Im in a trans mutual aid network in Washington state that does a lot of the things you mention in this video. A year ago it was just maybe a dozen of us on a Discord server, now we're over 300 strong and still growing, doing everything from ridesharing to helping folks relocate from red states. I personally helped someone get on a plane out of Texas just a couple weeks ago. There are difficulties for sure, but human determination and ingenuity can overcome even the oppressive systems we put in place ourselves.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
that's really wonderful to hear
@habeashumor9814
11 ай бұрын
I'm so glad it works in real life! I watched the French film "Discount" and thought a community co-op seems so amazing in theory, but I was seriously doubtful it can work when people act like people, ya know?
@TheSuperRatt
11 ай бұрын
@@habeashumor9814 That's the insidious nature of capitalism, and more broadly, the state. The state assumes control of all aspects of life, disenfranchising us from our communities and making us feel helpless. Capitalism's structures of incentive (you know, selfishness, greed, fucking people over) provides the state with the ideological ammunition that it *needs* to exist. It *needs* to exist in order to rein in our "evil human nature". A "human nature" that only appears to be so, because of how our society has been organized. We live in a society where nobody needs each other to survive. Where there is no incentive to help our fellow human beings; and so a lot of people don't! If we lived in social structures where mutual aid, community, altruism, etc. were incentivized by the very structure of society, than those things would be selected for and expressed by the population. It's a culture that we build, just as the world we live in today is also a culture that has been built and maintained.
@Xanthelei
11 ай бұрын
As a fellow trans Washingtonian, could I get some info on this group? I went looking for something local that wasn't just Portland with no luck last summer during fire season. I'm hoping to have more time/energy for volunteering for shit once I escape the Amazon hellhole.
@itsjustketchup
11 ай бұрын
Also trans and in WA (Seattle area). Florida refugee. Would love to know more
@birdsforbrains2
11 ай бұрын
thank you for this video. seeing people respond to all these events with "just move" has been so infuriating. it's victim-blaming, and i wish more people would see the harm that helps perpetuate.
@chloesibilla8199
11 ай бұрын
Did they watch the video? Did they actually watch it and then decided to do this on purpose to upset people? Like a child looking for attention in a silent cry for help?
@jeffersonclippership2588
11 ай бұрын
I mean you don't have to buy a big house in the suburbs to flee a red state
@112428
11 ай бұрын
It also just further entrenches the problem so you can't escape. Due to how our federal government works, if the fascists control most of the states but very little of the population, eventually they control the federal government and can override any blue state protections.
@dragonflies6793
Ай бұрын
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@meegsoteegs
3 күн бұрын
@@jeffersonclippership2588check your privilege
@Mythil
11 ай бұрын
My wife has had a good time with our local "buy nothing" and plant enthusiast groups. Both have a decent anti-capitalist streak to them, and attract like-minded people. I feel like mutual aid is a natural extension of these types of groups.
@NunSuperior
11 ай бұрын
I've heard there are "buy nothing" groups on Facebook but since I burned my account to ashes I haven't looked. Friends swear by them.
@The2012Aceman
11 ай бұрын
We're rediscovering religious charity and gardening, and I'm all for it.
@Necrapocalypse
11 ай бұрын
I was going to mention Buy Nothing too, definitely seems like a great model for this idea
@caffetiel
11 ай бұрын
@@The2012Aceman That's not the case, no. The socialist case is that charity as it's understood is an affront, a signal that the structure of society has failed, not a personal virtue. Gardening was never lost, either. We're restructuring it around community gardens instead of the abomination of the SFH yard, but it was never covered.
@bitchywoman
11 ай бұрын
I would be worried I was mingling with right wing libertarians. One minute you are talking about chicken farming the next minute they are talking about shooting the BLM people when they come to “our town” to rob us when “the storm” comes I’m probably paranoid because my “mommy and me” play group descended into a bunch of caddy women complaining about the kid with autism they thought was “weird”. Wow is me when you are a middle class married white woman people assume that you are one of them and let the racism/ableism fly
@salyx
11 ай бұрын
Nah, I don’t hate you. I’m glad you’re in a financially stable situation - at least some of us should be! I’m in California trying to live off disability payments. I’ve had people suggest that I move to a cheaper state, and I’m like “Right. Pay money to move a thousand miles away to a state that doesn’t want me, where I know no one, and I have less options for extra care? No thanks.” It would be nice if there was more community. If Nextdoor wasn’t such a horrid mess of people saying they want to sh**t anyone who steps foot on their driveway, it would be great.
@ryanb5127
11 ай бұрын
As another software guy my first instinct was also an app but I don’t think going further down the detached digital path is good. I think the solution is in a way “have more friends” and what I mean by that is public social events that might start by having some sort of announcements and facilitated sign up for people in need of help. The sign up list helps with public accountability and if people aren’t comfortable letting just anyone help they can directly ask the person they met through these social events. I think it’s important to make this community building not just a help network. Make people care about each other before you ask them to volunteer.
@DrDanWeaver
11 ай бұрын
Yeah. See vids on 'third places'. I think digital and physical will go hand in hand. I'm not a big fan of Zuck but a vid with him and is it Alexi something the other week showed that we soon will be able to converse quite naturally with people in other countries.
@OliverHatched
11 ай бұрын
Just wanted to say howdy to my new neighbor in advance. My girlfriend and I are both trans and we're in the process of fleeing Missouri for Minnesota. I'm disabled, we're in a ton of debt, and holy hell it's gonna be rough. Wish us luck
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
Good luck, I hope your path is as smooth as possible
@crowsong8097
11 ай бұрын
My partner and I are both trans and fleeing Georgia. They’re disabled, we’re low income. It’s so much stress. I really wish the best for you and yours in your journey. Solidarity.
@ThatFlamingFroggo
11 ай бұрын
This is something I'd like to be a part of, myself. Despite currently being in recovery for top surgery, and me not being the most adept at socializing with people in the first place. I've seen in my apartment building, a fellow tenant and Queer friend of mine, put out masks, and temporary libraries, and extra food. I feel like, there are many ways to start something, that puts community mentality at the forefront, and it doesn't have to be something major. If it means, just getting your friends together and their friends, and opening up that communication whether on discord, or facebook, or whatever, it can work out. Now, even though I know a number of folks, and have "friends", I don't always feel like that connection is there to ask. Part of the hardest hurdle might be in finding folks willing to ask for help. So in short, it depends on what your context is, what you have to offer, but I imagine that tech savy folks might have more ideas of ways in keeping online spaces well moderated, to weed out bad faith actors when they pop up....cause, there are gonna be those sort anywhere you accumulate large groups of people.
@faramirbutnothatone
11 ай бұрын
Welcome to Minneota, we're happy to have ya! As someone from MN it's so bittersweet to hear about people coming to my state because it feels like a safer place to be, I'm glad we aren't facing the backwards slide into fascism that our neighbors are, but also it hurts so bad that people have to literally flee from their homes to escape danger. I hope you are able to find community in Minneapolis and help your neighbors. Honestly a great city to be in. It's pretty common to have things like block parties, invite people over for fires/grill nights, and to sit on your front yard and drink with the neighbors. Just getting outside and walking you dog or going for bike rides is a great way to have a presence in you area and to get to know other people. Don't be nervous to have a housewarming party or a yard sale or something to get you outside. Anything to get your foot in the door and to start making connections.
@genexplore
11 ай бұрын
I've been kicking around an idea like this for a while, and there's three key components. The easiest one is mapping needs to people willing to help. Sign up with your assets you're willing to donate, skills, tools, etc. and "able body" is an asset that not everyone has. Then, when you enter your needs, the people with those assets can be paired to you. However, this isn't a problem I can program my way out of... The much harder problem is community safety. This goes from preventing bigotry and harm from being perpetuated by the platform, to building it in such a way that aid doesn't only go to people who look like the people giving it. The even harder problem is adoption from regular people. Your neighbor electrician might be willing to come out and check your outlets for a beer, but that can't happen in neighborhoods where electricians don't live. This compounds with the above problem, meaning this kind of mutual aid requires *radical trust* from people to buy in. I think grassroots community groups like tool libraries and block parties are necessary to build the solidarity required for this sort of mutual aid network to spread further.
@corriemcclain7960
11 ай бұрын
Thank you for talking about how hard moving from a red state is. You're the first person I've heard give voice to how hard it is. My trans and queer family fled Kentucky this summer. We were way out in the middle of nowhere and while my old neighbors partied that we left, no one would have helped us leave. We didn't have the money, but it just felt too dangerous to stay. We started job hunting in March (took the first full time offer in Illinois) sold everything and left in May. We were homeless until basically July. The house we found hadn't been cleaned in decade. But the down payment was 100% of our profit off out KY house. So now our mortgage is the same as the original mortgage we got 12 years ago but with a higher interest rate and on a worse house. My car was totaled at a red light as soon as we moved in, so now we're down to one car and one income because my trans autistic self hasn't found where willing to hire me around car sharing hours. It felt too dangerous to stay but coming has been so traumatic I worry it was a mistake. And I have no idea how to find help (or help that not months of wait list long) I feel so cut off and isolated and hopeless and most of the people I've meet laugh when I I say we fled genicide
@vapiddreamscape
11 ай бұрын
i underwent something similar moving my wife and i from PA to WA in 2022 for grad school. its expensive and if not for her being able to get a credit card with a 10k limit we would not have been able to leave, despite my acceptance into a fully funded Ph.D. program that also gave me a moving grant (not available until we started in the fall, ofc). ty for sharing your story to help everyone understand how we cannot abandon our fellow humans who live in red states 💛
@Michaels1059
11 ай бұрын
I'm a married gay man in south Louisiana. Just this past weekend, my state lost the last Democratic governor in the deep south and voted in a Trump acolyte known for targeting my community. Even before this, with the change in SCOTUS, my husband and I have actively talked about leaving, but keep hitting three barriers: 1) Where to?, 2) With what money?, and 3) Can I restart my career elsewhere? It's actually hard for queer people like myself who are used to low cost of living & wages facing the prospects of moving to safer but more expensive states. Hopefully things won't get that dire but I'm right here with TDD - if anybody can come up with meaningful solutions by all means let it be known.
@Aury
11 ай бұрын
Some barbecue sauce sounds like a good start. Obligatory joke about how to handle the rich done, and getting serious, part of the challenge is that it's going to require holistic efforts, because if one area moves forward a bunch but others aren't then the forward motion will stall. As things are, organizing, meeting people, coordinating efforts through a larger network, and just generally being their for the neighbours when the ask, all are good things to work at, and plenty more, cause part of the problem is also a the information overload.
@siamsasean
11 ай бұрын
Two things that pop into my head are those little free libraries folks are putting up in front of their houses, and that back in the day, folks would put all sorts of notices on a cork board in the front of the local supermarket. Teens up for yard work or babysitting, shadetree mechanics, block parties, local businesses, lost pets, etc. If there were a way to combine those two ideas it might serve the need. Not sure how to monitor or vet postings, this is just a loose concept so far.
@amoureux6502
11 ай бұрын
This is the start to a great idea
@ThingsToSay654
11 ай бұрын
I only have so much personal experience with organizing, but i think an important lesson I've learned is that irl connections are essential: the internet is great for sharing information between people, but if you want to build a durable mutual aid network, you'll need face-to-face time. As someone i met who's spent many years in the movement once said "don't confuse comrades with friends and allies with good neighbors." Commitment comes after people really connect with each other, and that seems to require sharing physical space and time.
@AwkwardPain
11 ай бұрын
It is something that is simple (but from from easy) and it all is around creating and maintaining a community network. The best videos on this that I found was from Beau of the Fifth Column. If I get more time to elaborate or I get more thoughts on this... I will type some more! Hopefully this helps getting people in the right direction.
@andscifi
11 ай бұрын
I was here to say the same thing. I don't want to directly link videos from someone else's youtube channel because that seems rude. but he has some good videos.
@EightFoldOni
11 ай бұрын
found out my wife is w child, and i'm in a similar mindset. Nice to have the family nearby for the first few years but we'd rather be in a more politically safe state when the time for them to go to school comes.
@Melimcee
11 ай бұрын
I do wanna give my experience as a refugee as well, since mine is a lot different from yours and extra takes are probably always appreciated by others who are figuring out if this is what's in their future. For me it was a lot cheaper, mainly because I make a point not to keep very many belongings, so when I caught wind of shit hitting the fan I was able to load up everything important to me in a couple of suitcases (mainly my computer and a few sets of clothes) and hop on a plane ride basically as soon as I figured out housing. Been a while now but IIRC the timespan I had was pretty similar to yours, about 6 weeks from when I started my search for housing to the move-in date. I additionally didn't have any family members I would need to take care of in this circumstance. I think all in all this cost me about $2000, including stuff like overlapping rent, new clothes, and simple furniture + the value of whatever I had left behind (not really sure exactly on the last one, that stuff had more sentimental value to me than monetary anyways). I was lucky enough to have a relatively good job at the time, so this was doable for me without completely breaking the bank, and with nobody really willing to show up for me. Even being able to do this relatively cheap, it's still really difficult, probably the most difficult thing I'll ever do, but for people who haven't really set down their roots, it's not impossible. Even being a minimalist, I did still have to give up a lot, but not so much that I'm dying for it. If you're able to get even a few thousand saved up, this is not some hopeless situation. If you can get help, I'd argue it's quite likely to turn out well. Now, as far as organizing neighbors willing to help eachother out goes, maybe it would be better to have an app created for this purpose rather than attempting to reclaim one? Might run afoul of poor/nonexistant moderation if using an existing app. An app like this would definitely need a high quality moderation team that aligns with its goals and that might not be what you find using another app. I'm imagining it as something you can post requests and skills on, and people could get in contact with eachother based on them. Will likely also need a way to vouch for/against and ban users, I could definitely imagine some rich entitled Karen posting all her chores on this and then copping an attitude because the person who mowed her lawn didn't do it in a suit and tie. Maybe require people do a certain number of tasks before they are allowed to post a request, but this would discriminate against people who are disabled or might not have the ability otherwise to go out and help people so a solution would need to be found that doesn't exclude them as well. It would kind of be like using our labor as a currency in this way, where people can (hopefully, this might not work out at all like I'm imagining it to in practice) complete requests knowing that it will mean they can get help with whatever issue is bothering them. I think that an idea that would be hugely valuable for this app is the use of geolocation relating to requests, almost like Pokémon Go. Set it up in a way where you can see requests near you that other people have, and maybe offer the ability to give you a notification if there is a request nearby that suits your skillset. Making it as easy as possible to get in contact with and help out others when someone wants to. The barrier for entry is a lot lower and so I expect it would see a lot more use if this is the difference between "Oh, I'm out vibing and this grandma a block or two down needs help washing her car, I'll just head over there while I'm out" and "Oh, I'm sitting at home but this grandma needs help a couple blocks down, let me get dressed and make sure I have all my keys and wallet and phone and break out of whatever flow state I might have been in before." Even if the task is the same, the context in which you ask definitely matters for how often you could convince someone to do it, so aiming for contexts where people are more likely to respond makes sense.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
really great thoughts, thank you for sharing
@KevinBauman
11 ай бұрын
When we lived in metro Detroit, we had almost all the tradespeople in our network. We had grown up in the area, and had developed a network. It was the only way we could afford to work on our house that cost $129,000. Spending thousands on anything, on a house that cheap made no sense, plus we had no money. Knowing plumbers, electricians, and carpenters, plus learning to do it ourselves, and borrowing tools is the reason we renovated the entire place. Unfortunately, we sold in 2010 for a loss. The silver lining is we would have lost a fortune if we had paid market rate for everything. We've moved several times, and have never had that network again. You need to stay put for a decent amount of time to get to know all those folks. Moving every five to ten years makes developing that kind of network difficult.
@seropia
11 ай бұрын
Vietnam has neighborhood councils where someone is assigned to greet everyone and there's a group chat. I know EJ and Luna talked a bunch abt it during lockdown but it made me think a lot about how a neighborhood or apartment complex could help each other.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
that's such a great idea
@SlugcatEmporium
11 ай бұрын
Welcome to Minneapolis! I wish I had more to say to answer your thoughtful questions. It is somehow a relief just to hear someone asking, and to see others engaging with the topic. I see old-fashioned flyers (lost pets, tax prep services, house cleaning, dog walking..) stapled to posts all over my SW neighborhood. That's pretty common and would not be a bad way to reach people who might be less connected or in the know about online spaces trying to organize mutual aid networks. A couple times a year there are "yard sale weekends" where entire neighborhoods put up garage or yard sales on the same weekend. It's wild. Those would be good opportunities to offer/ask for help, a very non-threatening and informal situation where people are already expecting (and more likely to engage with) some casual interactions with complete strangers. It kind of feels like one of those things that happens bit by bit when you aren't looking straight at it, and all of a sudden there you are, in the middle of it. I really hope we can figure something out. 🖤
@audplanning
11 ай бұрын
As someone in TX considering fleeing to MN specifically, I’d really appreciate the minutiae about buying the new house before selling the old. This is something my partner and I are really anxious about, especially since I am disabled and losing my job. Would you consider making a separate video about this or posting links in the description with info about resources? Thanks for considering!
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
hit me up at thatdangphil at g mail
@torg842
11 ай бұрын
I’ve been toying with building a tool share as part of a tool share program on my property. I live in a rural area in WA. Over the years; many of us in the rural area have bought a lot of tools because we have to be a little more self reliant. I have some good leftist friends and we’ve talked about how many of those tools and such sit unused for years. I have bought numerous speciality tools I only need for one project and they sit for years. We also have talked about how even in the house, we have a lot of speciality appliances that we only use on occasion. We’d love to build a tool/equipment share that is either free to use or really really cheap (only covering maintenance/replacement costs over the years). You’d probably need to become a member and being a member will include like spending some time helping to maintain the tools/equipment. But then we’d all pitch in our tools together. Maybe there’s be an annual dues or recommended donation to pay for replacement stuff as things get broken or worn out. Technology-wise, I see this as being something where we can hop online and browse all the stuff available and reserve it for certain times. Maybe there’s a community board on this where people can ask for help or offer up skills that can be taken. “I know how to rebuild a carburetor, so reach out if you need help”. In many ways, I see this as like a library model type system. It could even belong to a wider network. Maybe we don’t have a specific tool or skill or equipment, but twenty miles down the road they do and maybe it’s can be brought up like how libraries swop books from other libraries.
@HarkertheStoryteller
11 ай бұрын
One of the strongest contributing factors to my easy community engagement has been owning a ute - maybe pickup in American - specifically for the help in moving. To communicate the need i could meet, two channels emerged. 1 is the old fashioned friend one. My mates know I've got a ute and know how to use it, so when they need that, they reach out. The second is local/community groups on Facebook. Buy nothing networks, need a lift to, odd job stuff. They don't need arcane rules, just simple and straightforward ones: no advertising of commercial services is, i think, the key.
@JordanSullivanadventures
11 ай бұрын
This is a really important video. Thanks for making.
@diribigal
11 ай бұрын
It's only a partial solution, but my local area has a "time bank" where people can exchange their time. Maybe the electrician volunteers a couple hours of time to one person, and then has a couple hours in the bank to hire, say, someone with a big truck to take stuff off their hands, or a babysitter who doesn't need money as much as they need hours to spend on internet tutoring, etc.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
oh i love that
@sebastiantorn9489
11 ай бұрын
Just a few simple things: 1) Shingles - When home was where you worked people hung shingles of their trade. Revive some form of that. If your neighboir knows you're a plumber, Web Disigner, or something then they can ask. 2) How do dog-walkers find clinents? I found one by word of mouth and Craigslist (Leftlist, maybe), I have a friend who does home care work almost exclusively on Craigs list. 3) Lastly, know your neighbors to learn their needs first. These things could start today and do not address all your issues, but I feel it's a place to start.
@Aud_the_Odd
11 ай бұрын
I am trans and my partner is also 🏳️🌈 and we were fortunate enough to leave Arizona and relocate to Washington state. It was…not cheap. Both of us had a little bit in our retirement we were able to cash out to help pay for it but I think it probably cost about 15k all said and done. People who say everyone should just up and move are dumb as hell and privileged in a way so many people are not. It was very expensive, and we had to make some huge sacrifices to do it and had to for the most part start over completely from a financial and professional perspective.
@Coffeepanda294
11 ай бұрын
btw, thank you for showing me the clip to that They're Made of Meat video. It was excellent.
@kryssikarpentur5996
11 ай бұрын
Welcome to Minnesota. We have our fair share of problems, but at least transphobia is (largely) not one of them. Not completely, but better than most anywhere else in the states. I hope you prosper here.
@awhitney3063
11 ай бұрын
I lived in MN for four years for school, I think you'll enjoy it! I know there are some bad clusters or events at times, but those exist everywhere - by and large I had really good experiences there and the people were generally really nice and kindhearted. I think your daughter will enjoy growing up in Minnesota more than Kentucky as well, no matter who she grows up to be.
@rdfears
11 ай бұрын
This "neighbors helping neighbors" thing is something Beau of the Fifth Column talks about frequently. I don't know if he's ever mentioned any tech solutions, but it might be worth asking him. TDD/BotFC collab video?
@iaclassic
11 ай бұрын
My first thought was asking Michael Moore for ideas.
@donovansingleton9096
11 ай бұрын
Facebook groups. The answer is Facebook groups. I live in a fairly rural area, and we have a Facebook community page that people go to to inform the community, ask for and offer help, yard sales, etc. Everyone has Facebook and even your grandma knows how to use it, so even though it isn't exactly glamorous it's a great way to communicate within a community.
@RaiderWarpath
11 ай бұрын
Welcome back to the Cities. I'm excited for the chance to see my parasocial friend out in the wild. Pertaining to your "sense of community" question. I'd say this all falls under the banner of fostering "The Third Place". I.e. somewhere that isn't your home or work where you bump elbows with people in your neighborhood. Allowing hook-ups with somebody's "guy" who can do things. Unfortunately all third places have been pushed out by... capitalism. Loitering is illegal, and most hangouts require an entry fee that isn't sustainable for everyone.
@OmniLiquid
11 ай бұрын
I think what we need is multiple types of interlocking communities, perhaps using Discord alongside in-person meetings (when reasonable) or something similar to at least make it a bit harder for bad actors to get through. I'm thinking a combination of hobby groups, guilds, families, religious groups (including atheistic groups), neighborhood groups, unions, mutual aid orgs, probably some that I've missed, with each type of group having some kind of confederation or confederation of confederations. Ideally, each person in any group would then be just a few degrees of seperation from someone who could help with their issues. I think one of the biggest obstacles is that the types of jobs available seem to be getting more and more isolated, the crushing economy destroys our free time, and third p;aces are becoming less accessible due to some closing down and the requirements of time and/or money, so we just end up more and more isolated. But we do need to fight back, by starting and joining communities. It's getting harder to do, and thus more important.
@desireedavenport1306
11 ай бұрын
Hey! I work at Culver's and feel personally attacked! I give great service! 😂😊
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
I'M not complaining, Racist Grandpa is! I think you do great work!
@markvetter4711
11 ай бұрын
My wife and I are DINKs, we have the money enough assets that we could drop Florida like a hot rock. But we are staying to fight for a better Florida. The answer to your question is analog, go out side, walk to the neighbors house, introduce your self. I learned this in 2004, and 2006, my neighborhood was hit hard by hurricanes Frances, and Jean in 2004. I got to know all my neighbors. When hurricane Wilma hit in 2006, the community instantly swung in to action. We all knew each other, and who needed help with what. And, who could, and would help. But it was a great neighborhood for a decade after the storms. My neighbor dubbed it the Black Jack theory. Go introduce yourself to the the ten houses on the left and right, then go across the street, introduce your self, then the ten homes to either side. In a city this might not work, but in suburbia it should. That should give you 41 families that you know, and are on friendly terms with. And you make 42 as any Douglas Adams fan knows, that’s the meaning of life. The easy way is a few short walks, and showing up when you are the one who can help. Or wait for a few natural disasters to bring the neighborhood together. ✌️&❤️
@that_heretic
11 ай бұрын
The American system is pay-to-play. The entire system. Not just the red part. You have freedom, if you have the capital. *Terms and conditions apply*
@sykora9526
Ай бұрын
I'm a bisexual leftie in Georgia and I've been thinking about the same thing. I really would love to move somewhere safer but we struggle just to pay rent and make ends meet. We're lucky enough to have savings left to us from my grandfather but that's being drained constantly because we simply don't make enough to get by. We already had to move out of my grandfather's house that he left us because my uncle technically owned half of it and forced us to sell it and give him half the proceeds. We can't afford another move. And even if we could, my mom has a Medtronic pain pump in her lower back for her spine because of a botched back surgery back in the 2000s, if we moved anywhere it would have to be near a doctor that knew how to maintain and replace those when necessary, which severely limits our options (and makes it impossible to move away from US/Canada). I see the rise of fascism in the south, and project 2025, and it's terrifying. We're white and straight passing so we're lucky enough in that way that we could probably keep our heads down and endure, but I feel for all the families that don't have that option.
@gideonmack2318
11 ай бұрын
Look into skills exchanges and time banking, I think there's some promise there. I'm a joiner turned multi-skilled handyperson, I've helped a few neighbours and a couple of local charities in need which I found out about through local political groups. I've also volunteered with a "fixing cafe" where people take broken electricals to get fixed for free. While it's true that there are people with skills happy to help their neighbours in need, time and money can be significant obstacles. I have to do almost as much paid work as I can to afford to live so while I'm always happy to help neighbours and don't expect to be paid by those who can't afford it, I'm unable to take significant financial hit to help, there's also the risk of damaging tools, injuring myself or someone else and the cost related to that. Maybe not the most helpful thoughts but that's where I'm at - possibly some sort of mutual aid fund might help?
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
No it's a good point. Another IT person in the comments brought up the common issue where you don't want to be The Good With Computers Guy in your circle because everyone expects you to fix their stuff with 3 keystrokes and then anything that ever goes wrong on that machine again is now your responsibility. There's a huge "emotional" kind of cost to being available, to being tied to certain projects, and then yeah, the physical costs of time, effort, wear and tear, injuries, etc. It's a huge obstacle
@gideonmack2318
11 ай бұрын
@@ThatDangDadjust realised I wrote "skills library" when I meant "skills exchange" a few friends of mine run a local group where you can bank time helping out locally, spend an hour using your skills - whatever they may be and you bank an hour of someone else's skills. I'm not sure it does enough to help those less able to use their bodies but it's a nice way to take money out of the system and it solves the problem of knowing where to find the person with the skills to help.
@Emileigggggh
6 ай бұрын
My friend recently joined some kind of food access org, I'm thinking about looking into something like that in my neighborhood. I'm trying to find good local orgs to take the kind of actions I want to see more of and to meet people with similar values, but I'm also chronically ill and work full time and tired always so it can be hard
@chibisven
11 ай бұрын
Real talk, any technological solution will be commodified and deflated by people treating it like grubhub for house work. The real solution is in physical real life communities of less than 100 people. There's a number of movements right now to convert suburbs into community villages but fundamentally the concept of a "town hall" or "third space" is the missing piece from what you've described and the suburb is actually carefully crafted to divide communities so that you can sell those services for a profit. There's no small easy answer, but anything we can do to rebuild actual living in the same place and bumping into each other community is the only way to move the ball forward on this issue. Book clubs, pubs, and community churches all have historically served this role, but these days we try and convert all those into "content" for profit. We need neighborhood gathering places, we need to once again know our neighbors, and build relationships with people who have different skills and experiences. No app or website will ever be a real substitute.
@samhuntress
11 ай бұрын
The system you are asking about is called "Self Governance" and we already have that minus the part about "inoculation" against malicious/incompetent/bigoted people.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
The system I am asking about is specifically NOT focused on the self but on the collective, the community, the neighborhood. The myth of the rugged individualist has been long debunked, we need each other
@chloesibilla8199
11 ай бұрын
Basically libraries but... for other things: .clothes .kitchen supplies .gadgets .tools .uuuuh...... furniture!
@chloesibilla8199
11 ай бұрын
Things that: .can be reused (not food, or underwear or notebooks but all those might be cool too just for a different thing) . otherwise would be sitting collecting dust , not living up to it's value potential and taking up space in someones house (see: crockpot you only use once a year or the juicer you haven't touched since your juicing phase) .is durable and can be used by multiple people and still be valuable .low maintenance, can just sit on a shelf in the meantime.
@anathematic5083
11 ай бұрын
talk your neighbors into pooling resources to buy tools that are collectively owned. if you neighbor needs a roto rooter but can't pay for a technician, they don't need to buy one use it once and then sell it. buy the tools as a community and then rent it out to constituents as a way of maintaining equipment, incentivizing it's timely return, and acquiring other equipment. the power of collectivization is the ability to pool resources to obtain goods and services that serve the public good which may be out of reach for an individual. it's about economy of scale.
@cobhallagames6997
11 ай бұрын
My wife and I left Louisiana to come to Colorado about 2 years ago. Granted, we had both just finished college, and didnt have nearly the same amount of things to take care of. We rented, so all we had to do there was to get our stuff out of the house. It was still a major amount of money for us though, and we had to save every penny we could. Unfortunately, Colorado Springs is a LOT more Republican than it was even 10 years ago. It isnt Deep South Republican, sure, but we definitely got a lot of mean looks in our apartment complex for having a Pride flag in the window. I am glad that the mix is still enough to keep the worst right wing policies from getting a foothold, but i am not sure how long that will continue to be true.
@Ky_AnCom
11 ай бұрын
Ah geeze, I'm glad y'all were able to get out of here without it breaking ya. I'm glad you and yours were able to get to a safer state. I'll do my best to do what I can to chip away at that stranglehold the fascists have on Kentucky.
@Thomas5937
11 ай бұрын
This is the community network thing beau of the fifth column used to talk about all the time
@Hectico2257
11 ай бұрын
My short awnser to your question --> Church The long awnser _ I grew up LDS (what most people refer to as Mormon) and have lived in and out of Utah. While I am currently non-practicing many of the mannerisms and community coordiation that I inherited from this culture lends itself to impressively effective community coordination, fairly generous, compassionate and actionable deeds of "Mutual Aid" that many left-oriented or secular organizations/advocacy groups have a hard time replicating. Its hard to explain this over a single comment on the internet but a few visits to one of these local Churches (or better yet a weekend in Utah) can best explain what I mean. I am aware of all the many, many issues that the culture has, that is very conservative and has many of the same issues you outlined as reasons to leave KY, just like people who write about the positive aspects of Amish culture we should not emulate many of thosse harmful aspects of said culture. Alan de Botton (an author/pop-psychologist) few years ago made the case for secular organizations could benefit from adopting many of the community coordinating "technologies" if you will that have been developed over milenia, given Mormmonism's rather unique history and semi-isolated branch within Christianity its certinly worth "mining" for good material. While this is not exactly a consice actionable answer to your question, the basic thesis is that if the Left or even just DSA had the scale, the institutions, and cultural cohesion of the something like the LDS church (they literallly own half the state) it would certainly be a force to be reckoned with.
@CloudedAnon
11 ай бұрын
This is a problem I've spent a ton of time trying to figure out... sadly the best answer I've found was also the most problematic, DSA.
@Guishan_Lingyou
11 ай бұрын
Hopefully someone can come with a scalable, ground-breaking technological lubricant to enable mutual aid. In the meanwhile it can go a long way to offer help to the people that you know, especially when it seems like they could use some help. And to talk to, and get to know, the people you come across at work, at the grocery store, etc. Be a good community member to the people you already interact with. It might just catch on. Also, if you are in a position to join a union, it's probably a good idea to do so. I'm a member of the IBEW and, although when I worked non-union jobs in past co-workers often helped each other, as a union member the network of support is generally broader.
@user-te5po4bu8o
11 ай бұрын
The answer is: make friends. I know a guy with loads of friends. If you mention something, that guy knows them. He just asks a friend if he needs something, and his friends ask him.
@xarvh
11 ай бұрын
You need to create a community: people who interact often, we meet at "third places", who know each other and little by little can develop trust and a willingness to help each other. I guess you can try and do this through an app, but I'm a bit diffident of tech-only solutions. We need to create the opportunities to build trust.
@joearnold6881
11 ай бұрын
That Dang Dad’s Old Kentucky Home, Goodnight
@Undef1ned0ne
3 ай бұрын
garentee this has already been said but how about an app that (ideally speaking) most everyone had that had the kind of help they liked to give and their preferences in terms of proximity. then when someone needs help with something, they tell the app and the app tells everyone who's preferences/skills line up with what is needed. might be hard to get started but it sounds like a good idea to me
@caileancampbell7498
11 ай бұрын
I'm from a purple state and a dark blue city. We moved to a blood red state with a darker red "city". We moved primarily because of the housing costs back in Colorado and moved in with my in-laws to take care of my father in-law in Kansas, I would say the sticks of Kansas, but the entire state is sticks..., like seriously, the entire state population is smaller than my hometown. Now all that being said, big cities normally do have groups or organizations that can help with moves. The problem is finding those groups. Most groups don't have the tech and/or the infrastructure to get their message out. Back home, I was involved with a feeding the homeless group, and out here, it's virtuously impossible. And as soon as you point out that for all intents and purposes, they are socialist, they shut down..., hard. Now luckily Kansas isn't as bass akwards as other states, like Texas. They did vote to constitutionalize abortion and women's rights. But they are still very red. They still look down on anyone who needs ANY kind of help, and gods forbid if you verbalize any "leftist" idea like buying a homeless man lunch. Capitalism is ingraned into them. "I'll buy you lunch if you rake and clean my property.", mentality. I literally saw that a couple of weeks ago. If you want a truly socialistic society, you HAVE to change how people view each other. That racist uncle of yours needs to stop seeing that black man as something less than him. That homeophobic grandma needs to stop being afraid of the unknown. Out here in the middle of nowhere sticks, I have discovered that the people really are ,ore socialistic than most cities because they go out of their way to help each other as long as the know it and accept it. For instance, my neighbor, from 5 miles away, seriously, my nearest neighbor is 5 miles away, needed help towing his tractor out of a field when it broke down. His neighbor drove his flatbed 18 wheeler into that field. My in-laws and his neighbor dug the tractor out and loaded it onto the flatbed. None of knew each other. That at it's core is SOCIALISM. Just don't tell them that.
@caileancampbell7498
11 ай бұрын
@@keemstarkreamstar7069 as pointed out in the video, it'snot easy to just pick up and move. I'm glad you have the money to to move when ever you want, but with the destruction of the middle class, the vast majority can't just move on a whim. Just moving with a a plan cost almost $5000. $5000 that we did not have and still don't have. SoI am glad you have those options.
@caileancampbell7498
11 ай бұрын
@@keemstarkreamstar7069 the way you phrased just move to Mexico or Scandinavia came off as the argument of if you don't like just move. As for my views, I am under no illusion that the world is F'ed up, and Capitilism is at fault. I do wish for a Star Trek type future, I just see an Idiocracy future.
@benjulesrun9057
11 ай бұрын
it's so gross how many people have trucks for non-truck purposes
@ChiWillett
11 ай бұрын
collective organization through community building. i think a lot of people start with mutual aid, and i think the concept of mutual aid gains a lot of traction, because: its such a simple concept that can be applied so easily. it allows for people to explore more ways they can challenge the status quo. like the comment mentioning the mutual aid group in waahington that helps folks get out of red states. tho a setback that can be identified is capacity. and if capacity is the issue, how do you then reach people who are burnt out, tired, have little time, and are complacent with reality as it exists due to their own life experiences affected by capitalism? you mentioned nextdoor as a means for connecting, but maybe that answer lies in the use of sharing zines? edit: really really free markets are also a fun way of helping build community
@xHarpyx
11 ай бұрын
Put me on the list of ppl to let know once you do. I mull over this exact problem and creating a community action network is the only one I can think of. It's basically just a group of my most trusted friends. We get together for BBQs and such but also hit each other up for emergency child care or other essentials that are needed. We're in our late 30s and up to our early 50s & without any close or living family to depend on. I'd like to expand this to my neighborhood, but I have severe trust issues due to childhood trauma. I expect a lot of poor peeps like me to be dealing with the same thing here in South Texas hell. Beau of the Fifth Column has a great explainer video about community action networks and how to begin.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
ooh i love it (and i love Beau) very intriguing
@ChanceMHitt
11 ай бұрын
I'm half way in and I already like the financial honesty . But what if you could rent or build a mobile home. Having a wife and relatives in addition to and excessive number of pets Seems as much trade-off liability if you have the prelivige as opposed involuntary assets with expenses.
@HiyaKaia
11 ай бұрын
I'm incredibly lucky as a very queer person I was born in Minnesota, and while I have my fair share of difficulties for different reasons I literally would not live in any other state. Welcome to the Great State of Minnesota!
@deathguitarist12
11 ай бұрын
I also live in the twin cities. There are a ton of lgbtq+ especially the trans folks who are moving here. I see posts on nearly a daily basis asking about safety and good locstions to live.
@BruceWaynesaysLandBack
11 ай бұрын
Your fast forward was your choice, but all of this was interesting. I’m sure your fast forward section would’ve been fine Community services are the solution, you’re right. Friends, community, grillin’, holidays. Neighborhood chat, maybe telegram (or chat app that’s ‘conveniently’ super private) And you can do a Patreon. Videos like this is what Patreon would compensate- not your personal
@ZikiDraws
11 ай бұрын
Oh hey im a trans women from florida, fortunately for me I dont really own much, and had a friend looking for a roomate up in Pennsylvania. I wasnt really in a safe situation so i kinda just packed my things into my car and lived out that until we found a place to rent, than drove cross country.
@chrispychicken9614
11 ай бұрын
Rando: “I’m not a fascist, I just think America should be a Christian nation.” Me: “Uhhhh, that’s called *theocratic* fascism.” Rando: “I don’t care. My team or you’re a bad guy.”
@needsmoretacos4807
11 ай бұрын
170000 forbthat house holy cow. Thats litterally 10x less than that gouse in LA. But yeah the real cost is living in kentucky. For our family with two moms nope
@lousielouise8716
11 ай бұрын
As much as I would love for technology to be the solution, it's just not scaleable with our current model. Tech companies, apps, and websites need to pay their bills to keep the lights on. Most of them do that with ad dollars. Shockingly, corporations are usually not thrilled to pay to play their ads in front of a bunch of anti capitalists. And then there's obviously the ethics of selling user data to make cash, which is the other option, and that doesn't seem great either. If the platform charges money to use, then the poorest and neediest are locked out by default. If it's run as a non-profit and takes donations, then you HAVE to have administration to make sure those are well-used funds. Maybe all of that is worth it. But you know what's way cheaper? Public corkboards and messageboards. Colleges and universities still have and use them. Cheaper still is just showing up to city and town council meetings and meeting people. Get out, get friendly, and get connected. Make group chats, or Discords. Don't try to reinvent the wheel with new tech. Good old fashioned face-to-face communication works way better, and as a bonus, is unhackable ;)
@jazzpear8877
11 ай бұрын
So scared the housing market is gonna crash before we can move and trap my whole trans found family in one of the worst states…
@habeashumor9814
11 ай бұрын
There's a pretty good French satire film called "Discount" (free to stream last time I checked). It's about a group of employees at an Aldi-like store who get together and make their own store with goods stolen from the employer, and ultimately their whole community forms a co-op to help each other out with various goods and services. It works well in the film, and it's uplifting to watch, but in reality I think it would fall apart as soon as people do what people always do - get into disagreements (petty or otherwise), and fall out in various inter-personal drama.
@hamstermk4
11 ай бұрын
My preferred solution is UBI for providing the capital to allow for both stability and mobility. 6 years ago I bought my first house and had to take advantage of family wealth in a way that most of my peers don't have access to. I understand the guilt that comes with knowing you are experiencing a favorable outcome thanks mostly to the lottery of birth. I have chosen to assuage that guilt by pushing for UBI so that every body can have that rich uncle who has a personal investment in your well being. Even if that uncle's name is Sam.
@VeggieTanuki
11 ай бұрын
I don't have an answer to this very important question, but whatever answers that you get,*please* make a follow-up video to spread the message.
@kv4302
11 ай бұрын
From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free!
@funkbungus137
11 ай бұрын
the average hammer is used for less than a minute I think. the seriously wrong podcast talks about this sort of stuff a lot, sort of coming up with this idea of "library socialism" which I think is awesome.
@ppbrain2328
11 ай бұрын
So far...Craigslis, but I would say it's pretty minimal compared to what you are looking for.
@underthedice1231
11 ай бұрын
Don't be friends with your mutual aid network. No. I'm not kidding. I'm fully serious. If you're friends, you're it. If they remain allied strangers, y'all got friends and their networks. Mutual aid is politics. Politics isn't a social club. If you become friends, do a recrutement push and split the group.
@brontqualiaboley
11 ай бұрын
Gods i need to talk to my dad about this. He knows a guy for everything and is the guy for anything mechanical. Old farming communities like the one my mom lives in have these ties too, but despite living around them i have no idea how they form. Fuck.
@lormythos
11 ай бұрын
I'm in a Discord server with a bunch of locals (within an hour drive of one another) and while it isn't specifically meant for this kind of thing, we've used it for similar purposes in the past. It's something of a joke that the same Ikea bags have moved a lot of us into new spaces, and we show up for each other to help with the move because it doubles as hanging out with friends. Someone recently was able to buy a car from another in the group in a way that was affordable and with ease of mind knowing the history of the vehicle from someone they trusted. We've helped each other with child care. It's not quite as localized as your vision, but it has been a great way to build community.
@lormythos
11 ай бұрын
Also, I've seen "free" groups on FB and sometimes people will also donate their time to help with tasks. It feels a bit odd to accept help from a FB stranger, whereas the Discord group meets in person occasionally so we have more of a sense of community from sharing physical space.
@Spigele
11 ай бұрын
Mastodon is at least good structurally for this purpose, but it's unlikely to be adopted and has a high barrier to entry. Discord is feature rich, can be private and somewhat easily modified, and so far is the least enshittified social media I've used. It's user friendly, free of most algorithmic shenanigans, and does not share much personal info compared to other apps. It's also great for hangouts, discussion, and other social activities. As far as existing mutual aid structures, I'm fortunate to live in an area where the SRA is active, well vetted, and knowledgeable. There's always a path to find or start one locally too. EDIT: I forgot to mention, discord was the best radicalization tool for me in 2019/2020. I followed a lot of leftist streamers in that time with very good moderation and supportive members. (This always depends on the admins, however, and is labor in itself.)
@DeLaSoul246
11 ай бұрын
Since back in the day when I was trapped in a crap state for years, I have struggled with this question. Honestly the main reason I think people can't show up for others is because everyone is burnt out and at their wits end already. They have no energy or time left after they are done with work and their kids. I remember a study I saw from a while ago where they were trying to understand people who gave money to the homeless on the street. And who would stop their day to help a stranger move a piece of furniture up 4 flights of stairs for no reward? Who gives? Who doesn't? Why? The main predictor of whether a person would help was Time. Do they have time? That was it. It was not a deep question about their morality or their demographics (although it has been shown poor people are far more likely to donate money than the rich). The main predictor was time. Are they running late? Are they on a stroll or do they need to be somewhere? That kind of blew my mind but when I thought back on the times when I didn't or did help strangers, that was the deciding factor ultimately. Was I on my way to class or work? Or was I taking the scenic route home on a nice day? I was absolutely far more likely to help a stranger on the latter days. So in a big abstract way, I think the rise of unions is one solution. Unions ensure people are less worn down, they have more time, more money, and just more capacity to help others in general. They are not so occupied with surviving and scrambling to put on their own oxygen mask, so-to-speak. Once Unions are in full force, and more people have more time and energy, I think we could then look to the software soyboys to use tech to find efficient and ethical ways to connect the people who need connecting.
@GulfCoastGrit
11 ай бұрын
Well then I think you have the kernel of something there on how we start. Maybe it isn’t how we help each other in general, maybe the first thing we do is figure out how do we help each other get more time back? I think for those of us who have time to offer, we use that as our in, so to speak. Don’t get me wrong, saving money is great but help a person save time and they’ll really appreciate it. Guarantee you half of all software products in dev right now are geared toward time saving applications. At least inside of businesses that is.
@DeLaSoul246
11 ай бұрын
@@GulfCoastGrit Indeed. I do believe the biggest obstacle to Community at this juncture is not *how* to connect people, but the fact that our economy sucks us all dry of all the time & energy we would otherwise use to contribute to Community in the first place. CEO's have gotten what they wanted: the highest possible ROI they could get from human bodies. And their success is reflected in a widespread inability to even take care of our own physical needs, let alone the needs of others. People barely get to rest anymore. We crash. We do damage control. But we don't get true restoration, not most of us. Unions are the next, most realistic step. It is something individuals can start at their own place of work, and it's something that catches on and spreads and inspires others to do the same. Highly recommend A More Perfect Union to anyone reading who wants to keep up with news on Unions (primarily in the u.s.). In my eyes, Unions are the best chance we've got at a better life and a chance for true Community. Fun fact: did you know that Maslow (creator of Maslow's hierarchy of needs) at some point decided that the tippy top of the pyramid was not actually Self-Actualization, but Self-Transcendence? This isn't widely known. But is it any surprise that the selfish people in charge would have us all believe that the pinnacle of human achievement is pure selfishness? No. The true pinnacle of human achievement is this: many self-actualized people who have their needs met so well that they have transcended the need to focus only on themselves and can thus focus on working together for higher goals, Big Picture goals for their country & society. That is who we really are. That is humanity at our best.
@GulfCoastGrit
11 ай бұрын
@@DeLaSoul246 I also recommend Labor Notes as well. Excellent publication for keeping up with unions.
@hive_indicator318
11 ай бұрын
Something like a community garden might help. Fresh veggies for free saves money, which could mean one less shift picked up every few weeks. Or something like a outdoor community movie night, if you can afford a projector setup (they're about $100).
@noma5050
11 ай бұрын
Thank you for this! I haven't liked to be told that we are getting meaner and greedier all over the country just because we're bad and getting worse. Personal experience says this is just not so. It fits with the "distrust the system" campaigns, though. It's a distrust everyone, especially your neighbor" campaign. No wonder big corporations want so much more than "full time" for a salary. That's also why they want us to use our vacation days instead of sick time, and penalize parents who have to take care of sick kids, and so on, and so on. It isn't so much that they want more hours for the same pay (though that's great too), it's that they want to keep us too busy to look for better employment, further our educations, raise our own children or even cook decent food!
@kevinjones6587
11 ай бұрын
As a black Texan, thank you for this🙏👍👍⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
@davyhotch
11 ай бұрын
Honestly I think free food is a big way forward. It is a huge cooking time saver for all the guests without being an excessive labour burden on the cooks. Makes going to meetings easier when you aren't worrying about the housework you are delaying while attending to them.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
This is one thing churches know very well: you gotta feed the people to build community.
@endTHEhegemony_Today
11 ай бұрын
@@ThatDangDad yes agree! And so many great meals are entirely affordable in bulk The problem is distribution, because polies come down hard on free food distribution!!
@endTHEhegemony_Today
11 ай бұрын
Excellent point, most people can only realistically engage in the movement when they are not giving up their daily duties to do so, and not going energy bankrupt doing it all, that is amazing!!! 🖤💜💙💚💙🌹🖤 Much Love!!
@V1sual3y3z
11 ай бұрын
somewhat related: I really love Free Pantries/Community Fridges. The admin and maintenance sometimes takes a toll, on people, though.
@notyourjakey
11 ай бұрын
@@ThatDangDadthat's how my church snagged me! Gave me food and respect, proved their progressive values and now I'm part of the community there
@BlindErephon
11 ай бұрын
I bring this up constantly with peeps, like.......the last time I tried to leave where I live, I drove seven hours with all my things in my car to room with my best friend. I own next to nothing, and it still cost me more than I could afford on my own. It didn't work out, and now where could I possibly go? Come hell or high water, this is where I am and am likely to stay barring a situation arising where I could plausibly claim asylum in Canada or something.
@underthedice1231
11 ай бұрын
Some of us are working to keep our doors open. Some of our universities work with Rainbow Railroads to help integrate refugees.
@Korzacks2nd
11 ай бұрын
I'm sorry to hear that. Based on your experience, how much do you think it would cost to evacuate?
@BlindErephon
11 ай бұрын
@@Korzacks2nd Assuming I could just toss a bag in my car and leave, and not thinking about questions like passport, or a place to live or anything but getting there, it would at least be a few hundred dollars, but that would be cutting it down to just gas and food for the trip. If I wanted to not like.......live in my car or a refugee camp? Fuck if I know. Fortunately I live someplace that is more than likely, in my mind, to be spared any particular circumstance where it would be necessary as opposed to just preferable for me specifically.
@Korzacks2nd
11 ай бұрын
Thanks. Idk about hauling all the stuff, or just driving here, but maybe the costs could be cut down a little bit via a bus ticket, but yeah the more expensive part would be housing and necessities once you got here.@@BlindErephon
@colinsanders9397
11 ай бұрын
As a trans Texan, thank you. I'd be on my way out now if I didn't have family to take care of.
@anniescornavacca1472
11 ай бұрын
Stay strong & stay safe! The Rainbow Railroad is an org that's trying to help people just like you right now. They usually help people in countries you think of first when you think of the criminalization of Queer Communities. They're like the Underground Railroad for Queer people. Unfortunately, they've had to pivot a lot of resources to the US lately as things continue to get really bad for folks in red states. Maybe look them up & reach out to see if they can help you. I'm sorry this is happening. I know it isn't enough but if it helps, there are a lot of us out here who see these laws meant to harm you & we're outraged. We are on your side & we have your back, or at least we want to, but don't know hie to tangibly help. I just want you to know that I know a lot of people who wouldn't go to a protest or join an org, but who are firmly on your side. The loudest aren't actually the most. There are more people like my dad who isn't politically active but supports Trans rights as a personal value than there are like Matt Walsh. It's the same issue as this video though. How do wer break through people's burnout to activate them to fight for any cause or community? Anyway, I thought maybe it might help to hear that more people than you know are with you. ❤ Keep being unapologetically you. We love & support you. Lots of love.
@Lenn869
11 ай бұрын
ACK
@sisyphushappyxvx
11 ай бұрын
Stoked to return for ideas in the comments. As a nearly-40, also-very-tired leftist, I, too, wonder what smaller projects we can get going in our communities that are scalable and sustainable.
@DrDanWeaver
11 ай бұрын
It's amazing to see just how emotionally knackered those of use who've lived through these last 40, 50 years of neoliberal peak are.
@EmberHolly
11 ай бұрын
Please, anybody that wishes to start a business, make it a co-op. This can look like starting on your own until you have enough profit to hire, preferably with almost equal pay, one or two other people. This can also look like having enough money (don't like the word capital here) to hire a few people outright. Co-ops are resistant to economic shock, so that's an advantage. They often grow slower, and hiring and firing can be tricky, but there aren't enough of them to figure out how to work around this. You don't even have to be the CFO or anything. You can just watch over things etc, make sure the paperwork is tight and take some profit. Making it contagious makes it better. You can design, and someone else can work the hiring/firing/financials. Please *don't* start a non-profit. They're often kneecapped in the States, but, if you insist, you can still make it a co-op. Having a benevolent business is a great way to set up the necessary scaffolding to really help people in all sorts of ways. Much love. 🙂 And, not saying *you* should start a business per se, but, as you're getting older, it may not be the worst idea in the world, though, the 'very tired' thing might put a wrench in all that. xD
@QuestingRefuge
11 ай бұрын
What sucks is social media like Nextdoor in theory should be a decent tool for things like this but the reality... Well, i have seen you post about nextdoor before lmao
@TimEssDub
11 ай бұрын
I live in Michigan and the state has made some serious policy changes for the better. An industry group in Michigan is promoting the state as a refuge for LGBTQ people, considering the legislature amended the state civil rights act to include that group, signed by the governor. Michigan and Minnesota need to exchange notes and share our homework with Wisconsin and Ohio.
@noma5050
11 ай бұрын
I agree! Minnesota has done many (most?) of the same things. There's a reason deep blue states have better economies than deep red states.
@mxpants4884
11 ай бұрын
I'm nearly a life-long Ohio resident and committed to sticking it out here and improving what I can... but I read this and had an immediate recoil. We aren't even close to becoming a refuge. Maybe for abortion rights if we pass the constitutional amendment? Not for queer folks, let alone queer kids though.
@eh.g7122
11 ай бұрын
I moved to Michigan to escape bevin Kentucky, as much as I miss my family and friends I love what the government has been doing here to actually improve and grow.
@s.teamspark3858
11 ай бұрын
@@mxpants4884 as someone born in Michigan and currently living in Ohio, there is such a difference between the two states. I don't feel nearly as safe here as I did in MI. I truly hope Ohio heads in the right direction.
@Kriskat6
11 ай бұрын
Wisconsin Legislators are busy trying to get rid of elected officials that don't agree with them. Bring your hip waders.
@nickernst639
11 ай бұрын
Long term idea that worked here: small neighborhood/block party just to get to know people and what they do. It’s easier to ask for help from a person in a friendly mindset than it is to ask for help from someone in a business mindset. To me this exists in the “third spaces” type idea.
@theyxaj
11 ай бұрын
This is definitely part of it, I think. My last neighborhood was *awesome* to the point where I was suspicious at first as to why my direct neighbor was so nice. But they had developed a community together and invited my family into it. Part of it was block parties, part of it was going through covid and a bad winter emergency together, part of it was there were a lot of kids around the same age who played with each other.
@AlmightyDoubleHelix
11 ай бұрын
I think this is basically how society used to function. Anybody who needed something done knew a guy who knew a guy, and we organized through word of mouth. I'm not sure there's just one reason we stopped that can be easily fixed. Communities have gotten more fragmented, we communicate less, people are too busy doing a job that barely provides for them to worry about other people, some problems require more expertise than is reasonable to lend in this economy, and people have just gotten used to paying a stranger to do things for them. This seems like another symptom of capitalism to me.
@chloesibilla8199
11 ай бұрын
I'd like to add to this wonderful comment that neighborhoods re not built with a place to connect anymore and haven't been since levet towns
@gabrielclark1425
11 ай бұрын
@@chloesibilla8199...never tried going to church then? The sermons typically only last an hour, and then people stay around for a few more to mingle. But nah, you guys just assume we're crazy and that everything everyone has ever done is pointless.
@moffichu9150
11 ай бұрын
you're crazy. theres non religious people too, church shouldn't be the only place to socialize. also, this might shock you.... theres also other religions! like thousands of them!
@bdd7881
11 ай бұрын
@@gabrielclark1425 not everyone wants to goto church? Have you thought of that? Or do non-religious people not deserve community places as well?
@moffichu9150
11 ай бұрын
"Christian country" argument incoming. Very first sentence of the first amendment should help clear things up for you.
@Wickertop
11 ай бұрын
This is a phenomenal video that leads into a lot of great topics to explore - some of the major reasons for a loss of community support comes down to how atomized our economic system has left the average person, and how lacking in mutually-beneficial voluntary socialization we all experience as adults trying to make ends meet. We lack third places to spend time together without the expectation of spending money to build these connections that lead to the sort of 'you help me, I help you' organic networking you're talking about. When news networks and social media push stories about violent crime, violence between supposed neighbors, and community unrest, it leaves us untrusting and struggling to network with one another - We all have seen stories where someone knocks on a neighbor's door for help, and said neighbor ends up pulling a gun on them. Car culture atomizes and isolates us by making it difficult to get anywhere with any amount of people without specifically-driving there, and the overemphasis on car infrastructure over everything else makes it difficult to casually go somewhere to meet people and network when everyone has to get in the car, get out on the highway, drive X minutes, find parking, etc. We are encouraged to buy everything we could ever possibly need rather than borrow from others, because everyone buying something they use once is more profitable to corporations than a broader group sharing one thing - imagine how many lawn mowers just sit in garages all day for the majority of the year, only to be whipped out for an hour or two every two weeks by the owner, and how insanely-inefficient that idea is. Definitely a great watch, and plenty of room to have follow-up videos and further research/topics. Keep it up, Dad. ♥
@endTHEhegemony_Today
11 ай бұрын
So so true, everything you mentioned!! 🖤💜💙💚💙💜🖤 Much Love!!
@toppersundquist
11 ай бұрын
Your wife!
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
MAH WAHHH
@CompComp
11 ай бұрын
@ThatDangDad this comment has a "translate to English" option that translated it to "WELL WOW"
@zacharybutler5944
11 ай бұрын
Thanks for this video. I'm a leftist in Florida trying to help out my family and my neighbors, and I'm absolutely sick that the sentence "I live in Florida" is treated like both setup and punchline by so many other leftists outside of the state. I'm sick of being called part of the problem by the fact that I'm completely unable to move (unless one of those jackasses decides to give my family the $500,000 it'd take to move anywhere given current housing prices) and am trying to make the state I was born in better.
@s.teamspark3858
11 ай бұрын
It always surprises me how judgemental and closed-minded leftists on the internet can be. I say this as a leftist myself
@nietzschebietzsche
11 ай бұрын
Some people are just obsessed with moralizing everything in bad faith. They need to be antagonized so, ironically, they can justify being bullies. This isn't an expressly liberal or leftist or right-wing phenomenon. It's just political internet culture. They frame you as the antagonist, even someone who may share many of their own convictions, for what? Living in a place where you have roots? There's no logic behind it. I see value in leftists staying in areas that are going increasingly right-fascist. We have the opportunity to try to act as a stabilizing force, to hold ourselves to a high standard, and push back against the forces driving housing instability, homelessness, incarceration, gay and trans hate, racism, and so on. I also see real value in moving for those who are seeing a pattern of increasingly fascist tendencies intensify and worry about themselves and their families. These are personal decisions mediated by people's means and circumstances. Those people hating on you are bad faith leftists who need to feel important or something
@johnwotek3816
11 ай бұрын
@@s.teamspark3858 Yup, this whole "why don't you left that State" is in the same vein as american right winger complain about us, European, mocking them for their gun fetishism and their poor understanding of basic leftist ideas. "Why do you care, it isn't your country" is often something they say when they understand we are foreigner. They fail to understand how everything is interconnected theses day. They also fail to understand basic empathy. Red States shouldn't be the shit show they are and the sad part is that the game is kinda rigged over there.
@JRSpecht
11 ай бұрын
Well said!
@fearsomefawkes6724
11 ай бұрын
You're touching on a really big thing here. If everyone that could leave did, then who is left to support the people who can't leave? If everyone leaves that doesn't fix the problem, it would probably make it worse. I'm not shaming people that do leave. But we also need people to stay and do the work.
@CreeperKiller666
11 ай бұрын
As a trans woman who got out of Kentucky during the pandemic-I would've been boned without the good fortune of getting the stimulus checks. I can't imagine how I'd accomplish it now that the economy has returned to 'normal.' That's *despite* leaving all my possessions with family and only brining one suitcase worth of things with me. Just the cost of plane tickets, housing, and food for the first few weeks is prohibitive for most single millennials/Gen Z'ers. Let alone actually trying to bring an entire family and their belongings. Most folks can't even come up with $2000 in an emergency, let alone 30 or 40 or 50k or more.
@randyt3558
11 ай бұрын
I find it fascinating that people don't understand how cities crumble when those with the means can move to the suburbs, leaving only those without the means, in the 'city'. Detroit comes to mind.
@The2012Aceman
11 ай бұрын
"We'll just tax the people who are leaving more." -Average Educated Government Worker
@unholyrevenger72
11 ай бұрын
Why fix the problems when you can just run away from them and price out the people who need the most help.
@dhoffnun
11 ай бұрын
@@The2012Aceman Average government workers don't decide who to tax and how much.
@jeffersonclippership2588
11 ай бұрын
@@The2012Aceman correct, suburbs should be abolished
@blondequijote
4 ай бұрын
Its only natural that the monster of mass manufacturing swallows its own tail. Ppl say "if we dont pay taxes, who will build the roads?" and I say "Thats a good reason to not pay taxes." We the Pedestrians must reclaim the streets.
@mdhhthh8593
11 ай бұрын
I love how you detailed what it took to move and that it is not an option that most (or many) have. It’s surprising how many do not understand that fact. I’m a single mom that has been stuck in a cycle of poverty and lack for years. My children and I have found ourselves chronically homeless (and I don’t mean couch surfing homeless. I mean looking for the safest dumpster to sleep behind homeless because finding emergency shelters where we could stay is it’s own challenge. There’s never enough beds.). We live in one of the most expensive metropolises in the nation, and if I ever had the opportunity and means to move somewhere less expensive, I’d jump on that opportunity. It’s never been an option though. So much has to line up to make something like that happen, and it’s wild how so many think families like mine can just decide to up and leave their current location and flee to a less expensive locale. It requires some degree of privilege and/or luck for anyone to be detached enough from the world around them to hold the belief that moving like that is an option available to everyone, and those who do not make that move are either too dumb or selfish to just get it done. In an effort to avoid another eviction (for inability to pay rent; not for bad behavior) I created a gofundme beginning of September. It’s the first time I’ve ever done anything like this. A KZitemr that lives near me asked if he could do a video on my family and I and he put the gofundme link in the video description. The video was released about 2 weeks ago and has already surpassed 200K views. Not only have a handful of people been donating and helping financially, but I’ve also had 2 mechanics volunteer their time (and even offered to pay for parts) to keep my 12 year old car with 180K miles on it going. I’ve had wonderful, encouraging messages come in from people also and I can sincerely say that I’ve felt and benefited from those prayers/vibes/well-wishes directed my way too. It has done much good to know that there are people who simply care and want my daughters and I to have our basic needs met and be successful. Honestly, I think I’ve received almost an equal amount of negative comments as i have positive. Thankfully though I’ve been able to remain focused on the love and let it overpower the hate. People who don’t know me have been making a bunch of false assumptions and using them to justify their disgust with me and others like me. BUT… it is so awesome to see how many (with no obligation to care about my kids and I) show up to say “we love y’all and want to see you thrive”… that’s been incredibly touching and powerful. I have been astounded though how many have been annoyed by my story to the point that they have taken the time to google search me and find my personal contact info; which they then have been using to fling hate and disgust my way. They have zero ability to relate and they have been sold on the idea that homeless are all drug addicted, mentally incompetent, and/or too lazy to take care of themselves. Not only this, but they themselves are secure enough in their lives to have the time to put this much effort into digging for my contact info just so they can tear me down and tell me how I am a great example of everything wrong in America. I’ve had so many telling me how dumb I am for staying in a place so expensive that I cannot afford (they assume I’ve had better options) and the other quick assumptions they’ve made about my children and I are so far from the truth it’s just jaw dropping. It’s stunning to me how so many people right around me live in realities so opposite my own, that they can hold such beliefs and delusions about the realities of living in this country and opportunities available to all here. It’s like they think liberty and justice are for all, and they have no clue it’s reserved for the privileged and those with the $ to purchase them. They also seem to have this idea in their heads that consistent hard work and discipline is all one needs to give in order to take care of basic needs and prosper. If only!!! These beliefs are as ridiculous as believing Santa comes thru every xmas to reward all well behaved children. I don’t want to overemphasize the negative here… while I have had a lotta mud slung my way, I have been blessed with much love and support that is giving me so much hope. It’s comforting to know that a lot of people get it and want to make changes which will turn this world into a healthier place for our children and the planet as a whole. It’s worthwhile though to be aware that a fat portion of the population is drowning in a sea of misinformation, and there’s so much work to be done otherwise they have the potential to sink us all. I love the question you’ve proposed here though! What a great one to brainstorm!!! I wish I had good ideas to offer up. I don’t. But just wanted to throw some support behind the idea that we should be working on this! Some network where those in need are connected with those with the ability to help. I was raised in a cult that would still argue that is exactly who and what they are, with the added perk of being gods one and only true church on the face of the earth. Many of the members legit believe the church is this perfect network. 🙄 and it’s not possible to roll my eyes hard enough at this notion lol.
@Froggsroxx
11 ай бұрын
Cruelty is the point of conservative policy
@cedaremberr
11 ай бұрын
Some cities have tool lending libraries. I wonder if there could be a directory set up alongside a tool lending library as like a skill lending library
@iamjustkiwi
11 ай бұрын
This is a great and important video people can use as reference to folks who tell people that if they dont like somewhere, to leave. I'm glad you are willing to speak openly about money and your own privilege of having access to it and other necessities. I really hate how corporate culture convinced folks that discussing money is unprofessional or rude or whatever, its just another means of control. We should all be talking openly about this kind of bullshit, and its the kind of thing that may actually drag a few folks more leftwards when they hear the struggles of their friends and coworkers. My partner and I have basically tripped our asses upwards into having stable housing, 2 vehicles, and a network to support us should things go bad, simply due to wealthy family and sheer luck. I ALWAYS point out thay we had zero merit to earn or deserve it, which seems to make people uncomfortable. Its confusing to folks when I tell them I did absolutely nothing to deserve what we have (and in fact with my past as an addict who hurt lots of people in the process probably should have landed in jail), and still somehow have a home that we only have to pay property taxes on. It really helps tear down the idea of meritocracy when I basically admit to people I'm a "bad" person who still won.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
Yeah, i was vacillating back and forth between talking openly about numbers, housing value, retirement accounts etc versus feeling like it was bragging or being annoying, but you're right, it's a corporate mindset that tells us to hide our salaries and shy away from talking money because keeping things hidden covers over a multitude of sins
@matthollywood8060
11 ай бұрын
@@ThatDangDad It's appreciated and important. If people see how this is even difficult for people with 4 cars and 6k in savings, maybe they'll have some understanding for how it is for people living paycheck to paycheck.
@MachFarcon
11 ай бұрын
While the introvert part of me is absolutely terrified of the the idea talking to strangers near me, I will admit that when I used to rent, in a different city, walking around my area (in the limited introvert way I could), I couldn't help but notice that a bunch of people were moving in and out of the apartment complex. If I had time, or it wasn't a weekday, I tried to just stop by and ask if they needed help. Most of the time, I was told that they were fine, and I moved on. Occasionally they said yes, and I spent the next hourish helping someone. I don't know if I ever talked to those people again, but I do know that it didn't harm me to ask. I'm not saying that it was a good idea in retrospect (though I never felt unsafe), but perhaps the observation aspect could be of use? To observe what is happening around you and ask yourself "how can I help my community with it's community specific issues?" And perhaps for the aspect of organizing in some manner, could there be some sort of way a verification could happen, and then you get a pin or a card that could signal to people that you aren't a creeper or believe problematic things? I dunno, but with all of the union stuff going on, wouldn't this, in a way, be similar in membership?
@DrDanWeaver
11 ай бұрын
That's very interesting and true. My feeling is that there's people (literally) dying for a feeling of connection and maybe some scheme that aggregated those requiring specified types of help, perhaps pdf'ed local requirements of people who had somehow been vetted, then was posted regularly (including on physical noticeboards)... Mutual aid societies probably have the expertise...
@aachannoichi
11 ай бұрын
I don't know if this is THE answer or even part of the answer, but my husband does a lot of stuff himself. He reads a lot of different books and watches a lot of different videos to learn how to do things. The best example is when we lived in Florida, we wanted solar for the house. Running the ac practically year round was extremely expensive, and solar was a good option. So we got quotes but they were all close to 100 thousand dollars, so he read tons, watched a lot of videos and with the guidance of his BIL, he brought the panels and installed them himself. When the inspector came by, he said his work was flawless. My husband works in IT, not an electrician. He always says he can do things people pay for a thousand times better, and he really does. Maybe some of us could learn how to do some of the pay people things and share that knowledge with others. Maybe that is part of the solution.
@ThatDangDad
11 ай бұрын
Yeah I learned how to replace my headlights and taillights from a KZitem video. I also learned how to fix part of my furnace at one point. If you have the time and patience, you can learn a LOT
@crowsong8097
11 ай бұрын
My partner and I (both trans) are fleeing Georgia and going to Washington. We started planning more than a year ago and literally had to fund it through gofundme. If it weren’t for the kindness of others, we would not be able to escape. We’re terrified of the upcoming election, so we are leaving everything behind other than 300 cubic feet of belongings and our cats. It’s heartbreaking and we will be starting essentially from scratch, but at least we will be in an area where the government isn’t likely to cut off our healthcare or turn a blind eye to violence.
@rainbowraver666
11 ай бұрын
as a trans Washingtonian, we're happy to have you here!! I know so many trans people who've moved here from other states and now never want to leave the state 💖
@thelemon5069
11 ай бұрын
@rainbowraver666 Utah here I gotta get back to the pnw lol
@coyoteblue4027
11 ай бұрын
I live in Vancouver, a notoriously cold and unfriendly city. But, as a kid I lived in a social housing complex in one of the surrounding suburban areas. The kids all played togetger, neighbors knew each other. Everybody helped each other out. Not to say there weren't fights and grudges and the usual stuff you get with groups of people, but that area is the only place I've personally lived in the vancouver area that really had that. One of the things that I genuinely believe did like 70% of the heavy lifting in regards to maintaining the networked social cohesion we had, was monthly potluck dinners in the small community hall we had in the complex. Sharing food is one of the most simple and genuine expressions of love, and love destroys borders.
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