I'm watching this for the first time and I feel the exact same way.
@yb958
6 жыл бұрын
Hey, it is hard. I sometimes get rapid thoughts, but usually and maybe always get intrusive thoughts. Its hard when you set yourself goals, and then your low moods and anxiety just fuck up everything... believe me I know. This is what is also happening to me. I found that the main thing is to go easy on ourselves. When we find our minds holding awful/scary/mean thoughts and then get all these bad thoughts about ourselves for having mental health problems in the first place, it is best to talk back to these deprecating thoughts, and not just challenging them, but replacing them with more gentle words. A KZitemr called Kati Morton suggested talking to yourself as if you are a friend, by recognising that the way these thoughts are/ the way we talk to ourselves, is mean and not fair. I would never talk to someone the way I talk to myself for not achieving things, or for 'being so weak'/'not good enough' (and the list could get worse), so I started thinking about this and thought 'why should I talk to myself negatively for experiencing symptoms like these?, I would not talk to a friend like that'. By being gentle with ourselves, it can help control our thoughts by not making them build up into negative opinions about ourselves. I just feel like I cannot tackle the intrusive thoughts or rapid ones about unfortunate events or drastic potential scenarios, but what I was really able to control was the opinions about myself/the way I then would talk to myself after feeling like shit due to the anxious depressing thoughts. All your work is amazing, and you are beautifully human, so please don't feel bad about having blips/having relapses etc. You are human and you are showing progress every day, we just do not notice it, because we are always giving ourselves a hard time. Try it, talk back to these thoughts that you get about yourself, try to replace the mean thoughts with more helpful/more realistic ones about you. I found it helpful saying to myself "okay, these thoughts that I am getting are unpleasant and would make anyone cry and want to stay in bed if they had them too", saying to myself "hey, I'm actually not that bad, nobody is, it isn't fair to judge anyone based on one blip/ or setback", whenever I get mean self-degrading thoughts each time I start feeling not good enough. Its a conversation with yourself that you can start developing, and honestly it helps a million to just take a deep breath (mentally step back) and say to yourself, "hey, I am not that bad. I am trying, and I am only human". And none of that is a lie. We give ourselves less credit for what we do and actually deserve. Give yourself kind words especially in these days. It will be okay hun, I know it can be so frustrating when you want to do so much and your mind puts you in this awful position. We need to nurture ourselves with kind words, be patient with our symptoms, we cannot fight them, but we can change the way we talk to ourselves, and hopefully that will have a positive impact on the way we manage situations that happen like rapid thoughts/intrusive thoughts/bad memories/ dress rehearsing disaster etc. Keep going hun
@Julia-LArt
6 жыл бұрын
Aw, hi Gem. I touched the screen to give you a big hug. Crying with you sweetness .. I'm also very emotional at the moment. You know what I heard though, was that you said you had such a good day yesterday with your family even though the thoughts were there. Maybe listen to what you said again, I feel that's your subconscious speaking and that you actually did have a good time. :) What film are you watching tonight? Remember Sunday film night :) What I've been doing this week to distract myself from my thoughts is watching, X- factor funny moments, binging on One Directions original auditions and discovering that Harry Styles is actually really talented!! Lol! At the time, I totally took the piss out of One Direction and called them No Direction to a Wilko sales staff member who was trying to flog their Xmas Calendar!! I'm a rock fan, but love lots of music, but I never thought I'd see the day I spent hours watching One Direction on KZitem!! I've got a crush on Harry now, lol! That song "Sign of the times" is amazingly catchy and good. It's really emotional though, but I love it and the video. So yeah I suggest distracting those thoughts with KZitem videos. It's not hard work and can help lift your mood. It doesn't have to be One Direction! Try Noel Fielding, Live at the Apollo, he cracks me up. The other things I've been doing is massaging my face and hands with Rose Otto oil blend from "balanceme". It's 100% natural, made in the UK and smells divine. It's a bit expensive, but it lasts for ages. I find it soothing and relaxing. Please try not to think that you are failing with your channel. You are helping so many and it's lovely to see a familiar face, even when you are sad. Sorry I've not commented for a while, but know I'm here watching and value you deeply. Don't feel you have to do the livestream if it's too much.. be very gentle with yourself whilst adjusting to your new meds. Big hugs & love your way, Julia xx Ps. Yes, another essay!!
@TheLittleBluePot
6 жыл бұрын
I'm hugging you back and I'm sorry you are feeling emotional too. I fins KZitem a great distraction, I watch all sorts including some xfactor. We didn't watch a film today, but managed to watch an entire boxset on Netflix called 'Maniac', it was good. Thanks for your kind words hun and for watching my videos. You are awesome. Take care and massive hugs x
@ashstubbings2603
6 жыл бұрын
By the way, getting upset is NOT all that you do. You have been a great encouragement to a lot of people. But this channel isn't all about how you can help others. It's also about how others can help you, when you are struggling. Lots of love and hugs xxx
@TheLittleBluePot
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Ashley, you have been a great encouragement to me today. Take care x
@Ollie-1995
6 жыл бұрын
Hi gem I am thinking of you 😊, I haven’t had a good couple of days myself 😔
@botramduuze7188
6 жыл бұрын
I have that all the time!
@TheLittleBluePot
6 жыл бұрын
Its hard isnt it. So bloody hard. Sending hugs dude x
@donnalilley3317
6 жыл бұрын
My week been terrible I'm only getting 4 hours sleep a night last night I was in my bed thought saw some one at my window a reflection but no one was there must had psychotic episode my thought s and self harm not good stay strong gem sending you love hugs x x
@TheLittleBluePot
6 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry you have had a terrible week, I'm thinking of you. Sending massive hugs x
@ashstubbings2603
6 жыл бұрын
Oh Gem! Please try and remember that you are adjusting to new meds. It can be an absolute nightmare! This time that you are going through will pass. I remember feeling absolutely dreadful when I changed my medications. I felt like I was in a deep, dark hole that I just could not climb out of. But it passed. It felt like forever when I was going through it, but it did pass. I don't know what else to suggest other than just hanging on in there. Remember that anxiety and depression are liars! They will make you feel like it's all going wrong, but it isn't. It was Winston Churchill, who incidentally suffered from depression, that said "If you're going through Hell, KEEP GOING!!".
@TheLittleBluePot
6 жыл бұрын
Thank you Ashley. Everything you have said has really helped. Sorry you went through the same and you are right about the deep, dark hole. Thanks for your support, you are awesome. Take care. Gem x
@sweetooth1967
6 жыл бұрын
morning gem hows your day going ? im doing another video on the struggle of leaving the house trapped in your own thoughts my self-esteem has hit the floor for a while now i know you want to get on and do things but its having the strength too do it so you fear the repercussions of anything big hugs x
@TheLittleBluePot
6 жыл бұрын
Hi Anthony, I totally get what you mean. I'm actually battling with that today. I think your videos are great so I look forward to watching . Hugs x
@sweetooth1967
6 жыл бұрын
hi gem so sorry your feeling this but i totally understand were you are right now ! i was going to go to the doctors this morning to put in my prescription but the anxiety of going out and dealing with this puts me off so im playing with the cat instead which id rather do lol😸it all gets too much and as a result you feel drained crazy isn't it but anyway ill talk to you soon huggs x
@matthewhughes3749
5 жыл бұрын
Oh Gem I know it's hard when your adjusting to meds it does take time and this will pass I don't know are you able to do anything like simple thing such as put a film on and really absorb into it that helps me but I know when your in deep depression even the simplest of things can be really hard I get that so I believe in you OK I know you will get throw this it might be hard to see throw the thickest of the tree but please hang in there I am here for you as well as others I know when I have had changes to meds its been hell can I ask do you think also is there stuff your feeling that has bee. Surpressed because I ask that right because as you know meds are sudative and do repress things so as we change things this stuff that we havent needed to deal with suddenly its there and I know that happened to me but I don't know if that has helped at all but just sharing things from personal experience
@TheLittleBluePot
5 жыл бұрын
Hi Matthew, I think you are right about things being suppressed by meds, it definitely feels that way. Thank you for saying such lovely things, it's great to have you in the community. Hope you're ok. Take care x
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