1. Victimhood. 2. Hypersensitivity to criticism. 3. Exaggerated and phony empathy. 4. Blames and shames others. 5. Withholds love, affection and attention. 6. Has loyal/vicious 'flying monkeys'. 7. Uses her sexuality to manipulate.
@andersongomez636
Жыл бұрын
3 I'd add no empathy if useless for her agenda or her social image
@briangateley4909
Жыл бұрын
AKA NUT JOB
@CharingCross712
10 ай бұрын
My older sister in a nutshell. Went no contact a year ago - no more drama!
@stephenwillis9988
2 ай бұрын
Exactly true
@georgiabrown202
4 жыл бұрын
If they apologize they say I'm sorry you feel that way.
@filsed
4 жыл бұрын
My narc ex girlfriend said literally the same thing.
@georgie3593
4 жыл бұрын
Oh my god yes. What the hell.
@eriksonnenberg1139
4 жыл бұрын
for my ex it was sorry im not enough for you, not sorry i haven't called you for 2 weeks
@byronjones9299
4 жыл бұрын
Before That Female Narcissist will apologize , She will say " Apologize about what . " 😑
@9keykey
4 жыл бұрын
If i've ever done anything to you, i'm sorry.
@lauralulu8284
4 жыл бұрын
I love the silent treatment. My family member who is a narcissist has implemented the silent treatment. Jokes on her cause I love it
@CWdudeyo
4 жыл бұрын
Laura lulu same!
@lauralulu8284
4 жыл бұрын
@@CWdudeyo why should I miss hearing about what a "fat unmotivated bitch" I am everyday? I have finally gotten peace, it is nice
@lauralulu8284
4 жыл бұрын
@Devin Carter I think it is supposed to hurt my feelings but it doesnt. She can't really offer me anything cause she doesnt have empathy
@lauralulu8284
4 жыл бұрын
@Devin Carter thank you I am done with their abuse and narcissists love to abuse. I worked with her for a long time because she is my sister but no longer. I cut ties when she spat in my face and shoved me down. Easy to do cause had just gotten a steroid treatment and I have MS
@lauralulu8284
4 жыл бұрын
@Devin Carter thank you I try to warn people narcissists aren't just self absorbed they can and do get violent. She was trying to manipulate me and maybe it was the steroids but I didnt take the bait. She told me " you're not my sister! You have never been!" I smirked and said " I love you." That made her lose it
@aleighroberts4849
Жыл бұрын
What sucks is that I’m constantly being criticized for things. I apologize, I change what I can, and still feel like I am walking on egg shells.
@natethebesttt
10 ай бұрын
WALKING ON EGGSHELLS. EXACTLY
@CharingCross712
10 ай бұрын
Stop apologizing and get away from this person. They will NEVER change, they NEVER loved you, and they will NEVER treat you with love and respect.
@robfeldschun6146
7 ай бұрын
Stop simping. Fight back.
@TrailerHitchRVCenter
7 ай бұрын
You're not a simp dude. Fighting back will get you nowhere. I am a very aggressive male. I run a big company and I raise three small boys on my own. I've spent over 30 years in high level sales and I read people for a living. It took me six and a half years to figure out that the girl that I was with was a covert narcissist. I went through the same things that you speak about. I thought I was going crazy. The coverts are very difficult to spot because nobody's really hurt of the covert narcissist. They are completely different in how they portray themselves compared to the regular narcissist as you already know. If you haven't gotten out of the relationship yet brother you need to. If you haven't already listened to him, I recommend visiting narcissist Chronicles channel. Jesse is an animal and he absolutely understands the narcissist from every direction. I coach with him privately. He will open your eyes. Don't be fooled. My girl was so hot and so sexy and so feminine. She pulled her love away from me so slowly you couldn't even see it move. They are master manipulators and we are no match.
@mirola73
2 ай бұрын
Start drawing those hard lines and keep them. You are ALWAYS on the losing side with a narcissist, you will NEVER live up to what they want from you as what they want always shifts. Stop sacrificing yourself, it's hard, I've been there, but you deserve better. When the narcissist is gone you will feel a billion times better. You don't want to realize that now, but their happiness doesn't depend on you, you are not responsible for that, THEY ARE (and they are not happy people on the inside) !
@7w7-2
6 ай бұрын
It took me 14 years to catch my narcissistic wife. Of course, I didn’t know she was a narcissist back then. I didn’t even know what narcissism was. A part of me always knew that she wasn’t faithful to me. It was just that whenever I voiced my concerns or asked for some reassurance, there was hell to pay. She put me through a mental gauntlet of feigned outrage, moral indignation, gaslighting, and flipping reality on its head in order to make me the bad guy. She repeatedly set what little progress I had made in trying to have a good relationship with her, back to square one. She exploited my deepest desires-to have a good marriage and to keep our family together, by always keeping one foot out the door and threatening to leave. So, I learned to carefully pick my battles…. and worse. I learned to put the blinders on and to pretend that she wasn’t up to no good. I also learned to convince myself that I was the problem. And then one day, while she was at work, I decided to clean out the car. She had a nasty habit of treating the backseat like a dumpster. As I stuffed empty wrappers, bottles, and cups into a trash bag, I found an envelope with her name on it. Thinking it might be important, I decided to look at its contents before I threw it away. It was a letter from some guy who was clearly in love with her. He expressed how he wanted more from her than their secret rendezvous. There was no mistaking what he meant. Even though my heart was crushed, I regained my power in the very next moment. I drove to where she worked, and I angrily approached her. Her eyes fell on the letter in my hand, and her shoulders slumped in silent defeat. She quietly said, “I can’t talk right now, but I’ll be home in an hour.” “Good!” I replied. “I’ll be waiting!” Then I turned on my heel and stormed out the door. Now that the cat was out of the bag, she admitted the entire affair-including all the places where they would meet up. As difficult as that was to hear, I stood by, ready to forgive her. I was well-practiced in starting over from square one, and I eagerly waited for the opportunity to roll up my sleeves and to get to work. But she played the wounded victim as convincingly as Amber Heard, and she asked me to wait for two days while she decided what she should do. Of course, I said yes. Even though I had been married to her for 14 years, I still had no idea what I was dealing with. In the midst of that painful discussion, she was plotting her next move. It turned out that she needed two days to think because that’s when her boyfriend would return from his business trip. She wanted to be in a relationship with him, but when he refused to leave his wife for her, she decided to stay married to me. Of course, I didn’t know any of this at the time. I only knew that after two days, she decided to stay. Being the eternal optimist that I am, I saw this as an opportunity for a brand new start, and I convinced myself that we were finally going to have a good marriage. But she didn’t share my optimism, and it was obvious that her heart wasn’t in her decision to stay. We suffered together for another 2 weeks when she blamed me for her affair. That’s when I finally threw in the towel. We divorced on friendly terms, and we made all our own arrangements for custody and child support. We only needed a lawyer to draft and file the appropriate documents. The laws have changed since those days, and you can’t do that kind of stuff anymore. Anyway, during our many conversations to dissolve our marriage, she admitted lots of things that I didn’t know about-including the fact that she was never faithful to me. If I had understood narcissism back then, I would have handled things differently. I wouldn’t have put up with her mental abuse, and I would have left her years earlier. Additionally, If you need to find out about a cheating narc; send a request to: BarryInvestigation@gmail. com
@slimfitgreg2187
4 ай бұрын
Yo this comment just gave me a piece of hope back and I forgot what it felt like. I thought I was losing my fuckin mind and I am 1000% sure that I am not now.. I emailed that Barry guy I hope he will get back to me soon.. if anything, is there a way that maybe you and I can have a conversation about my situation if possible? I would so truly and greatly appreciate the insight Thank you in advance, and congratulations and reclaiming your life man
@7w7-2
3 ай бұрын
@@slimfitgreg2187 sure.
@bartprice3439
4 жыл бұрын
Never jump into another relationship, or rebound, after being in one with a narcissist. You may not realized you're hurt, angry and damaged, and you'll destroy future relationships. Take 6 months or more off, and seek help. It will take a while for you to first realize, then understand how badly you were affected. Plus, you will likely end up being drawn to the same type of person. Ever see someone kick their dog, and the dog runs right back to them, trying to please? Yep. That's you. You can't run back to the narc you just broke up with, so you'll find a suitable replacement. You'll do everything to please them, at 1st. And they'll like that. Then you'll realize you made the same mistake, be resentful, take it out on them, and break up. Rinse, repeat. Pretty soon you'll be a flake, and gave serious emotional issues that crop up later in a relationship. If your parents were narcs, well, you'll date your mother or father, so to speak. Break the cycle by spending time alone, getting to know yourself, and learn to identify narcissists so you can avoid them in the future. Those girls that like bad boys? No, they like narcissists, because their daddy was one.
@ingwis
4 жыл бұрын
True. Ross Rosenberg has some great resources for co-dependents who keep getting caught in this cycle. I think there's a whole rehab program, look him up!
@EmeraldEdge72
4 жыл бұрын
I can't say for sure 100% that the women who go after bad boys fathers were narcissists, some people who are narcissists are born from other narcissists. I know for sure that my father himself was not that type of person and that I believed many lies over the years that my mother (Covert Narcissist) created. I have also noticed that when dealing with a covert narcissist that there is a unique emptiness where you start to wonder was this person really there, did they even exist at all?
@pablomaximilianogomezaguir7659
4 жыл бұрын
I would say never jump into another relationship after a break up, because we're hurt somehow and need time to heal. It's better to process the break up, face the pain and then to move on. If you jump to another relationship it'll be mostly to mask the pain you're suffering (I'm not saying that you'll do it consciously, but at least at a subconscious level that's what you're after) so I would say, meet new people, get busy with whatever, have fun and then start from scratch a new relationship. All the best from Chile
@brianwalsh1401
3 жыл бұрын
@@pablomaximilianogomezaguir7659 Unless you are a narcissists who needs to have supply. I left my narcissist ex wife and she had moved in with another guy 3 months later. Of course at the time I had no idea what a covert narcissists was.
@pablomaximilianogomezaguir7659
3 жыл бұрын
@@brianwalsh1401 You're right, what happended to you, it happened to me. After a months she started dating another guy (which lasted a month) then she jumped to the next (I don't know how long it jumped) I went no contact for 5 months and she broke it, basically to lash out at me. Then I went no contact for 4 months and it started well, we could talk on a good manner until she lashed out once again (basically blaming me for everything, while not acknowledging any of her shortcomings) then I decided to go no contact for good. I also didn't know at time what a cover narcissist was, but then it was all revealed. I hope all is good for you, take care.
@naylorz28
4 жыл бұрын
Fake empathy is a huge sign...fake concern the fake crying....its not human to treat abuse someone and then blame them for being treated so badly...I'm happy I have opened my eyes and realize these people are out there and love to play the victim while hurting people...Then they go to church and pray at every meal disgusting creatures...Stay strong and love yourself...
@CWdudeyo
4 жыл бұрын
So true! The projection is so real with these types 😡😡😡
@DaughterofZyion
Жыл бұрын
Oh yes ,they are dangerous souls,,Run!
@rockstarofredondo
4 жыл бұрын
All the narcissists I’ve ever known have traits of both the covert and overt versions. They use whichever style momentarily suits them.
@jacedjohnson3541
4 жыл бұрын
True. I feel like this is a good templet but in the end people tend to be very fluid and on a spectrum
@zacharykassner9002
4 жыл бұрын
My wife was very much a mixture of Covert and Malignant. Very Covert at first but as she started to have affairs on me she became more Malignant. Like 40% Covert and 60% Malignant.
@ethanharvey4869
4 жыл бұрын
Zachary Kassner Well yah bro similar experience but I’ve come to the conclusion that they are still technically ‘Covert’ cause they weren’t detectable at first and covered it up well. My kids mother is AMAZING at selling her sob story and coming off AS THE SWEETEST MOST BEAUTIFUL KIND HEARTED OVERALL NEAR PERFECT WOMAN... In reality she’s a nightmare with bouts of rage and just a cold 🥶 heart with zero genuine positive emotions full of lies to where her life is a lie
@themagicalducklings
3 жыл бұрын
True. The overt part comes out when they don't get what they want..
@vampireslayer1989
4 жыл бұрын
The deadliest creature known to man is the female Covert Narcissist. My ex was a BPD with comorbid Covert Narcissistic traits. Definitely passive aggressive. Everything you've stated is true. I've seen all of those behaviors.
@statewidefilms
4 жыл бұрын
Vampire slayer .. awesome name .. why did we get involved with them in the first place ... ? I'm like you almost the same thing .. think that is why they burned witches on the cross in the past ...LOL
@reesedaniel5835
4 жыл бұрын
Vampire Slayer: I was born by one of these She-Serpents, set up for failure from the start. My enabling dad is in his grave because of her, I'm (the Family Scapegoat) no contact with her and her "cult" of worshipful monkeys for over 5 years and she pulled the wool over the eyes of both sides of the family, extended relatives all shunned me when I exposed her. I guess` they think I just cut off my own support system and forfeited my inheritance for the FUN of it. People are so unbelievably stupid and self centered nowadays. At least I found out who was real in my family and who isn't. All the fakes are still alive and the 3 real people are dead, my enabling dad, and my paternal grandparents. My enabling dad was a coward though. He would not stand up to that witch..
@statewidefilms
4 жыл бұрын
@@reesedaniel5835 .. I feel your pain .. I had this with my mother in-law .. I paid their house of when they retied. My poor weak father in law died with her help. My mother in law the she devil tried with all her manipulative ways to dissolve a written agreement for the hard earned money that I used to help them with .. Her flying monkeys / my ex wife and son I don't see any more .sad but true .. although It's made me feel stronger as a person , now I have the knowledge for why these people are who they are . Ruthless and unable to feel empathy .. I now have the tools to keep my distance from these blood suckers . I am struggling In this shit economy like a lot of people . I don't have much but I do have my sanity . Thanks to the doctors that expose the world of psychopathy. I don't feel so alone as a lot of people are effected by the mobs of narcissistic people of today's society . I hope all the affected people could see what we can now . Don't let them beat you. Fuk em .. move on and grow to be a better person .
@kieransimpson4965
4 жыл бұрын
@@reesedaniel5835 hi Resse, I'm so sorry to hear this in regards to the real people have passed. Kudos to you for standing up to the person you mention. I believe my father to be a covert narc.
@muzictalks
3 жыл бұрын
Same with the BPD and Narcissism. I’m really focusing on healing it’s been 3 months since I was discarded. And it’s hard because she moved on almost instantly
@summerrose4286
4 жыл бұрын
one more thing, they will break boundaries
@boydw1
4 жыл бұрын
If you even get to establish boundaries in the first place - somehow your (sensible) boundaries will always be a violation of theirs.
@ebel1watch
4 жыл бұрын
@@boydw1 agreed.....we establish them and they break them
@jonathanbaker7854
4 жыл бұрын
Summer Rose you’re right.ℹ️💯✅✝️🙏🏿📖🗡👌🏿👍🏿☯️😎
@MsOthomson
3 жыл бұрын
There are no. Oundaries!
@luxyluz2442
3 жыл бұрын
@@boydw1 on god
@sonyap.6512
4 жыл бұрын
Someone I considered a life long friend turned out to be this...it wasn't until we were roommates that all this came to the surface!
@GuardianAngel..
4 жыл бұрын
I just discarded one of my comments and I also like to eat a lot of waffles does that make me a narcissist?
@sonyap.6512
4 жыл бұрын
Hey Jason Legacy...I would consider you a smart ass not someone with narcissistic tendencies. Enjoy those waffles!
@GuardianAngel..
4 жыл бұрын
Sonya P. Yeah, thanks.
@sonyap.6512
4 жыл бұрын
@Jeanette York Yes! As long as I offered her something she was fine. When I needed her, even as a listening ear, she had nothing for me. Very nit picky, passive aggressive & unfortunately dishonest too.
@alaynaanderson7591
4 жыл бұрын
Sonya, I know this is probably too much to ask. But I am LITERALLY experiencing what you just described to a tee, and would like to know how your situation concluded/any tips about how to survive the remainder of the lease. My kik is andimartin7 if you’re up for getting back to me. Thanks so much anyway for this comment bc it proves that I’m not alone in being disillusioned for years until moving in.
@keithfreeman5840
4 жыл бұрын
This is the most accurate description of a female covert narcissist that I have heard. This is the type that I have been dealing with. It is refreshing to me to hear you say that they are of the most difficult to detect. I had wondered why I was so slow to catch on, but now I know. Thank you very much for the time and effort you take to share your insights. I appreciate your willingness to make these helpful videos.
@alonzomosley7
4 жыл бұрын
I dealt with a covert female narcissist ,experienced exactly the same .This is incredible ,it's like textbook narcissism every trait same wow
@matthewweng8483
4 жыл бұрын
So true.. Not only to detect, but to expose. They have such a perfectly honed technique for using social media, sexuality, and a masterfully controlled spin of their victimhood/survivor stories - most built on 'lies by omission', to maintain an (almost) flawless facade of innocence and integrity... at least in the eyes of most men (who are generally truly blind when it comes to physically attractive women). I liken it to running smack into a bigfoot on a camping trip. You KNOW you saw bigfoot, but no one will really ever believe you....
@prid6427
4 жыл бұрын
I honestly thought I was the only one especially when you said, "I was so slow to catch on" I did not know what a narcissist was let alone a covert narcissist. She appeared virtuous, sophisticated, "she lived in a Victim mentality", easily angered behind closed doors, lies when its convenient , and ALL those Flying Monkeys around her!!!!
@mfawls9624
4 жыл бұрын
I take people at face value, growing up people were blunt and you knew where you stood. That is the worst background I could've had as far as not falling for the trap. No sex for years. I tried talking about it...silence. Try again, some vague 'i don't know', then the next time she knows exactly why 'you don't respect me'. Apparently an affair with a married man is her version of respect. Or possibly, the insight of a friend offered this: did you ever wonder if she didn't cut off sex to push you to have an affair? I point blank asked her that. Got a look of shock and a feeble 'maybe'.
@prid6427
4 жыл бұрын
@@mfawls9624 Bro wow!! Me and my ex broke up on her birthday week. I took her out dancing and she started an argument on the dance floor. I looked at her facial expression and saw in her eyes that she had no intention of enjoying herself with me so I asked myself why prolong this torture and we left. I dropped her off at home and never looked back. Im commenting because sex with her was HORRIBLE and she NEVER wanted to talk about it, like NEVER. Little did I know she was trying online dating.
@boydw1
4 жыл бұрын
Excellent description of the "victim" covert narcissist. It's scary how well they can have you (and others) fooled into believing them to be caring, loving, & genuine. It took me 6 months after being cheated on, discarded, and experiencing the "flying monkeys" to realize what I'd been dealing with.
@petekdemircioglu
2 жыл бұрын
Theyre sickos too: or they buy them. The monkeys.
@natethebesttt
10 ай бұрын
Oh my god. That’s terrible
@norobbery
2 жыл бұрын
Another thing is crying whenever there is criticism, or something isn't going as planned in the relationship. No one likes criticism but it does happen because none of us are perfect, and we do need to hear it on that rare occasion we screw up. Beware of the woman who cries at the drop of a hat.
@dadbodfolkpunk9433
4 жыл бұрын
24 years married to one. I had no idea. Let’s just say my eye is twitching. My ptsd and I are staggering towards the faint glow of an exit sign. Everyone thinks I am a monster. Thanks for the video
@alexanderhall274
4 жыл бұрын
I have a child with a female covert narcissist. Always plays the victim and the love bombing was overwhelming at the beginning of the relationship. She slowly drained the life out of me to the point that I had forgotten who I was. Everything was my fault. I was never good enough. It’s so great to know it’s not my fault. She’s now found a new supply who she’s now pregnant to. I met him and every inch of my wanted me to tell him to run. I held back as it will just make me look crazy and jealous. He will figure it out. Hopefully sooner then later 🤯
@Cm91roi
4 жыл бұрын
Exact and I mean EXACT same thing happened to me. Totally destroyed me and lost myself. Getting back on track now. Nice of you to share. Stay strong 💪🏻
@alexanderhall274
4 жыл бұрын
Steve Cohen great to hear you are doing well! As empaths you don’t see it coming. Chalk it up to a tough life experience and we will be stronger for it man 👊🏼💪🏼
@beverlysanders1536
3 жыл бұрын
If you have a child anything like this, Stop that behavior right now, do not let that continue.
@JoneleM
Жыл бұрын
Same thing going on right now with my boyfriend his narc ex (mother of his daughter) jus had a baby and a couple months before that her new supply reached out to him for answers and she shut that down immediately… she is moving back to our city in a week or so and I’m bracing for the drama again
@dreamer9399
Жыл бұрын
Exactly the same story we have, because we are dealing with the most evil creature in the world. Stay strong!!!
@kristianmcclendon7331
4 жыл бұрын
You have literally just described my mother. She even had me fooled for 29 years. Everyone believes her always being the victim and I'm the scapegoat it's so frustrating
@petekdemircioglu
2 жыл бұрын
Everyone is sicko too. Block all of them. I did. It works. In the end they come to you and k** your a** and you tell them to go f** themselves.
@shaneisseeking5215
4 жыл бұрын
Or portray themselves as a good Christian.
@belovedzion7777
4 жыл бұрын
Wow shane.. .. I have neighbor like this.. .evil!!
@shaneisseeking5215
3 жыл бұрын
@I Sanchez The struggle is real but He is faithful and will help every step of the way.
@shaneisseeking5215
3 жыл бұрын
@I Sanchez You realize what is happening when you research people's behavior. This may be learned behavior but you certainly don't know what you are dealing with as a child suffering through it into adulthood. Thank God you have survived. ❤
@DaughterofZyion
Жыл бұрын
Yes and God always tells them how bad a person you are ,she uses religion to abuse , struts her ego
@thebibleunplugged
2 ай бұрын
This exactly happened to me. I ended up marrying her but I've dumped her ass. Religious with a black heart
@Spawny3
3 жыл бұрын
The infidelity one is so true. If you're in a relationship with a female covert narcissist and you're sure she's faithful, you just haven't found out yet. One reason why withholding sex and intimacy as your punishment doesn't bother the female covert narcissist, she'll just get it somewhere else if she feels like it.
@petekdemircioglu
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly: anything they have they weaponize to abuse. Their orgasms are also fake. Gives the performance of a porn star with fake orgasms. Its consistently in every Aspect of their lives.
@duanemcclure8324
Жыл бұрын
You are SO right! Happened to me. I suspected but just couldn't prove it..until I 'accidentally' met the "other guy" who looked MORE surprised about me than I did him! That was the very MOMENT I left..
@duanemcclure8324
Жыл бұрын
Thanks for the "thumbs up", my friend. I was just thinking about all of this mess and, ya know what I think? I think its some evil gubmint "black project" where they have some kind of 'injection mold' cuz they ALL seem to be "carbon copies" made from the same pile of bullshit - ya know, like some kinda new.."waste management" project.."Project Narc". 😁 I mean..they're ALL EXACTLY ALIKE!! Every single video I watch! It's like.."Yep. Check..check, check..check - all the way through ALL of em! How can one "human vessel" contain THAT much evil?! It's ludicrous!
@natethebesttt
10 ай бұрын
Horrible. I’m sorry that happened to you.
@lostinspace480
3 жыл бұрын
With much distress to our family, our son was in a relationship with such a narcissist and it nearly destroyed our relationship with him. thank you for making this so clear.
@natethebesttt
10 ай бұрын
I was that son for a bit and feel bad for what my mom had to see.
@ladyvirgo013
4 жыл бұрын
Oh gosh yes, My mom is the Queen of Shaming me. I've been no contact for almost a year. Best decision ever
@7ngaf
4 жыл бұрын
This is exactly why narcissism is witchcraft ,I wish I could like this video 100000 times
@CynthiaSchoenbauer
4 жыл бұрын
Excellent! Thank you so much for addressing this special kind of narc who will not stand up and be counted and is mass under-represented in our society's awareness. And a lack of sympathy is a very good twist on the lack of empathy. All her sympathy was fake! How confusing she was to me! Both this video and the other one about the female narcissist are two extremely powerful mode's of getting the word out about the 'female threat" that is hidden possibly in a very large percentage of peoples lives. I have a master's degree in counseling and I am still wavering at times about exactly who my mother really was... it is very hard to see! Thank you for working on this topic and it is very much appreciated. You are like a real hero for us poor people who have this "virus" from exposure to evil that we just can't shake but do not want to die of. But it is that impossibly hard to see.
@petekdemircioglu
2 жыл бұрын
Psyco virus
@simonemurdock1951
3 жыл бұрын
She always played the victim. Knew something was off when she kept bringing up bad things from my passed that I'd released. She wanted to see me suffer all over again 🥺
@The_Driftless_Iowan
3 жыл бұрын
Your vulnerability is their ammo
@simonemurdock1951
3 жыл бұрын
@@The_Driftless_Iowan it certainly is mate. But, not anymore. I won't allow that to happen again and I refuse to be a victim like they seem to be all the time 👍👍
@iamu2247
4 жыл бұрын
Yup. Vulnerable and needy. Whether it's a female or male covert narcissist, These are people who became miserable creatures and walk amongst humans. Like a black hole, they will keep sucking up your energy. It's just never enough for them, and their sob stories never end.
@ma3alimezo82
4 жыл бұрын
I agree 100% I knew something was wrong with her, always upset, crying, no solution is good enough. Fuck off out of my life
@matthewv6298
3 жыл бұрын
100% my ex-wife. She had me fooled me for 16 years. I started standing up to her and she left me for another man/supply. She destroyed me emotionally, mentally and financially on her way out the door. Been a year and I'm still trying to pick up the pieces.....struggling. I am so angry at her its all I can think about.
@nadiacavallini4728
4 жыл бұрын
Yup, you nailed this! My old covert narc fits the bill.
@CynthiaSchoenbauer
4 жыл бұрын
Yes, it is a dead-ringer for mine too.
@TheRealMrRobles
4 жыл бұрын
I still respect and love her but through hard work, meditation and prayer, I have managed to give her less power. I will continue doing so no matter what. It's my own health, mental and physical that's more important now. Thank you so much!
@davidcoggins8891
4 жыл бұрын
Wow!!! Spot on describing an ex-girlfriend! I learned the lesson the hard way but a lesson no doubt.
@luapskie
4 жыл бұрын
Dealt with a covert female narcissist for 3 years, not funny when you're in love with her. She scored on all 10 points, but had another condition I would refer to as "paranoid - psychosis".
@antonymoura2000
4 жыл бұрын
That description couldn’t have been more accurate! I stepped away from a narcissist I loved deeply and she has exactly all those characteristics. It took me two solid years to finally heal, but it was hard. Congrats on the channel. More power to you
@ErinDeLaVallee
4 жыл бұрын
It makes me sick that these people exist. And they are everywhere...
@j.sony.
3 жыл бұрын
Yes ive been targeted by dozens of them all throughout my whole life
@TheBettybetbet
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Age 38, I discovered that my big sister is a covert narcissist. She broke me, during my childhood and over the years. All my life I felt that I am not a nice person, not good enough, stupid (and so on) and now the fog is down and I feel freed and empowered
@mstep4553
3 жыл бұрын
That is similar to my experience everyone in the family idolized her to the point that they became her slaves. Any party she had, these family members were preparing intricate dishes of food with her barking orders, setting up decorations, washing up and sent out to distribute bite size treats to the guests. They never got a chance to relax and enjoy the parties. I used to feel sorry for them but now I realize that they are coverts and the sister is a grandiose overt. If it was a barbeque her husband now ex, would stay by the bbq with his friends and chat and make the cooking last as long as possible so he could stay away from her. He knew she couldn't chew him out in front of everyone.
@chillwinstonuk
2 жыл бұрын
As much as this content is incredibly valuable, and I mean life saving for so many (and I don't say that lightely) we have to be incredibly careful that we don't diagnose people. What we are talking about here at the very root is essentially childhood trauma and a learned survival skill that enables a child survive (on all levels). In order to survive the child has to become a master of reading the room and non verbal cues from the adults around it and an expert in manipulating those adults. It's intelligent really , because the child survives but not psychologically or emotionally intact. It can be difficult to decipher if an individual who is displaying these types of behaviours is genuinely 'personality disordered' or maybe they have CPTSD, high functioning autism, or even ADHD. I would say the key thing is genuine remorse. You know when someone is truly sorry. Also if you tell someone about the things that harm and trigger you and then do those things run and don't look back. Genuine remorse is the key, we know when someone is truly sorry because we can FEEL it. I think the trick is here is also to look at the destruction behind you and how fu#@ed your life is and your sense of self. You will not regnognise yourself, you will feel empty and like the addict desperate for the next hit knowing with 1 percent rationality left that going back may be the last time. You may not come back alive. I love the advise about one's intuition. Maybe this is why gastlighting serves the person so well. It fries the person's intuition and essentially you can no longer trust your own judgement . Listen to your gut. If something doesn't feel right take a step back and put yourself first. Finally some little gems: - it is not normal to feel a deep connection with someone and for it the other person to FEEL as cold as ice. - Do you witness a switch when they are triggered. First the eyes change and its like you're talking to a toddler or teenager. You can reach this wonderful person you feel in love with. You don't recognise them, where have they gone ...again this is not normal. - self reflect....what is it in you that gets drawn back again and again to the drama and adrenaline rush of someone who is so unavailable and deceitful? Your wounds keep you there taking the shots With love and encouragement. You survived. Don't give up on genuine love. You are enough and deserving Peace
@sifusubtitles
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for your videos Jill, they are fantastic! The traits of covert narcissists need to be more widely known and the work you are doing is incredibly important. Unfortunately, most people only become aware of the red flags after being abused. But once you are aware, you notice narcissism is everywhere.
@ma3alimezo82
4 жыл бұрын
10 years for me to realise that she wasng just overly sensitive and needy. Messed me up and now I have a child with her and getting a divorce. Left her before getting her pregnant, but she sucked me back in with relentless tactics. I pay a heavy price now because she controls our child and is trying to hurt me. Thank you for this unbelievable video. She is everything in this particular video.
@ma3alimezo82
8 ай бұрын
Update after 3 years: cover nar ex wife is worse. Parental alienation is occurring more clearly Now abusing our child psychological emotional, not feeding and hydrating properly. 3 years on! If you do not have a child with a covert narcissist RUN RUN RUN RUN! I WOULD WRITE RUN 1 MILLION TIMES UNTIL YOU GET THE MESSAGE. if you have a child with them you will be so badly trapped for most if not the rest of your life.
@darrenwong7448
4 жыл бұрын
My ex gf was covert narcissist she make me lose my business, money and friends. She was married last week , I wish the new supply all the best and I feel pity for him . Covert narcissist needed time to find out , for the beginning they are perfect .
@stranger9212
2 жыл бұрын
I have been in a relationship with this person for 7 years. In the end, she made me the abusive narcissist after reactive abuse. Now I am finally free.
@williamesselman3102
2 жыл бұрын
reactive abuse, yeah, that sucks
@MCAS2177
4 жыл бұрын
I fell in love with a narc. Broke my heart. This information is scary but I’m glad I know. Maybe I dodged a bullet. Good luck everyone. Be careful
@LiquidSwords-ou7lg
3 жыл бұрын
Same, just got out a 7 month relationship with a female narc. In the beginning she was the woman of my dreams and then the last month of our time together she turned into an entirely different person. No longer complimented my looks nor gave the adoration and affection she showered me with. She turned on me and made light of my concerns with sarcasm. And if talked about my traumas or was vulnerable around her shed sarcastically reply with “Who hurt you boo lol?” All ended when I pressured her and accused her of cheating on me which she did. Gave me the silent treatment and blocked me everywhere after I wouldn’t play her game anymore. I agree definitely must stay away from her.
@barebonesbrisco3954
5 ай бұрын
I think I did too! It seems to be a cold game out here. I will miss her or the illusion of her. The real her was full of game. I had a feeling she was sleeping with other people! Cant go from libido in over drive to nothing at all! Then the devaluation , triangulation and word salad. Plus double speak, gaslighting, projection and ridiculus lies and half truths about everything most likely! I can't believe I was this gullable and open to her B.S.
@lilac624
5 ай бұрын
Be careful who you love because most likely the children would suffer
@AhmadAlhajriq8
4 жыл бұрын
You are absolutely right. A perfect illustration. Bulls eye markings. Thanks and hugs 🤗 to you. ❤️
@nathaliedufour3891
3 жыл бұрын
When my friends mask Fell off, i was terrified. It was like seeing totally new person for the first time. I walked away. Never looked back. It cost me in every possible way and took me 2 years to heal. Thank you 🙏
@xio6778
Жыл бұрын
Same for me, after 9 years i didnt even recognize her. I asked her "who are you?"
@jasongalloway9582
Жыл бұрын
My mom is a female covert narc. So is my estranged wife. I'm 43, and I've spent pretty much my whole life with women like this. When you led off with victimhood, I immediately knew that you are the real deal. I'm working to heal the parts of me that need healing so that I don't fall into this pattern again. I'm so glad that abuse from these women is finally beginning to get the attention it deserves. I can spot them from a mile away, and they are EVERYWHERE! It's so infuriating and invalidating when I read statistics that say narcissism is more prevalent in men. It's really not. It's just that women tend to be covert and therefore go unnoticed. Plus, men don't talk about abuse as openly because of societal stigma. We tend to internalize and shame ourselves instead. We allow our guilt strings to be pulled, believing all the while that we are the problem. That we are fundamentally broken. I used to attend CODA meetings. When I walked in the door, I actually thought I was the narcissist. And I told everyone as much, not realizing that very fact proved I wasn't. Thank you for doing what you are doing here. I know what a female covert narc is and what she is capable of. But it's still validating to hear you confirm it. There are so many men out there in need of knowledge and language so they can begin breaking those bonds. Thank you💙
@Cmac1328
2 жыл бұрын
This is all spot on. Thanks for the summary. Proves helpful when looking back on a relationship that we thought was one thing, only to realize it was really just massive manipulation.
@40Believer
4 жыл бұрын
First time I've watched a whole video about narcissistic behavior ...explained perfectly
@jolly7728
3 жыл бұрын
Great breakdown of the female covert narcissist! You can keep this type of narc in check by simply not caring about her tactics. Just keep your money and other important assets and your best self away from her forever. And, of course, become the most boring person in the world when around her while refusing to provide her with any "supply." That should be enough to get her to disappear from your life.
@christoole1488
4 жыл бұрын
A projecting queen!!
@CWdudeyo
4 жыл бұрын
Chris Toole YES!!!!
@MikenMc
9 ай бұрын
This is my ex to a T. It wasn’t until I decided to get sober and prioritize, living a healthy life, working out, eating the right things, and clearing my brain that I was able to recognize her manipulations throughout the entire relationship. So many times I allowed myself to be manipulated by her until she began to devalue me and then eventually discard me. I know there will come a time when she will hoover back and I will be ready for it.
@jolly7728
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your poignant insights. It's great that you have presented the high narcissistic traits of the covert female narcissist so straightforwardly. This approach makes it easier for people targeted by such a person to remember the characteristics, process the offending behavior, and distance yourself from the individual. Peace of mind becomes the big takeaway for the abused individual.
@GoinDownhill361
Жыл бұрын
I wish I knew all this two years ago. I would have saved a lot of headaches. Thank you very much!
@meggberry
4 жыл бұрын
This is my daughter, and it is so difficult to watch her set people up. Of course she occurs as so perfect, there’s nothing I can say to warn them.
@reesedaniel5835
4 жыл бұрын
Tell them that the Devil comes disguised as an "angel of light"....2 Cor 11:14
@GuardianAngel..
4 жыл бұрын
meggberry you can’t warn them you have to let it run it’s course if they have any type of boundaries they will catch on soon enough.
@meggberry
4 жыл бұрын
Jason Legacy ...thanks. I recognize that it’s out of my hands, and I see that she is going to be the one to teach them the importance of boundaries.
@dsizemoreful
4 жыл бұрын
Boundaries, my daughter called saying we needed to set boundries. I returned her call. She now will not return my call.
@everlastingideas8625
4 жыл бұрын
They usually cover themselves up for this. When I was dating my NPD ex-bf, he said that his father hated him and I believed him so when his father tried to warn me about his son (he told me his son has serious problems and I seen decent so I should reconsider the relationship), I didn't believe him. Turned out everything that man said was true but my ex made it so I won't believe it even before I met his parents. I m wishing you the best with this ordeal and hope for a miracle to happen and your daughter to change for the better.
@themagicalducklings
3 жыл бұрын
Crazy how precise this description is.. doesn't just knowing about this bring a measure of freedom? Wow.. thanks Jill
@reneekelley4279
3 жыл бұрын
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@mgu1N1n1
2 жыл бұрын
You're damn right women know how to leverage the system and deploy gender to their advantage to fully destroy men within a covert narcissist framework. Men, be safe!
@unsolicitedadvice2800
Жыл бұрын
Most accurate description I've heard yet. 👍
@michaelangel25
4 жыл бұрын
Your description was so accurate, it sent a shiver down my spine and made me slightly nauseous.
@armontimuzic6785
2 жыл бұрын
How spot on you are literally made me laugh . Wow as if I needed anymore convincing lol
@daylightthroughthefog548
4 жыл бұрын
I’m only now just realizing since December 2019, with yet another fight ( at least 2 giant threats of divorce a year ) filled with distain, hate, and deeply hurting anger from her, my wife of a little over 14 years one that I have children with has all of these traits.... I gave up trying 3 yrs ago and have been in a funk of sadness....I started trying to step in between her actions towards our kids but it only caused her to lash out more... thank you for sharing all of this knowledge as I am now only beginning what may be a long journey of leaving, protecting our kids, and healing! It’s shocking how specific and on target each one of these examples IS HER TO A T! She is so opposite with others outside our circle and only shows her true self if we are around others for a longer period of time or if they have watched us for a long time like my parents, some very close friends who told me to get help because of what they saw that I have been blind too!
@alonzomosley7
4 жыл бұрын
Daylight throughthefog Married over 20 years , divorced now she poisoned kids against me Almost given up on them very sad for both kids and me
@bill1498
4 жыл бұрын
Don't second Guess yourself, been in your shoes. Do exactly as you stated get away and heal. Harder than it sounds and the desire to try and help or "fix" them lingers as does self doubt. But if everything in the video was HER TO A T as you stated that's good enough! That visceral reaction to the video knowing deep in your gut the truth, it is the truth. Do not waiver RUN, HEAL and the world gets so much better.
@daylightthroughthefog548
4 жыл бұрын
@@alonzomosley7 thank you for your comments. I know it is going to be a journey for my children and I as there current reality is so obscure from a normal loving home life. This is the reason I am leaving. I am sorry to hear what you went through. each experieince i read seems so similar yet so different at the same time.
@daylightthroughthefog548
4 жыл бұрын
@@bill1498 because of the time spent in a constant state of disharmony, daily, it has been a very revealing experience for me. Thank you for you words of encouragement. I am planning to leave, as I prepare for the storm to come from it all. If I did not listen to a couple of close friends, I would not have been given a book that changed my perspective on who she really was and why she treats us all this way. At the same time those friends just about begged me to find a therapist who understands trauma in these relationships for more empathic people like myself. They said " It's been 11 yrs knowing you and each year it gets worse, either leave or find out why you like to be tortured and miserable" ... best decision was to find a good therapist, even if I thought it wouldnt help, it did!
@AIEmpire
4 жыл бұрын
Get out. You can't help these people. I actually convinced mine to go to therapy due to her depression and she never took it seriously. Save your sanity whilst you can.
@tonyl9337
4 жыл бұрын
Very insightful, upon watching this video its made me realise that I’m pretty sure somebody I’m close friends with is a female covert narcissist. Can definitely see these traits in her, although she is very clever on how she portrays herself
@funlovinbloke6266
4 жыл бұрын
Hello Jill. It seems that you have met my ex partner. She has all the patterns of a covert narcissist. It is so true what you tell. Covert narcissist express themselves always as victim, others are always to blame. Critissism, where shall I begin. A bull hit by a bee sting. Empathy is a word they don't know and what it means. They only think about themselves. And oh when you uncover their real intention and fake show, then you are done. Pure hate my ex showed when I exposed her true identity. The flying monkeys of my ex are her parents, especially her father. He is an overt narcissist. I am happy that I ended the relationship because I couldn't be myself and wasn't allowed to be myself. And no contact is the only solution to start healing and moving on to a better future. It is possible, we all can heal. Thanks for the video.
@pjthomas8817
4 жыл бұрын
OMG! Wish I would’ve known this after 12 yrs of living with a Overt/Covert narcissist. I had to learn this the hard way. She almost literally destroyed me. I got out before she was successful, thank God! One of the statements I heard over and over again from friends, “ I don’t see how you do it”. As in dealing with her, and of course I’d minimize her wrong doings. Finally that was it! And I left and never looked back. No contact, Communication, nothing!
@statewidefilms
4 жыл бұрын
Wow .. you just explained every characteristic of my ex wife .. she used almost every step / method you just spoke about .. Nice work .. very clear and easy to follow presentation. Thanks
@borealisland
4 жыл бұрын
Wow! You really hit the nail on the head on this.
@philmorrison6898
4 жыл бұрын
Are you talking about my ex? She did everything you were talking about ! An evil critter fraud acting like a Betty Crocker wife! Let the healing continue on!
@jaimhaas5170
4 жыл бұрын
Right there with ya Phil. I couldn't figure out after 22 yrs of marriage why we never give any time or attn to my dreams and goals only hers. When I questioned this she cut me off in so many ways. I know now what I am dealing with.
@philmorrison6898
4 жыл бұрын
Alexander Hayward I caught her with a find my l phone app! She would get all dressed up and to go shopping, gone for hours and come home empty handed! Go straight to the shower! Claimed she went to all these stores! When I showed her on my iPad that she went to one place, spent four and half hours then returned home!! All hell broke loose! I just wonder how long she’s had that special friend! Married for 33 years! Narcissists are evil creatures!
@philmorrison6898
4 жыл бұрын
jaim haas I. Wish you the best! A broken heart takes a long time to heal! Namasta!
@davez5626
4 жыл бұрын
Amen to that!!! Escaping my ex, with my life still intact (albeit battered and bruised), cost me tens of thousands of $$$$ in divorce. These people never go away quietly. They move on to their next victim. Nameste!
@jaimhaas5170
4 жыл бұрын
@@philmorrison6898 thanks fellow human. We made some bad choices now we need to move forward and try to make the best of it. I wish you well too friend.
@donrondel8240
4 жыл бұрын
So many times b4 I realized I was in a relationship w/a female narcissist I had the helpless feeling that all my energy and hope was being drained from me ... I was in pain for no overt reason..but it was like deep emotional void sucking the life from me. Am I glad I am out of that situation. Whew!
@laleezy77
3 жыл бұрын
Just realized I had a covert narc in my friend circle...she was trying to ruin my friemdships before she even came along..she was successful with those that don't matter anymore ..they can be besties together. I'm just grateful I seen it wish it was sooner
@charles5272
5 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for your Great gift ❤
@Sonicstillpoint83
3 жыл бұрын
keep being awesome and know that you really are making a difference for those of us who have felt trapped by a narcissist for so long. I can’t imagine what good oh come from finally ending the torture, but if I can one day help someone else break free then it will be worth it. Sometimes I wish the cruelty would escalate from the psychological to the physical, but I now understand that it was important she have a perpetual food source.
@Mike-xt2lh
4 жыл бұрын
Both of my ex's were and are covert narcissist . Thanks for the video !
@andrearush6209
2 жыл бұрын
After finally unraveling my family story, it didn't take long to figure it out and get out of a terrible with situation where this was going on.
@sahalnur3064
2 жыл бұрын
You do a justice to this Topic cause most of the KZitem videos about Narcissist talk about Men but you are among the few who do the topic a justice and talk about female. I m in the middle of it and yet i don't know what to do, there is no stone unturned to hurt me. Thank you. You are one of the sources that makes me stay strong and dont personalize what is happening. but it is far beyond what we say. if you have never met a narcissit, you must be lucky. Thank you for your information and support indeed. I know it aint me, so, i dont personalize it. thank you especially you are talking about female narcissisit.
@walloffire2225
4 жыл бұрын
Happy you are talking about the Coverts! My mother, and sister are Covert Narcissists but I only recently realized it because they hid it so effectively! My brother also has the traits of the Covert but it may be because he was the golden child who is married to a Covert.
@Jiamochen2000
5 ай бұрын
You are spot on. They will even tell you that they love you and will be absolutely loyal to you so it makes you feel like garbage if you even dare to question their intentions. They tell you they are loyal to you until they suddenly are loyal to another man.
@piccoloturner8581
3 жыл бұрын
I in a relationship that's absolutely 100 % what you have describe..it has drove me damn near insane trying to figure out what our problems have been ..its made no rhyme or reason for things going like they have .nothing please them ..regardless of what I do..it got to the point of abuse and violence from her side..she even busted my head open with objects..this info hits the bullseye describing her.. from cheating to lieing to not answer the phone or text I send her to crying asking for forgiveness and promises things will change ..but it's always someone else that caused the problems and never her fault ..thanks for the information..but I must confess it makes me feel so sorry for these floks..and especially her ..I guess cause I'm involved with her..iv got to find a way to put my heart in my pocket and get out of this mess thank you
@striker38
2 жыл бұрын
Love the name, Enlightened Target is so appropriate
@Injusticestinks
4 жыл бұрын
Another spot on production. Thanks again Jill.. Unfortunately I fell for one of these nefarious characters - boy do I wish I'd have paid attention to those early red flags 🚩 😟
@NelNoo
4 жыл бұрын
You have perfectly described my Mother-in-law. Apparently she has been this way her entire life.
@ColinpOliver9
4 жыл бұрын
Wow! This vid has described my last seven years. Pretty much every point is on par with my experience with my narcissistic abuse.
@TM-nv4dq
10 ай бұрын
My god. I recently had a friendship completely and explosively dissolve and have spent months ruminating over what I could've done to prevent it, and what more I could have done to stop her anger and 'fix' whatever it was I'd unknowingly done wrong. In this case it was because I took attention away from her when I befriended one of her close friends. I think she constructed a false fantasy about what was going on, and when I didn't immediately agree with her conclusions and finger pointing, I became the enemy. She systematically excluded and estranged me from the others we lived with (flatmates), acted the victim throughout, constructed inflammatory lies about me and her old friend and used sensitive things I'd told her against me. Living through it all has destroyed a small part of me. I had to leave my flat to get away from it, because I was so scared. This video completely sums up how she presented herself- I hadn't realised what was going on. Beware anyone on the spectrum- I think for us it may be especially difficult to detect this, and because of that we may be magnets for covert narcissists. I'm glad to get this off my chest. Thank you for this 💛
@tedygaper9174
2 жыл бұрын
THIS IS YOU KIM!!! 💯💯💯💯
@EYE_GOTCHA
4 жыл бұрын
You have described my mother to a T; I wish that I could have heard this years ago, before I allowed her destroy me.
@wellnesspathforme6236
4 жыл бұрын
>>before I allowed her destroy me.
@meligarrett9197
2 жыл бұрын
The covert narcissist in my ‘family’ actually exerted control over the whole community, not just the family. When I cut her off I lost everyone. Even though she’s now dead I am still excommunicated for abandoning her.
@MydasNeomagie
Жыл бұрын
:( Breaks my heart to hear that.
@angaeltartarrose6484
3 жыл бұрын
When i have a visceral reaction to someone, seemingly without provocation, still~ i trust it. I have learned to trust me, implicitly, always.
@samsonjohnson9892
4 жыл бұрын
I can't help myself from loving you your empathy compassion and mercy has touched me I know you are genuine .your body language and tone proves your heart is real
@weluvmusick
2 жыл бұрын
I know at least one female that checks a lot of those boxes who may have made me a target this info has been very helpful
@TV_Star23
4 жыл бұрын
All facts...I shut it down immediately and tell them good luck!
@ninatay8847
3 жыл бұрын
i know someone who is a Narcissist and she nailed it !! silent treatment and all. just nailed it.
@jmsiii4751
4 жыл бұрын
You described my ex-wife again! After being married to a covert malignant narcissist, I had learned how to deal with the male narcissist bosses I had... The best bosses I ever had were almost all women, they weren't narcissists. However, most of my male bosses were definitely narcissists, some were brutal. The more I didn't play their game and just did my job, the more they would try to cause problems for me. One good thing about being with a covert malignant narcissist, when you break free of them, you see all their red flags popping up immediately in other narcissistic people, and know how to react to them, or walk away from them.
@swordofgod2835
4 жыл бұрын
I’m in denial: but the fact I keep researching this... there must be something true about the gut feeling I have had about my ex.
@xio6778
Жыл бұрын
Same, but thats part of their ploy. Hence "covert".
@BlackWingedSeraphX
Жыл бұрын
Flying Monkey's point is so true lmao. My ex has a lapdog, brown-noser "friend" who did a lot of petty things to try to get a reaction out of me. Covert Narcissist are often surrounded by people of equally weak character. Phony-Friends.
@DemonSlayer_ISTJ
11 ай бұрын
This video is a God send. (2min in the video typing this) 1 I knew for years discarded me after I outed her to a mutual friend (enabler/flying monkey) was a narcissist. I had a reactive abuse moment from her irrationality and nonsense. She was hyper sensitive to any criticism; couldn't take when I discarded her, even popped up saying we have to end on a better note and she didn't want me out of her life; after she discarded before she sent epiphany apologies months later and I accepted her back; love bombed when we 1st met; always trauma; claimed to be an empath but was very selfish; blamed everything on her MBTI type; wanted me to help her self reflect, etc. The mutual friend got exposed when I tried explaining to her how she was a narc instead of understanding she said she didn't think anything was wrong with her and she understood her. Deflecting or dismissing some parts of the convo about her. I pray for both of them from a distance now.
@persiamotorman
4 жыл бұрын
Jodi Arias (in her trial) tried to flip the script and throw her dead ex boyfriend under the bus, and make him the evil attacker and herself the victim. That's pretty typical behavior for them. And they do it really well...years of practice I guess. I thought it was interesting that in her case, there was a camera that fell during the actual murder and was still automatically taking photos which gave incontrovertible evidence. But when they put this incontrovertible evidence in front of Jodi's face, she still tried to deny it! Never ending lies no matter what the evidence said!
@animalames78
11 ай бұрын
She is a murderer that is a given but actually I think her ex was the abusive one, he was a narcissist, he really played nasty, evil mind games with her
@oldnick9232
2 жыл бұрын
Flying Monkey enforcers, the nail hit square on the head there. I am totally impressed with your wisdom, YOU ARE SAVING THE WORLD!
@godscommandmentsaretruthis2837
Жыл бұрын
7:37... "she can do this for a very long long time." You're not kidding... over 15 years now. Makes it extra hard when they are really attractive.
@mgtowfrank2502
4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for putting this information out there. We as society need to know how to spot narcissists, in order to keep them out of our lives. They are the most toxic people on the planet.
@LukeT-
3 жыл бұрын
I got one pregnant I’m so destroyed right now. It’s been 3 years living with this hell.
@beaglerescue5281
10 ай бұрын
Document Document Document Document and keep educating yourself. Don’t take the insults personally. It’s just a ploy to wound and weaken you. I pray you will do well.
@mollypaananen6607
Жыл бұрын
Needed to check in and watch this video...Mine was a malignant narcissist...Its been 3 years now sense I ran away from her waving my hands in the air,screaming,crying,devastated by her gaslighting and undermining for 19 years!Ran!2300 miles away!Cold turkey no contact....A new grandbaby called me home so for the last year we have been in the same town...I've done good...but there are times...like the last few weeks...THANKYOU FOR THESE REMINDERS,THEY JUST SCREAM SELF PRESERVATION TO ME...BUT OH IM DUCKING THEM STUPID FLYING MONKEYS...My sense of humor about the craziness is new,laughter is so healing!!
@jasontyge9056
3 ай бұрын
Well described video. God bless everyone dealing with these problems.
@honor6x730
4 жыл бұрын
Wow, you know my ex?! I'm living in South America. After 4 month no contact I'm back again, even stronger and happier than before. It was hurtful, I ran several phases. But without it, I never would had become the man I'm now. You know what, I would do it again. I'm a poor hero, cos I did it twice in a year ;) But I just don't have to do it one more time. Even the narc was surprised when I came back first. I understood a lot, but my heart needed one more time. It might be childish, but I played the narc after discarding cos of anger. The pretty narc was pissed off, but kind of bored, it's their game, I'll leave it to them. Now she fears me, to me a big compliment. I will never waste my time, love, body, soul and sex to evil, even not a look. I'm old but still very good looking, for the time speace of no contact no woman gave me looks as it used to be, interesting... Since a few weeks I know it's a reboot. Many girls and woman are after me again, asking my name, my number or my friends about me. They all are different than they use to be before, kind, warm and a kind of brave and honest. Live is good! To me my poor narc was a gift, walking on fire I found the real me, my true nature, wether it was lost or robbed, it was a part of my heart, it was mine, it fits like a key. After leaving Germany I had found another key, a part of my heart freedom, now my heart is perfect. If you love or in the language of my heart RESPECT yourself, don't stay in the fire, do it quick, RUN! Lady, nice red dress, let's spent some time here at my new home here is always summer. Saludos cordales de South America
@vaksehund2
4 жыл бұрын
These pictures really fit to some in my family - mostly the women. I suffer from Aspergers Syndrom and I think I've been portraying some of the narcissistic traits, but as a survival techniques. But wow am I working on not ever being like this to others.
@Julie-qn9rj
Жыл бұрын
This has confirmed everything I thought,thank god I'd educated myself for years about narcs,it's a check list of her behaviour,I saw straight through her from day one,I cut her off within months,
@wendellrounds9268
3 жыл бұрын
I just ended things with my cover narcissist ex. Your video is so helpful.
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