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@bulelwamahura
25 күн бұрын
1. Want to fix partner 2. Ignoring impact of the past 3. Expecting partner to be everything 4. Minimising partner's values 5. Unintentional about intimacy 6. Lack of premarital counseling This is useful. Thank you, Steph
@marilynking527
24 күн бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏾
@thehebrewrapoholic
3 күн бұрын
All the things she has mentioned are things women do.
@kmoney1007
2 күн бұрын
All people are capable of doing this regardless of gender. lets not invitw division, @thehebrewrapoholic
@thehebrewrapoholic
2 күн бұрын
@@kmoney1007 to be honest that is what the truth does, division is a result of truth. I know of no man that wants to fix his wife but many marriages were wrecked by a woman that wanted to change her husband, if he changes she leaves and if he does not change she leaves, and this goes for all the 6 points, i only see women doing these things. Let us not focus on dividing or not but can you say that i have not written the truth?
@annacopeland2641
28 күн бұрын
I just had to comment… HAIR! Ok now I can watch the video 😂
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
Haha thank youuu!
@zeezy17
28 күн бұрын
💯💯 THIS!! The locs are locing
@blueblack3591
27 күн бұрын
The hair is great
@bluebutterfly5062
27 күн бұрын
Her hair is always on point fr I get inspired every time I watch a video ❤
@nobles.9348
20 күн бұрын
@@zeezy17those are boho braids 😅
@DarylSimpson58
23 күн бұрын
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient.
@peterwilliams6361
23 күн бұрын
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
@DarylSimpson58
23 күн бұрын
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is shelly renee white..
@peterwilliams6361
23 күн бұрын
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
@DarylSimpson58
23 күн бұрын
You wont regret it
@GMAMEC
5 күн бұрын
Right, every relationship is different. Each one has different perceptions and beliefs of what a marriage should look like. My spouse and I went through tremendous trials. Trials that made you question God or the universe. According to statistics, and today’s standards, we should be divorced. However, love, empathy, perseverance, kindness and consideration saw us through. It’s been over 35 years and we both don’t want to be the first to pass away. We’re not perfect. We pick our battles and don’t worry about the small stuff. We also give each other space and grace when one of us is having a difficult moment and talk about the situation within 24 hours.
@neami784
28 күн бұрын
would love a video on pre-marital counseling questions to discuss if you don’t have one already!
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
That’s a great idea! Thank you!
@bluebutterfly5062
27 күн бұрын
Ooo yes please! It's always great to get things on the table in the very beginning
@iannalewis9202
27 күн бұрын
@@bluebutterfly5062 i agree!!
@Chocolice
26 күн бұрын
Oh yes!! I would love that too.
@mirandawonder3707
18 күн бұрын
Yes!!!
@_justyessyy_
27 күн бұрын
I noticed that when I was the only one doing individual therapy along with couples therapy, I was the only one talking in couples therapy. My husband didn’t have the language or practice talking about his feelings, so he would just agree or go along with what I said. We stopped couples therapy and both did individual therapy, and that greatly improved our communication. We have been able to make huge improvements on our own and only see a couples therapist when we’re not able to resolve a conflict on our own. We found out the problem was we had different coping and communication styles.
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
I love that you found what works best for you!!
@aquaabundance4077
5 күн бұрын
@@StephAnyacould you make a video about couple's therapy during dating please? I'm curious how it looks for couples that are not married. As you said in this video, premarital counselling is important. Personal example: I was dating a great guy 5 years ago and was a Psych major, so I knew about the inportance of counselling. I wanted to do premarital counselling and was told by friends that if we need therapy before marriage, we probably aren't meant to be and I should let it go. I took their advice and haven't been able to find a good partner since
@RafScrap
28 күн бұрын
Ah, sometimes the childhood pattern thing feels so hopeless because it's overwhelming to know how deep those old scars go. Thank you always for these insightful videos.
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
I feel that. There are many things that we’ll never get over, but we can work on lessening their power over us. Thank you for watching ♥️
@joanna0988
28 күн бұрын
My therapist always reminds me that we work on our issues in layers so I've started celebrating when I notice my patterns quicker versus being angry I still have them 🙏🏼
@acd1168
28 күн бұрын
Yes some of my childhood patterns, I felt like took a long time to get to the root of but don’t give up.
@amyspeers8012
28 күн бұрын
Celebrated our 32nd anniversary last June. Around year 3, after the birth of our only child, we hit a rough patch. I went to counseling on my own and it was a game changer. I still have some of the things she we talked about in my mind. We did go to couples counseling as well. That person was awful! She was pushing her books, telling us to read them and never really asked us things, or so we felt. We ended up laughing so hard after the sessions, grabbing dinner together and REALLY communicating. That made the difference. My parents also have said over the years how important being your own person is and being able to talk with each other.
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
Wow! Congratulations on 32 years!!
@amyspeers8012
27 күн бұрын
@@StephAnya thank you! My wonderful parents were married for 60 years. My in-laws divorced and FIL married the babysitter. My husband says he’s the apple that fell of the tree, took one look around and kept on rolling. He’s done some great work and is a wonderful father and husband. Much love from SW France from a crazy American expat!
@creativeopinions8250
26 күн бұрын
It's sad that a huge chunk of the time we spend in this world is to trying to connect with another human but once we've got each other we don't know how to keep each other...
@emiemms
19 күн бұрын
this one hit hard..
@atmac09
27 күн бұрын
I would love if you could talk about compatibility and how to choose the right partner. I feel like often times these issues just come from choosing the wrong people.
@SAlina-se9xq
27 күн бұрын
Agreed. Just because you love or really like someone doesn't mean you'll be compatible as life partners.
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
That’s a great idea! Lifestyle compatibility specifically!
@done5060
18 күн бұрын
As long as there is a common goal and value, marriage is an *intentional commitment* which requires compromise in almost every aspect of the journey. If you can’t marry your sibling or your parent, compatibility is useless … you are both different people with different upbringing, so.. what are you looking for?
@niyoleo
8 күн бұрын
Moon 🌖 sign compatibility and life path number compatibility are very helpful. Even when reading about your own moon sign, you’ll be shocked on how accurate it’s describing you. I personally believe sun sign descriptions are vague and not the greatest for judging compatibility. Happy couples that have been married for decades more than likely have a compatible moon sign and life path number.
@MangoLime1
2 күн бұрын
Yes, please discuss how to find a compatible partner! I try to date people who I consider to be smart, funny, and kind, yet I keep running into the same issue of incompatibility. Many people likely face the same issue. @@StephAnya
@familylifescienceeducation5227
26 күн бұрын
I've been saying it for years. Before I was in the business, I would hear that finances were always the major issue. Now that I am years in, finances are rarely the issue. Not that it doesn't become a problem. But I can tell you, time and time again, respect is a core issue.
@thespadestable
3 күн бұрын
Finances is not the top reason, but it us one of the top reasons for the breakdown of the marriage. And there is a difference "between breakdown" of a marriage, and "reason for the divorce". And for the most part, people only focus on the reason for the divorce. The breakdown was money issues, but the divorce was due to domestic violence. The couple arguments and stress over the finances, loss of revenue, overleveraged their gross income, arguments begins, arguments escalate, one or both parties become verbally and physically abusive. So a person has to wonder if this so-called therapist even listens to her clients.
@_Just_Jess_
28 күн бұрын
I could not stop staring at how beautiful your hair is.... 😍 My husband and I are coming up on 5 years and I really appreciate your tips on not making the other person your "everything". I'll be doing some reflecting on that. ❤
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
Aw thank you!! & I’m glad that tip resonated. I appreciate you for watching!
@ryanutterback
28 күн бұрын
Beautifully said, Steph. I think every couple at the altar should receive a copy of The 7 Principles of Making Marriage Work by John Gottman. John and Julie are the real deal; pretty under appreciated, if you ask me.
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
I love them!
@stephenyates4749
28 күн бұрын
I like what you said about wanting to change your partner instead of looking at yourself. I think we live in a narcissistic world now and people only think of what makes them feel good! Very good video.
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
I believe that it all started from a place with good intentions. Things like learning the importance of taking care of yourself and setting boundaries. However, somehow we’ve ended up in a place where we’re not dependable anymore and have lost the importance of community. Thanks so much for watching!
@nyquitacharles9146
27 күн бұрын
Premarital counseling is so needed. My husband and I had a lot of conversations ourselves that we were on the same page with but as you said we couldn't think of everything. So now we're in therapy to mend out those things as they come up. We did do premarital counseling with a pastor but it was one session and it wasn't thorough.
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
I’m glad you two have a system that’s working to mend things when needed
@SAlina-se9xq
27 күн бұрын
Yup. My ex and I fell into the Money and Solutions based (me) and the Hobbies based (ex). I got tired of thinking about our future while he thought of video games and wrestling and TV shows. Our values did not align and I realized it was unfair to try and change him. I left and now with a partner who shares my values.
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
I love that you realized that before moving forward with marriage!
@cheyennemckenzie8493
27 күн бұрын
Because of the way my husband and I were raised, we both do everything we can to create a healthy family dynamic now and breaking generational curses. Not just with the kids, but between us too. We went in feeling like we're partners and if we can't be on each other's side then who can be? It can be hard, but we try to talk about everything to make sure we stay in tune
@abitaylor4881
27 күн бұрын
So glad you touched on the importance of premarital counseling. I did a research paper of the effectiveness of it and the correlation with divorce and it’s much lower for those who attend premarital counseling! Great video!
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
Wow!!
@_justyessyy_
28 күн бұрын
Can’t wait! I’ve been checking your channel everyday for an upload. Your videos along with therapy have greatly improved the relationship with myself and others. Thank you for taking the time to make them! ♥️
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
This makes me so happy! I’m really glad that the videos have been helpful for you
@krystalgoethe8007
19 күн бұрын
I feel like A LOT of people break up due to reason #2. A lot of people need some individual counseling, badly.
@lexieburnafteruroll
23 күн бұрын
Your hair looks so dreamy ✨‼️ love these points especially childhood trauma being relived in adult disagreements. I’ve seen it mirror too many times.
@Youtubefan567
23 күн бұрын
0:00 The interesting thing about this list is that money's not even on here" Yet you also said: 8:59 "A common classic dynamic that I see happen is you have the partner who is very money focused and very solution focused and the partner who is more emotionally in tune and more focused on experiences and memories" 16:25 "You should talk about how you're going to organize your money. So many people ignore the financial conversation before they get married." Money is not the only thing that matters but don't shy away from talking about it :)
@aspyn.j_
26 күн бұрын
watching even tho i'm single because research
@mmedftty5901
29 күн бұрын
Hello! From the bottom of my heart! I hope you will review the season 1 of LIB UK! We miss you so much. I am checking everyday your channel to if there is any update. I hope your are just waiting the end of the season and if they will make it at the altar or not. Kindly. Marvin 🇨🇵
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
I’m definitely reviewing this season! I miss you too ♥️
@MaggieT455
27 күн бұрын
@@StephAnyaamazing, can’t wait 😊
@lalaxo5869
29 күн бұрын
Kindly review live is blind UK I Want to see something
@emilytonder4689
27 күн бұрын
Was just going to comment this same thing!!
@Dlibassi93
23 күн бұрын
I’ve always been shocked by friends who don’t know about their spouses childhoods or young adult experiences and traumas. It’s been so key in understanding how my husband and I communicate and perceive things and in turn how we have a successful relationship
@munaahmed4070
28 күн бұрын
Hey Steph thx u for the vid. Is it possible to talk about how a sick family member can change relationships? Like how marriages sometimes end after child death or sickness, or how sometimes a partner leave when the other gets sick.
@halimak12
26 күн бұрын
yeah i would love a video on this topic!
@feralcatlady9249
13 күн бұрын
The resistance to talking about ex partners is so real. Even the subtle ways it comes up like having to say "my ex" instead of using the persons name. In theory, I understand the insecurity, but it's frustrating to be met with this idea of having to basically omit parts of your history.
@pamfan221
3 күн бұрын
I had never thought about it this way, but you are so right.
@Isabel_fit
27 күн бұрын
I used to think it was a sign that a couple wouldn't last if they had to get pre-marital counseling... jokes on me because we didn't and will be getting divorced after years of things getting worse and worse 😵💫
@derrickpigatt5195
6 күн бұрын
At least you can see it ave learn from it
@aquaabundance4077
5 күн бұрын
I let go of a good partner because I wanted to try pre-marital counselling and everyone around me told me that if we need therapy before marriage, we aren't meant to be smh 😢 Five years later and I regret it.
@derrickpigatt5195
5 күн бұрын
@@aquaabundance4077 regret letting go? Or counseling? Or both?
@MakaykayLAMB
28 күн бұрын
This hair is so pretty on you.
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
Thanks so much 🥰
@savannahlopez8251
26 күн бұрын
I'm really glad my husband and I talked about everything by ourselves before we got married! We got married pretty young (I was 19 and he was 21), but we told eachother when we were dating all of our past when it comes to other relationships and how we grew up, we told eachother what our parents did in their relationships that we didn't want to repeat, we talked about how we would raise our own children. When I was pregnant with our son, we talked about what would happen if he were to pass away, which he sadly did, and now we have plans to talk about another child after we build ourselves back up both emotionally and financially. We constantly tell eachother how were doing, we always talk about our problems and never go to bed angry at eachother, and we've been doing great together. January, we will be married 6 years and celebrating our angels 2nd birthday, and even though we're in a dark place emotionally, we're doing pretty good 😊
@TieranniPieranni
22 күн бұрын
I’m an introvert and Ive noticed that in relationship it is my extroverted partners that need my time, I prefer to be left alone.
@deevsha
28 күн бұрын
Can you or have you done a video on building trust in new/emerging relationships, for someone for whom sex isn’t on the table immediately? It seems difficult to navigate in a world where physical intimacy up front or sooner is an expectation.
@yhineidy131
28 күн бұрын
Talking about my past relationship in my last relationship didn't work well for me. My ex would use my past relationship against me.
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
Red flag. I’m glad they’re your ex
@derrickpigatt5195
6 күн бұрын
Use it against you How?
@francesbell9465
8 күн бұрын
Just here to say: your're fantastic. Thank you for your incredibly helpful perspective
@teresarenee16
17 күн бұрын
The being vulnerable about past relationships. Hit the nail for me. Iv never heard this topic before. Thank you! For sharing your knowledge. I appreciate you. ❤
@StephAnya
17 күн бұрын
I appreciate you for watching ♥️
@paintitblack9712
28 күн бұрын
Great video! I'm really proud of my husband and i, we definitely reevaluate our relationship as we evolve and i feel like we do alot of these. Premarital counseling was so helpful, i love your advice about individual therapy in addition to couples, didn't do it but currently started therapy and i agree that it would've definitely helped❤
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
I’m proud of you too! ♥️
@kianaanderson8658
6 күн бұрын
You talked about everything that is going on in my relationship and I need more of this to understand him because I want us to make it and I really love him
@KL-sr5jv
25 күн бұрын
Great advice. My husband refused to go to couple therapy, so I just did individual therapy. It helped me a lot, also in my marriage.
@braeem_
27 күн бұрын
Love your videos so much! So personable, educating, and engaging
@ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297
27 күн бұрын
After dangling the carrot of exclusivity in my face for the entire relationship, my ex and I broke up soon after I suggested premarital counselling. I mentioned it to show that I took him and us VERY SERIOUSLY. If it isnt too much to ask, can you do a video on premarital counselling and how couples can prepare for it? I'd like to share with my friends and church members. Thank you Steph for always telling it like it is with kindness. Once I can afford it, I will definitely consider therapy. God bless.
@ArtystaLuLu
26 күн бұрын
Great advice as usual! I know that each person and each relationship is too nuanced to be able to cover every single base, but I feel like the fact that our generation has so much access to "other people" via social media channels, i.e. "instagram models, only fans etc" that infidelity has become a sort of expectation; regardless of the conversation(s) had prior or during a relationship or marriage, it feels like society excuses men (and women) from consuming content and even being in contact with people outside of the relationship ('m not talking about merely a man being friends with a woman; I'm talking about a partner being friends with someone who decides to suddenly post their sexy pics to the whole world for whatever reason). So when we are told "You should just trust your partner" or "Jealousy is abusive behavior to your SO" it's kind of like well, damn, I was raised to believe if I wasn't quick to call it "like I see it" then I'm a door mat and allowing bad behavior... I would love to hear how to address ALL of the ways social media makes infidelity even emotional infidelity so accessible and where the line is drawn for a partner who has had to address this throughout a relationship. (sorry for the novel) Thank you for your content!!!
@bluebutterfly5062
27 күн бұрын
That's first point is very relatable lol its always the thing that attracted you in the first place that irritates you down the line 😅 is there a way to combat this feeling?
@AnnaLoxuv
14 күн бұрын
Thank you for the insights Steph, very helpful! Love your hair ❤
@mirandas.6043
13 күн бұрын
I love your insight ❤ I’m in my first relationship and your videos help put a lot of things into perspective.. Thank you 🙏
@Nikabooski
23 күн бұрын
As a newlywed, this was insightful and informative. You hit the hammer on the nail with all of these.
@TheEmpressMahogany
23 күн бұрын
Straight gold! 🏆 Thank you for sharing this wisdom with the collective 🙏🏾💕✨
@anber4129
27 күн бұрын
I love your channel! A little off topic but I love your hair & jewelry! ☺️
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
Thank you so much!
@Gugx
26 күн бұрын
You look gorgeous! Ok let me watch the video :)
@stacey281
27 күн бұрын
Hi Mrs. Anya, you mentioned learning more about our partner , I would like to know more about what questions can we ask to build intimacy. By the way love this video. Thank you. 🙏🏽
@sonyawix5871
17 күн бұрын
Thank you, Dr. Anya! Also, the hair is the glory of this video)
@whyzzman
21 сағат бұрын
Excellent video.
@Miss_christie1217
27 күн бұрын
I absolutely love your content
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for watching!
@anafigueroa1396
27 күн бұрын
Good points, my brother and his gf recently broke up largely due to reason #2. So it was interesting to hear about this one. Do you have any videos discussing the impacts of being an inexperienced dater? I would love to watch something like this. Thank you for making this video! ✨
@brittanyb6889
28 күн бұрын
Will you be covering Love is Blind UK?
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
Yes!
@LauraKueng
20 күн бұрын
Oh wow, you've really touched on something important here. I have to admit, there was definitely a part of me that wanted to "fix" my partner too. But really I want to express my gratitude for your content. Listening to you gives me such valuable insights and inspires me to reflect on my actions in the best way possible. Thank you so much!
@unique.diamond5955
22 күн бұрын
These type of videos is why I subscribed! Just a reminder on how I can better connect w my partner because some of the examples you have of questions I need an update on because we change as people. Premarital counseling is a nonnegotiable for me … idc how “good” we think we are lol
@holisticmaya
23 күн бұрын
Will you talk about the UK version of Love is Blind?:) Would love to hear your thoughts!
@chelseajones9544
27 күн бұрын
Girl You look stunning!❤
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
Thank you, Chelsea! You’re sweet 🫶🏽
@TheMarriedMillennial
24 күн бұрын
So spot on! I see the same issues in with my couples, as well! ❤
@lilli3593
27 күн бұрын
Hi Steph! I know you don’t have kids but i was wondering if you would make a video with ideas on how to connect as a couple after having a baby? I’m due in 2 months and am a little nervous about the change to my relationship with my partner after becoming parents Great video as always! i love that you go deeper than just the surface level reasons
@mitsubachi6865
23 күн бұрын
People have to share the same goals and values. It is as simple. It applies to peaceful times and crises alike. As soon as you're no longer on the same page, the couple will gradually fall apart. Because for therapy to be successful, both partners have to want to reunite.
@ST-rj8iu
23 күн бұрын
exceptional video! Just subscribed! Great job!
@Kendratree
20 күн бұрын
This was interesting to hear, delve deeper into this, I’m curious!
@jaderobinson4439
24 күн бұрын
I would LOVE to see you break down the ultimatum!! I had so many thoughts
@stevensantora2976
27 күн бұрын
Great video.
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
Thanks, Steven!
@Mari_PL
28 күн бұрын
So now that love is blind UK is out... 👀
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
It’s coming!
@anber4129
11 күн бұрын
could you make a video about questions couples can ask each other to deepen emotional intimacy?
@priscilla.lefcowitz
25 күн бұрын
Loved this video! ❤ Ps.: I also loved your new hair style!
@milivaro
27 күн бұрын
Will you be doing videos on Love is Blind Uk?!
@ReneeMonroe88
27 күн бұрын
I definitely needed to see this video! Thank you
@StephAnya
27 күн бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Thank you for watching♥️
@Cornflower20
23 күн бұрын
Great video!
@StephAnya
23 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@gin.k
25 күн бұрын
Great video. Very helpful.
@Coilyhairedgirly
26 күн бұрын
Ok hair 😍!!!!
@theguyahfamily8834
23 күн бұрын
love your hair!!!
@prettyuniquell2011
23 күн бұрын
This was good 😊❤
@rickeshahinton4829
28 күн бұрын
This was amazing
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
Thank you, Rickesha! I’m so glad that you think so ♥️
@Chocolice
26 күн бұрын
You look beautiful and I love your videos!! Could you do a review of LIB UK?
@StephAnya
26 күн бұрын
Thank you so much! Yes I will
@Honey70708
29 күн бұрын
Do you think you’d ever be interested in watching some of Love island 🏝️
@StephAnya
29 күн бұрын
I’ve never watched it before, but I’ve been hearing so much about it! Maybe I can watch the next season for a review.
@adriencuello8368
29 күн бұрын
Nah not going to Lie, I need to see your intake for Love island season 6, this the season that needs your outlook😅😂🙌🏾 Edit: sorry if that came out rude, I just love your watch your reaction and input, very eye opening, plus I want to see if I’m crazy for thinking how I think and need help too, or if you agree with what I’ve been saying 😂😂 but I’ll watch season 7 just for you🙌🏾
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
@@adriencuello8368 Not rude! I'm just not sure if I'll be able to watch this season and review while people still care lol. I appreciate your support!!
@adriencuello8368
28 күн бұрын
@@StephAnya I see what you mean and agree, I’ll still be watching regardless of you do season 7 or not😂🫶🏾 stay blessed!🙌🏾
@Coilyhairedgirly
26 күн бұрын
Can you do a video about ways you can support friends/family even if you're not a relational professional/mental health coach? And can you do a video on how you got into the career please?
@onyx8924
27 күн бұрын
My boyfriend and i have been trying to focus more on our relationship after a severe emotional divide due to work stress. We've been going over questions and topics in a couples workbook about how to repair emotional intimacy. I'm curious of what topics we could explore in terms of premarital counseling now.
@brownshugakale2410
15 күн бұрын
What's the name of the book ?
@cindymontoya8755
27 күн бұрын
can you pleaseeee do a therapist breaks down love island USA season 6!!!
@CathyTheDestroyer
15 күн бұрын
Damn, I be watching your videos thinking how do I get you to be my therapist lol.
@deedubb3605
26 күн бұрын
Great video. ❤
@michellewinkleman3999
23 күн бұрын
At the risk of getting too vulnerable with strangers on the internet, I recognize many of these as things my husband and I successfully navigated early in our marriage by each of us feeling like we compromised too much but just letting go of the rest (probably the sign of a good compromise - haha). But life changes, kids grow, and I have always thought that it's both partners' responsibility to adapt and grow with each other during these phases, especially if both partners have committed to the idea of a lifelong marriage. So TL/DR: Do you have any scripts to communicate to your partner why counseling might be a good idea and what we would expect to get out of it? I've already tried framing it as "helping us / facilitating communication with each other to get to a better dynamic" but he disdains the whole counseling / therapy profession so he shuts that down entirely.
@kreativekollective5284
27 күн бұрын
Waiting for your take on love is blind uk
@hebrews11vs5
8 күн бұрын
Woman tries to explain why marriages break up while sitting down looking beautiful and wearing a garment that appears to be falling off... 😂
@pamfan221
3 күн бұрын
😂
@UmBinyamin
22 күн бұрын
You are such a sweet and well mannered lady😘❤️. Safia
@josephm.6056
28 күн бұрын
I just had to say your videos are so insightful! How does one go about having you as their individual or couple therapist?
@StephAnya
28 күн бұрын
Hi, Joseph! Thank you so much!! Unfortunately, I am not able to accept clients online.
@josephm.6056
28 күн бұрын
@@StephAnya That's understandable! You are a phenomenal person, and I know your existing clients are blessed to have you! Such an insightful person, some videos I play every morning as a reminder as I go through life!
@ricardoguzman871
24 күн бұрын
You should have a conversation with James Sexton! Would love to hear both your insights together.
@nirobytobias
14 сағат бұрын
This is goooood
@krispyxtine
24 күн бұрын
I think the second point is the reason why I realized couples counselling wasn’t working for us and I’m seeking individual counselling
@StephAnya
24 күн бұрын
I hope that helps you more!
@RedBunni1024
13 күн бұрын
As a divorcee I agree!
@selam1353
Күн бұрын
“The hidden reason, the secret no one knows but me just buy my subscriptions, merch and you will find out the truth”
@PinkOwl31
23 күн бұрын
Are you breaking down Love Is Blind UK? They aired everything except the reunion, its a great time to watch and review it, as you do.
@PinkOwl31
23 күн бұрын
Oh, I just scrolled down and saw you made a community post about it. 🩷 I have been trying to avoid spoilers since I'm not done watching the season, so I didn't read the comments. 😆
@ShanteSamuel-b3f
26 күн бұрын
Whew 😅chatting about the good times in past relationships is a little too mature for me lol
@InternetGirl1093
26 күн бұрын
I am learning my partner has avoidant tendencies and it’s making me very anxious in the relationship. Do you have a video that discusses how to get avoidant partners to open up? He always feels that talking about his childhood / his parents specific quirks aren’t my business, beyond saying “I had a great childhood,” but I’m like… umm no, we all have learned behaviors that affect us.
@dajenahughes5276
17 күн бұрын
Anya, do you have videos on how to deal with toxic in-laws? This seems to be a issue between me and my fiancés family and I am always wrong in their eyes. If you are wondering how is my fiancé reacting to this; He is tired of it and he wants me and his family to work it out but I genuinely do not see that happening if they can't take accountability for their poor behaviors.
@dtuitt79
23 күн бұрын
When Therapist speak about being intentional about intimacy, I understand that physical & emotional intimacy are linked. However it seems like the conversation always seems to imply that a woman's emotional needs have to be met before the man's physical need can be. It's as if women are expecting the man's desire for sex to motivate him to do whatever is needed to achieve it. Whereas a woman's desire for emotional intimacy isn't supposed to motivate her to do whatever is necessary to achieve what she desires. In the same way that a woman is "unable" to have sex void of emotional intimacy. Men are unable to be emotionally intimate void of physical intimacy. I think it would be more productive to tell men to prioritize emotional intimacy & women to prioritize physical intimacy in marriage. Although I have heard some therapist say this, it is the minority. As a married man of almost 12 years & in the relationship for almost 17, can't express enough how demoralizing it is to be told that my needs don't matter. To be fair, no one has ever said those exact words. But that is what is implied when husbands are told that they have responsibilities to their wives but their wives don't have responsibilities to their husbands.
@susan89574
28 күн бұрын
I had a hard time concentrating on the content because I was so worried about your shirt falling off.
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