Unless a man changes for himself, he’s not really changing at all. Otherwise he’s just acting for someone not actually changing
@nothx8642
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you very much.
@tryna_be_better4549
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@shalalala868
2 жыл бұрын
Not all the time. Sometimes you may point out some things a man may not have recognized and if he agrees within himself, he will change. I’ve had men change for me.
@tryna_be_better4549
2 жыл бұрын
@@shalalala868 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 the arrogance of you. even if he agrees he has to make a decision for himself to change you cannot make him change.
@dani323
2 жыл бұрын
@Randy 💯👍well said 👆
@michaelbatts7149
2 жыл бұрын
A good friend told me once-"Never worry about finding your true mate. When the time is right, God will place your future wife or husband right in front of you. Until then, work on becoming the best person you can become, becoming the best servant of God you know you should be. God delivers. He may not deliver when we want but he always delivers right on time."
@420snoogins
2 жыл бұрын
To bad it's 100% false advice.
@nikiszarvas4702
2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@katfish4386
2 жыл бұрын
I LOVE this.
@katfish4386
2 жыл бұрын
@@420snoogins Wow. Then keep that to yourself. Lots of others believe. To each their own. How about non-judgment on both sides? Shows about your level of emotional maturity. 👍🏽
@sophiechinwe5285
2 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@blackfoot7925
Жыл бұрын
Become the man you want to be, a man who walks with integrity is a powerful man.
@samanthafukes4601
2 жыл бұрын
A narcissistic man will not change. He will destroy you, very slowly. Please, don't let this happen. If it wasn't for my momma, I would be in a real bad place right now. Sister, you don't ever let this happen. You will NEVER change them ❤
@mattb5949
Жыл бұрын
Oh yeah. The ole narcissistic man.
@troykinnison4575
Жыл бұрын
Narcissistic women are 100x worse than any man is. They will lie an plan for a year that they leaving ,sleep with every friend you got . Steal every penny u got. An blame it on you
@sonjal.3704
Жыл бұрын
Yeah, they can't change much, even if they'd want to.
@chanellaugustine7341
Жыл бұрын
It’s happening to me now he will never change I realize that once I told him no more sex he got so so so damn upset 😂😂 now he wants to be nice and “caring” just to keep me yet he doesn’t want to change internally like nah fam in good fuck your energy bro and your family’s
@cynthiaatkins9023
Жыл бұрын
You so right
@Mrsqtfactory
2 жыл бұрын
You want to save yourself a lot of heartbreak and hassle? Pick someone that won't need to change to please you. Has been working for me for a decade.
@MrBleedingFingers
2 жыл бұрын
@The BeamNG Driver Naive statement.
@kinslayer3609
2 жыл бұрын
@@MrBleedingFingers 🤦♂
@geoffl.3247
2 жыл бұрын
Humans need to change and grow in order to survive. If you're priorities, goals, ambitions, morals are the same at 35 as they were at 25 you're peobably not doing too well. However, there is almost always a few outliers.
@adamm2091
2 жыл бұрын
@@MrBleedingFingers not really
@MaskedMass
2 жыл бұрын
Imagine picking someone with the express purpose of not growing and changing throughout a relationship. Couldn't be me.
@blueseptember2174
2 жыл бұрын
You don't change because she's the one. You changes because you lost the first precious relationship through your own selfishness and realized fire is hot. You change because you don't want to lose what your first wife taught you. You cant take human beings for granted. Loss is a great teacher
@Swiftreaders4668
Жыл бұрын
Someone actually said truth 😂😂😂
@jc2386
Жыл бұрын
Men learn from aggression and loss otherwise its blackmail and extortion. The active threat makes men move, it's not serious unless they are at loss of their life or money. Woman and children and family doesn't matter to men as much as themselves.
@JayH1931
Жыл бұрын
Facts on facts
@mandycote5662
Жыл бұрын
First wife? People don’t go thru God for a mate they go thru their lust
@plenaryverbalist
Жыл бұрын
@@mandycote5662 women go for a mate through greed and laziness.
@yagradio8655
Жыл бұрын
A real man changes for himself
@GlenNdlovu-lv2tw
11 ай бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤
@iaf4454
11 ай бұрын
True. They dont change for "a woman" or for "the one". He changes when he needs to do it because his life is a mess.
@kimberleydavidson8006
10 ай бұрын
What yu said💯🥰
@King_Arthur_
5 ай бұрын
💯
@jeedica
5 ай бұрын
Yes you man change
@devinarmstrong7580
7 ай бұрын
I deleted all my social media. I stopped being nosy.Cut down on drinking and went to the gym more often. I started praying with more passion. My side hustle was growing at a fast rate.Got my old high paying job back.then boom I met the love of my life in person after being single for 4 years. 👑☝️🙏🏾
@jeedica
5 ай бұрын
Nice one
@ifrahabi4834
3 ай бұрын
Beautiful ❤
@kree0101
2 жыл бұрын
Real responsible men know that the journey of self improvement should NOT be undertaken for any woman or man. It is a personal responsibility to find your purpose by which the people around you will benefit.
@mofimTV
2 жыл бұрын
yes but he was speaking in a particular context. In a love relationship sometimes you DO need to be flexible and adjust your ways to please your person and vice versa to make the relationship better. If your spouse asks you to start wearing more blue shirts because she likes you in them, you are "not" doing it to find your purpose but really simply just to make her/him happy. Everything does not need to be too philosophical or too complicated. As long as the demands are not unreasonable. In my opinion. Thank you.
@llcms.empressqueenlady-asp5928
2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely correct it's a personal choice how bad do you want the change if you are sick and tired of being tired look in the mirror and make that change Michel Jackson voice 🌹💜
@bethanydavis9023
2 жыл бұрын
There are always compromises in healthy relationships to make them work regardless of platonic or romantic. Not a complete change unless it's a necessity to move from a toxic one to a healthy one, and even them both parties need to meet on some middle ground.
@user-zd6kp3he6u
2 жыл бұрын
@@mofimTV you are both right
@swisscheeseplease97
2 жыл бұрын
Sure. But men also change for women. The two aren’t mutually exclusive
@lebohangmasiu2354
2 жыл бұрын
I don't want a changed man I want someone who improved himself.
@plenaryverbalist
Жыл бұрын
Improve yourself, then. That vagina doesn’t mean you’re all the way there, feminist.
@sheilaandfrank
Жыл бұрын
Amen to that👍🏾
@ashimarqui4800
Жыл бұрын
Improving, enhancing, upgrading… all forms of change… meaning, something that was is not the same
@Ghassantheofficial
Жыл бұрын
@@ashimarqui4800 thank you. Like if he was bad, that'd be saying she wants him to improve in that, right.
@Gemmarose9012
Жыл бұрын
That’s what change means😂
@pattystephens5977
Жыл бұрын
My mother once told me, a man needs to love you, more than you love him. I believe her.
@GODpermeatesEveryWhere
Жыл бұрын
@@omardelmar You’re basically saying the same thing he is saying. He said his mother told him to date a woman that loves him more than he loves her. You said you would tell your son to: Find a woman that would love him more than she loves herself. If a woman loves someone more than herself; then no matter how much he loves her; she’ll love him more than herself anyway.
@GODpermeatesEveryWhere
Жыл бұрын
Me too…. That’s why you should be your genuine centered self around everyone. Because the right one will fall head over heels for your genuine energy. And you won’t be resentful later on in the relationship because of all the energy it takes to keep up a false self.
@lovejones1897
Жыл бұрын
Wrong a man must love his wife like he loves himself.
@user-ck6ly4st3v
Жыл бұрын
My mother told me the same thing!! Mother was right!!!!!!!
@theawesomeoone6
Жыл бұрын
Hell no, that’s a hard pass. If you’re not giving me the same love I give you your not worth my time.
@LT2471
Жыл бұрын
I agree 🧿 But some men is just full of narcissistic behaviors that’s why they can’t change
@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt
Ай бұрын
Hello how are you hope you're doing great
@RKS7642
2 жыл бұрын
I heard, quite a while back, two things. A person will only change when they're ready to. Second, if you're with them because of the potential you see, you aren't being true to yourself or them. Love them for who they are now, right where they are, not the potential you think you see.
@supercal333
2 жыл бұрын
.. and if you can't or dive want to, MOVE ON
@ingrid5944
Жыл бұрын
I think i needed to hear this, thanks
@RKS7642
Жыл бұрын
@@ingrid5944 ❤
@winniejohnson5559
Жыл бұрын
You can actually do both. Also it can depend on what the change is or how serious . Is it a major issue or minor
@NovusInc
Жыл бұрын
@@winniejohnson5559 true. If they need to change and improve themselves so they can make the relationship more meaningful then they should be encouraged to, through their own will and not by being forced by their partner.
@hellfire_x8436
2 жыл бұрын
The only person that can make some one change is themselves. The whole he'll change for "the one" is toxic because everyone believes they're the one until they're proven wrong. Work on yourself before getting into a relationship, it's your own responsibility to be a good person not anyone else's.
@aakanksha2503
2 жыл бұрын
Period.
@shaluvmil
2 жыл бұрын
And you my dear are the winner. Women don’t have anything to do with a changing man. His change is on him and when he wants to change, not who he wants to change for. It’s always when, Father Time. Steve ass tried it
@berkaydemirbas3841
2 жыл бұрын
I agree to this as a man. Whatever you are at 7 as for character, you will be the same at 70. Gold is always gold and copper is always copper A man who has been sleeping around will never change. Same goes for women
@lettyrella
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. This is so misleading. steve should know better.
@essenceoflove1069
2 жыл бұрын
So totally agree.
@supermanman9310
Жыл бұрын
I think he meant that if you are the woman for him, you will help him see the potential for the best version of himself and help him achieve it.
@vickymorrell277
Жыл бұрын
You nailed it
@Rio-fo9kp
Жыл бұрын
Maybe but ain't no one here to babysit nobody and to let them know the best version if you can't be the best version for YOU yourself when you looking at yourself in the mirror when you alone comfort your tears for what ever struggles you got if you can't do it for You don't do it for anyone cause rememberin the end you only got you. I'm a woman and one time I was crying real bad for my first break up cause I felt I lost alot of time and devotion to one guy and he wasn't ready for me I guess ( he didn't want to change for me ) and my grandpa got mad and said silly girl u wipe those tears and forget about that idiot u see u weren't born with anyone you came alone into the world u dont need him or anyone if he don't see that you tell him the things for his own good and he does not love you back u say bye sir God bless you, and NEXT🤭
@empressstaceyjackson5375
Жыл бұрын
❤
@annabanzon313
Жыл бұрын
This is a dangerous mindset in dating. Potential is never enough.
@jorgemendoza-hl7ch
Жыл бұрын
You think , no that's exactly what Steve is talking about period.
@angelicazavala4496
9 ай бұрын
That one woman helps him to see that he can and wants to be a better person with her love.
@shanellemoses3749
2 жыл бұрын
The problem is being with a man who hasn't matured. If he is mature, you don't have to wait for him to change
@iloveyougumi
2 жыл бұрын
This is true. But I think he is speaking of settling down with a woman only. Maturity takes time, but settling down takes a one second decision. Weeks before I met my husband my future mil asked him to stop hoeing around and be with one girl. He said he saw me and knew I was the one. He brought me home to meet his parents 2 weeks later. They approved. Years later he told me he threw a party at his apartment and invited all the girls he was talking to, including his parents, to let them know he was a changed man. One girl first asked why so many other girls were there and after learning the purpose of the party told him you picked someone over me while in shock. She was apparently drop dead gorgeous and had a baby by a NFL player. My husband said she wasn’t wife material bc of her history of dating professional sports players. Also, the party may sound like a childish thing to do, but he was only 24 at the time. Before me he never had to take a girl on a date and strangers always tell him that he looks like Jesus or Jason Momoa. Anyways, that was 17 years ago, we have been together the whole time, and we now have 4 sons.
@santanapage5044
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly 💯
@shanellemoses3749
2 жыл бұрын
@K J who said I was? Furthermore, focus on being mature than why a woman is with an immature man b/c the reality women are outnumber by them. Facts!
@shanellemoses3749
2 жыл бұрын
@@iloveyougumi settling down still falls in the category of maturity period!
@bethanydavis9023
2 жыл бұрын
@K J kinda difficult when they're so difficult to find and the ones that are seen are typically taken. 🤣😢
@rp2177
2 жыл бұрын
Whenever I listen to him it feels like having a heart attack in kidneys. RIP me.
@Andi91
2 жыл бұрын
😂
@dniceque
2 жыл бұрын
Facts!!!
@mkt106
2 жыл бұрын
Don't listen to him then.
@lyalyakim9898
2 жыл бұрын
My husband is constantly cheating on me and lying that he is not. There is this man in my life who wants to be my "friend" and is ready to be there for me all the time. I have two kids. Please pray for me and my children. God please help me to see the better way for me and my children. Amen 🙏
@lovelyloner
Жыл бұрын
I pray you have walked away from this by now. If not I hope my comment will remind you of your brief moment of clarity and reactivate your intuition. 🙏🏾
@Braveh3artGirl
Жыл бұрын
Sounds like the other guy wants to use you in your pain, be careful. And remember it's ok to leave a cheater and to find your inner happiness again so you can show your children your best self xx
@CFO341
Жыл бұрын
@@Braveh3artGirl bingo buddy trying to exploit
@SK-no2pp
Жыл бұрын
God helps those who help themselves. What we accept in a relationship is a measure of what we think we deserve deep down. So own what you want and desire - you start maximising opportunities for yourself when you say no to things that aren’t that. It is ok to declare that you want to be with someone who has an ongoing and deepening connection to you. If someone is just giving you crumbs ('breadcrumbing') they are not feeling good enough in themselves to be able to give what a relationship requires. Hurt people hurt people. Nothing on the outside will change how they feel on the inside - a person can’t be ready to give love if they aren’t fully sourcing it from within. Only once they feel truly worthy of love are they able to give it. It is not up to you to change them. So if they show or tell you they can’t do it, hear this from them - and that it doesn’t mean anything about you or your value. Someone else’s behaviour is not an indication of your worth. Walk away
@wanda01141
Жыл бұрын
He may be a good guy. Leave your guy and take it slow with your " friend"
@mdon4284
Жыл бұрын
You change for yourself only!! When she told you that you are not the one then forget everything and start making a better relationship with pure love ✨
@mahenxxx
2 жыл бұрын
Stage rule: talk softly, slowly, smoothly, that becomes a philosophy. No matter what you say!
@notsotechie7412
2 жыл бұрын
Yup Power of a speaker who sounds wise , abit hypnotic the rhythm the flow is the key
@irealdeal1334
2 жыл бұрын
There is one thing tjat makes you smart on yt vids, and that is black/white filter
@bakigwaze90
2 жыл бұрын
😆😆😆 coz I'm like huh😳 I thought you couldn't change anyone 🤦🏽♀️ even the one who's the one 🤷🏾♀️
@mofimTV
2 жыл бұрын
loool
@flowersflower1354
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly.
@lifewitholliethegsp9203
2 жыл бұрын
This is so true. I knew my husband loved me almost instantly, also he told me. Together we have come so far, from broke 18 year old kids in love, to a beautiful place in life, there are still so many challenges, but we grow together. The loves grows to, we are blessed. Don’t settle for a man that doesn’t love you!
@generaldealing8132
Жыл бұрын
It’s funny coz we all live in different ways that’s what most people can’t understand we just have to tech out partners how we want to be loved.someone can think another person is a good lover but that particular person cannot love every person they meet the exact same way and works for them
@mishawatts2046
Жыл бұрын
BEAUTIFUL MESSAGE Thankyou Steve ,God bless your Ministry with more of Jesus
@blesskeekee-fy1om
Жыл бұрын
Amen so true and if he doesn't love you, dats the reason Y he's not changing 💯 ✋🏽🤞🏽Steve's right on point
@ScorpionMaiden75
2 жыл бұрын
I showed my husband I was willing to grow with him. You can't make someone change if you're not willing to change yourself ❤🔥👑🔥❤
@katfish4386
2 жыл бұрын
This is so insightful. Also, you have to be kind enough to meet someone where they’re at if you want them to be a part of your life. God will decide the rest. Truly, You can’t fake love. Even if everything looks right or lines up. If you don’t genuinely know how to love - growth is needed or, you just don’t love that specific girl, right? Like, I’ve never been able to fake enjoying sex if things are going that far. If it’s too lame, bad or I’m not as attracted anymore, or worse, not at all, I’m out. I won’t waste your time, it’s cruel and I’m betraying my own dignity by continuing. And I’m not talking about the chunks of time that you’re just not attracted to your partner for a minute because you are around them all the time. That’s totally different.
@tryna_be_better4549
2 жыл бұрын
If he hasn't loved himself enough to change his bad behaviors. What makes you think that he will change for you. You have to love yourself first it starts within and that goes with everybody. Men and women you can't change anybody they have to love themselves enough and wan't change for themselves. Otherwise, they aren't really changing.
@darealist2409
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you. It's always men change, we both have to change, we both have flaws. It shouldn't be I have to accept u as is but basically change everything about me.
@tryna_be_better4549
2 жыл бұрын
@@darealist2409 now you're in the floor I don't think anybody has to change. That's not the point my point is people only change for themselves though if they want to.
@darealist2409
2 жыл бұрын
@@tryna_be_better4549 I gat you. Change for yourself. Not for nobody else.
@claudiapmuller5227
2 жыл бұрын
I think it's only God who really knows how to change people's heart
@themadwomanskitchen9732
Жыл бұрын
Thank you for this explanation because my late husband Tim had a LOT of issues when we met, but I don't want to get into them here. The important thing to note is he changed over the course of our marriage, a couple of the big ones were consistent employment and church attendance. I'll admit, I expressed frustration about his employment but now I realize he listened to me because he loved me enough for it to be important because of how it affected ME. So thank you! I needed this!
@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt
Ай бұрын
Hello pretty how are you doing
@smartkookie
Жыл бұрын
The man doesn't change for the woman. He change simply because he is ready and that woman just happens to be there at the time.
@fatimagross1956
2 жыл бұрын
Bottom line is you can’t change anybody, it’s always up to the person to change and be willing to change.Don’t expect anybody to make you happy, either, you’re the only one that can make yourself happy, by choosing to be happy no matter what comes your way🥰You either stay, or go🙏
@jlow2937
2 жыл бұрын
Why do I get the feeling that he is that kind of guy that shifts all the blame to others instead of reflecting himself
@SuckerPunch92
2 жыл бұрын
You are correct
@SunshineCharles
2 жыл бұрын
He changed because he’s getting all these gigs, n it won’t look good in the public eyes.
@alicia2931
Жыл бұрын
@@SunshineCharles plus married the female he cheated on his ex wife with.
@donnaraim228
Жыл бұрын
You Hit It On Right ON!!!!!❤️🌹🌟🙏🌟🌹❤️
@AnthonyPatrick-eg9qt
Ай бұрын
Hello pretty how are you doing
@2hort_lif378
Жыл бұрын
And if you've done good things for him and he hasn't changed it means he's not the man.
@chiquitawhetstone2235
2 жыл бұрын
When you need change in a partner that is your sign to move along. Factual💫
@user-mx4op6do4f
2 жыл бұрын
I wasnt the one for him then, but I don’t complain ✨ it simply wasn’t the right person for each sides, we will both find the one for ourselves, I ain’t gonna cry for someone who’s not for me 🦋✨
@AmbrosiaK
Жыл бұрын
If you need him to change, he isn't the one.
@sarkisk5317
2 жыл бұрын
The only person you need to change for is God, your creator. Cuz if you do, then ALL will admire you, not just ONE. ☝️
@sylviemorgan9770
2 жыл бұрын
Am with you on this one..
@soulsoothingmusicstudios7690
2 жыл бұрын
I stand with you on this one! 💯
@sofiawheaton7209
2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏽Amen 🙏🏽 My First Love and my only Love forever till the day I Leave this World 🌎
@sub2jackspedicey312
2 жыл бұрын
Magical floating ghost man
@chimom5635
2 жыл бұрын
Amen☝️👍🙏
@huejanus28
2 жыл бұрын
Bro don’t tell women this , they gonna continue to get their ass beat hoping that they will be the one to change him
@AcidiFy574
2 жыл бұрын
They do it anyway😅
@narlywaves2371
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@miguelyegroslarroza
Жыл бұрын
Wonderful word's my dear Steve ✨✨✨👌💯
@jpaaustin9036
Жыл бұрын
Mr.Steve, your truths r appreciated 🙏
@muhubobulhan6318
2 жыл бұрын
All am going to say is that I don’t want to change my man, I chose the way he is but he doesn’t have to change me too. Acceptance is the key to live.
@DustinIsDriving
2 жыл бұрын
Well real men will change for the women he loves. And yes if he ain’t changing… he don’t love you
@beyondhumanrange6196
2 жыл бұрын
Isn't that what he said ? What was the need to rephrase it ?
@MMM.l
2 жыл бұрын
Yes the floor is made up of floor
@abc-mt8us
2 жыл бұрын
He/she rephrasing saying like that, to put the blame more on men. " men don't change because he don't love you" - refer to a man that unable to love her and just playing with her and the fault came from him. "Men don't change because you're not the one" - refer to a man don't change, because she is not good enough for him or let say she's too bad for his standard. It's sound similar, but can be different in context. I'm just saying, not hating on any phrases.
@SpaghettiBelly
2 жыл бұрын
Yep, we're going to take advice from a man who swaps and changes wives every decade. Gotcha.
@Barn1901
2 жыл бұрын
Then you change.. Then get dumped cuz... You aren't the same person I married... Loose loose
@gillymac9363
2 жыл бұрын
Heart breaking, brutal truth i needed to hear. 😪
@amandazeller674
Жыл бұрын
With Gratitude! ! !🌹❤️🌹 Blessed Be! ! !♥️🙏♥️
@andreevaillancourt2177
2 жыл бұрын
I don't want a man who isn't the man I want, as they are, when I meet them. I'm looking for an equal partner, not somekind of project, or fixer-upper. Life is far too short for any of that.
@clairechloe5294
2 жыл бұрын
Yes, that is correct. Life is too short to wait for the other person to change into what you want him to be.
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2 жыл бұрын
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@sevirey2916
2 жыл бұрын
That is why you will live you life along .
@andreevaillancourt2177
2 жыл бұрын
@@sevirey2916 I believe that you meant live your life alone. Yes indeed and it's 100% safer and more pleasant than the toxic h*ll hole that I grew up in. In a couple situation, if both people aren't pulling together for a beneficial relationship, what the heck are they there for? You're either mature enough to handle it, or why be bothered in the first place. It's not worth it if both people don't both have their heads in the game. I'd rather be alone and happy, than stuck with someone who's making my life a misery.🙂 It's the healthy marriage which is the ultimate goal, not having the most lavish wedding and reception. Two people who are feeling enhanced as who they are, being with their partner, better for working together towards their goals in life. It happens, if you don't settle for less. You and your attitude are what makes it happen.
@doncorleone3901
2 жыл бұрын
@@andreevaillancourt2177 you first need to place on the table what YOU have before expecting something from the other person. I don't see that in your comment just what you expect
@martinucarrasco9984
2 жыл бұрын
I lost the love of my life it was to late when I changed but she changed my life.
@LovkynaPeral
Жыл бұрын
Tell it to her, if possible... Mostly people when they lose somebody, light gos up, and then they realize what they "had". Now you love her. All the best for you 🍀🤞
@shenequaheaden2109
Жыл бұрын
This has tue meaning ! Love ya'll
@darleneyarusinsky251
Жыл бұрын
A man can't truly love and change for you until he learns too love and change himself first !🧔🌹
@OnlyCitrus
2 жыл бұрын
Bro, this guy went through three divorce and still giving out relationship advices lol
@Keydol
2 жыл бұрын
And because he had 3 divorces he can say that. It’s the truth but your ass is not intelligent enough to handle it, you need to change
@towdoctor670
2 жыл бұрын
I don't take advice about weight loss from a fat doctor.
@Keydol
2 жыл бұрын
@@towdoctor670 see the whole picture brother, don’t take A weight-loss advice from a fat doctor and never do that, but run to them doctors who were fat and became fit. Also, Thomas Edison failed 99 times to make the light bulb, but in the end he made it, dose that mean that his light bulb is useless? You answer that. Btw I won’t reply to you Messages because I already told you the truth it’s in front of your eyes but if you chose to close them no one can open them for you except yourself. May you find truth and peace ✌🏼❤️
@excellero9766
2 жыл бұрын
And what i hate is that people listen to him and believe him
@strawberrychocolate8089
2 жыл бұрын
@@Keydol Your analogies doesn't make sense at all, the guy literally said "I wouldn't take fitness advice from a fat doctor" yet you somehow managed to send it to "Take it from the ones that were fat" how does that analogy even works?. Also, stop listening to Steve Harvey for once, he got divorced 3 times and in those times he cheated on all of them, not mention, ffs that's not how love works, you are not gonna change because of a girl you are gonna change the moment you decide to change, belive me, being a piece of shit that stays on the couch 24/7 without a job, drinking beer and mistreating a girl isn't gonna change just because, "you found the one". And as if that wasn't enough, Steve Harvey is the same person that said no man shiuld have female friends, because 99.9% of them will want to have something with them the moment they see the opportunity even if they are married, like bruh, sure because you are a cheating scum doesn't mean we are all the same.
@christinarobleto1786
2 жыл бұрын
Very correct, which is why you should never get intimate with him until you know he really loves you. Don't hand over your virginity to someone who will take it for granted & leave you with a defiled body, a broken heart & crushed spirit.
@jc2386
Жыл бұрын
Unless hes criminal, theres lots of bad actions in the world. This is why so many woman feel hurt by males, it's a female life of modern day.
@shadowr2d2
Жыл бұрын
A man will truly move. Heaven, & earth 🌎 for one woman. We want to protect, & provide for her. It's just in our DNA. I truly 💘 my kitten 🐈. She is my Portuguese Goddess of Love ❤️. #23 Forever, & Ever.
@Mkk_does_art
Жыл бұрын
I thought he was going to say “there’s only one woman we change for and that’s our mama”
@nathalieduverna6963
Жыл бұрын
I was thinking that.
@luke8222
2 жыл бұрын
A man will only rise for the woman that is rising with him.
@kiminseattle3476
2 жыл бұрын
Man rise not for one who rise with him but for one he feel he want or have to.
@mscali1839
2 жыл бұрын
@@kiminseattle3476 facts
@ecycleus
2 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@luke8222
2 жыл бұрын
@@kiminseattle3476 False. A RIGHTEOUS man will not rise for a woman that is not worth rising for. Especially he will not rise for one that does not rise. Someone that is not growing will always hold you back, no one else can force anyone to grow although people can force others to become stagnant and stay down.
@luke8222
2 жыл бұрын
@@mscali1839 false
@shmazpootaz4331
2 жыл бұрын
I feel like we shouldn’t be taking relationship advice from someone who’s been divorced so many times
@69daviddion
2 жыл бұрын
That part!! As much as I like Steve (comically) he’s whack with advice in relationships... he knows a larger woman fan base means $$$ for him !!
@huntermcmurray9326
2 жыл бұрын
I was going to say this too
@Jayli0
2 жыл бұрын
When you see at this way, yes But those divorces has taught him.
@louiseerbslisbjerg7854
2 жыл бұрын
And cheated like a m.....f..... for years and years.
@kundakaps
2 жыл бұрын
Twice is "so many times"? Also instead of "taking relationship advice", why not actively think about what he's saying? That way you can judge his words, and anyone's for that matter regardless of their standing, as to whether the words have wisdom.
@nereidaacosta7875
2 жыл бұрын
That's right that's why my man changed for me I was his one he always said it we've been happily married for the last 15 years praise God Amen
@louisallen9308
Жыл бұрын
Wow🤔Don't keep standing there😢KEEP IT MOVING 💯
@goldenbadger4570
2 жыл бұрын
Tbh any woman that comes in a man's life trying to change him or fix him like he's broken when he ain't, need to go. I'm not going to keep jumping through hoops just cause someone can't accept me for who I am. Don't get me wrong not all change is bad and their are some woman who only want to build up their men. Their the ones we willingly change for. These are the women who are make you into someone else instead they wanna grow with you. Learn with you. To these women all they want is the best you.
@Cinn_ical
2 жыл бұрын
ong
@chrississon5954
2 жыл бұрын
He means stop banging more than one woman. That's the change.
@bogusdavallante7039
2 жыл бұрын
Who's the judge of what's broken
@cyx9686
2 жыл бұрын
im totally okay, changing a bad manner of ur self for the relationship isn't any bad, otherwise if u keep ur ego and wont change, u r not supporting the relationship and it wont last anyways..
@bogusdavallante7039
2 жыл бұрын
@@cyx9686 I approve and follow your ideology, we should put ego aside and work on ourselves for betterment
@seanobrien9399
2 жыл бұрын
He consistently has the worst relationship advice. If you need to change for a woman, you don't need to be with a woman---you're not ready yet. Change first. Be attractive. Stay consistent.
@degustablegerbil
2 жыл бұрын
What do you mean! He cheated on 2 of his wives this guy’s a pro with relationships
@tarunperera1181
2 жыл бұрын
@@degustablegerbil LMAO
@demxnbxyxo_9994
2 жыл бұрын
Not constantly some bad some actually good
@siderthedoor6798
2 жыл бұрын
@@degustablegerbil it’s cause they weren’t the ones 😂 it’s so dumb
@sbrown4758
2 жыл бұрын
@@degustablegerbil cheating on your wives does not make a man a pro in relationship advice, tbh in my opinion his advise is meaningless as why should a man even have to change for a woman? Woman and men need to be with who they like and are attracted to and not hang around and wait for them to change, this is Bull Sh**
@user-no6gd1js2y
4 ай бұрын
My husband's family, especially the elders, always said he was completely different after we met. He was the greatest husband & stepdad a woman could ever pray for. I miss him everyday.. R.I.P. 💔
@Victoria-jq8cz
Жыл бұрын
HE ain't the one baby, but we get it, don't waste your time ladies it is valuable 👏🏼💯
@stevecarter8810
2 жыл бұрын
The heavy muted piano and eventual applause make it look like the man is talking some kind of sense.
@michaeljordan7412
2 жыл бұрын
Just save yourself all that heartbreak and don’t wait for a man to change for you. You can only control yourself, so find a man/woman that you like, respect, and would like to spend their life with at that moment, not what they might change into in the future.
@anabrown3029
Жыл бұрын
The GOSPEL. Preach. Amen
@natalietremblay7081
Жыл бұрын
People should change for theirselves and the right person will help motivate and support them…The right one will inspire you….
@natoh8183
2 жыл бұрын
I love myself some family feud but when it comes to relationship advice Steve Harvey is so problematic. A man will change when he’s ready to change, it has nothing to do with the woman he’s with. Don’t place that responsibility on her as if one woman will suddenly be “good enough” to make him want to change.
@winniejohnson5559
Жыл бұрын
I don’t think he placing responsibility on the woman but instead he is saying the man will want to do the work because he has an incentive. He wants to be better and he gets a reward afterwards.
@youththerapywithsnow
Жыл бұрын
I think you're missing the whole point. He's talking about love/relationship matters here. And not life matters.
@momink4186
Жыл бұрын
Men see women they want & want to b that man for her once she doesn't or does accept his nonsense...to lose her is not to communicate, misunderstandings, & nosey ppl n your sh--! She needs to feel safe, u not a liar & keep your word...time must b spent, keep your word... if u not man she want/need at that time, changed or not, she ain't going...it's about women choosing u... Steve harvey chose women not matching his style, he got a confident one, liked it & scooped her..she stayed cuz she used to drug dealers, he a goofy, enough..lightweight cool enough...rich comedian..she'll go...this will work...
@p.p_heartories4814
Жыл бұрын
He never said that's it's her responsibility if a person truly loved someone ofcourse he will try his best to make them happy....as simple as that..... Every time Why women with out any reason!!!ohhhh for God sake shut up.....
@feliciaallen6228
Жыл бұрын
Yes!!! I love this post!!! He will change when he is ready. I agree stop putting the owners on us women!!
@fifigurl2011
2 жыл бұрын
With his relationship track record, Steve Harvey is the LAST one who should be giving relationship advice!! 💯
@denicemitchelle2354
2 жыл бұрын
Thank you 3 marriages or no Will pass on his advice
@santanapage5044
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly 💯
@Olivqa22
2 жыл бұрын
Maybe he's still looking for that "one" he'll change for😂
@santanapage5044
2 жыл бұрын
@@Olivqa22 lol exactly
@BenitaOFlade
2 жыл бұрын
Y'all quit being so judgemental on Steve. If he has had to go through 4 lives to learn the lessons that are now working for him and Majorie, that is the shoe he is wearing, not yours; and he was speaking as a man, not a marriage/love expert. When you point a finger against a person, remember the other 4 are pointed towards you. I definitely do not endorse cheating and the likes for a millisecond.
@londonbuchanan2486
Жыл бұрын
I do wish .. I would have had this information 45 years ago Steve.. thank you so much for sharing to these young / older women. Truly makes sooo much sense!!
@TheWilDOn31
Жыл бұрын
Sometimes men change when the right one leaves and it's too late. Not all men or situations are the same.
@strangerspodcast
2 жыл бұрын
He consistently gives advice that aligns with his personal disposition. Like he is sending messages to his exes to hurt them. It isn't exactly false, but not exactly true either.
@Ade23514
2 жыл бұрын
This is exactly what I said the other day. He really believe he’s giving wisdom 🤦🏾♂️. Personal experiences should not be spoken about in an objective or authoritative way.
@phyllislawson3294
2 жыл бұрын
Inquiry minda, want to kniw. Take it to the bank, Steve
@tarasimmons337
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. He stays trying to hurt Mary.
@saskeiac9213
2 жыл бұрын
Exactly. It is amazing because it seems like he is always talking to his past. I don't get why people find him so....wise.
@tinabanks5819
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah right Steve you did change but who said it was for the better. You ignore your blood children and uplift your stepchildren. Its ALL about what Marjorie and Lorie wants. Only a damn fool is listening to you.
@VentureGroms
2 жыл бұрын
As NF says: "If you want love, you gon have to learn how to change, if you want love, you gon have to go through the pain. If you want trust, you gon have to give some away"
@rosegranados1485
2 жыл бұрын
Oh yes!!!! Steve nailed this !!!
@Astruko
7 күн бұрын
Steve Harvey knows exactly what he's talking about! He speaking straight facts!
@astickem4428
2 жыл бұрын
I dunno, I'm almost certain this man changed about 4 times at least
@anthraxinyourmailbox9550
2 жыл бұрын
And hes cheated on all of them if I remeber right
@astickem4428
2 жыл бұрын
@@anthraxinyourmailbox9550 he's honestly a man no man should listen to about relationships and such.
@YourLordAnon
2 жыл бұрын
Yeah, he's full of shit lol.
@gabrielagarcia7139
2 жыл бұрын
😂🤣😂🤣
@inquisitionagent9052
2 жыл бұрын
@@YourLordAnon fax
@jessicamarks5577
2 жыл бұрын
Some people are too broken to ever change they lack in maturity and will go there whole life not changing.
@clydehuset7738
2 жыл бұрын
Excellent comment!
@Notbothered1
Ай бұрын
Listened about 15 times needed to get it ln my thick scull..
@verna3617
Жыл бұрын
Steve love you man been watching you for a long time you rock thank you so much for all you do😢❤😅😊❤😂
@davidturner1643
2 жыл бұрын
Change from within and for self. Then it is genuine. Remember happiness comes from the inside. Don't make another person the source or reason for your transformation or happiness. Come to a relationship as a person striving internally to be whole. Don't expect a person to make you whole.
@MaskHysteria
2 жыл бұрын
I've literally told the women in my life that I won't change "for" them. I'll only change if I feel the change improves some aspect of myself that needs improvement. If their goal is to change me then they don't love me for who I am and the relationship will fail anyway so why even start.
@Sunny-yl4rm
2 жыл бұрын
I agree with this! I only expect my husband to change in that he grows and develop whats already there, that just needs a little support and motivation to grow and manifest
@sacredempress4917
2 жыл бұрын
You missed the whole point! First of all he's talking men that aren't focused, unsettled, unhappy, sleep around, fast life, drugs, alcoholism etc... So if you're a great guy then why comment? ... answer is cause you know you are probably an asshole and stubborn in unhealthy ways of life. And you probably already missed your soul mate assing around.... If not then he's saying when you do meet her , you might change your life before you lose her, cause the right one will not accept that crappy lifestyle.
@vexial97
2 жыл бұрын
@@sacredempress4917 soulmates arent real.
@bogusdavallante7039
2 жыл бұрын
Same thing says the person that think they're perfect already and yet their life, health, job, emotions traumas etc. Are in shambles, people don't want to change cause they are scared of changes, scared of leaving their comfort zones..
@paul6353
2 жыл бұрын
@@sacredempress4917 soulmates and ghost have one thing in common. Its man made shit and they don't exist.
@shaundrajohnson5025
2 жыл бұрын
Steve. You. Is. The. 🐐 goat. Let. Me. Give. Your. Flower. Amen. Amen. I. Love. You. Steve. Thank. You
@Phantasia.Official
Жыл бұрын
If he ain't changing, he ain't the one? Well hell no, I stay who I am. Be yourself, don't change men, for anyone.!
@tuljajha
2 жыл бұрын
He should change for himself so he can be a self-respecting individual, who is aware that he won’t harm others. Edit: if y’all are pressed about my comment, watch the video first. Don’t be an idiot.
@PE93
2 жыл бұрын
Are you implying that no male is a self-respecting individual?
@tuljajha
2 жыл бұрын
@@PE93 Any man who is molesting people shouldn't be self-respecting, those are the men I'm talking about.
@kanieloutis5604
2 жыл бұрын
Sounds personal
@tuljajha
2 жыл бұрын
@@kanieloutis5604 what’s so wrong about a man changing for himself?
@captainrex2298
2 жыл бұрын
I don't know what are you saying.
@georgelelandturner
2 жыл бұрын
Am I the only one who doesn’t think he’s very insightful? I think he’s funny and charismatic as hell but I don’t want to take advice from him.
@Revok7272
2 жыл бұрын
No lot's of people can't seem to understand he's right but the problem is its a 15 second video go watch the full version and you might understand better
@melanie6014
2 жыл бұрын
I agree. He has said a lot of things that don't quite hold up. But he has a pastor's delivery, so people think it's gospel.
@rafayrafay6530
2 жыл бұрын
I agree
@vermin9190
2 жыл бұрын
You do change in a relationship. People don’t see it but you do. What he saying is don’t try to change them to your will and don’t go into a relationship thinking you can mold them(girlfriend/boyfriend). You will change naturally to each other’s preferences and needs. But that’ll only be for the one you want to spend your life with. That’s really all he’s saying.
@FedeMarco01
2 жыл бұрын
These videos of his are honestly so dull and stupid, he is a nice host, I don't get why he also wants to be a motivational speaker when he's clearly not able to
@scajraik6596
Жыл бұрын
AND THAT'S THE ABSOLUTE TRUTH, AND HE SETTLES DOWN FOR GOOD. BECAUSE HE HAS FINALLY FOUND THE BEST AND ONLY SOULMATE.
@user-ms7sh8vu6b
22 күн бұрын
You're right 💯💯💯 you are right 💯💯 and keep it real 💯💯 and keep it moving forward 💯💯
@wolverine7811
2 жыл бұрын
Girls you want a good dude? Look at the way he treats his mom and acts around her. Because that's exactly how he will one day treat you
@retrosoul8770
2 жыл бұрын
Ehh I wouldn't say all that. I'm an affectionate, warm respectful guy to my lady, but I'm not the same exact way with my mom bar being respectful because of course I am, but she's my mom, and it's a different relationship and dynamic entirely. And our history isn't all roses and sunshine. I'm just saying it isn't that black and white but for the most part I agree.
@a.j.9797
2 жыл бұрын
💯
@SunshineCharles
2 жыл бұрын
Not all the time, that r men who loves their woman more than their mother period.
@desbrbry2318
2 жыл бұрын
Ya not true. I admired n fell in love at 1st w his and his mom's rship....found out later it was terrible growing up and what I was seeing was a new Bond recently started and was more of them as adult friends than mother and son. So I think he had a fear of his mom falling out of his life again treated her great everytime we went out it was w his mom or his friends.....and treated me like I was the mother that abandoned him: / very terrible very painful very depressing. She did him so wrong so many times n somehow still couldn't compare to her. I was the punching bag I was the stress release I was the therapist. An he is a narcissist w mommy issues :( it was so bad at times that every thing was my fault...somehow even things that happened to him before I ever knew him or before we ever met! Idc who did what to him...after the butterflies and gas lighting was done. I was everyone that ever did him wrong and he told me how terrible I was everyday would say things I did or said to him that I never did or said. He would say so many bad thing about his childhood and his mother behind closed doors and then always start arguing with me and taking his pain out on me. Then when we would get around her it was like u could see a light in his eyes and they were best friends.... just weird. And trauma affects everyone differently and that's what suckered me into staying longer than I should. (Years) People w deep understanding and empathy always sympathize and feel the need to nurture and to heal and to love ppl and deeply hurt/ even evil ppl look for the soft hearted ones.
@thingswhatilike
2 жыл бұрын
@@retrosoul8770 if you respect your mom you will respect every your girl too. If you do you are just pretending in front of your girl.
@kc4276
2 жыл бұрын
Here's a different take on this - 'Women marry men thinking that they'll change after marriage, and men marry women thinking that they won't change after marriage. Both end up dissappointed.'
@zoyasweet5350
2 жыл бұрын
A person who will change for himself so will never change for anyone
@AdrianoGiovanni
11 ай бұрын
Yup Amen 🙏💚 Truth God bless
@jasonrivera5102
2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes heartache changes a person to the point of no going back..
@sheep9546
2 жыл бұрын
That is an excuse a poor one. Heart ache can change a person but never permanently
@jasonrivera5102
2 жыл бұрын
@@sheep9546 many can say otherwise…
@MomdYT
2 жыл бұрын
The KZitem community is definitely the smartest compared to the other social platforms, like for instance I saw the same video on Instagram and people there were like "omg that's true", "that's so deep" bla bla. KZitem here on the other hand, you can see people are giving more attention to what is being said and acknowledging it and then given their opinion about it, instead of just saying it's right because it SOUNDS like it's right. That's definitely something to admire about this platform, hope it stays like this.
@im_STRAIGHT_up_GAY
2 жыл бұрын
It will not
@blabbeb1159
2 жыл бұрын
i agree, thats why i like youtube the most
@raze4885
2 жыл бұрын
that’s bc people on yt are generally older and more mature since this platform have been here longer than other sm platforms
@CGBalla1014
2 жыл бұрын
Then you get comments where some verified account strokes the ego of not only themselves, but the ones who are going to like their comment. Therefore making their comment get more likes and their account get more traffic. Funny that this comment is somehow the first comment I see as well. I haven’t scrolled down yet to see the actual commentary on the topic at hand. I just think it’s funny that the first comment is what it is though.
@Steven-lo5yr
2 жыл бұрын
Fr but it’s also because you can’t disagree with things on other platforms, all the negative comments get deleted
@Ocious
Жыл бұрын
*Anyone else randomly just started watching shorts and now it’s just a everyday thing?*
@Marvin-ol9nf
Жыл бұрын
So right so right! I myself have found recently this to be so true at 45 .
@toriishinto3074
2 жыл бұрын
The amount of ignorance there is to this. I didn't change because of love ones, I've changed because I know what I'm doing is not effective/wrong.
@clementine7655
2 жыл бұрын
The amount of ignorance there is to this. He’s talking about negative traits we as people have that we don’t CARE to change because we think it works for us. Toxic traits, objectifying traits, etc. and he never said “I’m talking about Torii Shinto” he said men. There’s nothing ignorant about making general statements because they can often apply to most people. There’s is ignorance in going “nah this is ignorant because I don’t fit the picture.” There’s 7 billion people bud
@narlywaves2371
2 жыл бұрын
And thats how real change happens.
@B1ackWolf
2 жыл бұрын
@@clementine7655 first off not every person will change, a psychopath will always be a psychopath the only thing that will change is that they are gonna have an easier target to aim their anger on. Second stop taking dating advice from celebrities mate I'm more loyal to my barber then they are to their partners, didn't this guy cheat twice or something.
@clementine7655
2 жыл бұрын
@@B1ackWolf never said anything about who could and couldn’t change someone Never said I was even taking his advice, nor that I agreed with him If you’re going to rant, make sure it’s about something I said and not random assumptions you made up on the spot
@B1ackWolf
2 жыл бұрын
@@clementine7655 I would say you abandoned ship but that doesn't even fit here.
@realtalk6192
2 жыл бұрын
This sounds good but is not true. If this man is a narcissist he will NOT change.
@natashalalala82
2 жыл бұрын
Spot on!!
@real_smilegamez
2 жыл бұрын
It's extremely easy to find out who's narcissistic and who's not.. so just don't date a narcissistic one
@LovkynaPeral
Жыл бұрын
We are all narcissists. (STUDY OF PSYCHOLOGY PLS) The difference is that some people have different degrees. They can also change when they lose the best supply in life to tell the truth about their delusional reality. We are all generationally broken in some way. Even the narcissists you write about here are just other broken "children" .
@sheberry8597
Жыл бұрын
😂some of them will just pretend a little better
@sheberry8597
Жыл бұрын
@@LovkynaPeral very true.. I do believe some of the traits exist in everyone to a certain degree. I don't believe everyone is full blown off into the deep end of narcissism. I told my ex when I realized I had to block him that I hole he halls his inner child because I had to myself. I can associate the validity in your comment. Some things are not just right or just wrong, there's layers and reasons for why people do what they do. It's like just calling someone an alcoholic and never fully digging deep to understand where it began. If you cannot pull the root of it up out of you then many people may not reach that point of full potential where they can really be happy and a positive contribution to life.
@Crystal-dj6ns
Жыл бұрын
Thank you Mr Harvey this is exactly why I RESPECT you to the utmost… YOU ARE VERY INTELLIGENT AND HONEST ❤❤
@mampoiapathiamopeli5500
Жыл бұрын
Uncle Steve telling it like it is👌👌👌❤ "If he aint changing it means you aint the one" Men only change for that 1 woman
@AzriellaRipley
2 жыл бұрын
It's funny how after wards some men do too little to late in their changing to try and keep from losing you when you've clearly realized your worth and don't look back!
@mano14
2 жыл бұрын
a real women can give some time to their man.. Giving 2 nd chance some time doest do no harm..
@APCMasteryPath
2 жыл бұрын
i changed for her and she said explicitly i am tired of you changing for me 😒. It really hurts
@Yahpower1
Жыл бұрын
BE BLESSED 🤲👑💯
@marilynboggs2151
Жыл бұрын
This sound all good! When he knows what he wants it brings about a change because he knows what he's got!!! 😁🌹
@RAW_Femininity
2 жыл бұрын
Live a little longer… this is pure wisdom. They’ll hear you one day Steve. 🫡
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