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@miso-soup6305
3 жыл бұрын
The fact I have all the songs in my playlist
@patakireka4432
3 жыл бұрын
pink kaeya kinda cute‼️⁉️
@L1lly57
3 жыл бұрын
May I make this into a playlist on Spotify, and credit you?
@Keurlock
3 жыл бұрын
@@L1lly57 Of course :)
@maxi.6665
3 жыл бұрын
Thx!
@yourlocaloomf
3 жыл бұрын
"you're born clever" thanks "just study harder, and you'll be smarter" oh haha uh
@rawanelmsalehi4655
3 жыл бұрын
growing up i was told i was a genius so i internalized the idea that i was naturally smart without needing to put in any effort and now i'm in college always behind on my assignments and barely passing my classes
@alysuum2589
3 жыл бұрын
Relatable
@kara1996
3 жыл бұрын
@@rawanelmsalehi4655 same
@animeyes9386
3 жыл бұрын
same
@sofvpgn
3 жыл бұрын
same
@yurie2212
3 жыл бұрын
honestly at first it's fun, and then when ur older you burn out and suddenly you don't know how to study...
@hi-zc4yx
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, and as the oldest out of 4 kids everybody looked up to me. The standards were so much that those A's quickly dropped to F's
@sofvpgn
3 жыл бұрын
ikr
@sakshi52511
3 жыл бұрын
at first its having fun and not having to worry about your grades and then its having a mental breakdown in the school bathrooms cause your pretty much a teachers helper and always have to help people when the teachers helping others like when did i sign up for that??? next year when the teachers do that im gonna be like "its your job to help them not mine"
@Waadaa_
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah.
@idkwhatimdoing
3 жыл бұрын
god i relate to this so much
@zugarglider3603
3 жыл бұрын
"your not living up to your potential" " you're a genius and you fit beauty standards why are you depressed?" ' your so mature for your age' ' why can't you get this concept I thought you were smart?' fun timezzzz
@sakellaridoupeg584
3 жыл бұрын
And of course the "she's such a smart kid but she could do so much better"
@sakshi52511
3 жыл бұрын
I would say i fit into beauty standards other then my huge eyebags also who can forget the helping people in school even though thats the teachers job and you can't complain about it cause then people will say "Gosh just help them your so rude" like they cant even notice the fact that the same pressure put on teachers is put on the gifted kids
@Xxxxvzfl
3 жыл бұрын
@@sakshi52511 omg yess, I also have eye bags btw. But once in class I got like 3 things done because I had to help all my friends instead of doing my own work
@tiabryant5208
3 жыл бұрын
BRO SAME, I passed 8th grade with straight a's, each either 95% or higher, while taking the hardest courses. THEN, my math teacher got mad at me because the hardest stuff she taught us, I understood after one example, but I couldnt understand the easiest thing she showed us after weeks of being taught to us.
@Sofia-rg6qw
3 жыл бұрын
There’s also the: “Oh my God, how can you do that?!!?” “Girl, you have to teach me” “You’re wayyy too good at this” But guess what’s the funny thing? Those people also call me “nerd” and act like it’s a whole celebration party and brag when they get a better grade then me. Like seriously, I DON’T CARE, I JUST WANNA PASS THE YEAR!!!
@Dumb_slug12
2 жыл бұрын
My mom thinks she’s doing something by not comparing me to other people but instead comparing me to my younger self and when she was my age, it’s actually just as damaging (at least to me) “ *But when you were younger you could make friends easily!* ” “ *You’re not the same, I want my little girl back* ” “ *Why are you always in your room and alone now? When you were a kid you were so much more talkative* ” “ *You know when I was your age I was friends with everyone, how come you can’t do that?* ” Yeah I got it, I grew up and I’m not what you expected anymore
@athena1837
2 жыл бұрын
this hit sooo close to home
@DANNIE-101
2 жыл бұрын
damn i feel bad you had to go through all that.
@shalikrox9720
2 жыл бұрын
My mom compared me to not just her and my younger self but my siblings and other kids why do parents do that. We're human we grow up, we change, we're all different people, and we don't have to be perfect because there is no such thing as perfect everyone has a different idea of perfect.
@levislilthottie
2 жыл бұрын
I wish I could like this comment a thousand times
@ginger_ailed4922
2 жыл бұрын
Man, I thought I was the only one
@stargrl1548
3 жыл бұрын
being a smart kid in school is unexpected. everyone’s standards are SO high. I get one question wrong and then ppl are like “I thought you were smart”
@lauren1454
3 жыл бұрын
Or when people literally laugh and gossip if someone outscores you on an exam bc you’re viewed as the standard to beat
@Sofia-rg6qw
3 жыл бұрын
@@lauren1454 Yep, or they make it look like a whole celebration party
@thefoolsfavorite
3 жыл бұрын
Oh I know a kid in my class who experiences this. I feel so bad for her, speaking from a burned out "smart" kid. I hate it when people expect so much from people who get very high grades and judge them if they don't have full scores.
@thefoolsfavorite
3 жыл бұрын
@@lauren1454 yep
@toxicbacon5674
3 жыл бұрын
My English teacher was disappointed at me for getting a 9.75 and it was her fault. I wrote some sentence with ‘they’ as in an unspecified person and my teacher is transphobic so 💀 even all the other “gifted kids” were rooting for me but she never bothered to fix the score.
@luca12763
3 жыл бұрын
"The gifted kid" + "the golden child" = teenage insanity
@destheoren
3 жыл бұрын
when i have both 🙂
@anime_avocados5900
3 жыл бұрын
I am that kid even when I’m not a teenager yet
@DOOPHIA
3 жыл бұрын
when you're both 😟😟
@Ziemniaczek
3 жыл бұрын
i was more like "gifted imigrant kid" + "helpful and kind kid" + a little insanity from my biological father ( died in a car catastrophe ) = this fucking alcocholic smoking ingineering student train wreck know as me ( my friendships usually last on an average of 2 years when they get to know me a bit better )
@junemwah
3 жыл бұрын
When you were both 😩✌️
@lia.mp4
3 жыл бұрын
Being the gifted kid in elementary school sets such a large Expectation but then as soon as Middle school/high school hits it just goes downhill.
@randomperson-qn7ep
3 жыл бұрын
It does🥲
@Sillycat0924
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah I was in gifted classes since the 4th grade and now being a 7th grader I struggled a lot to keep myself to a C in math and spent most of the year with an F or D and that teacher was always so rude when it was like that and would say, “ You do so good in your other classes why are you so lazy in my class” like Tiarra I have bad mental health from this dumb program and your making it worse by telling I’m a failure when I can’t solve for X she even yelled at me for not finishing my final while I brought it home and stayed up struggling and going off of 3 cups of coffee just to make a shitty project that easy even a good given grade for me or my group who tried their best
@17unsatisfactory
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah i was doing so good in elementary school without even trying but now look at me:/
@kenarus
3 жыл бұрын
I had the best grades until 7th grade, couldn’t understand things and now I’m back with my good grades but not learning anything tbh, just doing this because that’s what they expect of me
@MM-bx4iv
3 жыл бұрын
Wow omg but why is that literally what happened to me though like omg
@allexmussen9107
2 жыл бұрын
ah everyone join in the Burnt Out Gifted Kid Anthem with me! 106% "Good job, kiddo, keep it up" raising your hand for every question 98% "try and bring your grades up, kid" panic attacks in school bathrooms for every wrong answer 93% "your grades are slipping please pay more attention" doubt over every question's answer 86% "...." shaking hands before every test 75% "youre shooting youself in the foot kid" im trying please- 70% "youre gonna need to cut this extra curricular" study study focus study study studygodpleasestudybetter- 60% "sorry but to pass this year you need to take this extra course" sleeping in the back of class 58% "im dissapointed in you-" alright 45% "god whats wrong with you? you used to be so smart!" breaking down mid test 30% "idiot" sorry 29% "what do you want me to say? go back to studying" ...
@help.5006
2 жыл бұрын
Wow. That's exactly my life you just describe (sorry for the bad English)
@Kia_coral
2 жыл бұрын
I'm in 93% i'm 10 btw soon to be 11 in september
@oneofakind.3954
2 жыл бұрын
:D :,D WOW WTF THIS IS TOO TRUE.
@akari8347
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a mix of 106% and 93%
@dazaitheemosk8erboi188
2 жыл бұрын
Idk how your marks works but in my country the highest mark was 100%. And i miss for getting 98% in test.
@oyoykny4406
3 жыл бұрын
"She's first of the class, continue like this!" "This year too she is!" . . "What?! You're third now?!" "I'm disapointed of you" I don't see what's wrong for dropping 2 damn ranks lol
@rmo3961
3 жыл бұрын
OMG THIS!!!! SIn elementary and middle school i was the first one without studying, then in 8th grade i think, i had to learn how to study (without any help and only the guidance of youtube videos that didnt give good advices) bcs school was getting complicated and couldn't pass with As without studying, and ended third in my grade. I remember that my parents didnt want to go to my graduation bcs of that. Even my brother (who was the best at my house at the time) told me how dissapointed he was. At that time it affected me so bad that i was scared of going back to school after summer break bcs i thought i wasn't good enough. Not being the best of my class still afects me tons, but at least i dont care about dissapointing my family, fck you all parents that care more about their reputation than your child and put them under that pressure at so young age >:c
@sofvpgn
3 жыл бұрын
yh
@oldmafiainport6498
3 жыл бұрын
You can do better? Why dont you just work harder? Why? Because i fucking cant, if i try harder i will go insane Maybe am already a freak who feels like the people of the internet understands more than family and friends
@r4yn77
3 жыл бұрын
i dropped from number 1 to number 2 and the pressure that my family puts on me makes me feel worthless and stopped trying
@auliyaalbi
3 жыл бұрын
YES!! THIS ONE HITS SO HARD
@kingkip1503
3 жыл бұрын
I’ve personally fallen from “golden child” and “gifted kid” to “family disappointment” :)
@umnothanks9504
3 жыл бұрын
I'm dreading the "family disappointment" stage but i really don't think i have the same potential that i did when i was younger Idk something's changed. I've become more.. Dull. More hopeless. More overwhelmed. More lifeless. Idk what to do.
@Mafufuyunoire
3 жыл бұрын
same
@aceofspades5277
3 жыл бұрын
Same!!!:)
@dianakock5619
3 жыл бұрын
Me too and it kills me inside
@himikoyonaga3065
3 жыл бұрын
Covid took a large hit on me because I have to be at school in order to learn properly. I went from "smart" to "failure"
@dawnu
3 жыл бұрын
I was always called a "gifted" kid, graduated high school at 16, getting into a Master degree in a prestigious university in my country. I am having more trouble keeping up with the pressure and workload, slowly going insane with the deadlines and suffering from impostor syndrome I'm sorry for venting here...
@4ngrybvnny
3 жыл бұрын
That’s completely ok!! I’ll listen, I don’t mind :) you’re amazing and you got this. Take a break, treat yourself, ok? You deserve it
@zia3428
3 жыл бұрын
heyyyy you’re doing amazing!!!!!! don’t forget so take break ok? Do something to make you calm okkkkk Please take care of yourself Sending virtual hug to anyone need🥰
@dawnu
3 жыл бұрын
@@4ngrybvnny istg you are so precious
@dawnu
3 жыл бұрын
@@zia3428 I will try to care of myself!! Thanks for the encouragements
@4ngrybvnny
3 жыл бұрын
@@dawnu Aw thank you
@mikudae
2 жыл бұрын
here's my "gifted kid" expirence -had fun in elementary -was popular because of my intelligence -grew to think I was on top of everyone else -middle school (7th grade specifically) hit like a truck -struggling to get work turned in on time -always expected to get amazing grades -turned to my comfort character instead of other healthy coping mechanisms to deal with problems -never developed good study/work habits because I never had to I hate school 👍
@lexus_vr238
Жыл бұрын
same for me but 8th grade was the worst
@draculauraxox
Жыл бұрын
this is me right now.... ive been biting my nails so much they are bleeding constantly and every day i go home and i shake and cry and i feel like nobody cares
@bobafrap3253
Жыл бұрын
are we the same person bc gahdamn this is literally me
@GorgutsFan1998
Жыл бұрын
you will fucking love grad school kid
@lynx.likes.lemonade
Жыл бұрын
@@bobafrap3253 same! kinda sad we all have the same experience
@allisonb6094
3 жыл бұрын
“What happened to the girl who was rushing to get everything done ahead of time?” You killed her. I hope you’re proud.
@Edna3066
3 жыл бұрын
Yeah, well done...
@uu-hr8ki
2 жыл бұрын
They wanted for us to shine but they forgot that when you polish something too much you end up revealing what's on the inside
@gustetamasauskaite4338
2 жыл бұрын
No you just watched too much tiktok and got lazy
@purelyrlue7197
2 жыл бұрын
@@gustetamasauskaite4338 and you spend your life scrolling youtube just to criticize people who you don't even know, or understand? Can you ever acknowledge how some people get problems. you're the reason that people's mental health decline. Telling them this kind of thing doesn't help at all. I hope you know that.
@gustetamasauskaite4338
2 жыл бұрын
@@purelyrlue7197 I only replied to that person. And I'm right, yall sitting hours on tiktok or phone and then complaining about being "depressed" or becoming dumb, because of others🤨
@icarus4302
3 жыл бұрын
Im eating frozen microwave mac n cheese and baja mtn dew at 3 in the night blasting "are you satisfied through" my bluetooth headphones so i'll go deaf. This is it. This is the peak of giften kid burn out.
@4ngrybvnny
3 жыл бұрын
:) it’s alright, but I’m proud of you for going so far! It’s shitty but keep fighting. If I can’t give up, neither can you!!!! 🤧 I love you, ok?
@kaito_thedumbass8297
3 жыл бұрын
Okay, I'm sorry if this comes if rude or insensitive but, did it work?
@kaito_thedumbass8297
3 жыл бұрын
@Muffin Tin oh haha good to know but I was talking about if they went death or not. Sorry for the confusion ^^
@kaito_thedumbass8297
3 жыл бұрын
@Muffin Tin y'know mine would too, so, it's fine ^^
@kaye_cc592
3 жыл бұрын
@Muffin Tin I-
@kavyasasidharan
3 жыл бұрын
"I don't understand this at all, I think I'm going to fail" "No way, you're so smart, you'll probably be the top of the class" *fails* "What happened, I thought you were smart?"
@popstel2286
3 жыл бұрын
Like do people realize most of us just have undiagnosed ADHD? Do they think we're gods or something?
@mafuyuki3603
3 жыл бұрын
I mean, its not like im a god or something?? They expect me to finish things in 3 seconds, have straight As, be the CuTe AdoRaBle KinD person i am. Do they even have mirrors in their house? Thats just unfair for us.
@shim64
2 жыл бұрын
we're living people
@aydsnake_-988
2 жыл бұрын
The worst thing that always happen to me is when a classmate asks for help, I try to answer and say that I'm not quite sure if this is the correct answer, and when the teacher comes to see how we're all doing they tell to my classmate that they wrote something wrong and the kid starts to blame it on me and say that I'm actually dumb and useless, I love it.. sorry for the vent
@shim64
2 жыл бұрын
@@aydsnake_-988 the amount of relatable,,,,,
@sunnyshine715
2 жыл бұрын
im literally failing every class except English, which is the ONLY class I've never failed at in all my years in school. my parents refuse to acknowledge I might have ADHD and god I'm in fucking shambles. I can't focus and missing work just keeps piling up and all i want is so just disappear. there's no way i'm going to college like this. sorry mom and dad, but you raised a failure
@MySchoolProject15
2 жыл бұрын
Hey, you're not a failure. My best friend has ADHD; he's screwed up countless times and you know what, he's taught me that failure isn't the end, and failure doesn't make YOU a failure. If you can get through this, you'll be a lot stronger than those of us who never learned how to handle failure. Here's my advice that I've seen work for him, can't speak if it'll work for you but it might help: 1.) He has little things he plays with in his hands, like these squishy balls and clay and stuff. He also leaves his computer and stuff at home when he goes to work. 2.) He can't afford medicine, but he says sometimes a single cup of coffee or something with caffeine can help. 3.) Get someone in your life to set a schedule for you if you can't stick to one yourself; he can't always set one for himself, but if I keep him on board it really helps him. 4.) When he has to really intensely study or work on something, he goes somewhere really quiet, like the quietest part of the local university library and he asks me to make sure he gets work done. Basically try to get yourself an accountability partner if you can, someone who's not your parents and who doesn't stress you out. 5.) I use an app called SelfControl to make it so I can't access anything except what I'm supposed to be working on for specific amounts of time. That plus pomodoro method works for me, maybe it'll help you. 6.) Do just one of the things that are piling up. The piling up causes panic and that causes procrastination; break the cycle by doing just one thing. You only have to do one thing, that's all, that's it. Just one. Sorry if this isn't great advice, it's just what I've seen work for him. But the most important thing to remember is, messing up doesn't make you a failure. Don't talk about yourself like that, it's not true-and if you can't do it for yourself, do it for me, a random internet stranger who cares about you.
@chrismtilatila7330
2 жыл бұрын
@@MySchoolProject15 Thank you I also struggle a lot with ADHD so I'll definitely try these out
@catt8822
2 жыл бұрын
@@MySchoolProject15 as someone with diagnosed adhd and being a gifted kid this is some great advice also stuff that is caffeinated slows our brain down, thats how the meds work so yes coffee is a great alternative as well as energy drinks
@kcsart9206
2 жыл бұрын
im in the same boat the school sytem failed you its not us ok try not to hate yourself so much try to find other things to put your self vaule on. it can help
@nessstarries6204
2 жыл бұрын
I never related to a comment that much in my whole life.
@enjoyerofnonsense3392
3 жыл бұрын
Being academically gifted is a curse I wouldn’t wish upon my worst enemies. Few school systems are designed to continue providing constant intellectual stimulation while not overwhelming their students. This is why “former gifted kid syndrome” exists. This is why you go from devouring books like a monster that can never be satiated to struggling through a single paragraph. You weren’t given the stimulation you needed to sustain your giftedness, and it atrophied like any unused muscle would. I’m so sorry they let you down.
@oversizedkai14
3 жыл бұрын
Really?! No wonder I feel this way! This describes me perfectly! Thank you I've never understood why I am like this but now I understand! Thank you, I appreciate it so much!💕
@neurific
3 жыл бұрын
I DONT. usually reply to youtube comments n this is like 3 weeks late but i just wanted to say that i really want to thank you, i kinda read that last sentence and cried /pos
@sugarisdown9740
3 жыл бұрын
something i wish i understood earlier. thank you
@h1bbers
3 жыл бұрын
this sums it up perfectly!
@annieyogirlisdabest4373
3 жыл бұрын
This.
@kur0miiii286
3 жыл бұрын
i was so proud i was a gifted kid. now that everyones expectations were high for me, my expectations are high for myself. i never study. i start crying whenever i get a single question wrong. edit : dear everyone who is relating to me, i love you. i hope you know that. i hope all of you get better soon. i still feel this way, but im trying to overcome it. please get help.
@Sofia-rg6qw
3 жыл бұрын
Same, but when I get a question wrong I start calling myself stupid, then I start getting anxious and think everyone will make fun of me because they have high expectations for me, it takes about 30 minutes for me to be kinda ok with the fact that I got a question wrong
@zenzy757
3 жыл бұрын
same being smart is the only thing i can do if not then i'm...useless
@mrfish9613
3 жыл бұрын
i have a heart attack every time my grade is in the 70’s because that’s failing in my family and my dad would get mad if we failed ✨
@kemmi9149
3 жыл бұрын
being smart is one of the things I’m known for bc I don’t really know that many people and that’s just what they assume. When I get a question wrong I feel like I’m disappointing my parents bc they trust me with my grades and that I’ll do good. Anything below a 96av is fucking terrible for me and if I get a 80 - 90 on a quiz or test, u bet I’m gonna cry:,)
@k3n0ps1a
3 жыл бұрын
Same, and I also start crying when I get even slightly told off/lectured or do something wrong. It sucks :(
@Thestarsage
3 жыл бұрын
"When you're 10, they call you a prodigy. When you're 15, they call you a genius. But once you hit 20, you're just a normal person."
@weebingtoanime2653
2 жыл бұрын
Haruka Nanase aint it...haha....but seriously we suffer a lot don't we? 🥲
@mochaanderson2375
2 жыл бұрын
Shit that hit deep
@help.5006
2 жыл бұрын
Haruka Nanase right? That's so true. When I was 6,I was considered as a genius, a gifted kid, but now that I'm 12, everybody thinks that's normal to put so much pression on me. I have to be good in everything. I must have good marks, I must have friends, I must be pretty( still on process), I have to be perfect. And I think I'm gonna go insane. Anyway, sorry for bother you with that ans sorry for my bad English(I'm French).
@weebingtoanime2653
2 жыл бұрын
@@help.5006 damn bro....hang in there kay'? and dw ur perfect the way u are (no matter what anyone says)
@help.5006
2 жыл бұрын
@@weebingtoanime2653 thank you❤ I'm will continue to do my best but without pushing me to my limits:)
@neim4565
2 жыл бұрын
it's so fucking nice seeing people who went through the same shit as me, being pressured from a young age. hope y'all are doing ok
@syazieu7995
3 жыл бұрын
"You're gifted" "youre smart" "youll be fine" "you'll probably do better after you study" lies all lies. Im failing now due to the words you've told me. Thank you. :D
@Nayy.yrocks
3 жыл бұрын
Im so sorry:( i bealive in you
@syazieu7995
3 жыл бұрын
@@Nayy.yrocks awe thank you ✨💕
@Nayy.yrocks
3 жыл бұрын
Syaz np
@MM-bx4iv
3 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry you're going through that, that was basically what the entirety of the last school year was for me. I promise it will get better though, it may seem like there is no end in sight right now but I promise there is, just hang on for a little while longer. I'm sorry I can't offer any advice because my year did not end the best way but I just want to remind you that it's not the end and to be kind to yourself
@syazieu7995
3 жыл бұрын
@@MM-bx4iv honestly im going through my last year rn and due to covid n stuff my exams are sent to next year when im supoosed to end by this year. But online classes arent helping. My mental health is going who knows where. And my mom doesnt believe that i might have some mental issues. I had to force her through my aunt. Now i have to wait until covid is fully gone or something to be able to go out and actually get diagnosed. Also during my midterm exam which was like few months ago i got 5 failed subjects which is alot considering ive never really failed a class before. But yea thanks for your supporting words i appreciate it alot ✨
@HOUNDOFTARTARUS
3 жыл бұрын
" dude, you were so smart before. " i was, what, 2 to 5 to 7 ? " you can't just say you hate him because he touched you a bit. " you're 10, he didn't even bat an eyelash at you. " this is why nobody likes you around, you're so pessimistic. " hm, i wonder why. " maybe like, shut up next time ? " alright. " don't talk about him when he's not around. " oh, but you can do that when I'M not around ? oh, sorry, i see where i stand on this makeshift pedestal you created. " you're so selfish, do you know that ? " mkay. " she's a good friend. " she pretended to like me, harassed me about it for the rest of the year til school ended. yeah, she's a really good friend.
@brainemptynothink
3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you had to go through that, you deserve better I hope your doing well
@HOUNDOFTARTARUS
3 жыл бұрын
@@brainemptynothink - aye thanks. i'm going through a lot of depression now, but i am persevering through it :)
@brainemptynothink
3 жыл бұрын
@@HOUNDOFTARTARUS well if you ever wanna talk I'll listen :)
@sakshi52511
3 жыл бұрын
your not selfish their just mad they can't get what they want out of you people call me selfish all the time when in reality I just don't let people use me
@who_ismadii
3 жыл бұрын
lift your head you you will drop your crown!👑 ily and so does everyone here
@kaede9243
3 жыл бұрын
you show them that youre talented at a young age and theyre amazed. amazement turns into expectation. expectation turn into a standard. and from that point on, anything less than that is a mistake
@earlgreymilktae
3 жыл бұрын
this.
@waltems2376
3 жыл бұрын
which is why I constantly lower people's standards for me so when I do good, they compliment me :))
@milanesa3214
3 жыл бұрын
yeah my sister was like "it's not fair, she is smart, thats why she can do it" or "you suposse to know everithing, you're smart" like ????? really *sigh*. My parents say what I'm doing well and ist fine even if I got a 7 in my exams or like that (they jus't wanna good grades for me is not necessary a 10, here the points going to 0 to 10) and I'm glad whit that (but i'm pushen myself always because my good grades become part of my self steem and I know it's not sane I'm working on that), anyways what I tried to say is my sister is annoying/j nah, what I really try to say is, is fine not being that "smat" when you as a kid, you are human and try your best, you doing well and deserve a rest too, don't forget take care of yourself pls i'm proud of you and what you achieved
@benjij.g.2672
3 жыл бұрын
Ha, that's why I'm telling myself to not give a fuck anymore, they see it as a mistake, I see it as avoiding future suicidal attempts and even more worse breakdowns than I have now, and those breakdowns are for different personal reasons, I don't need to breakdown because of other peoples expectations, it's not fair to me.
@jadebeatles9485
3 жыл бұрын
yeah....
@duakim7658
2 жыл бұрын
I am a 15 year old in Korea. I was always top of the class in elementary, and I still kept a good streak in middle school. Straight As were not good, they were standard. This year is my last year of middle school(the system is kinda different here) so I am prepping for high school. I love science so I decided to take the exam for a science major high school. While prepping for the exam I kinda lost track of my middle school studies and I ended up getting a C in Chinese, which is barely a passing grade. I didn't think much of it; I hadn't studied. It wasn't an important class anyway so I had dropped it. My mother didn't take it well though. She knew I was prepping for high but she was still disappointed. And I know she's gaslighting me into thinking I'm a failure. But I wanna tell you guys out there, whether you failed in school or not, even if you fell short of everyone's expectations, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE.
@duakim7658
2 жыл бұрын
I just- I like science but I really want to sing and draw as well. They take my mind off shit.
@occidere13
2 жыл бұрын
It's hard being Asian, isn't it? I've devolved from proudly showing my mom my test paper to lying about not receiving it yet
@kazukaeferfer
2 жыл бұрын
Did you get into the science major high school? I hope you did
@duakim7658
2 жыл бұрын
@@kazukaeferfer Yeah I did! it's a boarding school so I'm away from my family most of the time. I still struggle with classes, but i like science. I try.
@kazukaeferfer
2 жыл бұрын
@@duakim7658 congratulations! That's really nice
@howisgamora_
3 жыл бұрын
I used to think being a "gifted" student made my life easy and effortless, until I went to a school full of them.
@iluvmylifesoreal
3 жыл бұрын
Same- I go to a school with a program inside of it and that’s what I attend. Everyone is gifted, and everyone is failing. We’re all burnt out and that’s kind of how I made friends
@river7487
3 жыл бұрын
@@iluvmylifesoreal Same, now since i've gone here, i feel like a faliure since im taking classes 2 grades ahead of what's "normal" and im struggling
@marissanbronidor3449
3 жыл бұрын
Same now I feel like a failure
@RhymeUh
2 жыл бұрын
im in class right now, everyone is smarter then me, but all of us are slowly burning out. Thats why we get along so well
@angrypomeraniantrainer618
2 жыл бұрын
I almost had to go I was 1% off but they kept trynna make me go, and I’m so proud of myself for only getting 98% on the tests I would have killed myself if I had gone there
@cam2587
3 жыл бұрын
Nah cus when you don't realise how hard u where pushing yourself even outside of studies until you breakdown and litterally can't do itt anymore, and the only thing u can do is pick up your shit and do it all again
@peiithos
3 жыл бұрын
its just this torturous loop.
@kleeyarborough714
3 жыл бұрын
literally my parents said they were disappointed and i worked till i couldnt think and i broke down and fell asleep
@no-kp2kx
3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@zenith3378
3 жыл бұрын
This comment hit way to close 😭
@4sh837
3 жыл бұрын
Hit a little bit to much like my life . 😃
@virtualreese
3 жыл бұрын
When ur the “gifted kid” and the sibling who has to do everything right so you slowly go to the “dumber” classes and skip and in general become a delinquent without ur parents noticing but they’ve lowkey gave up on you (it’s funner this way trust me) edit: bro this kinda blew up- just to clarify I enjoy living this way because it’s more fun
@dionn5609
3 жыл бұрын
lol yesterday "they" just realized that I already "GONE" and told me I didn't even study and being lazy. and told me "people who are study are smart people, who didn't study is the foolish one and they belong to trash :>" all they care is "me". I wouldn't label myself as gifted, the thing is when I was in kindergarten I swear I don't know what is learning about and fail everything my parents know that I knew most of them (I have problem "solving" the answer cus I can't talk at school ; social anxiety ). And they knew I'm "smarter" then "them". And they said I should be better cus I'm the oldest I need to "show" that I'm useful. Ended up I can manipulate people. now I hate myself for knowing how to be bad. I also have trust and anger issues plus fear of abounded. ( sorry if this too long)
@bingbongwingawong4491
3 жыл бұрын
@@dionn5609 hay man I feel ya to an extent and if u need someone to talk to im here rsndom internet stranger
@dionn5609
3 жыл бұрын
@@bingbongwingawong4491 I don't know. My mind is blank. I'm confused and numb rn
@bingbongwingawong4491
3 жыл бұрын
@@dionn5609id say look at your self and figure out what u are feeling, why r u feeling this way, and is this a good feeling or not then try and find some postive goal to strive for
@heebahqaisar4124
3 жыл бұрын
Happened to me sucks and makes me feel useless to this day 😕 wish I was born as gods favorite I cant deal with this anymore🙂🙃
@MySchoolProject15
2 жыл бұрын
When I'm feeling like I haven't reached my full potential, Uncle Iroh comes to me, speaking words of wisdom: "There's nothing wrong with a life of peace and prosperity." Stay healthy, friends.
@thecanadiankiwibirb4512
2 жыл бұрын
When I find myself in times of trouble, Mother Mary comes to me Speaking words of wisdom, let it be And in my hour of darkness she is standing right in front of me Speaking words of wisdom, let it be
@z01l0gy
3 жыл бұрын
when you realise that these playlists make you find strangers that understand you more than your family :)
@e.k.1836
2 жыл бұрын
Yup.
@they.luv_k4ylee
2 жыл бұрын
( vent don't take this to offense please) fuck off why are you right
@xivering
2 жыл бұрын
I hate how accurate this is
@rememberwhendiavalokilledg7546
2 жыл бұрын
They've known me for over 10 years and they still dont understand me...
@cottondrop1213
2 жыл бұрын
Mhm,sadly it is indeed true
@vintagetears2416
3 жыл бұрын
The smart kid in our class slipped up one time and the whole class was shocked and making “disappointment noises” from the on, she never slipped up and was always top 1. Must be so hard for her :(
@cocolai5243
2 жыл бұрын
just reading this gave me anxiety. this sounds terrible
@juicy_lte2779
2 жыл бұрын
I had almost same situation (as the smart kid)... Its one of the worst feelings sadly... If you dont usually have mid grades but the good ones then it will always be like that :(
@Kia_coral
2 жыл бұрын
@@cocolai5243 same i was always top 1 to if i'm not i would fucking cry i would lock myself in my room
@that_tvhead
2 жыл бұрын
fear
@5000chickens
2 жыл бұрын
I'm supposed to be one of the "smart kids" in our class so whenever I mess up I get the same reaction, some people taking it as far as to tell me they "thought I was supposed to be smart" I've slipped up time and time again and people never learn to hide their disappointment, it hurts so much every time I'm going to an online school part time now where I don't know anybody and it's refreshing to have little to no reputation of being smart, the teachers and students don't expect anything so I either meet their expectations or exceed them, it's so much better :)
@HyeinBiggestfan
2 жыл бұрын
"Driven by a greed to succeed" is sorta of what happens to some of them. You see, little kids will be that much more *motivated* to do work, get it done all right and nice. As you grow more, sometimes it seems to wilt away and crumple and you lose that "gifted kid" reputation and get more average grades, which will lead to more disappointment and the words that leech at you like "I expected better from you" or "you could've done better, I know that". I hate it.
@brenna_watches_movies
3 жыл бұрын
“It’s not a race to the bottom.” “You’re not wearing pajama pants to school you’ll look homeless.” “You can’t wear fishnet, it will make you look like a prostitute.” “Where’s the rest of that shirt? Have some decency.” “You’re at the pool, wear a bikini, not a sweatshirt.” “Why don’t you go for a run, you’re getting lazy.” “You’ve been working out too much, it’s unhealthy.” “You’re not eating enough.” “Do you need to eat all that? Are you actually hungry?” “Take some time to read, you never read anymore.” “You’ve been spending too much time reading.” “That’s too much makeup.” “Do you want to put on some concealer to cover your acne?” “Take a break.” “You’re lazy.” “She’s reading a 600 page book every day, all you read are comics.” “Don’t bind and wear masculine clothes, dress like a girl.” “Those girls clothes are too revealing, there are standards of decency in society.” So what exactly do you want from me???
@Shadow-ty9oz
3 жыл бұрын
I feel like this so much it hurts, I feel like this whole comment section should probably all go to therapy together
@mrstein4170
3 жыл бұрын
It’s just so narcissistic of them to think we don’t feel anything. It never adds up.
@corbett3957
3 жыл бұрын
fuckin same
@kniptheperson7084
3 жыл бұрын
Like just make up your mind!! And why would I follow your rules anyways? I can be who I want to be, not who society wants me to be. I hope everyone has a good day!! :):)
@alexisjewl1830
3 жыл бұрын
I'm a frikin 10 year old and they expect me to either act like an idiot or like a high schooler bru
@user-hp1pf8hq7d
3 жыл бұрын
"Both of your parents are smart so you should be too!" "Your brother gets straight A's in everything, I bet you do too!" haha maybe im not a carbon copy of any of them :D
@andresalvarado3687
3 жыл бұрын
same i have the same problems sister top of everything brother doctor because he could he didnt try mom the other disapintment that uses her kids to give her money dad a genius in electronics me a lazy pile of crap thats is an idiot
@ninjawarriornina4180
3 жыл бұрын
This one right here. My parents make me do everything my older brother has done and they asked to put me in the same classes with the same teachers and the same material. I just want to live bro. They have no idea how much i hate having to be this copy of my brother. I just want to have my own personality and have my own friends. I just want to live :/
@ender4344
3 жыл бұрын
The parents thing hit home
@angrypomeraniantrainer618
2 жыл бұрын
Yeahhhh I was compared to my dad and sister
@tiad7453
2 жыл бұрын
my 7th grade history teacher literally admitted he only gave me good marks bc he thought id be the same as my older sister. outstanding grades. 😬😬
@mr.worldwide2771
3 жыл бұрын
“Your gifted” “Keep on the good work” “Good job” “You will be fine!” “U don’t need a therapist amor” “I’m so disappointed in you” “This isn’t like you” “I can’t believe you did this” Well I’m sorry mom (btw my downhill started in 5th grade and it still continues)
@Ruby7070
3 жыл бұрын
Omg SAMEEE After 5th grade everything started to go downhills, now I'm what the US would consider a sophomore in high school and have no idea how I got this far
@quiwing
3 жыл бұрын
I started to go downhill in 3rd grade, but it wasn’t so bad. 4th grade, worse but a few a’s. 5th grade 1 a. And then it started to be worse and worse with each grade I had.
@themagicalllama8514
3 жыл бұрын
Same here, but now I've finally graduated high school and will be struggling for four years in college 😬.
@60-ish.
3 жыл бұрын
you're*
@Nic-pv6in
3 жыл бұрын
Being the “perfect kid” and then all the sudden telling your dad you want to go to therapy only for him to explode is the worst…
@reyumi_luvsqxx2507
2 жыл бұрын
*Okay so i've never been in a "gifted" program, but ever since I was little i've developed my brain quickly. So i've always been expected to be na smart kid. No inbetween, everyone goes, " I'm proud of you " " Wow! another A! " " You're so smart " " You're so clever " " Excellent " " Very good " " Very good " " very nice " " good enough " " could be better " " Study harder " " it's probably social media is it " " What happened to your scores "
@kokomistan8648
3 жыл бұрын
!!!VENT!!!! I am a gifted kid myself, and to be honest, I actually think this is all my fault. All my life, I've never had to actually study, and I just answered the questions with my common sense. Most gifted kids burn out in high school and college, but I'm burning out in middle school. I can't focus on anything for some reason. All my life I never had to actually worry about time management because I would end up getting the motivation to do it last minute, perfectly. But I don't have that anymore. I don't know what happened. My parents know this, and they think its because I'm "watching videos". No im not. I'm literally putting on music. They always assume im doing something bad. Im trying to be perfect for them. They're telling me that this is for my future, but I think that its just for your reputation as a parent. Really, the only person that has actually believed me and appreciated me doing my best is my mother. Even though I never get so see her during the weekdays, I still love her so much because she works just as hard as I do. But the thing is, I always get distracted by something, no matter what I do, and I can't help it. I don't know whats happening to me. I always cry every time I think about the past, the little girl in elementary school that was a straight A student and got along with all my classmates. I have one week of school left. I really hope I can do this. If I were to spit these feelings out in the public, especially in front of my dad, he wont validate it. He would try to one up me by saying he had to walk miles to school when he was a kid and he has to go to the library every day to study. I really wish that he would just validate my feelings for once. Ive tried telling him before, but he always told me to work harder and just keep studying and reading. He loves me, and I love him, but i dont think he understands the fact that this is harder than you see it. Especially if you always get distracted with something. If I dont have my phone, and there isnt any youtube tabs or music on, I'd end up playing with my skin and scabs. I take a bath almost every 5 daysbecause I never have the time to do it regularly. I'd say i wanna die, but that would obviously hurt, so im trying to shift instead. I'm only 12, and thats why most people like to tell me im overreacting. I hate this. They would always talk about how they had even worse experiences in highschool/college. I get really stressed to the point where the tips of my fingers would be ice cold and i dont know why.
@kokomistan8648
3 жыл бұрын
@@dreamylin5122 thank you so much, this really made me feel better :)
@nadz9078
3 жыл бұрын
have you considered that you might have adhd?
@eidyyss
3 жыл бұрын
I relate to this so much idk what to say. Same feelings same reasons same effects everything. I know what your going through, I'm sorry this is happening to you and I hope everything gets better for you, no I'm sure everything will go better for you sooner or later! 💞
@airuwu682
3 жыл бұрын
you really hit the spot on describing on how I feel and we'll get through this! o( ̄▽ ̄)d a thought that kinda comforts me is that us being so young we still have chances to redeem ourselves so one day we might get some burst of motivation and straighten out our lives.
@purgatory-013
3 жыл бұрын
I’m 13 and what you just said has touch me in another level, I honestly relate to you in so many ways ( except my dad is the one who isn’t home, and they both are emotionally neglectful)
@lenaph1610
3 жыл бұрын
this comment section is amazing,i feel so understood and not judged,i can't talk about how i feel to anyone irl so this playlist is nice,thank you
@andresalvarado3687
3 жыл бұрын
same dahg
@potatomonkey2
2 жыл бұрын
It is always nice hearing others stories and seeing that you aren't alone.
@concerned_coffee49
2 жыл бұрын
Same
@buzz8816
2 жыл бұрын
yuh
@jagrooprandhawa8993
2 жыл бұрын
Yeaaa
@crimsonsun.
3 жыл бұрын
Something someone said to me that really really got me deep: “Just because you’re carrying everything so well doesn’t mean it’s not heavy”. It just…wow I guess.
@Evangeline_elf
2 жыл бұрын
But maybe your not. Maybe you hide it's heaviness and sob every night. Maybe I'm speaking from experience. Maybe I'm speaking from what's exactly happening to me. Maybe my family will find out and I'll feel bad for making them cry. Maybe my life will fall apart like it already had. Maybe everyone will know I'm a wreck. Maybe no one will ever know. Right?...
@chaninn
2 жыл бұрын
oh
@Supernovacauser
3 жыл бұрын
Yep. After you get a b on your report card and your family treats you like it’s a f because I’m a “ A grade student “. It gets old. I’m proud of you? I don’t have that much he’ll just say “oh nice.” Or “good job” GRADES ARE EVERYTHING AND BEING LIKE OTHER SMART KIDS. ( my own personal experience)
@milimeter3529
3 жыл бұрын
my mom would get mad at me when I got an 83% on a test. My classmates made fun of me and told me I was “craving attention” because I got stressed when I got a B. I was just raised with that mentality.
@sunpyro
3 жыл бұрын
YEAH!! when i tell to my parents that i got good grades they say "so what? that's your job. that's what you are supposed to do, you didn't do anything special."
@lunajz-1584
3 жыл бұрын
They don't even seem proud when I get good grades but pissed off when I get a lower grade :/ I was "gifted" in elementary and middle school but now I'm just trying to get normal grades and chill 'cause I realized grades are a bs and don't say how much you're worth or good at something but just how much you're good at memorizing informations you'll forget as soon as you get out of school..
@Supernovacauser
3 жыл бұрын
@@milimeter3529 exactly I went through that too! Only the other kids that had parents like me understood!
@Supernovacauser
3 жыл бұрын
@@lunajz-1584 I know. I was “gifted” from kinder to 4 then 5th grade hit me like a rock. And I was getting yelled at left and right
@vinvin9146
3 жыл бұрын
As a "gifted kid", I've always had good grades and all that. And you know, all your classmates know about it. At first it wasn't really a problem at all. I felt like people thought I was just the "smart girl", and I kind of liked it. But now, this is just pressure. I can't even answer a question in class because I'm scared. They have expectations. They think I'm the best so I must be the best. I have to be the best. So I just stopped answering, because what if I was wrong? They'll start to think I'm useless and stupid. My teacher will start to think I'm stupid. I don't want that. I'm just feeling like I'm about to give up any minute now.
@Zahra-dn4dl
3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry to hear you're going through so much. I hope you feel better soon.
@nameless_entity2070
2 жыл бұрын
Girlll yes! I have the EXACT same problem. Everytime a question is asked, I hide my face and my anxiety takes over. And it doesn’t help that there are some other good students in class and teachers love pitting us against each other. And when I get a question wrong? Oh boy, the embarrassment, the JUDGEMENT. Recently I haven’t been scoring as well as I used to…and I keep hearing these sympathy comments “what happened? You used to study well.” The teachers who praised me are really mean to me now.They make snarky remarks like they used to with the “dumb kids”
@emiliacovaciu3490
2 жыл бұрын
It looks like we are living the same life... Everything will get better,at least I hope so every day..
@itz_ary
2 жыл бұрын
Keep going honey but it's important to remind yourself why this is so important to you. GIVE yourself a reason to wake up every morning to study and do homework, and go to school and just live because i know sometimes it's hard to just breath but bear with it. Please. And you're not stupid, society simply failed to tell us that it was okay to make mistakes, that it was wrong for others to belittle us of our short comings and that we didn't have to be perfect all the time. And please put your health first. Their expectations mean nothing if it's the weapon that's hurting you.
@mohamadfaizzudin6869
2 жыл бұрын
@@itz_ary nicely put words, great job. And it helps me too ;]
@Nana-vl1zb
3 жыл бұрын
(Vent) I’m not a gifted kid. I’m the kid that’s too mentally exhausted to do anything. But that not an excuse for anything. I make c’s and d’s and I’m a upcoming senior. I’m not even sure I’m going to graduate and I’m so fucking scared of my future. I don’t wanna disappoint my family but it’s just so fucking hard all the time. I didn’t even think I’d make it this far in life. I don’t know what to do. I know imma have to suck it up and deal with it but it’s just so so hard.
@yarrow6419
3 жыл бұрын
I would suggest joining the military after high school, and then after that you can go to college/get a degree(I'm pretty sure the tuition would be either free or very low with military benefits). Or, you could become a real estate agent since that doesn't require a college degree, all you need would be to pass the real estate exam.
@braindeadgaming808
2 жыл бұрын
the most annoying part of all of this is that there are people out there that genuinely think that 'gifted kids' not only don't deserve empathy but deserve pain just because they are gifted
@ximenagarza4321
3 жыл бұрын
Dude this could not be more relatable
@olxs
3 жыл бұрын
Ikr?
@ren-ee2zp
3 жыл бұрын
same tbh
@ximenagarza4321
3 жыл бұрын
@@olxs same I deleted mine too bc I didn’t wanna look dumb
@ximenagarza4321
3 жыл бұрын
@@olxs but yeah gifted kid burnout is such a mood, especially coming from one
@Vient0
3 жыл бұрын
Same
@nex.rat.c0splay800
3 жыл бұрын
Is it just me or do other "gifted kids" have the same problem; not being able to distinguish between romantic and platonic attraction Edit: I figured it out! I'm aroace (though that's just me)
@h1bbers
3 жыл бұрын
HEY OMG ME TOO 😍😍
@ndpluto4197
3 жыл бұрын
Yesssir/maam/ person
@NyanGelatOak
3 жыл бұрын
you called me out so hard man
@Emily-mf2il
3 жыл бұрын
Me too!
@blancarose5617
3 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way :)
@macyco2031
3 жыл бұрын
starting with "are you satisfied" is a power move
@cottonycloud
3 жыл бұрын
I wish I wasn’t “gifted” and a perfectionist sometimes. When I failed my first test a few weeks ago (in math, I’m in 10th grade) I had a breakdown. Luckily I was at home when that happened, but it was still pretty bad. I felt useless. I was supposed to be smart, so why did I fail the test? I hate how so much pressure is put on us just because we’re “smarter’’ than everyone else. We’re still human beings. Human beings have limits. I also feel awful when I get a question wrong because of this
@e.k.1836
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah.
@kokichiouma436
2 жыл бұрын
As another former gifted child, it's just a curse. The only validationit ever got was when I did something exceptionally good. I Failed a test yesterday (math for 11th grade) and I cried for two hours in my room and am currently crying because my parents found out. I recently had to get an emotional support animal to help with my panic attacks as recommended by my therapist, and it came as a shock to my parents that I needed one. Sorry for rambling I just needed to talk about it to help me calm down.
@jasm1n33xx
2 жыл бұрын
this. i always wish i wasn't so smart. just in between.. just not dumb.. but not "oh wow ur so smart i could never do that question" type of smart, yk?
@kastellia1927
2 жыл бұрын
I’m a “gifted” perfectionist too, and honestly it’s tiring. People expect so much from me just because I’m gifted. I’m not even that smart, I suck at math and science, the only thing I’m super great at is reading and ELA. I’m not like neutral in anything, I suck terribly at math, music, science, PE, art, and I’m super good at spelling and ELA. And it’s only those two. Nothing else.
@ezraza_
2 жыл бұрын
It’s been going on for as long as I can remember. I’m not even a teen and I feel so pressured. I got a B in one of my classes and like you I had a breakdown scared for show my mom. Even now, my grades dropped to B’s and two A’s I feel so burnout and overwhelmed.
@ohnod1488
3 жыл бұрын
I still firmly believe that I would have been so much better if they never told me or my mother that I was "gifted", I would be better with my mom knowing me as the average kid with 80 - 90 grades that likes to draw and stuff like that instead of her thinking that I'm a 100/100 student and a genius or something like that and that "can do so many good things" and other lies I can't remember right now
@mcmona4171
3 жыл бұрын
I want to hug everyone in the comment section. You deserve a break.
@4ngrybvnny
3 жыл бұрын
We can forget about you either :)) 🫂 love you!
@Killingjoke2
3 жыл бұрын
Thanks,and you deserve a break too.🤗
@purgatory-013
3 жыл бұрын
Currently crying atm so thank you :D
@mcmona4171
3 жыл бұрын
@@purgatory-013 Is there anything you need to talk about? Getting a warm drink, treating myself, listening to music and cosy in to bed makes me feel better. (Though I am a lot better now I'm medicated) :')
@purgatory-013
3 жыл бұрын
@@mcmona4171 i mean I already vented and i just cried a bit so i feel a little better BUUUTTT big announcement i just showered 😗💅 (I haven’t showered because i was sad)
@tiptup2816
3 жыл бұрын
"You guys need to go easier on her, shes way too above in the class." -My stupid 2nd grade teacher to my parents For context, i was a very smart kid. For as long as i could remember my father was taught me how to tend to myself alone, how to draw, count, speak, and everything else when i was very very young. He was very strict to ensure that i learned it. Infact, when i did my business in a DIAPER hed get mad at me, even though i was still a mere toddler. If i said something wrong, WACK. If i did something wrong, WACK. If my hand writing was bad, WACK. This taught me to be very self disciplined and hard on myself. I was obsessed with being perfect. "Oh shes so smart for her age!" "You drew this? This is amazing!" "Youre doing so well!" I loved getting compliments because it meant i did something right, and that would mean no discipline. When I reached the age to get to school, we couldnt hold the house we had. My father stayed at home to take care of my brother and i while my mother worked night-shift. It still wasnt enough, though. Thank goodness, my grandparents had a house that we could stay in. I was grateful for it, yes, but it wasn't an ideal place for kids to be in. There were molds left right and center, and the small room all 4 of us stayed in was barely enough to fit. Not only the inside, but the neighborhood was horrid as well. Almost every night we heard gunshots and police sirens. My parents never let me play outside or even step foot out. I remember i had a neighbor whos dog would bark every night, theyd take their dog for a walk, go out in their truck occasionally. They had a Cubs banner outside their house as well. A normal life. Although, one day they stopped walking their dog. Their dog was silent, no barks were heard. Their truck never moved. Its like they evaporated out of thin air one day. It may be me being paranoid, but i thought it was very weird. With a bad neighbors, meant bad school! Yay! 😁🔫 My private school was only 2 minutes away, the only reason i went. It was a very weird school. Not only did the teachers not do anything about the now normal students cussing each other out during study, but they had an odd way of teaching. Everyone had to be on the same page. Nobody moved up nor down. All of the smart kids had to wait until the slower kids caught up. But they never took the time to boost up the dumber ones. I was far more smarter than almost everyone in my 2nd grade class. When everyone was learning cursive, id already known it since kindergarten. It felt nice being that kid who got better grades than everyone else. But my teachers of course, did not approve. "Oh shes very smart! Smarter than most of them!" Mrs. T spoke during the parent-teacher conference. "Shes a great role model too. Shes like the Hail Mary, without the talking of course." "Well thats good to hear, anything else?" "Oh yes, I was thinking about it- I think you guys need to go easier on her, shes way too above in the class." Those words echo through my head everyday. My family and i took her stupid advice. Im not self disciplined anymore, i barely get any work done, barely get compliments, etcetc. When I reached 5th i got out of that hellhole. I ended up moving to a public school that was much more nicer than the other. One problem, since everyone at the previous school needed dumber kids to catch up, i ended up getting dumber along the way. When i reached my new school it was so much more difficult. My old school was teaching how division worked while this school taught how to divide decimals. I fell behind. I went from being smarter amongst dumber kids to being dumber amongst smarter kids. During panic attacks id wonder if id still be in the same position if it werent for my teacher. My grades eventually lowered due to stress and a hunger to be perfect, to getting compliments again. Maybe i was a narcissist, but i just wanted an affirmation of some sort. "Why are you proud of a B?" "What happened, Sophia? You used to be perfect. Now youre.. this." "Your drawings lately have been horrible. Cmon now!" "Youre doing this all wrong!" "Stop f^cking everything up like you always do!" Now im older, still behind and procrastinating. Though i hate my 2nd grade teacher, i blame myself for taking her advice. I fully blame myself for it all. These days i still hope my younger, more passionate, self was still there. Like itd emerge from the shadows.
@samsunggalaxya1323
3 жыл бұрын
I read everything You can still learn to be disciplined now You don't have to be perfect, but it's enough to be better than yesterday
@missalainab
3 жыл бұрын
I just read all of this :( i relate so bad, and i’m so sorry you went through all of this at such a young age. i bet you’re a beautiful thing, a kind soul, and a general pleasure to be around. i hope things get better, and i love you /p
@cheez1012
3 жыл бұрын
The people who are usually "smart" missed out on something important as a child. They may be viewed as an "excellent role model" but since they are missing that one something from their childhood (affection, friends, anything) , it eventually catches up to them and they start struggling (Like for example, always feeling the need for you to be *perfect* , to be *accepted* by other people, being *approved* of, by other people, doing things and receiving things you never got to do, or got, as a child. Honestly, life is hard and complicated, too much of something or too less of something can really affect you. It hurts that some people are oblivious to this, and that some people view (and peer pressure) "smart gifted people" like some perfect angel, when they are just humans, and look down upon them with the slightest mistake. Also, the "smart gifted" people probably worked their absolute asses to get where they currently are. Just saying-
@chenlee7989
3 жыл бұрын
I hope you are doing good! Remember, if you need to, vent it out! Don't keep it all in, I hope you are doing well, thank you beri much for this comment. It made me realize some stuff. I hope you have a good day :D
@austing2473
3 жыл бұрын
I'm literally crying. "Why are you proud of a B" hit me like a freight train. Not me over here with my intrusive thoughts and perfectionist parents
@zero-braincells
2 жыл бұрын
As a "gifted kid", I'm always my own critic and even though my parents don't care about my grades, I feel that if I get an easy question wrong that I'm a failure. Also, I act so much different than others in my class and they constantly bully me for it even though I can't control my brain....plus my mind is years older than I am but sometimes it's younger so I seem older in class but I act younger when with friends
@alba7835
2 жыл бұрын
We're in the same situation. I feel so out of place, my "best friend" litteraly told me that I'm not like kids my age. I'm supposedly so mature but at the same time I like to do silly things like children. I feel so burnt out and tired. I have to keep my grades up, being the top 1 of my class, because if I fail I will lose my worth and disappoint myself.
@zero-braincells
2 жыл бұрын
@@alba7835 life sucks
@HellsGreatestAngel
9 ай бұрын
Wow, my grades are doing good! I’m really happy! Omg I got tested and I’m gifted? So cool! I’m making so many new friends!? I’m popular? My bestie is popular too, cool! (Oh… she’s popular now) I didn’t know debate was her thing… At least I still have better grades than her! My first B. I’m nothing compared to her Is she even my friend? I have to drop out of debate I guess… More Bs, more anxiety attacks. My friends are… not hanging out with me anymore? Everyone else is going on dates, but no one asked me out… “Why aren’t you paying attention in class!?” I don’t know what to do… “Why am I still here..?” It all started with the As. My parents loved it, I was super smart, and I was always cool because of it. When I got my first B, they didn’t care either. But it was like a switch in my brain that just went “you have to do better” and then I started taking Italian, and the pressure to be number one on the charts for my school. All to catch up with the friends that I always thought was my equals. That’s how quick this stuff can develop. Stay safe out there
@kara1996
3 жыл бұрын
as a classified “moderate” gifted child w an iq of 142, ive always had pressure put on me to be the “best of the best” by my incredibly gifted family of draft athletes, architects, and entrepreneurs. they’re pushing me to become a UN diplomat or a government journalist and i’ve always gone with their demands up until the start of the pandemic. after i came out as queer they gradually began to lose respect for me and said that “our family doesn’t need people like you” . after 8 years of nonstop working i began to feel the effects on my mental health. i was diagnosed with OCD and my grades declined. now i feel like everything’s gone to shit.
@lunaacath
3 жыл бұрын
Oh dear, I'm so sorry that it turned out like that! I hope you will be better soon O(≧∇≦)O♡
@zumzoz7245
3 жыл бұрын
It can get better, at least people won't hurt you as much if you know how shitty everyone of us is
@pandarathernotsay7627
3 жыл бұрын
i wish i could gift words of comfort, but all that i have to offer is a "me too", and a few scraps of "it'll get better"
@bakedpotato5037
3 жыл бұрын
POV: It’s like everyone is so proud that you are a perfect child but it just starts to become a expectation and you start to become hard on yourself and start crying in the littlest of mistakes and always make fake dreams that everyone still thinks your the best. And everything just starts feeling fake
@lemonstrawberries1316
3 жыл бұрын
To be very honest, I feel like as a "gifted kid" I am so unhappy with grades, not even just 94s in one class, I just want 98s-100s grades, and when I am confident in my scores, people are better and I am so unsatisfied. Yes, I work hard and try my best to pay attention to school, even prep before for my grades, but it doesn't feel right for me to keep on being an overachiever yet I still want to be a better student to get validation and other people are better than me, making me so unhappy. Sorry for overspilling my feelings. Edit: To those who are reading this and can relate to this I'm sorry this is happening to all of you I truly do and wish you the best of luck, and sometimes just realize. This is just school and where you get advancements ahead in life. but that'll never define who you are in the future because it is much more important on your skills and personality.
@airuwu682
3 жыл бұрын
it's fine if you don't mind could I do the same?
@lemonstrawberries1316
3 жыл бұрын
@@airuwu682 of course feel free to (*^-^*)
@airuwu682
3 жыл бұрын
Lemonstrawberries thank so much, so both my parent control different aspects of my life. My dad, softball. My mom music and teakwondo. They have this habit of signing me up for thing without telling me so sometimes I feel as if my life is completely out of my control. Also I feel whatever I do is never enough for them like whenever I have a game I get really scared and freed game time sometimes it really bad and I'll close my door and start hyperventilating well not really just like my breathing quickens and I start tearing up but I can stop it, when I hear someone come near my door I cover my mouth and tell myself everything fine and that I should stop. Most days I don't want to wake up but the fear of one of my parents busting into my room is usually good enough reason to get up. And they'll sign me up for so many things it's jay really stressful. Like my dad will just sign me up for softball stuff that I don't even want to do but I'm to scared he'll yell at me if I say no cause he already spent then money on it and my mom guilt trips me into doing thing like if I say no then she'll tell me that I'll never make it in life and things like that. And after all this they still expect me to do good in school like my lowest grades will be 80 and they'll be pissed. I've just lost motivation to do most things
@lemonstrawberries1316
3 жыл бұрын
@@airuwu682 I'm so sorry that happened and I understand the feeling, sometiimes my parents can be a little controlling when it comes to wanting to improve
@airuwu682
3 жыл бұрын
@@lemonstrawberries1316 yeah sometimes thing suck like that but hopefully things will get better I mean when you hit rock bottom you can only go up right? but really if people don't realize how much of an amazing person you are, then that's their problem I mean you just let a complete stranger spill their guts, listened and replied so you've got a good heart and thats something that deserves recognition to. I know it sounds hard but take a break once in while and think about what you want. I know it's easier said then done one reason I'm not good comfort lol. I say these things, but really from what you've said you deserve a break even you don't take one, keep in mind that you deserve one and maybe that'll be enough. ( ´・・)ノ(._.`) (me trying my best to comfort you lol)
@lexa6570
2 жыл бұрын
Man, this playlist hits differently as someone who was once told “the only good thing about you is your intelligence” :))
@alba7835
2 жыл бұрын
I assure you that your worth is much greater than that. Your intelligence isn't the only good thing about you. I know I'm just a random youtube user, but trust me. You got this, everything will get better.
@lexa6570
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the kind words :”) I really appreciate them
@alba7835
2 жыл бұрын
@@lexa6570 You don't have to thank me :( I can't stand people feeling this way because of things they're told. I just hope you have a good life
@moxxpoxxdisease
2 жыл бұрын
I know I've never met you, but I know there are so many other good things about you. I'm so sorry somebody ever told you that. I hope you don't have to hear things like that again.
@HellsGreatestAngel
9 ай бұрын
Way too relatable. Especially when you’ve slipped in your other hobbies/interests. Used to be the “popular leader debate kid” now all I am is “test answers” lol
@cutiekanroji7969
3 жыл бұрын
❗(TW: mentions of self-harm and suicide) It was so stressful being the "gifted kid". Especially when it came to mental health. When I first expressed how I felt, most people looked at my grades and said, "Well, your grades are good so what's the issue?" Then when my grades dropped, people were quick to say "You can do better. What's wrong with you? Why are you like this?" All of a sudden, people like me started harming themselves and dying left and right. Even then, grades were the main priority. We were given school counselors who barely helped and pep talks but no actual form of therapy. Sometimes I find it surprising that I made it this far. I'm turning 20 next month but I didn't think I'd make it past 15.
@lukefouche8724
3 жыл бұрын
I really dont know if i can make it past 15 😭
@4ngrybvnny
3 жыл бұрын
I’m proud of you, I really am. I though I wouldn’t make it past 15, but here I am turning 16 this year. :) honestly I’m so damn proud of you for coming so far
@airuwu682
3 жыл бұрын
really proud of you! you got this! and happy early birthday! you're amazing and deserve to be happy! hope you have a good day!
@airuwu682
3 жыл бұрын
@@4ngrybvnny Happy early birthday, really glad you were able to keep pushing! I'm proud of you! (* ̄3 ̄)╭
@hwaslvtt
3 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this... I thought I wasn’t going to last past 13 or 14 and now im 16, but still struggling heavily. I was supposed to end it all fairly recently a few times but i was able to be calmed down by someone close. However, I hope everyone is doing okay, getting okay rest, taking breaks, and staying hydrated. I love you❤️ you’re feelings are valid, its okay to be stressed, but please, make sure to take care of yourselves!
@flavianesilva1979
2 жыл бұрын
I had to hear from my own sister that i only "sleep and study" when i'm the one keeping the house clean and fighting depression, she thinks i'm lazy but i'm tired....i went from the golden child, best student of the class, to disappointment of the family and motive of gossip. I'm tired
@caffeinationstation
3 жыл бұрын
"Because it's my problem if I wanna pack up and run away.." I felt that on a spiritual level.. Running away has always seemed really fun..
@mafuyuki3603
3 жыл бұрын
I even tried to run away once, but i realized that i left my bread 😥
@DeceitfulWineAddict
3 жыл бұрын
I ran away but got caught by a cop, I lied my way out of it snd my parents had to pick me up. I got slapped hard and they went through my entire phone, I panicked because my girlfriend called me. I got yelled at more. I had to tell them something that gave me ptsd just so they would stop. They called pastor, his wife, and my grandparents. I got prayed over even if I didn't want it. They wouldn't stop asking questions about my situation for a month. They stopped caring after and threaten to send me to a therapist no matter how many times I say I don't wanna just because I don't listen. Edit: The told them everything knowing damn well grandma is the type to tell everyone everything.
@animoo.
2 жыл бұрын
@@mafuyuki3603 LMAO Once I ran away to my backyard tree only to come inside and use the bathroom 😃
@sashat4833
3 жыл бұрын
Hi, I've fallen and have become someone who doesn't care about my grades in uni and constantly feel like I don't belong here with my batchmates!! :D
@purgatory-013
3 жыл бұрын
Same but im 13 :D
@sashat4833
3 жыл бұрын
@@purgatory-013 :( hope you get through this okay! find your interest and find supportive people to be around! even if this doesn't matter, I believe in you!! Also, grades really do not matter and you still have so much time to figure out who you are okay! what people think or where you are on the school/class ranking doesn't matter, as long as you're doing better and improving at your own pace everyday, that's more than enough! hope I'm not being an "annoying adult". Good luck!
@purgatory-013
3 жыл бұрын
@@sashat4833 you’re being the best adult in my life, honestly but were i live we don’t even have class rankings, they only use my other grades and say “you can do better” when i already tried my best and it kinda hurts buti am currently alright (“alright” is i just had a mental breakdown)
@sashat4833
3 жыл бұрын
@@purgatory-013 sorry to hear that you just had mental breakdown and I'm glad you're fine now. I just wanna say that you've done super good so far and as long as you are doing your best, then you have done more than enough! It'll take time to understand what works for you and what's the best way to study, but you'll get where yo wanna be! Work hard but take rests along the way too. Also, if you ever feel like you're not progressing or getting worst grades than before, don't take it too hard and know that it's okay to not reach your goals cause its a part of the journey, okay! You've got this! (gosh i wish that i was talking to 13 year old me ;-;)
@purgatory-013
3 жыл бұрын
@@sashat4833 thank you I appreciate it ❤️
@foxja1
2 жыл бұрын
Any other “gifted kids” excel in in subjects like history and English so people wouldn’t pay them much attention when they were doing bad at math and science and then it became too late, then you get blamed for not understanding a subject no one put effort into teaching you because like the rest they assumed it would come naturally.
@Astral_Drift
2 жыл бұрын
It's finally in words
@AC-ow5kx
2 жыл бұрын
I'm having difficulties in grasping the basic concept of math and science as well. I aced in any other subjects tho :')
@abunchofrandomnumbers
2 жыл бұрын
"Our daughter Isabella is amazing she is getting great grades." "Yeah, Izy is getting behind in math." "It's really bad with Isabella, her grades are really low." "Yeah, Isabella says that she is "Genderfluid." and wants to be called Rae, what a lot of shit." "Bella is in the psych ward, she tried to kill herself but the dose wasn't enough, probably on purpose she just wants attention." "She is failing all of her classes and keeps hanging out with these boys, breaking the law, sneaking out at night." "She ran away, she wants everyone to think we are bad parents because she wants to be cool." "I fucking hate Isabella, she was so good and we didn't do anything wrong she was obviously a bad egg."
@Lily-kl5gp
2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that they’re like that. Some people are really just not understanding of anybody’s situation. I tried to come out to my parents as nonbinary and they were just like “oh, but you’ll always be my little girl” and never even tried to research it or see my point of view. It’s frustrating and hurtful and it’s awful that people would have kids and not try to support them. I hope your situation gets better.
@abunchofrandomnumbers
2 жыл бұрын
@@Lily-kl5gp This reply made my day, thank you and I'm praying that it will, just want them to understand
@ascending.6794
2 жыл бұрын
I know I'm 7 months later, and I'm not sure if other people feeling sorry makes you uncomftable, but hey Rae, things will get better, and if they don't, hey, there's always people willing to help like friends or even strangers on the internet! I'm in no place to tell you all this, but I hope your parents become supportive towards you! I'm pretty awful at comforting, but I really hope this made you feel better in any way! Take care, Rae, and I hope they understand soon.
@thothunter7708
2 жыл бұрын
This one. This one hit me like bricks.
@Sprout8467
2 жыл бұрын
Hang in there Rae, hang in there…
@seren6821
2 жыл бұрын
Reading all these comments made me realize how well we all did. I was the teacher's pet, constantly asked for homework left and right, never wanting to ruin my school reputation. Afraid of disappointment. Friendly with all teachers, friendly with all people whether bad or good. Studied, isolated in my room until I cried out of frustration. I used flashcards, tested myself over and over, expectations overflowing. 4.0 GPA, high-achiever, yes to everything asked of staff members. But hey, don't get me wrong I did have my closest friend supporting me and the teachers were kind, but I realized that I didn't do it for myself. I did it for others. In order to not fail their expectations. As one said in the comment section, you show them you're talented at a young age and they're amazed, amazement turns into expectations, expectations turns into standards and then anything less than that is a mistake. And I'm tired. So now entering highschool, even as my relatives may be angered by my actions, I'm doing what I want and feel like. I haven't given up on my grades but I'm not pressured anymore by anyone other than myself. I am taking my own path and it is hard but I love this feeling I've taken upon myself, it feels refreshing. You who is reading this should too...
@serenityo8572
2 жыл бұрын
100% yes
@dani_drawzz
2 жыл бұрын
That’s great. I’m happy you got to become who you wanted. (?)
@thatsnailboi1598
2 жыл бұрын
how's it going? I've been trying to get lower grades and prioritize my mental health and it HASN'T WORKED, back in November I was like "ok, next trimester I'm not going to try as hard, I'm going to prioritize my mental health" and then I proceeded to get directors list (I got a 96.3% academic average) and,,, yeah, FUCK
@cursedkomodo
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@ccadukay9420
2 жыл бұрын
Your experience is exactly what I'm going through right now. I'm not fully healed yet but I'm taking my time, and I hope you do as well.
@elija-m
3 жыл бұрын
I was gifted kid in 2-5 and it was fine I never had to study, and I was flying through books. 6th was when I realized I wasn’t as “gifted” as they said I am.The starting point for that was in 4th grade when I was diagnosed with adhd and anxiety. I’m in 7th grade and just say it’s sucks, cause I’ve fallen right back into the gifted child crap again. Almost all my classes are advanced and in my science class I was says “the one who’s always ahead” I nearly bursted into tears but I just kept sliming. And I’ve finished a 400 page book in 3 days.I hate that I’m like this, add family pressure to it and it’s a nightmare.
@Amy-oo7mq
3 жыл бұрын
Yep I feel ya m8. I was seen as the "smart kid" to everyone but they would become extremely confused when I said that I didn't get all As like I was expected to. Turns out, I have adhd and anxiety which made it basically impossible for me to "reach my full potential." So I was seen just as wasted potential to my teachers
@sifee
2 жыл бұрын
are we the same person
@kokichiouma436
2 жыл бұрын
11th grader here. I feel your pain. I was diagnosed with ADHD, Anxiety, and Bipolar (Bipolar and Anxiety is pretty recent, with ADHD I've known about for 10-11 years) and it's all downhill from here for me. But just keep pushing through, you'll survive this and you'll survive high-school. Hope it gets better for you kid.
@sonalipathare3171
2 жыл бұрын
Wow, I happen to completely relate to a stranger.. I'm in 7th grade too btw
@athena1837
2 жыл бұрын
@@alderaan1931 actually you can stop, not intentionally tho. the expectations will never end tho. even if they see you as a failure. they still expect you to be perfect even if they see right in front of them how much of a failure I am. and they would say "i changed" and "I'm not the person they used to be proud of"
@sophiadenate7822
2 жыл бұрын
To the burnout "gifted" kids out here, let's be friends:'))
@lilac041519
2 жыл бұрын
hello
@justinkianaalfredo6843
2 ай бұрын
Well in my case, a different I was never a gifted kid I was naturally born stupid and im aware I only got 90/100 ish on second grade before it came crashing down like a fautly airplane So im sorry.
@aadhya3229
3 жыл бұрын
i wasnt a gifted kid to my dad/family, but to my other peers i was. i even heard one time of a guy saying "at least we got the smart girl in class for the project so we even barely pass" then pointed to me. honestly i love compliments but now i have to keep up that reputation 😀
@theangelofheavenswashroom
3 жыл бұрын
ngl the addition of thats how the world works adds that feeling of not being able to get out of gifted programs and always having to follow the narrative of the system
@cryptid_scrinkle
3 жыл бұрын
as the gifted kid that is slowly going insane I greatly relate to and appreciate this playlist 😃😔 /g
@CHILLMEDEADproductionsofficial
2 жыл бұрын
this playlist was made specifically for me, I went from " a special/golden child" to "the family disappointment antisocial child " and now I've slowly gone insane about how to be perfect at everything to be a better child in my family.
@camarin713
3 жыл бұрын
I’m surprised that “All Eyes on Me” isn’t part of this playlist! That song is pretty much the soundtrack to whenever I’m having an existential crisis as a former honor student, staring up at the ceiling and wondering where it all went wrong, and where do I go from here
@KnightDemonZZ
2 жыл бұрын
And when you mess up it feels like everyone's looking at you.
@lazybee8201
2 жыл бұрын
The BATIM song?
@lacielily
3 жыл бұрын
"You can be whatever you want." What does that even matter if I don't even know what to do with my life. "You're the inspiration for the rest of your class!" No, no I'm not, please don't try saying stuff like that, it makes me uncomfortable. Most of these people hate me. "You're so smart, you shouldn't be spending all your time on the internet." This is my only place of finding comfort at this point, please don't try to take these people who will actually listen to me away from me. "Why aren't you talking more with your classmates?" These people are fvcking hateful towards everyone, you really want me to be friends with people who've legit told trans people to just h4ng themself? "You're such a good kid, keep on going with that!" Stop trying to compliment me, it makes me feel like I need to live up to even more of your expectations. "Open more up, we're your parents." I don't like you, just because I liked you when I was 5 doesn't mean I still like you, you called me a monster, do you really think I'll still love you? "Why don't you want a hug?" You "affection" doen't feel like love anymore, please stop. "Stop using your headphones, you're just locking yourself up in a bubble." This gives me comfort, I don't like you listening to everything I do, it makes me uncomfortable. "You have such a pretty body, you should show it off more!" Okay, p3d0. "I know what you're going through." No. No you fvcking don't. You did not have to live in constant fear of being kicked out of your house for being a part of the LGBTQ+. You didn't have to get misgendered on a daily basis. You did not feel insecure about your body. You actually liked yourself, I don't. Don't even try to say that you know me, my friends know me better than my own family.
@Sofia-rg6qw
3 жыл бұрын
(Bit of a vent) THIS LITERALLY DESCRIBES ME PERFECTLY, also, since when I was in the first year of elementary my teachers would alway complain about my shyness, now that I’m in middle school I can’t make any new friends because of it😔 I also have developed anxiety and social anxiety and I seriously don’t understand the people that make these things look quirky, I AM THIS ANTI-SOCIAL GIRL ALWAYS IN HER OWN BUBBLE THAN CAN NEVER OPEN UP TO PEOPLE AND HAS TRUST ISSUES, WHEN I’M AWAY FROM SOCIALS NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME, WHY DO PEOPLE WANT TO MAKE THIS A QUIRK?!!?! My parents think that I’m over-exaggerating and my mom in particular thinks that this whole thing is a trend; Most of my classmates want to be me (I hate them) they insult me one day and then the other one they tell me “I wIsh I wErE yOu”
@lacielily
3 жыл бұрын
@@Sofia-rg6qw I hope things get better for you soon, and that these people will just leave you alone. Best of luck from here
@Sofia-rg6qw
3 жыл бұрын
@@lacielily 💖💖 Same for my parents
@leoplays5828
3 жыл бұрын
That's so me. At least my classmates support me and are friendly, I don't hate them, but when I hinted being trans to my mother she made a fuss out of it. I hate that. Also my mother and her family are so... "you gotta accept my affection" and touch me without my consent, even when I don't like it and I stated so. But it never matters. It never matters what I can say
@lacielily
3 жыл бұрын
@@leoplays5828 Ayy, parents who don't understand consent ganggg!
@finniatias
3 жыл бұрын
Personally, I’ve never been considered “gifted” more like “special” because of my adhd and aspergers, but I still constantly suffer from burnout, have little to no motivation and struggle to get out of bed every morning and it kind of makes me feel guilty because so many others suffer so much from trying to work hard and I don’t even work hard and still suffer from burnout... I try to study and stuff but in the end I always just fall back into the hole of feeling useless and giving up on everything and I’ve never really understood what “gifted” kids go through but these comments are helping me realize thankfully, I always thought “gifted” kids had it easy but I was very wrong. Anyway, sorry for the vent if anyone reads this lol
@aeres1602
3 жыл бұрын
Its alright ! This is a safe place for all of us ^^
@expired3939
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, this is exactly me!
@teshin6333
2 жыл бұрын
Everytime I fulfill their expectations it becomes the norm, and the expectations get higher and higher until a tiny slip is disappointing. I can't keep impressing them.
@jeaniebee.
3 жыл бұрын
So I'm going to highschool this year, and honestly I am terrified. I did online schooling all year and was doing okay. I got all A's except the B I got in Algebra. My parents were so angry, I cried myself to sleep that day. I studied so much but I couldn't be "perfect", I couldn't satisfy them. I am so fucking tired but the show must go on. Thanks for reading my ted talk. :)
@myname-rz4zk
3 жыл бұрын
I know this might be hard but you need to study for yourself and get the grades YOU want - not what your parents want. You don’t need to be perfect at everything to be successful. If you think B’s seems achievable for you, work for that. High school is difficult. You need to make time for your mental health or you will burn out and risk failing - which isn’t a bad thing but a low grade is better than a fail. There’s no point in stressing yourself out about subjects which you can’t realistically be perfect at. Just do what you need to get into college or the job you want. That’s enough. You are enough. You can always study more if you want but I suggest limiting it to a set amount of time per day (and have days off of course). Mental health should ALWAYS be a priority. I am always here if you need to talk. Good luck with high school x
@moonvioletillustrations6313
3 жыл бұрын
Sweetheart, you’ve got to protect yourself. Even if you cannot speak outwardly to your parents know in your heart that you are good enough. You know what you have done to get where you are, you tried your hardest and no one, , can ask you for a shred more than that. Nothing and more importantly no one is perfect. Believe me, I’ve spent my entire life chasing that ideal dream. It’s progress over perfection, your best is away the perfect answer. And most importantly, work on satisfying yourself as much as you can in the environment you are in. What is it you truly want, why are you doing this? And sometimes just take a deep breath, you’ve survived 100% of your challenges. Keep thinking of the positives, if you look for the negatives, they are all far too easy to find. Shift your perspective and stay safe. I wish you nothing but the best.
@soupyeris
3 жыл бұрын
I remember when I was young I used to be the super gifted kid and then as the years progressed things 'declined' and with every "I thought you were smart" or "You've changed, stop being so lazy and do your work" it just goes downhill faster. So to all the other kids who feel burnt out or without the will to do anything, just remember you're still special no matter what anyone says! Now, does anyone wanna come along to commit some arson to the people telling us we aren't worth it :))?
@Vwumpum
2 жыл бұрын
Same even if I’m still only in 8th I feel burnt out as hell, during school I can hide it pretty well but by th time I get home it starts going downhill. I don’t really care anymore so I’m gonna rant HARD because I share a room with my (10 year or so) older brother it’s hard for me to vent my feeling anywhere but the bathroom and very late at night and even if I’m not the most gifted kid in my family I still did really well in school until quarantine online classes hit and everything fell apart my sister is two years older than me and she to me is essentially the most gifted kid in my family she was or at least seemed fine during quarantine and each day while I was staring straight through my screen into the void would call out to me and be like HEY PAY ATTENTION dumbass ok Fuck this never mind this is dumb ranting is hard I’m gonna go contemplate suicide again the worst part is having slightly egotistical Asian parents that barely understand English while I can’t understand Cantonese so it’s extra hard to communicate that I feel stressed and brothers that are way older than you so you can’t even argue with anything they say and went through something different and to them worse than what you did but they think it’s basically the same and lecture you on how they got through it so you should be able to as well even though your different people and don’t think even slightly the same and sisters who basically mock you when you don’t do something right even when my family tries to help me and I try to explain my feelings I have this weird thing where if I talk to someone older that me I almost always start crying even if I get mad and try to argue with them I start crying and being unable to speak so I run away into the bathroom to sit there for an hour contemplating slamming your head into the wall until you die and then being unable to hold grudges and be mad at them because you’re forced to be around them bottling up emotions until you explode at 3am and just break out crying but not screaming and hitting things or else they’ll wake up tell you they’ve had worse to shut the fuck up and go to sleep like god the amount of time I’ve wanted to take out shears and just kill everyone me then myself is uncountable
@Vwumpum
2 жыл бұрын
Also punctuation is dumb
@elioralivyadarennmangamba6958
2 жыл бұрын
yea boi imma go call c!niki and c!techno to join us do some arson * smirks *
@retro_geometry6050
2 жыл бұрын
i can bring the matches whos got the gasoline?
@stroyanielson3776
3 жыл бұрын
This might sound pretentious, but I actually managed to get into med school. But, I never liked bragging about it. Sure it _sounds_ good but what people don’t understand is that I _hate_ med school. Not in the beginning, no. I like studying a lot, because I like to ask weird things to figure out how things work. A lot of people like to be a little scientist too I’m sure. So it was fun that all my questions I’ve always wanted to know are answered by the doctoes and teachers who clearly know what they’re doing. The problem came when I am expected to _excel_ at med school. It was pressure, scary high pressure. None of my relatives are doctors unless married in. So I am expected to be the first one born into the family to succeed. It didn’t help that I was always first in class. I only wanted stellar grades because I was told that’s what you have to get be able to go into med school. I want to go to med school because I want my questions to be answered. I am also petty enough that the second reason why I wanna get in is because I wanna know if I can. And I did. But the pressure? The “I’m not mad just dissapointed” guilt tripping? The “Oh… a B” without no other comment? The “you’re a future doctor right? you surely know if I’m actually sick, right?” questions? The “you have to be perfect to succeed in life” advice? The “nobody would look for you because you’re socially anxious, so you need this to survive” type of advice? I hated all of it. I don’t want this anymore, I wanted to quit. I wanted to burn all my notebooks and start over. This was _not_ what I signed up for. But quitting med school? Hah! _You gotta be joking, right?_
@sillysage
3 жыл бұрын
Hey, do whatever you need go to better your mental health. you shouldn’t be held at such high standards to be the first one in your family to “succeed” - it’s such bs.
@jackirific3600
2 жыл бұрын
I feel exactly the same. I'm in med school second semester, its fricking insane. I never really wanted to do med school that much, but I was kinda just preassured into and thought thats the only thing I CAN do now, having no other plan for my future. I'm highly thinking of dropping out this first semester and pursueing another job, without a degree. But- I put in already two semsters and the pre-exam, getting A's and one B in my first semster. I have two B's and all A's now in this semester, but I'm drasticially struggling. My finals are next week. I'm not ready. I'm going to fail. I don't have money, I don't have the motivation. But surely I can't go on without a degree or plan? So I don't know. If I pass this semster I should just keep going, to have a plan. Theres nothing else I know what to do, even if this isn't what im intrested in. Sure, its cool. I like to learn, but I don't ever want to work in a clinic... I know I CAN do it, but do I WANT too? I've already proven that I could. But, what else sha'll I do? Anyways. Sorry for the long read. TL;DR: Life sucks due to preassure of being a "genius" and I don't know what to do from here.
@RustyCobaltBlue1937
2 жыл бұрын
oh hey! Other grown-up gifted kids who got into medical school! How's the ADHD and anxiety going?
@pedroivomendesrodstein8000
2 жыл бұрын
Medicine is like the mob. Once you are in, you know too much, you can't quit it alive. I should know, Im a doctor... BTW, I Know **EXACTLY** how you feel. Medicine is a huge area with lots of subcategories to specialize into. You can always find something to study that you forget it is medicine and actually is just good enough to get by. With me was sports medicine.
@full_of_scenarios3660
2 жыл бұрын
When my parents first found out about me being Autism, they would treat me like I was royalty. I used to think that I was their favorite. I was smart and they always give me praises. After a few years, I began failing my exams. Dad said that he is ashamed of me and having the ability to write stories won't take me anywhere if I don't start focusing on class. And I kept a deep hatred for them. From a gifted child to a crazy gender confuse bitch
@ava-nc9px
3 жыл бұрын
being the gifted kid in elementary school has set such high expectations for me in middle school
@Sofia-rg6qw
3 жыл бұрын
Yep, I was kinda keeping them up at first; once the pandemic hit everything’s been goin downhill
@chrissi975
3 жыл бұрын
I want you to know that even if someone were to strip you of your success or your archivements, that you would be of value and worthy of love anyways. Your archivements don't define your worth. You are great.
@indigo4801
2 жыл бұрын
I know this is true, but it's just so hard to believe, my mom compares me to my siblings and other people, and berates me for not doing well enough, so much so that my personality IS the smart kid, I don't know who I am anymore, I'm just sad and angry at how I was raised, and I wonder how I would be if I didn't go through all that. Besides this, she also yells at us all the time, I cannot trust anyone with my feelings and my struggles because I should be able to manage them on my own, right?
@pinkpearl9848
2 жыл бұрын
I thought I was so smart, and so special, and I was going to be a gifted kid my whole life Then I got sent to a school, where everyone was a gifted kid That went about as well as you expected
@jouz7959
2 жыл бұрын
That explains why a lot of "gifted kids" don't do well in college...
@deocole5902
3 жыл бұрын
i wouldnt say i was ever really "gifted" i guess things just came easily to me i could process things quicker than others and now when doing homework like word problems as a example i have to reread it like 3 times to fully process it and then figure out what the answer is and have to like redo five times so i dont even know why i just cant memorize things anymore and i wouldnt say i struggle with actually doing the work it just takes longer than it used to and that makes me lose motivation and that causes missing assignments. also when i get an assignment i have to do it right away or i will forget about it and have to do it last minute. ive written a 2-3 page essay in 30 minutes before because i forgot about and rememered 40 minutes before it was due. ok sorry for venting i was just angry and frustated with life i know probably no one is going to read this but have a good day remember to eat food and drink water also take a little bit to blink because your probably putting strain on your eyes by looking at a screen for too long
@snowshower4415
3 жыл бұрын
shit, i relate with you a lot. sometimes I try to make schedules or some planning to do better, but somehow things always take longer. even if i try to account for that, it always takes hours longer than i intend to. its so demotivating. i want to leave off on a happy note, but that's proving to be difficult, so, good luck.
@wi5534
3 жыл бұрын
As a gifted kid who has all of this songs in their playlist, I feel attacked
@hl1342
3 жыл бұрын
The gifted kid slowing going insane sounds like Light Yagami imo
@blank9922
3 жыл бұрын
Bruh don't out me
@justjose9212
2 жыл бұрын
When you're the "gifted kid" at a young age, you like people giving you compliments 'cause it means you did something good. But then you make a mistake, a single small one, and everyone is like: "Oh, I'm very disappointed, you had that question incorrect" "I thought you were good at this" "Even if you won, you made a mistake at that question" "Congrats! But you did a mistake there, do it better next time" I was fucking 9, with big dreams, but even though you did your best, it isn't enough. I needed a place to vent :|
@cctwilight1883
3 жыл бұрын
I feel this on a spiritual level. Everyone excepts so much of me and when you're feeling worn out and tired and start losing your grip and hold on life, you're called lazy. You're expected to be perfect when all you want is to stop pretending and start be yourself but you can't without being judged. When you finally let go, they make you believe that you're crazy and broken. Yes, you're gifted, but that doesn't mean that you're perfect and okay.
@Yuiini
3 жыл бұрын
I wasn’t necessarily gifted but rather I was Asian, because I was Asian people called me the “smart kid.” In reality I was just the quiet kid who nobody interacted with since I moved schools when everybody already had their friend groups and I was the odd one out.
@coolote6245
3 жыл бұрын
Dang, I’m sorry people stereotype and put expectations on you just because of your race, you’re also an individual with dreams and aspirations, not just someone who’s “smart”
@ginger_ailed4922
2 жыл бұрын
It honestly hurts a lot having super high standards set for you. It feelis like if you can't meet them, you're a failure. In my experiance, I would (and sometimes still do) get so used to blaming myself for my shortcomings that I blame myself for others as well. This playlist helped me a lot and I was able to get a good cry out of it that I really needed.
@KillahkNiGhTs
3 жыл бұрын
Ouch, the title kinda hit to close to home. Thank you for making this dude:)
@bug475
3 жыл бұрын
Was the ‘gifted kid’ when I was younger. My mom abandoned me, my grandma died of a stroke, then I got into a physically/emotionally/sexually abusive relationship. It caused me to give up, but because I did, everyone was so angry that I wasn’t doing as good as I used to. The more they yelled, the worse my grades got until the school put me in the alternative school. I graduate nearly a year early. Finished the online personal finance class in a single day by passing the pre-tests. Just because I’m ‘smart’ doesn’t mean I am capable of being pushed so hard towards being something I’m not. I dunno, but parents need to let their kids breathe.
@sadpenguin8616
3 жыл бұрын
sorry about that, john 3:16
@forgor4410
3 жыл бұрын
Woah, you can pass with just the pretests?
@bug475
3 жыл бұрын
@@forgor4410 yep! If you get a 60% or above (if I remember right) you get to skip that part.
@angerissues2922
3 жыл бұрын
I used to be the "the gifted kid" when I was in elementary school, but then I started middle school in the city and then suddenly everything just seems Soo hard and everything just seems to drain me. The most saddest thing is that I love art but nowadays I can't even pick up a pencil and it's like idk how to draw anymore, art is my only escape in life but now it isn't....
@khwezinkosi3976
2 жыл бұрын
Ouch, I felt this. I'm sorry about what you are going through it sucks I know. Technically my reality right now. Oh, and the art stuff.......same thing happens to me. Every time I pick up my pencil and say ok, today is the day but then I just end up staring at the blank page. Its like my brain short circuits or something and the I start feeling like shit because I can't even do the thing I love. Its also like the paper and pencil start taunting you........IT DRIVES ME NUTS!!!
@Koikocho
2 жыл бұрын
Ig I'll write s little poem for yall
@suzarara
3 жыл бұрын
its so hard meeting everyone's expectations.
@coolsaige
3 жыл бұрын
Me: reads title* Me: Wow, perfect for me
@cloudyskies9591
2 жыл бұрын
This is literally calling Me out-
@Tipsy_Turby
2 жыл бұрын
Ah, Marina, "Are you satisfied." That song is so meaningful to me. I was so invested in getting that grade. That grade that would impress my parents, that I forgot about myself, and when I finally got what I wanted, and finally had what I was working for all that time. I wondered, "Why am I not happy. Was it all for nothing?" I was in a really dark place during 2020 and 2021. That song was with me through it all. I'm doing so much better now. I wish luck, confidence, and happiness among all who are here. Stay safe out there guys.
@ruby-jj5cg
3 жыл бұрын
im never satisfied with myself, im always thinking of how i can be a better friend, better at school, better at my hobbies, etc the goals keep getting higher as soon as i reach them
@smolcatto7215
3 жыл бұрын
Because I'm the "gifted eldest daughter," I never got the chance to pursue my dream of becoming a beauty queen and was shamed for having that dream. I hate it here.
@generalgozdzikov7343
2 жыл бұрын
hope you become a beaty queen one day anyway
@Snightbite
2 жыл бұрын
"How could this happen to you two? You have such good grades," - my counselor to me while I sobbed after my friend had attempted.
@cloudyskies9591
2 жыл бұрын
I'm so sorry I hope you and your friend are okay now
@vivvygenteman
2 жыл бұрын
Jeez some teachers and counselors need to lower their expectations and stop being so obsessed with grades. Seriously the world doesn't revolve around grades- And I hope your friend is doing okay.
@fatimaioi8677
2 жыл бұрын
Is your friend doing okay? I hope you both are
@ricamagbanua6565
3 жыл бұрын
Everything is so dam good at first, having them compliment you.. then after a few years, not being able to maintain that you'll just get negative comments and eventually gets ignored... you get disappointed in yourself too... then during the transition between the age, you snap. a rope is the only thing that helps you. hell... what a journey.
@simondeluna8005
3 жыл бұрын
im not "gifted" or anything but everyone expects me to be one especially my parents, i can't get pass being average though and my parents are really disappointed in me because im not what they expect me to be.. im okay with having average grades when i was a kid, im just happy because i had fun and i passed on the next grade but my parents would yell and ground me for not reaching the grades they want me to have and then compare me to other kids who has the highest score. im trying to convince myself, now that im an adult, that its actually okay with being average but somehow it still gives me anxiety from time to time because i have perfectionist tendencies... does that count?
@SpikeyBagel
3 жыл бұрын
being a perfectionist, or even thinking like one, is a hard habit to break. in fact, it might just break you before you can break it. i know it's hard to break the habit because i haven't broken it. i also know some people who are/were perfectionists. one who was a perfectionist said it was very difficult to be okay with not being an overachiever all the time.
@spidersonyourscreen7820
3 жыл бұрын
Heh. Thx for fuelling my gifted burnout meltdown Nice songs to vibe to
@draculauraxox
Жыл бұрын
Not the 'gifted' kid, but the highly intelligent kid, the one everyone goes to for help with homework, the straight A+ student. I've worked myself so much and now it just doesn't work anymore. I'm slowly becoming a B student, with a few C's, too. I'm starting to hate myself.
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