That phrase “it is possible to find someone who loves you so much they will do literally anything” made me cry. I am also a hopeless romantic and I keep finding myself in relationships where my gfs don’t want me the same way I want them. Where they don’t want to put the effort… it’s hard.
@hennesseylei7398
Жыл бұрын
I love this content so much i want to cry
@Trevurr
Жыл бұрын
Limerance is a huge thing for me. I get triggered into these spiraling obsessions with celebrities/fictional characters where my every thought is about them, I download every piece of media I find with them, check their social media hundreds of times a day, and imagine scenarios where I'm with them or in their world, etc. It's like my gravity shifts and suddenly they're the most important thing in my life. Then, randomly, one day I'll just blink and be out of it. Then I'll move onto a new person, sometimes sooner sometimes later. It's definitely me subconsciously trying to fill that void as I'm the hugest of hopeless romantics but have never managed to actually find a real genuine relationship. So I find someone I can create a perfect version for in my head and become so ungodly attached that it borders on actual insanity lmao
@cassandragray1747
Жыл бұрын
this reminds me a lot of how my bpd works, and was actually one of the big reasons i ended up figuring out i have it. regardless of what it is it can still be very consuming haha, but that level of obsession can be channeled for good, too :)
@computermist8453
Жыл бұрын
I believe this is a sign of emotional neglect growing up also, your brain gets used to making up delusions out of reality to make it seem a lot more positive than it actually is or completely imagining the emotional meaning of interactions, it's a self soothing thing, filling in the void. As a coping mechanism you'll start to latch onto concepts or people that make you feel comforted emotionally, like the idea of soulmates, twin flames. I felt like this for so so many years, I fell in love with all sorts of fictional killers, I imagined a future with just about anyone that spoke to me, had no standards because I could attach myself to anybody with very little prompt, but being like this often will make you very attractive to predatory people that will take advantage of this desperation and it's easy to fall victim to emotional abuse, my own brain would enable the mistreatment by creating a cushion of my own romantic imaginations so that it didn't seem nearly as bad as it was lol So I eventually had to be brought back down to earth because of those experiences and now am able to see people for who they really are!
@kittypop211
Жыл бұрын
As a fellow hopeless romantic this video spoke volumes to me. Thank you Myah, I have finally been able to find like-minded people and come to the decision that my 7 year relationship is no longer healthy for me and I need to get out. It feels like you’re a big sister telling me what I need to hear and that is so comforting in this moment.
@pendulumd0ll
Жыл бұрын
i’m so glad ur back on youtube. you’re so adamant about what you want and who you are, it’s so refreshing.
@PinkiePieex3
Жыл бұрын
God this video spoke to my heart so DEEPLY!!! I've been a hopeless romantic for my ENTIRE LIFE and no one around me ever understood it or mistook my focus on LOVE as "unhealthy", when its not unhealthy at all, it's just how I feel and it's my main goal to love and be loved in the realest form. I always felt really alone in this desire for true love and my "obsession" with love. You speak so well on it and I love your videos like this so much
@littlelagoons
Жыл бұрын
I am exactly the same way. The first time I saw the interview with Gary Oldman where he talks about how he got into the mindset for Dracula, I cried for 2 days. Finally I found someone who felt the way I feel.
@keirstanewell5699
Жыл бұрын
This is such a good influence especially when people are prone to obsessing and have not the best mental health. I love you so much
@thatguy9936
10 ай бұрын
So cute together 1 year later, Happy Thanksgiving
@lotsasun
Жыл бұрын
ahh this was so validating to listen to!
@Hesitant_Alien04
Жыл бұрын
I feel like you made this video at the perfect time for me. I just got out of a really bad two year relationship that I fought for my life to keep. I did so many things I was not comfortable with for the sole reason of convincing myself that I was in love and that this relationship was "the one". I started pushing away people that cared about me because I thought this relationship was the only thing I needed. I honestly wish I could go back in time and slap the shit out of myself for wanting something so toxic and unfixable to work out. Im pretty fucking mad at myself for taking so long to realize how delusional I was being, but I was able to walk away willing to learn from it over time. I am pretty afraid that this experience might negatively affect the way I see love from here on out, but I'm still young so who fucking knows??? Btw I love your videos myah you and your gf are so fucking cute🥰
@zeezeee5153
Жыл бұрын
This is something I don’t relate to (being a hopeless romantic) but is very interesting and a useful perspective to hear nonetheless ❤
@irisapirisa
Жыл бұрын
The fact that my biggest dream is to be with THE person. Like all of my other dreams and goals in life fall short compared to that
@marygracesmith296
Жыл бұрын
been having a rough week thank you for always making it better. xo
@chasityfeyvenske666
Жыл бұрын
I'm almost in my 30s (gah time is flying by so fast😢), I've always been a hopeless romantic as long as I can remember, Honestly i had my life planned with my first love at 16, and thought he and I would be "high school sweethearts" even though he treated me like shit, i still was very much loyal to him. It went on for YEARS after the fact of hopelessly being "in love" (infatuated) with this ideal that he and I were meant to be. As time went on, I got into relationships that didn't work out, one of them was very toxic and abusive and I was only 18 when I got with an ex. After that ex I dated someone else who treated me with the upmost respect but only lasted for two months, which tore my heart apart after the fact, even during the relationship I was very skeptical on how long we'd actually be together because I didn't want it to be good and then fall apart so after we broke up I was completely devastated since he treated me soooo well (with him I had a smidge of what a healthy relationship is supposed to be like) After that I dated, stayed single for awhile, even one of the dudes I was seeing I never made it official because I just didn't want it to not work out, I've always dreamed of having THAT love, the dates, the love letters and so forth and I get upset when they aren't like that. Some even try to ACT like that but then fall out, and stop being like that. My recent ex did the same thing, when I met him he made himself to be this gentleman who cared about me, we went on dates, stayed up all night talking ect and once we moved into together he became someone else, he neglected me, abused me emotionally and acted like me wanting the bare minimum was a nuisance. Dating when you're a hopeless romantic is so hard because you have this vision for your relationships and once it's not that, You're completely beside yourself. One thing I have a hard time on is keeping my boundaries and staying with them.
@slimeysam1471
Жыл бұрын
omg this put everything ive ever felt into words🥺
@sew62880
11 ай бұрын
TY for this! This video literally could've been made about me! Lifetime hopeless romantic here & it has seriously sucked at times...but then it's also been wonderful at times. 🖤🤷♀️💯💕
@suki9268
Жыл бұрын
i really needed to hear this. Thanks Myah 💕💕
@ralyks6044
Жыл бұрын
theres a song by florence and the machine called hardest of hearts, and the line is “There is love in your body but you can’t hold it in, it pours from your eyes and spills from your skin” and I have always felt this intense need to be loving something. When I have no where to essentially put my love and care into I actually start getting destructive because of how badly my chest aches and all I want to do is feel something other than how I do. Its like an excess of energy but it stems from like wanting to gift give, word vomit compliments, cuddle, be close to someone. I actually start getting physically ill when I have no outlet for my love. I am like a love sick person and I hate it. I hate that its not the normal feeling everyone gets, my family literally tells me I’m crazy and possessive over my friends but its because I feel everything so much more intensely than others. I feel it so deeply that I cannot fathom anyone not feeling this way at all, just not reciprocated towards me. And it messes with me because I convince myself that its a punishment, that love isn’t comfortable as I think it is, that I will never feel it being directed towards me despite feeling it so intensely and honestly violently for others. That I am a lover but I will never be loved. Thats where the desperation kicks in and the bad situations I put myself into….I could literally tear apart my mind for hours and show a beautiful display of the grief I have KNOWING it is so rare that I will more than likely DIE without ever truly meeting my person. And I’ll settle or end up rotting alone.
@lolgtglmao247
Жыл бұрын
Yes, please make that video! I want to see you and Ally react that would be a truly funny and gut wrenching video idea.
@lindseygiebel7959
4 ай бұрын
Big sis i needed as a big sis ❤
@marcelloestemiele
Жыл бұрын
thank you for this video from the bottom of my heart Myah, it was very helpful
@hannahstargrin3282
Жыл бұрын
thank you for doing this i love you💜
@haleyxyz
Жыл бұрын
"what do i always call it? natural selection" 💀💀
@yikes2677
Жыл бұрын
i love it when u post 😭🩷🥺
@prismo1428
Жыл бұрын
I would LOVE to see a video of you and your GF reacting. That ship has not sailed yet lol we need more!
@Lexi__24
Жыл бұрын
The fault in our jawnzzzzzz
@keirstanewell5699
Жыл бұрын
Wow I really needed to hear this. Thank you❤️
@Lilkiwii
Жыл бұрын
This video kinda ruined my day but I definitely needed the self reflection n everything is making a lot more sense now
@loungeblogger
Жыл бұрын
i’m over 40 and have never had that kind of relationship.
@jillianlaylataylor
Жыл бұрын
(This might be long) as someone who is definitely a hopeless romantic, after eight months of walking on eggshells and being a people pleaser to my ex lover… I realized that I was putting more effort romantically into the relationship than she was, I never came first in her life, I was never a priority to her. She often made me feel guilty for just simply being myself, but I would’ve done anything to make her happy which was why I walked on eggshells and did whatever she wanted even if I wasn’t okay with it. She always threatened to leave me whenever we had some sort of disagreement, but because I was so in love with her I didn’t want anything to end. I would tiptoe around subjects because she was like a ticking time bomb, and she was unpredictable as hell. It wasn’t until the night she S/A’d me and physically assaulted me that I realized I had to end things. Not only that, but I unfortunately had to take legal action against her. I should’ve known that she wasn’t my person the second she started threatening to leave me, I should’ve just let her leave. But I am such a hopeless romantic and I try my best to see the good in everyone. Even when I know they’re nasty. And she was fcking nasty as all hell… she was narcissistic, mean, abu$ive, a pathological liar, all I did was try to love her and I couldn’t even do that right according to her. I wasted so much time on her and I realize now that I shouldn’t have done that because she didn’t deserve my time, my love, my support. She didn’t deserve me, and I treated her like gold because I think that’s what my partner deserves. I love wholeheartedly and wear my heart on my sleeve, and after all the Abu$e and the physical situations of her slapping me and hitting me I still very much treated her well because I loved her. I’m a hopeless romantic through and through, but I’ll be damed if I ever let anyone else treat me like utter sh1t. I’m learning to put myself first and love myself and be gentle with myself, I don’t know when or if I’ll be able to trust anyone ever again because I know that it will take time but I’m not giving up on love. Because I believe in it and I always will.
@magnusbane1078
Жыл бұрын
Yes please do ir
@morg2040
Жыл бұрын
im a hopeless romantic still trying to get over my first love/serious relationship like i actually despise how much i still love him even though he didn't treat me right at all like i never felt anything like i felt for him for anyone else
@rotstar8
Жыл бұрын
love this!!!
@llamalyssa9088
Жыл бұрын
I recently just heard about limerence and it described me to the T. Ever since I've been a kid I've had limerence. I got neglected in my childhood so I formed it as a bad coping mechanism. I have diaries entries when I was a child (5-12) extremely young, obsessing and crushing over boys at my elementary school. I was a literal kid wanting to DATE these little boys. No one stopped me and I didn't get taken care of properly so. I had my first kiss very young too. It never went away because I didn't even realize I had limerence until now age 20. In retrospect it all makes sense now. I need to still seek mental help about this recent realization but I plan on doing it as soon as I can financially
@tizl6856
Жыл бұрын
MYAHHHH please get some acrylic and nail tips i would lovvvve to see you try to do your own nails
@gabih9277
Жыл бұрын
Infatuation, maybe?
@charliekelly7539
Жыл бұрын
Speaking of Amber I want that era to continue
@missindie9204
Жыл бұрын
ALR and Faline saying they are madly IN LOVE with each other but have to break up is ridiculous to me. If you are genuinely in love it will work imo. I would really enjoy hearing y’all’s thoughts on the breakup video.
@Yo-sj2fp
Жыл бұрын
13:21 PREACH 😂😂
@Yo-sj2fp
Жыл бұрын
I try to tell my friends that all the time bro
@angelstar2581
Жыл бұрын
CIRCUS FREAAAAAAAKKKK 🎵 💃🏻 😩 ❤❤❤❤❤ 💚💚💚💚💚
@eleanorlouise1600
Жыл бұрын
as a hopeless romantic i get u
@xtov9826
Жыл бұрын
i do think you should do a reaction video w your gf! i think it would be interesting to hear both of your povs on it. i love the new content sm btw
@shekinahbliss8154
Жыл бұрын
Bruvh why did I read the title and think, me ❤😂
@sarah.fithealth
Жыл бұрын
Reminds me of my Borderline Personality Disorder
@LoneliestWretch
Жыл бұрын
I Love you❤
@1fr1nn
Жыл бұрын
I believe the word you’re looking for is infatuation!!
@rebekahsutton4
Жыл бұрын
lowkey miss your amberlynn era lol
@xxbbdoll6703
Жыл бұрын
The spilled milk 😆 lmao you look stunning btw love the hair. 💘
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