcissistic abuse! He can’t get to me ANYMORE! The song Beyoncé’s “The best thing I never had”! Is so appropriate! It’s thanks to people and videos like yours that helped save and educate me several years ago when my Narc whom I loved took a wrecking ball to my heart and life! Ty so much for the education I so desperately needed to understand these sick creatures and how to deal with them!
@ifrahbaaji
4 жыл бұрын
I love listening to your videos although we separated with a narcissistic but co parenting they are so stubborn but you really helped me thank you
@bertzerker747
4 жыл бұрын
Prepare to not let it happen again, share your insights with who might benefit.
@FC-zi2kx
3 жыл бұрын
Very true, it's their eyes that tell you and sometimes when they are vulnerable. When my ex recently went into narc rage , she got angry with me and when she spoke in anger I saw in anger her real expressions and voice underneath the mask. Interesting what u see when paying attention
@hankhill3417
Жыл бұрын
They are full of shame already so if you call them out on cheating for instance it will trigger rage like you have never seen
@alanapril4643
2 жыл бұрын
He tried hoovering a couple of times and it did not work with me. I finally sent a text to him telling him not to contact, call me or come to my place of residence. After that text he made threats, so I ignored him and blocked his phone. He will never penetrate my barrier I put up against him. So far, I have not heard from him or saw him since the Spring and it is now Fall!!!
@JamesThomas-zl9er
3 жыл бұрын
I was verbally attacked in the street on Monday. I listened then unloaded my truth: she’s a covert/vulnerable narcissist and has abused me for nearly a decade… radio silence ever since 👍 Funnily enough saw her dad this morning, he was happy and waved etc. go figure…
@bjhbroker
3 жыл бұрын
I brought to my EX NARC'S attention that he took some misteps in a situation...wow 4th of July reaction. Unmasking the Narc! Totally!
@Ahollywoodjoevideodiaryseries
4 жыл бұрын
TOTALLY. Thanks for the book to read The 4th agreement. Down loaded audio book learning. Would be lost without your videos and others KZitem can have good content.
@AGATIify
4 жыл бұрын
My ex did all 3 things when I had him served with divorce papers: had a meltdown, began hovering, and started acting bizarrely.
@robertbrucefan2673
2 жыл бұрын
Totally. I have a friend who was trying to control my life. He would say you are not allowed to go here or there without telling me, or go see another friend without me. He would get angry if I went anywhere and told me I had to send him texts as to my whereabouts all the time. Another thing about him is he is extremely cheap. He doesn't want to spend a dollar for anything. His cheapness is amazing and the stories are incredible about what he would do to avoid spending money. His cheapness is legendary. Everyone knows about it but it does not faze him at all. His lack of empathy is apparent. He has gone out with a friend's ex-wife and my ex-girlfriend without thinking about what harm that may cause myself and the ex-husband. Creepy.
@jenneliz2020x
2 жыл бұрын
My sister I suspect will go through this VERY soon because she finally got caught! It's been terrible. It was over my trust fund. But it is almost over I believe!
@elizabethandrews4199
3 жыл бұрын
I experienced the collapse today and he sent me a personal attacking text!
@danarchambault8723
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your wisdom
@lynnekulick3262
2 жыл бұрын
Totally! My husband of 32 years goes to alcohol. Long binges, mistakes, crying, begging. Hoovering now, knows I'm on my way out....fear, panic etc
@ressieshaw5526
3 жыл бұрын
This is helping me so much now I no I can move on I have learned so much thank God for his love for me i can now move on thank you so much
@Grrrroar44
3 жыл бұрын
You are the best Rebecca!
@philipatkinson3562
3 жыл бұрын
During the smear campaign, mine called my boss, who knew what I was dealing with. He played along, and near the end of the discussion, he suggested that I was on the grassy knoll with Oswald AND the Lindberg baby. She adamantly agreed with both, which is a neat trick considering that I still hadn't been born yet.
@user-lw4bz8gk6l
2 жыл бұрын
Wow you share so much truth in your information, things that make sense
@kimvannote5024
3 жыл бұрын
They were treated like they don't have any value - that's why they became Narcissists. Survival Mechanism from Trauma. They are stuck in Trauma, but at the same time can't look within to heal from it. They were severely mistreated and abused people. Abandoned with nothing to hang onto but their Narcissism.
@vanessanrodney
3 жыл бұрын
It took me a minute...he told me in the beginning he was an INFJ personality, so I did my research to “better understand him.” The first couple of breakups, I thought it was “the INFJ door slam” but after this 3rd (and last time) I woke up to the fact that he is, in fact, a covert narcissist after doing my research. I got the love bombing. He was someone from my past so it wasn’t TOO alarming, but he DID know my address before I told him and was very assertive. He wanted to make it fb official right away and wanted to get engaged. Then the other stages started to follow. I believe I am on the final discard stage now, but he is posting passive aggressive quotes, then love quotes, then passive aggressive...this is a first for me and hopefully the last!
@vanessanrodney
3 жыл бұрын
Well, I’ve done a lot of research on both. I’ve learned a lot about the INFJ personality and it did make me question it a bit because I’ve known this man since we were in high school. I was a cheerleader, he was a football player, baseball player and very popular. Even drafted into MLB but didn’t pursue. He went on to become a body builder and he personal trainer also. So I never thought of him as a very introverted person. Also, he would call everyone else a narcissist. Seems like EVERYONE was one! At first, he liked my best friend. He thought she was really funny and had no problem being around her. Then he tried turning me against her. Telling me she carried negative energy and he felt it and it was affecting our relationship. He would say she was jealous of me. She works in my office so he was pushing me to fire her. He was trying to control over communication I had with my exhusband when it came down to our children. But yes, after 2 weeks he wanted my finger sized and had a ring picked out. He wanted us posted on fb, which he never does, and wanted us to get tattoos with our names. He even wanted to have a baby. I think he knew it was just a matter of time before I was going to figure him out. He knows I just started a new real estate firm, I have my own house, I got my shit together. He’s been divorced also but had a couple relationships since that didn’t work out and he has nothing to show for it. I’m sure that has a lot to do with it too. He had been after me since before I for married and tried pooping in every couple years to test the waters but the minute he found out I was by myself he came to my house at 1am. He knew my address!! Just so many things I see now..
@vanessanrodney
3 жыл бұрын
And excuse the typos🤦🏻♀️My phone has a mind of it’s own and I’m lying in bed with a migraine today...
@vanessanrodney
3 жыл бұрын
@WalkingParadox I totally agree with you! Like I previously stated, it took me a minute to figure him out but thank God I did. The first time we split up, I just walked away and after 2 weeks later he texted me asking to meet up in person to talk. After a couple of days, I finally agreed to and we talked about our issues and moved on. The second time we split up, I actually contacted him because he made me feel like I was in the wrong and had me second guessing myself! (The gaslighting) So there I was validating his actions for making me responsible for the breakup when I had every right to bring up the issues I had. So this last time, we’re still arguing over him keeping in touch with an ex girlfriend who’s “just a friend” (who’s given me reason not to fully trust her intentions) he eventually goes ghost a couple days after our argument and I leave it alone. I know he wanted me to chase him, beg him, cry, give him the soap opera but he has mistaken me for the wrong woman. And l KNOW there has to be others he is trying to manipulate. I always called him out on his bs and that’s why we would break up. I don’t put up with it. I literally saw a mutual friend post on fb today about him how thankful she is for him and his friendship this past month and she doesn’t know what she would do without him. My friend called me to discuss and apparently she’s getting a huge inheritance and I know she’s told him about it. She has a large house, pool, everything paid off and going thru a divorce so BOOM! He’s got his next source💁🏻♀️
@vanessanrodney
3 жыл бұрын
@Walking Paradox see comment! Lol
@richardmonday1755
4 жыл бұрын
now an attorney and or paperwork is needed for the custody and property division legal portion and can restraining orders go in at this point i do not want this one boytoy near our kids he's so evil
@rhonnesanelms8969
4 жыл бұрын
TOTALLY !!!!!!😵:But what must I do after witnessing a collapse of the Narcissist?????? Once again, I find your work entertaining and informative. It's deeply appreciated. THANK YOU 😊💐
@kelliecole8235
4 жыл бұрын
I absolutely like, and my narc husband's absolutely doing the very first one you mentioned, number one on your list, that's exactly what he's doing, that's amazing! Hopefully its soon to be ex-narc husband, but thanks once again Rebecca for your wonderful video!, And wish me luck!!!
@kimlarsson7259
3 жыл бұрын
You have pretty much described my sister. She's 53 now, and yes, she's collapsing. Time is so cruel to narcissists. Defining moment: my sister visited my flat, and she tried to open my locked frontdoor! I was in the kitchen and I heard a rattling sound, as she pulled the handle down, on the outside. Now that's absurd. Talk about stress. I opened, and she came in with this crazy gaze, like a goddamn animal. "She's falling apart" I thought. A second later, she rushed to a window, and violently pulled off the curtains. She was totally quiet while doing it Wouldn't surprise me if she was afraid of me and wanted witnesses. Lunatic.
@mr.makedonija2627
2 жыл бұрын
Lol
@RebeccaZungEsq
Жыл бұрын
How are you holding now? Stay strong out there!
@Barkentin
4 ай бұрын
TOTALLY, REBECA, IM SORRY CALLING YOU EMMELY❤
@RebeccaZungEsq
2 ай бұрын
How are you doing now? Hope feeling well and getting your power back! Perhaps my upcoming webinar might help - ICANSLAY.COM
@mukhtarmohammed6799
18 күн бұрын
Thank you Ms Re
@aparsons6495
3 жыл бұрын
My question is, if you know how to trigger that injury should you do it in a subtle way that way you can use their insane reaction in court?
@annettebaggett
Жыл бұрын
My husband would take pills to sleep, and would sleep for days. Only getting up to go to the restroom or get a drink.
@RebeccaZungEsq
2 ай бұрын
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@sparkle4051
4 жыл бұрын
How do I find a good lawyer who can stand up to him, help me find hidden money and assets, not leave me penniless?
@switchunboxing
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah the crying. When my sister went no contact, the whole family was sent an ugly-crying video balling her eyes out “WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME” ya did it to yourself
@HeavenlyDivineTaro
Жыл бұрын
Omgsh totally totes I was thinking very hard about the behavior the other day saying that's what it means when people say the house of cards are about to fall. It really is like they're building a house of cards. Around the end you see their masks slipping off so far it's off.
@mariposaazul4450
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so exhausted dealing with my husband. He’s a covert Narc and has been out the house for a year bcuz I can’t stand his lying, double life etc... but I’m more angry with myself for allowing him to come “spend” time and then he’s on his way. I need help! How and what can I do? The last time we got together I got violent with him! I don’t know why I became so angry and blew up like a bomb. My heart hurts. This is not who I am! Plz let me kno how can I get help to end this marriage with this man. He won’t let me move on either. I’ve filed for divorce but I retracted bcuz he wanted the marriage to work.
@catherinegrace8933
4 жыл бұрын
I know this behavior of mine when I spent time with my ex, it’s a dynamic and such toxic energy that you find yourself out of character, no contact and healing is the only way....
@I3rittanyLynne
4 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry girl 😢 your anger isn’t trying to tell you something! You don’t deserve this and deserve better! I know the feeling well. Have you watched the videos of Little Shaman or Lisa Romanno or Richard Grannon on youtube? Rather than just focusing soley on the narc, they offer So many helpful healing modalities and advice for healing the part of you that attracted this toxic dynamic in the first place... healing your inner child, shadow work, reparenting, etc. It’s really the only way is to go deep within and change the broken parts of ourselves that was a perfect energetic match for a narcissist. Change our vibration and heal so we can not only exit this situation, but not keep finding ourselves in these situations/relationships again!💞
@lc4087
4 жыл бұрын
This I can understand and I bet he enjoys every minute seeing you so angry thats why he does it. Baits and baits etc. I am not a violent person but he does not stop. I feel so sorry for women and men who are locked up because they have reacted to violent partners.
@timmistarr9800
2 жыл бұрын
This is my alcoholic grandmother and it's so sad that for all these years she's takened her adverse childhood trauma only to become entitled, angry and manipulative. She has tried to destroy my mother and my aunt is her golden child. Between my aunt and mother, .my mother was the only one to have had kids (4). My grandmother has wasted over 20 years trying to smear my mother to us, expose and smear family members personal business (including mines)meanwhile she's been corrupt and manipulative herself with my grandiose narc aunt . It's been hard because my grandmother and her golden child have been exposing their own corruption (continual substance abuse, previous toxic relationships, unresolved traumas, and regret with no empathy for other's tribulations) and we (grandchildren) are adults are seeing their masks fall right before our eyes. It's painful but when they collapse it's going to be ugly and I'm waiting for my college acceptance letter as a transfer community college student so I can move because she's saying things that she has a mortgage and that me and my sister who are adults need to tell her when we leave/come home yet me and my sister help her pay her mortgage..work and go to school. I avoid being around her antagonism and self-pity at all costs. My siblings we all understand why my mother was emotionally damaged is due to her narcissistic family with their pseudomutality and maladaptive behaviors. It stops at this generation.
@nerifterafrnam4682
4 жыл бұрын
Anybody else thinking about that character Eric Cartman in Southpark ?
@alexandersilva3482
3 жыл бұрын
TOTALLY. HOLY MOLY. TOTALLY.
@HerminaBlackstock-b1h
11 ай бұрын
I really exposed my Christian covert Narcissist neighbor ,🙏💪💟💞🌞
@LovelyCounselor
2 жыл бұрын
Totally! My Narc put his main supplier "Sidechick" on me once I began to expose him. She filed for a Peace Order against me but I have all my print out of her Harassing me. My Narcissist gave her my home address 😯. I have not heard from him since 1/7/22.
@hollyparker4851
4 жыл бұрын
Totally!
@Countryinthecity01
3 жыл бұрын
Can a narcissist get better... my 37 year old youngest daughter has both put me thru extreme hell and love. Now she cut me out of her life because she has claimed behind my back that I am a stalker & a narcissist because I refused to give up on her . It has been about five months and I have no contact. Please tell me there is help. Broken Mom
@DK-jl9hw
4 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely right, I've been through it all. I just wonder, how are they affected now during COVID-19 crises? Is it their KARMA? Would you please make a video on that subject. Thank you
@ivyhernandez2526
4 жыл бұрын
Are many narcisistic males the youngest child?
@craiglawrence6782
4 жыл бұрын
Yes my youngest brother absolute killer. Learnt from mom and wife
@kisigma1102
4 жыл бұрын
Yeah my father omg he's one big hot mess
@AR-yb4tz
4 жыл бұрын
My ex was. A totally cracked one
@seehumor2647
4 жыл бұрын
I appreciate the video - Narcissism is so destructive! I creatively portray narcissism in the last video on my channel w/ a funny skit also. I hope we inspire/inform people to avoid manifesting narcissism in their life! Just subscribed to your channel too - Keep up the meaningful content.
@GoodwinGlassworks
11 ай бұрын
I watched this the other night....I get a video call from her after three weeks of no contact....while she's on an extended trip I told her I was done and why. She obviously didn't care about what I had stated and called like everything was normal, then immediately went into her problems...how much her life sucks(stuck on a trip, hurt her back).....then full breakdown saying she feels like a giant failure in life...crying, sobbing....me me me. Never asked about me. So then I confronted her with the lies she told me...she was dumbfounded. Always played the victim. After the call she sent a message saying how she loves talking to me because I make her feel ok. I responded that I don't think she actually cares about me....she said something about she's "like a fairy that comes and goes but doesn't mean she doesn't care"(very immature statement). Clear all she is concerned about is herself. I sent a message telling her again the crappy things she does, the lies, and don't contact me again. Then blocked her.
@RebeccaZungEsq
2 ай бұрын
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@marilynwakaluk4975
4 жыл бұрын
Totally
@oscarwilliamson1128
2 жыл бұрын
Marilyn Wakaluk,You look cute 🥰,Hope you are not with a narcissist….
@alisondelasalle3990
3 жыл бұрын
Drinking 24/7...insomnia...Talking to themselves...Angry all the time...Crying...no caring about their hygiene...its like a Crazy Animal!! Even his voice kept changing! It was the Maddest thing I've ever seen!...I didn't know who the Hell he was in the end...like all the Masks were showing at once!...it reminded me of The terminator film where the bad one Melts and all the things he's been were coming to the Surface
@veronicabeddick8859
3 жыл бұрын
Totally Rebecca I so appreciate these videos 💕🙌.. a Godsend !
@nayanaramesh1252
4 жыл бұрын
All these things are true! Can you please make a video on what is their final reaction after their victims moved on after final discard?! Thanks🌹
@katarzynabielanska6810
4 жыл бұрын
I wonder what happened with a 70 year-old man who always had the supply and now it must be more difficult to find someone. First of all the pandemic and age. I just wonder😉😉😉
@powerhousemethod
2 жыл бұрын
Totally this is mind blowing
@lisarochwarg4707
4 жыл бұрын
I think Harry Windsor is going to be needing your services soon.
@Jettingred4
3 жыл бұрын
Go no contact! Call them on their rude behavior and tell them you won’t accept it! Ignore anything they say! No. Contact phone, Facebook, all accounts and move on with your life and be happy with the new you and NEVER go back ever!
@DJ-fh7xn
5 ай бұрын
Bang on Rrbecca
@RebeccaZungEsq
2 ай бұрын
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@Pasha_Karahan
2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for your friendly video Lady
@machellecron5786
3 жыл бұрын
TOTALLY!!!!
@kathyhansen2820
3 жыл бұрын
They deserve this. They are hated.
@sofiejosefsen242
2 жыл бұрын
I was thinking lately that when I met this narcissistic guy i gave him a melody named hero by family of the year. It’s about not wanna be his hero and about don’t wanna be in his mascarade. Somehow I knew he was narcissist at the beginning of our relationship and now he is stalking me every day
@natoahameans2476
3 жыл бұрын
My mother is one and people are starting to see it I am blackout she is a real demonic soul who confuse people she help and so involved with the church fake self pray for her she really will need it all the sneaky evil she do 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💜
@Hardeen31
Жыл бұрын
I was married to a narcissist for 20 years. I now live in Virginia, and she is living in Iowa. I have 3 kids that are all special needs, and she has complete control. Nobody is listening, and I have no help.
@RebeccaZungEsq
2 ай бұрын
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@The311wax1980
2 жыл бұрын
So they start acting like a two year old who has been told no. I've often wondered if narcissism isn't fostered through bad parenting. It's like a more sophisticated form of a young child's mindset. They were never taught real empathy, that the world doesn't revolve around them. Anyway thanks for the videos!
@Jennifer-iw9bl
4 жыл бұрын
The Judge gave the narcissists lawyers dual roles of trust lawyer and beneficiary lawyer. So the lawyers have no incentive to resolve this. No accounting, money comingled but profiting to pay personal expenses. Get this... The judge said the Lawyers are not the problem. The lawyers outright lie to the judge and they are believed. 6 lawyers, 3 in dual roles, $150,000 fees and the Judge who has 5 children, wants these people to work it out. Should i write to the Bar?
@demomoore7168
4 жыл бұрын
Yes - scan reviews on these attnys and get evidence of crookedness and file
@Jennifer-iw9bl
4 жыл бұрын
I wrote an ex parte. Is that enough?
@ciachef14
2 жыл бұрын
At the end they always get what they deserve.
@ellyturner6125
Жыл бұрын
When I left my narc he tried to kill me in my own car....by putting petrol in my fuel tank 3 times
@matthewwozniak9138
Жыл бұрын
Soon my 👐niceness will help me 👑conquer the world.👼
@RebeccaZungEsq
2 ай бұрын
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@Bianca-sw5id
Жыл бұрын
Rebecca 🥰 , I heard a phrase to say about a narcissist : Pleasing you made me ....... And I just can't remember that fantastic end , does Rebecca 🥰 know-?
@RebeccaZungEsq
2 ай бұрын
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@musa7772
3 жыл бұрын
TOTALLLY true 👌
@christianpulisic7784
3 жыл бұрын
Gloria Quinones,I admire your pretty smile ☺️!!
@musa7772
3 жыл бұрын
@@christianpulisic7784 thanks!
@christianpulisic7784
3 жыл бұрын
@@musa7772 You are welcome dearest 🌹🌷🌷.I am Christian from the States.You?
@musa7772
3 жыл бұрын
@@christianpulisic7784 me too.
@christianpulisic7784
3 жыл бұрын
@@musa7772 Wow!! 😍😍😍😍,are you on Hangouts or Gmail so we can always talk?
@reginaanim8287
2 жыл бұрын
Totally lord expose Fred inflict him with Madness please
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