They are insecure, cowardly, unstable persons who torture those who are close to them and who love them. Once they break all the bridges they run around to find someone else or bag for getting back to those who they tortured. No empathy, no emotions, only manipulation and lies.
@KleeKaiPuppies
Жыл бұрын
The final discard is in your hands. Toxic people always come back around eventually. They’re sick. Take good care of you❤
@shawnpullen9517
8 ай бұрын
Absolutely true they will come back over and over again the discard is a means to an end to gain back power to get out of being held accountable
@SweepDailyWin
Жыл бұрын
Best thing I learned from you Anoushka is that they are little children in Adult bodies...scared and powerless...and bully us to feel better about themselves. ...they never want us back for anything more than to abuse us more. So I have Narc mother and sister and they do NOT deserve those labels. ENJOY YOUR DAY EVERYONE HERE! WE DESERVE IT. WE'VE SUFFERED ENOUGH! 🌷
@LION-on4gd
Жыл бұрын
Thank You for these words!!🌞 They Do will Stay Stucked in Their Own Mud they forced us in to...and from where We Got Out!🕊
@chriscole5990
Жыл бұрын
Please understand if you take back your narcissist their just going to discard you again after they get what they want from you. Save yourself the heartbreak 💔 I took mine back twice and the second time was even worst getting discarded. It's all a cycle with them! They don't love anybody! Not even themselves! You got the education be smart go no contact ok! 👍🏾💪🏾
@face2799
Жыл бұрын
You are absolutely right I gave my narc 2 more chances and both times got discarded badly. I fell for a fake apology and made up story that played on my sympathy for them.
@wtcmedic911
Жыл бұрын
@@face2799 I’m glad mine hates me for things largely out of my control.
@SweepDailyWin
Жыл бұрын
p.s. Having a beautiful, drama free, narc free day! Life CAN be peaceful! Remember, they are scared bullies...they are no one!
@AlwaysHope2019
Жыл бұрын
So glad for you😊
@ericdoan9949
Жыл бұрын
The discard is the end of love bombing and the beginning of devalue and bullying. Ignore these children and leave them for the circus to recruit.
@SweepDailyWin
Жыл бұрын
Brilliant comment!
@ericdoan9949
Жыл бұрын
@Oxford I know it sounds like ranting, but going no contact, and I mean on every depth. Body, mind, and spirit. It's like the narc knows you are thinking of them. If you still have to maintain contact, make it especially painful for them and be the best Grey rock mother nature has to offer! ❤️
@AlwaysHope2019
Жыл бұрын
Great comment
@mariar4624
Жыл бұрын
Your videos are excellent. They have saved my sanity.
@ericdoan9949
Жыл бұрын
This one, in particular, was relatable and somehow packed with info. It was refined and insightful!
@thebeaconoflife
Жыл бұрын
U make it so obvious that they are sick people and we must protect ourselves.Thk u
@yellowhibiscus-ll2gx
Жыл бұрын
They will never show us their vulnerability, yet it’s the vulnerability in us they will exploit. 😞
@puremaledark8305
Жыл бұрын
So true. It was a constant power struggle. The only time I ever saw her happy was when she was in control. A year out and expecting the hoover anytime now. I even blurted out at the end "OMG, you are trying to punish me!!!?" I didn't play the game, and punishment was the discard.
@sallyjones9144
Жыл бұрын
They will never ever go away !!
@90TheRocker
Жыл бұрын
Day 18, had major struggles not contacting last few days. After a day at work with someone who looked just like her. Even now the triggers of the traumabond are still there.
@DigitalDisciple4555
Жыл бұрын
They will be, I was discarded and kicked out of my home by a toxic dead beat narcissistic mother and a young immature female who manipulated me into an attempted 3rd party relationship both within the same year (last). Both are demonic creatures and I had the strength to do away with them and all the sadistic and abusive behaviour they brought into my life. I'm slowly learning to heal and move through those bonds. Stay strong within yourself, I know what it is like to be made to feel less than, and weak but you where never any of those. Your far far more stronger than this person ever made you out to be and you will get through this, believe in your own strength. "Don't think you are, know you are" - Morpheus (The Matrix)
@90TheRocker
Жыл бұрын
@@DigitalDisciple4555 Amazing said there, all the strength sent yourbway in your troubles there too. The Morpheus quote got me, but its knowing that I'm strong for how it's ended and holding off contact
@roncolem4558
Жыл бұрын
Been there, still going thru it but getting better. We worked together until she hooked up with a co worker. So I had to see them everyday. But once I started getting back to being myself and avoiding her , she would do anything to be near me despite the fact that her new guy was there. But I found strength to move forward and started focusing on myself again and that seem to piss her off even more lol! It's going to take time , trust me . One bit of advice is eliminate the notion that " Maybe we'll get back together " That help me alot because you'll never move forward.
@ApostleThe344
Жыл бұрын
Dont contact her bro trust me. Been in no contact for over a month. She already reached out asking if im seeing anyone
@brendafrancis8200
Жыл бұрын
I discarded him!!! Blocked him on all social media. Deleted pictures, blocked my phone numbers. etc. I feel great! The psychopath knows to leave me alone. Listen everyone!! PLEASE GO NO CONTACT!!! Take your power back and move on. Your quality of life will improve I promise!! Flip the script!! Your silence is golden!!
@livinggood6876
Жыл бұрын
After 9. yrs. with a narc., I'm bullet proof. The minute I spot a narc. trait, I'm outta there!
@paulinamartinez3234
Жыл бұрын
It's not the end for them but once you know about their behavior it's way more easy to understand you are the one ending for good and forever
@shakibeauty634
Жыл бұрын
Wow this makes so much sense, while being pregnant I started to question him about where he was going every Sunday’s he did not want to give me an answer, he then gave me the silent treatment and then tried to gaslight me, when he realised I could see through his life he then discarded me during my pregnancy without a care because I did not conform to how he wanted me too. Still hurt but Iv found peace
@wtcmedic911
Жыл бұрын
I’m so very sorry
@BrolyPowerMaximum
Жыл бұрын
The discard happens before the devalue stage. Devaluing you is the final stage. This was the missing link for me. They didn’t -just- devalue you to discard you, they discarded you to devalue you and try and bring value to themselves, or to themselves as an object I should say. If that sounds a little counterintuitive, it’s because it is for a healthy person. Regardless, of which actually comes first, I think it should help people go from surviving to thriving during the healing process to think of it as love bomb, discard, devalue. Because then you can understand that all of the communication between you, everything, is to try and devalue you, and the only way you are going to stop that is by removing yourself from it. Removing your energy and time and attention from it as much as possible. At the point they split on you, everything after that, including any Hoover or whatever it’s all to try and ultimately devalue you. Make no mistake, even arguing, and “standing up for yourself” is playing right into their devaluing of you because that’s time and energy given to them to make them significant, despite their treatment of you, instead of in a place of benefit to you. You wouldn’t stand in toxic sludge to try and get healthy. You wouldn’t roll around in the mud to try and be clean. If you give your attention and energy to a person, who once on leave that at any cost to you, you will come out worse for wear. And if you leave them to their own devices, they will just do the same thing in a cycle pretty much indefinitely. You will likely never see their karma, most of it, because they absolutely cannot let you and other people see it. But it’s coming for them the same way it has been happening for them by losing you. They need your value to go down for theirs to be perceived as up, so that they can see it as up. Even as jarring as the splitting is, but discard is so much more jarring, because you instantly go from good to bad object in their mind.. only for a trail of devaluing to follow which confuses you. If you think about it, it helps explain why they put it to whoever you afterwards. The need to drag you down. The need to devalue you. You’re looking a little bit too good over there without them, so they need to take you down some pegs. You’ve heard the term misery loves company, this might be the origin. I think people miss this, and just see the external discard happening as the relationship crumbles when a person stops tolerating the devaluing. Before that, they split on their perfect introject of you (the object they were having a “relationship” with in their mind) to an awful one in their minds. You can’t just be another external human being coexisting, you have to be either a good or bad object as soon as they have an introjection of you in their mind. They can’t abandon it because they can’t be abandoned. Even though you have been abandoned externally, their idealized best, or worst version of “you” still exist in the toy bin in their mind. The disturbing part about that is that people pay a price for giving narcissists a chance. And the people who don’t give them a chance pay no price. The only real take away. Is that having these interactions with a person can either break you or make you stronger than you ever thought possible. Everything after that it’s just about trying to make you look and feel small and them look and feel big. The part about them trying to devalue you will go on forever so long as you have interactions with them. They need people to believe their narrative that you are a bad person and they are a good object. Because they need to believe this via regulating through the way they perceive themselves in other peoples eyes to tell them that they are a good object. Anytime they see you (silently) succeed in something it will hurt them, especially if the people they are depending on as supply-objects are rejecting them. In a worst case scenario, they spiral out of control and start self sabotaging to get attention, before crafting introjection for themselves to feel grandiose, once again, leaving that vulnerable spiral only to return to it. This doesn’t mean you rub your success in their face, they will love it if you give them positive or negative attention, because any attention makes them relevant in their unhealthy minds. Imagine you were dealing with an emotional-level toddler. “Love me, hate me, but absolutely do not ignore me.” But there’s another part. “Absolutely, absolutely do not look good in contrast to me with your success while you ignore me when I believe I should get to control you.” My ex wife was a good example of this. When I took accountability of my own crap (having poor boundaries, having poor discernment), and stopped trying to take accountability of hers, I was able to make a bunch of good and healthy choices. She literally would say things like my then-girlfriend and now wife now gets the best parts of me and how that’s not fair. And then, after all of the horrible treatment I had endured, even though I had been cheated on, and quit on, and gaslit and devalued …and all of it, when I finally pushed the divorce through She called me, and said the strangest thing that was a predictor for the rest of the time I would have interactions with her due to having a son. She said, “ I guess I’m finally where you are with this and I’m ready for it to end.” I didn’t understand it two years ago when it was said, but I understand it now as she struggles to take my son to school, or give him his prescribed medicine, or give him one on one time, but will sure show up at a soccer game as good mom, especially if I’m there. There’s an introjection of me in this person’s head that they are still having a relationship with. Sadly, I truly believe this to be the most motivating factor for them to do anything that resembles looking good for my son since I will hold her accountable when it gets too out of control. Not because she chose to have him, not because she loves him, but because she needs people to think she’s good. A good object. I’d have more pity for the trauma people like her have been through if they weren’t actively hurting other people with their behavior. It seems the best I can do is just distance myself as much as possible from it, however.
@soulburning2000
Жыл бұрын
This time seems final. It's been 5 years off and on. Now 2months off again but she just emailed please don't interfere with my life now. Happy new year and peace and true happiness to you. It's the first time she has done that and revealed she's dating someone else after a discard. She usually says she's alone.
@wtcmedic911
Жыл бұрын
Was it final?
@soulburning2000
Жыл бұрын
@@wtcmedic911 yes
@thereallisa1
Жыл бұрын
I think it's final. I blocked him on social media in September for horrific emotional and verbal abuse. If he wanted to msg me on phone or email he could.
@coley8880
Жыл бұрын
I haven’t even bothered to block mine on everything because I figure there’s always going to be a way for him to get in contact if he really wants to. I can block him on every single thing and he can create a new email address to email me from or message me from some app I didn’t think of. I think this is my final too, but I also said that the last time so you really never know.
@thereallisa1
Жыл бұрын
I block him on social media so I don't have to see his name or photo. They block to hurt us, whereas we block to protect ourselves.
@AlwaysHope2019
Жыл бұрын
I did the same as you and never dreamed he would attempt to come back I was very wrong 8months later he came around trying to love bomb and
@MegaRockstar48
7 ай бұрын
A relationship with a narcissist is like building a house on sand. You could be with the person for 10 years and yet you’d still feel like things could end at any moment and the other persons commitment to you is like your still on your first date
@roberthayes9842
Жыл бұрын
The strangest thing about sociopathic narcissists is they hold you in contempt because you couldn't see thru them, the greatest revenge on the narcissist is to be happy and they are devastated if they meet you and you ignore them,
@gagecarter2165
Жыл бұрын
Yep, the devaluation started once I discovered the narcissist communicating with an ex again behind my back and started to uncover all of the lies and deceit. They absolutely loathe having to explain or revisit their past and provide any accountability. The narcissist ended up putting a domestic violence order out against me as punishment along with the discard and of course providing no closure. I was eventually hoovered and stupid enough to fall for it and then got discarded again and everything along with it weaponised against me. Wish I had got an education on this stuff a lot earlier and was aware of what was happening.
@Tommytwostroke
Жыл бұрын
I discarded him called him out on all the lies and gaslighting!
@artluvr6170
Жыл бұрын
OMG. This describes everything I experienced when I was discarded.
@tinyproject6388
Жыл бұрын
Exactly, if You acted out of your role as a doormat, they discard You for a while and then most Times You have to come crawling back. The narc will come only much later and try to act like nothing happened thinking they are the holy grale and then do the same thing again.
@Carr2409
Жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!!
@roseli3173
Жыл бұрын
I am going through this but I handling well. Thank you ❤️
@CoryMill
Жыл бұрын
10 months ago I was discarded by an overt and somatic woman narcissist who had become a born again Christian and then had an affair on her husband and cut off everyone (especially me) who were Christian because of her shame. She might not feel guilty of her affair but she knows the Bible and knows that I would tell her that it was wrong. I was very close to her and I know that I’ll never hear from her again. It hurts to not have closure and I know that I’ll never hear from her again.
@jayceegenocide4402
Жыл бұрын
Get real you don't know what she feels she left the cult.
@CoryMill
Жыл бұрын
@@jayceegenocide4402 wow that was a very insensitive response that I didn’t expect. The demons living inside of you must’ve became pretty angry to make such an evil response.
@ufcnutta4203
Жыл бұрын
@@CoryMill I'm confused.. She was having an affair with you?
@CoryMill
Жыл бұрын
@@ufcnutta4203 no, she had an affair with another man at that time. Maybe more now.
@ufcnutta4203
Жыл бұрын
@@CoryMill Narcissists do that... I may just kill my narcissist.
@ashleyg4299
Жыл бұрын
As soon as I put up boundaries and he also needed a place to live, he moved right in with someone else. I knew what he had done even though he denied it. He finally admitted it and said the most horrible things about her (ironically, the same names he called me). He has been with her for a year and a half and he kept trying. I know no contact is the only way, but I gave in and saw him at thanksgiving. I fell for all of it. He told me he was leaving. I do know it’s been hell in the new relationship. He went back to her and then she threatened to kill me! I haven’t heard from him since. He told his sister that I wasn’t worth it. Once again, it made me feel horrible about myself. He will never leave the new supply unless she kicks him out because she is just as toxic as he is. She throws herself at his feet and grabs his legs so he won’t leave, even when she knows he’s cheated. She gives him and lets him do whatever he wants so he will stay. I honestly kinda feel like he may actually be gone for good this time. I think in his head I’m not really worth him losing what he has. It’s hard not to take it personally when he never fought for us like that. He did give her everything I asked for. I know it’s best that there is no contact and that’s the only way I’m gonna heal. I just wanna stop the rumination. I constantly think about how she was better and he gave her everything. I’m working so hard at healing.
@Chris-pj7jg
Жыл бұрын
I am not going to conform at all. I had always seen and known the truth about them really. If they come back I will not be there for them anymore! I will detach from them and that will be final. Thank you and Shalom!
@hhsg11
Жыл бұрын
The ex narc won’t come back to me in a million years, he DETESTS me for seeing the real him and letting him know. we bought a house together (I was the 3rd woman in 7 years he did this to), we were only in it for 3 months and a continuation of the 3 phases and him threatening to put the house up for sale every time, in the end I told him to do it. He tried desperately to talk me round and I refused. In the end he bought me out but that last couple of months in the house was horrendous, I had been voice recording him and so glad I did as he was downright evil. I reported him to the Police for the abuse and made a statement, gave them the recordings I had at the time and asked for them to wait until I moved out. They called me 2 weeks later for his number as they had listened to the recordings and was inviting him in for a voluntary interview as they believe they have a case against him for harassing me. It never stopped until I moved out, he banned me from rooms in the house, using the cooker, his dishes, he took the kettle to work, turned off the radiator in my bedroom, switched off his little freezer and ruined all my newly bought frozen food which he then binned. I ended up having to get a camera for my bedroom as he was constantly barging in day and night without knocking to mouth off or just annoy me. He had no idea until the Police would have called him. I have to go back and do a video statement and give them the last 50 recordings from the last 3 weeks I was there. So NO, he won’t be coming back to hoover me. 👍
@rupatiwari5923
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely 💯 true this happened exactly like this....come back ? 🤔
@karenmarie3932
Жыл бұрын
He better never come back! I loved him deeply and he lives two houses from me. Our relationship was up and down for four years. He recently came back November 2022 and said that he lost his sex drive and “let’s just see how things go.” He wouldn’t touch me!!!!! I immediately got a red flag with that, because he in the past has been very passionate!! I broke up with him and he immediately started seeing someone else.
@cathy_clarinet
Жыл бұрын
Excellent, but I think it’s about what’s going on behind the scenes with a new or returning supply. I kept seeing through it
@rudy2978
Жыл бұрын
I can only imagine how scared, stressed and enfuriated she must have been with me since I did not comply with literally anything. That explains her behaviour, the cheating, the lies, the anger. I feel good, i know my overthinking is spot on.
@jaywinter2534
Жыл бұрын
How could I survive without your empathic support, many thank you very much..
@paulfitzpatrick2572
Жыл бұрын
Time means nothing to them and everything to you. That's the illusion of their power over you. They would make very good snipers. That is essentially what they are. They put a bullet in you and then become the nurse who tends the wound.
@angelobonifacia4839
Жыл бұрын
Im experiencing this..
@MrMarthadiaz
Жыл бұрын
For the past 2 years I have watched almost every single videos about narcissists abuse on KZitem and on 12/31/22 I finally told him that I don’t care about the relationship and went dancing. He blocked me and I’m ready for him just in case he decides to come back. It’s no way no how I’ll give this demon vampire to full me again. He exposed himself in my neighborhood, so he did his own smear campaign to himself 😊
@eyesopen7946
Жыл бұрын
a narcissist when calling them out go into a major tantrum nonsensical insulting mode then disappear then reappear then gift then disappear then reappear , control from chaos and confusion and never a straight answer , one word sets of a Narcissist and that is by saying No to them Anouska is Right
@audreypaton8156
Жыл бұрын
I’m going through this right now with my adult son. Everything you talked about he has done. It’s been 3 years of estrangement and I will never go back, the pain has been excruciating,Ive overdosed the works, which he doesn’t know, I don’t want this toxic person in my life, it’s that simple ❤
@CH-in8dm
Жыл бұрын
Sorry for you hun. Going through the same with my daughter. It's crushing and I can't do it anymore...I have to move on. I hope you find some peace and healthy love 🙏
@audreypaton8156
Жыл бұрын
@@CH-in8dm I hope you do to, we don’t deserve to be treated like this, all my love 💔💖
@Joshualuv13
Жыл бұрын
They may not stay that way forever but the idea is for you to !
@rayelliott8141
Жыл бұрын
God damn this was awesome I'm actually in the discard phase now.. her son just text me that 2 years ago she had a boyfriend and she did the same to him but eventually she came back and discarded him again. So I guess I have to wait my turn for the value phase AKA love bombing not going to lie that was pretty intense and lasted about 3-4 months. The sad part is you're just burning away years of your life in someone else's world of abuse
@karenmarie3932
Жыл бұрын
Hot and cold !!!!! Yes!
@mikerozic7225
Жыл бұрын
Anoushka God Bless You!
@edgreen8140
Жыл бұрын
We misbehave in their mind. Use your critical thinking. Ppl do things that ruffle others everyday. They're stuck in a childhood mindset.
@Thegamehhh449
Жыл бұрын
I agree with this video, but I don't believe they come back, one's the mask falls off, and they know you know who they really are, it's over forever.
@thrivingnow7395
Жыл бұрын
Not the case. Mine was violent. The mask fell. I escaped. He still stalked and tried to Hoover.
@rupatiwari5923
Жыл бұрын
Yeah it's been very painful and traumatic 45years but I'm learning but yes it's very difficult....loved this video ❤️ ❣️
@Ericrr79
Жыл бұрын
Yep, anytime i called her out she would just break up with me. The last time I just never came back
@aneishasingletary4553
Жыл бұрын
I been with my narc for 5 years, I am now in my 4 almost 5 month discard of her, I left it was to much, and let me tell you when it is finally over you will feel all types of emotions coming off you, everything they put on you will come put, once you finally get the peace feeling glow up set strong boundaries, and humble yourself trust no one. And those of you in the discard see it as peace when they do go silent like big babies who want to be chased. But trust these demons are predators they sense when your relaxed from them and often they'll come and start a fight or try to mirror you and that will take all your peace away, you'll walk on egg shells. They don't want you to relax they need you lost and confused in order to control you. Once you find peace without them they will come back because they feel it, but if your at the stage I am you will no longer care, I been through a lot of break ups with that lady, now I know who she is, I studied NPD 3 YEARS I got enough knowledge now to know when I meet one. Whether with friends or family. So just find peace people and know they are not to be trusted, they will make you feel dead, nervous, you may even panic or isolate from others. But you'll be back they can't destroy the natural essence if what makes you who you are. Remember they have none of those qualities that's why they leach, fight, gaslight and act like 5 year old. Goodluck, and go and stay no contact for gooood 🤟💯🤍
@massimo7219
Жыл бұрын
These people are like zombies. I got hoovered by my former narc after 13 years. 13 freakin years later !!! Life must be really bad if she has to go that far back in time for supply.
@lucanotti
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@kristsbergmanis1261
Жыл бұрын
thank you. Anoushka. im going tro this situation. again
@paulywalnut3364
Жыл бұрын
My X asked me to buy her a house of her choosing, so we could begin building our family. Something wasn't sitting right. She was also trying to rush a wedding. Wow, now that I'm going over it again... Anyway, I said no. Her wedding plan imo simply wasn't romantic. I'm very romantic and have never been married, going on 40 now. So I wanted to treasure the vow and spend at least a week togther. Her plan didn't even involve a honeymoon. Anyway, she chooses the house of her liking and I agree to purchase it. Mind you, I have supported her from day 1 and this purchase would be no different. She tells me that I should put her on the deed lol. She was very aggressive about it. I said no, that I will make a trust and it will be hers regardless (morbid). The icing, I guided her to becoming a realtor, because I am a real estate investor and so I thought we could grow together. She discarded me and went no contact 2 weeks before closing on the biggest purchase of my life! During this time, I was extremely stressed. I had to come up with the down and closing without any financial assistance. On top of that, my best friend informed me that they found a mass, in his mother, that required surgery and my Fiance / realtor went ghost. My X finally met me and she was very different. She seemed possessed. She saw my stress and seemed to enjoy it. I begged her to stop the chaos and she refused. I had a mental break down. I felt my brain move. Like when you move a body part. The stress was like a tidal wave. Once I broke down, she sped off and left me in a parking lot by the dumpsters. She then went no contact again. The deal fell apart and I ended up living in a unsafe place. My dogs lost there yard and I lost myself... Even still, as a man, I blame myself. It was my place to, I guess diagnose this and seek out help for us. I know her and she is a great girl. She simply lacks the knowledge and understanding that her actions were toxic. I saw her after and she looked disheveled. All I ever did was build her up and try to give her the world. We spoke and I helped her out. She told me that she feels like hurting herself when she communicates with me and needed to go no contact again, for her own good. I wish she knew that all I want to do is help and idc about the mistakes. After all, none of us are perfect and Jesus forgave us for way worse.
@danielskyles6184
Жыл бұрын
So true Anoushka
@michaeljackson7361
Жыл бұрын
Was end for me. I was done
@rupatiwari5923
Жыл бұрын
You are a beacon of hope for me ❤️ ❣️ 💕 💘
@robertaurens5665
Жыл бұрын
I'm learning valuable info from you. Good to know what the "enemy" looks like
@peterkruger5115
Жыл бұрын
Brilliant thanks
@doughewitt9424
Жыл бұрын
Great information
@igordemy
Жыл бұрын
Lovely! This is the best confirmation on this subject, I have yet heard ... including from you as well ;)
@cindz_duplooy
Жыл бұрын
I was so experiencing that whole video and saying yes, yes and oh my hat yes. Thank you, you put it like it is.
@windysmith7367
Жыл бұрын
This is such a good video! He raged and discarded me when I told him I was leaving over his questionable shady behavior. I blocked him and he left some items on my porch 5 days later. I think it was a Hoover because I had blocked him and he was hoping I would reach out to him. I didn’t. It’s been 4 months of no contact. His rage traumatized me and it was abusive and I was already done with his lies and secrets. I have too much self worth. I think he has moved on.
@franciscocardenas5758
Жыл бұрын
Wow!!! I never looked at it that way, but it makes sense. Once you understand this, you are now in control. Just saying 😌
@rupatiwari5923
Жыл бұрын
This video is such a feel goid factor I've watched it 5 times already
@LION-on4gd
Жыл бұрын
Exactly!! Really good video 🌻
@axlelf
Жыл бұрын
Hi Anoushka, Thank-you for your wise words and understanding on the subject. It gives clarity, direction and positivity.🙏🏻
@angelahart1479
Жыл бұрын
Thankyou Anushka. After the discard I sent my ex narc a long email telling her I was not going to spend time effort and money on her any more. Also told her to stop using people etc. She did NOT like it at all. Rang me and angrily said she didn't care and said she had deleted the email. But I was happy with her reaction and as the saying goes...you can't unread something!
@katten138
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes they don't come back. Mine hasn't for 5 months despite me breaking no contact, he never answered me or called me back. Now Im trying to move on with my life.
@LifeWithPunky
Жыл бұрын
I could be on here for hours and hours and my story is way way way too long but the scenario starts and ends where I literally helped my fiance of two years find life again after being an alcoholic or 30 years. I did everything I could gave all that I could helped and get a car after twenty years of not having one helped him get teeth, build himself up I don't even know where to go from here. My daughter went on his search history this past May 30th and found that 10 days prior he was searching up porn, which was blindsiding me because it was always in the forefront and open in my eyes but he always told me since him and I have been together he hasn't done any of that. About that moment when he was exposed, he left and discarded me on that and to this day has never even apologized. But the little x that he and I have talked it's always about what he says I have done wrong but he has never owned up to any part
@ragepig1059
Жыл бұрын
Never Ever Ever help a man
@jayceegenocide4402
Жыл бұрын
It's been almost two years. She has been screwing her local friend we were in a long distance relationship NEVER do long distance relationships
@orcamexiwie
Жыл бұрын
I agree. Had a very bad experience. I married him, a sick liar and cheater. I'm so glad he's gone forever. And yes no more LDRs, they suck your happiness and trust, and money! I'd be probably driving a Jaguar now! 😂
@kerryannmoor5908
Жыл бұрын
Four years divorced in May. I doubt I ll ever see that loser again. He s been totally blocked all that time. Him and the conspiring new supply deserve each other.
@paulmckeown8378
Жыл бұрын
Not a word for 15 months...😁
@MrJoebn3
Жыл бұрын
While they punish you..they are at their new suppliers... no doubt ...tired of new..back to you..cycles.
@hmnorvell3771
Жыл бұрын
I was thinking what the hell just happened. He knows I saw through him so he removed himself from me. He called me a liar which is ironic. It’s all about control & power. There was no explanation of the discard. And their new supply is doing spells on everyone. 😮
@Coupy-pie
Жыл бұрын
I know my ex is a narcissist and I know me cutting contact with her isn't the end. I've been researching psychology and already called her out for being a narcissist but not in a blunt way, she did an online test for it! she has a new supply though which probably won't last. I know her true colors so I can better protect myself.
@roxay_rich22
Жыл бұрын
For me, before the discard happened, 2 weeks prior I became a little distant so he hoovered me an entire week. We met up for dinner and had a great time. He met my son the next day and then boom he has been silent since… I haven’t contacted him 😢
@gozitan5
Жыл бұрын
‘Idealisation’ , devaluation, discard. They can discard you for something they’ve done and can’t face up to.?
@mariamanta2123
Жыл бұрын
Arent they sick?their behaviors not normal at all 🙄 is it ?? Even if its a game they are not normal
@pawelluzny7
Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@AXA747
Жыл бұрын
4 times I was discarded this time I ended it after 3 years no contact for 7 weeks now although matched with an ex friend on tinder saying how lonely he is etc another one he used who caused me nothing but heartbreak for three years who happily told me and sent me screen shots I have cut her out of my life too , he can try all he wants I will Never go back
@puddingsawgl
Жыл бұрын
My nex never came back. I was the one that went back after 1 year. So not all narcs come back.
@seramarie76
Жыл бұрын
Yes yes and ummm, yes. Ugh. You are exactly right. Yep. So this one, moved out of her parents home and disappeared from her fb page. She works seasonal jobs throughout the year but she totally cleaned out her room. the whole family is not right. Trying not to be concerned. Honestly hoping she is in rehab. Serious alcoholism and nose snow. Her trucker bf supplies her w money and Gucci...all of the fancy things she wants. Assuming he is taking care of her. Shes lucky to have him, although she says she is using him. Or isn't. Depends on the day. Maybe by the time I hear from her, If I do.... I will be at the point of no return and won't feel such a pull. Time can be a cushion. Feel like I failed her and myself for raging back and giving in each time. Anyway, I am wiser now. Thank you so much. Just breathe, everyone.
@Jaime-ei9ux
Жыл бұрын
Scorpio male hold it I threw out the garbage!
@jsamanthawise1379
Жыл бұрын
My x has plenty of supply with his crazy family. We were married 19 months and he’s been gone for 7 now. I filed for divorce he will never come home to me
@BK-lb8uh
Жыл бұрын
Anoushka, what about the new supply keeping her happy? The new Man....
@iank4689
Жыл бұрын
I was the money man to my narcissist neighbour. Buy her this that and everything. I never did . Got discarded in a most horrible way . Got hovered several months later . Nothing changed . I just walked out . Up yours , Maureen Harris. Good luck with your stair lift and other high priced things you wanted.
@amandalidey329
Жыл бұрын
I'd like to watch the video. 🥰 luckily I haven't been in a relationship with a narracist in over 5 years. Well unfortunately I was with 2 🙄 Too young to catch any of the signs, but I'd like to hear more for future reference.
@johnmoran7996
Жыл бұрын
My discard has already happened a year ago.she got people to mess with me.if she comes back she gets killed,for real!
@tonyg5132
Жыл бұрын
Seems like there never is a final discard unless I’m assuming you completely humiliate them somehow in front of everyone they try to use as supply. I’ve seen people comeback after years.
@AlwaysHope2019
Жыл бұрын
I’ve lived it I was one of the ones that thought and said to everyone not in 1 million years would he ever come back. Boy I was wrong
@TheVirtualDeb
Жыл бұрын
I commented that if you are going to more than a few minutes late please let me know, or if you are not stopping by, please let me know. So he said, “WTF is wrong you?” I never experienced any person like him. He has no concept on why respect and courtesy is needed. Not a word since April. I doubt he will make contact. I literally have zero interest now that I understand he is disordered. He wants the physical pleasure, but it all has to under his rules.
@AlwaysHope2019
Жыл бұрын
Yes their rules only
@TheVirtualDeb
Жыл бұрын
@@AlwaysHope2019 Right. Very rude and cold.
@Jaime-ei9ux
Жыл бұрын
Scorpio male yeah because we been playing mind games for a while,then. They ran off!
@HonestyIsAVirtue7
Жыл бұрын
So true! It's all a game! And, they can't play unless they have participating players. I stopped playing along, and blocked him out of my life. They are so predictable, and borrriiinnnggg! It's the same old cycle. They're programmed to repeat the same cycle, over and over again. It's obnoxious!
@maryirungu9305
Жыл бұрын
The phrase misbehaving 💯💯💯,,,,,,,,he keeps on saying that to me that am not respecting him
@Thunder-lightning852
9 ай бұрын
She discarded me because I was setting up boundaries I was no longer going to be a doormat and she wanted to cash in because her friends told her she was entitled to half of the stuff and all narcissist love that entitlement you wanna be friends with a narcissist just tell him they’re entitled to the world and you will become their best friend
@rachelcoloradomy3kidz778
Жыл бұрын
Tfs 💕🌹🙏😭 😘
@angeliajanina6017
Жыл бұрын
🎯
@user-kcrpine
Жыл бұрын
Could it be innocent for the sister of a narcissist to want to hire you for a job (few hours work) and it have nothing to do with the narcissistic sister, especially if they don’t get along? If not, is there any circumstances where this is the case?
@Bristolnwilts23
Жыл бұрын
Absolutely I've been dating a cheating narcissistic man who has problems or is it just an act? Great useful tools thank you x
@bronyk7997
Жыл бұрын
I don’t think they also do … He’s gone for good trust me
@dinosaurlover2829
Жыл бұрын
He still texts me from time to time even though he has been with a new supply for a while now. Haven't contacted me now for about a week. Is he gone for good?
@AlwaysHope2019
Жыл бұрын
💯 not gone
@AlwaysHope2019
Жыл бұрын
I ask these questions myself and every time someone would tell me yes he would come back. I’ll convince myself that there’s no way because of the way to discard took place but sure enough I was wrong eight months later fullsteam ahead for him
@kenyarogers6289
Жыл бұрын
If he’s gone for good, then that’s a win for you! Remember that!
@thrivingnow7395
Жыл бұрын
Block him. Change your phone. Go total no contact. Why are you still letting him text you? The trauma bond is difficult to break. Take this opportunity to do that. Think about it. He is with another woman and he is texting you? When he was with you he would have been texting multiple other women also. Get out and stay out!
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