In the first caller situation, I had a boyfriend who drowned me with his job stress to the point he was yelling at me about what happened in the day. I had to wake him up to realize what he was doing. He later learned to take a walk, ride a bike or go to the gym.
@katieerwin9138
Жыл бұрын
To the first caller, I completely understand this scenario. Ive been an ICU RN for 5 years and have had to learn to draw a firm line between work and home. My husband asks me everyday how my day was and if I'm willing to talk about it, I will, but if I'm not, he knows to support me in anyway he can without hearing the nitty gritty of what I saw at work. It tooke me 2.5 years to learn how to leave work in the ICU, but those feelings of sadness or empathy or whatever will follow. Ive learned to learn into what I have and live my life to the fullest in honor of those who are not able to. This is hard situation and one that does not have an easy answer, but I will say leaning into your wife and having open communication about how you are doing and vice versa can be life changing and really help you make the distinction between work and home life.
@vickimerritt2832
Жыл бұрын
As the wife of a city police officer and who was also a military LTC for 37 years ( with 4 adult children) years now divorced, I say good luck. Only one hero, one important person existed in our lives, and still does. I was barely a shadow in the marriage. I was nothing and made guilty. It sucks.
@n.t.495
Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry, that sounds like it really sucked. I hope you find a really deep love in the future.
@acd1168
Жыл бұрын
Yea being married to a doctor is not everything people think it is. It’s a very hard job. This is coming from someone who is studying to be a doctor.
@ananda1044
Жыл бұрын
Damn, my husband is talking about becoming a paramedic and being a hero and he’s already never around to help with kids and that job has even crazier work hours. Ughhhhh help me sweet baby Jesus in a manger this man wants nothing more than to be a hero and not a family man😢
@Michelle-ye6nh
4 ай бұрын
@@ananda1044i understand completely. Same situation here
@ggrace1133
3 ай бұрын
So many people marry but are never a team. It’s me before we for however many years they last. So many men are ego driven, even in heroic professions, and their partner is supposed to handle all the rest of family, home and his sexual needs by themselves. They want a cook, maid, nanny, and hot babe at night while they live their own life out there. Wives are underpaid, overworked, and worst of all…invisible except for 20 minutes before bed. Housewives always have been, and always will be the truest heroes on this earth. All are unpaid, unsung, just about unseen, and completely unacknowledged. Most are even regularly belittled by society and husbands commenting online. So I hope all you hero dudes someday realize there is no hero-you without her living in your shadow all alone.
@MariaInIowa
Жыл бұрын
"Making snow angels in the ash of what was". Love that.
@SuzieQ7779
4 ай бұрын
Mr Deloney’s insight is pretty amazing and usually his advice is spot on, imo. Many of his callers can’t see the truth about their lives bc they don’t know the Lord and the wisdom that can only come from Him. I don’t say this as a perfect human, I have loss and struggles you wouldn’t believe, but i can ask God for help and He always obliges.
@willbird1
3 ай бұрын
Sometimes when you get married, your spouses family actually becomes your family too and when that spouse decides for you that your marriage is over(she said she left) it’s hard to lose those family members too… she, like me, has a lot of work to do
@hansendesigns
6 ай бұрын
The ex husband doesn’t care about her family, the only thing he gets out of them is hurting her.
@kat-ko8qe
4 ай бұрын
Janelle, I'm so sorry for what your going through. This man sounds like a narcissist, and your family have essentially sold themselves out of your life. If you were my friend, I would encourage you to seek out a new group of friends, and family. He is manipulating to effect your peace as much as possible. I'm praying for you hunny.
@sorshae.elsbernd
Жыл бұрын
I was a member of a local martial arts academy for 4+ years and an employee there as well. I can tell you 100% that Dr. John is correct about how much it becomes a second family/community AND that there is a huge authority/power differential for those in teaching positions. Ugh that this predator is running a school.
@lifeaccordingtotheo9643
Жыл бұрын
To the Mom wanting to be free of the ex: Let family know not to mention him in front of you & that you will not be present if he is at an event - for your peace of mind. Then work hard towards self reliance so the people siding with him have no power or influence over your life.
@nathaliebasile6168
6 ай бұрын
Janelle. Listening to you … you seems such a wonderful person … money 💰 is not on the same wavelength as peace is … you had the courage to choose peace ☮️ .. so many of us dream of peaceful wavelength… relationships based on core humanistic connections… you need to revamp your niche … find your nook… and celebrate… because you did it … you chose to respect yourself …
@alanaedwards8117
Жыл бұрын
I can relate so much to the last caller. I loved the advice Dr. JD gave her. It is easy to stay lost in the hurt and anger. And the triggers that continue to happen when you least expect it. But that doesn't bring you peace. You have to choose to let go of the past and forgive the parent of your child even though they haven't asked for it and certainly don't deserve it. But you forgive them so that you can have peace. And move on with your life. Thank you for airing that call!
@whitneyw.7919
Жыл бұрын
The third callers life is a real example of why it is very very dumb to not have marketable job skills. Society encourages women to do this and instead focus solely on family, but really it's a quick path to being 60 and possibly homeless or like her living w/ parents almost a decade later. And no one ever thinks their man is the one who's going to leave, or abuse, or have the affair. It's always other men.. until it happens to you and you're destitute and angry that he's just channeling his potential that he kept on with which you sidelines yours to do unpaid labor at home
@kimberlysmith7625
Жыл бұрын
First caller.....a suggestion not mentioned...seek out a mentor or two....a younger established physician who may offer you some helpful tips to navigate a demanding profession while balancing family life. Mentors are a valuable resource. They've been there and done that. Best wishes to you and your growing family, Patrick! Every lil thing is gonna be alright.
@cathyosullivan718
Жыл бұрын
Try to let the let the anger go Janelle! He would want you to be upset. Usually people who dole out the garbage eventually reap what they sow!
@rebekahwilson7703
7 ай бұрын
I think Kelly is amazing:Love you, Kelly!!♥️
@nancyregina6790
Жыл бұрын
Let Him Go! He is not worth your time. There is a saying 'When you are in someone's elses head there is no one home in yours'
@tazziemae4705
Жыл бұрын
sometimes when I am feeling a little down or whatever, I turn on your show and by the end of the second call I can not believe how lucky and blessed I am. thank you for your help
@anna-mariedictson7381
Жыл бұрын
I agree with what you said completely. That is one place where respect for others is pushed and when that kind of boundary is crossed, the girl(who may have been taking the class for self defense reasons even) will probably never feel safe with someone in that position as a coach again:( So sad and heart breaking.
@rach1chel
Ай бұрын
Some of these things overlap with autism. My oldest son is a teen with autism but often asks why we feel certain ways or react the way we do in certain situations.
@thesecretlifeofwonderwoman
3 ай бұрын
Janelle's story is my story but no one in all these years has ever owned up to it has ever apologized. It's been completely up to me to make peace with myself, and there are some members of my family that I've never been able to make peace with because of how firmly participated with him and still do the same, what to do with all of that we split up in 1997 and I'm still at the loss
@thesecretlifeofwonderwoman
3 ай бұрын
My ex cheated me out of a significant portion of my proceeds from the sale of our house. It was at a time when I had absolutely nothing. I took nothing out of the house. He turned everybody against me. He lied about me. He had me banned from things that allowed me access to the children. I was president of the parents group at school and he went to court and had a court order banning me from the school that was on. It happened at a time during the summer so I couldn't get with me not only that but I had no idea he was going to lie about me
@rachelkarcher2565
Жыл бұрын
Caller one-Army veteran ICU nurse for a decade. Share that you had a rough day. Without going into the details you can share your struggles. When it truly gets overwhelming, and it will, talk to behavioral health. Actively participate in back briefs after sentinel events. Talk to your peers.
@heatherwood6446
Жыл бұрын
2nd call tactic to share with others: If someone asks why you left the gym: "I am leaving because boss-man isn't the kind of guy I feel safe to work with anymore." If they ask why, "I am not at freedom to disclose but please stay safe & use wisdom in your relationships."
@katelynhuey910
Жыл бұрын
Every time the intro music of this show plays, I remember my sons' Power Rangers Jungle Fury phase. I'd really like to get that theme song out of my head, but this show makes it impossible.😆
@vickimerritt2832
Жыл бұрын
yep, accept being erased by an abuser.
@allibutler3422
Жыл бұрын
I’d love some advice on finding peace when I’m in constant physical pain.
@kristinrichmond8185
Жыл бұрын
I find peace in Christ.
@lynn7348
Жыл бұрын
Amen sister!
@christinamori7160
14 күн бұрын
How?
@kristinrichmond8185
14 күн бұрын
@@christinamori7160 following his teachings, changes me. It gives me greater patience, understanding, humility, forgiveness and love for my fellow brothers and sisters. It allows me to receive power from Heaven to accomplish more than I could ever do on my own. He heals and strengthens me. Keeping his commandments makes me better. I feel his Peace. Not peace from the world, his peace.
@hansendesigns
6 ай бұрын
The parents who didn’t press charges really left the gym guy to continue to do whatever he wants without anyone knowing, sure they wanted to help their daughter, but they left him to hurt others freely. Their daughter will wish gym guy faced consequences the rest of her life and will have guilt that he was free to hurt others the same.
@vickimerritt2832
Жыл бұрын
My adult kids did the same.
@nancylpr
Жыл бұрын
This got me thinking so I looked up age of consent. Most of the states start at the age of 16, However, Arizona, North Dakota, Oregon and Virginia states has minimum age of victim is 15.😳
@juliesalinas6047
Жыл бұрын
Bink bink! Tavin makes me laugh
@tinam761
Жыл бұрын
Tavin Dillard is also on KZitem… name spelled correctly …
@tubeloobs
Жыл бұрын
Nice intro!
@sociallyawkwardhuman7170
Жыл бұрын
You know it's possible the gym owner has no clue about the police investigation. The parents chose not to press charges, so he was never arrested. He may have not even been questioned. How could he tell her about something if he didn't know it exsisted?
@neoalley
Жыл бұрын
He slept with a 16 year old student of his gym very recently. Regardless of a police investigation, he would be aware.
@n.t.495
Жыл бұрын
The age of consent is 16 in the UK too.
@n.t.495
Жыл бұрын
Oh this is an FYI, I don’t agree with it. It causes a lot of situations where children are groomed in high school. There were several children dating teachers (they were 22, 23) when I was in high school. It was very problematic and inappropriate.
@MsCristina38
Жыл бұрын
Janelle the best revenge is to continue to work towards moving out and eventually get a decent boyfriend. That would break your ex.
@bookishbooks5412
Жыл бұрын
Age of consent 16… welcome to the UK! I so wish our age of consent was higher…
@Brittany138
Жыл бұрын
Laughed out loud at the waffle house comment
@adearabby6154
5 ай бұрын
stop with the cinderblocks crap... you tell it one too many times. No one will ever go buy cinderblocks to fix a personal issue....
@jeradkiester698
Жыл бұрын
The last caller regrets her choice to divorce that she filed? Oh boo hoo, this is what you chose. He must not all that bad if he can retain all these relationships.... kudos to her ex for not getting derailed by a spiteful woman.
@yuvalgal-shahaf2782
4 ай бұрын
What's wrong with you??? Probably a malignant narcissistic person too.
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