I have three kids from my first wife. When we divorced, I didn’t see my kids for two years. The pain I went through was the worst pain I’ve felt in my life. My ex and her mother accused me of a lot of lies I didn’t do in court. I cried so much to Allah day and night and Allah (swt) heard my cries and answered me in the best way I can imagine. One day at home the door knocked and it was my ex dropping off the kids telling me she doesn’t want them anymore. Alhumdulillah that was ten years ago and I thank Allah for all that He has done for me. Dua is the weapon for a Muslim. Never ever forget that.
@Ystrly
2 жыл бұрын
Gotta be careful with women bro, alot are truly sinister.
@irfaankhan8035
3 жыл бұрын
This resonates with me. Raised without a father since 7. My mother never re married, she worked two jobs to support us. I dropped out of school, hanging with gangs and almost ended in prison. Finally got a wake up call when my close friend got shot and killed. I started asking questions about the Deen and alhamdulillah Allah has guided me. Being raised without a father definetly has a detrimental effect.
@bedrigulec5940
Жыл бұрын
Same brother. May Allah bless you
@MrCabdi08
3 жыл бұрын
May Allah remove any obstacles you have with your children and allow you to have strong with relationship with them akhi👊🏽 Allah is all-hearing and all-seeing and this oppression will not go unnoticed.
@lost_poet_
3 жыл бұрын
I'd like to share a poem if that's ok with you. It's called "My Dear Father" My dear father, Your love is what I was always after. You dedicated your life to God Whilst you left me to carve out my own path. I've spent my whole life in the dark, I needed your spiritual light in my heart; But we ended up drifting further apart. Wish I could express how I feel inside - Been six years since my mum passed (away) And I've barely cried. My heart has turned to stone. I know that for all of us you try to be strong. I wish I could turn to you when I'm feeling alone. I envy the father and son bond. You spend your days reading the Quran, And nights asking the Lord for forgivness. Without your love I feel so damn helpless. My dear father, I know you don't understand me. I remain distant from the family. And I don't understand myself. Losing my sanity, I've drifted away deep into darkness. All the cold days and lonely nights I've spent It has made me become selfish and heartless. I remember 5 years old when you came to hug me, I ran the opposite way. This memory has Forever stuck with me. And I know it pains you, That I'm not in your life. I struggle from day to day just trying to survive. My dear father, I know you pray for me daily. But I need you to come and save me; In this life and In the hereafter, From the fire that burns eternally My dear father, Will you forgive me? Because I can't forgive myself, I dont blame you, I blame myself. Know that I love you, But it's the hand that we have both been dealt.
@MahdiTidjani
3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful
@Sara-jl4vo
3 жыл бұрын
Thank you , you are not , the are a lot like you , and I am one of them. Stop feeling sorry for your self and your dad , take hold of live and build for the hereafter
@snowflake1458
Жыл бұрын
Brother go to your father and don‘t wait till its too late and don‘t get swallowed by darkness. There‘s hope. Don‘t lose hope and pray to Allah and ask him to guide you
@7LamarOdom
3 жыл бұрын
this hits home. my mom truly did suffer from domestic abuse, and i am a witness to this. we sought refuge when i was 10, my brothers were 9 and 3 at the time, we left him and i havent spoke to him for 15 years. he is the same person, a narcissist. but what the book mentions of how a child manipulates his mom, is literally my 3 year old brother who grew up and he's 18 now. two of us are overseas in different parts of the world, and this youngest brother is having his way because there were never boundaries/discipline and my mom was too soft. actually, IS (still) too soft. and it's too late for disciplining him. i am done trying with him
@7LamarOdom
3 жыл бұрын
@Muslim Manosphere give up what
@onlyallahisworthyofworship5599
3 жыл бұрын
@@7LamarOdom you still have an obligation to maintain ties with him if he's your father.
@ummyusufmona
3 жыл бұрын
If you haven’t spoken to your father in 15 years which means you were just a child, and the only narrative you’ve heard is your mother’s (I’m not saying she’s lying) what makes you unequivocally say he’s a narcissist? You should consider mending your relationship with him and judge him for yourself as an adult and NOT according to one-sided stories from your mother or your childhood impressions. He is your father after all.
@7LamarOdom
3 жыл бұрын
@@ummyusufmona this is where your lack of understanding has been shown. I have judged for myself as an adult. You need not know the full details. Hes a narcissist by definition top of his class. And no i didnt just take one sided stories, i vetted the individual and he passed the test with flying colors, hes exactly what i thought he was.
@7LamarOdom
3 жыл бұрын
@@onlyallahisworthyofworship5599 ill decide this for myself.
@lost_poet_
3 жыл бұрын
Exacellent Topic dear brother. My father is still alive alhamdullilah but due to him being absent most of the time during my childhood, due to him committing himself to the deen(he's a moulana/Hafiz/alim) going away for weeks and weeks, we missed an opportunity to bond with each other. Now I'm in my 30s and my mother passed away I crave for unconditional love. This crave is not a void but it's an abyss - a deep dark pit. Without my father being present in my life I grew up self hating, turned to debauchery and all kinds of evil. I was unknowingly trying to fill a hole in my life. This hole which I recently discovered is "unconditional love". Every child needs a father in his life or a father figure, to guide him to mentor him. Without this, he will fall into every trap and end up living a broken reckless life. Brother Mahdi thank you for shedding light on this. Much love.
@MechkanysT
3 жыл бұрын
Wow, this hit home bro. I'm sorry for what you've been through. May this pain be a means of you being admitted into Jannah and may you reconnect with your loved ones there forever.
@lost_poet_
3 жыл бұрын
@@MechkanysT If I'm not mistaken you're the brother who had that debate, without mentioning names, other week on Brother Gabriel's channel right? If it is then I'm truely humbled to read that coming from yourself. It was a pleasure reading your comments. Your etiquettes, your level of intellect, the way you dismantle and then intellectually nullify your interlocutors arguments is of the highest standards. I can't praise you enough. Honestly you have been blessed with deep wisdom and understanding. May Allah bless you. Thank you so much for your beautiful words and your Dua. Adnan.
@MechkanysT
3 жыл бұрын
@@lost_poet_ lol nah Akhi, I'm a simpleton with regards to these things. I wouldn't call it a debate per se tbh, just that the denigration of the scholars that was made so callously and casually (a frequently common trait to be found in the online sphere), didn't sit well with me, neither did the passive-aggressive tone aimed at hurting the credibility of brother Gabriel, when all he's trying to do is build bridges. I felt like I had to speak up for that particular issue, otherwise trust me bro, I don't actively go out of my way to have "intellectual bouts", or the like. Jazakallah khayran for the kind words though, may Allah keep us steadfast and give us strength to bear our burdens with dignity and strength.
@mrstandupguy
3 жыл бұрын
Brother Mahdi, it’s takes a real person to be real, and you are being real by keeping it real
@saiemamarium6749
3 жыл бұрын
May Allah make it easy for you brother, really powerful stuff
@williamanderson461
3 жыл бұрын
Very few creators have the strength to make genuine content I greatly appreciate the valuable insight
@bilkesnferdous
Жыл бұрын
Very real and worth watching. May Allah ease such situations for men. I have a similar case among relatives with a daughter. It is pathetic.
@RafaielGames
3 жыл бұрын
I am your 1000th Subscriber
@shake.dr.imam.philosipherm8869
3 жыл бұрын
Nope. I am the 1000th subscriber.
@bedrigulec5940
Жыл бұрын
I grew up fatherless myself and everything you say I can absolutely confirm. Dealing with the problems that comes with growing up without a father is hard but we got this. It is like you said our responsibility. You are doing great work and it is so helpful for young man like me. I love you brother, you’re a blessing. May Allah protect you
@bigdadynickable
2 жыл бұрын
More power too you dude . This is going on my Facebook.
@tarek399
3 жыл бұрын
Prophet Mohammed (peace be upon him) said: If any woman asks her husband for divorce without some strong reason, (even) the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her. [Sunan Abi Dawud 2226] Graded as Sahih by: Al-Albani, Al-Suyouti, Al-Haitami Al-Mekki, Shuaib Al-Arnaout. Others have contested it such as: Ibn Uthaymeyeen, Al-Alwaan. Sheikh Bin Baz has expanded the meaning with examples.
@ballistic2513
2 жыл бұрын
Me and my little brother, even tho we have our father, most of the time he is outside of the country working for our family. I have a few problems that if I had my dad always here I probably wouldnt have had, but my brother seems to not have those, because whenever I frick up I advice him and educate him about my mistakes so he doesnt do them, brothers, if you have a younger sibling, take care of him, as if u were his father. 💪🏻👑
@MahdiTidjani
3 жыл бұрын
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@Joy-s3s6v
3 жыл бұрын
As long as you've a new day there's a new possible chance and hopes after doing your best .
@drfarheenkhan81
3 жыл бұрын
May Allaah reunite you with your children and make them coolness of your eyes.
@phoenixknight8837
3 жыл бұрын
Excellent topic choice. Barakallahu feek!
@MahdiTidjani
3 жыл бұрын
Habibi
@whatsupwhatsup9498
3 жыл бұрын
@@MahdiTidjani Brother, you said if you father is still alive and still around go rekindle your relationship with him, listen to his side of the story. But what if you can't visit or be near your father because of sihr done by WOMEN? You know where I'm going to with my question, the many problems we face in our society are caused by women and I believe that 100%. You know brother, in the Islamic countries they face what they call Al ' anussa which means singles or women who have reached an age of marriage I guess, but they can't find a man. Men no longer have the need to get married because of their problems, women that is and that trend is also underway in Europe I read in an article of Al Jazira.
@DropYourFace
3 жыл бұрын
@@whatsupwhatsup9498 no.
@whatsupwhatsup9498
3 жыл бұрын
@@MahdiTidjani Brother, this problem is somehow our (men) fault too. There is a trend in which bad men marry good women instead of good men, with the consent of their parents. You guys (Abu Americaqn and Abu Romani) often talk about masculinity, but youguys mostly refer to the physical form and not to imaan, taqwa and achlaaq. There are books written by Islamic scholars on masculinity in Islam and we let the west tell us what masculinity is. Without iman, taqwa and achlaaq you have no masculinity. Masculinity in my opinion is not only the physical form of a person, because if so then a lot of sahabas are not man as this hadith shows, Ibn Mas'ud reported: He was harvesting toothsticks from an Arak tree and he had tiny shins . The wind blew and made him fall over, so people laughed at him. The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “What are you laughing at?” They said, “O Prophet of Allah, at his tiny shins.” The Prophet said, “By the one in whose hand is my soul, they will both be heavier on the Scale than the mountain of Uhud.”
@catherineharazi5849
Жыл бұрын
Interesting discussion I'm new to this channel so I'm finding my way around
@aliyusuf504
3 жыл бұрын
What u said around 6:52 always stayed with me. Never marry into a family that dont want you. Imo it shows weak character and a scarcity mindset. Amazing im not the only one who thinks like this.
@jaeferahmed4737
Жыл бұрын
Thanks Mahdi
@omarSharkfin
3 жыл бұрын
It’s the hardest thing in the world. But I had to get to a point where I said I rather my son not see me at all then on my knees in a submissive position to his mother. Since making that decision I now have my son more than his mother. My son was gonna see me standing on my feet or not at all.
@equityjustice2695
3 жыл бұрын
I notice a long time ago about that fatherly look you're speaking about. This is real facts.
@unet7292
3 жыл бұрын
In shaa Allah, we will have justice either in this life or in the hereafter
@Finggy
2 жыл бұрын
Very important message, great video Bro Mahdi.
@ahxd951
2 жыл бұрын
You are a gift from Allah for me
@كوكتيلضحك-ق5ص
Жыл бұрын
my father left for his job in another country for 12 years but im verry masculine im not easy to deal with and I don't like stupide people around me most people think im arrogant because i don't talk much and i don't give compliments and Im careless and cold most of the time im very strict don't get me wrong ! im the funniest in my family and circle friend I have shortcomings like everyone but i don't feel the effect of living most of my life without my father because simply I was spending most of my time out with the boys doing whatever we want I rarely spend time with my mother or 2 sisters lady ! if u have a boy u must introduce a male figure to his life if it's not possible or better his father
@blackcatxiii7757
3 жыл бұрын
May Allah make it easy for you
@MAbuRowais
3 жыл бұрын
My mother weaponized her children against their father. Many of my siblings don’t like my father and actually broke contact with him without a proper reason since they did not get to really know him when they were young. They heard about him more than they ever got to see. I on the contrary got the opportunity to live with my father. Therefore I can really tell that I am more capable than anyone of them to face people or certain problems.
@catherineharazi5849
Жыл бұрын
I have a friend mashallah from somalia how she raised her son on her own the sacrifices she made for him he was always around the mosque, yes he saw his dad on holidays But the respect he has very good manners now he is in university studying law Kids yes need both parents but if it's toxic environment it's best parents are apart 100 percent couples should not use there children as weapons towards each other because that kid will grow and will either resent both or one of yea for messing with there head
@Moses-jo5ox
3 жыл бұрын
Say nothing bro. Imma try reach out to my dad. Haven’t spoken to him since I was 9 or 10 now I’m 21.
@therobbobchannel6561
3 жыл бұрын
Gonna show this video to my future wife!
@sammu
2 жыл бұрын
Damn. This was hard to watch. Sorry this happened to you Mahdi. No one deserves this.
@mra4435
3 жыл бұрын
This one hurt ...
@Ubaydah.
3 жыл бұрын
Subhanallah, your efforts are in combat with the efforts of Shaytan who strives hard to break the family. The following hadith explains: Jabir reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “Verily, Satan places his throne over the water and he sends out his troops. The closest to him in rank are the greatest at causing tribulations. One of them says: I have done this and this. Satan says: You have done nothing. Another one says: I did not leave this man alone until I separated him from his wife. Satan embraces him and he says: You have done well.” Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2813 May Allah grant you ikhlas, improve your adab in dealing with these matters, and keep you steadfast upon these efforts
@drfarheenkhan81
3 жыл бұрын
Ameen. I was about to make this same point. The shaitan is the worst enemy of happily married couple.
@aminahbergliotrolsdorph7557
3 жыл бұрын
Our Messenger *Saw* was an Orphan.. The disturbing numbers of kids growing up without their Dad.. Much due to the falling of Family structure can be context.. In Scandinavian countries more economic support if you are a Alone mum with kids.. Maybe it was a good intention there but ordinary family feel punished.. Its a crime against children if a Father sound responsible Dad to keep them away from him. This is an important Issue to Adress..
@Moses-jo5ox
3 жыл бұрын
Alhamdulilah
@hafedmusleh8395
Жыл бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤
@abdulkadiral-albani5994
3 жыл бұрын
Mahdi akh. Sahih all. Just please always take control of the vocabulary. Stay away from profanity. Barak Allāh fiyk
@xingyimaster1987
3 жыл бұрын
Is that you with a weighted vest? If so thats my preferred method for building muscle too. Not a fan of free weights. Masha Allah
@asmashaikh1234
3 жыл бұрын
Kids want their dad n ive decided he can take the kids but he wont even do that ....i even said get urself a good wife from back home pakistan n take kids too n make a better life he needs to stop f**ing about n settle with someone that will stop him from other women lusting thats all i want now for my kids to have a stable home even if its a new mum for them coz i cant take wat he does im too messed up now n its too late i just wana do something for kids future
@deenavela267
3 жыл бұрын
I agree with everything you said! I have listened to many of your talks and you really come out to be like a bitter guy. The way you speak about “broken women” women with “daddy issues”... what kind of issues do you have since you went through soo many women? I mean, are they all BAD and you were a perfect husband? I don’t know any woman that wanted to leave a good man, man that’s worth keeping. Maybe the women you choose for their beauty perhaps? I agree that no parent should keep child from another parent. Is immoral, unethical and will harm the child the most.
@aminahbergliotrolsdorph7557
3 жыл бұрын
سلام عليكم.. 💔 🌏
@Ak-qj1lf
3 жыл бұрын
So can you tell me Mahdi how does one deal with a man when a family is in a domestic abuse and she doesn’t have any other choice but leave after 20 years. Is it her fault how should she deal with in regards to children. She simply cannot live with him and the children also has chosen mother over father as he is extremely strict.
@shahidabdoullakhanzorovr1564
3 жыл бұрын
Strict=/=Abuse
@Ajax-zx9pz
2 жыл бұрын
r/woooosh
@user-bc2ik
3 жыл бұрын
23:30
@user-bc2ik
3 жыл бұрын
25:20
@sarahkh9927
2 жыл бұрын
Brother you have good points to make but using words like “pussy” and “mother flip” is just highly inappropriate for a Muslim and is off putting for those of us who don’t like using vulgar language
@sarahkh9927
2 жыл бұрын
Also pls don’t speak about your ex wife publically as that would be harming your daughter and kids future. Your daughters reputation is influenced by her mothers reputation as you so eloquently keep repeating... you need to respect your kids like the tabe’een.. If you suspect she is weaponising your kids then you should get mediation and sort it out in private. You could be wrong. You could be suspecting this due to their changed behaviour but children do change behevaiour naturally when they feel upset by the broken home, it doesn’t require someone to mess with their heads. Make sure you don’t follow suspicion with action without verifying as you could be harming your children and losing them because of your slander of their mother as children can see and it would hurt them
@Memic86
3 жыл бұрын
Akhee with all due respect do not show your tears to anyone…especially on social media. ان كيدكن عظيم
@sarahosman9030
3 жыл бұрын
According to the deen “Women have more right to custody of children than men; in principle custody belongs to them, because they are more compassionate and more kind, and they know better how to raise small children, and they are more patient in dealing with the difficulties involved. The mother has more right to custody of her child, whether it is a boy or a girl, so long as she does not re-marry and so long as she meets the conditions of custody. This is according to scholarly consensus.” No matter these disbelievers research, Allah knows best. I agree no woman should stop a man from accessing his children. A present and involved dad is important to children.
@sarahosman9030
3 жыл бұрын
@Muslim Manosphere don’t pretend to know what my intentions are, you are not Allah. I did not copy and paste it because it’s a whole page and people can find it if they really want to educate themselves. The age mentioned is the child’s formative years when only a mother can provide that level of care. Also look around you, the majority of men are not fighting to have their kids. They want to remarry and the facts are another woman does not want to be raising his kids. Also shared custody is always granted through the courts if there is no legitimate issue with the father.
@sarahosman9030
3 жыл бұрын
@@BananaBeam “Women’s rights to sponsor children. It appears from the comments of the fuqaha’ that women have the right to sponsor children in general, and that mothers and grandmothers in particular have this right. But the scholars differed as to who has more right to sponsorship if the parents are in dispute and are both qualified to sponsor the child. The Maalikis and Zaahiris think that the mother has more right to sponsorship of the child, whether it is a boy or a girl. The Hanbalis think that boys should be given a choice, but the father has more right in the case of a girl. The Hanafis think that the father has more right in the case of a boy and the mother has more right in the case of a girl. Perhaps the correct view is that the child should be given a choice if the parents are disputing and they both fulfil the conditions for sponsorship.” Even after this age it seems the women has more right. If the child is asked, they usually choose their mum that nurtured them for the formative years. They also resist change in environment.
@sarahosman9030
3 жыл бұрын
@Muslim Manosphere 😂 I don’t know what’s clear to you mate but nothing in the rest of the document disputes the fact that the woman has more right to custody of the child overall. the stats speak for themselves, look at the number of men applying to the courts for shared custody. Wa alakuma salaam
@BananaBeam
3 жыл бұрын
@@sarahosman9030 only until the qge of discernment. After that the kid makes his own choice.
@sarahosman9030
3 жыл бұрын
@Muslim Manosphere in 2019 in th USA single mother houses holds were at 15.764 million and fathers was at 3.324 million. If you use some quick maths skills you will see that due to these numbers the figures from the single mothers will always be higher. This also shows girls are not in crisis as they are being raised by mothers. However a woman can not make a boy a man. So men need to be involved and women need to let them. The majority of men can not be single fathers as these figures show. It’s hard, I’d like to see you juggle doing your daughters hair in the morning and getting to work on time 😂. These 3 million single fathers are the best of men, that’s why there kids are doing good. They are the exception not the rule.
@fsrs3686
3 жыл бұрын
Your vedios is good akhi but you don't quote Qur'an and Sunna or any Islam. I wouldn't think you are muslim if I didn't hear it from someone else before. And just a naseeha stop the bad words akhi. But what you are saying is true. I think you should become a talib ilm because you will benefit the ummah much more if you do.
@Nobody-fr3wz
3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂waste man
@sultanhussain1541
Жыл бұрын
I don't like leftover I got no time for women with big fanners
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