Find out if your no is treasured, then youll know if your freedom is loved". Pearls of Wisdom by Dr. Cloud
@carolynazministries
2 жыл бұрын
Love this one! And thank you Dr Cloud for giving me hope that there are men who appreciate when I speak my mind! Also, ‘if they treasure your no, they value your freedom.’ I’m putting that in my pocket! God bless you!
@Paradox4152
4 жыл бұрын
“At what juncture does force coming at me, at what juncture does that start to crack my feeling of being free?” WOW!!!!
@carolea7158
4 жыл бұрын
I know!!!!
@pauliberg3492
3 жыл бұрын
...........find out whether your NO IS TREASURED... you will find out if your freedom is loved.....wow...!!!
@lilibethvilella
3 жыл бұрын
Your heart is a jewel, a treasure, god made uuu with a heart strength passions gifts 🙏🏽 someone tramples your mind heart soul....DONT cast your pearls to that person 🦋⚔️🌻 Dr Cloud
@trishknaut1031
4 жыл бұрын
You are so awesome Dr Cloud! I've listened to you for maybe a good 20 years and have gleaned much wisdom from you thank you so much you are such a blessing!
@leeharrison8790
3 жыл бұрын
the difference between a challenging individual & a controlling individual ../ A controlling individual won't respect your no .. a challenging individual will respect your no & let you know what their concerns are .. that's way cool !
@Cowgirlkate
4 жыл бұрын
No is a complete sentence; brilliant advice as always ❤️
@lilibethvilella
3 жыл бұрын
Carry the word No in your purse 🙏🏽
@castillelarkin
4 жыл бұрын
Great episode. Thanks for all your books too!
@mal6780
4 жыл бұрын
Dr Henry you are sooooooo helpful!
@steevrush
3 жыл бұрын
Like your caller i hate aggressive driving, and have a history of nine years in Toledo - here's the trick; i'm not following too close - they're driving too slow, and this was actually told me by a friend, "i am driving that car, the one ahead of us that is!" And further, my nine years in Toledo were bookended by about a year each time in a well-known Chicago commune - so i really am feeling your pain about tail-gating, and aggressive driving in gen'l!
@lilibethvilella
3 жыл бұрын
Love you so much Dr C
@summerbreeze2263
4 жыл бұрын
I have to wonder...'Who yields to who' in these situations? Yes, he respected your wishes and he knows your autonomy, and it's going really well. I believe this is where the conflict arises. "What do you want to do?" is your yielding. to his desires and autonomy. When you're always making sacrifices for each other; they can still become (key word) that difficult person. After a while of yielding to your wishes, they become passive aggressive/underhandedly irritated/seemingly rude b/c they are giving into your whims and they can't deal with it, due to their own pride and selfishness. And you excuse it as --- he's always giving in and that's not fair, I understand and you begin to yield to them more (mistake #1 -- but whose the selfish 1?) Catch-22 :/ ?!? Are you for always getting your way and he's constantly yielding to you b/c he won't say what he wants~ "Oh he's so loving MOM!!" Can you tell I'm talking about a covert narcissist? The one who masks behavior and they seem so kind and tolerable and giving ~ when they are actually using you this whole time, to get what they want!! After a while if you don't do what they want, you will pay a big price--ABUSE! And...you don't find out until you've married them!
@ms.anonymousinformer242
2 жыл бұрын
I found out after 10 months in an non exclusive relationship. Not married to him. I blocked him less than 3days ago and each day he came banging on my front door, and window 🪟 of my bedroom ,finally I responded by opening my window so he could approach me. Only for him to yell at me with so much hatred & anger (like he was possessed by evil) "Give me my god damd house key back!!!!!!!! " Said he was tired of my games and ignoring me.... I was like no uh uh it's not like that (I blocked him bc it was over, he ALREADY told me it was over between us) .. and he stopped me verbally again like the very last time I attempted to talk and dispute what he said with his false accusations.... I said you need to calm down and not be so angry..... when he refused... I closed the window and dropped the blinds in his face. He kept yelling at me by saying to just throw it the garbage then and he never wants to see me ever again , I better not something to do with seeing him or making contact with him... it was so emotionally hurtful bc I was only 3days out from blocking him 100% not healed yet from my broken heart. I was feeling so much.... emotionally better, in these lasy two days... until I made that mistake of opening my window 🪟, vs just continuing to be in the no contact phase (indefinite unless he made f2f contact out in public to apologize perfusely) ... by not responding to his games and madness. 🤦🏻♀️ This is someone who said (SAID.. and yes he would always get so pissed when I used the a tons speak louder than words motto, on him after he proved his words lies, by his actions/oops maybe "behaviors" is a better word) that they loved me so much they wanted to be with me forever ! Wake up to my face ,every day for the rest of their life, even tried to get me pregnant & said he wanted us to have a baby (I was responsible&did not participate in conceiving a child with him, which he did begin to treat me horribly to the point we didn't even see each other but 2x after that, and then never again last time we were physical & I stopped it from happening (conceiving a baby). His anger and hateful attitude toward me really showed just within this last month. Honestly I truly do beleive because I threw away ALL and ANY boundaries with him , and if I had used boundaries from the beginning, his true self maybe would not have shown so soon. I might have for sure gotten pregnant and started a family with him before finding out his true feelings (that he DIDNT love me) .
@Thankful305
2 жыл бұрын
@@ms.anonymousinformer242 Oh yes!! Sounds familiar- the verbal abuse- the immature behavior - lack of self control-- devalue-- dismissive and mean!! Boundaries are so important but these folk don’t respect your boundaries … and that’s when you back off! Don’t settle. I know too many of us settle and make excuses for bad behaviors that are intolerable and just plain WRONG! Glad you learned! That’s what life is all about living and learning. Now it’s time to heal MoveOn and treasure your yourself along with your boundaries! 🕊🙏❤️
@vivienrhodes4248
4 жыл бұрын
Hi Dr Cloud Controlling leads to bullying and is unacceptable and no is no so do not cave in You can agree to disagree and it should be acceptable
@trishknaut1031
4 жыл бұрын
I met a man at a Christian singles party where we were having a great time talking about Goody's shoes and I was able to talk about the Lord and this one man who just seemed really nice to be around ask me if I meet him at church and sit with him so I thought that would be fun and agreed and ask him if we could sit in the front where I normally sit and he said he was uncomfortable with that and would like me to sit with him in the back of the church so I said okay Without Really asking the Lord about that first and then started getting uncomfortable because I like to sit next to this one father and son and the son has a disability and he's just really fun to to be around. Ding ding ding! Me alert! Me alert! So the Lord explained how is nice as the man seemed the Lord didn't let him choose to sacrifice his comfort zone to sit with me where I wanted to sit in love in fun next to people I love already and he wanted me to sacrifice my choice my comfort to give up being there the people that I love and encourage for his comfort. Now usually I would always sacrifice for the other and I've realized that everyone has their own preferences & that most if not all of us don't want to sacrifice our desires for another. Only Jesus does that for the Father for our good. So I called the guy and told him I needed to sit up front with the disabled son I didn't hear anything more from the guy but saw him in Church a few times any look so unhappy. So I pray for him and realize that the Lord for feels all their needs of love and I need to go to him first asked him about everything and then if he brings someone into my life which he has that loves Papa God first and I love Papa God first but there'll be a mutual sacrifice my desires for the good of the other like in your book doctor cloud the power of the other! then the two will be a dynamic duo for the Lord drawing others to himself!🙏🔥😎
@summerbreeze2263
4 жыл бұрын
I get what you're saying completely and I agree with you. But, I have to wonder...'Who yields to who' in these situations? Yes, you respected his wishes, so that made you welcoming and accepting of him, but .... you wanted to sit up front. I believe this is where the conflict arises. When you're always making sacrifices for each other. They can still become (key word) that difficult person :( After a while of yielding to your wishes, they become passive aggressive/underhandedly irritated/seemingly rude b/c they are giving into your whims and they can't deal with it due to their own pride and selfishness. Can you tell I'm talking about a covert narcissist? The one who masks behavior and they seem so kind and tolerable and giving ~ when they are actually using you to get what they want!! And...you don't find out until you've married them!
@glendameadon3677
2 жыл бұрын
What do you do when someone punishes you with silence,and being spitefull when you say NO?
@Tabsimone
4 жыл бұрын
What is the relationship book he mentioned in the beginning
@bumblinagirl2683
4 жыл бұрын
It's called "How to Get a Date Worth Keeping" ... recently got it used from eBay!
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