They hate you because you're shiny and they don't know how to get that so they want to destroy it in you.
@Anonymissus
5 ай бұрын
they want to attempt to try and destroy the light of God that is in some people
@Queen1111sunshine
Ай бұрын
100%
@NN-re7cy
29 күн бұрын
@@Anonymissus 💯 This.
@PixieCropCircleDuster
29 күн бұрын
That's weird they want to destroy you I thought Trolls love shiny!?!
@dennisrobinson8008
28 күн бұрын
If they are able to stall or stifle you it does transfer to them temporarily.
@boudica3356
Жыл бұрын
I was raised by one. They’re extremely insecure and jealous.
@janiced.hatcher1272
18 күн бұрын
100 thumbs up 👍
@kantik2118
Жыл бұрын
They hate you because they can't be you. And they also hate you because you can see under their mask.
@casperinsight3524
4 ай бұрын
They project their hatred onto you like painting a picture you become the canvas and their feelings become the paint
@janiced.hatcher1272
18 күн бұрын
100 thumbs up 👍
@nicselectronics81
Ай бұрын
They hate that I have light, they are bottomless pits of darkness.
@JamesNGames
Жыл бұрын
Narcissists despise you for three key reasons: 1. Threat to their ego: Your refusal to validate their grandiose self-image challenges their fragile sense of superiority. 2. Envy of your qualities: Narcissists resent qualities they lack, such as genuine empathy or humility, making them resentful of those who possess them effortlessly. 3. Resistance to manipulation: Narcissists hate individuals who refuse to be controlled or manipulated, as it threatens their need for power and dominance. Understanding these reasons sheds light on their disdain, reminding us to protect ourselves while fostering empathy for those affected by this destructive personality disorder.
@jimpowers9553
Жыл бұрын
You got it right on man!
@andrewsmith3257
Жыл бұрын
I feel like alot of Narcissists can get along with other narcissists as long as that Narcissist isn't a threat to them or their fragile ego. A Narcissist will hate you if you are good and you refuse to go along with their demands
@karinbernhardt8747
Жыл бұрын
Thank you James 👍✌👌🍀🌼
@lucindasavona2278
Жыл бұрын
JamesNGames You are spot on. That is 100% true. Thankyou for the validation.
@ReRe_642
Жыл бұрын
All this boils down to jealousy.
@aprilmg7072
Жыл бұрын
They hate you because fundamentally they hate life.
@sunkissedarkandainty01
Жыл бұрын
This video just helped me to quit weeping for a while. Thank you, again. 💝
@andrewsmith3257
Жыл бұрын
Yep
@NightRogue77
Жыл бұрын
Mine hates me because of everything I have that she can’t possess
@NightRogue77
Жыл бұрын
@jewLUBEkneegahRsWHINE after reading your comment, I am compelled to tell you that my heart goes out to you and I hope you escaped your abuser. I know that language quite well.
@NightRogue77
Жыл бұрын
@jewLUBEkneegahRsWHINE I’m sorry 😢 - mostly that you never got to close the wound. I’ve been the victim of two abusers in my life, one I am trying to work things through with because she may be far more BPD than NPD… and the other is my mother, A vile, dark beast of a bitch that will forever have to remain those terms and not a human being, so that I won’t get fooled into that black hole ever again. But it is guaranteed that that wound will forever remain open, because I have completely cut her out of my life permanently. I have some unhealthy things upstairs that have made it hard to deal, but the worst thing that ever happened to these two abusers, was my eyes being opened to what was happening - because once I was aware, neither of them had a chance in hell at continuing to fool me. Which is probably why they were so hard-core with the gaslighting. I survived, and I’m starting a gd music career at age 46 :) we can make it 💪🏻
@ShadowKing1993
Жыл бұрын
Narcissists low key hate themselves. Period. They just don’t show it. So they have to one-up you and take what you have to make themselves feel better. They’re not worth the fight. Cut them off. Then forgive them. No that does not mean reconciliation. Or excusing their behavior. You don’t even have to see or talk to them again. To me forgiving them is accepting who they are and that they will never change. Without holding anger towards them. They always have other victims. It’s not you
@new_hampshire
Жыл бұрын
It’s so hard though when you’ve loved the good parts about them. Mine was so good when he was good he was about 5% bad though and 95% wonderful and I cried for two weeks when he left but no more.
@jenniferrosas7482
Жыл бұрын
I 100% agree with your definition of forgiveness. It is how I've been able to deal with my own trauma bonds. I just never thought about it as being a form of forgiveness. But, accepting a person for who they are and removing that hope that they could be who you need them to be - it's truly the only way to move on. And to do so without holding anger towards them. It seems so simple and straightforward to me now, but it took a very LONG time and work on my self-worth to get to this place. I hope others can find that peace as well. Thanks for sharing your key
@mariegallagher4725
Жыл бұрын
Very true. No contact is the only way to survive and begin to heal.
@ShadowKing1993
11 ай бұрын
She still stalks me to this day and it's been 2 years now. Seriously leave me tf alone and move on with your multiple supplies.
@mariegallagher4725
11 ай бұрын
@@ShadowKing1993 Mate please don't wish that on anyone.
@sunshineagainandagain
Ай бұрын
They hate you because they envie you. They are too competitive. They are sick.
@Sideler74
14 күн бұрын
They hate that they are not in your league & know they never will be. It's not in them.
@tramekn
Жыл бұрын
They can’t love themselves so they definitely can’t love you.
@richardjohanson6421
Жыл бұрын
Narcissistism is a learned behavior from childhood! Empath is a gift from above! It comes naturally to care for ppl more than yourself!
@Cosmic-Cat.
7 ай бұрын
I don't know that it's learned. I think it's somehow inherent.
@RandyDecious
6 ай бұрын
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA DID I MENTIOM A AMEN!!!¡¡!¡!!!!!!!!!!!
@GangstalkingReality
2 ай бұрын
@@Cosmic-Cat.I also think it’s inherent. Genetic even. I believe that possessing a choleric temperament gives way to develop narcissism. Not all people with a choleric temperament are a narcissist but they all lean towards narcissistic behaviors. More so than the sanguine, melancholic, or phlegmatic temperaments. Examples of narcissist couples include Donald trump (narcissist) and Melanie trump (codependent), MGK (narcissist) and Megan fox (codependent), amber heard (narcissist) and Johnny deep (codependent), meghan markle (narcissist) and prince harry (codependent) ….notice narcissists are overbearing, bossy, controlling, bold, brash, all while the codependents are submissive, calm, people pleasers, averse to conflict, peace at all costs is their motto, etc.
@JimmyGambiniEsquire
23 күн бұрын
It’s definitely learned. My mom has always been that way… my daughter wasn’t. Since daughter turned 21 she’s the 10x amplified version of her grandmother whom she learned this $hit from. Sad and disappointing. Like when does a person suddenly make the decision that behavior is ok? Totally isn’t ok.
@dezzab8926
Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much - this is SO valuable. What really makes me frustrated is the knowledge that they don’t get their own ice cream on purpose because they PLAN on taking what you have. They don’t want what they have. They want YOURS.
@MegaRockstar48
2 ай бұрын
They hate you as you disagree with them and this triggers them and their fragile ego
@anneklein3864
3 ай бұрын
This is so strange. I recently had a friendship fall apart. One of the things that I noticed when we had any conflict between us was that she spoke to me like I was someone that she really didn’t like. It felt so odd - we had been such good friends. How could someone I had been so close to come across so cold and angry? I’m beginning to understand why… wow.
@michignamymichigan
Жыл бұрын
They hate that I look at the bright side. I deserve to be injured for being foolish enough to not hurt them before they hurt me.
@life-rethought
Жыл бұрын
thank you. for putting it so clearly. and yes my distressing experience of marrying a narcissist and then running from his abuse and insanity at 10 months married. the gift of the miserable marriage... he rubbed the reality of my childhood and young adulthood with a raging dangerous father in my face. even though I have been haunted with and worked through full Ptsd seizures and a blackout froM the family abuse at 54 years old. this marriage put my shattered past together in MY ADULT MIND. I have stayed close to counsel for a year and I am walking out the divorce. I was able to say HELL NO to all the narcs actions. He has set me free to live a healthier life at 69 years old. AND I AM GRATEFUL.
@grantaugustyniak6667
8 ай бұрын
They hate you because - You are everything they are Not ( in a good way )
@theonlydjtopcat
Жыл бұрын
I think this explains why my narcissist ex went on an irrationally cruel smear campaign against me after she split me black. The more loving and kind to her the more it enraged her. She even went to the extreme of placing a protection order on me, now she has renewed it again. I was never a physical threat, it has to be a shame spiral, and control thing with her. Nothing else makes sense to me. I have been completely no contact for almost a year now.
@realpilBMF
6 ай бұрын
A judge won’t award a protection order without merit.
@theonlydjtopcat
6 ай бұрын
@@realpilBMF well a biased liberal female Muslim judge who hates Christians will.This is exactly what happened to me. Combine that with the covert narcissist's crocodile tears to manipulate her and I had no chance. Protection orders are meant to protect from physical threats and harm, my ex weaponized the courts to punish me. Period. end of story.
@joannbates8037
2 ай бұрын
@@realpilBMFI'm aware of one that was ordered based on lying witnesses. BTW, it was not against me.
@johnjohnstone9805
Жыл бұрын
I wish I had of had an advocate as a child. I'm now in my 60's and I not only get shamed for not sharing everything I own, I have it rudely snatched from my hands while not looking if I refuse to give it pronto. Virtuously defenceless thanks to the shame involved in the caring sharing ethic.
@LaureneSmith-s4c
5 ай бұрын
Run from those people. Even if your alone get away
@HarryBarker-yp1xv
18 күн бұрын
I have stopped and they are gone.
@will_Iam61
Жыл бұрын
Christine, you and Dr. Ramani are my main sources of information on what I am dealing with. Thank you.
@sunkissedarkandainty01
Жыл бұрын
This happened to me as a kid when I told my egg donor ( mom) no to a bag of chips. 😢 I was made to feel like an awful person and taught have no boundaries put others needs before mine.
@SachaPerry-r5l
Ай бұрын
"Egg donor".😂😂😂😂 May I use this?
@BenAvodot
Жыл бұрын
Christina, you’ve helped me to get past so much of the pain that I’ve suffered due to narcissistic abuse. I was surrounded by it as a child and find that in adulthood, I seem to attract the abuse more often that I’d like to admit. Sound familiar? I’ve learned about boundaries, I’ve learned about projection, and reactive abuse, the blame shifting, the accusations of being unworthy and unloveable, the rage abuse, I’ve seen it all. It’s very destructive and was eroding my mental health. What I’ve learned from watching your videos is that, first of all, I am not alone. Whew, that’s a relief! Secondly, that I can take measures to heal. The no contact rule was instrumental when dealing with my family, who only used me and put me down and treated me like dirt no matter how much I showed up to help them. I’m a classic co-dependent, so I’m on that spectrum of people-pleasing and saving the day. I’ve also learned that I don’t have to be that way anymore. That I can be a little narcissistic myself and only take care of me for a while. Drop the hero role and focus on healing my hurts and sorrows. It’s so liberating. I don’t feel guilt in leaving some of them behind, where I once would. Where I once would find a way to fix it or serve them in order to make things better, I now let them have their own lives and consequences. I’m not here to save anyone. Boy that was a lesson, and a huge relief. It’s not my job anymore to make others happy or comfortable. I make sure that I am comfortable and happy first. A full 180 degrees and I feel so much better. Thank you. I realize that I must take care of me and not to look to others, and looking at my own shadow and integrating my dark side as well. Doing shadow work while was feeling my lowest helped me get out of my funk. I had desires of revenge and hate that I held onto for so long, but by putting up boundaries and creating my own safe space, I’m feeling like I used to. I’m the kinda guy who wakes up and finds himself singing in the shower. My normal disposition is joy, but I got so turned around during the narcissistic abuse. It was as if my joyfulness provoked them to target me. Then after the poking and reactive abuse started, my joy started to die. It was as if the narcissist wanted me to feel like they do everyday, angry, envious, hateful, destructive. And I did feel that way, for about a year. Omg, what a long detox period! And I feel like I’m just coming out into the light. Anyhow, I’ve learned so much and it only feels like the beginning. Thanks for the vids, you are making a difference.
@atk8302
8 ай бұрын
Well said! I relate to everything you said 💯
@divinaluz7
28 күн бұрын
@@atk8302 Me too🙏
@juliebarks3195
Жыл бұрын
I have a narcissistic controller in my life. The hardest thing I have ever had to do is tell her she needs to get a dementia test done asp. I nursed a close friend with dementia until he died. That was a piece of cake compared to helping my narcissistic friend. She attacked me verbally and told me to leave it. I think she is in about year three of dementia. For my own sanity, I have to do what she said and leave it.
@GreenEnvy.
Ай бұрын
Is your narcissist friend dead yet? Or does she have dementia?
@edwardc6288
Ай бұрын
They hate themselves as we all know, they hate reality, they dont understand this world. They dont love their kids when they have them as they dont know what love is. They only like seeing things/people crash and burn. Incredibly sad existence its actually mind blowing.
@nicknames9336
Жыл бұрын
This is an amazing explanation, thank you so much. It explains so much for me. I’ve really been struggling with my codependency. Met my now husband when I was 15, we’ve been together for 30+ years. He “rescued “ me from my childhood home. The moments of anger emanating from him have always been such a trigger for me! This really helps me understand why. Thank you!
@craigmerkey8518
Жыл бұрын
Hello, thank you so much for all the amazing and valuable information. Growing up in a small community I was aware of the lists of approved and unliked non approved people! The categories of non approved people was very long. As I got older I discovered the lists of non approved people was total *** < (insert bad word). This also lead me to discover many of the ideas that were fed to me were total fabrications the motivation was control. Very sad existence, but good lesson for me as an adult.
@attackhelicoptercat
Жыл бұрын
thank you for saying that part, that you are not the one who is going to be able to get the narcissist to see that they are wrong. that was so very on target and true. its a game, they want you to try.
@dvssayer5621
Жыл бұрын
Mine died, but here i am keeping his memory alive Trauma bonded, love bomed...was amazing! How? Weird!
@David-eu1ms
Жыл бұрын
It's an unfortunate situation for everyone involved.
@clintonnagy1662
5 ай бұрын
Sad to know her 8 year old son is following in her footsteps. 😢
@amyj.4992
9 ай бұрын
I feel bad for anyone who's ever had a narcissistic parent in their life. Thank God, he blessed me with parents who loved and respected me because that would have been a greater detriment to me. However watching some narc families that didn't raise me, I never had to be around again
@aknightofcamelot
24 күн бұрын
It's possible to heal, but trying to heal them won't work. Empaths like to heal, fix, and help. We must do it to ourselves first.
@Agheel963
12 күн бұрын
Agree. Time to put yourself first
@TheRealityShift369
Жыл бұрын
I dated so many Narcissists until i worked out my Empath patterning from childhood (having a Narcissistic Mother). Narcissists are unhealed children walking around in adult bodies. But the crazy thing is, its not only childhood trauma and unhealed childhood programming with a Narcissist, but there is a spiritual element to it also, where negative entities can hijack the Narcissist through feeding off their unhealed lower vibrational emotions (remembering that we live in a world of energy, frequency and vibration). There is 2 aspects too abusive people: physical and spiritual. I made a video on this exact subject yesterday kzitem.info/news/bejne/0KN7nImIaal7qGU
@GlendonGross
Жыл бұрын
I found this video extremely helpful. I've studied Carl Jung but had not been exposed to this idea of a shadow self and it applies directly to a friendship I've been struggling with for the past year. Thank you.
@jenniferscott7960
Жыл бұрын
Splitting makes perfect sense. Oh so hard really to love them. It's so confusing. High maintenance.
@sparkledejager1965
Жыл бұрын
This cleared up so much. Thank you for the way you share all this info. Clearly and deeply explained.
@dawnkikong637
Жыл бұрын
I like your voice and the way you describe these issues. You know your stuff. Thank you!
@mariegallagher4725
Жыл бұрын
Thankyou this is so revealing.
@fae137
Жыл бұрын
Seems like generalization to say these things apply to all narcissists. Not everyone with the disorder is the same. I know there are common patterns. Many neurotypicals do have narc traits without the full disorder as well, since narcissism exists on a spectrum. Borderlines also experience splitting. There can be a lot of crossover of traits in the cluster b disorders, as well as in autistics.
@boudica3356
Жыл бұрын
Self loathing
@Daw231
7 ай бұрын
Why can’t I understand shame? I mean I’ve experienced so much in life and understand people make mistakes but can redeem themselves through their future actions.
@ZenZone-li4fr
Жыл бұрын
Extremely important and I love your unique angle on this topic that is rarely explained so well. 🎉❤😊🙏🏻
@warrenbrowne9648
26 күн бұрын
Just remember hurt people hurt . It’s that simple . Walk away and remember this has your showdown grows long in the sunset ❤️🙏best wishes to you all xx
@jsteele286
Жыл бұрын
That last two minutes…God bless you.
@vienen1
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for starting to make longer videos! You are amazing. Thank you for everything! ❤
@taze317
Жыл бұрын
They can dish it out, but they can not take it. My narc daughter decided that she wanted to go to war with me. Ok, but you know that I'm going to throw all of your imperfections into your face. First on the list? Her addiction to food and how she is now morbidly obese. "Do you think that your mother and I enjoyed seeing you walk around the house with your ass dragging on the floor?" That hurt. I wanted it to hurt. You took my grandson out of my life. Don't expect a Christmas card.
@RandyDecious
6 ай бұрын
DOES NO CARDS MEAN NO PRESENTS 2
@taze317
6 ай бұрын
@@RandyDecious LOL. Absolutely!
@shadow-ru7mu
4 ай бұрын
You sound like my mother you're the problem
@taze317
4 ай бұрын
@@shadow-ru7mu I respect your opinion, but you're wrong. None of these things would have been said if my daughter had not come to our house on May 11, 2022, and yelled at me, called me names, and was extremely vulgar. Without provocation. She did this in front of her mother, who was in the early stages of dementia. I tried twice to talk to her. She wouldn't let me talk. She'd yell louder or faster. I disengaged from her and just watched her going completely crazy for 5 minutes. The "out of nowhere" aspect is massive. You can't act the way she did in front of someone who is having memory problems. You can't frighten my wife. You can't walk on me in my own home. If you do either, expect to feel my wrath. You'd feel the same way if it happened to you.
@angeleye8953
28 күн бұрын
@@shadow-ru7mustraight bitch!!! And remember kids don’t just end up that way..
@MoJo-eb4lt
29 күн бұрын
The best I've ever heard this explained......
@mukesh.dhimar
15 күн бұрын
It's strange because I don't like myself. But I've realised that my horrible disgusting ex who I refer to as "The Demon" has made me feel like this. It took a while but all the humiliation and the devaluation she did to me made me hate myself. Even though I did absolutely everything for her, she'd literally intentionally hurt me. One of my friends said this:- "Bad people gravitate towards people like me because they find them a challenge to break or they highlight something lacking in others personalities that make them special so it's a bigger challenge to break them and that's all they want." That is all they want. They are demons.
@PixieCropCircleDuster
29 күн бұрын
I just want to say thank-you for your videos, they're so interesting and helpful. ❤
@MeMe-zq7qd
26 күн бұрын
They hate anyone who reminds them of their own shortcomings because deep down they hate themselves I began to realize this when my narc ex would accuse everyone of being and doing everything he is and does and be extremely critical. He made fun of one of my friends behind her back for being overweight (when he is actually even more overweight than her) Another time he went on a really opinionated tirade about how people who abuse their wives are the worst of the worst when the night before my ex had locked me in a room, choked me and sprained my arm. It made me realize those are the things he actually feels about himself deep down.
@Peaceforall20111
Жыл бұрын
Carl Jung… the OG infj
@franciscocardenas5758
Жыл бұрын
Wow!!! Well put. 👏👏👏 🙂👍
@phoenixrisin2269
6 ай бұрын
They hate you cause they ain’t you
@narishaloflin9314
9 ай бұрын
Wow, you're really good! (I just subscribed.) You succinctly summed up everything I've been going thru & at a much deeper level than most of the people on KZitem addressing the issue of narcissism. My once best friend has slowly over the years gone from being a caring, mentorly, mother figure to a vindictive covert narc. I mean, I guess she was always a bit of a covert narc. It's just that we were long distance friends for years & now we're roommates. And in that span of time, she's gone from mentor to covert narc to then even more an overt narc. This has been so confusing & painful to watch & experience. But really I don't give a shit anymore. I will speak my Truth no matter what...& next year I hope to move out. But this hate she sends my way like a vindictive, flaming arrow---->it hurts! When she's not being mean & hateful, she's all nicey-nice,, like a Stepford Wife. Total Jekyll-Hyde! It's next level cray-cray! How do I deal with her until I can move out?
@idkBRUCE
Жыл бұрын
weve been on and off for 6 yrs. off and then She hoovered back, i believed her promises and "thank yous" she came to me begging for help with alcoholism. acknowledge everything, how bad she treated me, she answered 1 or 2 questions. one, asked her why she always leaves, she said to protect me. she went to 3 detox programs. didnt even finish the 3rd, left detox and has blocked everything. never said a word to me. didnt even break up with me. she just never spoke to me again. its been 4 months. i am broken. 6 yrs and got ghosted.
@idkBRUCE
Жыл бұрын
i realize so many things thru the years where lies. she has cheated on me over 35 times. and i just didnt want to be too controlling or crazy so when id ask her about stuff i just took whatever her answer was as truth bc i want to be a good boyfriend. stupid me. i am so hurt. 35 times she put another man in her and lied to me and kissed me and told me i was her person.
@idkBRUCE
Жыл бұрын
and by 35, i mean people. not how many times she has sex period.. she admitted to being a prostitute..... we live in nyc btw so it is def true.
@mosaicowlstudios
Ай бұрын
Oh man, that "sharing food" story. My mom, until I was in my 30's and asked her to never do it again, would just reach across the table and eat off of my plate WITHOUT even asking first.
@philosophy_schilling
2 ай бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to explain this so clearly and well. It makes so much sense. I wonder what kind of trauma that the narcissist, as a kid, perhaps before narcissism developed, endured to understand kindness, compassion, and emotional connection as shameful. I always wonder what happened to my mom when she was little to make her have this kind of shadow and mask. Does anyone ever talk about the kind of trauma that creates a narcissist? Because I feel bad for them since it seems like narcissism is a trauma response itself. It's sad they can't change or get better, if that is true.
@flipblanc1794
Жыл бұрын
brilliant. Thank you
@michaeljohns8817
4 ай бұрын
PEOPLE PLEASING is so sick !!!!! It's big time LOW SELF ESTEEM
@casperinsight3524
Жыл бұрын
He loves you He loves you not He loves you He loves you not
@Spock_Rogers
Жыл бұрын
I saw a post the other day who said that's why a narcissist flower (daffodil) has 6 petals. He loves me not.
@clintonnagy1662
5 ай бұрын
That's how I was feeling towards my ex narc. I felt like I was losing my mind. Hot, cold, up, down, left, right, yes, no,... Then dealing with her little brat son, then her mother started her crap. I said, " hell 2 da NO ".....this shit stops right here.
@casperinsight3524
4 ай бұрын
@@clintonnagy1662 When you know you GO
@casperinsight3524
4 ай бұрын
@@clintonnagy1662 When you know you GO If you stay you PAY
@martyc2637
6 ай бұрын
I should have seen the flags. Her kids wanted nothing to do with her and she only had one friend that lasted more than a year.
@francesbernard2445
29 күн бұрын
Thanks for explaining how a pattern of narcissistic parenting and/or questionable medical treatment of a mother with their infant. In contrast it is normal for people to become acquainted with someone only to later realize that you have little in common with them when realizing that continuing to interact with them would be only wasting both their time and ours. An infant being subjected to confusing behavior among adults who are caring for them can as they mature in faith manage to sort out who they are so long as they are not coersed into choosing one out of more not less pronouns at both school and work starting at around age 11 or so. Another thing. It is not normal for a person to keep on collecting names of people and communities only for adding to their list of people, places and nations to hate. The nation called Israel is only one of those nations which some disordered people say we should hate. Hate instead of only feeling angry about what goes on from one court room to another and back again sometimes.
@richardlenz2655
Жыл бұрын
I was raised catholic and have a narcissistic wife. You might think this is hell? But hell is psychology. This is hell for sure 🤭
@jmang5953
19 күн бұрын
Brilliant!❤❤❤ty
@brendaleverick3655
Жыл бұрын
He hates me cause I'm not young, gorgeous, virginal, and stupid. 🙄
@firstlast9654
9 ай бұрын
Shame is the core CAUSE of narcisism. Narcisism is accompanied by physiologicakl changes that make them unable to see themselves out of the box. It is not an apology for their behaviour, it is just a fact. Maybe the best approaches are those that target the mind-body connection.
@Willie82720
6 ай бұрын
I love this so much ❤ I was happy and dancing and boom a fight I was so confused
@1withsprinkles
Жыл бұрын
I was raised religiously and had bible memory assignments starting in kindergarten. As an adult, some of my values are aligned. I believe in something bigger and that what is "right" is bigger than me. I believe in treat your neighbor as yourself and all of that. Sometimes it might not be a healthy way to think/act. It is supported in some ways in society; Of course, you probably won't get a promotion ;) You are spot on in your video. I have felt the kind of clash you speak of. It is most clear for me with a work relationship where things are less cloudy. I have had the feeling that a coworker maybe hates me or is competitive with me and it seems super weird; Then, after a while, I realize I do not respect them and kind of hate them(?). I start to see they are out for themselves. It sucks they seem to see me first. The first thing I notice is that I feel confused. Anyway. during your video I remembered a bible verse something like - there is no greater love than this: that a man/person lay down his life for a friend. I can see how that isn't healthy in that I don't want to lay down anything for any kind of sucker-fish-face... but I feel a little bit slow. It seems like a good verse to live by if we lived in a world where everyone was nice, lol. I liked your video. Very insightful. A lot to think about :)
@robertdemeter5793
10 ай бұрын
If you want to see the most narcissists gathered in one place, just see what's inside a christian church.
@robertdemeter5793
10 ай бұрын
Nothing is dar.-ker than christianity.
@robertdemeter5793
10 ай бұрын
Christ is the darkest ideologies that have ever been conceived in the Universe. As we were ALL born free and eternal, therefore who is that controlling narcissistic Jesus telling you otherwise ? Secondly, why the heck would I want to die FOR you and rob and steal your infinitely sacred and magical manifestations and revelations of experiencing death ? As I died loads of times in Ayahuasca ceremonies and eye would Never ever consider in a trillion years to take that powerful learning experience away from you (or anyone else). That's true divine love.
@robertdemeter5793
10 ай бұрын
Eye can ask infinite questions about Nature, the infinite heavens, and the infinite multi-dimensional universe and the Self, thjat we shamans have all the answers to, and you would not even be able to answer one of them. As nothing is dar-.ker than christianity.
@robertdemeter5793
10 ай бұрын
Explain how your rel--igion is not extreme narcissism ? You constantly blame-shift (and label) hundreds of other cultures/groups of ppl all over the world for your endless inner pain/suffering in your Ego mind's need for control, when those "others" had ZERO to do with it.
@donnaparks1919
Жыл бұрын
Another tactic I've just seen family from CA came to see me sis called them come to her place not really because she ❤ to see them but cause she couldn't stand that I might have anyone's attention she had to do something to take there attention off me I don't object to them visiting her it's she really doesn't like any of them she made it vary clear. To more that just me Sickening.
@stephaniee1766
Жыл бұрын
I have a narcissister too. They are so awful 😣
@ladyprogressyimi6475
8 ай бұрын
This was a really really good breakdown thank u so much
@thisnameinvolved
Жыл бұрын
Ok, but why are narcs made out to be bad guys when sociopaths and psychopaths are celebrated by society?
@richardjohanson6421
Жыл бұрын
I couldn't set boundaries as a illegitimate child from a adulterous relationship... my 3 step brothers and step sister used me as a scapegoat... i would catch wrath if I said no... I was the server of the family... I couldn't say no... with sex also... become sexually addicted. She used sex with her father to get back at her narcissistic mother... became Covert Narcissists just like her father... learned behavior.... mine turn into Codependency!
@richardjohanson6421
Жыл бұрын
Isaiah 54 4“Do not fear, for you will not be ashamed; Neither be disgraced, for you will not be put to shame; For you will forget the shame of your youth, And will not remember the reproach of your widowhood anymore. 5For your Maker is your husband, The Lord of hosts is His name; And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel; He is called the God of the whole earth. 6For the Lord has called you Like a woman forsaken and grieved in spirit, Like a youthful wife when you were refused,” Says your God. 7“For a mere moment I have forsaken you, But with great mercies I will gather you. 8With a little wrath I hid My face from you for a moment; But with everlasting kindness I will have mercy on you,” Says the Lord, your Redeemer. 9“For this is like the waters of Noah to Me; For as I have sworn That the waters of Noah would no longer cover the earth, So have I sworn That I would not be angry with you, nor rebuke you. 10For the mountains shall depart And the hills be removed, But My kindness shall not depart from you, Nor shall My covenant of peace be removed,” Says the Lord, who has mercy on you.
@franciscoguevara9727
Жыл бұрын
I disagree with your takes on the empath / highly sensitive person, it isnt as black and white. Narcisism is a survival response to trauma, all humans grew up with some kind of trauma in their childhood because of its intergenerational nature, you have different responses to trauma but in essence, some people keep their empathy (thankfully) , and some people as a response to trauma, become the bully the agressor, become exploitative, entitled and lack empathy, this is the case of narcisistic people......... Empathic people also have trauma they just kept their empathy , (again thankfully), there are survival responses to trauma that are to become a people pleaser, and also difficulty with boundaries, thank fully i got trauma informed support and learned to be more gentle on my self, and to set healthy boundaries so my inner child and true self came out, and now i can keep horning my innner child true self in a healthy way, and finding safe enough people , where i can get my needs met, and have workeable and available relationships...... Takes that make the empath seem like their addicted to a narc are vague for me and vicitm blaming, empath, or highly senstive person , in my book just refers to a person who kept their empathy as a response to lifes conditions , i for one wasn't addicted to any narcisist, i was just affected by growing up in a narc family system and needed to unpack my trauma, tell my story in safe places be empathized with as a survivor, and learn tools of gentleness and healthy boundaries and started integrating, i wasn't attracted or addicted to any narc, i just needed healing, and i consider myself a highly sensitive person, that thankfully found healing in safe places, in my book , empaths with boundaries is for the win, but, an empath/ highlysensitive person is just a person with empathy, it doesnt refer to being addicted to anarc, i wasn't i just needed to find healing, after growing up in a narc family system, and thankfully i did by finding safe enough places, telling my story and learning skills of gentleness and healthy boundaries so my inner child and true self came out, i needed trauma informed places, that understand trauma, people who could hold space, and not project weird takes on me , and show me trauma informed skills like gentleness on myself and healthy boundaries, so my true self came out again me chosing safe enough people. Your takes are about you. Its not the universal experience. of people who are healing and trying to keep gentleness and healthy boundaries, and be in available relationships where we get our needs met, were worth it :) God speed. were worth it.
@mjathisbestandteachingskil6980
Жыл бұрын
Thats is so true everything that is fundamentally correct they hate it when this one told me I need to accept her, just the way she is I really had to check out yotube and learn what is wrong with this nut lol and then gonna say to me let her learn the hard way, oh yeah don't correct her oh really I quickly started learning more about their behavior and problems and when she give me that gaslight oh yeah I was waiting calmly that next day to end it, enough in simple unexplain details to yotube. There's one question who do they listen to?? those narcissis people and do they ever tell the truth to anyone??
@joanbaczek2575
28 күн бұрын
Mine hated me cuz me and my son have good relationship , and he abandoned his kids. He felt that because he abandoned his kids I should abandon mine and care for the narc as if he was my son instead
@evequeen8282
9 ай бұрын
You have a very soothing voice :)
@gabemeadows2087
28 күн бұрын
energy doesn't lie language is primitive
@seameology
23 күн бұрын
Oooooooh. No wonder he didn't want our social security connected. He's in a new place I've never been and his new friends etc know nothing about me. He can't preach if there's a soon to be ex wife out there. I gotta be in the shadows. He can pretend anything. Nobody can ask how the marriage ended or even ask me my side. I'm a source of shame. He would also have to proclaim some responsibility for an ended marriage.
@infinitesunshine369
28 күн бұрын
guess I might be a narcissist🥺
@thewaywardtrio
Жыл бұрын
Wow! Wisdom here on view thank you
@time_2_get_ready
26 күн бұрын
Modern-day psychology is a disgrace. The popular excuse now is that narcissism is all the parent's fault which drives the wedge further and further into the family dynamic, destroying families and individuals who are constantly being immersed in *self* . 1. Guilt, when deserved, is a GOOD thing and teaches good from evil 2. We have ALL been subject to less than perfect parents yet some, despite the "narc" influence have developed into caring, sane adults able to take responsinility for our own actions/reactions. And outlook on life. 3. 99% of parents actually LOVE their children and sacrifice all they have in caring for their children, forgiving them over and over to a fault, yet narc adults will never forgive the misdemeanours (either perceived or real) of those who conceived, bore and nourished them, not understanding we are ALL in a long chain of imperfect ancestors and that specifically targeting our immediate parents is warped thinking. 4. My own narc daughter whom I cherished from birth, has taught me that she is bitter and hateful towards me BECAUSE I dared to discipline her instead of allowing her to run amok in any evil lifestyle she wanted and so NOW, raises her own son to be a spoilt brat who literally lives on ice cream, Milo, chocolate and junk food in general! She is the victim NOT of a very happy, albeit imperfect, upbringing but of the PSYCHOLOGY she is currently studying only to FURTHER counsel another generation of self-absorbed cry babies. God's Word says, "A parent who does not discipline his child hates his child" so don't tell me that discipline damages the little darling's mental health for the opposite is true!
@nicola28_2
5 ай бұрын
Can people pleasers end up not knowing they’re in relationship like that because they have the complete opposite of what they value ?x
@stylist62
23 күн бұрын
Well he got a strength z, threw his ass out😂meekness is strength under control
@scottthomas5819
Жыл бұрын
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@brianhotaling5849
Ай бұрын
Thought or Taught
@kuiavey3081
Ай бұрын
🙏🏽
@v4756nb1rs
4 ай бұрын
Ugh. Jung was a narcissist. I wanted this video to be so much better than it is.
@mrwaterschoot5617
Жыл бұрын
my year vounger ex-sister has been narcisstic since year 2 and take makes me three. i had my back to the wall without a care in the world she is screaming at me and my parents are in the background on an eastmab kodak ectachrome slide dated 1959. ehe never outgrew he narccist ways she marriod a liuser lnamed loudii juniot. evil loises that raised a miscarrige for 4 months and had a daughterss lifebqbl perfect trio of losers.
@Private-GtngxNMBKvYzXyPq
Жыл бұрын
I don’t agree that empathy and codependency are the same thing. In my view, empathy is a quality that is lacking in narcissistic personality disorder, and perhaps present in abundance with a person exhibiting codependency, but it does not follow logically to say that all empaths are codependent. What both the narcissist and the codependent share is insecurities, but it manifests differently. The codependent needs to be needed as a form of external validation, and the narcissist needs the narcissistic supply, so there can emerge an unhealthy symbiosis. But just being able to sense and care about the feelings of others does not necessarily make someone codependent. At least that’s my interpretation. I make the point because I don’t think all empathic people need to automatically be concerned that they might be codependent. Something to watch out for, of course, since empathy can be taken advantage of, but not a case-closed automatic diagnosis either. Just my two cents. Respectfully submitted.
@CommonEgo
Жыл бұрын
I don’t think they are the same thing either. I included the empath personality in that spot because some people look at the spectrum that way with the ultimate empath on one side and the ultimate narcissist on the other. And there’s definitely some overlap, so excluding that group didn’t seem to make sense to me.
@Private-GtngxNMBKvYzXyPq
Жыл бұрын
@@CommonEgo I see what you mean. Thanks for clarifying. 🙂
@elisaDiane
7 ай бұрын
He always would say in Spanish, “I, don’t even trust in my own shadow ”! Explains, why when I live on my children why he would stare like a demon and then he would try to mimic me and then he would accuse me of being jealous of his time with the children 😂I was like what?
@springlove7219
5 ай бұрын
🎉
@marcin3136
4 ай бұрын
Yep, but I don't care :D:D:D And if someone believes narcissists/borderlines, he is a fool himself and this is the most valuable information for me, because they do not care about the truth: "Depart from fools"~ Bible... ; ) Check out Sigma Empath - probably the strongest personality ;))) It's a "bit" worse when I fall unlucky in love 😆🤷, but apart from that, it's invulnerable.
@flowersofthefield340
29 күн бұрын
☣️
@anonymouslyphantomwarrior6787
24 күн бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@briancisneros8595
Жыл бұрын
The fact is you imagine urself has narcissist human Bean im not human where like the the narcissist people you're confident with ur self view ur has narcissist you need supply every Tim or victim.cant help to luagh at them there funny victims in life
@CommonEgo
Жыл бұрын
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@judyfreeman5193
Жыл бұрын
I came to the conclusion that my narcissist doesn't hate me at all. The person he hates is himself. I am where he deflects his hate onto.
@rickde2709
Жыл бұрын
They hate you because they see the parts they hate about their own self in you. So yea basically they hate themselves.
@fungi42o0
21 күн бұрын
they see what they DONT have
@CrusaderforChrist-Channel
Жыл бұрын
That “Shadow” is a DEMON.
@annabayles19
Жыл бұрын
That's a FACT
@alexmaremaa7057
9 ай бұрын
And that's ok,I forgive you for my sins..
@annerison
2 ай бұрын
Hahaha, yes.
@Hendrix-Jimi
Ай бұрын
Very true !
@coreyself2983
Ай бұрын
It could also just be the ego, sin nature etc. which isnt much better
@jeanag3279
Жыл бұрын
This was EXTREMELY helpful in explaining what I am going through with my narcissistic sister . . . who learned everything she knows from our narcissistic mother. Thank you.
@ChosenOne1967
7 ай бұрын
Same. Only the black sheep doesn't become a carbon copy of their parents.
@alicec.6195
Жыл бұрын
I love your channel because you go deep without complicating. Even though I've watched many videos about the subject you always make me think about it in a new way.
@lustertone8587
Жыл бұрын
Such powerful information. How would this look with a covert narcissist dynamic?
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